Beautiful Morning to you Lovelies...Na wah oh Buses,underground train and all are on another warning stroke again today....So i will be playing 'driver' today-..lol
Gon be a really beautiful day cos i got Sunshine is my heart,even though aint gon be no sunshine today..lol.
Need to touch some issues i saw yesterday.....
For the crayfishers photograph i talked about,I asked for photos to be able to identify that anyone got crayfish and i got them....what are you people talking about taking photos and suing,suing who for what?Did i post the photos?do you have proof that i have any photos?Some of you talk anyhow really!
I am not gonna be addressing any crayfish story again cos you people like to drag ish and that's not my kinda dance...I like to move on fast,especially when there is negativity involved..OMG OMG OMG I cant stand all this ish becos of crayfish........If not for wetin my eyes don see for this Blog,i prefer to empower with cash and move on........
On those i empowered to learn tailoring Mss aboki and co,I saw a comment inside yesterdays in house news that indicated they were complaining i didn't pay for 6 months for them to learn the course???...Really?I paid for a one month course for you and bought you sewing machines to perfect your skills,you could have asked a family member or a spouse to continue from where i stopped instead of complaining....The sewing machines were for the three of you to learn privately and perfect your skills..na wah oh...Complaining like i owe anyone anything here....Its been over a year if not two,so they are still sitting down one place complaining?They didn't do anything with what they got?DAMN!!!
....So disappointed in them...
SHAKING MY HEAD .....
Please if you know another Blog (There are several i hear)that is empowering people and you feel what i am doing here is not enough,please port today....or comment on other posts and move on.
As for BV Teejay that writes Teejays corner inside in house news...Yes his written English is bad and i advised him to use online to tutor himself and he is improving very well...
Those of always cussing him out and reminding him of how bad he is,I hope you are happy?He wanted to give up writing becos your words got to him some weeks back but i told him ''NO, KEEP WRITING TEEJAY...don't give up becos they say you cant,YOU CAN!''
What else?Make una have a nice day,make i find food eat before work continues....
Remember that nobody is perfect,that's why i am not harbouring any kinda ill feelings towards anyone..love is way lighter and i choose it.
Kisses!
Good morning darlings.
ReplyDeleteGood morning
DeletePlease if you are into indoor catering in Lagos and can deliver please indicate below. If you also know of any please also indicate. Please be affordable. Thank you.
DeleteAm into catering and am affordable ma
DeleteStella the love I feel for you eeh. It is strange because I don't know you, but I appreciate all you do
DeleteSpontaneous post is now by 7am???
DeleteRocky here!
@Candy_G, good day ma. I'm into indoor and outdoor catering in Lagos,I specialise in a
Deletevariety of dishes and I am affordable.
@Candy_G, good day ma. I'm into indoor and outdoor catering in Lagos,I specialise in a
Deletevariety of dishes and I am affordable.
Thank God ooo
DeleteEverybody follow me and praise master Jesus .
Okbye .
Good morning
ReplyDeleteMorning babe. Have a nice day today
DeleteThanks hun.
DeleteGoodroning bvs.
DeleteGood morning everyone
ReplyDeleteWishing us a blessed
Bv Isaac Baba mail my Boss NOW
#kisses everyone
Good morning everyone and my personal beloved P.A
DeleteP.O.P in a bit....it can only be God
Congrats Isaac..... It seems like yesterday!! !!
DeleteThe proof of desire is pursuit. Fantasy doesn't change reality, what changes it, is your action. For the bitterness of yesterday will always be the sweetness of tomorrow. Keep the faith.
ReplyDelete👍👍👆
DeleteSo TJ na Stella dey urge you to go on because people are talking bad about your gbagauns and so on. You better be a strong man.
DeleteWhat about me, better dont let anyone get you down. We love you like that. No mind them, what i think, i know they are jealous. They can never be You.
Hahahaha@Yori Yori, thanks a lot.
DeleteEver noticed how beautiful the sky looks when the sun is rising?
ReplyDeleteSome days, all I want to do is; go to a beach, sit down, allow my feet touch the smooth sand while I watch the sun rise or set 🙂
Today is going to be a good day. Good morning BVs
Awesome. Good morning...
DeleteHow are you doing Rhoda? Do have a great day.
DeleteLove nature too
DeleteIt's 7am and I am supposed to be out of the house by 7.30am but I can't event bring myself to stand up from bed. anyways have a good day everyone. Teddy out
ReplyDeleteSome days are like that.
DeleteYeah some days...
DeletePeople are talking about suing? For what nah?
DeleteAnd those Stella bought sewing machines for as still lamenting? People are incorrigible.
