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ANGRY SAD AND CONFUSED



Good day Stella


I have been meaning to write you for a while now but I deep telling myself that I can overcome some issues without involving the public, but right now I think it's high time I seeked your opinion and BVs'.


I am in a relationship with a man whom I don't know whether to call a blessing or otherwise. We started dating 4years ago and we decided to tie the knot this year. We have had and still having what most people will call normal relationship issue and the latest one is what I will like to talk about. 

His family members are no strangers to mine, in fact if you see me talking to his mum you would think she is my paddy if not for the age difference, I talk to her without censoring my speech whatsoever and she doesn't discourage it at all to the best of my knowledge I believe his mum loves me just like my mum loves him, he talks to my mum too the way he deem fit and we all see no wrong in it, his siblings are like besties to me.

 I got my present job through his mum, he isn't in Nigeria presently, he helped my sister into the country that he is and also helped my friend too when I asked him to, they are all doing fine, he stays in the same apartment with my sister and this is where trouble started....

There was a time I cheated on him(something happened and I got angry), he came back to the country and I told him, he got so angry that he hit me severally but we later settled and forgave each other, when he went back to the country he met his ex and he cheated with her, note that his ex stays in naija he claimed that she travelled to get some stuff and they met and I didn't know all these till he came back and claimed that he cheated on me with a random girl and that he is so disappointed in himself, he begged for forgiveness and I forgave him he never mentioned that the lady was his ex until I got to find out last year that he fathered a child with the lady in December...

 I used to sleep over at his mummy's place Even when he wasn't around so I guess his mum found out and decided to codely tell me by saying that somebody told her that she has something outside that she needs to go and claim it, I later confirmed from his sister, to say I was heart broken was putting it mild I chatted and confronted him about it at first he wanted to deny until I told him to be truthful because I have almost never lied to him no matter how ugly the truth is, then he admitted and said he didn't know she was pregnant that he blocked her when I requested that he did then only for the lady's family to start calling him late last year that he impregnated their daughter and ran away, he isn't back yet, he said when he comes around he will request for DNA if the child is his he will take care of her.



I broke up with him and told him I didn't want to have anything to do with him ever again, I decided to take my time and look for the right man, during this period he kept messaging and calling that I had to block him on WhatsApp he called me one day and told me to be calm that I should listen to him and not take hasty decision that I will regret(trying to refer to the last time I cheated) I got mad and told myself that he still had the effrontery to dictate to me what to do after all this, so I decided to date a guy that was asking me out then, after all I have broken up with Tunde I can do whatever the hell I want. 

So I started dating the guy and I told Tunde to move on as I have moved on too and I don't want a baby mama drama, he still kept calling but I stopped picking so he resorted to calling my mum, all this while I didn't tell my mum anything because I didn't want to break her heart, so she was always abusing and scolding me that I have someone who loves me and my entire family yet I'm doing rubbish. My sister is in a relationship with his cousin thanks to his mum who engineered it because she loves my sister and decided to match make her with the cousin, and they are very much in love. 

The cousin(let's call him Segun) is in the country too, so they decided to rent an apartment together then rent part of it out to people, that's how Segun sent for my sister and his brother to come and start staying with them and to also look for work there, my sister started observing that Tunde cooks and eat with a female occupant in that house and that Tunde promised to help them in job search but he didn't, so one day I was chatting with her about the work situation only for her to tell me all that's is happening in the house, how Tunde stopped eating with them and started eating and doing everything with the lady(she is married and her husband is in that country too but doesn't stay with them) and how he didn't help them with the job search except when they just came and all, and how Tunde's mum told her to go back to her previous employer after everyone already told her to tell them that she won't be working with them again they should get someone else, so she said which mouth will she use to call her boss and tell them that after how over 2 months, I told her to keep calm that she will get a job and she should leave Tunde and his mum and continue searching.

 I told her to delete our conversation but she forgot, this was before I blocked Tunde, so I updated my status saying if your man knows how to take care of married women, married men are plenty also looking for unmarried girls to look after, the status struck him so he asked for my sister's phone and checked our messages he saw everything and hell was let loose, he thought I told her that he had a baby so he told her everything with his mouth claiming that I pushed him to it by cheating on him and bringing STD along. 

