UNWANTED CHILD
Dear Stella,
Don't know where to start from but have to start my story from somewhere.
Hmmmm!!!! I have cried my eyes out with no hope of solution so I thought to bring my problem here.
Story of my life, I got pregnant at age 15 by a guy who forced himself on me (let me say he r#ped me) my parents got to find out, arrested the guy and we moved out from the compound we were staying with the said guy. Got to get his number after 5 years, we saw each other and he saw his child but never took care of us till now the child is 13 years I single handedly took care of the child.
I met a great guy whom has been everything told him I have a child and he accepted and things went well for us ,while dating him he asked what was my plan for my child and I told him that I want him to go to boarding school and anytime he comes for holiday he would either come stay with me or go to my cousins place, I lost my job same last year and my world came crumbling on my face...
Immediately I lost my job I got pregnant for the guy I was dating we quickly fixed a date for intro,trad and wedding as abortion was not my way. Mind you I lost my job and looking for another was not easy couple with pregnancy finally got a job I did for a month and the lady saw my baby bump and sacked me that she does not need a pregnant lady working for her.
I got married and after my honeymoon and few months I brought my child to stay with me and Hubby and he stayed for a month then hubby started complaining that he does not want my child in his house, I pleaded,cried e.t.c he later accepted he stays but hubby was giving me including the boy attitude.
I got married and after my honeymoon and few months I brought my child to stay with me and Hubby and he stayed for a month then hubby started complaining that he does not want my child in his house, I pleaded,cried e.t.c he later accepted he stays but hubby was giving me including the boy attitude.
During Christmas pleaded with my step-mom so he could spend the holiday with them so he was there till January when he calls to alwAys complain of beating him and him not eating coupled with my step-mom saying I should come carry him as my dad is putting all attention on the boy alone...
did I mention that my step-mom is a very wicked woman I mean very very, had no option that's why I took him there, I later brought him back after the new year and he stayed for weeks with us. Noticed hubby always give us attitude,if the boy greet hubby he won't respond if I greet nor play with him he gets cold towards me then I knew it was cause of my child so one faithful Sunday he called me that he wants to talk to me and said he is not comfortable with my son being in the house and that's why his been cold toward us and wants him to leave his house.....
Then I started finding solution till I got the father of my child's number from someone called him told him I was married and pregnant that my husband wants his son out of my home he gave me his sister's number that he should stay there with her that was were my whole wahala started again.
Did I mention that the said father has not given nor seen the child since he was born and he is married now don't know where he stays nor anything about him.
Went to meet the sister and we talked and she said I would be sending 10,000 monthly for the boy to feed that she's a single mom of 2 and can't cope with feeding my own son I agreed cause I was helpless, mind you I have not been working since I got married and am pregnant.
Spoke to the said father and he said he would send money to them not knowing it was all lies. Since I took him there I have been paying 10,000 monthly for him to feed I have to beg people to give me money that I use in paying hubby knows I pay monthly for my son to feed but won't assist. I just put to bed and couldn't pay for last month money which she has since been disturbing and angry with me that I did not pay the money I explained to her that I don't have but would make it up did I mention that the sister is not working too.
So today she sent a message that I should come and carry my son since I can't bring the money for his feeding but where do I take him too
Now my question:
Should I just ignore her and leave the boy there though his with his family member ( but what if she matreats the boy cause of me not bringing money) and just not okay as I don't know the condition of my son. She threatens to take the boy to the fathers wife but what if the woman maltreats the boy cos the husband has a first son outside. We all know how step mothers can be cos I have one...
Please Stella I need your advice and that of bvs as I am confused, the father of the boy is not willing to take care of his responsibility as the family have called him for a meeting and he has refused. The wife knows about my son and has said she those not want him around her house.
Please with due respect to everyone out there to advice me please for God's sake ,my husband should not be insulted just need matured advice
Thanks Stella .
Now my question:
Should I just ignore her and leave the boy there though his with his family member ( but what if she matreats the boy cause of me not bringing money) and just not okay as I don't know the condition of my son. She threatens to take the boy to the fathers wife but what if the woman maltreats the boy cos the husband has a first son outside. We all know how step mothers can be cos I have one...
Please Stella I need your advice and that of bvs as I am confused, the father of the boy is not willing to take care of his responsibility as the family have called him for a meeting and he has refused. The wife knows about my son and has said she those not want him around her house.
Please with due respect to everyone out there to advice me please for God's sake ,my husband should not be insulted just need matured advice
Thanks Stella .
*Dunno what to say,just upset that a child is being treated like this..............
Why did you settle for a life that shuts out your child?it is so unfair,that boy is growing up without parental love,i can imagine how he will turn out to be .....
If you dont do anything now,you will end up with more problems as he grows up cos he might join bad gangs and hang out where he thinks he is loved....
why dont you give him up for adoption?it would be better at this stage!
If your man doesnt want your child around him,that means your kids will NEVER bound as siblings...
Give him up for adoption please so that he can have some love in his life...
I just imagined that the little teen does not even have anyone to sit down and run over his homework with him...damn!!!
But you told your hubby that the son will attend a boarding house while still dating. Please gather money and send him to a boarding house, that's the best bet
ReplyDelete*Larry was here*
The stupid husband will still.give the poor boy a tough time during holidays , just doesnt want him in their lives ni jare
DeletePoster, you are very stupid to have accepted that term that shuts out your son, i’m a young single mother too and any man that comes into my life must first accept my child. Infact, he must first win the heart of my son before I agree to anything. Just make sure you put your foot down before your son grows up hating you.
DeleteHolidays are not long. And she can enroll the boy for summer camp or holiday coaching
DeleteThis is the problem of hurried courtship or no courtship at all.
DeleteYou quickly got pregnant before marriage, no bargain with the
prospective husband as to the welfare of your son. How can such
a man say that he "loves" you? You are responsible for where you
landed yourself and this innocent child. . . all for your selfishness
in wanting to marry any available man.
Please lady, whatever you decide to do, be sure the boy has a phone; so that
you'd be calling him to ascertain his welfare. Adoption should be on the
condition that the boy should know his biological mother. You will probably
regret it if you do not keep contact with this boy who has been a part of you
till this age. He has passed the age of simply "give away".
Poster put yourself in your son's shoe, see the way you are tossing him around ehhh. Can't you leave that man and take care of your kids yourself? Your hubby is wicked, I wish I could just take that boy from you, I honestly wish I could.
DeleteNa wa!
Stupid is a small word. She is insane. Because of a man you abandoned your son. What if he joins bad gang or even molested and mistreated. Oh.. You think it's only women tbat are been raped... Ok o. May God help the innocent boy
DeleteI am just angry at this poster, walahi I want to abuse your hubby, how can you see a young child that has no place to live and you still reject him, he doesn’t have yo feed him, just give him a place to sleep fa.
DeletePlease look for money and send him to boarding school, then to your fathers during the holidays, abeg, I don’t even know what to say but your hubby is a wicked man, does he think he will love forever? Does he know who will raise his kids if he isn’t here tomorrow? Please show him this write up cus he is wicked, so he is deriving pleasure seeing you ethos worried? My hubby cannot see me unhappy and not look for a solution, especially when he has the means, Who did you marry? Well no be belle make una do wedding, this is what you get from unplanned events mtvhew
I am so angry cus I know what his future can become, he can become a hardened criminal or a boy who will be so successful but will not know how to show love. My friends ex boyfriend was from a background like this, he is so successful but he can’t show love, he uses all his time in making money cus he never wants to depend on anyone in his life, he can’t even hold a relationship cus he doesn’t know how to love.
Dear Jesus help this boy
Poster you are a wicked woman. You have chosen your new husband over your child. How can you date a man who doesn't want your son around him, you even get pregnant and married him. You said we shouldn't Insult your husband but I am going to Insult him now. Your husband is a foolish man and you are more foolish for still living with such an evil man because of prick. Keep choosing prick over your son. I wonder how you sleep at night knowing your son is suffering where ever he is. Nobody knows tomorrow, that boy can become great in life. If tomorrow that child doesn't take care of you in old age, then blame yourself. I hope prick will take care of you. I am tired of you women who chose prick over your kids. If anything make me become a single mother in future, I will marry a man who will love me and the child equally. I can't let my child to suffer because of a prick
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DeleteHolidays aren't long. She can device a coping mechanism for the holiday. And he might behave better knowing that he only has to cope with the boy for a short period. Also, get him a guardian in boarding school and explain your situation to him/her. Try to visit more often than normal and also explain to the child. Stop carrying him upandan without an explanation. He is old enough to understand. Please have a one-on-one with him and tell him that you love him but you need time to sort things out. Once you wean your baby, search for a job and take care of your son.
