STAND ALONE NARRATIVE
SINGLE MOTHERHOOD
Hello King Stella.
compliments.
I do not know where this fits in. Either as a chronicle or in-house news.
My elder sister is going through emotional trauma. I visited her few days back and found out she hardly sleep at night and always in tears. Her husband married another woman last two years and they have a child together and the man decided to do white wedding with the new woman. He did only traditional wedding with my sister which was not elaborate.
Hello King Stella.
compliments.
I do not know where this fits in. Either as a chronicle or in-house news.
My elder sister is going through emotional trauma. I visited her few days back and found out she hardly sleep at night and always in tears. Her husband married another woman last two years and they have a child together and the man decided to do white wedding with the new woman. He did only traditional wedding with my sister which was not elaborate.
Her pain is that she has invested so much in that marriage. Financially and emotionally. She got to hear from an outsider that her husband has another wife and child in another city. She confirmed the story and decided to leave the marriage. Her bride price has been returned to her husband people.
She is 38 now. This sister of mine is our second mum. Her efforts saw all of us through school. I hate to see her suffer. Nothing seems to make her happy again. All her younger once are married with children. I cry each time I think of how good she has been to us. She deserves the best.
I stylishly told her to get a man/boy friend. Get pregnant, give birth to a child and focus on bringing that child up. Her response was epic. My people. Who lives a happier and more secured life in future, a single mum without a baby daddy figure or a married woman who could not give birth to a child in marriage.
God bless all of us.
God bless all of us.
*Sometimes i want to advice those waiting for husbands who havent seen and whose clocks are kinda ticking to go ahead and have Babies if they want but i am constrained by the fact that it may be a good advice but i might be influencing youths reading this Blog negatively.
Having kids out of wedlock is a personal decision and anyone who wants to go into it should realise that it is a big emotional baggage.
She should go to a sperm bank if she doesn't want to be with any man or she can adopt a child.
ReplyDeleteI’m a single mother of two and my kids have the best of the best. My married friends even ask me how I do it sometimes.My kids are also well mannered and balanced.
DeleteWhen I made the decision to walk out of the union that was destructive to both myself and the children, I knew my God won’t fail me. Women please,as long as you are emotionally and financially stable, go ahead and have your kids o. If the man wants to stay let him stay and be supportive, if he wants to go, let him go and look after your kids by yourself.
Don’t give yourself HBP because of a man and don’t let anything man turn into a door mat in the name of marriage shikena!!!
Folks always think about themselves and forget that they have a creator.
DeleteIt is not a matter of having a man/boyfriend or horseband or whatever you call him
and breeding children. As long as fornication is involved; "deek" going into "tohtoh"
that is not "husband and wife", God's law becomes breached and there are consequences.
There is also forgiveness but it does not remove "some" consequences that are
apparent here on earth. Forgiveness takes care of the eternal consequences.
Going to sperm banks; that "good" but may not be the "pleasing or perfect" will of God (Rom.12:1-3)
depending on the circumstances and personality involved.
To the poster: Your sister decided to walk away from an adulterous man, she is not wishing
to go back; or is she? Let her live her life as if she never married and enjoy the good gift of a
child that God gave her. Forgive the man and move on with peace of mind.
38 is still young enough to meet someone and remarry abeg. Can't she see baby gals for life like Toyin Tiahanna that are single mum's still rocking their lives.
DeleteShe has just one child. Let her remove her mind from her broken marriage and go out and enjoy her life abeg.
The issue of immorality is now being peddled in our world at a dizzying intensity that it's no longer funny. How can people justify and advocate for immoral solutions to problems caused by immoral proclivities? It truly beats my imagination the sheer magnitude of ignorance and mental depravity prevalent in the populace of our contemporary milieu.
DeleteThe penchant of people to throw out their good character and dignity at the first sign of crisis is amazingly sickening. What is living without character and discipline? I believe that these are the attributes that informs who we really are, and without them, we have no identity.
PS: The solutions to many issues are usually in front of us but we do not see them because we expect them to be very flattering.
What a world we live in. Whew!
#Love#Peace
I personally don't like single parenthood because it wasn't designed to give a child the proper balance he/she needs to grow up healthy mentally and emotionally. Ultimately the choice should be made after weighing the consequences.
