STAND ALONE NARRATIVE
BAD LUCK
Hi Stella, thanks for being a shoulder we can cry and confined in you're just too much.
My boyfriend and I have been dating for almost four years, he has been supportive in my education and other things even though he earns little as salary. He's a junior staff in an institution but he always work hard to make sure his low income doesn't reflect in his wellbeing. I like him a lot and I also make effort to help him establish something to add to his salary. I thank God the business starting was moving well to the extend he could afford a Tokunbo car.
Early this year, he promise to see my parents so we could do our traditional marriage by Easter. Stella by February ending the car got stolen from where he parked it. I consoled him and we prayed about it he insisted he must see my parents no matter the circumstances.
The week we were suppose to go he was expecting some of his debtors to pay but none was responding and the goods in his shop was almost empty no money to stock in goods. The institution where he works (Federal college of education) has Been on strike for over a month salary isn't coming I was still praying and hopeful that something miraculous will happen.
Yesterday he called me, that some pastor saw a vision for him and he said I'm the reason for his down fall, the pastor said I'm a badluck and he should forget about me.
So my boyfriend is asking me what I want him to do? I have been crying since yesterday Stella I'm so confuse, I'm 27 years old and starting a new relationship over again ah....the thought of that weakens me.
Even though he called me this morning and he gave me some Bible quotations to read but I'm still scared.
Please I need advice on what to do.
Please I need advice on what to do.
*Pastor advice again?SMH!
Hian! What kind of wahala is this? Ask him if he still loves you. I see all these happenings as coincidence. Just be calm all would be well.
ReplyDeleteThis situation is inexplicable. It's either the pastor told him or he doesn't want you and he's making up excuses. Btw, what kind of pastor is that? I don't trust pastors
DeleteAbeg forget him, it’s not by force, once they start talking about their pastors just give them space, if you get married and thinks don’t work out well you will continually get blamed and he may hate you in the end, I know it’s hard but tell him to do whatever pleases him, and get busy, another man will find you if this one is not for you, just keep praying
DeletePlease someone help. I had a fight with my childhood friend last night. She had called me by 1am, after the call I'd blocked her on whatsapp. Shortly after, I dreamt I was in the city centre with some people who pointed out that my back was heavily covered in menstrual blood. I started running home but people were seeing the stain and talking. I looked up dream interpretations and I didn't like what I read. Please advice and also pray for me. Part of my issue with her is she got married to a Pastor that is being mentored by Tb Joshua so the man displays some weird powers at times-he is one of these prophets that see for people. Her husband is pressuring her to ask me for a favour which I can't afford to do now in all sincerity. Now the strange hour call and strange dream. Please you people should pray for me🙏
DeletePoster forget about him. He's a lost battle, if I hear say any pastor tell am anything.. He's just tired of you.pls,move on and pray for the right man to locate you.
DeleteAre u sure ur boyfriend is not lying? Dude might be tired of d relationship and has gotten a new babe that befits d front seat of his tokunbo jalopy bcos I know once a man buy a car,his cheating and taste in women will move to another level..
DeleteMy suspicious mind is telling me d car was not stollen..He went and parked it somewhere and lied that it was stolen..
Even his shop sef,he might have gotten a new shop elsewhere and transferred most of his goods there to make it look like his business is nolonger booming..
Why did his debtors refuse to pay d week he was supposed to go and see ur people? Of all d weeks?
If he doesn't have sinister moves why is he insisting seeing your people when all dis misfortune is be falling him? No man will continue with marriage talks when stuff like dis starts happening..
As for d strike issue,its everywhere.. he is not d only person that is being owed..So I don't think u have bad luck..Ur guy is not telling u d truth..
Why didn't he take u along to see his pastor? Why go alone?
Don't be surprised that immediately u break up with him,he will go and bring back his jalopy from where he parked it and claim it has been recovered and lie that his business has been booming since d break up..
Tell him u would like to go see d man of God with him to prove he isn't lying..Men can do anything to get a woman off their life especially when they have dated long to avoid been seen as wicked..