But should I tell you what I will do if I were you? I will ask my husband for a break to be with my son until i can cater to him. I will tell him I love my son and don't want to keep keeping him carelessly with people. Aren't we reading about Yahoo boys today? I wont want my son to grow without motherly care? I will leave his house for a while, even if it means me going back to my parents with both children. Walaahi! If the man has ANY atom of good in him, he will think on his actions. I think you are still trying to 'play safe' with this child. Love doesn't play safe my dear, put up a fight for your son. I would cry and beg if I have to but won't leave my dear son.
Then again, that's why I would do right?
*what I would do*
DeleteYou are a big fool for choosing the stupid man over your child. You must suffer from low self esteem and you think having a child out of wedlock is a disease. I have two kids and their father was a living dead but he finally died and I can never trade my kids for any man no matter what. Infact I choose them over any man any time any day they didn’t ask to be born and God forbid I let them suffer and be tossed from strangers to strangers. When I left their father I was broke, penniless and neck deep in debt but not once did it cross my mind to ditch them infact when I meet a man and he starts giving conditions abt my kids I just drop him like hot potato. The kid is an extension of you and if he can’t move him he’s a bastard. I don’t mind giving that boy a home and I will keep him far away from your selfish ass and your wicked inhuman husband
DeleteHer husband is not wicked she is stupid and wicked Nd weak your own child you carried for 9 months your blood. The worst part is how you're dressing him.if you don't take care of that I swear to you that your married will fail, you will never amount to anything in life.everybody will turn their backs on you. If you think am joking tried me and see. Ewu
DeleteFoolish woman you don't deserve to be a mother you are a disgrace
DeleteHow can a man from no where tell you want to do with your child blood fresh. Madam you're a fool
DeleteUnless woman don't go take your child. That man can leave you tomorrow but not your child
DeleteWhatsoever you do to the least of my brothers, that you do unto me. I say the above to make a point. Your husband is a ***********. Let me not curse, I am fasting. How would you treat my child if you can treat another of your children like this. It means, God forbid, if he dies and you meet someone else, this is how you’d toss his own kids uppandan. He better pray God does not show him that he is indeed GOD. Forget my son sef, that one is too deep. If you cannot accept my dog fam, Izz over. Things that matter to you should matter to your husband and vice versa. I have been in a relationship for 4yrs and bobo is forever fussing about my dog, taking him out and buying all the nonsense in the world for him. But guess what, if my man likes my dog, how much is he gonna love my kids? Too much.
DeleteLet me start by asking you what do you want? A married woman or a mother? If it's a married woman are you sure you won't be divorced? And if it's a mothers put ur self in the boys shoes. Ur husband has no role in this whahala, he is just a 4th party. But however he played you and you played him. So let's play a game, talk to your son, tell him you love him and life has not been fair to both of you. But he should plz hang on for mummy. Tell him life is hard and people avoid taking in extra mouth to feed, tell him that's is not bad, but it's not just right, people have problems of their own just like the one both of you have, but you guys will never shy away from your problem, you will fight it to the ground. Tell him you don't have a job, but you will do everything it takes to get him back and you guys will live and be happy as one. No, job but you need people to live for now. So what ever happens mummy loves him. He should hang on. Promise him you have a plan. So what ever life gives him now he should be strong for both of you. Now the game I want you to play is simple start looking for a job or ask your husband to give you some money to start a business so you can have somethings doing and also to assist him financially. When you have gotten any of that, you strike a new deal with your husband or you divorce him. Remember you have a child for him so he will have no choice but to pay you alimony for his child. With the little you are making plus the alimony you can live with both kids and be happy. Though you never told us why you can't take the boy to your own parents.
DeleteUnless woman don't go take your child. That man can leave you tomorrow but not your child
DeleteBut wait! Didn't you discuss properly about your son's welfare with your husband so you could have an option of not marrying him if your son wasn't included? Why on earth would your husband not want to have you keep your child with you. That is so unfair of him. Right now It is complicated. Left to me my son goes anywhere with me, be it the prince's house.
ReplyDeleteWhat do you mean by “should I leave the boy” who is “the boy”? Isn’t he your child, you should have discussed this with your hubby, that your son would leave with you, you shouldn’t have dragged others into it, you should have made him know there’s no where else he can stay, even if he had to sign a contract. I heard a story (actually a testimony) about a boy that wasn’t accepted by his people, he grew up looking for acceptance and love everywhere that he ended up with the wrong type of friends, children like that are easily drawn to useles gangs which may end up being your end.
DeleteI think you should go to your fathers house for a while, discuss things with him, and let them know you will be providing his needs, always let him know you love him, try and get a job as soon as possible so if you have to leave your hubby then do so. That child needs love
Did you say we should not insult your foolish selfish husband? both of una know well.What kind of mother are yoi? When he knew he couldn't cope with your baggage,why did he marry you and why did you accept?
DeletePoor boy is suffering, you are tossing him from one place to another. Has it ever occured to you that your son that you refer to as the boy is suffering? Your son needs you for crying out loud. He didn't ask to come to the world. You brought and you are responsible for him.
Stop tossing him around because a stupid man that may leave you or betray you.
Tomorrow when that boy becomes successful and cuts you off, you will remember you are his mother and be lamenting.
Listen, I don't know how you will do it, whether prayers or boarding or crying to your husband or fighting him , just bring your son back home, let him live with you. If your husband rejects him then he doesn't love you.
If you don't do this, I promise you will regret this decision of yours pretty soon.
I pity the little boy.
ReplyDeleteI pity how nobody wants him.
Nobody loves him.
I wonder how he will feel being tossed around.
if God helps him survive n he doesn't go into crime n becomes a big shot tomorrow, everyone that rejects him will want a piece of his money then o...
Trust me, this boy will not forget how everyone is rejecting him.
What a tight spot...
Talk to ur father about d money...
Damn, I always say 98% of step mothers are wicked.
I pity this boy...honestly I do.
I pity the poor boy but this poster is a useless mother, she's selfish. She even dey talk say make dem no insult her husband. This ur husband is aware u have a child so what stop him from accepting d boy if he really loves u?
DeleteAny man that will reject my son will not cross my path in Jesus name
Chaiii..this your comment brought tears to my eyes.. I don't like seeing innocent children rejected by their families. That's why I must ensure I adopt the one my cousin has rejected bcos of her hunchback.
DeleteWomen wake up..you shouldn't have any business with any man that doesn't want your child.
God bless you princess you'll never lack in Jesus name amen.the boys mother is a failed mum a lazy fool. Her type can die cos of marriage. Bastard mother may she never eat the fruit of that boy in Jesus name amen. I will reject marriage from a prince if he maltreat my child talk less of all this hungry husbands I will first break your before I leave for rejecting my child. Bastard mother
DeletePoster, dont you ve parents anymore? Take ur son to them , since ur stupid husband n the useless father don't want to accept him.
DeletePoster sorry to say this but you don't have a husband. The man doesn't love you if not he won't be treating your son like that. How can a man love you and can't love your child? That man is evil and you are desperate that is why you married him. You must be called a MRS even if it means your son suffering. Poster you are wicked and may that prick kill you since you can't open your eyes and take your son to live with you. Better tell your husband to let your son move back to the house and treat him nicely if truly he loves you else you will divorce him. Well I know you won't be able to say that to your husband because you are scared of not being a MRS and you love prick more than your son. Some women are not worth being a mother. I feel for that innocent child
DeleteI honestly Pity the poor boy. Growing up with no love and bin rejected. It's paining me that the mother is choosing her husband over the poor boy. If he becomes rich later in life that's when they will remember he is my son. So annoying
DeleteYou dey say step mums are wicked,isn't the boy's mum more wicked.
DeleteMy dear... indeed if he becomes a big shot tommorow they will line up. Many people judged Meghan Markle, but we don't know the full story! Do we know if she was tossed around and was constantly trying to find a love space with her step siblings? Being that she's the child from 'the black woman'? I won't join that bandwagon!!
DeleteMost armed robbers,kidnappers etc are children born out of wedlock or children from a broken home!...
ReplyDeleteI don’t know why prick controls some women this much!...
No man would make me leave my child!!...
Never!...
