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CATHOLIC VERSUS ANGLICAN BROUHAHA
Hello Stella,
Please hide my identity. I am in a state of dilemma. I have a girl, let’s call her A. we have known each other since 2015.
Initially, we were just friends and along the line, we became very close. We understand each other very well and she is someone you can hold a reasonable conversation with. She is very smart, intelligent, caring, religious, infact everything I want in a woman. I intend to take the relationship to the next level by marrying her but the issue of denomination is a stumbling block.
I am an Anglican and she is a staunch Catholic. When I raised the issue of marriage to her, she stated that the wedding must be in a catholic church because if it is not so, she will be banned from receiving Holy Communion and that she will continue attending the Catholic Church even in marriage and the kids too. She said she will only come to my Church if there is any event like fathers Sunday. I am not comfortable with her position as I am from Anambra and weddings are usually in the guys church.
Moreover I am not against her continuing her denomination (Catholic) in the marriage but I am not comfortable with her taking the kids to Catholic Church.
We have broken up twice because of this issue but we still end up together again. I even visited the Parents one certain time but I did not want to bring it up at that time because it was my first visit to them. My mother and siblings are skeptical about this. We have started considering the option of having two church services (the early mass at Catholic and later in Anglican Church). I don’t know if it will work out.
I don’t know if I should go ahead with the plan of having both Catholic and Anglican Church wedding or end everything once and for all and look for another person. Also I don’t know if this has worked for anybody (couple attending different denominations). I don’t want to start what I cannot finish because I don’t want a situation when the kids will start coming, she will suggest Catholic baptism since we did Catholic Church wedding.
*Oga what is wrong with you?Are all Religion not serving God?What is the big deal?why are you creating so much brouhaha where there is none?
The kids can attend both Churches to know about both Religion,you cannot just uproot her from her Faith.....
Abeg abeg abeg...........
If something like denomination is a huge deal for you both...you should have called off the relationship earlier.
ReplyDeleteBut it's not too late, you can still call it off now since you both don't love each other enough to reach a compromise.
Just go your seperate ways to avoid future wahala..
Deletewhat us catholic and what is Anglican biko!
If she's really ur ideal woman, oga biko compromise. U can't have it all
DeleteStella ooh all religion do not serve ONE GOD!
DeleteIt's almost impossible to convert a Catholic. You should call things off if you can't compromise.
DeleteSo the love you claim to have for her is not enough? So because of religion you will leave the person you claimed to love and marry someone else?
DeleteAll you these small boys shouting love upandan, just a little challenge them done run. SMH
My brother married a catholic wife, the white wedding was done in the catholic church, they both went for marriage counseling in the catholic church and he even did baptism or something like that there but after the wedding both husband wife and baby attend Anglican church, they both agreed on this.
DeleteYou both have to bend for each other
Oga pls call it off if u can't compromise. I am Catholic married to a winners member. We did Catholic marriage, baptized n dedicated our kids in the Catholic Church. Hubby sometimes attends mass even though his family frowned at it he doesn't care cos he married the woman he loves. You don't love the lady in question, u just want to get married so marry ur church member.
DeleteI meet a lady in my church redeemed who is a Catholic member,but she did her wedding in redeemed and she now fully attend redeemed with her hubby..the manner you sent your chronicle sense you are tired. Abeg make Una leave Una self make person hear word,Anglica and catholic Una walaha too much....
DeleteAnonymous 17:33 u are talking bullshit.see u talking about love.why didn't your own love accept the man and his church.why must it be ur own catholic church.any small thing people start talking about love.odiegwu!Catholic love indeed.
DeleteYou're having this whole drama because of denomination? What if she was a Muslim?
DeleteMy grandpa was a Muslim and my grandma is a Christian. They lived happily. Grandpa will drop grandma at the church and head out to his Asalatu. Religion shouldn't be a problem in a relationship much less denomination.
Think about it, bro.
And Stella,
ReplyDeleteNo.
We don't worship the same God, that's just a political statement.
We actually do, they are more alike than any other church.
DeleteI don’t even know what the big deal is, oga if you cannot marry in her church please leave her alone, it’s not by force
Secondly, most women say they will go to their own church at the end they get tired, I have enough friends, she may even change
But she should uproot him and..
ReplyDeletePlease don't start what you can not finish.
Just end it and start a new relationship.
