FAIR WEATHER 'FRIENDS'
Dear Stella,
Good day , I’m obsessed with your blog .
kindly help me post this chronicle as I seek advice .
I got married in 2015 to my husband who attends the same church as I do . In planning my wedding, I chose my friends who attend the same church as I do and my chief bridesmaid I had known since 2013 . She would come to my house sleep over , I would purchase hair from her and I thought we were good .
After my wedding , my chief bridesmaid and one of the bridesmaids who are very close just started giving me space . I found it really odd as we did not have any quarrel and as far as I know I had thanked them profusely for their support during the wedding and even gave out gift bags .
Months passed and my younger sister put to bed ; mind Stells that my chief bridesmaid was really close to the family so she knew my sister. She saw the baby’s pic on my dp and was quiet. I do not have an entitlement mentality so I didn’t think much of it. Everyone has what they’re thinking about . 2 months after my sister put to bed I was also due to give birth .
My chief bridesmaid calls me out of the blue to apologize for the space and distance( I had been pregnant all this while and they would see me in church and just pass. No big deal. Please note that she lives in my neighborhood , asides attending my church) and to ask that she would like to visit the next weekend . I was very open to the visit and so the next weekend she came with the bridesmaid I mentioned earlier is close to her .
After the visit, I was due the next week. I called to thank them for coming and even gave out foodstuffs to one of them when leaving. They left my house on a Friday , a week later on Sunday I gave birth . I called them from the hospital after a few hours to share the happy News and to invite them to the naming ceremony which would hold the next Friday as is the custom with Yorubas.
The ceremony came and passed with not a word from my ‘friends’, no question about the baby . They just went blank .
I decided to keep my distance as I could feel a lot of discomfort from this ‘by force friendship ‘.
After 3 months I resumed church and we would greet from a distance . They never approached my daughter . After a while , I asked my chief bridesmaid who I accidentally saw if there was a problem , she said not at all that I hardly check on my friends. She totally turned the table and I was like , I had a baby which is a big milestone in anyone’s life , I called you from the hospital , I’m seeing you when my daughter is 5 months old and you’re turning the tables on me ? I apologized and walked away. I was done !
A month after that , her friend(the other bridesmaid I’ve been mentioning ) sent my hubby an invitation to her wedding on WhatsApp . I told hubby my mind about this fake friendship and made it clear I wanted nothing to do with them . Out of the blues I got added to a WhatsApp group created for her bridal shower , during the conversations surrounding the bridal shower I didn’t say a word and I did not attend the shower .
Now my question is her wedding is slated for November , should i let sleeping dogs lie and attend ? Mind , my daughter is a year old now and both of them have never been to see her or even make any attempt at friendship asides adding me to the group . Even though I am hurt and not too friendly with them , should I just bone and attend the wedding .
Kindly advise . Many thanks and God bless ( sorry for the long epistle ).
After the visit, I was due the next week. I called to thank them for coming and even gave out foodstuffs to one of them when leaving. They left my house on a Friday , a week later on Sunday I gave birth . I called them from the hospital after a few hours to share the happy News and to invite them to the naming ceremony which would hold the next Friday as is the custom with Yorubas.
The ceremony came and passed with not a word from my ‘friends’, no question about the baby . They just went blank .
I decided to keep my distance as I could feel a lot of discomfort from this ‘by force friendship ‘.
After 3 months I resumed church and we would greet from a distance . They never approached my daughter . After a while , I asked my chief bridesmaid who I accidentally saw if there was a problem , she said not at all that I hardly check on my friends. She totally turned the table and I was like , I had a baby which is a big milestone in anyone’s life , I called you from the hospital , I’m seeing you when my daughter is 5 months old and you’re turning the tables on me ? I apologized and walked away. I was done !
A month after that , her friend(the other bridesmaid I’ve been mentioning ) sent my hubby an invitation to her wedding on WhatsApp . I told hubby my mind about this fake friendship and made it clear I wanted nothing to do with them . Out of the blues I got added to a WhatsApp group created for her bridal shower , during the conversations surrounding the bridal shower I didn’t say a word and I did not attend the shower .
Now my question is her wedding is slated for November , should i let sleeping dogs lie and attend ? Mind , my daughter is a year old now and both of them have never been to see her or even make any attempt at friendship asides adding me to the group . Even though I am hurt and not too friendly with them , should I just bone and attend the wedding .
