Oh Dear!!!
STAND ALONE NARRATIVE
RE-RUNAWAY HUSBAND
This Chronicle is an update of one posted in April....Read it RUNAWAY HUSBAND
Dear Stella,
Kindly help me post in chronicles.
It is the lady from the runaway husband chronicles.
My heart bleeds when people tried to crucify me in my previous chronicle, Yes I have my bad side but it only take someone to ignite the fire for it to explode. For record purpose I have never had any confrontations with my in-laws rather they are always coming to fighting me whenever my husband exaggerate our issues to them. I’m married to a man who knows how to paint me bad to his family. Please let me ask is it possible to stay in your house and not express yourself?
My in-laws are very good at here say that why my mum in-law believed her son immediately he told her I hate her. This is the woman that stayed with me in the past and left in good faith suddenly believes her son that I hate her.
My hubby is back after he has squandered the money for our wedding, he came back broke but he is claiming he came back out of pity for me after he has ruined my reputation to all. I received him with open hands but hearth broken. He is hiding it from is family that he is back reasons best known to him.
My hubby is back after he has squandered the money for our wedding, he came back broke but he is claiming he came back out of pity for me after he has ruined my reputation to all. I received him with open hands but hearth broken. He is hiding it from is family that he is back reasons best known to him.
I have been the one running the house and child expense and nobody sees me as bad wife anymore, sometimes I wonder what I have done to deserve this humiliation. I have tried to put everything behind and move on but I find it so difficult, I’m really looking for closure ...
Please does anyone know how I can get help, I need someone to pour out my soul to. I wish I’m in a better environment to walk out without people castigating me.
My hubby wants me to accept his family again after they have sent me series of hurtful and abusive messages, threatened me to leave their brother if not I will be killed and even mocked me that the wedding was cancelled, Please how do I go about opening my heart to all of them.
Has anyone gone through this, Kindly share with me how you coped and let bygone be bygone. Is it right for hubby to hide his whereabouts from his family? I’m scared of the worse happening as his mum had already claimed I want to kill her son and abscond with our properties. I have been begging him to let his family know he is home but he refused, should I be calm? How do I go about making him legalize the union?
God bless you Stella.
Has anyone gone through this, Kindly share with me how you coped and let bygone be bygone. Is it right for hubby to hide his whereabouts from his family? I’m scared of the worse happening as his mum had already claimed I want to kill her son and abscond with our properties. I have been begging him to let his family know he is home but he refused, should I be calm? How do I go about making him legalize the union?
God bless you Stella.
*What are you doing in this kind of relationship that is so poisonous?WTF...do you have legs?you still want to legalize this sham?...........Please walk away,i cannot advice you to stay in this situation,it will get WORSE over time...........well it might also get better but that is a wish better imagined right now!
You dont even sound like you wanna go anywhere so let me keep my advice...I am very upset!..WHAT IS WRONG WITH SOME WOMEN?must this be your last bus stop??????
Clear case of not knowing what you want. Even if you are advised, you would still do what's on your mind.
ReplyDeleteStrolls away...
Happy wedding anniversary Stella.
DeleteIf you were my sister I would've given you the beatings of your generation. May that man use you for money rituals. Foolish woman. Turn!!! I must marry.
DeleteShe wants to stay because of her child. Yimu
Delete@ poster In your last chronicle you were bashed but a lot of BV's advised you to walk away and leave. Instead of you to receive sense, you are here again asking how you can make him legalize the union. I have no advice for you because you did not come here for advice. So, because he has come back, you want us to massage your ego and tell you continue. Oya, carry go!!! And don't come back with your chronicles. I must marry by force!
DeleteGive him conditions to be received back;
Delete1. Both of you will visit his people
2. He will confess before them all the 'lies" he told against you.
3. He will visit your own people with you and also confess there
Anything less that that, you are doomed to his schemes!
Poster you are mad! Honestly and I will advise you seek help on your mental state.
DeleteI don’t know what the hell is going on with Airtel because it took me 5 minutes to open this page.
ReplyDeleteStella, please don’t be upset but I think some times instead of posting certain chronicles just direct them to similar chronicle to read the comments because it’s as if we waste our time typing most times. It’s either it’s the same chronicle, similar or close enough.