If truly u have bad luck he wouldn't have bought that car in d first place or have any business or work at all..Ur bad luck would have made him stagnat since u have been with him for 4 yrs.
At 27 you are still young to hook a good man..Its not how far but how well..U might hook another man dis month and get married next month..Just pray and ask God to direct u to d right person...
***Chy Ozo***
Hahahahahhahah, Nne dry your tears.
DeleteUnless you get excess water wey you wan dash persin.
I have said 'religion' will be what destroys people in the end.
Your 'man' wants to discharge you.
Abeg no waste your time dey cry.
Starting a new relationship na war?
This is why you ladies undergo all manner of rubbish and are willing to swallow all manner of nonsense you'd rather lazily stay with what is available instead of dusting off, reinventing yourself and making new moves.
Stay there and be crying like doll baby. Yimu.
You opened a biz for him and you are badluck? It's either that he is a golddigger using you to hammer with no intention of marrying you or ...
DeleteYes poster,your boyfriend is right!,.
ReplyDeleteYou are from the marine world and you married a marine husband!...
Go for deliverance!!,..
If not,no man will settle down with you and even if you eventually marry,you might not get pregnant!!,..
It affects finances too!!,..and causes domestic violence and divorce!...
Don’t take it lightly!...
It’s a serious something!...
Lindodo!
DeleteHaha haha Lindodo you Don kee me. See advice
DeleteJoooooor I hail. I will come for consultation. Eyin iya
DeleteLinda, you are right... I think hers is more of marriage... once the issue of marriage came up, the car was stolen and all... Poster, seek spiritual help..Nkmama
DeletePoster take dis advice, I wanted to tel u my story but ...
DeleteBut why do people go to pastors to confirm their relationships? It's not their responsibility now? I see people who do that as not being interested in that relationship in the first place.
ReplyDeleteIt is possible my dear. Pls go for deliverance ASAP. Maybe you have spirit husband. Its the truth baby think about it cos i have seen cases like this before and it will only get worse after marriage cos the spirit husband will frustrate the hell out of him. You can never tell. The guy loves you that's why he still keeps in touch with you. Guys pls if you are dating a girl and you start experiencing changes in your finances or other things, just know there is something wrong. A lot of ladies have spirit husband and they don't even know. some of them even find it hard to stay in a relationship and they end up becoming a gwe gwe mistress. Not their fault tho. Only prayers can save. Poster pls don't relent in your prayers cos the enemies are at work. Go for deliverance asap. Good luck
ReplyDeleteOnly a Nigerian will say this nonsense
DeleteFor your mind abi, I wish u can experience it
DeletePray about it.
ReplyDeleteI think he is using pastor as excuse not to marry you. Cry for week but get a grip, count your blessings and get over it. 27 is still very young. What do you expect 36 yrs old single women to say if you see 27 as too old?
ReplyDeleteMy dear, go and pray for yourself abeg...
ReplyDeleteYou might having spiritual issues or someone around you guys don't want the marriage to happen.
I'm in one of such marriages now. I can't even tell my spouse anything cos if I do, the whole thing will scatter
Warrahell??!! @last paragraph
DeleteMaaaaaybe you are doing things the wrong way. Blaming people for your own issues.
DeletePoster this is not the time for you to cry like a baby o. It is time for you to act smart. The pastor might be saying the truth tho. Go for deliverance and brake that yoke of disappointment and delay. If you don't, the guy might just leave you for someone else.
ReplyDelete, "I'm 27 years old and starting a new relationship over again ah....the thought of that weakens me." Seriously I dont know how y'all brain really function.
ReplyDeleteMegan is 36.btw
With all that hardship you still want to shook head enter.. all for the title.... tomorrow u start sending chronicle after chronicle. Get a job and establish yourself first.