I would rather stay single raising my child or children than to allow them suffer!...
God forbid!...
Husband can divorce you BUT your child can never leave you!!...
If I were you,I will leave that marriage and take care of my two children my self!...
A man that doesn’t want your child is your enemy!...
WORD queen WORD
DeleteThis is the best thing you have ever said Queen.
DeleteThis here is the truth. How can you put up with a man that doesnt want someone from you??
Dont bring up a child that would hate the world because of you.
Please and please, do not put him up for adoption. That would be terrible.
Let your "husband" know that he has to accept ALL your children, or let you go with them all.
This is sad really. No one can cater for your kids like you. No One
Thank you the Queen. Nice one . or follow Stella advise. Stop punishing dis boy for ur mistake abeg
DeleteYou dey mind d ode, she even talk say make dem no insult her husband
DeleteUr child should be ur priority not ur husband
True yarn my dear especially @ya last statement. If your hubby loves you enough, he will as well accept that child into his home whole heartedly. Whats there..
DeletePoster Queen has said it all. Please take her advice.
DeleteYou prefer that wicked man you're living with than your own flesh and blood? Poster even you is a wicked woman.
Do you know I cried reading your post? I can imagine what that boy is passing through. Please give me the boy,don't even pay #0 I will take care of him. I'm very serious.
Please take Queen's advice
My Queen may you live long..
Delete@poster,pls kindly give the child to @fan Emma.
Woow..am in tears reading this. Every child deserves parental love...i can imagine d height of rejection your son would be feeling at this point. No one can take care of your child like you would. Queen was hundred percent right this time. This horseband of your can decide to cheat on u and leave you tomorrow but a child you raised well would never forget you. Please don't be selfish with your decision. Your son is still quite young and very impressionable. It's very dangerous sending him around d way you are doing. You are not there. You dont know what hes learning there or if hes been maltreated. Please your child should be your priority over any man. I understand how difficult it is for you not having a job atm. But please make plans to be your child
DeleteSerious ode I
DeleteAnd she said nobody should insult her husband. Poster you are an idiot and your husband is worse than death. Both of you don't deserve children.
DeleteThank you queen but we know she will not take this advice.
That your husband doesn't love you at all and you know it. Poster fear God and chose your son over this your useless husband. No man is worth it. Better be a single mum than being a terrible and wicked mum
DeleteExactly @a man that doesn't want your child is your enemy. Poster, pls do everything u can to be with your child. Even if it means leaving your marriage!
DeleteI am in tears and shaking seriously as I am reading this! Nobody deserves to be treated the way you have treated your own child you brought into this earth. Wouldn't it have been better to abort him?? Why woman why??? Gosh this is so heart breaking!!! Because you want to be married? No responsible woman will abandon her own child for a man, a man that loves you will love your flesh too. You're a terrible person I don't want to curse you but please I beg you in the name of anything you hold dear please take your son leave that man and take care of your children please I'm begging you.
DeleteYou should take Linda' s advice. Never thought a day would come when I would agree with her totally. It's very unfair what that child is going through. Why did you have him only to toss him about? An abortion would have been excused it was rape. You better love that child and take care of him if not God forbid wahala awaits you in the nearest future. God forbid again. As for the man you call a husband, I have no strength to waste on him.
DeleteI won't say the husband is wicked because same thing goes for women they won't accept the husbands child either the mistake is from you poster you, you got raped is that why you yourself is not accepting your own child if not you didn't learn lesson from getting raped you opened your legs before marriage condom no dey or you even got pregnant intentionally all in the name of marriage and to a man who does not accept your child I do not blame the man you must have brushed the boy aside saying he is going to boarding school to keep the man because you ignore the fact that he was not going to accept the boy. Many other women are looking for children to have as there own if you have any atom of love for this boy and cannot let go of prick better give him up for adoption abeg so that he will not join bad gang
DeleteMadame your son needs all the love and care he can get right now, your his mother perform your motherly duties bring your son back home, if your husband starts with the attitude clear him in that aspect, its your home you have a say in it,with time your husband would learn to respect your decision if your husband accepts you he should accept your son too nothing less of it, stop taking that boy from house to house he deserves a home your home.
ReplyDeleteThe young boy is 13 already. This is the time he needs reasonable adults around him. You all are pushing him away to a place where you won't like what he might turn out to be. You are damaging him psychologically. Please don't do that to that young boy. You are the mother for goodness sake plead with your husband to let him stay. Why does he find it difficult. Don't turn your back on your own child madam only God knows tomorrow.
ReplyDeleteI really wonder how men can be so wicked.
DeleteHow does the boy's presence tamper with his peace??
Yet, women would be expected to accept any outside offspring of a man.
This life sef.
Madam, how do you sleep at night?
DeleteAre you not worried about your son's welfare,his academics,his health,the kind of company he is keeping,his future?
Are you able to look him in the eyes? Where is your conscience? Do you know what he is going through? do you know if he feeds? What is your husband afraid of??
If I am put in a position where I have to choose btw my husband and child, I will choose my child.
Is it this men that are so unreliable and selfish that you sacrifice your child for?
Do you know that if it were your husband he will bring hia child home and force you to take care of him?
See how you turned your child to a play thing, go here, go there, dump him there.A child you should be cooking for. A child that will rather be with you even if it means you guys soaking garri together.
Go and pick your son wherever you dumped him if you want peace in your marriage cuz you are playing with fire. I really pity you.
Honestly .. I just feel for the kid
DeletePoor kid 😥
So sad!!! I think Stella has said it all. But again if you are a committed member in a local church and you inform them about this, I think a good family may decide to help out. It may not necessary be an adoption. I have seen families with kids who have done things like this.
ReplyDeletetalk your own..
Deletewhy including "stella has said it all"
Said what all??
DeleteDo you know the state of adoption centers in Nigeria?
Poster please dont try giving that boy up for adoption. You are NOT left with zero options...maintain your ground and keep him with you!
Its painful really that you dont love him enough, to make drastic decisions for his sake!
He doesnt deserve all these!!
Awon follow follow talk.No be only Stella said it all,shior
DeleteSo you all coming understand to vent your frustration you didn't see where I wrote but again....... You will all die of envy very soon if you people continue this way.
DeleteReally? So she should give a 13 years old child up for adoption when she is still alive. That will break the boy's heart the more. The boy is going through alot now and He already knows his mum and dad are alive. I just wish poster can do the right thing by taking the boy back without giving a fuck about what her evil husband will say or do.
DeletePerson never chop finish, youre talking of helping out with homework!
ReplyDeleteAnd poster, i blame your parents in all this, if they acted as parents things wouldnt be this way for their grandchild, some parents are too mumu, how can you shut out the man that put your daughter in a family way, & its not like you have the means to bring up that child, its so unfortunate this is happening to a helpless child that didnt ask to be born into this cruel world.
And poster, i can swear you werent raped, you under aged horny girls claim rape... na lie, you fucked with him more than once, consensual fuck!!
And what are you saying we shouldnt insult your husband eh, the both of you are fools, big fools, you posyer seem to be a bigger fool for letting a man put u in that position to choose, and u stupidly threw out your flesh and blood, tueh, MUMU... after he pretended and agreed to accomodate the kid.
And ure still shielding that man, see why women shouldnt be jobless? cus hes feeding you na, you put your son in a war, imbecile....
God bless you...you re so right. So many things doesn't add up. If you were raped your folks should have given u something to prevent the pregnancy esp if they found out on time.
DeleteU got pregnant at a young age, you were not raped I can bet on that. U were raped and yet u had the number of ya rapist much later? Iranu.
From all what I have seen. The issue is from your upbringing. Not sure u grew up with Love and care around u else u won't treat ya child like that.
To even think u got pregnant before u marries this ya current hubby...na wa o.
I for bring tribe into this but make I respect myself..cos na one part tribe dey always do these things.
Lol, you are so right. She wasn't raped at all. She likes prick too much. She still haven't learnt any lesson if not she won't be making her son suffer because of prick(her so called husband). I pray that man divorce her so she can have sense and know that prick is not everything. Your own flesh and blood over prick. Poster you are a useless woman and I am sure that her baby daddy knows.
DeleteHahahaha you really said everything. I don't waste my comment. That your boy will turn around and kill both of you in the future....