Kindly advise . Many thanks and God bless ( sorry for the long epistle ).
*Hmmmmm this is strange!!!
Did your hubby ask any of them out and they are probably avoiding you cos they do not want to spoil anything?This is not normal at all...
I suggest you call up and meet the two of them somewhere like a restaurant or so and clear this out properly..Note that they are not adding you cos they want to be friends,they just want you to pay back what you got on your wedding,they will still ignore you whether you attend or not...
A Chiefbridesmaid is supposed to be someone you are really really close to,lA BEST FRIEND.....so when you say you were close...how close?..THINK ABOUT IT!
Dont attend the Wedding without clearing things out to avoid embarrassment....#justmytwocents.
Haaa, those ladies aren't your friends, Simple.
ReplyDeleteIf I were you I would just call to congratulate her after the wedding, but hey... You are not me.
One of them or the two of them was or is presently fuxking your husband that is why they are giving you space. Do you snoop? Start snooping
DeleteThat was how I worked so hard on the day of my so called friend's wedding only for her to send me a text message the next day thanking me, not even a phone call.
DeleteTill today madam has not picked up her phone to call me but she will happily attend events linked to me without any shame.
So she must not attend events because she did not call you? Didn't she say thank you?
DeleteAnon 18.24 did you not read what the person wrote correctly or you are just in a rush to comment?
DeleteGod people can be mean, you read meaning into everything, someone sent you a message and you are not okay just cause she dint call? Enh anon, nawa o, baby girl will be living her life not knowing someone is beefing her. Have you found out how busy or how occupied she was... nawa o
DeleteThank God for my friends
Abegi they were just Stupidly jealous that you got married before them
DeleteWomen are horrible. Don't go to her wedding, you can Congratulate her after. It seems to me one of them had an intimate relationship with your husband, which is why they got close to you in the first place. Friends have shown me pepper as red as blood. Just yesterday, I found out a "friend" has launched a business after stealing my idea I've been working on for almost one year. This is a girl I saw as humble and trustworthy and she had the nerve to follow me on IG with the business account. My heart broke I swear as this has happened to me my whole life. Growing up, whatever thing I want, my so called friends will go behind my back and buy it first/copy my idea and come smiling like they don't know what they did. I learnt to stay on my own, most of my friends are guys as I got tired of addressing bad behaviour and hypocrisy. I can't call you my friend and be using sense with you. Instant block & delete. Am I the only one that feels betrayed by stuff like this?
DeletePoster all I wee tell you is that nor be by force...
DeleteAs it is Stella they won't tell her anything even if there is. I would advice you to lock up too. They started it first. It is so obvious they gossip you and they are not fit to be called friends. It could be pure jealousy. So irritating.
ReplyDeleteWhere is maturity? Where is Christianity?
DeleteCheck my piece of advice 👇
Poster, package yourself and your baby very well and attend the wedding, like a normal guest not a friend.
DeleteAgeless pls... wisdom is profitable to direct. Poster if its as u ve painted it stay clear as much as u can from those girls they'll ruin u. Ive been there twice. 1st was sleeping my my then bf hence d distance n 2nd was only angry I got my MBA form without telling her 1st (she told me hersef wen she became born again n was making peace with her past)
DeleteOne strange thing tho is how they got ur husband's num. N 4 them to send him an invite and not u spks alot. Unless ure saying d air u breath depends on this friendship avoid them all.
Hey poster you can attend the wedding, you don’t need to eat or drink anything. If you don’t attend they would or she would have more reasons to point out as to why she doesn’t speak to you anymore and they might gossip about you in. Church and say she was there for you on your big day and you chose not to attend on hers. Obviously something went wrong and that’s why they kept their distance. Besides some friends stay away from married people when they are single and reconnect again as married friends but it’s wrong that they haven’t seen your child . After the nuptials you can tell her your mind and damn the friendship
DeleteAttend her wedding and let her be after. There is no point even talking things over. That friendship is already damaged and no point repairing it. It's okay to loose certain ppl in this life.
DeleteI have a friend who without any issue whatsoever started being distant. During Xmas we even planned outing.
Got to her house on the 27th as planned and found out she travelled abroad the day before. We had spoken day before she never said she was travelling.I had sent her xmas text which she never returned. I kept seeing her status updates on whatsapp. She spent a month abroad, came back and still didn't contact me.