Why can’t you women learn from other people’s experiences or worst use your brain for once? I don’t even have time to go back to the previous chronicle this poster sent because my network is pissing me off. Madam, must you marry? Scratch that question, must you marry this man? What is in it for you? Someone squandered money meant for wedding and tarnished you to his family you are asking silly questions. Tomorrow you’d marry this man then come here to call single people names meanwhile you’re dying.
Aren’t you tired of writing in every time over someone who doesn’t rate you? God forbid I have friends like the women who write these things, most of you are so annoying and do not think at all. Why not channel This time expensed in writing about this man and his family to focus on loving yourself enough to not accept sub par love and affection? Why is it so difficult for most of you to live single and enjoy it fiercely? Wo, you’d be alright because we all know you’d still marry him because it is an achievement to be married.
Thanks dear, i always look forward to your responses because they make alot of sense.
DeleteDoppel darling, You hit the nail right on the head. Toxic marriage and you still want to legalise it. Pure stupidity!
DeleteHappy wedding anniversary Stella. Madame you seem to enjoy this situationship. The reason he came back is bc you are his meal ticket n the money he ran away with us finish. How do you women completely forget what a horseband has put you tro.
ReplyDeleteHmmmmmmmmmmmmm
ReplyDeleteLegalise which union?. Sense fall in you sister😠ðŸ˜
ReplyDeleteSome people are just born for suffering.... Continue dear,its obvious u are enjoying it. 😈👿
ReplyDeleteTypes of SDK blog chronicles:
ReplyDelete1) The OMG!!! chronicles.
2) The Oh Dear!! chronicles.
3) The Hmmmmm chronicles.
Add yours..
The "slap"chronicle
Delete4) The *mtcheeew* Chronicle
DeleteE.g. this one above....
You forgot to add "the mad woman chronicle". E.g.. The one above.
DeleteThe " nah wah" chronicle.
DeletePoster weldone o.
ReplyDeleteMadam better let his family know he's back and he came on his own in case if something bad or good happen to him they wil hold you responsible why do he refuse to let his family know he's back there's something fishy tell him to inform them or he go back where he came from my can't
ReplyDeleteAmawbia ugbo ogiriga
If any relations makes you cry more than it makes you smile my dear RUN.
ReplyDeleteYour husband vowed or even took an oath with his people that he will NEVER return to you again hence he does not want to tell them he is back with you.
I don't like telling people to leave their marriage but my dear, you have got only one life to live.... If anything causes you more pain that joy, if you cry in any relationship more than you laugh... Run for your dear life.
my advice to you is for you both should go for HIV Test befor anything to avoid the story that touches.
ReplyDeleteI must be married syndrome.
ReplyDeleteMadam,your self-esteem is very low,haba! Legalize what? The horseband of urs has really tarnished your image which will only take Gods grace to be redeemed. Since you are capable of taking care of yourself,why not leave him. Shebi,na only one child u still have. God can bless you with another good man. Where did your husband go self? I hope he doesn't have another family else where? It is well with your soul
ReplyDeleteLow self-esteem is your problem stay and die in that marriage.
ReplyDeleteWhy do you want to legalize anything with this leech and his family? Unless you have been lying, this man is not your husband. Take care of the precious child and let him go somewhere. I know men like him. They are very toxic.
ReplyDeleteMarriage wahala. When it starts, it takes God to calm it. His parents are involved. I took time to read your first chronicle and comments, I was not surprise that people did not believe your story, but hey. I believe you totally.
ReplyDeleteI was in your shoes few years ago. The exact shoes you wore then. My own husband was the bread winner. They believed and acted as he says so that he will not stop providing for them. Its only one of my sister in-laws that was on my side then. He left me as yours did. I am happier now, I don't even pray for him to come back. The pains can only be imagined. Each time I remember him, I just cry and thank God for saving my life.
Move on, get out of that union. You deserve better, God is watching your back. The way things are, your husband might have married another woman somewhere and he is back in your life just to keep presence with his child. Or he is around you just to get opportunity to take his child. Be careful. Marriage is for the living, dead people don't marry.
