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WOMEN GIVING TO MEN

Hello Stella,

I want to bring this topic of conversation to your blog to start a conversation on women spending money on men they are married to or in a committed relationship with. 

 You see, I commented on your July 5th edition of Chronicles as Makoko where I advised the poster that it is childish to go into marriage with the mentality that you cannot spend on a man. I got maligned for my comments with BVs saying why should a woman spend money on a man. I as a man, still stand by the notion that couples should spend money on each other depending on the necessity that arises.


You see, for someone who lives in both the abroad and Nigeria, I have always wondered why when you want to start a relationship with a Nigerian lady, there’s this notion that you have to pick up the tab every time you are out, of buy phone credit and basically being a bank. Don’t get me wrong, I do enjoy picking up the tab and I have never had a problem with that, but I will never forget the first time I went on a date with a white girl and after having dinner, I went to the toilet only to come back and the bill has been paid.

 You can imagine my shock and gasped and respect that I was with someone who doesn’t feel entitled to me paying the bills. This singular act set the tone for our relationship with respect and decency. Now I’m not disputing chivalry or anything like that, but for women to say I can’t give a man money, my father didn’t send me to school to give a man money bla bla bla.. But it is okay for a man to give you money, right? 

 Now don’t get me wrong I’m not talking about gigolo boys’ kind of giving money or giving money to a guy to further a depraved lifestyle. I’m talking about the notion that some women think it’s a crime to give a man money when if given the circumstance the man would give. Many chronicles start with “ooh it doesn’t give me money” like it’s a duty for him to give you money. It is not ladies. It’s a third world mentality that is holding the country back. The modern woman doesn’t need to be given money. 

 Why do you think most black celebrities are gearing towards white women? I recently sat at a nice hotel’s balcony bar in the South South and got into a conversation with a few friends on why I think we need to start teaching our girls feminism from a young age because our society has trained our women to depend on men.

 I told my friends to look at the crowd around us and ones coming in and noticed something… Most girls who came in were in company of men. You see a few beautiful girls having a great time and, in most cases, have to be in company of men who are more than likely picking up the tabs. Imagine if women were coming out on their own account, how much more our economy would be energized. 

 Women are the bane of our society. Stronger than men could ever imagine. It’s time to give up the mentality that men must be the sole providers. It suits men in the long run for women to depend on them. Because the first step of disrespect is when you are overly financial dependent on someone else.

So please BVs am I wrong in my thinking? Am I too liberal? Please convince me and a lot of men out there…

*Mr Makoko i agree with your mindset 100 percent...I am one of those people who hates depending on a man for anything...if i am not given,i try to make my own music.

Those who wanna agree with you are free to do so....