Na wah!!!
RUNAWAY WIFE
This man was so loving before marriage, nothing to be suspicious about, then on wedding day I was abused both physically and emotionally, all because I didn't follow hubby to the hotel when he wanted.
Why didn't I? His own mum asked me to go on an errand and I took permission from hubby. He hit me that day cos he thought I was keeping him waiting. That was to be our first time together.
Fast forward 2 weeks later he hit me again cos I came home late from work.
He decided to stop working before marriage cos he saved up some money for business, we later learnt that his personal treasurer (supposed niece)squandered the money.
So he was broke and living off me.
I gave it all but the insults were much.
His family also were asking for their levies( upkeep for dad, mum and sisters).
I am just a civil servant so U know what pay is like.
When the expense to extended family became much, I reduced his own pocket money.I couldn't afford any good thing for myself. I got pregnant but he beat me up till I lost pregnancy.
What came after was worse. He would sleep with anyone openly and if I dared complain, he would call me barren.
I had to keep shut and endure the beatings.
He asked me to quit all social media platforms, he would insult me and hit me in the slightest provocation.
I reported severally to his family but they kept telling me to endure that other women are having it rougher than I am. They even tell me I'm lucky cos he hasn't stabbed me yet.
I got pregnant and ran away till I gave birth to my son.
His supposed niece sent a message that she is his wife, and all the money I have been giving him to save up so he can start a new business was sent to her for her upkeep and she is known as the wife in his family.
He has since been calling me to return his son to him and move on with my life.
Am I wrong to keep my son from him, do I go back to him or do I change my contacts so he can't reach me anymore.
I was never happy from day one of marriage. Also he never sent any money for his son's upkeep.i had to depend on relatives till i gave birth. Even at that i was still sending money to his family for their upkeep. He is now living happily and openly flaunting his love with his supposed niece(she told me they are not related in anyway and they have been dating long before he married me). Please I would like to remain anonymous.
*Give him which son?Please ignore this man and go far far away from where he cant steal the boy from you...
AND PLEASE STOP GIVING HIS WICKED FAMILY UPKEEP MONEY!!!....Imagine that they kept quiet cos of what they were getting from you.
That man and his family are messed up..please change your number and all your contacts if you have to...
Infact if he disturbs you too much,tell him the boy is not his!...Hisss
Chronicle ti de.
ReplyDeleteMadam pls follow Stella's advice and stay far from that man. File a report with all this women's against domestic violence groups so you have something on record for your divorce. Block his no and that of his family, its obvious they are wicked people and users. You or your son don't need them. Some good families will even put their son in order that even if there is no marriage again they still talk sense into their son.
DeleteAnd madam it seems you were very desperate for marriage and hence they saw you as a cash cow in the family. You were giving your husband pocket money and his relatives upkeep ?????. You saw that this man was beating you till you lost your first pregnancy and you still got pregnant again. woowww
And I bet you are below 30. I wonder the desperation so many young girls have for marriage that they will be willing to feed a grown man that beats them and cheats in their face. And many already saw this cheating and joblessness before entering. You now be in a marriage like a single mother paying all bills.
Which son? Block him & stay away from his family. Those his family na atenuje go kill dem
DeleteDont release ur son to such a man, were oniwere ni o
Poster after all the sh*t you narrated up there, I am pissed that you are even considering giving him your son and going back to him. Not only that you are still funding his family on little or nothing. Are you for real? You seriously want to go back?
DeleteDon't give him the son ooo, you may never get to see him again
DeleteThis poster, what kind of dumbness is that? Giving his family money? For what? Dem jazz you? Please carry your son and go very far away from the evil man and evil family. Na devil agent him be o.
DeleteThings are happening o. Hit you on your wedding night? Is he mad? Your son is your only compensation. Keep him far away from him.
ReplyDeleteHitting on wedding night is not a big deal naw. I was beaten on my wedding night, i was beaten with 8months pregnancy, i was beaten anywhere anytime. I was beaten on the road and police officers told me that i am the woman. After 7years of pain i took a bow with my 2 beautiful children. Its 6years and neither him nor his family has asked after the children. Surprised my kids are the one saying forget him mummy.I am extremely proud of them.
DeleteLike I have told you before, move to a new address, change your number, change your sons name sef, cut his family off too, let no one know nothing about you, go to court and send him divorce papers. It’s their loss at the end of the day, you have your son, you have a job, you do not need to be in that kind of toxic environment. Dash his cousin/sidechic to him, it’s not worth it
DeleteDomestic violence usually start and repeats itself at significant milestones so receiving 1st beating on wedding night or when pregnant is a very, very, extremely common theme.