You know what to do BUT you are looking for someone to massage your ego and tell you that it will be okay later. Like Stella said this is a poisonous relationship. Most in law are users and it depends on the extent that the lady indulges them. My problem is not the in laws but you so called husband. Seems he is not man enough for marriage and when things go wrong he runs to his family. Why not be strong, and make a decision based on your own well being and start all over again. You will be surprised what you can do. God might suprise you too. Peace
ReplyDeleteYou don’t need advise, so I won’t waste mine o. You.
ReplyDeleteContinue with your patch patch marriage and please don’t disturb this blog with your marital issues again.
When your become tired of your situation, you will sort yourself out.
BV Resonanble doubt.
Ain't nobody got time for this. Nobody should bother advising this one. All she wants is for the man to legalize the sham of a union. ✌e go be
ReplyDeleteWhatever you do madam, DO NOT GET PREGNANT AGAIN. That is my first advice to you, better you are carrying just load of you and your baby, than with 2kids because it wont be easy for you.
ReplyDeleteThis is not a marriage. When you husband hammers serious money he will chase you out. Its cos he is broke.
Good luck as you make ur decision.
Dear chronicler I can't waste my time advicing you. Please remain there and not live long for your kid. Ndi "am a marrage woma" mcheeeeeeeeewwwwe
ReplyDeleteYes o in answer to your last question Stella. Last bus ni ye. #shediethere
ReplyDeletei must marry. abi stay na
ReplyDeleteI'm surprised that you are still condoning this sham. My dear you don't have to justify anything to anybody so why do you want to die there?
ReplyDeleteLegalize what? Are you OK? Do people legalize bandage? Na so slavery dey start my sister.
Do not get pregnant if not your wahala will double and also tell his family members he's back. Do not encourage any secret return incase of "incasity"
Your brain is messed up. You still planning to legalize this rubbish you called marriage?
ReplyDeleteI crucified you again because your head is not working well
Since he is not your “hubby” forget him and move on. He doesn’t have money.....where do you expect him to go but leech on you. Forget him and his family drama.
ReplyDeleteWhat kind of shot is this? Madam you want to die on top marriage? I just feel pity for you. Why are some women suffering and smelling?
ReplyDeleteIf you have a means of income please that toxic husband and live your life peacefully
I believe you know the right thing to do....u don't need advice.
ReplyDeleteYou want to legalize a shame of a union,are you okay at all?
ReplyDeletePlus joining him in hiding himself way from the family means that if something mistakenly happens to him now that he is back,you will be accused of killing him madam you better be wise and force him to go show himself to his people
Also I think he is back because he has realised that he messed up and instead of asking for forgiveness he is trying to make it sound like he came out of pity,pls don't buy into such shit
Finally if you could take care of yourself and the baby all alone when he was away,why then don't you leave him...infact since he has gone to your family to say that he is no longer interested then Go back to your father's house.
If he still wants to be in the marriage then let him come with his family to appologise properly and not you dashing yourself to him as if you have no self worth
Woman have small shame for yourself for once,leave that toxic environment you deserve to be treated better.
if you want to start over to a better place then he needs to make it up to you.
LEP😛
Yet another example of Kanye's "slavery is a choice". U are very mad for not planning a good life for your kid. You can operate a smart phone but u can't even think clearly? The moment u meet a "man" u automatically stop thinking then you hand over absolute control of your life and future to an imbecile?
ReplyDeleteI know you don't have common regard for your existence but please don't birth another baby wiv this idiot u call your husband. Also send your baby to an environment way better so he/can at least breath in unpolluted air and live a better life cuz I know u won't leave that animal u call ur husband.
Hate yourself all u want but don't bring children into a polluted environment with people like urself and ur "husband" to suffer. Selfish mumu, go ahead and legalise your death na.
Use marriage take bury yourself cuz u wrongly married an idiot instead of you to retrace your steps and correct the damn mistake u made marrying that nitwit. I only pity your innocent babies(born & unborn) cuz they deserve better parents. You better take charge of your life or die a slave.
Give him conditions to be received back;
ReplyDelete1. Both of you will visit his people
2. He will confess before them all the 'lies" he told against you.
3. He will visit your own people with you and also confess there
Anything less that that, you are doomed to his schemes!
Not only have you not moved out, you are still begging as in BEGGING for legalization. You used your leg to enter prison and now you are pleading for the key to be thrown away. Continue doing nonsense, this is the beginning of your chronicles writing, just go and stock up on stationery. You people make men feel so proud and big, not even God sef can match their pomposity. Imagine a fool came back from a wild frolick with money that you contributed to and all you can do is fall back on your knees in worship.