So Stella it's not right to uproot her but it's right to uproot him. My brother didn't marry one babe because of this. My brother agreed to wed her in Catholic, the girl came back and said that her mum said that their kids will only go to catholic church. My brother said to her' to the left to the left, go and marry your mother then.
DeleteNonsense...I'm Anglican and married to a catholic. We did our wedding in a catholic church. That wasn't even an issue.
Thank you!! I was also going to suggest he compromises by having the wedding in a Catholic Church but then she also wants all the kids there. What kind of self centeredness is that?! So eeeverything must go her way and her way only? I was raised Anglican but attend rccg in the town I live now and hubby is Catholic. We had our wedding in RCCG. I’m fine with the family attending Catholic although hubby is fine if we attend either or both. He isn’t bothered. At the end if the day, I was willing to compromise especially after having the wedding in my church. Poster, you might be better off ending things before you start what you can’t finish, your fiancé sounds selfish and controlled if you ask me. When your wife’s parents are the ones dictating which church your children will attend, that doesn’t sound good to me. The same way your parents shouldn’t dictate the goings on in your home too.
DeleteNa wa o, this is where submission in matrimony comes in. I would advise her to go with the husband. You cant be married and you go to your church while oga goes to his, where is the unity?
ReplyDeleteSubmission and compromise are two different things dear.
DeleteFrom what i understand,the wedding take palce in the bride's church but the wife joins the husband's church after the wedding.
DeleteYou are dull.
DeleteVery dull.
Once the wedding is done in her church, she will continue going to the church even with the kids. Since both can't compromise. i will advise they go their separate ways to avoid problems in the future esp when the kids are to baptized and confirmed
DeleteExactly! this woman isnt ready on that submission talk because most women know and are unconsciously prepared to follow a man to his church. Poster be not únequally yoked, you better set your values,principles right from the onset.
DeleteThis is compromise talk, not submission! Naija men shouting submissions! Submission! Up and down. That’s all they’re known for. In this case, there just needs to be compromise. If wedding is done at the girl’s church do she can continue taking holy communion, then she should let the kids attend Anglican too. If there’s no compromise or middle ground then cancel the wedding before trouble brews.
DeleteAnambranians and Anglican Church ☝️👆🏼(5&6)
ReplyDeleteUre wrong. Anambra has more Catholics than Anglican.
DeleteIhiala and Anglican.
DeleteNnewi and catholic.
@anon 15:45u are right
DeleteIt’s actually interesting and nice to know. I used to think all Igbos carried Catholic on their heads like gala. This is just an observation from someone who has experienced both sides. I’m mixed tribe and have Anglican and Catholic sides of the family, the Catholic side almost comes across to me as a cult. So many rules, you’re bound by this and that. You’re almost seem as a traitor for visiting another denomination but the Anglican side seems more relaxed, you can marry elsewhere but still get welcomed etc. I’m in no way putting either one down, I just wonder if either notice how they come across to neutral people. Just an observation though.
DeleteStella you are giving that advice cos you are Catholic. Guy move on, cos have seen a beautiful relationship breakup cos of this church itch, their own introduction was done. The guy is married now to someone that didn't mind to Wed anywhere.
ReplyDelete“Itch” kwa?
DeleteThis exactly right @stella's opinion.
DeleteStella supported the lady cos she's catholic
DeleteWhy all these religious this and that?
ReplyDeleteIs there a wedding culture in Anambra?
The one I know is Igbankwu and that is
general for all Igbos. Once you pay this lady's bride price, you have married her. Like I did, I only went to marriage registry and then to eatery for reception and every one dispersed. I am a Christian but we do attend any church we both agree to.
Look, read the entire bible and you will not see where weddings took place in a church or synagogues. Weddings took place in the brides' father's house.
You are creating headache for yourselves.
you have sense. incase no one else told you before now. all these religious fanatics be destroying their lives cos of religion.
Deletei am not religious and dont attend church anymore, i also wouldnt love my kids to be inductrinated into the farce called church but my wife goes to church and i allow her go with the kids. its called compromise. if we were attending different churches, we would rotate where the kids worship, until they are able to choose which ever they prefer. RELIGION WILL DESTROY YOU PEOPLE O. Tufiakwa
It's a pity sane Christian Religion fight over doctrines.
DeleteOga, I was in your shoes. Both of you should decide and reach a compromise as to where to wed.
I can't tell you where to wed ; what matters is that kids are brought up in the way if the lord.
Religion is fallacy. Christ died for us all.
