She says ''Seriously,I am sick of people asking me for Asoebi,event planners buzzing to plan my wedding, caterers inviting me for food testing and all. Well,without being told, y’all can see I haven’t been wearing “the ring” that’s enough explanation.
If I have to do this to explain myself then I will, I was engaged, I broke up with him because I didnt love him,I made a mistake by accepting the ring, no one is above mistakes, I am 28 years old and I’m aware that my mates are married, some with kids.
But no amount of pressure will make me settle for a man I don’t love, because at the end of the day,after y’all wear asoebi and dance, I will be the one suffering in the marriage, no friends or family,Till I find LOVE… I won’t settle''.
*WOW;this is a bold one!!!
Wow I love your courage menh...
ReplyDeleteWhere is chikito when you need her 'fabu' story of how she also walked away from a billionaire an hour to her wedding.
Delete10.20 kuku 'keel' me. And it's so true
DeleteWehdone MA!...
ReplyDeleteIf everyone can stop thinking about what society says or will say. Imagine if she went ahead just to bear Mrs n next thing is divorced. This babe is beautiful.
ReplyDeleteWhy did you accept the ring in the first place? Self deceit
ReplyDeleteDo you have sense at all? Even if it’s just small. Did you miss the part where she said it was a mistake on her part for accepting the ring? Next time try to read and comprehend before rushing to make a comment😒
DeleteEhen! Them don come o! Why did she accept the ring kor. Was it wedding dand she accepted? Did she say i do? No. Infact she can walk away from a rubbish even on the wedding morning.
DeleteWhy did she even agree to date someone she doesn’t like? She never talk true, if he is my brother I will not be happy with you, why tag him along, then after the public proposal you dump him, chai. If a man did this to a woman, we would be singing a different tune
DeleteGbam!
ReplyDeletePressure from family can make one marry the wrong man. I avoid my family so much. God of the booless, provide us with our own boo.
Amen
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DeleteAmen
DeleteYou made the right decision jare. Broken engagement is better than broken marriage.
ReplyDeleteA broken engagement is better than a broken marriage. Go girl
ReplyDeleteRonke when you get to 38years,dont come and cry to us you hear.
ReplyDeleteLove doesn't always have to be like in the movies where its all butterflys and all smooth sailings. Sometimes you have to work at love.
I was once in your shoes, in my 20s I was looking for Mr Perfect, I had a guy that loved me and he proposed, collected the ring, was about doing introduction and I pulled out. He was heart broken.
Thankfully I had a 2nd chance, but it took me like 8 years.
10 years ago I married a man I didn’t love. I felt he was ok and since mr perfect doesn’t exist I believed the love would come eventually. I spent 4 years living, sleeping and eating with a man I did not love. He was not my husband. Most times I felt I was living with a stranger. He felt it too but the comfort of a double income was enough for him.
DeleteAt the age of 36 I decided to be a real woman and left the marriage. I’ve had several opportunities since then to marry but I won’t repeat my mistake even for the loneliness. I have no regrets today and yes I will wait for love. JJ.
Keep waiting! Mtchewww
DeleteDey there dey deceive yourself.No perfect man or woman.Ability to understand and forgive each other makes marriage works.If you are a divorcy you wont know the implication until your children are being mocked by their pair group or colleages.I am talking from experience.No matter how much you have or independent you are,when times comes you will always pray to be with the Imcompatible,dulling irresponsible man you claimed to have left.I am telling you from personal experience.
DeleteAnon 20:26.. Keep lyjng.. madam fabu with ur fake story to deceive gullible girls.I'm sure u never smell marriage before talkmore of having suitors now..
DeleteNow that u have posted this fabu,how does that make u feel??
20.26 at least before you hit 75years.
DeleteAnd madam MBGN, why date someone you don't like/love? Maybe because money was flowing in.
Girls do t date guys YOI CANNOT MARRY. dating is not for fun, it's actually a step away from courtship.
If a guy made this statement how would the comments here sound?
Mtcheeew
20:26 Don't worry, he'll come in due time. Those who have decided to settle for less are always eager to advise others not to settle for BETTER.
DeleteAVOID THEM WITH YOUR LAST BREATH.
Anon 08:54, thank you!