DeleteAnony. 15:37 I'm really sorry about what you went through. God is your strength.
DeletePoster, stop every communication with this man and his family. It's really painful they couldn't call him to order even till now. Change your phone number tomorrow.
Poster typing anything will be a repetition off Stella's red pen. Please move on with your life. The things you have gone through are not things to be endured in marriage. Please make sure you keep your son away from him! Peace!!!
ReplyDeletePoster all these happened within a space of 18 months? Inwu agu!
ReplyDeleteWhy would you hide and for how long? Better start living your normal life and if he tries any rubbish you get him arrested.
Fan, e bi like say you dey live in a dream world.
DeleteNa for Naija, you go get wife beater arrested?
What mumu advice do you want? isn't it obvious that you are not wanted? inukwa should I go back to him, very stupid question. biko do wetin your mind tell you
ReplyDeleteSingle ladies, please do not be desperate to get married. Look before you leap.
ReplyDeleteJesus wept.
ReplyDeletewhat did i just read? Why did he marry you? Maybe becus of ur money?
never u gv him ur son,i repeat never try it.infact,look 4 a lawyer or search 4 jlaa on fb they will help u fight him.
men men men
Stop giving money to his family, let d new wife take up that responsibility abi them jazz you? Which kind love is that?
ReplyDeleteHide away from him with ur son, 99% of stepmoms are evil, let his new wife give him a child.
But with d way u are sounding, if he begs, you will still return until he finally stabs u as his family has predicted.
Better keep ur job n move far away from d bagga...n block all forms of communication.
Thank you the way she is sounding if this man and his wicked family beg her she may go back.
DeleteOnce hunger wire that her jobless husband he may just beg her just to continue extorting her. Since shes the one that takes care of both him and her ''co-wife''.
if this story is actually true then my dear you are not normal.. Sorry to say so.. After you ran away you still dey give his family money. Giving their son ain't enough Abi?. I know that if the man plan with his family come beg you ..you will go back but I pray you come out alive with your son.Ask all the dead wives who went back a second time after their spouses begged them.. How many ear you get?
DeleteI wonder how much she gives the loafers from her meager civil servant earnings. You better be wise poster and face your life and your son. Someone treats you like trash and his family does nothing about it and you keep giving them money for their upkeep? Heck even if he treated you well you are not under any obligation to give them anything. If you don't have things to do with your money open a trust for your son. Be wise obviously you weren't since you still took in with all the maltreatment from him.
DeleteWhy do I feel this story is not complete; he doesn't know your place of work, civil servant because it didn't sound like you resigned?
ReplyDeleteWell, you can come to the comment section and explain. I just find it difficult to fathom a piece of advice when I have doubts about a story.
Son kwanu, don't give any son to him. Such a wicked man and his family are cursed. The so called niece will also meet her own downfall. Don't give your son to anyone. Stupid set of people.
ReplyDeleteDon't worry poster, you will laugh last.
Chai!!! Only him:
ReplyDelete-Verbal Abuse
-Emotional Abuse
-Physical Abuse
-Broke
-Cheat
-Liar
I'm team make it work but your case is different..There's nothing to mend here.He's moved on already so take your time to lick your wound(s) and move on.
I believe he knows your family house and place of work so even if you do change your numbers he can still find you.
So your options are to relocate if you can afford it or get a restraining order if that works here or like Stella said," tell him your son is not his".
Don't even plan or think of revenge, God will fight for you.
My favorite quote "Tough times don't last but tough people do". O ga adi cha nma.😘
My question is
ReplyDeleteWhere do people see these kinds of men.....or do they change after marriage?
I don't get it. The occurrence rate is alarming and it's quite a pity.
I dey ask the same question... He beat u & u still remain with him even sent his family money after running away...smh madam I feel u are lying
DeleteEither that or she's in love, maybe d man can pound her, bed pounding and Mike Tyson pounding.
