STAND ALONE NARRATIVE
CONFUSED NEW WIFE
Hi Stella.
I really need advice on what to do. I am very much confused on what to do.
In February a guy sent me a friend request on Facebook l knew him to be my uncle's brother in law( ie his wife's brother) we started chatting and he told me he liked me and would like to even marry me but then we agreed that we were going to date each other for a couple of months to get to know each other better.
But after a week he came from his base to see me for the first time we met at a fast food restaurant. He was a complete talk active he kept talking and talking and this is one thing that puts me off about a person. I was quiet all through he kept talking and saying a lot of things. I was pissed off by his actions and when got home that very day l told my mum that l don't like this guy.
After our first meeting he had started calling my uncle to tell him he liked me and wants to marry me, immediately my uncle convinced my mum and every other member of the family that the guy was a good man.
They started convincing me that with time that the love will grow. And it will blossom. I agreed to marry him even though my mind was telling me not to.
Then a date was fixed for him to come and pay my bride price which was on the 21st of April. Our second meeting was 2 weeks before the 21st we went for a medical test.
After our first meeting he had started calling my uncle to tell him he liked me and wants to marry me, immediately my uncle convinced my mum and every other member of the family that the guy was a good man.
They started convincing me that with time that the love will grow. And it will blossom. I agreed to marry him even though my mind was telling me not to.
Then a date was fixed for him to come and pay my bride price which was on the 21st of April. Our second meeting was 2 weeks before the 21st we went for a medical test.
He kept talking as usual and l was silent all through l didn't feel comfortable around him.
When l got back home l told my family that after seeing this guy my spirit went cold. They were telling me that its because we didn't know each other before now and that with time that when start living together that l will start loving him.
After the bride price was paid l travelled with him to his base. I was supposed to say at least a week or two but l came back home after two days because l wasnt happy being with him. There was no form of attraction.
Then we did it. And that the worst if it all l wasnt feeling it at all and to make matters worst he comes after 3 or 5 minutes and am left out there frustrated.
When l got angry and complained he said it was because he had not done it in a long time ( about a year now) he promised it was going to get better the second time ..
we did it again he kept fingering me for along time and the when he was inside me it was still a five minutes thing. I was left frustrated a second time.
The third time was even worse than the others. I had to leave immediately.
The third time was even worse than the others. I had to leave immediately.
When l came back i told my parents that l don't love this guy and they are thinking about what people would say and the dent it will bring to me.
And so they insist that l go back and continue to live with him. Up to this moment l don't feel anything for him but am scared to leave because everyone knows that l got married some people are even still sending their congratulations text. I fear that after l leave him l might not find another man cause he is a really good and decent guy.
He promised to do anything l want if l stay with him .I Am totally confused. I Am also scared that l might not be happy if l marry him eventually.
Please l need advice on what to do
Thank you. Please no insult. Just words of advice.
And so they insist that l go back and continue to live with him. Up to this moment l don't feel anything for him but am scared to leave because everyone knows that l got married some people are even still sending their congratulations text. I fear that after l leave him l might not find another man cause he is a really good and decent guy.
He promised to do anything l want if l stay with him .I Am totally confused. I Am also scared that l might not be happy if l marry him eventually.
Please l need advice on what to do
Thank you. Please no insult. Just words of advice.
*Marry him eventually?Are you not already married?...My dear it is still new and you said he is a good and decent man right?Relax your mind and give it a chance to grow....There are other things that keep a marriage alive and not just the other room stuff OK?I have heard of people who had the best Chemistry but still divorced....
Since he is willing to change or learn in that aspect,then also try to work with him to find a solution...Please relax,you seem to be one foot inside,one foot outside from the beginning.
Good luck.
Please those cussers should try not to insult her or i might not enable your comments...
Please how old are you? In 2018, you allowed other people decide for you? Anyway, you’d be fine big sister Stella said we shouldn’t insult you.
ReplyDeleteSo congratulations on your wedding, in nine months time the ‘people’ whom you married him with would come and eat rice.