WARNING TO WE YOUTHS: let me not hear in te next few years that we block our children's happiness Bcos of church segregation. Please deal with your IQ now for a better understanding future.
I rest my case Abeg Abeg !!!🏃🏽♀️🏃🏽♀️🤷🏽♀️🤷🏽♀️
Marriage is all about sacrifice and if none of you is ready to sacrifice anything, then there is no point marrying. Instead of planning for marriage, you both like most NIgerian couples are planning for wedding; something that lasts for a few hours?
ReplyDeleteboth of you are so childish.so if a Muslim complains about marrying a christian...Christians too will argue about denomination?shame on you two seriously.church is church for Christ sake except you know they don't worship God there. is there a place for Catholics, Anglicans Pentecostals, white garment worshipers and others in heaven? please tackle important issues like the girls character and not this childish gist.mtchewwww
ReplyDeleteImagine denominational issues, shame leave una dey catch me.When you are not a Muslim and your wife a Christian.
Deletepls we have bigger problems in this country already. you don't have a problem. stop creating one for yourself. I was even thinking it's something serious. mtchew... the last time I checked, white wedding is usually conducted in the girl's church. abi your people son give you one anambra babe and you're looking for the easiest way to break up with this one.
ReplyDeleteNa wa o on top of religion again you people are getting worked up. It’s not like you are of different faith but now its denomination. My take is, if this is a big deal for you both then don’t solidify the union since she has made it known to you that she’d continue to go to her church and with the kids too when they come. In marriage people compromise and you both don’t seem like the type to compromise on this, having two church weddings is time wasting and not cost efficient.
ReplyDeleteWhile it might resolve the clash between you too it’s temporal because she has already said she would like the kids to join her too there so what happens then? You people would be quarreling every church day over where the kids should go? My parents didn’t attend the same church for many years until recently and it worked just fine for them those years they attended different churches, the most important thing is to serve God diligently. What do you have against the Catholic Church? I’m not even Catholic but you sound like they stole your bread and from what I know o it’s the woman’s church the wedding takes place because most women tend to attend services more than men but I maybe wrong.
Men and head of house syndrome
ReplyDeleteOga do ur wedding for Catholic and allow the future to decide.
You don't know if she might change her mind someday abt going to ur church.
You never dee children you Don dey worry
I think the issue should be resolved before the wedding.
DeleteIt should be resolve before akowa anything.
DeleteSmall girl like Chidera will comment what is meant for adults. What do you know about marriage smallie?? Stop saying what you don't know.
DeleteAbeg face your ajumabiase and red oil.
DeleteThis is serious business.
There are red flags already.
Address them NOW.
Marriage brings it's own challenges.
Not that you will buy the trouser and now start complaining about low waist.
OGA,FIND YOUR SIZE.
Allow the future to decide? That's how you guys go into marriage without discussing important things. Poster don't mind him, resolve all the important issues now, and opt out if it's not working. Courtship isn't only about sex.
DeleteHave a early morning mass wedding in the catholic Church to enable her to continue to be a communicant, then do your main wedding in the Anglican. The morning mass thing won't cost you a dime but will set you guys off without any wahala. Love always conquers all.
ReplyDeleteMaka why ka oga eji eme otu ahu? She can receive communion in Anglican after confirmation.
DeleteCatholic Church does not encourage two weddings. U can do ur wedding in the Catholic Church and have Thanksgiving in Anglican Church or the other way around. Moreover, what's the big difference between catholic and Anglican Church
DeleteStella this ur advice get as e be.
ReplyDeleteWhat do u mean uproot her form her faith? Whether or not we agree when he becomes her husband he automatically bcoms lord over her. And his decision is final unless she is the one paying ur bride price dont not settle for less. If u want ur kids to be Catholic fine but if u can't handle it tell her straight up now and stand ur grounds. Truth is ehn when u eventually get married is gonna be tougher than u think. These sorta things can cause a huge crack in ur marriage. Think twice bro
This is the best advice v read here. I don't belong to any of the above mentioned denominations but I do know that there is a rift between Anglicans and Catholics. My dear brother, discuss with ur partner and there is no agreement, then it's time to let go. This case might be little but can actually cause a big problem later in the marriage. U will be fine at the end. Cheers!
DeleteAfi 'lord over her'.
DeleteSlave and master.