DeleteWhere did it go wrong with women like this?? This is probably the second time I'll read such a pathetic story about a woman choosing her man/husband over a child she had with someone else. Is that fool of a husband more important to you than the fruit ofnypur womb? What is wrong with you? You have become dependant on the acceptance of this man that you are willing to feed your own flesh and blood to the cold hands of the unknown. That boy was given to you(no matter the circumstance in which he was conceived) to care for and nurture. I pray for your sake he doesn't grow up to be a dilinquent to society and blame you for how his life turned out. Women!! Please don't ever choose anyone over your children. Men/a husband can come and go but the birth of your loins are yours forever. If that man leaves you, will you die? I can't stand women like you. To that husband of yours, he is a nasty, horrible individual. Look at you even saying people should not abuse him.
ReplyDeleteThis poster is a wicked woman. If I can not abuse the animal you're living with then you will take all the blame. Poster you are a WICKED WOMAN
DeleteYet God gave her another child poster I'm in banana island coman beat me you and your husband are bastards Amadioha punish two of you. I curse that your useles broke marriage in Jesus name. Bastard woman
DeleteMy dear, some women dey surprise me oh. She is more wicked that the husband. I thought mothers are known to be very protective of their children. Even animals don't joke with their babies and then a normal woman will decide to stay with a useless man who doesn't love her child. Chaii, I am so angry right now. May God forgive you poster
DeleteWicked people. Your husband , the boys father n step mother including you are wicked people. Why did you have the child at 15 after the rape to make him suffer this way? Nothing should happen to that child? Weather you will go to the market n sell pure water for this boy to feed. Do it. No use pregnancy as an excuse. Stella you are talking about homework. If feeding is a problem is it school fee she will pay? That child never ask for all this? What ever you should do to take care of your child do it.
ReplyDeleteThis poster is heartless. Can you imagine what a woman has subjected her child into because of her selfish interest. Poster thunder fire you
DeleteHonestly poster, I'm tempted to call you a wicked woman. See how you keep qualifying your son with 'the boy's, I feel really sorry for him. As far as I am concerned, you are not any different from y9ur useless husband. How could you pick a man over your child? If you keep tossing that child around ehn, you will live to regret it because that boy will grow up to resent you. At 13, he is already grown up enough to understand everything happening. Sit Down there you here. My dad died before I clocked 4, I have a younger brother. Over the next few years, my mum had the opportunity of remarrying but she DIDN'T. She always said she doesn't want her children to suffer in another man's house for what they didn't do. It was not easy for her, she was jobless for years but kept on struggling and didn't compromise. And for that I will live to always appreciate her sacrifice. I'm sure this your husband is a broke man sef cos you don't sound like someone who is enjoying her marriage. So all this is to what end..
DeleteOf course now the husband is a broke idiot because the man can't give her money for her to be sending for the boy's upkeep. She married the man because of prick. Nothing else
Deletethis is so annoying. why will u pass your child around because of a man? A man that will cheat on u, forsake u when things are not going Well. your children are your future n assurance in life as a woman. u need to put yourself together, start making money of your own, put your child with u. Move out of that forsaken bondage u call a marriage, I pray u don't regret it in future. your son can become a president, governor tomorrow, what will be your pride as a woman? Madam, don't leave that boy out because of a man.
ReplyDeletePoster jiri this evening ga kpolata that boy osiso. If the animal you're living with misbehaves carry your children and go back to your papa house then start hustling. The boy is old enough to help you. Even if it's just to be taking care of his younger one while you hustle for them.
DeleteYou are still young,maybe before 35 a good man will come your way. Didn't you see Meghan?
Poster, you are a very selfish mother who put herself first before the innocent child you have birth to! We all know 80% of Nigerian men will never accept your child from a previous relationship wholeheartedly. I'm sure you saw signs but ignored them because of " I must marry". Stop messing up the young man's head, get your add out there and get a job that can take care of you and your kids! Do not sacrifice that boy's future and mental health for any useless marriage, you need to choose, your marriage or your child, it's all up to you.
ReplyDeleteUhm!!! I don't know what to say but to be sincere with you, I can't stay in a relationship that will make me close my eyes to children from my previous marriage. You are all he needs now. Do not expose that little boy to what you would not be able to stand in future. I pray God help you in your decision.
ReplyDeleteDid you say no one should insult your husband? Excuse me but you are stupid and your husband is wicked. Kindly do as Stella said; give the poor child out for adoption. You never love that child anyway, that's why you settle for a life that doesn't favour him.
ReplyDeleteVery wicked, very evil, and very very stupid. Tomorrow when that boy becomes a success, you will be rubbing saliva all over him. I pray he rejects you too.
DeleteDon't mind her. Strong women are hawking opa in pregnancy. Selling groundnut. You are here saying mind you I no get work. N we should not insult the man you married. Don't worry, keep sleeping peacefully why the poor boy suffer
DeleteHonestly u are d most wicked woman on earth...u and datvur useless husband and d father of that child....
ReplyDeleteDid he ask to come into this world u prefer a man to ur child
If that boy becomes something tomorrow u and dat ur long mouth husband will claim him...why are u making dat child feel rejected....i hate u....u are just a wicked woman...tueehhh
I hate her too.Nothing will ever separate me from my child in this world. Nothing!! Poster I HATE YOU
DeleteFan Emanuel half vex ooo. I join you hate am too in fact I loathe her bastard woman and husband
DeletePoster why now? Why did you sacrifice your son bcos of a man? Am very sure your man told you he doesn't want the boy around before marriage and you consented just for the title Mrs.. Hmmmm..you're just like one of my cousin that also abandoned her for son bcos her husband doesn't wanna see the child around them. Am making plans to adopt that child and she has consented to it.
ReplyDeleteSo poster, if you know you don't want that child to grow up and become a community nuisance pls I beg you in the name of God Almighty kindly follow Stella's advice and give up the child for adoption. There are a lot of couple looking for a male child that will be glad to adopt the boy and train him in the way of the Lord.
I just wonder when Nigerian women will have sense..if it was a man that has five children he will marry you and expect you to Carter for his children,that one problem no go dey.. But if it was woman that has a child the man will asked her to sacrifice that child on the alter of marriage or forget about it...
@poster I just hope whatever decision you will take should be in the favour of this innocent boy if not he might end up killing you and your husband in the future (God forbid)!
I put it to you that you are a terrible, terrible, extremely terrible person!
DeleteHow dare you choose that monkey, stupid broke ass thing you call a horseband over your child??
Tufiakwa gi, you are a disgrace to the word 'mother', you are not even concerned of your son being abused, physically, emotionally or even sexually??
I spit on you!
May your kind never come to my lineage, Amen ,Iseeeee!
your marriage is as good as gone, mark my word!
Shameless ass!
mrs indeed.
You were 15yrs old, and he easily manipulated you, and had his way... dont term it rape! You agreed, & i can swear it was more than once.
ReplyDeleteWomen Don suffer.
ReplyDeleteI am a single parent and in a relationship which is alter bound.From day one I have told oga that if my kids are not going to be in this relationship and live with me then I am not worth being in a relationship as these are my future investment. He has come to love my kids and introduces them to anyone who cares to listen as his own children. If tomorrow he changes because he feels I have finally had children with him...OYO will be his case cos I will move out with all the children.No child deserves to suffer because I FOUND LOVE.
ReplyDeleteGod bless you
DeletePls don't trust men bcos when in future you bear him a child and he starts rejecting your other children it won't be easy for you to carry out all that you have put in there..... Pls remain single and take care of your kids.
DeleteThank you jare that's how a real mother sounds not this sorry excuse of a mother . Bastard
DeleteI love you Anon. Tell this idiot poster abeg.
DeleteMay you live long and may you enjoy th fruit of your labour. You are a good woman and I pray God will continue to provide for you and your kids.
DeleteGod bless you ..you are a good mother
DeleteI doubt I have any advice but I picked a lesson from this, I must either use protection or abstain entirely from sex.
ReplyDeleteJust see how this child is being tossed around for no fault of his.
And his father is obviously ashamed of him ,given the circumstances surrounding his conception.
Can't he stay with any of your siblings, parents or even grand parents?
I would have advised you send him to either an orphanage / motherless babies home but you 'is'too broke to even afford his upkeep bills.
God forbid I expose my children to such experiences because of a few minutes of fun.
Still appeal to your husband tho
Madam you brought this upon yourself. You sacrificed your child's happiness for marriage. As you lay your bed so you lie on it. From the start of your relationship you should have ensured, your hubby accept your child or you move on. Now you are tormenting your child and making it seem like your hubby accepting him is a favour. Better give yourself brain before that child turns against you.