Bia stella i donk understand dis ur advice todayooo. Forever is such a long time...its better to return the bride price now. Notn has spoilt now...
DeleteMaybe she sent Stella her picture. Maybe she anyhow whorwhor so the advice is in line with her chances for marriage
DeletePoster was ur bride price paid or just intro? If ur bride price was paid u don marry already nau abi which oda marriage u wan turn down. Anyways I refuse 2 understand y ull allow people 2 dictate n choose a partner 4 u when ure d one 2 live with him 4 d rest of ur life. My dear ure in already n yes its damn too early 2 b divorced. Gv it time please n see if ur folks turn out right. If its still dsame then step out becos with d way ure going ull either cheat on him or frustrate his every effort to love u whc might result to domestic violence. We ve seen n read so much.
DeleteI personally cnt stand a 1min man.
Poster if you are afraid of BVs why send your chronicle? You can't control how BVs will answer you, and to get the best advice just let them be and sift for yourself. I guess you know that you acted like you have a fish brain and don't want to be told ba? Anyway Stella say make we nor insalt you so I will insugar you. Baby girl why did you go ahead to have a tradi with a man you do not love? You want to leave now but you no gather liver. Make your choice, but either way don't blame your family or relatives, just take responsibility for your decision. If you stay you can try to with his cooperation, seek help and work on his bedroom skills and talkativeness. Perhaps he is sanguine. You said he is decent and good, isn't that what matters most? You two may thrive better with a good counsellor and patience. Arranged marriages work you know. If you decide to leave, it is your choice, you may find your dream man, you may not, but after that don't regret your decision when you see someone else enjoying what you rejected. Take am easy and act fast or forever hold your peace.
DeleteWho does that? Now she is miserable and all those who hounded her into marrying the guy are in their various houses. You made your bed post. Please relax as in spread your self on it.
DeleteThere are stuffs out there he can use to improve in the other room. Ask JAARUMA Stella's paddy
DeleteTessbaby there’s nothing like a one minute man, it is sexual incompatibility. I thought I was one until I met a Calabar girl that I fucked all through the night. I nearly killed the babe with fuck. Her touch was like electric and I got rock solid hard at the slightest touch. Truth is, sexually incompatible people are ending up together.
DeleteMarriage is not the ultimate...says ladies.
ReplyDelete100% of chronicles from ladies is about marriage ish....wetin I know sef
Madam u don do the mistake already.i have a feeling that you are the 1 who is not giving the love a chance.i was almost in ur shoes months bak and i understand how u feel.you also sound like a fault finder(work on that)..my advice is for u to open ur mind and love this man.you guys should do fun things togeda like hanging out alot,night date,swimming etc b4 u know it,you will fall totally inlove with him..
DeleteStory of my life. God in heaven! Poster, i would have been in this exact shoes of yours now. It took alot of courage for me to break it off against all odds. See my dear, traditional divorce is the easiest; tell ur parents to simply return the bride price or usually they hold on till another suitor pays and they return ur exes own from it.
DeleteRUN NOW. RUN NOW.
God forbid i endure no chemistry, no satisfying conversation, no satisfying sex kwa?! Nne biko... My experience was that immediately it was broken off and my heart was free and i promised myself life wasnt all about marriage, i met my husband that same month!
Dont be afraid. There is aman made just for you out there. Don't manage o. Brace up and take ur happiness in your hands.
What if you carry on and just after the court or white wedding you meet your Mr Ideal?
Poster you are not married to a pornstar. How Do you expect a man to go that far at a go.
ReplyDeleteThe only problem I see here is the fact dt he talks too much. You can talk to him about dt. After all you said he is a really nice guy.
That part got me thinking. A mwn pounds you for 5 minutes and its not enough? You want him to have muscle pulland stroke because he must last 2 hours ontop of you? You try wella.
DeleteBetter end it now before you say you are staying for the kids, then you will end up living a frustrated life
DeleteNa WA. That confusing thing from parents.
ReplyDeleteAt the end of the day everything boils down to you. Your parents are not the one that will be happy in the marriage but you.