Deleteu better run away far from the man n d thieves family before dem collect your boy from u.just imagine talk Sef, say make u return d boy for him n move on with your life? madam no give anybody your son o or else d sufa wey dat boy go suffer for their hand no go get second hand
ReplyDeleteYou are a very stupid woman! My God! Is marriage a do or die affair? Imagine you're not only dealing with domestic violence, you're also the breadwinner of the family, even to extended family?! Wow. You just burst my head! How can you be feeding a whole family who supposedly came to marry you? In all of this, you still had the nerve to get pregnant and bring an innocent child into this mess. See what desperation has caused you? I have never seen where a woman took care of a broke man and it ended well. When he's not a Gigolo, and has full use and control of himself. I don't pity you at all! Where is your pride as a woman? You don't want to be pampered, spoilt, taken care of? Instead you're breaking your back for a lazy, entitled money hungry family and their useless son who married you for money you don't even have. OMG.
ReplyDeleteDon’t mind her, she sounds dull, desperate and stupid! My God! And she’s still asking stupid questions, no go and let him stab you to death, then he’ll attend your burial with your co-wife. You were still even sending them money!!! There’s something fundamentally wrong with your reasoning! I got no advice for you cause you’ll still go back to him, so RIP in advance.
DeleteYou see abuse? I cant stand it oh... never never!
ReplyDeleteAnd the foolish family was supporting him?
How did you even manage to stay for that long?
He has a big problem I tell you...
So, He will beaaaat you then you will credit his account as pocket money? 👏👏👏👏...
So not return any child oh.... do Not!
Run far far far and keep every prove of domestic violence you can lay your hands on. You may need it cos i know the foolish man will soon start screaming kidnap.
You have made a good choice running away. Do not turn back
Listen to what Stella has said. That's the best advice
ReplyDeleteDon't give your son to him or any if his relatives. They are all evil and the so called niece will meet her downfall soon . protect your son with all you have. Remember tough times don't last but tough people do.
ReplyDeleteHmmmmm!things women endure in d name of marriage. Mine didn't last 8months Nd ofcourse I didn't wait for him to beat me I left with my pregnancy Nd returned after I gave birth Nd that was my worst mistake because d maltreatment from him and his family was on another level. The thing is their family always knw abt it and still blame d woman. Please don't go back it u love urself an ur son
ReplyDeleteI am happy you left that marriage some women will rather die in their marriage.because they feel without husband they are nobody in life.
ReplyDelete@poster Firstly, what you had with ur supposed ex hubby is not marriage cos it was rooted on lies, he lied to you. Secondly, send him text message stating that the boy is not his to avoid disturbance. Thirdly,stop sending any money to his family. and lastly, change your contact and change location. I can't deal with untruthful persons plus woman beaters. All the best.
ReplyDeleteDon't send him any msg telling him the son isn't his. Don't try that please. Do you know the implications of that? She will just be giving him more fuel for the fire he started and it will backfire on her. And Stella even gave the same advice. It is not a wise thing to do please. Devise other means of getting him to leave you with your son. You have a reputation to protect.
DeleteA family where they're beating you and sending you on errands on your own wedding day. So when you saw all this, why didn't you buckle up and start saving like crazy to liberate yourself? Instead you were squandering money on his family and him, hoping to buy their affection. Atink you See now? I'm so angry and disappointed in you. Stop lying! He couldn't have hidden his bad character so well. You were too desperate, now see. I have no advice for you. You're seriously asking if you should go back, to do what? Become housegirl for him and his new wife, while you're paying them salary for existing? Now listen. Lock up on that family, take care of your son by yourself. Block him everywhere, change your number, and go to the court and file for divorce. Also try to get sense while at it cos you're too dull.
ReplyDeleteThe best advice ever!
DeleteShe's missing the beatings and d big pee.
DeleteShe said the family is lucky he hasn’t stabbed her🤣🤣🤣🤣 abeg make I laugh well biko.. all of u are wasting your advice, this woman will go bk very soon! Just wait and see!
DeleteShe said the family is lucky he hasn’t stabbed her🤣🤣🤣🤣 abeg make I laugh well biko.. all of u are wasting your advice, this woman will go bk very soon! Just wait and see!
Delete*said she’s lucky
DeleteWicked family...
ReplyDeletePlease move on with your life.
Hide for what??
For how long??
What of Your own family??
Don't give him your son
Stop sending your hard earn money to his wicked family..
Nonsense
Hmmm, maybe her parents hands r tied, I'll be damned if my parents get to know about their child being maltreated and let it go.. My dad will say "I will deal with u physically, spiritually and otherwise" hahahahahaa
DeleteWhy did you get pregnant again after the first pregnancy? You shoild have left him long ago without any child baggage n face front
ReplyDeleteTell him that the boy is not his if it becomes worse.