DeleteAnon 20:26 ignore this idiots with love of wedding imprinted on their DNAs. Awon ode Dede. Just marry mentality. Aw u will survive the marriage they don't want to know. I used to think if u meet a good man even if the chemistry isn't clicking or the. Love ain't there it will come. Until my cousin told me aw she felt. Her husband loves her that l know but she said she loves him not in love with him. She says sleeping with him is like sleeping with her brother. He knows. He has complained and talked but can u force love? No. So they are there. Enduring since God hates a divorce.
DeleteBold but the public release is very unnecessary. Why were you then in a relationship with someone you ddnt love up to the extent that he proposed? I'm sure nobody was asking anything. Maybe there was a misunderstanding and she decided to shame him... oh well 🙄🙄🙄. Good for you. Your happiness matters in the end
ReplyDeleteMy sentiments exactly, plus if it was the other way round, we would be insulting the guy for being insensitive
DeleteDo you people even read at all? She said, she fell out of love meaning, she WAS once in love with him.
Delete@Same Girl..U are smart. Why date a man u don't love? Dis is what Lillian Esoro did and she went ahead and married him..now d marriage has packed up..
Delete@Anon 00:49..Is ur eyes paining u DAT u can't even read the write ups? PR u just followed Stella's caption?
She said she made a mistake by collecting the ring and she doesn't love the guy.. make una dey read posts well before commenting.
A bold step to take if you ask me, it takes alot of guts to walk away & start being judge by world people, i wouldnt congratulate her on that move cus shes hurt & disaplointed someone, but its the right thing to do..... inatead of living miserably ever after in a loveless marriage, he should be thankful he dodged a grenade with this one.
ReplyDeleteThe romance stage aka drug addiction stage is 18months tops, thats when the chemistry of off the hook with huge sparks that can power the entire Lagos island, sadly it vanishes & the cracks & flaws are revealed, those silly jokes u laughed at few montgs ago suddenly sound so childish... youre now in the power struggle stage (the love hangover), most couple dont make it through this point, especially if your values & personalities are not compatible, it'd all come down like a house of cards.
ReplyDeleteThats why rushing into marriage while in the 1st stage of love is ill-advised, some people might scale through but at 25 & above you should know in marriage theres no map or manual to copy, what works for A is messed up for B. Hope she finds love & not settle. We're conditioned on fairy tales of passion that lasts forever with no fading and no work required. We're told that we'll "just know" when we've met "the one" and it'll be a magical and exciting whirlwind, where everything is easy and you shit ice-cream, goodluck with that sha.
She dodged a bullet with that guy.
ReplyDeleteIt's a bold move. Your happiness is paramount. I also hope you prayed about it and seeked counsel from her mum and family and not friends.
ReplyDeleteI know someone that did this at 27 due to advice of friends. She and the guy had dated 10yrs, he even returned to naija cos of her. The guy was swept off by his junior colleague a year after. That one saw heart broken clean oga. 10 years later the girl is still single after many heart breaks
I don't pray that for this lady. But you need to pray well especially against some advice from people.
My dear, seems theres a spirit that follows any lady that breaks off an engagement or disappoints a guy, especially if the guy was good to her, you'd hardly see them meeting a better man, even if hes richer and finer and caring, it doesnt just last, something must spoil it... very very rare occasions before you find a greener and better pasture at the other side! I know so many situations as such, girls have to be more careful leading men on.... if he was bad to you, its understandable, seems the mens cry are heard
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DeleteAnon!18:17 YINMU** Akuko uwa...
DeleteIt's good she called it off. Better a broken engagement, than a broken marriage.
ReplyDeleteThe public announcement wasn't necessary and she's also trying to shame the boy, which is very petty of her.
I wish her the best in next relationship.
Life goes on.
If u had known I would have done same. I don't love my husband anymore. Just managing. I would have walked away the moment I noticed his negative character during courtship. I'm really regretting.
ReplyDeleteits not too late, youre not a tree receiving sunlight... life shouldnt be lived that way.
DeleteMy dear I put it to you that you wouldn't have walked away. You saw the signs but you took it for granted because you wanted to get married.
DeleteMadam sunshine, what have you said now that is different from what she said. Madam I put it to you. Dumb and dumber forming ITK
DeleteAll these girls sha,the truth is that she realized the guy wasn't as rich as he appeared or she initially thought.Forget most of these beauty queeno, they marry for money. Anyway it is good as you will search for another money bag instead of cheating in the marriage.