Do what makes you happy my dear
What exactly is the problem?
ReplyDelete3 mins kpakpa , lack of chemistry or his running mouth?
Happy married life.
All of the above n more to come.
DeletePoster, be selfish and do this for yourself. You are all that matters, the most important human being on planet earth. Do this for you and walk away.
DeleteTake it from one who's been there. The guy, your parents, your inlaws, ppl sending you congratulatory messages... non is worth it. You will be back with more chronicles if you dont brace up and judge yourself deserving of better.
Bride price paid = Marriage
ReplyDeleteVJ opened = consummation
Hope my matrimony 101 lecture is sinking?
Returning bride price is no biggie. Infact, my experience was that it opens doors for better suitors. When she is ready, the ex's bride price will be removed from the eventual groom's and it is settled.
DeletePoster, no gree o.
Sex is not my problem,I mean do Nigerian men even know what sex is apart from jumping untop, releasing for a few seconds and climbing down? My own issue is people are who talk too much. I CANNOT STAND THEM. Mouth with no padlock. As they are bringing gist to you, they are taking your own gist across borders.
ReplyDeleteNne, you are a married woman now, open up your heart and try to love him. You would be surprised. Congratulations on your marriage
ReplyDeleteWhen marriage is mentioned, the feminine brain stops working.
ReplyDeleteThis marriage must work, you entered into it with two wide eyes open.
That guy hasn't committed a foul, he played well. . . and and and it's it's a a go ........!
OMG don't listen to Stella. Return bride price and runnnnn. Don't marry him. You don't like him at all
ReplyDeleteAbeg mk una enlighten me sml. Is bride price not equal marriage?
DeleteIt's not in this case abeg. She has not done all the necessary things. No court . Runnnnn. Even if u gave married, still run
DeleteHe is not your type, yet you married him,
DeleteHe is not your type, yet you allowed him knack you three times.
My dear, you are married, try and make it work, remove the idea of a telemondo kind of romance /Marriage from your head.
When I met my husband, his joystick felt small to me, it’s been 4years now and it somehow feels just right! This whole thing takes some getting used to. Pls give him a chance, open ur mind and try not to be already irritated by him. God will see you thru. Some ppl fall in love at first sight, some grow to love. Good luck 🍀
ReplyDeleteAha, they don jump into marriage again, no courtship?
ReplyDeleteWhy so ambivalent? You both agreed to date first and now marriage is on board after the second meet.
ReplyDeleteWe are only observers and it the end it’s up to you to decide what you want from life/ marriage/etcetera.
Marry because you want to and not because of others.
If bedroom is d only problem, buy dildo, sex toys etc. Give him hand job after he comes d first time then try getting him up again , maybe 30 mins average. The second round is always longer. There are also anaesthesia sprays that reduce sensation and make a man last longer.
ReplyDeleteMy dear, u have found d perfect husband. Show him love and respect and watch him love u with his life. Good luck. I hope he is rich though cos u can't be making cuts for a poor dude.
You just had to spoil a fairly good advice with the usual 'usual' rich nonsense.
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Poster,put your mind in the marriage/relationship, be open to his love, speak to him more about what you want him to change, try and see the good in him. Don't give up on him. You will surely smile.
ReplyDeleteHello poster,how are you,be fine okay? Now to the ish...the o ku reason why I am commenting is because I have been in your kind of situation b4,baby girl,relax 🙂 you just might have found the best man for your self. Now...ask your self this questions,is he God fearing? Not the fake God fearing guys o,lol,if he is,my darling calm down.let me give u a lil gist b4 I go on.
