STAND ALONE NARRATIVE
LOST FEELINGS
I am not happy my heart is heavy let me go anonymous pls.
I'm beginning to lose feelings for my fiancé we have being dating last year, he is a cool guy, let me not go in details cos he is a silent BV who sleeps and wakes on this blog. This lost of feelings just started of recent when I returned to my base, we live in different state.
The thing is I feel he is not ready for marriage cos there were somethings I'd observed when I visited him he doesn't have a mind of his own he get disyracti easily, and he doesn't have secrets. I am more of an introvert and I prefer certain things being kept to myself,not even to my family is aware of some of my doings. I'm thinking won't this become a problem when in marriage? I read Sunday chronicles and some bvs highlighted some points in marriage.
Seriously this things stand as my major concern. I'm planning making my relationship open now in other to give room for other suitors cos initially I'd close to door to other suitors.
My feelings towards him now is "like" instead of "love" which i have being thinking, I don't know if its the fight we had of recent that's why all this is going through my head.
I told God everything in prayer that I want to move only for us to reconcile but after that the feeling isn't strong the way it use to be.
I want happiness i want peace when settle down with or without money but it seems am not seeing that coming from him, cos he is always distracted
Pls BVs what needs to be done or am I over reacting?
Seriously this things stand as my major concern. I'm planning making my relationship open now in other to give room for other suitors cos initially I'd close to door to other suitors.
My feelings towards him now is "like" instead of "love" which i have being thinking, I don't know if its the fight we had of recent that's why all this is going through my head.
I told God everything in prayer that I want to move only for us to reconcile but after that the feeling isn't strong the way it use to be.
I want happiness i want peace when settle down with or without money but it seems am not seeing that coming from him, cos he is always distracted
Pls BVs what needs to be done or am I over reacting?
If your heart us not committing the let it go. He might be serious and you may just be wasting his time.
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DeleteAunty you are your own chronicle, you kept talking but saying nothing. What exactly his problem, sleeping on the blog, not having secrets, following the wind? What exactly? A man that is easily swayed sometimes make the best cus when you are married to him, you can easily control him to follow whatever you say.
DeleteI can’t advice you cus you haven’t even said anything, abi do you just want to explore other men? Ngwanu you are free
Lol. He's still shuttling between boy and man. Them plenty! Listen, if he aint ready, he aint ready. If you don't feel comfortable, keep it moving so you can't date someone else, without being called a cheat.
ReplyDeleteExactly my thoughts. A lot of men are like this,they let people make decisions for them.he is the kind that will allow third parties settle your issues.move on if you have to.
Deleteposter move on abeg let's hear word.
ReplyDeleteyour village is seriously at work on your head.
If your heart is not committing then let it go. He might be serious and you may just be wasting his time.
ReplyDeleteIf it doesn't feel right then it's not right. Move on!
ReplyDeleteI can’t stand men that don’t keep secrets biko.
ReplyDeleteTalk to him about it, communication is key in every relationship. His reaction will tell u weda to stay ot leave.
Lmao!!! End the relationship nah. Who has time for this. Abeg do everybody a favour and end the relationship and open doors to other suitors maybe just maybe you may find one you love or maybe not, the choice is yours.
ReplyDeleteBabe this your English eh.. headache
ReplyDeleteLet me follow SDK too tsk tsk tsk.
ReplyDeleteWomen and men wahala always, me I am tired and my tired is tired too lols
You ain't felling it again oya leave na, he keeps secret you will come and start complaining and now he doesnt keep secrets you feel he should learn how to keep secrets. Women what do we really want na? What exactly is the problem? You want him to start keep secrets or what? If you have found someone just go ahead and tell the brother biko. We have plenty fine single girls in the this blog. na una type dey carry dirty secret for Belle till una die.
Our tired is tired oo
DeleteI tire o
DeleteU must be stupid....anything done in excess is bad. So cos she is complaining means she has found another person? Ewu
DeleteYou need to discuss this matter with him coz you can't force him if he doesn't feel ready for it.
ReplyDeleteYou mentioned he is always distracted, if I may ask what kind of distraction ? Always be sure of what you want in marriage before taking the bold step. I pray God lead and direct you, as you make a decision.
ReplyDeleteConfused woman.. If the man keeps to himself, she will still complain.
ReplyDelete"I want happiness i want peace when settle down with or without money"
ReplyDeletelol 😅
should i tell her??
Sweetheart follow your heart. Better a broken engagement than marriage. You sound like you two aren't compatible.
ReplyDeleteIs he the only man in the world?? Flee from him,he is a child and Please give other guys a chance .
ReplyDeleteHubby to be is exactly like this. I have told him his bi mouth will spoil things for him. I love him so i jst look out for other qualities that trips me and i dont tell him the things that are important to me. He knows am secretive which annoys him like mad.
ReplyDeleteMake sure you do this, men like this are verrrry frustrating in marriage trust me. You and your childrens business will be for everyone.
DeleteMake sure you keep personal things away from him. Men like this have no filter on their mouth. How many times he knacks you and the sounds you make or do not make, where you intend to buy land,who was born illegitimate in your family are things he can easily be jisting with complete strangers. People will be looking at you with side eyes, you won't know that your whole life is exposed. And the worst thing is they can never change unless something terrible happens as a result of their leaking mouth. I know their type well.
DeleteHe is not ready for marriage and you are listing problems if you marry him
ReplyDeleteYou didnt tell us his age and if he is even financially ready to be a husband.
ReplyDeleteI advice you don't break up with him. Give it sometime. That was how I was toying with someone I dated when I was 25. I felt he wasn't exciting enough,he was 25 also and he wasn't ready for marriage. This one even said i should give him 5yrs. He can't be ready till he is 30 because of finances. He did love me and was very loyal. But i was looking for a big ready made man. I met many but it never led to marriage.