Lies! Tell him you'll follow him to his pastor. tell him face to face and watch his reaction. I think your man is done with the relationship
ReplyDeleteHahahahahaha. Pastor said? My dear, tell him to pray on his own n ignore what the pastor said. You too pray. If you are his wife God will tell you. So you can plan yourself. You don't need any pastor to receive from God. Build your faith. So many solutions in the bible. That prophecy is not from God. Bc if it were, the pastor should have told him to bring you for prayer n deliverance. I tell you this, go to a bible believing church n pray. Pray n pray. You must not shout while praying. God is still saying somthing to his people. N if this your boo is using this pastor line to break up with you. Take it in good faith. But you must pray to know his mind towards you.
ReplyDeleteMy dear,it's better you cancel this wedding plan so you don't regret it in future.Its not too late for you to find love.
ReplyDeleteIf he has any iota of belief in what the pastor said I would advise you to move on. I know it’s hard and you think age is not on your side but God will give you the best for what you think you have lost.
ReplyDeleteIf you insist, he may still go ahead and marry you but if he is harbouring all of that crap of you being bad luck be ready for problems down the line. Life is full of ups and downs. The most important thing is to stay positive, think positive and pursue your dreams with one heart and one mind. Better for you to start afresh with a guy who will see you as a blessing and marry you with a clear mind than this one who has allowed pastors to infiltrate his mind.
Most of all believe in yourself. Sometimes we have to let go of substandard so that the upper standard can come our way. You will be fine.
It's very possible. I have this friend, any guy she goes out with will begin to have abundance in everything. If as a guy you are looking for a contract and you start dating this girl you must get it. She is married now and her husband that was almost as poor as a church rat before dating her is fucking rich now with cars and houses everywhere. So some people have bad luck while some have good lucks.
ReplyDeleteNobody has good "lucks". Yall need to crack open your Bible instead of watching African Magic and listening to pastors who know nothing about how God works.
DeleteMove on with your life. that man doesnt want to marry you. He is using the pastor as cover. He only wants to give you a soft landing. It pisses me off when i see young ladies of 26, 27 saying "i am 27, to start a realtionship afresh again. How old are you? How old is Megan Markle who got married today? Is that how low you see yourself? Your happiness doesnt matter to you abi? Instead of you to consider peace and a happy marriage, you are thinking about starting afresh. If starting afresh brings you a better man, is it not better than managing a relationship with a man who thinks you are the cause of his misfortune? incase you do not know it, this is a sign that he isnt the one. You should thank God he told you that now than telling you that after marriage. Think about yourself and your happiness
ReplyDeleteHmmmm izz well. Poster i think you have spirit husband. Pls go to mfm for deliverance. Spirit husband have a way they operate. THey are very jealous. They wud manipulate your spouse and drain him to nothing. I know someone who met a lady while he was a millionaire. But as soon as he started dating her, everything changed, he was sacked from his place of work, his biz collapsed but he still went on to marry the girl and everything became worse after marriage. No children, no money, nothing but things were going on well with his wife who started abusing him verbally and emotionally. The man went to church one day and the pastor just called him out and told him that his wife has a spirit husband and it is d spirit husband that is using his wife to manipulate him. As in, the woman wud insult the man, insult him, throw his things out at any slight provocation. The man suffered sha for six years. No job, no money, no kids. It was after series of prayers, fasting and deliverance that they were able to break that chain. The man is living fine now and they have two kids already. Abeg long story jare
ReplyDeleteMaybe you are not meant to be his wife, you are still very young at 27, or even if you’re much older than that. The universe has a way of working things out for us, if you can,let him go. There’s definitely someone out there for you. ... unless you are ready to be blamed for every damn thing that will go wrong in his life.
ReplyDeleteWhy did the pastor not ask to see her? What kind of pastor prophecy without solution? Will jesus ask him to leave a woman who strugle with him bc of a spiritual problem. If all men run away from her cuz of her bad luck, who will marry her? End time pastor. Apostle Sulieman is coming to Abuja from May ending. If you are in Fct you can locate the church around apo, b4 you get to shopright. If you dey Lagos go synagogue.
ReplyDeleteIf u continue, this guy will resent you, anytime anything how's wrong, he will blame you, if I were you, I would dump his pastor fucking seeking arse.