ReplyDeleteWasn't as rich as he appeared nko,do you know how long they were together and even if she realised that she could have left before engagement so stop saying rubbish
DeleteBold step well taken
ReplyDeleteNice one
ReplyDeleteSometimes Love is not just enough in marriage.
ReplyDeleteThere are Deal breakers that should not be overlook.
I'm kinda in this ship
Sighs
tell us ur story
DeleteMost people see the signs of negative trait in their spouse's thinking they could cope or endure it forgetting forever is a really really long time.
ReplyDeleteShe is the only one that knows why she called the wedding off. I wish her what she wish herself...
ReplyDeleteThis is what I should have done. But here I am, filed for divorce after two years of a dreadful marriage but hey! I’m happier. Life goes on. Luckily no kids. Thank God. I have other suitors now but I’m not in a hurry. Once I see someone who fits perfectly and compliments me in all angles, I will give it a shot again... this time I will do it well through Christ who strengthens me.
ReplyDeleteWell done. It takes courage to leave a marriage.
DeleteGood thing you didn't have kids. Pls ladies if you know you are in a shaky marriage,don't have kids till you have fixed whatever may be wrong in the marriage or incase you want to leave. The ones already with kids. Don't have additional kids till you fix what is wrong or you decide to leave.
Always have the amount of kids you can fend for incase of any unforseen circumstance. That's the advice someone gave me.
The person gave you the right advice as a woman only born the kids you can cater for and to be sincere it's better to wait and pray for guidance than jump into a awful marriage. Once you are in it it takes a lot of courage to jump out
DeleteSame almost happened to me. Guy asked me out but I wasn't interested, he wouldn't leave me be for good two years and pleaded I give him a chance.
ReplyDeleteI never liked him but I said to myself "you don't even know him well enough to say you don't like him". So I said yes let's see how it goes.
Before I knew what was happening he started talking marriage just after three weeks of giving him a chance to see if I could bring myself to love him.
I told him it's too early let's get to know each other more, he refused and kept saying he wants to settle down.
4 months of the relationship was him trying to force me to marry and I just scattered the whole thing.
When you don't love someone you just don't. We don't know for how long they have dated before he even proposed sef we don't even know if that's the true reason why she broke up but I won't advise a woman to marry a man she doesn't love because age is fast catching up on her.
Men always marry who they want, they don't marry out of pity, so why should You?.
Anyways I later got married to the one my heart truly wanted, the only man God chose for me, a few months shy of 30 and that's one of the best decision I have ever made.
Time will tell.
DeleteGbam! They dont marry out of pity so why should you?
DeleteAnon 21:30, Biko did you use a blindfold when you got to the part I said I am married, not just married for marrying sake ooo.
DeleteLike I married a man whom I truly wanted and mind you am super duper happy with our kids for he is the best father and husband ever.
You say time will tell?, yes time will tell for you, and in your marriage not mine. Your bad thought towards my marriage will only manifest in your own life. Nonsense.
Anon 21:30 I wish your marriage all the negative things you wish mine.
DeleteGood for her.
ReplyDeleteBest decision so far
ReplyDeleteI admire your boldness.Its so good. Some of us are not so bold. I married because my dad was plainly tired of me staying at home. I had suitors but none ever ignited that extra spark in me. Then one day, my dad told me in plain terms that he was fed up of me staying at home and that I should go and set up my own home. So i decided to marry the next "Nice" person. I did. But now I am so so unhappy with my life. I keep blaming my dad in my heart but I know he isn't the one to blame. I take all responsibility.
ReplyDeleteThis poster is on the right track. But its unfortunate that in Nigeria, all those external pressures are there to marry. If people were to be left alone, they would marry at their own pace and time... And they would be happy.
Loll.
DeleteDoes he have prospects and ambitions?
Manage am like that.
We all hOLD the key 🔑 to our HAPPINESS, she knows better than anyone why she opted out of the Engagement.
ReplyDeleteYou want her to send in Chronicles after Six 6 months of marriage, so that y'all will become Judge, Jury and panel committee.
Mademoiselle, don't please the world people, they are like LEECHES , trying to suck you dry.
But why then do some people say it's better for a woman to marry a man that loves her more than she loves him, that it's for her good.
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