Lollllllllll
Anon I know where u are going but I guess u got my point. no one hates the fact men think women are suppose to slave for them as much as I do. The same way i do not encouraged men to disrespect and enslave their wives that's the same way I expect women to summit to their husbands. If as a woman u can't summit to ur husband without feeling emasculated then u have no business being married. Marriage is not a business venture where the woman think she is an equal partner with man, no no no. Once he has wife u, he automatically becomes ur king yes I said king. You are suppose to respect, love and HONOUR him. How do u honour a king without summiting to him? If only women understand their roles as wives and men respect and love their wives as they should marriages won't keep crashing like packs of cards. Marriage ain't easy rara so keep calm and enjoy ur "singlehood" and stay in ur fathers house ladies until u are sure u can summit to a mans authority.
DeleteAfi 'summit', abeg go and trim your pubic hair,always chatting shit like a pro.
DeleteMy @Queen - chop knuckles.
DeleteThe little I know. Traditional wedding's are done in the bride's place in most IBO land.then white wedding in groom's church. Only done in bride's own .if is agreed by both.so oga and madam if you can't agree on something.just call off the wedding andr do court wedding till their is a mutual agreement.
DeleteOueen Jezebel or wetin be your name, After you summit Mt Kilimanjaro, and add past tense to your sentences, you will come back to reality
Deletey
Poster leave her for pope. Pope will marry her.
ReplyDeleteCatholic church will always sing "in one God I believe" but their discrimination is 2nd to none.
Poster no gree oooo
Stella why are you sounding like you aren't from Africa, bro I understand all of your concern, first you have to put all it into consideration before you go ahead with the marriage. Because nobody will be there when all of concern you rise above will start to mount on you. Marriage is for a life time bro. My 2cent.
ReplyDeleteStella am not ok with your stand on this, let me go and I will come back and read comments
ReplyDeleteOga, if she doesn't want to Wed you in your church then forget the marriage. This is one thing I dislike about Catholics. Other people will adjust for them but they will never budge. A lot of women have lost nice young men because of this. Oga, Biko move on
ReplyDeletePoster, do u just sit down and allow her make all the decisions? Are u a sissy? When the kids start coming, i bet u, their baptism and all will be in the catholic church. Abeg, how will u people pray as a family? Will u say the rosary together or what? U better really seek God's face and also use your tongue to count your teeth.
ReplyDeleteOga, dont mind Stella. If you cannot cope with the church issue, let her go. She will find another man and you will find another woman.
ReplyDeleteIt is normal for a woman to leave her church for her husband's church after wedding. If the man agrees for her to continue in her church, why should she then make it a compulsion for their kids to follow her to her church.
What does the Bible talk about submission and respect from the wife, then, love from the husband. If you can't reach a reasonable agreement, let each other go.
You are a good man. She should go and marry a Catholic man na.
Both religion ke, so Catholic church and Anglican church are under different religion. Are both not Christianity?
ReplyDeletePoster I don't think is right for couples to start attending different churches, it is not wrong either for you to Wed her in her Catholic church then after the marriage she can start attending Anglican church with you.
ReplyDeleteIs better you decide now how you want to deal with it before your marriage.
But he said the babe said after marriage she will still go to her catholic naa...so odighi nma.
DeleteCutest pat .. Christians fighting over denominations wow
DeleteI’m Santeria..my husband is a Christian(very religious too ) we’ve been married for 11 years and 10 months , Our kids are raised in a multicultural/multiracial and multi religious environment somewhat makes our children liberal and accepting of other people’s beliefs systems(I grew up in a multi religious environment too )
The most important thing we’re aiming for is a liberal and well put together environment for our kids .though, some of his family members aren’t having it but his parents are very supportive ..
Oh by the way he’s Nigerian(Igbo ) and I am not .
Delete@anonymous 21 04 I hope you know you are Hispanic or Latino and judging by Santeria it means you aren't white. So stop saying you are having a multiracial household.
DeleteLol no I’m not Latina..more like saying if you’re Christian you’ve got to be Middle Eastern .
DeleteNice try. You might want to define “multiracial”
Keyword “multiracial environment “
DeleteI certainly haven’t stated my race in my previous comment (my race has nothing to do with my belief system)
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ReplyDeleteOga Biko move on, look for your fellow Anglican or someone from Pentecostal. I came from Pentecostal and married an Anglican, no big deal
ReplyDeleteKpakam! Time adighi for stories that touch.
Deletethe only wedding God recognise in Igbo land is pay bride price and do traditional marriage, because that is our culture. ndi okenye atukwasi gi ofor(ekpere) n'isi.