DeleteWhen I met my husband,I didn’t like him,in fact,I have never seen my self marry someone like him..hian 😃 see...he didn’t know how to dress,he now looks thin again 😂 chai,I hated the whole thing and I kept asking me wat kind of nonesense I had gotten my self into.i tried to explain to my parents that I didn’t like this dude and we weren’t clicking o,my mum insisted he was a very nice man and he is good for me.oh and yh,our sex life 😪smh I didn’t want to talk about it 😃😃😃 just like u said,he was a 5min man o chai...I was like lai lai! I can’t deal!! Haba,how can a man be doing like ogonor untop of me.i cried in my closet,prayed sef to God to help me change my parents mind 😃😃 I didn’t know it was the best decision I was going to ever make 🙂to cut the whole story short,am really glad I married my husband because I have Peace!! And my family is the sweetest place I know now 🙂 so darl,take a chill pill,btw...my husband is fat now o😃😃 I have fed him well! And d dressing,ah,I dress him by my self and trust me,he always looks good.so back to you.take a chill pill,you r married now,and remember,Love is a conscious effort.put ur mind to it,don’t put his bad parts alone in ur heart because that alone will not let u see the good side of him.why not join in on d convo wen he’s talking and wen u feel he’s beginning to talk too much on the particular thing he is saying,change the topic in a sweet way,see en,most men with big dicks and that r very good in bed feel like they r d boss and it always make them feel like...am kuku good,make I nack this girl she no go for let go.lol...am not saying there r no decent big dick men o 😃😃 b4 they coman eat me raw here.lol. Baby girl,relax,open ur heart and see the good part of him and trust me,you’ll enjoy ur marriage well.there r no much good men out there so if u find one,hold on to it.pray together,eat together,ply together and you’ll be fine in no time.as for the sex thingy,teach him biko.give him head!! Be his bitch!! He cannot kuku Do well for now,he will worship you! 😁 you’ll be fine,open your heart!! No go use your hand push better man go o.
Anon 16:57 ❤️❤️❤️❤️...i love ur comment
DeleteI am not married o but I will say this is the best comment so far. Poster come and read this one. You can kindly tell him about the side of him that you don't like. He will change before you know it .
DeleteWhats with the preferential treatment sdk?
ReplyDeleteAfter bride price has been paid you are still typing when you marry eventually. Eeyah,you are indeed confused.
According to your post,he's nice and decent. What decent man talks like a parrot? You'v got to be kidding. So long he isnt beating you or cheating. Stay put.
My dear the fact that she doesn't love him is a big disqualification. Domestic violence can be both ways.
DeleteDuring my wedding counseling (RCCG) they where hammering on love. Babe instead of mortgaging your happiness, flee!! To hell with even your parents. Yes you are married but you can as well tell your parents to return his money. You deserve to be happy!
Forget RCCG,they know nothing about marriages,many people have married without Love and ended up loving, what most people call Love is actually LUST. People fornicating will still think they are in Love.Marriage works for people who are godly and have a good heart.
DeleteThis is not Fan, this is an imposter.
Deletesince you are married now and didn't back out earlier, I will suggest you share your feelings with him about him talking too much and his poor bedroom performance since you said he is ready to adjust to meet your needs. don't expect perfection from him because you too aren't perfect.
ReplyDeleteO girl, you are lucky. Your own dey reach 5 mins. My own is too minutes but luckily for me o really don't like sex if not I for don send am to go look for help.
ReplyDeleteSince that's your only problem,contact a good sex therapist so you both will be well educated on how to really please each other henceforth.be patient.it will pay off...
ReplyDeleteYou started talking to someone in February, and you're already married to the person? Nawa o, even when you didn't like him after actually meeting him in person.
ReplyDeleteNo wonder so many chronicles are sent in to this blog, people ignore all the signs and dive into marriage because of outside pressure. Those pressuring you aren't the ones that will suffer, it's just you.
Dating for hundred years doesn't guarantee Success in Marriage.She will eventually be happy,her problem is she has not been dumped by several evil men that's why she is sneering at a good man,if she should loose this guy she go know why MFM dey get crowd.
DeleteThis is what you get when you let the whole world make decision for you.
ReplyDeleteYou make everyone happy but you're not happy. I don't have advice here.
Madam it seems to me you have another person in mind before this marriage stuff. Please teach your husband on how and where to touch you,to enable you to cum on time. He even stays five minutes. The marriage must work ooo also teach him on how to briddle his mouth and things that puts you off. Congratulations. Stella says we should be nice to you.
