A mother of two identified as Sokari West was allegedly stabbed to death by her husband during a fight in their house in Buguma, Asari-Toru Local Government Area of Rivers State over the purported refusal of the wife to prepare a meal for her husband.
According to Daily Sun, the 33-year-old woman had a quarrel with her husband, Ibisaki, a native of Minama community in the same local government area, over her alleged refusal to prepare a meal for the family, which later led to a fight.
Community sources said the victim had allegedly refused to prepare the meal as ordered by her husband on Saturday, and went out to celebrate her birthday with friends and returned late in the night.The sources further disclosed that the couple have had several marital crisis in the past which led to their separation, but they later reconciled after the intervention of their families.
Tonye David, a resident of the community where the incident occurred said, “What led to the fight was that, on Saturday, the husband told her to cook But she ignored his instruction and went out to celebrate her birthday. So, when she went home later in the evening, she met her husband eating the soup she refused to prepare. Already drunk, she tried to eat the food, but the man stopped her. She lifted the plate and poured the soup on the husband.
“Her action did not go well with her husband, who immediately stood up and started beating her. He picked a bottle he collected from her in the course of the fight, broke it and stabbed her on the lap. She fell down and was bleeding heavily. They rushed her to the health centre but there was no doctor to attend to her. They took her to a medicine store to stop the bleeding, but no one was there to attend to her. So, it was when they took her to the UPTH that a doctor, who examined her, confirmed that she was dead.”
The report had it that Ibisaki, on hearing that the victim might not survive the stabbing, submitted himself to the Buguma Police Station.
*What a pity!!
I wanted d to post this yesterday
ReplyDeleteStella, I want to RANT
WOMEN ARE TRYING IN MARRIAGE ABEG
I don't even know where to start from, me and husband had an heated argument this morning, what happened? We will get there.
I have always begged the husband to take me out but he always gives one excuse or another, even on my birthday. On the other hand I don't have friends around here since I got married, not like I don't have women coming around but am just being careful plus the husband likes to keep to himself a lot. Meanwhile since we married he has kept a few friends not for too long though because he just does not know how to maintain friendships. Though when they are still friends he goes out a lot with them, they are usually five and six within that short period. Did I mention that most often the husband likes to keep to himself, only talks to me when he wants to talk and have been trying to understand him, trying to start conversations and be friends with him but he keeps forming hard to get and busy with work and making money for us to build big mansions, he is trying though but that is just not all I need. He has only taken me and my baby out once since we got married and it ended in Cold War. Note, am not working but doing aide hustles online, money comes once in a while but not always, begged him to open sth for me, story for another day. He does not want an office work for me, says they pay peanut but long story sha.
Yesterday I decided to do something unusual, lemme go and greet one of my female "toasters", I called and told them I was coming, they were excited to see, the hubby went out and bought BBQ chicken for me.... I have to mention that because it's part of the problem.... and some other things, we gisted, ate and went home. Stella, I must say I realized how much I have missed having people around. I must also say here Stella dt I love my space and I don't like to just be walking around unnecessarily, I just miss being around people.
So this morning, as usual because I just weaned my baby, once she starts to disturb, the husband leaves the room, for me to attend to my child, it's not being easy dealing with most of his terrible antics but have been patient. So after my morning running around went to his room to check on him, this man started insulting about eating chicken in people's house because I gisted him a little while I got home last night. Called me longer throat and so many other terrible things, I decided to let it slide but again I had to put him straight. I just had to talk, I said a lot....
He is begging me now ....giving advice.... Am coming
Update
ReplyDeleteWe have reconciled, we even made love, gave me some cash and I went shopping yesterday, that's why I couldn't post
I think my hubby is the jealous type, he always seemed so in charge of his emotions so am surprised to see this part of him
Any advice how to handle it
Hey, good you guys sorted it out. Permit me to ask, dint you two date before getting married? You need to sit him down and let him know what makes you happy before he drives you into depression. You deserve to be happy and him too.So you guys have a discussion and meet yourselves half way.