ReplyDeleteI don't know about other tribes.
I forgot to add, today we all attend winners chapel, (I came from grace of God mission
ReplyDeleteIf this thing would cause an issue, just look for a Pentecostal sister who religion hasn't blinded n marry.
ReplyDeleteOga u sound like you just overdosed on a plate of pounded yam.
ReplyDeleteThe lady has told you she wants a Catholic wedding, she will be attending Catholic church and will also take d kids with her to Catholic church...u are here worrying about baptism. Don't u know she will baptize the kids in Catholic church too?
Simply, what your woman is asking is that u join her and start attending Catholic church, so it's either that or forget about the relationship.
I'm a Catholic and I understand when ladies( especially the staunch ones) insists on marrying a Catholic. Though I made up my mind a long time ago to either marry a Catholic or an Anglican seeing as both denominations have a lot in common.
U don't even sound like a staunch Anglican to me, you just don't want to be seen as a weakling for following a woman to her church but u want someone who is a konk catholiC to leave hers for you cos of your flimsy reason.
Either follow that lady to her church or let her be. Tell her once and for all. Not this hide and seek you guys playing. Stop wasting each other's time biko.
People married from different religions and are still living a better life sef. The Tinubus, Sarakis, Fasholas, etc are moslem/ Christian marriage and they are still waxing strong.
Be wise biko, and stop acting like a momma's boy.
Any option you chose now, you should be able to live with it consequently. Being it Catholic or Anglican. But one thing I'm guessing is you could agree to attend both churches now in order to marry her but you can't continue in that way once the honey moon is over and the issue could escalate then
ReplyDeleteWhile I'm not particularly interested in Denominations, I still want to point out why's her stand of not converting so strong?! The tradition is ladies leave their childhood church and unite with the man. Maybe you need to really understand why she's bend and on attending catholic.
But as hard as it may appear, try to find a solution beyond breakup.
Stella dat ur advice get k-leg biko.. If nobody is ready to compromise den dem pack up..
ReplyDeleteI will advise both of u to go ur separate ways. Because it will bring problem in future if care is not taken. I am proudly Anambra and I have not seen or heard that a man followed a woman to her church. If she truly love you she hv to walk with u
ReplyDeleteDear poster there should be understanding and maturity between you guys. Most times it's difficult for a lady to give up her religion and name but with time she will. Am an Anglican, married a catholic, wedded in Catholic Church but now I attend mainly Anglican with my children but we occasionally go to Catholic Church with daddy
ReplyDeleteWe all worship one true God. If you truly love her, you will compromise. Love conquers all.
I am a catholic married to a Jehovah's witness but wedded in the catholic church, my kids attends my husband's church but i'm not bothered because its the same God that we worship. Please do not allow church to be a determinant excepts if you don't love her enough to do sacrifices. Moreover the kids have the final say when they grow up.
ReplyDeleteThis seems inconsequential, but is a big deal, in some marriages, and good you are discussing it now.
ReplyDeleteIn Yoruba land, wedding takes place in the bride's church, but in the eastern part, it takes place majorly in the groom's church.
If you guys can not compromise, it would be harder as the marriage progresses.
She has told you, she would even raise her children in the Catholic Church, and confuse them with two different doctrines.
If you guys can't shift grounds on this, there are more major decisions to make, you might have to re-evaluate this relationship.
What's d whole big deal abt church na,u both can attend ur different churches n when d kids comes they decide which church they want....u must do infant batism on them wait until they are of age then any church they chose,they get batised there
ReplyDeletePersonally, I think a couple should share the same religious/spiritual beliefs, preferably, the man's.Of course it's ok if the man doesn't mind joining the woman. Otherwise, there's division in the union already. If she is a'staunch' catholic as you said, it will be difficult to bring her over. I suggest you call off the relationship if you can't reach an agreement. Attending different churches and having your children do same is not a good idea and will create spiritual instability for your little ones. The whole issue looks like power tussle and it's not healthy for a marriage.
ReplyDeleteStella where is my 1st comment?
ReplyDeletel didn't curse anyone.
I only advised the poster to leave the girl for pope to marry.
Stella, that your advice no follow at all. Most staunch Catholics always have issues with marrying outside their denominations. Most of my sisters married Catholics and are committed but just one Catholic we married refused to attend any other church apart from Catholic.
ReplyDeleteShe cannot dictate to her husband where to worship.