ReplyDeleteHow do we teach a grown add man how to briddle his tongue??
DeleteThis Chronicle is coming in way too late. A lot of water & spermatozoa have passed under the bridge. Unless you want to hire BVs to carry Placards & Palm fronds to protest in front of your village compound...
ReplyDeleteYou've got no option for now, other than to carry "For Better, For Worse" as your own Cross...
My hubby can be on top for 30mins and when he's done you won't get yourself again even to use ordinary water wash there na serious pain it will be like pouring salt on fresh injury
ReplyDeleteWhy pound your jajaina like fufu? Salt on fresh wound? No foreplay? Hian!
DeleteEwo ohhhhhhh
DeleteMadam sorry I'm laughing 30 minutes doing what exactly?
It is well with your vagina ohhhh
Hahaha. Hubby was like this too n i spoke to him about It. Now I enjoy myself. I think some women have soft v tissue. Wc result in the pain. N also sperm allergy. Bc when we were dating, we made sure sperm don't touch me. But after marriage, same s*x became painful. I Google n saw sperm allergy. One of the natural remedy was to continue doing the baby dance more frequently so the v get use to the sperm. N less hard chop (dance gentle) Use olive oil as a natural lube during s*x. Today i feel no pain after s*x n i can even rinse with water immediately. I also got treated for infection . The frustration was on another level. Pele. Try this n thank me later
DeleteMy dear relax your mind. Most Times when people complain like this it's because they are comparing with someone else they've been with. My husband and I got married in 2012 and traveled to my base(abroad) to go for for him. It took 1year 9months for him to join me and when he came, the sex was less than 3mins and he would come. I was frustrated and started building ideas in my head that he had been cheating while we were apart. I expressed my dissatisfaction and he told me he will work on it. It did not turn around in 1 day, it took time. We spent more time on foreplay and when he feels like he will come soon he tells me and we stop and fondle more before we continue. Today I would not have asked for someone better than him cos he is the best husband and father. Communication is the key. You guys should talk often, express your concerns. Love grows with time. I wish you all the best.
ReplyDeleteIs he rich?
ReplyDeleteIt's seems the poster was sexually active or has sexually expectations otherwise you will enjoy, get use to it and improve with time. On the chemistry, well determine to work on it and he talks too much probably cos he is excited to have u. Try and work it out but if it's not working then u can call it quit. Or do u have someone else.
ReplyDeletePoster,,I will advice you open up your heart to love !! Marriage is not all about the other room,look beyond his flaws and stop dwelling on his errors,remember you build marriage and u can't get all u want.As far as your hub is a good man and his ready to make amends so what else do u want..mold him to whom you want him to be,correct him where necessary,help him with his sex life ,make him reduce how he talks.try all this and see if it will work,but if it did not please quit!! Marriage is a very long journey.
ReplyDeleteToo much experience before marriage can lead to comparisons and dissatisfaction. I'm fifty, got married at 25 and till today I have never seen any other man's thing not to talk of having a basis for comparing my hubby as if it's a contest. Marriage is not sex only. Lasting marriage must have love. If you don't love him, leave him and if bride price is the issue, are you allowed to refund it on your own? Folks here talking as if sexual experience is compulsory are misleading young girls.
ReplyDeleteIf you follow your moral compass even if you are not a born again Christian, you won't know what Kunle, Kennena, Hasan, Ali, Femi, Ayodele, ola etc' P looks or feels like and you won't keep comparing your man. Women close your legs. Your body is precious and never marry anyone you don't love or you are not attracted to. It won't work
You are right on the abstaining till marriage but I know loads of elderly women who never loved their husband when they married but they grew to love him,it's a decision,as long as the person is a good, considerate etc person then the marriage will work. LOVE A WICKED PERSON AND YOU WILL REGRET GETTING MARRIED. Godly people are always filled with love,it's you are a godly person you will find out it is so easy to love people except they are too difficult or a kill joy.
DeleteI agree with everything up there except comparisons. No where did the poster mentioned her sexual experience before(except if I didn't read well).. You can abstain all you want but a 3min man is a 3min man. Even without experience or comparisons, deep down you know when something is wrong.