My sister was shocked and asked me if it was true I told her yes, but there was no STD as doctor confirmed it. Since then my sister and him stopped talking and I broke up with him and started dating someone else.
I still maintained my relationship with his mum as she is my boss at work but I stopped visiting her, when he realised that I wasn't going to change my mind he doubled the calls he put through to my mum yet I didn't bulge I already have someone and I won't let his present condition discourage me after all Tunde had nothing before we met but now he has two land that he has started construction on, if I can do it with Tunde I can do it with Yemi(let's call the new guy yemi).

my mum won't stop ranting about the situation of things with Tunde I didn't tell her anything other than God knows best and I continued going out with yemi, I didn't used to go out on weekend before, since Tunde wasn't around but now that I started dating yemi I started going out with him and so weekend(Sunday) became a outing day for me I go to my mum's shop on Saturdays. one day my mum overhead my two sisters talking about Tunde and me that's how she made them telling her everything and she started crying, she didn't tell me she heard anything but I realised that her anger towards me reduced and she no longer abused me like before....

 I later got to find out one day that she now knows the situation of things, Tunde reduced the way he called her maybe she gave him attitude and he started calling me frequently again even when I'm with Yemi, I still liked him though but I couldn't get over what happened plus yemi was everything I wanted except that he isn't boxed up but I know and believe that will change with time and hard work.Tunde would call with strange number reminding me of how we started and the good memories we shared, how he endured a lot of humiliation from my friends and my then ex that he didn't have money, how I stuck with him and now that his story is about to change I want to go and start over with someone else, 

he said he doesn't mind calling my mum to confess that I should just forgive him and we should get back to together, he was always crying on phone falling sick and all, he didn't stop calling my mum and she was forced to ask me to forgive him if I can. I was confused I didn't know whether to go back to Tunde and stick with Yemi whom I don't know if he has an ex around the corner waiting to get pregnant too, Tunde later arranged for me to travel to his place with his Mum, to see if I still want to be with him, it was a two weeks vacation of which we fought for a week and decided we couldn't live without each other the second week, I met the married girl Tunde was said to be eating and cooking with and truly they were doing most things together and I find it odd the first week but later got to like her because she seemed nice, she took me on outting when Tunde goes out to work...

well I complained about some of the things he does with her and the other girls and he adjusted almost immediately, we were open with our love in the presence of everyone as he complained bitterly about how I look at him with disgust every time and I don't jump over him like I used to. I changed as well but I was still sad at the lack of affection between him and my sister his cousin doesnt stay with them anymore as he got accommodation with his company, even when he came to greet us Tunde didn't allow me offer him food due to the grudge they had.

One day I and my sister went out and we started gisting which led to other conversations and we spoke about Tunde and his baby mama, I learnt some other things from her and I was heart broken again, she told me that Tunde is a pretender and liar and many other things I promised I won't tell him but when I got back to naija I couldn't stop thinking about it so I confronted and it became a big fight that he confronted his cousin and my sister that Tunde told my sis to leave the house but his cousin said no because they got the apartment together, so Tunde said if they don't leave he will leave and get a house on his own and become a tenant somewhere else where no one knows him. 

Finally everyone of them agreed to leave the house, Tunde told me he has seen a place and the other tenant that are close to him can move there with him while those his cousin brought can find somewhere else to stay with my sis, note that he said he was going solo that he didn't want to leave with anyone again he just want to go and rent a house where none of his former occupant will be, only for him to change it that he be leaving for another apartment with the girls, now my sis pinged me that Tunde isn't planning to leave the house he only wants to chase her out as he has already started bringing people to come and check ,she sent me a VN, sent buy one of the tenant that Segun his cousin brought to the house, the lady claimed that Tunde asked her if she will like to still stay in the house that he isn't leaving again my even though my sis planned to leave next week that's why she Messaged the lady to reminded her. I Would have confronted him again but I'm tired of all this back and forth, we have started wedding plans already as we pick picked a date but I haven't told people yet except for 3 of my friends, he has been complaining that I'm not enthusiastic about the whole thing and I told him its because the date is still far even though its this year...

Deep down inside me I'm sad, my sis said everyone in the house started avoiding her like plague since the incident, they see her as a bad person and mock her any chance they get. I'm confused so sorry for this epistle had to cut somethings out please forgive the typos as I am not at peace at all.
Thanks

*Let your sister move out abeg.......Let her also stop petty gossiping with you ah ah!!!...And you too stop being confused and grow up..

since he loves you so much and cannot do without you,then make him settle with his cousin and your sister...there is too much bad blood going round and you cannot marry like this........