Bros, if you're not comfortable and both of you cannot compromise, please look for another person. This is Christians rejecting denominations but they will gladly marry from other religion and stick to their doctrine and norms without complaining.
No be small thing ooo.Stella catholic babe.
ReplyDeleteOga leave her and look for another person. Shame on both of you.
No respect from both of you.
Instead of how you people will think of making heaven, both are fighting for which denomination is OK.
Stella sometimes I don’t even understand u, no be d man they marry am? Isn’t she supposed to follow her husband to his church when married? Pls poster if she cannot leave Catholic then find ur way, she’s not d only girl in d world. Inukwa take d kids to catholic because of????? Mtchewwwwwwwwwwww
ReplyDeleteMy advice for you is move on with your life. Don't start what you cant finish. She should follow you to your church or forget the marriage. Period!!!
ReplyDeleteChurch caused a big misunderstanding between my parents while growing up. I don't even want to talk about it.
ReplyDeleteI was born into the catholic church, but I didn't just understand the doctrine much as I tried. I did confirmation, joined legion of Mary, was even made the secretary, joined different groups, but I wasn't just following. One time, I was given 2 weeks suspension during my confirmation class because I "asked many questions." I didn't know why, but it just wasn't working for me. When I clocked 16 years, I left. Now I attend RCCG.
My sisters are married to Anglican men. My dad didn't have a problem giving their hand in marriage to Anglican men (even when his family and village church wanted to play the catholic Anglican card). He called their bluff and told them that his daughters (we are 5 girls) won't grow old in his house because of church. They banned him or something like that, but my dad didn't care, after all, we don't live in the village. I was surprised because I know the problem church caused between him and my mum. My sisters now attend Anglican church and don't have a problem with that.
I've taken my time to write this because, this matter, simple as it sounds, can cause a marriage to 'collapse.'
If both of you cannot reach an agreement now, you have no business being together; because you'd just be inviting trouble into your home when 'the time' comes. During that time, love will fly out of the window.
Be wise!
Ok so I’m in this same situation. Oga is Pentecostal and I’m catholic. It was gonna look like an argument one evening, I had to let it rest when he said we wed in your church but After that, everyone attends their individual church. It gave me brain reset visualizing that scenario and I just decided naaaaa, that’s actually inviting the devil in. Will I be able to cope with him and some sister visits or anything else. My late dad ain’t born catholic, he chose to follow momsie out of the blues.
ReplyDeleteDon’t get me wrong I love my Catholic Church till the end, reason being that they preach about love for everyone( rich or poor). All those rich and prosperity ish ain’t their top priority.
So what I’m trying to say is, don’t push it. If you both really and honestly love yourselves, let God guide you and things will fall into place. No be your denomination go save you go heaven. Both of you keep strong and pray about it. Don’t spoil the beautiful thing you have because of some flimsy reason(s). Let the discussion be between you both and no other. Jisike o 🙌🏼
I am an Ibo catholic, wify is Yoruba Anglican, we had the wedding in her church, but both left our churches for a neutral one... 15 years on, no issues
ReplyDeleteWaoh! bravo, may God continue to bless your home.
DeleteAnglicans and Catholics that are related and you are still complaining, if it was Deeper life and Christ Embassy one will wonder how it will work out,not that it is not possible, and what is with I'm Anambra and the wedding is usually in the guys church,prolly your part of Anambra, because in my family we respect the decisions of the girls family, all I see here is that the both of you are not ready to get married,just look for another Anglican girl and marry me, and let her marry her Catholic husband, I'm from a staunch Catholic family and I didn't Wed in the Catholic Church,and I don't attend the church anymore for over 18years, nobody stopped my parents from receiving holy communion, if you like do your wedding in Heaven and the host of heavenly Angels as groomsmen,it won't determine the success and peace of your home .
ReplyDeleteLet her have the wedding where she wants. A wedding is a big deal for a woman. Just give in to her. When people ask, say you did it to make your wife happy. Forget all this I'm the head. When or if the kids start coming,you'll figure that partpart
ReplyDeletePeople have been saying it all the while that your head is not correct, now I understand. Your head is truely not correct.Read what you type and check agian if its an advice or it came directly from your anus.
DeleteWait ooh.. but weddings, especially church weddings are done in the bride's church. Which one is wedding being done in the groom's church??