DeleteChange your contacts and address.
You better run farrrrrrr from him and no matter the begging from both families, your life is important. Live for your God, live for your son.
The only comment that made sense so far. Why would she get pregnant again? Poster I don't pity you, you are too dull. You are even asking if you should go back to him. Oya go back so he can keep on beating you while you become a maid for his so called niece. Mtcheew. You better tell him that the son is not his and change your numbers and move on with your life. Your husband was doing all those things to you yet you got pregnant for him. In fact you are stupid. Mtcheew.
DeleteI repeat, this poster is missing d big pee ooo n blows....sex n boxing has made her blind to maltreatment... She get strong bed.
DeletePoster, follow Stella advice she have said it all.
ReplyDeleteI married a messed up man from a more messed up family too. I am lucky I didn't have a child before I realized and I ran away. Aunty OP, DO NOT DROP THAT BOY WITH THAT SILLY MAN!!! You would regret it for the rest of your life. Let that boy be the source of your happiness and joy. It is not easy but with God, you would overcome.
ReplyDeleteAnd you stayed that long and eventually open toto for him till he knocked you up abi? OK honestly I don't feel pity or any kind of sympathy for you. Just stick to what Stella said.
ReplyDeleteI hate reading such kinda chronicles
Lack of big pee is clouding her judgement.
DeleteYou see all these girls wey dey shout "leave him, dump him . . ."
ReplyDeleteA lot of them endure even gunshots to remain married or remain
in Aristos payroll.
So Anonymous, what is your input? This woman is a candidate for LEAVE HIM. She should go back and continue feeding him and his family AND his wife? Or you will open your mouth and say her son deserves to come from a "whole home". SIT DOWN AND MECHIONU BIKO.
DeleteAnon, this is totally different. The Aristos at least enjoy cool cash and luxuries of life on top of the beating but in her case she's the bread winner and still suffer emotional, physical and verbal abuse. Its too much abeg. Her life and that of her son is very important.
DeleteTo turn MRS no b by force o. Most girls of now don't even know what they want anymore. I'm sure she might have one gentle man who will be willing to die for her before she went ahead to marry a woman beater because she was too desperate for marriage. It pays to be patient and we all should learn.
DeleteLeave them.. then they will come here and b forming jagaban and na them they chop beating pass
DeleteDon't be stupid. It is not a must to comment.
DeleteHis family told you that you are lucky that he hasn't stabbed you yet but you kept on giving them your money. Are you for real? If I may ask: where are your parents? You have seen the handwriting on the wall, stay away from them because they are toxic people.
ReplyDeleteNigerian men o. When will you people change? Please poster, do not go back to him or give him your son. There is nothing wrong in being a single mom. Raise your son and live your life to the fullest.
ReplyDeleteI don't have a word of pity for you,Someone beats you up at the slightest provocation and you went ahead to have a baby for him,you should have fled for your life and sanity from the onset,I must be Mrs by force
ReplyDeleteYour horseband is Samrat's twinny. He hit you on your first night and continued to torment you thereafter. Poster, he's asking for his son is not because he loves him but just to get back at you his meal ticket. Disappear far from him and his evil family members. Don't give him your son. But wait, don't you have family members?
ReplyDeletePoster you just annoyed me with this useless chronicle.
ReplyDeleteNa WA for this woman, you still went ahead to get pregnant after he beat out your unborn child from your body, you obviously don't love yourself or the parents that gave you life.
I put it to you that you are the very architect of your troubles ,you knew who he truly is on your wedding night,after that he killed your unborn child & you are the bread winner, you still have mind to open your vagina & allow him pour his rubbish into you & you are asking for help. Since you can bear all that I guess you can also bear him taking your son, or you can go ahead & live with him & his lover, in fact go live with his family & continue giving them money because you love them so much.
Senseless woman, aka 'madam I must remain a Mrs no matter what it cost'.
Must u insult? if u don't have anything good to say just keep quiet.
DeleteLol..konji is making her dizzy...she is senseless nor.
DeleteSister,
ReplyDelete1. No do not go back
2. You were married under false pretenses
3. The man will kill you and your boy will become a servant if you dare go back
4. No do not go back
5. Your boy will be motherless very soon if you go back
6. You DO NOT NEED A MAN AT THIS POINT, GO AND HUSTLE FOR WHAT YOU AND THAT BOY WILL EAT
7. One good parent is better than 2 very bad ones.
8. Do not go back, they will kill you.
9. Stay away from men for a while until you and your son are on your feet.
10. Go and get the right legal backing for you and your son. Do not be lazy and wait to solve things like a villager. The justice system works very well in cases like this.