DeleteThat ur marriage go last so?
ReplyDeleteAsk am. Foolish woman asking us to spare her wicked horseband. If tables were switched I'm sure this woman would gladly accept his son. What women endure in the name of marriage.
Deletelmaooooooooooooo
DeleteLove me love my dog! Please madam, take care of your son at ALL cost!!! Men are selfish! Don't turn your son to a motherless, homeless child when you are alive.
ReplyDeleteI felt so sad reading this,your son doesn't deserve this.Can you look for a boarding school and beg your husband to allow him come for holiday?or he should be staying with your dad during the holiday at least he won't starve there and you don't have to pay for his feeding.Sincerely,your husband is not a good person (I'm sorry)but it is the truth.
ReplyDeleteWhy are mothers these days giving up their children for marriage? Hian! I don't see any truth what you said, he gave you a condition to marry you without your child and you accepted. You choose to pay 10k in place of your love, 9months,labour pain, a child you shared everything with without knowing him for a ring. Darling carry the guilt on your conscience alone.
ReplyDeleteMadam stop been a weakling and take your child back home. Bring your child back home and talk to your husband.Tell him that if he will not let you keep your child in your home then the marriage should just come to an end.
ReplyDeleteHow dare you pick a man over your own child, you are a wicked and heartless woman...so because you want to bear Mrs by force you allow your child be passes around like a piece of thrash.
Go and get your son and ndukka bring him to your house....your husbands house is equally your house,don't be stupid and let a man make you enemies with your child
LEP😛
I would not insult your husband but insult you. You are a big fool!!!!! Look at this retard??!!!! You threw your CHILD to the dogs and you think it would be well with you and your disaster of a marriage??? Why is your husband who cannot accept your flesh and blood more important than your child. Oh! I pity you. First of all just prepare yourself because he would give you another ultimatum soon and I do not see your marriage lasting. If your brain is still in your skull better go and get your child or put him up for adoption! Anuofia like you. Maka nwoke you abandon the boy you carried for 9months. Idiot! You were too desperate to be married and your head refused to think straight so you decided to throw your child away. Even if you don't have money why can't you take the boy's father to court and fight for upkeep. Look at you running about looking for where to dump your CHILD and you have the guts to say we shouldn't insult your horseband, EWU!
ReplyDeleteNo mind the idiot.stupid woman
DeleteGo and get your child. Explain to him that he should ignore your husband for now and just wait till time for school. Your child will be happy with you . When your husband is around just keep your child out of his way. He will be alright
ReplyDeleteJust look at how you're damaging this boy?
ReplyDeleteYou shouldn't have married someone who wouldn't accept your blood.
If this boy turns out badly tomorrow, he'll never forgive you.
Lol, so you don't want her to be called a MRS. Poster is a useless woman. Playing with your son's future because of a useless marriage that won't last. Your husband is a broke bastard. Evil couple
DeletePoster your husband is not to blame but you. You are wicked. You discussed with your husband before marriage and you saw clearly that he did not want to see the boy in his house but because you want to marry by force, you told him you would put in a boarding school and he would spend his holidays in your cousin's place. In this hard times, who among family members do you think will accept to feed and house him for free? Why did you lie to the man and want him to accept the boy now? You saw that he doesn't want that boy in his life right from the beginning but you went ahead and married him. Msheeeeew.
ReplyDeleteI'm just angry at what you did. I can't trade my son for even prince Harry. I prefer to suffer with him than enjoy alone and he gets passed around like an unwanted object.
Madame! I believe you don't want to regret your actions in future. You might need to divorce your husband . A good husband buys the whole package...everything. You don't want a child who hates your existence Madame. The story annoys the shut outta me. This a child we are talking about please.......a future President, doctor, governor, world saver, etc. Did you watch the royal wedding? Did you see Meghans mom? Madame, that could be you.... Think it through. ...very well. That man has no utter of love or respect for you
ReplyDeleteMy dear that woman won't divorce her useless husband because she must be called a MRS. Her baby daddy is married so she want to pepper them. Some women will chose marriage and prick over their child. Na real wah
Deletethank you..she wants to pepper her ex and bear mrs but this is a life we are talking about, a precious innocent boy who did nothing to deserve this.i was once in your shoes poster.i got married and my ex left when my boy was 3 months old,i was a single mum for 4 years till i met another fellow who promised heaven and earth and also be a fantastic father to my child.after 3 months of dating..uncle suggested we relocate and leave my child with my parents till we find our footings in the new land.i dumped him and never looked back,yes he might have been genuine in his intentions (but what are the odds of us coming back )and yes some parents leave their kids when they relocate but if there is one thing i have learnt from my peers in the boarding house who had parents in the 'abroad' was the feeling of being abandoned.no amount of expensive gifts and cash could erase that.whats the point of my long epistle...your kids must always come first.i am amazed your brain picked that horrible man over your son.like i just cant imagine
DeleteMadame! I believe you don't want to regret your actions in future. You might need to divorce your husband . A good husband buys the whole package...everything. You don't want a child who hates your existence Madame. The story annoys the shut outta me. This a child we are talking about please.......a future President, doctor, governor, world saver, etc. Did you watch the royal wedding? Did you see Meghans mom? Madame, that could be you.... Think it through. ...very well. That man has no utter of love or respect for you
ReplyDeleteThe thought of your son being tossed around broke my heart. From the moment he asked about your plans for your son,you should have known what his take on your son was. My son comes before any man and that's it. You don't love your son enough if not you won't put a man before him.
ReplyDeleteI am sure your busy eating three square meal a day nd u probably don't even know if your son has eaten. Look at what are saying. So you want to dump your son with a single mother with no job nd also no upkeep from you. Do you know how bad she will be maltreating your son bcus of frustration. I am sure while you nd your husband were dating he didn't even like your son that is what even made you to consider boarding school in the first place.
ReplyDeleteI'm so angry right now , how can you love a man or stay with a man like that? If the tables were turned would he throw away his son?Is marriage everything? See the wonderful seed you have brought into the world that you can make into a great man you choose to allow him go through something he didn't bring on himself that could damage his destiny..may God by his love and grace keep that Boy..
ReplyDeletePoster that your husband is self centered, I don't think his love for you is real. Why not sit him down and talk to him with tears. If he loves you a bit, he will change his mind. Please try and look for something to do ok, it will help you solve all this fast, maybe you will start contributing for house expenses.
ReplyDeletemadam, I'd try not to insult you but you are wicked. I mean very wicked. How do you have sex with a man who has rejected a part of you?
DeleteBecause you didn't want to lose him, you quickly opined that he your child would go to boarding school or stay in a cousin's house. Honestly, you no try at all. The 10k you pay every month should have been used to sort out his boarding fees. Your husband isn't interested to help because he feels it's none of his business. Yet you give him three square meals daily. How happy can he be when you are unhappy?
To crown it all, you dumped your son with the sister of the same man who didn't care about his son for 13 years and who's not still interested in how the boy fares.What if they poison him?How would you feel if you are rejected by your biological parents because they are self centered? Or you think he doesn't understand everything that is happening?
Better fight for your son, all these excuses you are giving is irrelevant really. Your present husband doesn't truly love you. If it were his child from a previous relationship or marriage, would loving them not be a condition for marrying you? I think you also have esteem problem. Just hope you find yourself soon.
Chei,the way d poster talks about d boy,u will know she will even forsake him for a lollipop.see how u dont want ur horseband to be insulted,that's ur priority.I know u can't breathe without him.a man dat knows u value ur child won't treat ur kid anyhow.ur horseband saw it since dat u r desperate for marriage and would even feed ur own son to d pigs if he asks u to,dats why he is like this.you r a wicked woman,I hope dat man leaves ur ass and I pray ur son becomes successful in life so dat he can turn his back on ur old wicked ass.
ReplyDeleteI wish there was a like button to your comment
DeleteI wish he would kill her sef
DeleteGod bless you @anonymous 16:25. I pray that her stupid marriage scatter. I pray the evil husband start cheating on her. She the poster is also evil and her baby daddy knows she is useless that is why he ran away from her. Some men can perceive from afar a woman that is going to be a responsible mother to their kids, that is why most of them ran away when this women tell them they are pregnant for them. Who want a useless woman to the the mother of his kids? Poster go and ask your son for forgiveness and take me back with you. Also put it at the back of your mind that your husband doesn't love you and he sees you as a desperate woman who wants to bear the title MRS by fire by force.