April came it was my b'day and fiance organized smthn small. I invited her,she came and said she's been feeln down bla bla. But i see her attending functions through updates on SM. No problem friendship continued.
About a month ago my grandfather died. I took her the ashebi invited her. Till date she didnt call to ask me how it went or why she didn't come.
Iv decided also not contact her. My marriage is coming up end of the year. I will send her invite for courtesy sake. We have known eachother 15yr since school. I will never force a friendship. Let these people be.
Wow.. 15years.. please let her be, it's obvious she doesn't cherish your friendship, let that ship sink. Just like seasons, people change, life goes on. Learnt the hard way too.
DeleteAbeg give them space, when they are ready to say what is doing them, they will talk, how can they not come and see your daughter but they want to add you into a Wassp group so you can contribute for bridal shower, I don’t like I-service friendship, it’s not that serious
DeleteYou can attend the wedding as courtesy for attending yours but don’t expect anything, thank God she’s getting married, let’s see if she will have time to be checking on anyone. How can you call them from the hospital and nothing, even if they were angry with you, what did your innocent child do to them.
Aunty make your sister your besty, life will be great
I been tell una yesterday say once a woman never marry, na stray bullet she fit be. Except those that really have fully submitted to God.
ReplyDeleteI have learnt my lessons with friends and the way they check on me so i treat you the way you treat me.
DeleteFriend number one was my bestie and we worked in the same organisation. Everyone hated her guts but i stood for her like my sister. Tolerated a lot of iisshhh from her and her down time i will stand with her. There was a time she had issues which she needed an amount of money and i gave her 82% of the amount needed. When what she needed money for clicked, she sold it and didn't bother to say join me and thank God. Or take a bottle of malt for making this possible. Over time things happened and i was now the broke one.Called to borrow just 3k to refund in less than 3hrs because i needed it transferred but i had cash so it was going to take me 3hrs to get to my friend to give her....her response was the bomb. She called me by my name and told me that she hates friends that borrow. That was my final signature to that friendship. I have kept my distance till date....
Friend number 2 was quiet close too. Same organisation and we were like sisters. When i left i realised i was the one begging for the friendship. She was getting married and i was happy. In short i gave out all i could to ensure that the wedding is a success. First pregnancy, i acted as the bestie that i was. Baby came and i went for baby shopping. Since after baby shopping and visiting she became all quiet and was acting up. If i don't call to check or ask after her and her family i shouldn't expect any call. Last i called i was told baby number 2 was on the way. That was the last i was ever spoken to or checked on. The day baby number 2 arrived I was called. With lessons learnt i said congratulations and i meant it but really i have learnt to love my self more too. Didn't bother to go for naming or anything and till date i haven't called to ask how they are faring. I have kids too and you don't call to ask after them but you want me to care. Really don't serve what you can't eat. No more fair weather friends.
Hmmmm the day I got engaged, I sent whatsapp messages to my older friends who are in their late 30s.....
DeleteMehn I was so shocked by their response. One managed to send congratulations back and nothing else. The other ones, till today they have not even bothered to reply my messages.
How does one expect to prosper when they cannot even be genuinely happy for their friends, I would not even bother inviting them to my wedding because the jealousy is very unbelievable.
And to think I wanted to hook one up with my hubby's friend.
Hook gini?
DeleteLadies Pls don't ever hook any of your friends up with your hubby's friends.
Someone like me that my friends know my 'clean' past, I give them space abeg, we only chat on SM, we don't exchange visits. I don't even know the husbands of some of them physically. I stay faaaar from them abeg. Friends wetin? Abeg make everybody siddon for her house
Anon16.47 invite them for formality sake and to clear your conscience, after the wedding send them a text thanking them for their attendance and let it end there.
DeleteI believe you may be in your early 30's, watch who you share such news with, and above all do not hook up any of them with your hubbys friends, their silence speaks volumes.
Dreza and BNR I appreciate your advice. Well received.
Delete@Dreza
DeleteThe fear of the flushed innocent blood dey catch you?
You just dey run when nobody dey pursue you eh?
I do not think it is necessary to keep grudge at this stage. Just attend the wedding. You can blank her after the wedding.
ReplyDeleteHmmmmmmnnnnnn.
ReplyDeleteHmmmmmmmmm!!!!!
DeleteRespect yourself and attend the wedding like a stranger.