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DeleteOnce he sends her a Pic of his peepee, she will run back...very weak woman.
DeleteChai!!! This one weak me o. Though, I'm not always in support of this una RUN!! RUN parole o when it comes to relationship issue but for now, abeg, run. With time, the man will realise his mistakes and I pray it won't be too late.
ReplyDeleteMadam just ignore that man and start all over again, Take Good care of your son, don't give the boy to anybody take care of your pikin and stay far away from the man & his family.
ReplyDeleteThis guy is damn wicked and his family is worse, please kindly package boob inside brown envelope and send it to them, they need to dine with devil in hell
ReplyDeleteafi boob massage naa
DeleteThank you all for your comments. I felt I did wrong keeping his son away from him as he has threatened to take me to court and sue me for kidnapping his son.
ReplyDeleteI left the civil service job when I ran away and my family members opened a small business for me and I also got a teaching job to support us so life is better.
I will stop sending his people money. I was in love that's why I stayed this long and assisting his family I was told was part of my obligations. Now I know better.
Thank you all and God bless.
If he takes u to court, pack evidence follow busy, d scars n all....don't let pee pee deceive u...be strong.
DeleteGirl. I feel you love can make you do shit you wouldn't think of doing. GOD has saved your from a frustrating future so thank your stars. Keep it moving don't look back you and your son are going to be just FINE!!!!!! This is the best decision you made for your son. Badly raised men everywhere expecting their wives to do what their mothers didn't do, Do you girl. Peace & love
DeletePoster from now on love with your head, you hear? Emotions are fickle. Love yourself
DeleteNne that is not love. They just wanted to use you. A woman feeding a man AND his family is not the norm. Keeping his child away from him is the best, he is toxic to your son. Go and pray over your child and break the hold of uselessness over him. Cause his fathers people are useless. You are free, you are a nice woman but very gullible. Go and sin no more. Leave men small ok and face your son, your future and your God. FORGET THIS MAN HE IS NOT YOUR HUSBAND AND WILL NEVER BE. DO NOT LET ANYONE TE LL YOU OTHERWISE
DeleteStella have said it all, follow the advice.
ReplyDeleteNa wah! I have a lot to say, but nah strength to type wey I no get. Madam is your name "Patience" or Perseverance? Cos that's the only reason you will survive all these and still ask if you should go back.
ReplyDeleteI'm hungry abeg! Let me face front.
Poster like I said to you the other night,just change your contact, avoid family members,friends and enemies who can give this beast idea where you are,do not give him your son,that his fake niece will turn your son to a houseboy. Take care of your son,channel all your love in your son, move on tlwith tour life,block all his family members, stop assisting them. I am sending you millions of hugs and kisses, at strong,happy for your son.
ReplyDeleteI thought I was reading my own story a part from all the beating though, poster I ran away after 2 years and he's been threatening me to return his son, he had the butts to report me in the police station that I absconded with his son and all the receipts of his electronics( electronics I bought oh) he said I was stupid to have bought them and written his name in the receipt, I've left all the electronics to him let him eat them
ReplyDeleteJust file for divorce it might have to take three years to file for divorce because you left voluntarily he didn't ask you to leave that's what my lawyers said though, I'm waiting for him to come and fight for the custody of his son
Aunty biko receive sense, why would you even think of going back, get yourself a place,you have a job so I believe you can take care of your child since you were literally funding his whole family. Change your number and cut him and everybody related to him off. Going back to him means you don't love your child and yourself enough, cuz lass lass they'll kill you and your child will be someone's problem to toss about. Change his name,he can bear your father's name as his surname,move on with your life ma'am. DO NOT GO BACK TO THAT TOXIC MARRIAGE FOR ANY REASON WHATSOEVER.. DON'T GO BACK!!!!!
ReplyDeleteWhat did I just read....smh
ReplyDeletePoster.....never go back to him again unless maybe your name is Endurance....WTH
Na real wa be dis. Which kain in-laws from hell be dis. Madam abeg stay away from them.
ReplyDeleteHi Family. It's good to finally comment on this blog. Thanks Martins!
Aunty receive sense. What are you still sending money to those people for? Instead of you to face your son. Don't give him your son and cut all ties with the family. Hustle to give your son the best.
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