DeletePoster you caused it. you never spoke extensively with your husband about your son, aside you, the only person that can take care of him is your mum or siblings. That boy needs to be taken care of, talk to your husband, it could be his child turn tomorrow. That boy is too young to be going through this.
ReplyDeleteMadam. I'm a single mom of one and my boyfriend has been supportive. He loves my daughter like she's his. How can you settle for a man that doesn't want your child around? Considering the story surrounding his birth. I feel for the poor boy. Pls give him up for adoption
ReplyDeleteThey don't understand that the best thing any mother of a child from rape or horrific circumstances can do is to quietly & quickly put that child for adoption!!!
DeleteThey don't celebrate loveless life (children born out of terrible experience) anywhere in those circumstances !!!
Adoption will help the child to erase any contact, memories, attachment, knowledge, history behind how they came into this world. And give them a chance for a bright future to experience or have a totally different kind of life, be around different type of human beings that is completely opposite to where they originally come from.
ADOPTION IS LIFE SAVER IN DIFFERENT SHAPES!!!
80% of all chronicles would not have happened if the woman had/has a job. All the chronicles. FIN, Joro,BOM. All of them.
ReplyDeleteThe problem I have with Stella's advice is that this woman looks like the kind of person who will start disturbing the adoptive parents later in life when the boy becomes something. Also, a woman with her sense of judgement may fall into the hands of child traffickers. I doubt she knows the correct adoption procedures.
My advice to the OP is that you should intensify your efforts to find a job. Get a menial job. Do anything. If you can't, then get in touch with a certified adoption agency.
I am tempted to insult your husband but the fact remains that you were the one who failed to fulfil your part of the agreement. The agreement was: boarding school. You were too excited with that promise you made. It's an unrealistic agreement. There's something mentally wrong with you. You know what it is. Fix it first.
Poster if it is the man's child you would have accepted wholeheartedly, foolish woman that don't have sense. Your 🐴 band and you dey bad.
ReplyDeleteYou want that boy to join bad gang and not have love for anyone because he is bitter, angry with himself of what is going on around him.
Stella how I wish we can fish out this wicked woman and give 20 lashes on cane. Inukwa..... Your own flesh and blood you are still asking us what to, you even open that your dirty mouth to ask is not to insult your hosreband? May God punish you and your husband.
ReplyDeleteBetter go and bring back that innocent boy osisiso!
ChyAdaJesus
You are such an irresponsible mother with very low self esteem.
ReplyDeleteYou hurriedly got pregnant for a man who doesn't love you, just because you are desperate for marriage.
You dont care about your own child, all in your bid to bear the title "mrs".
You dont have love in you, and you deserve the husband you got.
Please listen to Stella, and give that child up for adoption, since he's not on your priority list... i am so angry right now!
Now poster give us three good reasons why your husband doesn't want your son around. Why did you say we shouldn't insult him? why are you covering up for him? he is a very wicked man. Yes! and self centered too. What did d poor child do to him? what will it take him to adopt that little innocent boy? if he really loves you, he will accept the child regardless. He will also love the child as his own. What kinda marriage is that? you are just being careless with your child you don't know tomorrow o. Why are you d only one running around for d safety of the child when his biological father is still alive and living peacefully. God forbid i find myself in your situation, i go put fire for d man body till he surrender. After all, you said he raped you, so he should take responsibilities. Be crying there like a mumu. Nonsense!
ReplyDeleteFabio Dex, the poster is also self centered too.
ReplyDeleteWhen people are looking to children to love and care for, this one is here suffering her own unnecessarily. is your husband your lord and personal saviour that you must do everything to please him? can't you plead with him to accept d child? didn't you discuss it with him before marrying him? why are you trying to paint him white by telling us not to insult him? he doesn't love you and that's the truth. Stop idolizing him! abi the gist nor complete sef.
ReplyDeleteDrop your number under this comment.....all I typed just vanished. Your child can be provided a home and education, at no cost.
ReplyDeleteWhy not contact Stella?
DeleteYou're a WICKED MOTHER!
ReplyDeleteYou're husband is a beast too!
You both fit each other!
Look at the evil woman even planning on leaving the poor child I that house to suffer.
And No! You were not raped. You had consenting sex with the man. You only cooked up the rape story to attract pity from BVs, but as you can see, it's not working.
This is why most men don't take care of their parents in their old age. You begging to wonder why, not knowing they were treated badly during childhood.
I pity you and your so called marriage. I pity you!
*spits on your face*
After having unprotected sex and getting pregnant they will now say abortion is not an option?
ReplyDeleteIt is ok to have sex and get pregnant but when it comes to shouldering responsibilities excuses becomes the order of the day.
A lot of people are against abortion because of their selfishness, as they think they will be punished by God or cursed not to have children and not because of any genuine love!
The same curse that you think follows abortion will also follow you all that bring in children to this world to suffer.
I’m so pained by this chronicle! 13 year old with no love, care, thrown all over the place. If he grows up to be a nuisance to the society, the same people who preach about abortion will be first to show jungle justice!
Abortion is shedding of blood,blood is life,maybe one day you will watch blood drain from you so you will know we are nothing without blood,don't be deceived by fetus is just blood we are all just Blood.
DeleteStupid woman,see her mouth like dont insult my husband. How do you sleep at night knowing your child is a stranger's home? Nigeria women and i must marry mentality..mscheew
ReplyDeleteI am not sure he raped you, you guys were dating and you took in. And you Were not 15 then. You were probably between d ages of 18-23 forming street slay queen. Why didn't your parents arrest him when be got you pregnant and forced him to take responsibility? you guys just moved out of the compound like that abi? story! even when you had the child, why didn't you or your parents look for d father? maybe d guy doesn't trust you. He doesn't wanna believe he is the real father of d child cos He wasn't d only one gbenshing you. you had other boyfriends then. Just give us d full details abeg not this cut and nail story of "he raped me" he raped you, you had d child and you are d only one suffering with d child while the man that raped you is enjoying life. Na so. This one sef nor dey happen for nollywood. Yimu
ReplyDeleteNo mind the idiot. The same way he got pregnant and marry the monster she is with. Leaving her first fruit in the dark. God go punish you if you no go look for that boy. E no force you make you bring am come this earth. Stand up look for capital and start business and stop sleeping. Lazy women. Mrs indeed
DeleteYour husband is self centered and he doesn't love you. If you like cry from now till tomorrow, he won't look at your tears. You already stooped too low for him. You better stand up and do something and at from now till tomorrow, he won't look at your tears. You already stooped too low for him. You better stand up and do something and atop behaving like mumu.. Push and start. Hiss
ReplyDeleteJust recently I was discussing with a friend and she said that any woman that shuts her child out because of a man can kill. Poster mark this day. This marriage you’re giving priority to over this child will bring you tears and pain and eventually lead to your death. The only way to preserve your life is by giving that child the motherly love he deserves. Once you do that, doors of success will be open for you.
ReplyDeleteAsk yourself this. If your husband had a child out of wedlock today, would he alienate the child because he wants to be married to you?
Woman you’re a killer in waiting. I spit on you! Bitch!
All of u telling her to put the boy in boarding school, or those telling her to beg her husband to take him in when she already know the truth there that the cold treatment, emotional, physical and psychological abuse waiting for the boy inside her home is hell fire on earth, you're all equally confused & crazy!!!
ReplyDeleteBut how & where can she afford boarding school, summer camp fees???
She will go to rob bank? Or stand naked in the middle of the road tp beg? Like most nigerian women r doing by prostitution, witchcraft & coporate beggars to train their illegitimate, bastards & abandoned children in shame?
Why not as early as she can now give him up for adoption, before he grow up into a teenager with tormented memories inside his head.
Adoption at early age will give a child a clean slate, new beginning & new identity in life!!!
THIS IS THE REAL MEANING OF MOVING ON....
