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WEDDING MONEY

hi Stella warm greetings to you. i love this blog so much especially the SDK chronicles. There's something really bothering my mind and I thought I share it here with my fellow bvs.

i wedded two years ago and something happened after the wedding which really got me thinking up till date. my two cousins from maternal side were part of the bridal train because i was really fond of them. The most senior was my chief and the younger one was among the Aso Ebis. so it happened that my mother called me a night before the wedding and told me that we (me and my husband) should not touch the money we would receive that we should hand it over to someone to avoid any time of African magic(lol). 

let me also say that i agreed too due to the fact that we have heard negative stories of such. she said that let the person that will handle it count the money and go put in the bank for us. when i told my husband he did not support it at all but just to me happy he ignored it and allowed me to handle it myself.

So after the wedding i told my cousin what mum said and asked her to help me keep the money well and she agreed. let also state that where i worship does not allow spraying of money hence anything money was collected in an envelop.

So when we got back to where we lodged, my cousins who were with me started counting the money when i left the room. i wondered why they did not ask for my permission before they started counting but i kept calm and watched carefully as they were counting, so after counting they told me the amount. and the most senior volunteered to take the money to the bank, i became uncomfortable with the way they were being forward towards it and i told her my hubby said i should bring it as i am going to were we would lodge over the night.

Long story cut short, he later counted the money himself and told me the amount i told him the amount they counted is less by 13k. i became angry because i was thinking what my mind is telling me has happened. i called them on phone to confirm the amount and told them that part of the money is missing, and i angrily threatened that i would tell everybody about it if its true that they took part of that money. 

it resulted in a quarrel because i didn't even mean what i said it was just an empty threat but before i came home that same day everybody was now calling me and was asking me about it. i became more angry why they now spread it and i was saying i ought to be the one that is angry not them so if they call me i would talk so angrily. my younger cousin also accused my husband and insulted him even when he didn't put mouth in our quarrel. this is my two years in marriage, i know the journey just began but for these few years we have spent together i still have 100% reasons to believe he never did such, i have never had issues with him with money. but they denied so beautifully that i became confused even blaming myself on why i even called them to ask. 

From then up till now, i have not communicated with them. although i briefed it , i said the whole truth i know about it, however i feel like I'm the one that spoilt the relationship, i put to bed they did not call, text , or like pictures in social media. OK oi

Please i just need to know from you and other bvs if I'm actually the one that was wrong?

*13k caused this two year fight?OMG OMG OMG!!!

I think you reacted too fast....Did it ever occur to you that they might have made a mistake with counting?

Even if they actually took the money ,you were expecting them to agree?You never ''Chi chontin'....

Wait...After your husband counted..Did you recount it to cross check if he made a mistake?

For the sake of peace,just reach out to make and settle this since you started it by accusing them of taking the money....The relationship might not be the same again but at least your mind will be free from the guilt that it was your fault.