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TO RETURN HOME OR STAY

Hi Stella, please help me to post this so as to get meaningful advice from bvs bc I am very confused at the moment. 

Pardon my lengthy write -up. 

I met my husband in 2011 at my working place. I was a receptionist at a hotel in enugu .He asked me out several times but I refused because of the nature of the job. (people tend to stereotype girls that work in hotels so I was very skeptical of anyone I met within that environment).

 My husband tried everything possible for me to see him as someone that meant well.He frequented the town for business and lodged at ours during those times. After about a year and three months of constant persuasion, I accepted his proposal. 

You see, I was a very brilliant girl while growing up but life hasn't been fair to my family so I couldn't continue my education. My husband made me stop work because he said he doesn't want any stigma when he introduces me to anyone . 

He became my pillar and paid all my bills and sometimes extended his generosity to my siblings. I started taking exams for me to enter the University. True to his words, he supplied everything i needed. Money for all the exams and saw to my welfare during those times i stopped working. I later got admission into the higher institution and hubby saw to it that I lacked nothing. 

From accommodation to school fees to food,clothing and the rest. He even wanted to buy me a car then in school but my mom kicked against that. I was that girl everybody envied in school. 

Now there was a problem, hubby is into a family business. you guys know how it normally goes in things like this.Everybody spending extravagantly. Afterall, it is nobody's sole business. I was against that and told him to settle his brothers so that he can stand on his own alone. This will enable him manage his capital more, spend money more cautiously and make better business decisions but he was non chalant about it. 

Mind you our relationship was on/off through out the time we dated but he never stopped taking care of me though. We might quarrel over little things and I will give him some space and only call him if I needed something. I was a virgin so he never cared about the space thingy. 

Last year he decided it was time to get married and we did.

During the preparations for our wedding, I still asked him about his plans for the business and he said he will do that after we got married.Unknowingly to me,my husband is in huge debt. 

I became pregnant after our wedding. It was then I started noticing things. He never wanted to tell me but I became suspicious because he now thinks a lot and stopped spending as he used to. I confronted him and he told me the shocking news.He is in huge debt spanning into tens of millions and it had affected the business greatly. It happened during our space giving thing. 

He is the breadwinner of his family and to me they are not bothered about the situation. After all they stay in their own house (family house) and have money saved up for rainy days like this. 

Now to the point of this chronicles., I don't sleep and eat well any more, I am five months gone.I cry most times while my hubby is away at work and now think a lot. My husband is trying all he can to make me happy but I am very scared for my future and that of my baby. What if things don't bounce back to normal? I just came out of school last year and I have tried to search for a job all to no avail. 

My younger brother visited me and told my mom about our predicament. My mom was furious with my hubby;why he didn't let me know about all this stuff since.According to her, we would have postponed our marriage plans he is back on his feet or, I would have put child bearing on hold for now. 

 Now to the reason why I am confused, my mom asked me to come back home for now for her to take care of me. She is scared of loosing me seeing that I am pregnant and troubled at the same time. Not like she is saying that I should leave my husband entirely but to come home and sit it out while my husband takes care of his issues. I am confused. My hubby said I shouldn't go that he don't want to be alone and moreover it might get people talking.

I don't want to hurt someone that have been there for me. I love him dearly for me to hurt him. My mom insists I come home bc of my condition and the fact that I can't take care of myself right now. I am very fragile right now. What do you suggest I do. Please pardon any typos.

*Hmmmmmm...Why cant your mum com and visit you and stay for a while?

Madam you better stop worrying and take each day as it comes oh...High blood pressure in pregnancy always ends up very bad.

Sto worrying and let your hubby deal with the situation.!