Madam how do you sleep?? Knowing fully well your child is out there being alone in the cold??? Why are women this stupid. GOD forbid I leave my child becos of one stupid thing called husband. Madam wake up and put your self in your child position???the child never ask you to bring him to the world to suffer!!! Stop punishing him OK. Omg am so pained. Madam stop adding criminals to the society. Go look for that young kid and seat your husband down and talk to him. If u like choose your useless husband over him. I pray u will never know peace if you leave that child in the cold.😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢
ReplyDeleteYou are a very stupid woman. My sister has a son, he lives with my parents and us. We have only one brother so most times we say he is our second brother. That's how much we love him. He is about the same age as your son. His dad came into his life and tried to take him my mum refused ooo, her baby the second son, the one to inherit her wealth with my brother, so he relates with him but lives with us. We cannot let him go into a strange surrounding devoid of us. That's how much we love him. Where is your mother, where are ur siblings. You are evil, you, your husband you married see i got married and my husband knows you want me to love you, love my family family first. You hate them or talk ill of them i don hate you. Much more my own child. Whatever your excuse, its your fault you bore him, you and only you. So stop chilling under AC while he suffers. I am so angry you want to be a mother to your husbands child. You knew that man would not accept him yet i must marry to cover shame fiam you married and did not think of your child. Madam please go and look for a good roof or hands to put your son, if you don't you will regret it. A man that cannot love your child does not love you kapish. I am so angryyyyyyy. Na waitin u born pikin come dey suffer am, you and him plus your husband and his father who suppose suffer. All you other parties especially you and that his useless father.
ReplyDeleteI love ur parents, exactly what mine would do, n i would do the same, no man gonna maltreat my blood in this world...lailai
DeleteUseless women up and down in the name to anewer Mrs! ! God forbid I leave my previous son for a man. If the man don't like your son then he does not love you too. Rubbish
ReplyDeleteMark my words. When you go for that boy, he will disappear. He will go far from you. Become someone great.and you will suffer for it.
ReplyDeleteHe will be monitoring you, but you won't know.
He will make sure he ends up on TV, then you will say "my son, my son!!!" That's the trap he will set for you and your husband.
He will disgrace the daylights out of you all.
You will bring all your village heads, all your pastors, nothing will change.
That's his God works. You have sewn bad seeds in his head, and only you will harvest the fruits.
Your husband is stupid. You are the bigger fool. God go punish you if you no take care of that child. Women like you are the one making this country to have criminals. Most of you women are soo useless. U cnt train nor advise your kids. To any woman in this position!! Collecting pick and lack in the area of good parenting. God go punish una. Some of you, your kids are with you but you and this woman una dey the same position. Spoilt generation because modern woman lack sense.chai
ReplyDeleteYou dey mind modern women,many of them screaming have had an abortion because a man refused to marry them and they allowed their baby's blood to be drained in the name of abortion,yet they are insulting this woman that even allowed the boy to live.
DeleteYou're a fool, go go pick your self esteem in the gutter. Nobody should insult your husband, like he's a saint.
ReplyDeleteI pray that boy dump you later in life because of you and your saint husband is putting him though.
Brainless entities.
Poster you are a useless woman. A disgrace to mothers. How can you be tossing your child around like a piece of trash? How can you not love your son. A teenager for that matter. I'll be surprised if he has not joined a bad gang. If anything happens to that boy,his blood is on your idiotic head. I can't blame your husband,I blame you for not having plans for your child. You quickly got pregnant to trap a man without thinking of the well being of the child you already have. Useless idiot. If I catch you, I'll give you the beating of your life.
ReplyDeleteYou are a fool,period. You and your equally foolish husband will regret this. Your child fa, you are choosing a low life miserable man over him. Someone that will cheat on you or even leave you, a child will never leave you. You just reminded me of the movie White Waters and now I'm crying. You are all that child has and yet you can love him enough to be with him against all odds. Posterity will judge you. And for the fool you call husband, if he treats someone's else child like this how does he think it will be well with him? You both are cursed jare
ReplyDeleteIt will be well with that boy in future and you will so regret it in this life. Jehovah the God of that boy is alive whether he knows God or not. Every tear that boy sheds in secret will locate you except you repent
ReplyDeleteEnter your comment...you are very very foolish for choosing one idiot man over your own child! that boy is innocent! he didn't ask to be born! you are a stupid mother for tossing that innocent child about any man that doesn't want to see my child should go and rot in hell and remain dere,leave that man and take care of your kids, a man can marry another woman but that boy can't have another mother, be wise. let me add, your husband is a fool, I insulted him, coman beat me
ReplyDeleteYou ain't even scared someone male or female might molest him. I'm so scared for him. I must marry will ruin a lot of women in this generation.
ReplyDeleteI have headache reading this story. I have put off replying for about 2hours because I don't want to hurl hurtful words at you. It's unfortunate how you became a mother at attender age....it really is! But pls Poster, your dear son shouldn't be punished for it. He isn't a curse nor a disease. He is a blessing and I would urge u to start seeing him as one.
ReplyDeleteI'm choosing my words carefully because you are a nursing mother. How do you tend to ur new born knowing fully well your first fruit....the child of your youth is out there...
You have blamed everyone else but yourself...The rapist/father of the boy, your father with a 'wicked' step-mom, the boy's aunt, your husband...but you haven't said anything about how irresponsible you have been to have been, knowing your circumstance ...couldn't have a defining discussion with a man about your son before sleeping with him.
I hope you read how kids (sons esp) kill their parents? may this not be your testimony!
My mom ended up having 4kids for 3 different fathers...very sad circumstances and our ages spread out and the best man who's my step-father died while my sister was barely 2 years.
My mum is so beautiful...even in her 70s. She was balling in money but once death ca knocking, it all went away!
I saw my mom hustle! She who had cars and drivers became molue passenger. SHe worked....No..slaved for her kids. She single-handed raised us...She even got a job at the first HMO company in Nigeria then and realised she had no court shoes...we padded the shoes with newspaper & tissue and as she stepped on the road, the shoes flew off as she was walking( we all laughed & cried in secret).
God restored all she lost...currently lives in the UK with all her kids/grandkids.
Even the UK govt back-paid her 4yrs of her pension ( even though the Conservatives had stopped this) and gv her a letter to praise her for being a honest & forthright Brit citizen!!!
Your story can still end in praise, Poster. You don't have to be stuck to a man who feels threatened by an innocent child.
You keep saying you are not working.....whatever you can do, rise up now...strap your baby to your back and go get whatever you can. wash clothes for people....do whatever as long as your kids are safely in your care....u will reap the benefits. Please I appeal to you, be the difference in your son's life...Let him see the sacrifice his mother is willing and ready to take.
Be an abiamo tooto (A mother indeed)! A mother's love is so sacrificial!
May your seeds be great in their time!
God bless you. Im a single mum of a son and you encoraged me.
DeletePoster i was a victim of love. His parents and him loved me but when belle entered they changed at age 1 i came to naija took my son to them the ndxt day they walked us out. I came back to the UK nearly lost my mind but a month later i got an amazing job and i have been there now for over 2 years. The first 2 years was rough but at exactly 2 years in this company i got a better paying job as in i cant explain it. And it has been ALL GOD, i am celibate going on 4 years. Men dey beg to be with me but as a single mum i reject then as dem no dey my level. I get SINGLE guys not even guys with kids begging me but im in no rush i gas to make diz money my sister.
My son is my world and i will wait for the right man but for now i am chasing my dreams and building my own business in Naija.
When they tell you women to be feminist and self sufficlient you wont and even insult women doing well for themselves. See this one abandoning her son. You are a disgrace and common 10k your so called wicked husband can't afford . How do you sleep ......that boy will hate you.
ReplyDeleteWell shes taking your advice Stella dropping everything for her Prince charming ....foolish woman. Better insist on him staying with you.
ReplyDeleteAll you people blaming the poster's husband are mad. I repeat you are all MAD!!! Is the boy his son???is he his responsibility? Abi the boy papa no dey alive. Poster go and drop the boy with his father. Let his father take care of him.Your husband is blameless.All these people blaming your husband will do worse if in his shoes. I repeat take that boy to his father.YOU have tried.
ReplyDeleteYou are the worthless man
Delete..hahahaha. you seem angry hahahah birds of a feather....smh
You are the one who is not thinking straight. So as the biological dad does nor want him, then she should also reject him? You are ridiculous! I can't believe how people like you reason. The worse thing is you think you are smart.
DeleteAny other life threatening reason will be a tenable excuse for making your child suffer emotionally and etc. Poster you are grossly selfish and have sinned against that child. Must you marry? Why didn't you ensure you had him secure with a proper agreement with your wimp of a husband? If roles were reversed won't you be taking care of his children? Why are you this thoughtless and careless with your own blood? If that child grows and determines to punish you do you know he will be justified? Now you have put yourself in a bad position as you have baby number 2 and stand the risk of breaking your marriage and be saddled with another baby if You now decide to stand your ground and have your son with you(WHICH IS WHAT YOU SHOULD DO!!!!!!!!!!) You no try at all. You are the wicked one not your onuku husband. He is just a stupid moron you settled for.