ReplyDeleteMillions of children are out there from non broken home with their another and father intact but making the world so miserable. We have children from good home that are into gangs, cults, armed robbery, fraud, etc. Only God can help out with your own good effort. Single parenting does not mean the child would grow to be bad. Emotional baggage would set in only if you don't have money to train the child or if the child is a sickler.
DeleteI beg to differ... I grew up in a single parenthood environment... it all depends on how the woman decides to train the child.....
DeleteOlori Oma, I didn't say a child cannot thrive, I only said its better to have both parents for balance.Then again,make the choice to be a single parent only after counting the cost.
DeleteFallacy, what of the likes of Obama?
DeleteA Police Officer once told me that 70percent of Criminals are from broken homes,Statistics shows it,why do you think Oyibo respects you more if you are applying for a Visa as a married person etc.Obama was raised by grandparents by the way. ASK ANY POLICE OFFICER THEY WILL ENLIGHTEN YOU. SINGLE PARENTHOOD IS BAD WE ARE NOT WISER THAN God,stop having kids for selfish reasons,think of the kids future too.
Delete16:39
DeleteSometimes you need to think and be emphatic before you jump into conclusions. Some women were married before they had kids and the man decides to be useless and leave, some women were married and lost their husbands to the colds hands of death. They end-up left to raise the kids by themselve . So where does the selfishness come in. Some women are too temperamental and cannot live with a man but want kids, so they should force themselves to stay in a marriage and be fighting everyday???
Its definitely not an ideal situation for a child to come from a broken home. But in a situation where a woman is capable of taking care of a child with the support of her family, n decides to have 1, that isn't the same as a divorced/broken home. As long as that child feels loved and wanted they'll turn out fine.
DeleteSee mentality..So everything oyibo respects is good? Oyibo's do not care if anybody is married or not. Get that in your skull.It just God in the end. I know a lot of bad kids who lived with both parents, and I also know loads of bad kids who lived with a single parent. Better to be a single parent than be in an abusive relationship, or a relationships with no money at all. Most important thing is to be able to give these kids the lives they deserve.
DeleteAnon 16:39, that police officer also should tell you that majority of the men who abuse women and have killed their spouses come from 2 parent homes (the research is there to verify). Single parenthood is hard but it is not bad. It is better to bring a child into a 2 parent home but if your spouse dies while you are pregnant, you become a single parent AND YOUR CHILD CAN THRIVE. Single parenthood happens due to many reasons. Don't let your Naija sentiment cloud facts.
DeleteAnon, Oyinbo respect you more as a married person because to them, it reduces your chances of wabtedvto enter their country to do marriage fraud or marry one of their women for visa. Although Nigerians have found ways around that, some even plan with their wives at home to marry a white woman for visa. Most naija men will never agree for their wife to marry oyinbo for visa so your intentions are more trustworthy to them because of these things. Not because they feel your children will fair better. I know a lot of single mothers who relocated to the US easily too. By the way, I’m from a 2 parent home and I have my own 2 parent home now too with hubby but I cannot bash anybody else’s personal choices. I done know what they’re going through or what makes them tick. Talking about majority of thieves, is that millionaire kidnapper not from a 2 parent home? Was he not also raising his kids with his wife? I think you should be blaming poverty, greed, economic situation, stupidity, wickedness, lawlessness etc for the theives, not single parenthood.
DeleteMay all of you who support single parent hood also encourage your kids to have kids out of wedlock. The fact that you are a single mother doesn't mean you should encourage others to be, deep down you know you hate the situation so why encourage others to do it. Divorced or widowed women are not the same as a woman who has a kid out of wedlock.
DeleteA one parent home with love,peace and morals is better than a 2 parent home with violence and sadness.
DeleteI don't wish any woman to be a single mother but I will never judge them. I believe a peaceful home is far more better for a child to thrive than a home filled with violence and lack of love.
Iv known ppl that comes from this type of home. A close friend, She noticed it was even a trend in her mothers side. They always leave their marriage or their single mums. Her grandma,mother,aunty are all divorcees/single mothers. So she was so determined to find a good man,she works on her marriage and gives her kids the love and attention she didn't get because she was passed around from mum,dad,step mother relatives etc.
She was determined to break that cycle.
It doesn't always follow that ppl from broken homes are also broken.
Many Nigerians are from 2 parent homes that is in church every Sunday yet see the decay in society.
Trust me every woman wants to be married and have a happy home. But it doesn't always work out. Should that stop them from experiencing the joys of motherhood.