DeleteAnon21:50 if you have nothing to compare to you will never be bothered,statistics show people who abstain before marriage have longer lasting marriage,if you have never seen a car you would never know what it feel like to ride,so quit sleeping around because it destroys You without you knowing. I was a virgin before I married and 2 Men I never knew from Adam talked to me for a few min and told me I was a virgin ,I asked how they knew and they said immorality shows except one isn't observant enough.
DeleteHoney that line is their line. I get that one all the time and a virgin..I am not! Men can sniff desperation yes but they are the worst judges of character in women. If they were any good, why would they be marrying these very loose girls who trick them into believing they are/were not. Leave that side biko.
DeleteSo let me get this straight... U went on one date and married the guy..... Dem swear fot you? Who does that? Abegi.... U married someone u fely nothing for and you want advice for what exactly? Mchew
ReplyDeleteLol I didn’t even go on a date before I married my husband. We had fixed the date of traditional wedding before we met, and today we happily married. Although he doesn’t last 30 minutes in bed but I don’t really give a hoot about sex. He tries his best to be honest and there are other things to marriage.
DeletePoster if you don’t like this guy, I said LIKE, please return the bride price now.
Why don't you open up your heart to love this guy. Give him a chance BC good guys are really scarce these days. Start praying about it and try to see his positive aspects more than his negative sides.
ReplyDeleteDont mind her,What if the guy she ends up loving doesn't love her.
DeleteLooks like d sex is what is d problem, forget that long story of love, if he had tied ur legs to d bed post n pound shege from ur body, you would've fallen in love, pls burantashi suppliers, contact her.
ReplyDelete**in Dame Pattie's voice'.. Chaaaiiiiiii.. There's God o.
DeleteTie to bed post?? Na wrapper you dey spread??😁😁😁
My dear I had a similar experience in that i didn't love my husband at first. We dated for a while and I discovered that he had 70% of what i wanted in a man. I also discovered that he has a teachable heart and would go to any length to make me happy.I advised myself that he's the one for me, the 30% he didn't have I prayed about it and also had a talk with him
ReplyDeletethe first day i had sex with him was after marriage and i was kind of frustrated. later i discovered he started reading books on sex and love making. 5yrs down the line I do not have any regrets at all.My love for him keeps increasing by the day. Please have a heart to heart talk with him, I believe he would listen to you and note that the change might take some time.
Chai you just described my husband and I. He’s open to learning. He will always ask me to help him, teach me baby I’m teachable. I
DeleteGod Bless You jare,correct woman.
DeleteYou are hailing her for being a correct woman. Can't you see she married a correct man who can go any length to please her and has a teachable spirit? Some men have ego problem and refuse to learn to become better, they feel they know it all and the woman must conform. If both husband and wife cannot work on their marriage, then it won't work.
DeleteHahahahahahahahahahheeehehehehehehehehehehlolololololololokokojojojojojokokokohehehehahahahah I couldn’t hold the laugh back,blackberry,abeg no kill me hahahahahah
ReplyDeletePoster......I must tell you the truth, if it's assually 5min, then there don't seem to be a problem. Go and ask people that are married to 1min men then you will know you don't have a problem. Maybe you want someone that will be grinding you for 30min....
ReplyDeleteThe only thing you need to work on is the chemistry between you two since you are traditionally married to him. Since he talk much then try to make him tell you interesting things. For example, bring up topics you want him to talk on. If you are not talking and he is not talking, the home will be boring.....please, start talking by discussing what you watch on TV or a programme you listen to on radio....inugo
You will be fine dear and try to enjoy your marriage.
I'm surprised that you allowed people's opinions and decisions to define what you want and determine your happiness. You should have delayed the proposal and give room for courtship.
ReplyDeleteBut since bride price had been paid and your family doesn't want shame if you return home. Then,apply option B which is to try and overlook his weakness and also teach him since he's willing to learn. But you looooooong patience. Also, pray. Don't underestimate the power of prayer for God to open your heart to love him.