Stella, if I were you, just put a halt to all these give away for now let's see those that actually wants to be here, not all these new ID manufacturing people that show up as soon as there's an announcement.
Happy Tuesday to us all, abeg, make I go wash clothes. That Anon that was on my case yesterday, hope u got my reply, better stay clear of my ID henceforth.
True @HALT on giveaway for sometime.
DeleteThat small thing the person talk, you still carry am come again. You know people will talk and dont mind them.
DeleteCarry go jare. Nothing do you. You just need to be strong for more bashing
Good morning everyone.I refuse to give up .
DeleteThat is the spirit. Dont give up because Jesus never gave up for our sake.
DeleteNo mind the devil, he failed where you are
good morning beautiful, please any mua in lag that's willing to teach me for a token I will appreciate it
ReplyDeleteMorning
ReplyDeleteGood morning beevees
DeleteOmg omg who is suing who?is it those that shared the free crayfish or what?
Abeg who knows the process I use to wash a dry paint bucket.i have more than 70 pcs in my village and I need to wash them when I get home.
i hear kerosene works. maybe try it
DeleteThanks Platters
DeleteGood morning my people na waka waka get me today it is well. Sdk forget forget people's complain do what is best for you! Meanwhile please who watched Lord of the skies yesterday? Omg its another level of drugs and money on Telemundo. Centaurio is definitely going to kill his wife!
ReplyDeleteHe killed her and later killed the son he had with her, heartless man. Season 2 coming soon.
DeleteI watched it ooooh,is DAT little girl I'm just praying nothing happens to.
DeleteBT why is DAT almost all telemundo series now are all abt drug money?
I don dey tire biko
Meanwhile I love all road leads to love,I missed yesterday's episode cos they HV change d time again without informing us
Na wa oooo...
ReplyDeleteUna good morning....
Good morning
DeleteAmen to the picture up there.
ReplyDeleteGood morning everyone. Well done Stella.
Bonjour Stella. If you wan drama come to Stella blog. If you know you know........
ReplyDeleteYes oh!
DeleteWe thrive on drama here
Lol I know
DeleteLove everything about this blog
DeleteMorning lovelies,issa cool day,i wonder how someone would be helped with something and u later complain it's small or not enough,maybe cos i came from a family of OYO, so i know its not easy helping people, just do u @stella and leave them to God, Bv Teejay,try press ignore buttons on ur phone otherwise, children of anger here will send u out of dis blog,since i started ignoring bad comments or response,i don dey add flesh for body,do ve a blessed day
ReplyDeleteLol @ adding flesh
DeleteGood advise though....Teejay you should take it
The only person permitted to stop you is YOU.
One day you'll tell a wonderful story of how you didn't give up
Good morning to you all. I just thought to breeze in here today.thank God for life and being in a good place.countdown to my birthday #April15th#. Yori yori I miss you o but I do read your comments.hope you're doing just fine?
ReplyDeleteAprilSmallWoman
I replied but it did not post. Happy birthday my darling. Dont worry God is still with you.
DeleteI am fine ooo. For a long time you did not comment. Hope you are doing great? How is Benin?
Pls Bvs who knows what it will take for me to establish a bread bakery ie the cost of machines like dough mixer, slicer, oven etc
ReplyDelete2.5/3milla. A standard bakery.
DeleteOoops.
Nafdac will collect their own raba. Well shaaaa
And Nafdac
DeleteAnonymous 08:11. I perceive you want to start up a bakery. I'm interested in the business. If you don't mind. Can you contact me, let us work together. Thank you.
DeleteWow.. What a lonnnng sp..
ReplyDeleteStella! You paid for a month for them to learn and they are still complaining that they want 6 months, why are some people like this? I just believe you are doing it for God, cos if person dey look their mouth he go nearly Commit.God help you... Let us learn to appreciate little things, if you take this same ungrateful attitude to God how do we expect him to bless us more?
ReplyDeleteHonestly Stella is really trying, but some people were so mean to the extent of pushing her to the wall and regreting her actions
DeleteGudmorn Stella
ReplyDeleteKisses to ur bfs💋💋💋💋💋
Gudmorn everyone💞💕❤😘
The kind of drama this crayfish is causing haaaaa....someone can not help and have rest of mind again... Some people are just ungreatful,imagine...u should paid for 6month
Good evening Mrs. Sharon. I read where you talked about Garri business. I'm interested. Please can you contact me. Thank you.
DeleteGood morning Stella and lovely BVs. God bless your kind heart Stella.
ReplyDeleteI read yesterday's posts really late cuz I was busy. About that Ceecee's certificate, it's as fake as fake could be. I like the girl but I see Tobi or Miracle winning the game.