Will you keep quiet police girlfriend @Anon 16.39, With your one sided statistics.
DeleteGod bless u @Anon 16.39.
DeleteBetter to have a child if you want one. Even if you marry first, there can still be baggage.
ReplyDeleteWell said Stella, well said.
ReplyDelete"Well said Stella, well said."
DeleteTalk your own!
I have a girl friend that is 27yrs,she's a widow with 3kids. Poster should she kill her self? Your sister should move on biko
ReplyDeleteThank you o I’m a widow with two kids and my kids are doing well so let ur sister man up
DeleteWidowhood is different,their is a shame that comes from Not being born in a legit unionand it is real,women should marry when they have plenty suitors instead of wasting time dating for years then turning around to say Single moms rock,they don't rock anything if not the Prince of Wales and his brother wouldn't have married,Have you ever seen a single parent allowed to be president of the U.S..You must be married. White community does better than black Community in the U.S. because whites have more kids born into marriages than blacks.
Deleteam a widow too with 2kids at 25 and am doing well for my kids and self
Deletethank you oooo blah blah, we are all process things differently. That's why some people commit suicide while some don't, even though they experienced the same problem. I'm yet to get through my dad's death. I have cried everyday, at work , at night since my dad died in January while some of my siblings have moved on. The way you process things may not be the way another processes, and that has to be respected.
DeleteSee bush mentality@anon 16:43..smh
DeleteWhen princess Diana married cos of what society think, what happened in the end? Mtcheew
DeleteHave given these advice many a times, at old age it is only children that matter most not spouse. Your neighbours will never allow you send that kids on errands.
ReplyDeleteThis is not true. Many parents are very happy to share the joy of motherhood with those that don't have. ..as long as the child no give you money pass them, all is eell
DeletePray your Children should not disappoint you,in life we need only God and he will surely make a way,many people in this blog's who think kids are the ultimate will still change opinion after some years.let us pray God does the best for us,most times our wisdom doesn't work,and our kids will not always 've around for errands.
DeleteMy dear, not all children are there at old age, African parents should stop thinking kids would be for them in the future, just love yourself for yourself, don’t depend on kids nor your spouse to be happy. Make your own self happy, that way you will hardly get disappointed. We know our kids are meant to be there for us, but some parents blackmail their kids even to their future homes all because of this. Make God your every thing and you will be fine
DeletePoster let your sis pick up, I have friends who have left their husbands and met better men, some are still single and very happy, she can’t kill herself for a selfish man who is enjoying his life, God is here to take care of her
Very annoying how African parents think children MUST be there for them in old age. These children have their lives to live too. They have their bills, and kid to cater for too. They expect u to give them everything they could not achieve in this life. How would these kids be able to support their own children?
DeleteOh lord...you guys shouldn't abandon your parents at old age pls...be there for them...abeg..
DeletePls it's not only about your kids being there financially or sending them. As human beings you are not built to be alone. Your husband can jilt you . Kids will always be there.
DeleteMy grandma is very rich asin she has properties all Over. Also had a maternity home and she trained abroad.
Right now she has a stroke. Even though she has a nurse taking care of her with her money. My mum and her siblings still take it inturns to go visit her almost every day.
Supervise what the nurse's do. She can't talk right now but when her kids are around you can see that joy in her face and we are the reason she is still alive. Her bday we go and Mark it with her. With even the nurse my mum still goes there bath her cook for her and make sure she uses her drugs and her pysiotheraphy.
Pls kids are important and it can't be over emphasised
My grandma has a sister that never had kids. In her old age she was shuttled from one of her nieces or nephews house after the other. She couldn't stay alone. Her burial her nieces did it. But something was lacking. No really survived by anyone
She is not old, God will still give her husband.
ReplyDeleteI have a friend, you know those friends that are much older than you that you automatically put ma'am in front of their names.
ReplyDeleteShe's almost 43years, has her own money with properties all over, travels all the time and very fresh looking and jovial woman. When I first met her, I truly didn't know she wasn't married and didn't even know till years later when I casually mentioned to my husband that it's like her husband and children are outside the country and if that is the reason for her constant travels.
He said no that she's single 😲 and travels to go chop her money.
Now baby girl did sperm donor and is currently in canada to birth her baby. She can't come and kill her self. She's glowing like mad from her whatsapp pictures and damn happy.