ReplyDeleteProverbs 18:24 A man of many companions may come to ruin,
ReplyDeletebut there is a friend who sticks closer than a brother.
Always ask God to show you that one friend and stop gathering vipers that will bite you like these.
👌👌👌
DeleteTalk to them first.
ReplyDeleteBy the way, how did they get your husband’s number? The invite should have been sent to you and not him.
I personally wouldn’t attend because they have already distanced themselves from you. But, if all goes well during your talk with them, you can attend. Don’t forget that they might sugarcoat things just to have you attend. Think thoroughly.
Talk to them first.
ReplyDeleteBy the way, how did they get your husband’s number? The invite should have been sent to you and not him.
I personally wouldn’t attend because they have already distanced themselves from you. But, if all goes well during your talk with them, you can attend. Don’t forget that they might sugarcoat things just to have you attend. Think thoroughly.
Tomorrow when una get married make una gather cobras full house.
ReplyDeleteMake them dey service una horsebands.
Una hear?
Snatchers everywhere.
Ndi oshi amu.
Thank you
DeleteI said the same thing up there
They are former fuckmates of her husband
They might still be fuxking him sef
A man that will be snatched will be snatched, the one that will not be snatched will NEVER be snatched. If you did not snatch another woman's husband. NO woman will snatch yours.
DeleteZaram, the first part of your statement is true; the second is a huge fallacy!!
DeleteFAN
ReplyDeleteabeg collect that ya whip ooo
E bi like say, dem don thief amu here ooo.
They don't force friendships, sometimes things happen for a reason, which could be a blessing in disguise. If ur husband has a roving eye, pls stay ur lane, attend d wedding n go home.
ReplyDeleteMy dear let sleeping dogs lie. You can attend the wedding.
ReplyDeleteI wonder how church members dey behave. You all are fair weather friends and I imagine the type of gossip going round.
I will be happy if you can look for another church where you can be at peace and worship God.
Bad sheeps that pastor need to work on
Poster, stay in your house please and forget about that wedding and fake friendship. They aren't loyal at all.
ReplyDeleteNo comments, i only comment on prick and toto matter. 😁😁😁 That one dey sweet me pass😘😘
ReplyDeleteAre you sure the problem is not from you? For the two of them to act same way, its possible they feel used. They may be feeling you only talk to them when u need them.
ReplyDeleteIf you're sure its not you, then the boat of the friendship has sailed. Let them be. BUT attend the wedding as a form of appreciation of the part they played in your wedding. Buy them gifts and ensure they see you.
Then delete them from your memory, move on.
Thank you, check what she wrote up there, its all about her, i maybe she will see them and pretend not to see them or they will call her she won't pick or call back
DeleteHabbba ! She actually sounds like a softie . Who cares about it been about her or not . Did you see that baby is a year old and they Have never been to see the innocent child !? Did you see that ? Let’s be fair . She actually sounds like those people that try to please . Left to me the moment they send that message to my hubby you have given me a leeway for not going . Period . Bye fake friends . Poster stay in your house pls
DeleteI have no beef but subtly cut off when my frienda marry. Now that I'm even older, i check on you via sms but don't know how to keep married friends close in my daily life. Only a handful
DeleteStay in your house, they are no longer your friends, congratulate the one getting married and delete them from your life.
ReplyDeleteAttend the wedding and ghost her afterwards. I experienced something similar.
ReplyDeleteAunty face front.
ReplyDeleteYour conscience is clear ba?
Then face front.
You should NEVER beg people to be a part of your life.
It is a choice.
NEVER.
It never ends in praise.
God would like you to clear the air. if after clearing the air, they are still acting funny. Call the elders to settle the issue. If they are still behaving funny. Free them. You have tried your best.
ReplyDeleteI had a friend too like this. After my wedding would call her, greet her but she wouldn't respond. Even went to greet her at home and all. All of a sudden she started responding positively this year. I just played my role of being at peace with all men. God knows I wish her well.
So far your conscience is clear and you try to talk things out. Don't worry yourself. Put your energy in positive avenues
How many time do you want her to 'clear the air?
DeleteClear the air, clear the air, na fire extinguisher???
If by now you don't know that you need to TEACH people HOW to treat YOU, then accept whatever you see.
Hahagahaha Pls clear the air
DeleteI think that you should go to the wedding, drop your gift and leave early. You to not need to be too close to your church members. Over familiarity brings contempt.