ReplyDeleteWhy the disparity?? You both should reach a compromise abeg., little things like this shouldn't cause issues, there's a lifetime to plan for
Hmmm! two people in love and can't further the course of their love because of different denomination. I swear, I can't be bothered about such. I'm not Even so religious. it's the content of the heart that matters to me
ReplyDeleteOga Poster, staunch Catholic ladies no send menopause message o. Na menopause sef go bow when novena samaram. They are stubborn like the JWs when it comes to their denomination. So, don't think for a moment that you are wasting her time. Na your time and saliva you dey waste. And this is the first time I'd hear that couples marry at the groom's church in Nigeria if the man is from Anambra. Wow! The only time a Catholic lady will willingly convert to Anglican and allow the wedding to take place there is if the lady is my cousin Meghan and you are Harry Windsor. All of us for extended family sef go follow her convert. Oga, find your black goat when night never reach o. That lady has told you the gospel truth and she's not desperate for marriage now. Find an Anambra Anglican jejely. Move on.
ReplyDeleteLol.funny comment!
DeleteOh lord! Hahahahaha........:::
DeleteStella please save this one ☝️
Lmaooo
@stella seconded. if you ask me my fellow BV's. Stella is 99% right. You can argue with your phone.your data,your keyboard. @ poster the truth is,you don't expect her to just pull out from her church just like that . like you said,she's a staunch catholic.i believe her parents are too?
ReplyDeleteCome to think of it.lets turn the table round. How would you feel if you were in her shoes? We all have our different ways we commune with God. So pulling her out from her church Is going to be a very difficult task.you have to be patient with her if you really love and care for her.
If she doesn't want it, you can't force it. Let her be. Or better still call it a quit if you know you are not comfortable with that.
I really don't know why, when it comes to wedding, the ladies does not have a say most especially in Africa. I've seen a happyily married couple- Muslim married to a christian.they both practice their faith freely without fight or whatsoever. To me that's what love is all about.
Note: I'm not a catholic.
You said its not easy to pull out from her church. But its easy to pull out from her father's house.let her remain there till she's ready to be pul.Nonsense
DeleteMaybe just maybe the day we stop considering religion in our daily lives the country will be in a better place,so because of church differences now you are thinking of leaving someone you love, afterall you are both serving the same God.
ReplyDeleteAs the man of the house that's why she wants to take the kids to catholic okwa ya? Women and their wahala.
ReplyDeletestella onyeoma your stand on this is biased because you are catholic.
Oga, if you can't handle this or start what you can't finish, kuku move on, life is too precious to live in misery. What the heck!
I smell trouble already if both of you get married
ReplyDeletePoster make it clear to her what church you would want you children to go. Stand your ground. Ensure you both agree on that before moving forward. If she's not buying it, let her go.
ReplyDeleteTell her you guys need some time off, trust me you will see her running back to you and agreeing to your decision.
Stella your advice no follow at all. So the girl should dictate whats happening in their marriage abi. Wedding in her church is not enough, she also wants the children to join her...rubbish. I'm a woman but I don't support this fuckery.
ReplyDeleteNa wao, does such still exist? Poster try to convince her, it won't be easy honestly but Love conquers all. I understand her plight, even her parents will be barred from receiving communion but marriage is far more than Denomination. If she can overlook Religion and seek for happiness in marriage and you too have your role to play. It is well dear.
ReplyDeleteHmm Stella what u said isn't right rara.
ReplyDeleteBut come to think of if..y do catholics don't like marrying from other denomination. Always behaving like pple in a cult.
See Oga don't let her take ur kids to that "cult" o.u can wed her there but after that she follows u to ur church.
Let me go straight to the point break up is the answer. If none of you can compromise. Religion is a big deal in marriage, worshiping together makes a couple more united and in some cases where they cannot worship together there is usually understanding and compromise. Your lady seems very uncompromising and that is not good trust me you will not be happy if after marriage she decides to do all she has stated. Let me quote my father sometimes love is not just enough. This issue you are considering small is a very serious big deal and unless you guys can resolve this now and who ever chooses to compromise must live with the consequences of their compromise for life, if not bros this marriage bus wey u wan enter so get big problem equivalent to break failure so fix it or breakup is the only sure way to go. Wait o i am igbo from Imo and weddings are in the brides Church after that you decamp fully to his Church no one goes left Church and the other right Church.
ReplyDeleteYou are d man, if she is not ready to start attending your church after the wedding, call it off
ReplyDeleteThis Adanne I don't even know why you are hell bent on this issue. Has a Catholic guy ditched you before? Abi u want make poster marry you? Ikwakwakwakwa.