DeleteJesus what really going on na
ReplyDeleteThe news coming from Rivers Akwa ibom Calabar and Eboyi of late has been horrific
DeleteOh dear
ReplyDeleteWhat's happening??
DeleteIt is easy to say one should have walked away when you are not the one wearing the shoes.
ReplyDeleteThey both accumulated a lot of anger against each other and the end result is destruction for both of them
The kids are the true victim, they just loss both parents.
May the dead RIP.
Very true. Walking away is always easier to mention when you are not the one in that situation. It takes a whole lot for someone to walk out of such. Imagine asking her to cook, she didn't cook, she went out to party, and he made the food and she came back to want to eat same food? He stopped her and she emptied it on him. Even though she was drunk. How drunk was she again? This doesn't justify his action. It doesn't at all. Because all this would have been avoided. Hospitals of these days sef. Finding it hard to save people. Imagine blessing and going up and down and no one to stop the bleeding. It was an avoidable death. If only she got proper health care on time
DeleteAgain I must state here categorically to watch the kinda friends we make. She must have told her husband to celebrate her birthday, and he dididn't have money to do so,she angrily goes out with friends to celebrate her birthday without cooking for him,maybe the friends must have cajoled and made mockery of her cos the husband couldn't celebrate her birthday, which made her get drunk at d party. Which led to such actions. As much as possible, let's try to control our anger on things.
DeleteThis life is too sweet biko.
Ed you are very stupid. Why will you even be ok with a man telling a grown up human to do this or not do that. Well she's dead and he'll be dead soon. He can go and instruct his wife in his next life
DeleteYou sound doom Ed. Shame
DeleteHusbands see to the emotional needs of your wife. Small paying attention on her special day would’ve spread that family this anguish...
DeleteIf he’sade preparation for them to eat out on that one day to celebrate her birthday ( which is probably what the woman expected) this probably soundly have happened...
And what’s wrong in her wanting to eat the food he prepared!”? How about the millions of meals she’s been preparing for the whole house all these while? That is why I’m raising my kids ( both male and female ) to know there’s nothing in cooking food for yourself. Everybody eats . It’s a basic human need. Monday was sent to this earth to cook food now the poor kids have lost bothe h parents..
It is unfulfilled expectations in marriage that always causes wahala
Anger!!!!!! An ill wind that blows no one any good.
ReplyDeleteNow a lifetime in prison will be his lot.
Seems people are marrying their worst enemies without knowing.
DeleteWhat is going on with marriages these days? I remembered the day I poured a plate of pap on my husband's face, or is it the day my husband wanted to strangle me to death because I did not give him the money he accused me of getting from MMM. Will gist you guys later, I don't have strength to type right now.
ReplyDeleteIs not only marriages. Even single couples are killing themselves. If you read other blogs and post especially on Facebook and Instagram, you would see this isn't limited to marriages alone. This epidemic is now every where
DeleteHmmmm madam and you are still in that marriage. Someone tried to strangle you.
DeleteNawa o. What sort of husbands do you ppl marry.
Me that a man raising his voice at me is a problem for me.
Infact any man that shouts at me while dating and I see he has anger problem. That is a red flag to me. Before it even gets to slapping or trying to strangle.
The Lord is your strength. If you don't have kids yet I advice you not to get pregnant or have additional kids. So if the marriage packs up it's easier for you to leave and survive.
How can a man attempt strangling his wife. What if the strangling was succesful and you passed out and died. Pls this life is too sweet to end up dead because of a man you have known how many years. After your parents have toiled just to raise you.
Pls pls walk away, at this rate , your marriage is Dead on Arrival
DeletePls 9;40. How does one get gist from FB. Mhen I don try try try I no dey c ,na only request . that was my babe. Sorry
DeleteAnd no one saw where she said she poured a plate of pap on her husband. You see, women let's be careful. He may be stronger than you (emotionally) or even softhearted but that doesn't give you the right to abuse him. As you can be hurt, so can he.