ReplyDeleteYou are 27,nowhere did I see you mention your own personal achievements. Do you have a job or business or you expect to depend solely on a man whose job is owing salaries,business is not moving well etc.
ReplyDeleteTrust me if you are succesful or atleast doing smthn with your life no man will tell you you're the cause of his problems cos you have your own shit together
You want to enter a marriage you will go and suffer ba.
Maybe give him space, equally work on yourself, pray thoroughly and if he is yours things will work out.
But as it is he can't even afford a wedding or raise a family right now. You both need time. Don't rush any wedding .
Must you do wedding. Why not get pregnant and move to his house.. That's What i did 12 yrs ago, now im bearing his name because i want the same name with my children. Some of my family dont live up to 5yrs after marriage due to problem during or after child birth, so fear catch me to do any wedding ceremony.. Living happily with my children by God's grace... I did not tell any body when i left nigeria, took okada to muritala International come london living my life quietly.. 😊😊😊
ReplyDeleteJust imagine yourself.
Deletesome advice here are truly shocking!
God have mercy on Nigerian women.
DeleteHmmmm.....the same pastor should provide a solution nah. Please Poster reject it, you are not a bad luck.
ReplyDeleteSome pastors sha! That was how I lost my relationship because my ex went to his pastor and the pastor told him that he shouldn't marry me. He said that i'm from the marine world. When he told me this, I was really upset but I took it in good faith. I rededicated my life to God and three years after we broke up, I got married to the most amazing man on earth. We have three lovely boys.
ReplyDeleteI travelled for a meeting and ran into my ex. He's still single. He hasn't been able to hold down a relationship. The girl he proposed to got married without telling him. I really feel bad for him because he's a good person. I pray he finds love soon.
D thing is u picked urself up
DeleteThe ex was not your man. He did not want to be with you at the time he had found another woman. No pastor told him shibain. Yall need to stop being so daggone gullible.
DeleteAre u sure the car was stolen? That's how I had a friend but I noticed he wasn't forth coming and he came up with lost car story. He said I am the cause hiaan.But I had to be more careful with him,he even started gisting me on his plan to get a replacement hmmmmm. I distanced myself since he have the nerve to blame me.Though we remained friend at distance only for me to met his wife after some months with 3 kids. OMG I vex because the guy knew I don't date married men. He hide it so well since the wife was staying away. But I was already married and preggy hahaha. God no dey let shame come to his people. The day the wife came to me and told me my guy is married to her eeee,i told her God saved him that I didn't sleep with him I for slaughter him. It pays to follow God way oooo.
ReplyDeleteWhat kind of stupid story is this? You were already 'married married and preggy' wetin you dey find for man side again?
DeleteGod way...sleep with him? What??
DeleteI see y’all citing Meghan Markle 🤣🤣 if she was in Nigeria now, na una go first line up Call am ‘gwegs’ at any misunderstanding.
ReplyDeleteMy dear, any man of God who highlights a problem without a solution should be given *side eyes. Did the man of God tell your bf how you can be delivered? Or is he afraid of the devil? I’m asking these questions incase he exists. Stories that touch....
Go for deliverance. Learn to fast and pray too for your spouse, stop gbenshing and watch what God will do.
ReplyDeleteAnother one
DeleteListen to me, ask him. What does HE think about what the pastor said. Ask him if HE believes what the pastor said. If he hesitates or tells you yes, you better start double dating or end the relationship immediately, if you can't double date.
ReplyDeleteWhen he bought a car, why didn't 'pastor' tell him you are 'badluck'?
ReplyDeleteWhen you were 'establishing something to add to his salary, why didn't 'pastor' tell him you are 'badluck'?
When you were supporting him with nyansh and money,why didn't 'pastor' tell him you are 'badluck'?
How come your previous boyfriend did not say you were 'badluck'?
Abeg gerrout with this stupid story.
At 27, can't you reason?
Can't you see what is going on?
Some Nigerian women, your brains are as useful as the holes in donuts. Rubbish.