ReplyDeleteThey came to your house a week before delivery, after delivery they are avoiding your child,1 year later one is getting married!, what was so important to them a week to your delivery to prompt the visit and all of a sudden they don't need you anymore? Stay there and be sleeping, mission accomplished. You better go and do serious prayers on your daughter, deliverance if possible and break every yoke upon her. Stay and be sleeping on top of a bicycle.
ReplyDeleteHaba , hanty!!!
DeleteYes o. Been reading comments and was wondering when someone will say this. They suddenly came a week to your delivery and left like that again??? You need to pray. Anything could have happened. Also snoop a little.
DeleteAttend the wedding as a pay back for their attendance at yours but continue to keep your distance from them both. Few people are mature for a sit down to discuss and settle especially blacks; it appears our DNA is deficient for such type of dispute resolution. I tried it once with a sister in law but I got into trouble with my brother when wifey started talking loudly and angry to our gentle request to understand why she was being cold to us. My brother thought my sister and I were being mean for taking such approach.
ReplyDeleteMeanwhile is it by force to be their friend; GOD has shown you your camouflaged enemies but you are worrying too much to smell the coffee and run. As long as you are certain you did not do anything evil or bad to them abeg brush the issue off your mind.
Poster take this advice biko.Attend the wedding and dress well,go for a makeup artist to do a beautiful makeup for you.If possible attend alone without hubby and your daughter.Make sure she sees you,go and greet her and her hubby.After reception,go house straight!!If they don't call you,don't call them.Stay on your lane.God has blessed you with a mini-bestie,which is your daughter.You may think she is too little to discuss or be your bestie,but try talking,gisting,laughing and playing with her,watch cartoons together,you will be surprise that such a little soul could fill so much void your frenemies can't.If you have mum or sisters you love and trust,make them your bestie.Respect yourself and be on your lane!! If you see them in church, you greet,and face your front dey go.Forget these frenemies biko.
DeleteSometimes when a situation you can't comprehend happens God is passing a message..if you are prayerful and pay close attention to your instinct you will be calm, pls ignore them and occupy your thoughts with something productive...it's not a must you have to be at the wedding, all the people I bought expensive asoebi and attended their wedding I didn't see any of them on my wedding day and no congratulatory message, I didn't take it personal so it is not compulsory for you to be there.
ReplyDeleteThey don't want to be friends with you again. Why don't you leave them be?.
ReplyDeleteDon't go to the wedding , they don't need not want you there, so mind your business and stay on your lane. Why is that so hard for you to do?.
These people have proven over and over again that they don't like you for reason best known to them, you are here having sleepless nights over their matter while they don't even care if you exist or not.
Blank them too and keep to yourself and how about you make new friends in church.
If they see you exchange pleasantries and move on. If they say they want to visit tell them you will let them know when you are available but don't contact them again. Treat them the same way they treat you simple.
Don't ask them what you did wrong because it obvious you did nothing.
A friend who would wait for you to ask her what you did wrong without coming over herself to tell you what you did wrong without you having to ask first, is that one a friend?.
Poster,they ladies are not your friends, please attend the wedding,drop your gift and wish her well.you don't need to force yourself on them.
ReplyDeleteThis one is something else ooo, how did they get your Hubby's number and you are the one they suppose to send the invites too not your hubby, something doesn't sound right here. They have somethings against you that they aren't ready to talk about, what's your hubby saying about it?
ReplyDeleteWhat was their mission with the visit a week before you gave birth and thereafter they went blank again.
It is well with you, just thread carefully.
If you can sort out the problem before the wedding holds but go to the wedding since they came for yours and stay on your lane thereafter
They are just monitoring spirits.They came to see if all is well or if poster is suffering or dying of hunger in her marriage.
DeleteYour husband might have asked one of them out and they might have discussed it among themselves. Hence, the reason why they are giving you space.