Now I am 33 and been jilted so many times. This guy got married 2years ago and is doing so well. We spoke very in-depth shortly before he got married. Everybody keeps saying he was really heartbroken when I left him and I know in my heart we would be married today if I had waited and been more patient with him.
These are two different issues. Immaturity can become a huge issue in marriage and it will threaten the fabric of their relationship. Wanting ready made and wanting mature are two DIFFERENT things.
DeleteAnonymous 15:43, you just saved me. I'm in the same situate at the moment. My boyfriend and I just had an argument because he wants us to get married at 29 and I want 28 because we're both 25. Thanks for sharing your experience and I pray that God will forgive you and bless you beyond your imagination. Thanks again
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DeleteSimilar to my case. I was a step ahead of her age- wise. I was 29 then and she was 28, and I was ready to settle down but she still wanted to play around. Caught her cheating on me, and things went south between us. After 5 years now, I'm happily married with 2 kids. She is now aunty Gwegs. Saw her a few weeks back and I wondered🤔 What did I even see in her? Calling and chatting me to just keep in touch. Oloshi!
DeleteAnony 20:37 why are you abusing her? That means you are still missing her, lol
DeleteMy dear if you have doubts, call off the relationship.
ReplyDeleteYou said he doesn't have a mind of his own...yet here you are asking strangers for advice on a situation that has to do with YOUR life!! If you cannot make a decision on what impacts you, then it is safe to say that you are also not ready for marriage!
ReplyDeleteYou are brave. Nigerian women will manage any bad behaved or immature man just to be married. You should never marry a man for what he could be, marry a man who you feel if he stays this way you will be just fine!
ReplyDeleteImmaturity in a man is what makes a lot of women lose respect for their men, especially serious minded women. Immaturity is a huge turnoff. A man who talks too much is dangerous, and one who doesnt have a mind of his own will soon follow the dogs. It is alright to aspire for a mature man. Not every relationship will end in marriage. Discuss with him and if you do not see concrete changes BEFORE marriage then be gone. In the meantime, open your eyes for others and let him be aware of this.
All these girls who manage do not know that men do not operate that way. We will be with you and when we see what we want, we go for it (bad habit but its what happens). When it comes to your forever...BE VERY SELFISH, if you use sentiment or desperation to decide, you will surely regret it.
Exactly how my ex was God. Everything about him is like a open book esp anything about the girls he been with. If he has a girl everyone will know when he gave her money, sex her, Inshort tufiakwa oh. But his wide mouth never reach the balance of his bank account oh. Something that would have been a deep secret before I knew it, pastor Don hear,friends,family e. T. C God4bid.
ReplyDeleteDon't break up with him give him sometimes he may change to a better man
ReplyDeleteyou sounds like you have seen another man already
You spoke my mind, still give him time, you can also sit him down and talk about what you like and what you don't want.
DeleteNo two ways to it. We know them when we see them.
DeleteNo two ways to it. We know them when we see them.
DeleteYour head is there Sweetheart. The chick has fallen head over heels for some dude and has closed her heart to the fiance, and she is now looking for blames and reasons to end the relationship. Village people are on her case. This is how they undo themselves. Karma has the address of your type. Time will tell!
DeleteIf not that, then what exactly did the guy do to you? Or are you now comparing him with other dudes. A bird at hand is worth 10 in the bush. Be wise.
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ReplyDeleteGod is good
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I will deal with you for telling lies about me.. you that sleeps around with different men and you want me to marry you.. you think I don't know what am doing.. I will continue to behave like mumu until you breakup with me cos I don't want it to come from me!!! I never loved you either and I will never do.. so save yourself from stress.
ReplyDeleteThen be a man and run for your life. Do you want her to hurt you badly before she ends it all? Till you spook her well enough, then you will realize Hell has no fury like a woman scorned.
DeleteBreak up with her then.
DeleteYou lie anony 17:02. Talk true you wan die there or you for don run already
DeleteSit him down and talk about it with him, if d situation doesn't change den u can take a walk.
ReplyDeleteYou're already falling for other suitors. Free the guy, move on and let him.
ReplyDeleteNo time to waste time
#Sometimes the hardest part isn’t letting go, but rather learning to start over*
ReplyDeletePoster think this through. Talk to him about these things & his reactions will prove you right/wrong. Search your heart & pray too. Good luck.
ReplyDeletePoster.....The ball is in your court
ReplyDeleteThis your chronicle seems to have no serious problem or is it fear of being decided that is making you shy away from stating the issue as it is.
ReplyDeleteIf it is okay please talk to a God fearing counselor who will help advise based on REAL facts
Back to your epistle, my sister what you have is just COLD FEET you have no real issue and trust me the devil tries to fight anything good that God put on this earth for humans to enjoy that's why he opposes marriage ... my dear get back in there .... and lastly grow up!!! Marriage needs someone that's emotionally strong people go through things oooo in marriage oh want rosy and perfect enter cartoon or something things and real life is tough if it's not this it's that!!! You wanna be a child go to the next man and discover his flaws you will even wish you state there! Sometimes overlook imperfections.
Who does he tell these things to have you ever tried to tell him this is for your ears only or please minimize in story telling? My sister face your work
Hey everyone, the guy in question has decoded the sender of the chronicle o. Check out anon 17:02
ReplyDeleteHmmmmm..... Pls don't deal with her. Just let her go in peace. A broken engagement is better than a broken marriage
Loll you must be dull. You don't know some people drop comments like that just to cause havoc.
DeleteMadam i too know, you could have easily replied without abusing yourself. Don't angry me this morning o.
Deletekaa asikwa na odere chronicle. no point no heading no end equal to no meaning mtcheeew.
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