ReplyDeleteThe whole family , nobody likes you , nobody wants you. You are still struggling to be accepted. No problem, remain there. I pray that God keeps you alive and sound to be entertaining us with more and more and more chronicles. I'm such if you are asked now, you will say nobody understands. Mshewwwwwwwwwweeeeewwwwwww....
Madam poster, if you have legs pls walk fast. This is a toxic marriage almost similar to mine. I am married to the most ungrateful,verbal abusive, sugar coated unrepentant man for 10yrs.i left him and came back when people were begging me to do so. I paid for daughters school fees, medical bills, did CS to birth d only child btwn us and yet he won't allow people that wants to assist or help me do so. I have borrowed money from the micro finance bank I work with for him and he has never repay once. Now,I have no job all benefit cut off and yet he refused to pay up what I borrowed for him, even had d guts to tell me I should sort it after all his name is not on the borrower's list!!!! Madam, run, run, run and do not look back. He can't change o else na igbese upon igbese for una o. Thank God it's only a child u have together.... Dump him and work hard you will soon succeed. Thank God for the life of women these days what a man can do, a woman will do and achieve success 1million times, you need no man to succeed it's just formalities... To enter d kingdom of God sef, u won't be asked if u are married or not. Leave him and face your child plssss.... I still dey battle my own, make God help me sort it out
ReplyDeleteSister leave that sham of marriage! What is this? Is marriage a do or die affair? Thank God you can handle taking care of your child. If you want to test of this man gives a shit about you, tell him what someone suggested above; he should go to his people (alongside yourself) have a meeting and tell them especially his mother that you did not do all he said and he was lying. Also that they should please respect you. Take it further by asking him to take two of his people to your family to ask for forgiveness and explain that he was stupid!
ReplyDeleteLOL he won't do all of the above cos we all know he is SHIT!! But at least you'd see that he ain't shit I PRAY!
Please leave, that Man can kill you cos it is obvious he doesn't give a shit about you. Make sure he takes care of his son whilst you lot are separated, if he doesn't still please walk away; FREE!!
Are you waiting for people to tell you to pray for him and wake him at midnight. Or go stark naked and pray for him? Or any other lazy Nigerian woman desperado advice?
ReplyDeleteYou will not hear it here. This man is a disease, leave him before he kills you.
ALL to answer Mrs. Women are really trying oooo madam poster the Bible says a man who orang provide for his family is worse than an unbeliever - it is more like witchcraft it is worse your husband has attributes of a witch coming back when there is no money and even then STILL refusing to claim you if he had a choice he wouldn't be there. He knows you're the only one foolish enough to take abuse and take care of him his way ways and oatterns are DEMONIC nothing good can stem from it the family will go back to hating you you want to legalized the marriage and elevate your bondage - this is honestly what causes women to kill in relationships instead of walking away you want to die answering Mrs until one day you are abused so far to the extent that send the man to his early grace with his penis in his hands you think the women that kill are mad women? They are not they lived a normal life but trauma tipped them off the edge - a word is enough for the wise you have ONE CHILD don't let your situation worsen whereby you become pregnant and can't move or provide.
ReplyDeletePOSTER HEAR ME: IF YOU CANT FO IT FOR YOURSELF DO IT FOR YOUR CHILD DONT LET YOUR CHIKD GROW UP IN A TO IC ENVIRONMENT THINKING THE WORLD IS FULL OF HATE THAT CHILD DESERVES BETTER CARE AND TREATMENT THAN AN ABSENTEE FATHER WHO HE/SHE WITNESSES ABUSES OF ITS MOTHER IN ALL WAYS AND GRANDMAS AND UNCLES THAT DONT CARE. You don't even know what sort of illness this man returned with if he dies there even what you own will no longer be yours you will be destitute my dear and your child will suffer for nothing theybwill grab even what's yours up to the money in your hand and blame you for his death - you go know say sense cannot be borrowed !!!! Your self esteem is not even on the floor it's in a tomb
Dear poster, I believe you need a therapy and I say it in the most loving and unjudgemental way... Your mind is still yet to heal from the previous abuse. You are not strong enough in this case
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