See this life, live it on your own terms as long as you are not committing sin whilst at it. What works for A may not be B path in life. Some will say afterall women still get married at 50 years, that may not be her destiny in life and she's tired of been lonely and wants what she can truly call hers.
Your sister should stop trying to please/ conform to what the society demands. Yes it's a big decision but so was getting married. I'll rather die with a child to call mine than to die alone and without any child...biologically mine or adopted.
Live life on God's term,trust me even when it looks stupid you will rejoice in the end.
DeleteGod bless you for this. Like the chronicles of yesterday that the weekend lady got pregnant for a guy who wants her to get rid of the pregnancy but because of her fertility issues she didn’t? Society and religion is hard on people but God will never reject anybody. Mary the mother of Jesus had immaculate conception abd the society abd religious laws of that time should have stoned her dead, but alas she was carrying the King of glory in her. Single parenting, sperm bank, widow, widower? I don’t blame people for their decisions anymore cos I am not in their shoes and if God still loves them, why should I look down on them or feel special cos I grew up in a stable home etc. any single lady in their 30s should go freeze some eggs and when they are in their 40s and man no show? By all means raise your child yourself but don’t break someone else’s home or engage in polygamy
DeleteFinally I have a blood I.D after all these years. Well like Stella said, everyone needs some kind of closure. I always say if you're matured enough and financially stable and you know you can handle your emotions and bring up an upright child why not? Most of these ladies actually wait and eventually hit menopause. Let her find closure, at least that will take away all the pains and will become a priority. I only advise this as the last option tho.
ReplyDeleteCongratulations on your "blood I.D" 😀
DeleteBlood ID 😳
DeleteWhich kind of typo be this. Una no go kill person with laff😂😁😅
DeleteHaving a child is not beans oohhh. One has to be preapared. There is no going bk. No a decision to take wen u are heatbroken. If u are in the right state hv family or even friend that surports u. Pls go ahead . If not....only if u knw u can do it soley without anybody help then have a baby.
ReplyDeleteI do not agree with Stella's school of thought. If we call ourselves Christians in every sense of the word then we should indeed be Christlike in our attitude.
ReplyDeleteWe shouldn't base our standard on the world but on God's word. What does God's word say? True happiness cannot be found in family or friends, they will only disappoint and keep disappointing until we realise that our happiness can only be found in God, we will keep on looking at the wrong places in pursuit of happiness.
Stop giving your sister selfish advice. She's still hurt that's why she's not sleeping. From all you said about her I see her as a strong person and very soon lines will fall in pleasant places for her.
Nice one dear. We are Christlike.
DeleteShe can adopt! There are loads of babies and kids out there who need motherly or fatherly love. THAT IS CHRISTLIKE.
Delete@Minnie Rexpect👍👍👍👏👏👏
DeletePlease 38 is not old to marry again na! It is not the youngest but it isn't old either. Please I married at 42 gave birth at 44 and 46. It isn't the most ideal situation but at least it's something. My husband was a widow though who had a daughter while married. She shouldn't give up on marriage and children yet. She can still have both. Having children would not bring anybody HAPPINESS neither would marriage so she needs to take charge of her happiness. The celebrities that died by suicide in the past few weeks all had children and were in long term relationships or marriages. Please don't advise her to get any sperm from anywhere. She needs to mourn and heal from her marriage breakdowm first before anything else. 38 is still a young woman!
ReplyDeleteWOW! ISN'T GOD FAITHFUL? NOW I KNOW THERE'S NO REASON FOR ME NOT TO HAVE MY OWN CHILDREN.
DeleteMay God Bless You.It's only God that gives happiness not Children.no be people be rev sisters.
DeleteAwwwww!!!!!!
DeleteLovely testimony 🖕🖕.
God is Awesome
God is Good
He never fail.
Always on time God
May Him alone be praise..
Honey it is only in our country that we time a woman. Women wait until you are ready and dont let these people put you on a useless path to marrying a silly man with no head. Better to be happily married at 50, than unhappily married at 25. Who says you will get preggers at 25? Abeg we don't know how God does His things. Let us not spoil our lives by ourselves.
DeleteThanks anon.I know someone presently that is this same 38 and a single mum of a 10yr old son that got married recently to a 39yr old single man with no kids.
DeleteBut if the issue is with her, then she won't be able to conceive just like that. Before she opens legs for anyone (if your advice soars) let her check that she's okay in there.