DeleteIf he takes the advice some people dish out today and walks away from that marriage, it's still the same women that'll cry that he's wicked, he's this & that, he left you to cater for the kids and all not knowing you triggered that act.
Love (in marriage) is a two-way thing. It should come from both of you. If you're not capable of giving it then don't even go there and begin to stress yourself and your partner.
Believe me, marriage is BEAUTIFUL! But it takes to mature adults to make it work.
I'm not a marriage counselor o so my comment may be disjointed but that's my honest opinion.
You n ur husband ain't fit for each other, u are a threat to his life n he is a threat to yours, you poured him pap, he strangled u..abeg u guys need new partners.
DeleteI love your honest opinion Choice.
DeleteImagine, most people commenting couldn't see where she poured pap on the man but could make reference to strangling.
DeleteYou and your husband should go your separate ways. You are both toxic and violent. You poured pap on your husband? Like wow. He strangled you? And you are here taking it lightly? What if something went wrong when you poured pap on him or when he strangled you? Please both of you should take a break. And reevaluate your marriage and decide if its worth it or if it should end
DeleteTerrible things are happening in marriages today. Maybe Stella should bring up an anonymous post where women and the men too can tell challenges theyve been having in their marriages /relationship. My husband goes physical at any slight provocation and I'm still in the marriage coupled with d fact that we have kids and I pay all the bills ranging from water to fuel, to rent, school fees, his clothes, phones and even recharge card.
Delete@Oluoma, thanks. That's just me being me. Marriage is absolutely beautiful when you both understand each other.
Delete@Don & Fab mum, you guys spoke the truth.
It is finished
ReplyDeleteWhat is happenin sef? Hian!
ReplyDeleteKai. This is bad.
ReplyDeleteGovt really need to educate people on first Aid. That said, what is with all these anger everywhere? This is becoming more of a concern.
ReplyDelete😥😥😥😥😥
ReplyDeleteI think the harsh economic condition is d main cause of this problem. Couples needs to be pray without to avoid situation like this. And Govt need to carry out sensitization on the media on the danger of all this calamity.
ReplyDeleteIn as much as am not in support of what d woman did..also I will stte clearly here thy the man is at fault,am a man though it's not easy to walk away but u must do.
ReplyDeleteI have never raised up my hands on any woman,not even my younger ones,all I do is walk away,if possible ,be mute till Jesus comes.
Have gotten to realise that,women will provoke u till heaven let loose but you must always stand on ur ground not to do anything stupid.
R.I.P madam.
Oga,,to help with u in jail...u caused it,it's not devil this time,u gave the consent.
Mc pinky
OMG. Rivers is reigning. Anger is never a solution. Wives are now being stubborn. Comfort to the families
ReplyDeleteyou must be stupid to say wives are now being stubborn....do you know how much women have been tolerating? idiot
DeleteHmmm ogao working away is just the best option, but it's not so easy especially when think yourself strong enough to counter the blushes. ... beloved gentlemen pls if she strikes u just take a walk,if she provokes u and start telling u ur history and all those rantings, just smile and be a tobo G. Biko getting physical will only worsen the situation. It's family first
ReplyDeletePoverty and greed be causing harm since 1900
ReplyDeleteEeehya. Poor man .
ReplyDeleteMay the dead rest in peace
And you guys were the same people calling out Rochas Okorocha for creating the Ministry of Happiness. The governor knows there's anger in the country. I wish every other governor will do same with enough sensitization on anger management.
ReplyDeleteLolzzz
DeleteNawa oooh y re spouses killing themselves dese days?? later dey wld say marriage is d key.Tank God I am single mom better than domestic violence home
ReplyDeleteMadam there are still good marriages out there. Mine included. Its not perfect but we dont fight to extend of saying shut up. Not to talk of beating
DeleteThe problem is we women are under so much pressure to settle down that any man that comes and has small change women won't check his tempremant.
Even all this blog they will be calling people gwegs and if not married by 30 just hAve a baby.