ReplyDeletePoster, just go and find aanother lady and leave that sister alone...she herself go see a staunch Catholic to marry.
Most of you are sounding like it's only Catholic that don't like marrying outside their denomination. The Jehovah Witness nko? A man in our street then refused attending his daughter's wedding cos she didn't marry a JW member. Even the bride price and traditional marriage he and his family didn't attend, it was his younger brother that gave the lady's hand out in marriage.
All those clamouring for the head of poster's fiancee should chill biko. Poster get another woman and marry...I hope for your sake you don't come tomorrow and start chasing her around, telling her that u made a mistake...looking for whom to make your mistress like that comment poster...ikwakwakwakwa.
15yrs ago I broke up with a Catholic girl because of this nonsense. That girl is still single as at today. I bet she doesn't mind marrying a moslem now.
ReplyDelete10yrs later you are still foolish. If you really did let go then why do you still monitor her
DeletePoster if you love her so much, you should wed her in her church, then after that she follows you to your church and visit hers once in a while. that wedding means alot to her in her church.. Or you guys can do your traditional marriage and court wedding. Every body go and rest with all these wahala.
ReplyDeleteIF YOU ALLOW THIS TO HAPPEN TO YOU, I SWEAR YOU WON'T HAVE MOUTH TO TALK IN THE PRESENCE OF YOUR FRIENDS. TAKE THE CHILDREN ALSO WITH HER TO HER CHURCH! SAY NA SHE MARRY YOU OR WHAT! FOR AFRICA! NIGERIA AND IGBO MAN FOR THAT MATTER! IF YOU TAKE THIS NOW, I BET YOU SHE IS GOING TO CONTROL THAT MARRIAGE. I FOLLOWED MY HUSBAND TO HIS CHURCH AND NOT THE OTHER WAY ROUND AND I HAVE FRIENDS WHO LEFT THEIR CHURCHES TO WED IN THEIR HUSBAND'S. DON'T ENTER A MARRIAGE THAT WILL UNHAPPINESS FOR BOTH OF YOU IN THE FUTURE.
ReplyDeleteAll im seeing is ' I don't want' 'because I don't want'. 'I don't want.' 'I don't know'. 'I don't want' Lollll almighty dictator find one anambra singu Anglican gal na, dem boku, leave this one to follow her fellow station of the cross pelzin. Simpu.
ReplyDeleteI noticed jehovah witness and catholic have strong root to their churches!!! Stay clear off from these both of you are not a member and dating these duo!! They will only waste your time because they won’t leave their church, even if it’s life threatening!!
ReplyDeleteTHERE IS NO RELIGION IN HEAVEN!!!
THERE IS NO RELIGION IN HEAVEN!!!!
It’s high time people know this!!
It’s 2018 for Christ sake!
The world is already woke!!
Don’t be left behind!
THE ONLY RELIGION IN HEAVEN IS RIGHTEOUSNESS AND LOVE!!
Bros you no get wahala chaa!
ReplyDeleteGod gives you a woman of your dreams and your only headache is denomination?
If non of you wants to compromise then quit.
Infact guy,shift abeg make peeps with serious issue send chronicle.
My simple stand on this is that they should both meet each other at d middle. This is d least of what should break up a good relationship.
ReplyDeleteBut IF they can't reach a compromise now, then they should end d whole stuff now, to avoid "had I known"
Poster pls if you or her can't fully compromise pls think it over, I am saying this bcos I was in her shoes and it was not easy then. We wedded in my church catholic but hubby refused our daughter to be baptised in the Catholic and that made me unhappy. Any major misunderstanding we had in the first 3 yrs of our marriage was mainly bcos of church. But as God would have it when our second princess came hubby was the one who requested for the baptism in the Catholic Church and he follows me to church now though some times he still attends his which is living faith. Catholic Church is so sweet that if you really know what catholic faith means you will never want to leave it. Exposition of blessed sacrament is everything.
ReplyDeleteI love you anon for saying this. This is the most sincere comment I've seen here.
DeleteI don't know the traditions of igbos, but for Yorubas, the wedding is celebrated in the wife's church but the wife attends the husband's church with him as a family. That is why the wedding is celebrated in the wife's church as a sort of sent forth.
ReplyDeletePlease end the relationship and move on. She is better off with a staunch Catholic like herself.
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