ReplyDeleteI don't see the big deal in moving on if a marriage fails, or having a baby if man never show. But that's me cos I'm very open minded about people's choices (unlike many Nigerians🙄). I advice your sister to take a break and get a clear head to think of the next steps. That man is as good as dead right now and sometimes you don't know what God is shielding you from, by not letting you mother a useless man's child.
Oh! A back up story.... My church aunty pam pam had her husband abadon her for another woman, in diaspora (same issue, no kids). She waited and prayed for about 8 years for a miracle, relocated to Nigeria out of shame etc. Anyhoo, she travelled to America, closed her shops and angrily went like: if i perish, i perish y'all 🤘 Guess what? After like 1yr+ She met a man shortly after her 45th birthday (rich mature divorced oyibo, without kids), married and is pregnant now. See??? 🤷♀️
God is never late..
DeleteThank God for her testimony..
Safe delivery in Advance to her..
God is always Faithful..
God can still give her a miracle, He is never late
ReplyDeleteExactly...
DeleteHe is never late ooo.i
Always on time God..
May God fix it for your sister @ Poster..
The heart of man is honestly desperately wicked. What happens to the man telling your sister he wants to marry another woman as God has not answered them yet in terms of children. Na Wa. Why marry another woman in another city. I am sure the woman will be among those saying my husband does not cheat while the man is busy in another state with another woman. Its well. All I know is there is a God in heaven that watches over all of us. Your sister should move on. There is life after marital crisis. Its time for you the siblings to stand by her. Give her reasons to smile. While at it. Let her pray to God of heaven to remember her by either giving her another husband who will love and adore her the way she is.
ReplyDeleteShe should let go of whatever she has invested. God will wipe her tears very soon. Its well with her.
As per having a child outside wedlock. Personally I feel its better to have a child without being married than being married without a child. Each time I look at my parents, I wonder what they will have done without us the children. Children are pillars of life.
The village I come from discourages young ladies from giving birth outside marriage. The way the treat that child, hmmmm. God help you its a boy, He will suffer discrimination till death. God will grant you wisdom.
Till death ke will the child live in the village forever. If that child becomes a president tomorrow same people will lick his foot. Hypocrites
DeleteSincerely, this got me emotional because i recently decided to be a single mom reason being that I have endometriosis, I have had surgery twice and the beast has started growing back, no man to call my own, so I just thought to jejely try and have a child because it is even difficult getting pregnant with that disease. Like really, the pain is real. I am financially capable to an extent and i intend to discuss it with my family during the holiday. I know not all of them will support me but heck I am 30 and entitled to make my decisions on my own. I just pray it works out for me. Trust me the disease is real and I honestly wont wish it on my enemy.
ReplyDeleteit's well with you love.
DeleteThe worst thing that will happen to any woman is to get old. No man, no child. You will be so lonely n regret your youth. But as bible talk. Make we no fornicate. Who be me to tell you what to do ?
ReplyDeleteTHAT IS NOT TRUE. This is not true stop feeding these women lies. You can lead a fulfilled life without man or child. Nuns are they miserable? Aren't they the ones educating kids all over in catholic schools. Abeg shove this mentality. Tueh
DeleteNuns took a decision not to have their own husbands or children. Don't tell a woman who has been and is still dreaming of having her own family otherwise.
DeleteContexts matter in argument!!
So if a dream does not happen then the person should be miserable? Abeg you ladies free yourselves from this mentality
DeleteNo that is not the worst thing. That's not truth. You can live a fulfilled life in christ alone. Every other is an additional blessing. Maybe I'm being hypocritical cos i don't live in Nig and where i live i know singles who live and lead happy lives. My mentor is an elderly never married but extremly kind woman. Just like jeanine Mai, it's her choice not to have kids. But yes, i know how difficult it could be being unmarried and childless in Nigeria. Not because there is anything wrong with it, but because the society, the church, family and friends will forever remind you of your state like it's a disease. It's sad the burdens we place on ourselves when Christ says...'come to me all ye who labour and are heavy laden and i will give you rest' 😊
DeleteYour sister needs to sit down and think of what she really wants. Is it a baby that will make her happy, a husband, a lover, making money, being financially secured. she is the only one that can tell what makes her happy. Making money makes ME happy. So she should think it through. Then you can now help her make it happen. my 2cents
ReplyDeleteMy dear making more makes me happy but there is more to life than money. You come back home and no one to share how your day went nor children running to welcome you. That is when you will realise that money isn't it. Now all your friends have their own families. So who do u want to visit. You become so lonely. It isn't fun my sister.