ReplyDeleteMadam, your friends were there for you when you were doing your wedding, and all of a sudden they stopped talking to you, did you try to find out why? Do you know try talking to mutual friends? Don't think there are avoiding you just bcos you are married and they are not, if we decide to hear from them now it will be a different reason, what if thus has to do about you saying something bout them, or your husband saying merging bad about them to someone else, bcos not one but two. Now you are invited to her wedding and you are asking ifbyou should go, I will advice you to go, she was there for you, so be there for her, friendship isn't by force but its better you know the reason why thus ladies arent close to you like before again
ReplyDeleteThat’s why I have few good friends. Poster search yourself first did you offend any of them? If you did call and apologize or if it’s too deep see them and apologize to them and if they continue acting cold then attend the wedding as a guest make sure they see you dropping gift and while leaving the venue block thier numbers and block thier numbers from your hubbys phone too. They do not want to be your friend so why bother?
ReplyDeleteIf you did not offend them and are very sure you did nothing to offend them then do not go for the wedding sit down in your house and face your family friendship is not by force and friendship is not supposed to be hard and stressful.
If your friends cannot make you happy then what’s the point!
Buy a gift for her wedding, attend the wedding and enjoy yourself. After the wedding lock up and watch the space
ReplyDeleteDear poster, Most females when they get married, They are faced with a lot of responsibilities that they unknowingly sideline their friends. You may be the problem and not your friends. When was the last time you created time to visit them or they visit without you reciprocating. When was the last time you created time to sincerely inquire about their personal well beings. You gave out food stuff to one, which indicates that all is not well financially with them.
ReplyDeleteMy dear, they maybe having personally issues you are not aware, They will not open up if you did not ask or show concern. Have you been flaunting your new status on their face making them feel inferior. Whatever the case is... Communication is very good in every relationship. Anything you don't understand especially when its coming from people you call friends. Please ask questions. show care and concern before the marriage date.
Your husband is the missing puzzle. My advice? ask him what’s up? How is it that they invited him for the wedding and not you? They even have his no. Hmmmmm.....
ReplyDeleteMadam, shine ya eyes wella!!!!!
I wouldn’t attend the wedding. Just X everyone and move on. Once left a Church because of this nonsense. I am older now. Don’t have the time and energy to expend. They have moved on. Get the message.
ReplyDeleteMy dear, don't worry or disturb yourself becos of nothing. I have been in this shoe, get busy with work and your family jare.
ReplyDeleteThe invitation suppose to be You not your hubby,something is fishy here.
ReplyDeleteJust go and show face at the wedding and present your gift and leave immediately then ask yourself before the wedding are dey familiar with your hubby the reason for inviting him and not you..
Becareful with friends because you don't have friends
Friendship is not by force
Mind your lane
Love yourself more.
Thanks.
Friendship isn't by force and everyone should stay on their lane. I will advice you face your marriage and leave friends for now. Why would you even call them to clear the air.
ReplyDelete.Women and wahala. In as much as they have distanced themselves please don't attend any wedding. If possible, change your church for positive vibes.
On the wedding day go for shopping with your husband and baby, afterwards go to a nice restaurant and have lunch then go see a late night movie.
ReplyDeleteI believe they made their intentions known thru their actions so you don't need to beat yourself up. You can spare a few minutes to send a congratulatory text and after that cut them off permanently and move on.
Also, find out why the invite was sent to your husband not you, they probably have something going on so yes please snoop it out.
Don't forget to pray hard like you're physiclly fighting the devil,since you don't know what exactly the issue is you just have to pray against what evil might have happened or has been planned to happen. Pray!
Take care of you and your family, those ladies shouldn't be your problem,move on with your life hun.
Don't go to that wedding before someone poisons you, one of the might be fucking your husband & one of them know hence the need to stay away from you, thank God they have not poisoned you since
ReplyDeleteFriendship is not by force
ReplyDeleteMadam, im sure you cussed it. You remind me of my delusional friend and her husband that think the world was against them at their wedding that why they didn't tell or release invitation to their wedding. They are not jealous about your wedding, they just disgusted with your bad behavior. You are not telling us the full story. My friend is BADLY behaved , and she expects the world to celebrate her wedding. Hell no! She pretends to be born again but YIMUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUU. We know her behavior.
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ReplyDeleteDear poster, the problem may be you. Maybe you used to call and visit and check up on them all the time before your wedding. After wedding have you been doing that? Its normal for single ladies to give their married friends space after wedding to avoid embarrassment. The next move is determined by the married lady. Do you still want to be friends with them? What is the evidence? Your sister gave birth, you didn't call them or message them the good news, but you expected them to comment and congratulate you. My dear examine yourself. You are the reason for the strain. The friendship at this point may be unsalvageable, but try and attend her wedding. You owe her that much.
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