The pressure is much so women see these red flags from dating and still say yes to proposals.
Wasn't yesterday's own about a lady who is not married to the man? So what has marriage got to do with this. It happens every where. Haven't you read about boyfriends who shot their girls friends or burnt them to death? Read wide please
DeleteYou're a married woman and rather than perform your duty at home, out of stubbornness you neglected it and went out to party with friends (nothing wrong with partying if you must).
ReplyDeleteNow you returned home drunk, your husband had cooked the food you ought to have prepared earlier. Instead of you quietly walking away, you sat your ass down and decided to eat with him (turn the table around, if it was you he spited that way will you be happy?).
Then when he refused you eating, you carried that plate of soup (that you refused to cook earlier) and POURED ON HIS HEAD! Insult! Yes, I'm a woman but when we see something wrong, let's say it as it is without sentiments. This is so evil! Now at this point, do you expect him to start dancing or laughing with you?
Yes, he should have controlled his anger but I'm sure this was a result of accumulated hurt. Not everyone have that ability to control their anger. We know what we do that trigger our partner's anger, why don't we avoid it?
I'm speaking to both men & women now. Stop listening to people who tell you to be tough that it's the only way to get what you want or make your partner fall in line... it's all lies! You're just turning your homes into a warzone. Even the Bible admonishes us to be "kindly affectioned one towards another".. Where things are not going well even after your effort to put it right, seek counsel before doing something you'll live to regret.
Enough said.
Wisdom is profitable to direct! Choice you are wise!
DeleteGod bless you choice
DeleteThank you @choice. Very well said! I'm a lady btw
DeleteThank you Choice,The Voice of Wisdom!!
DeleteI felt like crying after reading this particular post. I decided not to comment but I can't help it now.
DeleteWell said choice.
The man is not at fault in anyway. They were fighting after pouring soup on his head. She brought out bottle to murder him after being drunk. He defended himself and by so doing, the broken bottle mistakenly pierced her lap(non fatal spot). Everybody did all they could to get help but to no avail.
She died of loss of blood.
If I were the judge, the man will go scored free. He has suffered enough, his family shouldn't be made to suffer more for the crimes and attrocities of an evil wife.
There is no ount of anger than can make me stab anyone. If he wasn't treating his wife is property this would not happen. Imagine the rubbish story. He instructed his wife to cook. Is he maaad. On her birthday ef. Then started beating her over food. He has added the part of soup on his head so people will pity him. So his wife went out partying for hours and got drunk. It was when she returned late at night that he was just feeding the kids and himself...since she left
DeleteI was 5 years old the day I saw my mother break a bottle on my fathers head. He just looked at her and walked away. I was the one that went to him and helped him clean up. That taught me the invaluable lesson of walking away when issues escalate.
DeleteHer refusing to cook means that serious issues had been brewing for much longer than that day. But she is dead and the only thing we will hear now is that she refused to cook. And yes, she poured the soup (that she did not cook) on his head, but being drunk she very likely would not have remembered what she did that night if she had survived. A drunk individual is one of the most irrational people to interact with and accepting to fight a drunk opponent that has lingering anger towards you is a recipe for disaster.
And yes, a stab to the thigh is usually fatal because a major artery runs through there. #mytwocents
Hi zukky. Your mesaage really touched me. Did you attend BMJS?
Delete@ anon 19:38 Awww. No, I didn't.
DeleteWomen keep provoking men since 1600. But that ain't enough reason to kill her mhen. Now see ur life has been ruined forever
ReplyDeleteThey were not married,na baby daddy and baby mama. Poor kids will suffer
ReplyDeleteMarriage is over rated and many couples are not saying the truth on what they are encountering I speak for myself. Stella please assist do an anonymous post on women presently taking care of responsibilities their in marriage and still have toxic husbands. Plenty stories.
ReplyDeleteThey were not married oooo. she is his baby mama and he has been violating her
ReplyDeleteHmmmmmmm
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