DeleteBut she already has a child, why is she looking for more since she is single? Anyway I feel having one child is enough, let her package her child & herself in a very attractive way & enjoy her life, & wait for God's time for a God man to come. Simple
ReplyDeleteThis is the reason why I'm team snoop. Had she realized this earlier when he was already making babies out there, she would have long moved on and probably remarried. My advice, she should go for fertility check up and consider IVF for a baby, she shouldn't let this drive her to depression. I would also advice her to be open minded about dating all ages oh, especially older and more mature guys, and remarrying. It's never too late with assisted reproduction anything can happen. Encourage her a lot, you guys should stay around her and show her love.
ReplyDeleteMy own is, if anyone want to be a single mom
ReplyDeleteMake sure your baby daddy isn't a married man
get ready to train your child alone till adulthood
get ready to do the job of both mother and father
People try to trivialize single motherhood but its not beans
especially when the baby daddy treats his other kids better than yours
get ready for the incessant questions from your child asking her her father
if you don't handle it well you might bring up a child with self esteem issues
We should not just be about our own fulfillment for having kids
If you want single motherhood to work for you then you must chart a financially, emotionally balanced path before you bring a child into the world
you get sense.....keep encouraging have a baby mama Siddon I they look.... This woman needs to face what she is going through and make herself happy first before bringing an innocent child into this world
DeleteSingle parenting is tough. In fact in Nigeria there are more single parents than truly dual parents. All these married women who are only married outside arw bonafide single mothers...some worse off than the mother without the father in the house.
DeleteOh I didn't understand the story @first, if she is financially well off she can have a baby na, either get a baby daddy or go to sperm bank. As for me I prefer to have a face or idea of where the sperm is coming from. You can get pregnant secretly or openly(its your choice to let the man know u got pregnant or not).
ReplyDeleteThe Lord consoles and strengthen your sister. I don't even know what to say. Feeling very emotional about it all
ReplyDeleteMy sentiments exactly!
ReplyDeletePeople really do not understand the emotional stress that comes with single motherhood
They think once you pop out a baby, everything becomes peachy
I have seen several cases where these things didnt turn out well
The first few years of your child are not the issue,its the later years that are harder
Training a child alone is not beans, it can be frustrating.
I'm listening to you pretty Olly.lol
ReplyDeleteAny single mum that come here to say single mum rock,pls wish that on your kids and stop propagating rubbish,I am not referring to divorces or widows,if you need a child without hubby then adopt, why can't you all love other people's kids,must you birth a baby by force. MostSingle mums are always wicked,always encouraging others to delve into it and suffer like them,while praying for their kids to marry.
ReplyDeleteThey are all single mothers. Sorry not to make anyone feel like they are in a diff category. Society judges all the same and we are that society so abeg make we hear. It is common sense btw that a woman should not go baby mama ing up but the reality is all of you leg openers are vying for the position and postinor 2 is saving your behinds.
DeleteTrue words
DeleteIs anyone even considering asking the sister to see a counselor, just talk to someone, vent it all out, heal and move on.
ReplyDeleteEveryone is saying get a baby or get another husband but a broken woman needs to be healed.
There is a river that flows
From the fountains of God
And it heals everything along the way
I have tasted and known
That for every broken heart
There is healing in Jesus name Amen.
Listen to the river by Carmen. There is healing for her today. Once she is healed ,everything will fall into place. Jesus heals diseases and broken heart. Let her know that God is a God of restoration and will restore what the locust have taken. For her shame, she will get double honour.
KING XOXO MYSTERY
thank you.... the rate at which they encourage have a baby oh Jesus
DeleteMany of these single mums still struggle to get married,many of them tried to marry their baby daddies but they were rejected and many will never wish their kids to be single parents,if anyone advises you to be a single mum,just tell the person that you wish the kids single parenthood and watch them say "I reject it" Many are coming on line to give advise forgetting that someday soon their kids will grow and come online to seek for advise and will stumble on their comments and take their advise,never write what you don't wish for your kids, a good person is a person who has gone through tough times and encourages others to avoid some of their mistakes in life.
ReplyDeleteDon't know what this world is turning into...men are acting like wild animals...anyway,the world is a number 69...only for those who can decide
ReplyDeleteMc pinky