Poster if the problem is sex oh just make kunun aya for him, your sex life will not remain the same again.
ReplyDeleteI am stalk in the same situation as you, but in my case sex is not the problem because i am not a sex freak.let me share my story because i need advise as well.
ReplyDeleteI met this young man june 2015 on my visit to my place, we got talking and he said he wanted to get married to me, i was going thtough a lot at that time(no job, no money). I was frustrated. So i accepted to marry him and we had the introduction in february 2016. I was not attracted to this young man because he is not my spec. He is short, he is not a graduate and also based in the east.immediately after the introduction i realised i had made a mistake and i called the guy to tell him i was no longer interested but this guy threatened fire and brimstone.he said he loves and he is ready to wait till eternity until i accept and he would not marry another except me. I called my dad and told to return the things the guy brought for introduction but he refused saying it is between myself and the to resolve that he does not want to get involve and if those things are not returned d lady is still tied to the man. This guy kept pressurizing me, thteatening me, until i succumb and married him in february 2018.barely a month after the trad i ran out of his house to my sister's house because i could not stand him and everything he does seems to annoy me.he is good guy to an extent. But i can stand his bad english, his dress sense, his approach to thing, we have different ideology about life, he barely talks hence no communication, his illiteracy, his height, his igbotic mentality and also moving from my base to his base which is more like a village. We are currently separated and both families are still talking about the issue. I pray for God's direction because i realy don't know wat to do
You Open ya Eyes korokoro your people collected bride-price, My dear Endue seems you said is a decent and good man to find this quality in a man these days is not easy,5minutes is not bad nah. Please Sit down there work out your marriage...
ReplyDeleteI always tell single women around me to marry men who love them more,a man who loves you would do anything to make you happy.Please,stop seeing faults in all he does.Talk to him and correct him when he starts talking,go out on dates and get to know each other more.Open your heart and see his good side.If you can't cope,go back home and return bride price.Everybody will be alright at the end of the day.
ReplyDeleteThe problem wit gal now is too much sex. U want a man DAT will live forever in ur pussy,na food. Abeg, go marry am. Am sure na Igbo u be, they done chop the man too much.
ReplyDeleteOMG! na wah o. Auntie you haff enter one chance. I wanted to insult you but after reading Stella's comment, i decided to keep it cool cos of the respect i have for stella. but i'm fucking pissed off right now mehn. In this 21st century? did you marry him for money? did they point a gun to your head? i just don't understand this your write up at all. Sorry to say but you be mumu. Be there and let people decide for you, don't shine your eyes. Is he the only guy that has asked you out? Are you so dumb that you don't know what you want? Maybe you are ugly or you have a very low self esteem. Why are you so bothered about what people wud say? Na wah for you o even my younger sister wont behave like this! pls carry your cross jare bcos even if we advise you, you wont listen. You are just being childish. Be forming mummy's pet. There is nothing as frustrating as being in a frustrated relationship not to talk of marriage. Marriage is a life time commitment in naija o. Once you are in, it's hard to come out especially for people Like you that is so concerned about what people wud say
ReplyDeleteSo bcos Stella said we should be nice to her, you people are giving nice and godly advises abi? everybody don turn marriage counsellor. I wish d comment section can really be like this. Lol. But the poster nor try. I will still say my nind. Some people are telling her to stay that the live wud grow, some are telling her to change the man. Biko how can you change a grown ass man in as much as we are in d era of change, not everyone is changeable No matter how much you try. Its in their blood. moreover it's nit easy to live with someone you don't love. the man is like a total stranger to her. She met him in February and got married in April. Who does that? Why d rush? She said he talks too much, not everybody can cope with someone like that Poster sorry ehn. You don't have a mind if your own. I just hope the man is rich sha else na correct one chance you enter so. Time that you will use to take care of yourself and other things, you will be using it to change your horse band. Nothing like love abeg. i repeat, nothing like live O. Marry for love and not out of pity.
ReplyDeleteShut up my friend!!!! Your comment lacks wisdom.
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