Most of us we have made money an idol cos we are ever in hot pursuit of it at the expense of those that should matter most to us.
1 Tim 6:10, "The love of money is the root of all evil." Money in itself is not the root of all evil. It is the 'love of money' that has ruined so many homes and destroyed so many lives. When you are willing to do 'anything' to get money, watch it. That's the love of money.
Sincerely, there are things far more important than money.
If you think am lying ask that woman who left her child with her neighbors to go to Cotonou for business only to be called back home with the heartshredding news, "...your son is dead." Wouldn't she wish she could turn back the hands of time just to be with her child at that moment?
Or the man who left his family behind for years to seek greener pastures abroad and in few years he comes home to realize he no more has a family. He had lost his wife's heart to another man!
In our pursuit to get a 'better life' (that’s always the excuse) for our family, we end up sacrificing our marriage and our children on its altar.
Many of us are pursuing money while our home fronts are suffering; our children neglected and marriages untended. Children need attention. Oga needs attention. Madam needs attention but we can't see because we have made money our top priority.
Get this picture: In the list of our priorities, our relationship with God comes first followed by family (your spouse and children). Let this be your mindset. Money should never be the first on your list cos when God and family comes first, He will keep you constantly supplied.
"Seek you first the Kingdom of God and it's righteousness and all these things shall be added unto you." Matt 6:33. Now, that's the secret of constant supply!
Why leave your children with the house help all day long without any knowledge of what that house help might be doing to your children behind your back? Whatever we pay little or no attention to won't flourish.
Don't justify your action by saying, "After all, is the money I am making not for them? Is it not to give my spouse and my children a better life?" What happens when you find out that while you are out pursuing money, your children, the same children you claim you are doing it for, are being psychologically damaged for life? it's not worth it.
Or how do you think your child will feel when he or she grows up to find that you could have protected him but you didn't because you were chasing after something else that clearly matters more to you - money.
It's our God-given responsibility as parents to raise our children; to be a model to them, to show them what pure love is. A house help shouldn't do it for us. It's the parents' duty!
Go out and make money but please not at the expense of your home. If you want money to pursue you, pursue God and His will for your life, then watch things fall into place for you. Make God and family your top priority for it is God who gives you the power to make wealth (Deut 8:18).
Are you changing your priority list now?
Have a blessed day.
~ M. Obatu ~
Nice one.
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Gm family, please when abi na what time is the stress relief section coming up? I need it so bad.
DeleteTell chimamanda and her likes that carry achievements on their heads like gala, family comes after God because those are people I can sacrifice my last for
Delete@pushup, Chimamanda alone. She has never asked anyone to leave their family, you dislike her because you know that you do not have the potential to reach the heights that she has.
DeleteYou that loves your family, you will still come here to beg women that carry achievement on their head for handouts. Jealousy kill you there.
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ReplyDeleteSome girls wey dey read this now dey them Aristo house and they lied to their loved ones say them dey school.
ReplyDeleteSome brats wey dey read this now dey their sugar mummy house and they lied to be there.
Some don book abortion appointment even as they are reading this.
Some are on the buses going to "make it" by snatching a married man; husband of a very close friend or relative.
Where is the conscience of this age?
Nice writeup
ReplyDeleteExactly why I resigned my job to stay with my kids when it wasn't convenient because hubby works in another state.. I don't have househelp because I don't even like the idea at all but God has been faithful.Most time women need to do the needful, it's not easy though but seeing your kids and the training you give them with the help of God surpasses any other thing.
ReplyDeleteIt is well with and we shall eat the fruit of our labours.
Nice write up. Thanks Mr Obatu
ReplyDeleteNice one... I feel lifted and encouraged.
ReplyDeleteThanks for this, it is admonishing and soul lifting
ReplyDeleteBut how do you go about it when the so called man is stingy at home but father Christmas outside and at the long run it doesn't look like you are doing anything, he makes you feel worthless. Now you got a job that keeps you away from early morning till late night but at least can pay the bills of the children ( the children stay in the school teacher's house till you are back), will I now resign?. Hubby comes home when he feels like and doesn't drop money. Pls what's the advice
ReplyDeleteNne pls work and make money to train your children, the writer won't be willing to help out with sch fees any feeding money.
DeleteDo you TRUST the school teacher with your kids?I don't know what to tell you....
DeleteSo in your mind ,you think these parents are Happy leaving their kids with their neighbours? In his country where you work and been owed salaries, if they don't hustle were will they live,how will they pay for food,school fees etc,
ReplyDeleteIf a woman don't go out to hustle ,its you people that will call her lazy.many marriages and relationships are breaking up because of no money.
ReplyDeleteThere is a fine line of balance. Imagine not being able to feed your kids while staying at home with them? Not every parent leaves their kids because they want to.
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Please, lets us be sensitive in our writing. I have been the one paying the bills since August 2017. Lets assume I am a stay at home mum, what would have happened? Hubby does not have a stable job currently. Rent, school bills, utility bills have been taken over by me. May God help us in Jesus Name, Amen.
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Deletehmmmmm may God help us parents to meet up every where necessary in our home
ReplyDeleteThe same blog visitors that bully housewives.
ReplyDeleteMy dear poster is not our making , all house helps are not bad. Even they school your kids are attending , are you there with them to know what is going on?
ReplyDeleteWe can only do our best and leave the rest for God .
No mother wants to leave her child and be out there, except maybe few. Our economy here in Nigeria gives little or no option. It doesn't give mothers the luxury of decisions like you mentioned up there. How many people are gainfully employed? There are many homes where we have the wives being the bread winner. We also have kids that have stay at home mom turning out worse or being abused right under their nose. Even the bible says something about the idle mind. I think that write up there is a bit insensitive. He took it from an angle.
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ReplyDeleteThe poster did not say women should no work o,abi I didn't read right ni?the thing is being with the kids or not has never determined how good a child will become when they grow up but not being there has done a lot of damage to a lot of kids too,almost all the stories of abuse that iv read happened when the kids went somewhere after school abi someone was with them that's not trusted,its dicey and every mother has to weigh their options carefully......
ReplyDeleteWisdom will not kill you. God bless you.
DeleteNice write up. Honestly our children should be our priority. I see the joy in my daughter's eyes each time I spend the day with her. I don't get to spend time with her mostly on weekdays and it breaks my heart. A woman who works with a government agency told me she stayed home for seven years so as to take care of her two kids. She was doing business at home. Her hubby was late.
ReplyDeleteGod help us.