ReplyDeleteMadam look for someone that needs a house help and give him out but on the agreement that he will be going to school. No one knows tomorrow the rejected stone can turn out to be the chief corner of the house. A nobody today can become a somebody tomorrow be mindful on how you treat ur own child that a lot of women are looking for.
ReplyDeletePoster you are just punishing your son for your wrong doings. I don't think you love your son. If you love your son so well that man that you call husband will have no option than to love him. Mtcheeew
ReplyDeleteAs a mother, No-one would make me give up the child i pushed out. NOONE!!! I cant believe you actually sent your child out. After going through pregnancy and labour??? Naaaa if u must love me, u gotta love my child even more I am sorry. Without a man you would survive, Your child is your flesh and blood no matter the circumstance he came. You should be more worried in getting a good job to take care of u both than settle for a husband who cannot accept your child. Gosh, your son dint beg you to bring him into the world oh. Tomorrow, God forbid you can get divorced, then what? you would run to your son? or when you hear your son is now the next Dangote you will now remember he is your son and start acting like Meghan Markles family claiming her because she is now marrying a royal. Children are one of the best gifts from God. He cant give you something you cant handle... Love yourself and your son even More. May God give you more wisdom
ReplyDeleteSince u said they shouldn't insult "your husband," I will insult you. What does marriage mean to you? Is marriage the end of the world? You're are a very big FOOL. Your own son a teen you're pushing around because of a man, a total stranger, that man is not even your family. So you can't call off this marriage for your son? You're evil. In your mind na you're answering register of happily married woman. EWU, that man can abandon you tomorrow but your son is your son. I'm ashamed on your behalf. Just know your son won't forgive u for this, stupid woman. Hey I didn't insult "your hubby."
ReplyDeleteEmotional & spiritual manipulation is 2nd nature to Nigerian people. Bastards & embittered illegitimate children, greedy & selfish family members, merchants of exploitation & slavery, rapists, perverse priests & hypocrite church people, single mothers, witches, reckless bastard breeding, pathetic evil men, dysfunctional & horrific families all over the place.
ReplyDeleteNdi aruru ala.
Every one is faking it & pretending!
I hate Nigerian people with a passion.
Exactly my point acting like they would do better if they were in same shoes
DeleteI had a daughter from my previous relationship in the mid-90s. Her mum actually brought and left her with my mum when she was 5 because we were not married. Since then my daughter has been living with me till date. Poster, it was so easy to leave my daughter with my mum or any member of my family and move on with my live but I couldn't just because I didn't want her to suffer. I'm married now but Poster, do you know that my daughter has been living with then fiancee for 2yrs before we finally got married. Its no magical, its called patient and understanding. I actually waited for 18yrs to meet that right mother and wife for me and my daughter. So why putting cart before the horse, as a woman I think you should secure your son welfare first before anything because he is the reason you are called a mother in the first place.
ReplyDeletePoster, tell your husband i said he's cursed while you are eternally doomed. We should not insult such a wicked man? He's lucky I don't know him, I for beat am like drum then pour saliva on your own face.
ReplyDeleteNonsense we should not insult ur husband. Im happy BVs have finished you well. You and the man are mad. Idiots.
ReplyDeleteOmg I read this chronicle and I'm just flabbergasted!
ReplyDeleteYou and that man you call husband are both foolish. The worst thing about your case is that you dont know you're foolish. Pls tell me what's the difference between you and the biological father? You both abandoned your son. You are no better than him. You are a disgrace to motherhood. How can you choose a useless marriage over your own baby? You will live to regret this decision if you continue on this path.
Newsflash: That man does not love you. You have been shown already but you are too blind to see. Your eye go clear one day. Abomination! Tufiakwa!
At 28 years old, you are still very careless and incredibly highly stupid. You are obviously aware that your husband is guilty of hating your son but what you don't know is your prince charming hates you and has rejected an innocent boy. Foolis woman rape or not, make it right by him. He even suffered more than you for the so called rape. Rape indeed! You still left your son with the sister of the rapist. How are are you he is not being raped? Damn do I hate you this poster. This is the worst chronicles I ever read.i am livid and ashamed for you. Heaven judge you and that thing you married.
ReplyDeleteI feel If we can please let us come together and help her cos she just put to bed. If she can get funds to pay for six monthS. When she is strong she will take back her son and let the man go or something
ReplyDeleteThere is no help that can be given to you. You need to reset your brain. You need to love your child like no other. What i will advise you is that put some money aside and move out of that house to take good care of your children. You cannot have the means to show your first child all the love but because of a man you decide to toss him from place to place. This is so unfair. It shows that you think only of pleasing your husband and not that child who needs all the love. You are so heartless. Better to be a single mother and show your children love than to sacrifice your child's happiness for yours. I hope you have a rethink.
ReplyDeleteI don't blame anyone but you. You are a disgrace to motherhood. You did not even think of the nine months you carried him in your womb. You probably wish you didn't give birth to him. By moving him from one place to another, it's affecting him psychologically. He is at that stage where he can be influenced either negatively or positively. He lacks parental love and where he is they may be maltreating him and he may even pick up stealing or join bad gangs. You ought to have stand up for him. If your hubby truly loves you, then he ought to love your child. Can't you see how Mercy Aigbe and and other celebs who had a child outside wedlock flaunt their children online. The baby even lives with them in their husbands home for those who are married among them . Your child is your future. If you take care of him very well, you don't know what he will become in the future. He might be a future governor or president and that is when the inhuman idiot you called a husband will be claiming he is his son. Your son can even turn out better than all other kids you bear for the man. Learn to love your kid ,care for him and stand up for him.
ReplyDeleteMadam poster, so you even have data to write chronicle? Could you please use your head?
ReplyDeleteHow do you even sleep at night without knowing how your own son is doing? You are here telling me you send money to another woman to take care of your own child?
What flavor of d..k will make a MOTHER abandon her child and start transferring him from one place to the other? Tomorrow when the boy becomes rich after all this neglect you will open your mouth and say "I am his mother".
I wish i could take this child from you because you don't deserve him.
Women!!!!!, why do we do this to ourselves. to hell with that rubbish marriage, know that that man you call a husband now will throw you out one day, cause to him, he is doing you a favour. your priority now should be your son. If i were in you shoes, the moment he started acting funny i would have asked for a break from the marriage. I know you are looking at your comfort, but are you ready to sacrifice that for your son's welfare. Woman Think so you dont regret your decision later in life. Marriage is not the Ultimate o, you are a mother because of that boy and whatever you need to do to ensure he is safe please do.
ReplyDeleteMadam Poster, pls if you want to follow Stella's advice, we all know that Nigeria doesn't have ability to accept such child, My parents needs sum one they can talk to in the house, they live in southwest,and will takia of him more than you can do , they are both retired but doing well. kindly send mail to Stella, i will give Stella every information needed, you can come visiting to see the environment.
ReplyDeleteAm sure you will be happy /glad.
TIFE.
Thank you and God bless you for this
Deleteposter am sorry but you are stupid....no man comes between me and my child oh....if your son can leave with you end the marriage and go get a house and take care of your children.....is marriage your ultimate goal in life? dont allow your son hate you cos of the stress tossing him around will put him through...if a man loves you he will love your child inclusive..its a shame some women value the validation of a man's love over their child. madam pls think well....am so angry that a child should be tossed around like that..
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ReplyDeleteI can see everyone here is as wicked minded as the poster, you all jump into conclusion without even thinking of other factors around such decisions, as if you all would do better if faced with such situation.... She said the childs father is very much alive and the family of the boy as well.. no one commented on them, just the husband that decided to marry the poster and take care of their new child and his wife or did the poster complain of him failing in that regards? No, you all are a shame to womanhood by been loopsided in your judgement. May God punish u all for the series of insult instead of advice.... Do you people think is easy to take care of a woman a new baby and a boy he got to meet in the couse of Dating the mother .. she probably might not be sharing the whole story, yet u all lay emphasis on man. I don't blame you all think cos u had a bad experience in the past makes all men the same, there might be reasons for him not accepting to take responsibility of the child .. in case you all don't know , there are cases where the man will take care of the child and after suffering to bring up the child and another man comes to claim the child . You all should be ashamed of yourselves, instead of advice is rather a rain of insult i wonder how the so called single foolish mums would advice their child if he or she comes for an advice ....is just a shame .... Mother indeed