Ikwakwakwakwakwakwakwakwa @ your last paragraph.
DeleteBabe nothing is wrong with u....Pick urself up and move on...
ReplyDeleteMy dear for the love of God and yourself. Please don't try it. Don't marry him again. If anything goes wrong after marriage financially or otherwise, you will be fingered as the culprit,please don't try it o. Let him go. Forget you are 37, so you don't end up just married for some months then single again.
ReplyDeleteHowever pray for yourself and rebuke every negativity centred around you.
Am not saying you are bad luck like the pastor said but then its not a good omen that someone ehk doesn't know you heap such trash at you.
Poster please give yourself some break. First seek God's breakthrough and tell yourself what you want. I was in a relationship for 8 years though a distant one. Got married @ 30. Few months into the marriage I found out that my man wasn't go to keep his promise on taking me to country where he based. I had to let go because that wasn't our agreement. Though I was depressed but I didn't give up. Two later God sent me an angle for a life partner and we are happily married! So please relax , there's nothing impossible with God.
ReplyDeletePoster,
ReplyDeleteThe man does not want you. He is one of those men who only want a woman that can move him up in life (not an issue actually as you women want the same without working). He will make a horrible husband. If bad times hit, you will suffer because he will blame you. When bad times hit, lazy people will blame everything and everyone without trying to make effort to hustle another way. Its the curse and cause of listening to all these pastors.
You can get married at 47 even. 27 is nothing and not mandated marriage time. Half of you marry and start sending chronicles and disturbing peoples ears on Rant, FIN, Joro and BOM. When you are the architect of your woes.
How about you finish school if you have not, advance yourself and hustle hard. A good man will want you by his side because you are bettering yourself.
This man is not for you. Force this issue and suffer immense hardship. Leave him, work on yourself to be able to properly feed yourself and marry a man who does not blame everybody else when hard times hit.
Kpom kwem!!?
DeleteDJ, I say play this pelzin any song of her/his choice.
Poster, you should be happy that he told you the truth instead of giving you attitude or avoids you. The moment of truth _ have you ever wondered why issues comes up anytime he wants to take the relationship to another level. You have to deal with the spirit spouse with everything in you. Pray and fast with midnight with Isaiah 49 vs 24 _ 26. God will set you my dear.
ReplyDeletePoster,
ReplyDeleteif you ever listen to those people here telling you that they dont know
what is a spiritual husband and wife,you will remain single to ur 50years old,
i hate every african person that pretends that they dont know about
evil spirits and juju things,,i see them as an african problems or witches,
poster,,,,,you started with ur man and you have seen how everything turn
bad and nothing is moving on again with him from the day he mention marriage
with you,,you know the truth,and you must seek help before you can marry the
guy,,he maybe your real husband becos you bring goodluck to him but the
enemies dont want ur happiness,both of you should seek help from a good
prophet of GOD,that will never ask u guys to pay money before a prayer,,
,
if his problems started the first time he had sex with you i may tell him
to back off and run away from you,,but since its started after he
mention marriage with you,its ur spiritual enemies at work,
this is a battles i was into for many years of my life,,but its my destiny
calls and GOD come inn..this enemies will never give u a peace in mind to
pray ur self out soon,so u must seek a good prophet of GOD HELP,,,,
forget all those enemies of africa advice that saying nothing like juju
or witches and spiritual battles,,,seek help.and avoid doing evil,
You are stupid and useless, don't you have brain? What are your crying for, do you know if God want to pull you out from broke as and broken marriage in the future, is better to part ways now that after wedding our marriage packed up in less than a year, yet we have not been crying, just relationship you want to useless your life. Tell your bf he is the reason why you have not made it, tell him to go to hell. Who knows if he walk away you may just meet the right person
ReplyDeleteIf you eventually marry him, just know hes going to keep referring to this whenever anything bad happens to him or whenever things are not going smoothly for him. He will say 'and they told me not to marry you o, '.
ReplyDeleteSo as long as you are ready to cope with that forever.... then go ahead.