Have a lovely day y'all.
Good morning sdk and blog people,its a Lil bit cold here and am enjoying the weather,work starts next week for me, make I rest well this week.
ReplyDeleteSo you dey wait till next week to sell the crayfish! Na wah ooo! See laziness din come after you collect crayfish giveaway. World people hmmmmmm
DeleteLol 😀@ anon 11:48,free Aya Williams. She is a teacher in private school,
DeleteGood morning all,I'm having serious waist pain. I wish you all a nice day.
ReplyDeleteGod Bless Everyone.
You do am too much bah? Lol, Ayam only joking before they come with fire and brimstone.
DeleteGood morrrrrrrrrrrnnnnnniiiiigggggggg my people. That's how the cold is making me feel today.
ReplyDeleteBvs at Akute, pls holla at me for ur sweet crayfish.
You stay at Akute?? I know someone there so I visit once in a while. You guys are the real MVPs Ok,una dey try.
DeleteAkute is part of Lagos state. It is through berger
DeleteAkute is in Ogun state but like other parts of Ogun e.g Ijoko, they claim Lagos. Lol
DeleteHow can a man feel so comfortable at home while his dear wife is in labour in the hospital.. Like he is comfortable eating and sleeping at home o.. Some men sha... I feel like spanking him right nw
ReplyDeleteLol
DeleteIt could be him fronting and doesn't want to appear weak. Most Men don't like showing any sign of weakness.
DeleteNothing like not wanting to appear weak, he is a wicked man.
DeleteI know one man who did same and immediately the woman returned, he asked her to pound yam which she did. If you ask him how his wife is ,he will say my son is fine. Very stupid man,to think he was a lecturer sef
Eayaàaà.the wife would have called him to follow her about
DeleteGood morning everyone
ReplyDeleteMay today be blessed and favored for us... Amen
If it's not original, then it can't be the original.
ReplyDeleteIf you know, you know.
@Martins .my blog ID still doesn't show on the comment box..Meanwhile, I'm logged in on all platforms of google including YouTube. My ID appears there except chrome..I am tired of the wahala.
Official prestige
Are you logged in on Blogger.com ??? If yes,then click on your profile at the top right to be sure you are seeing your Blog ID or any sydonym there..
DeleteIf its there,then just download "MICROSOFT EDGE WEB BROWSER" from playstore and sign in to "BLOGGER.COM" then visit the blog and recheck if you can see your ID when you try to comment..
@MARTINS ABOY
I can see my ID on blogger,even my pix and profile there but it's only here that it's invisible..
DeleteOfficial prestige
Chrome doesn't support Google or blogger ID while signing in to blogs. Except you are using the trial version of chrome. Download UC browser or firefox, that will help.
DeleteThe Word for Today! You are where God wants you to be at this very moment. Every experience is part of His divine plan. Good Morning, have a blissful day......... Ahead
ReplyDeleteINTRIGUING HEAD OF HOUSE CHALLENGE
ReplyDeleteThere was a qualifier challenge for the head of house in the day time. Then in the evening they moved to the arena for the final Head of House challenge for this week.(remember no nomination)
In the arena a glass booth (like a big box) is set, BBNaira notes are scattered inside and the notes were made to move around the booth really fast, they are to pick as much notes as possible to win the Head of House challenge, Alex was the first to enter the glass booth and the sharp babe collected as many BBNaira notes as she could.
Cece tried too. But biggie changed the rule to collecting only one BBNaira note. Alex and CCece did it again and picked only one so did others but Miracle couldn't even catch one so he was disqualified.
Now here is the twist, Cece, Alex and Tobi picked notes of same value so they had to play the game again and Alex won. See Tobi's face he was so happy for her, he gave her a standing ovation.
Now Alex picked a chance card and the content was intriguing:
“This Chance Card puts all the housemates up for possible eviction apart from the Head of House, one housemate nominated by Head of House and the housemate who was in the 4th position in the Head of House challenge”.
And guess what? Nina got the 4th position in the Head of House challenge.
And Tobi was picked by Alex. Therefore Alex dearie, Tobi my gee, and Nina the most belittled, made it to the finals leaving Cece, Lolu, Khloe,Miracle and Anto for possible eviction on Sunday.
Thanks for d update
DeleteWaoh.nice
DeleteI was so so happy 4 my girl Alex last night,just DAT she is in d finals.she didn't even think twice before calling Tobi's name.
DeleteThanks name sake..I finally got to understood what actually happened.. I'm so happy for Alex.
Deletegood morning everyone...
ReplyDeleteToday is definitely going to be better....
Good morning everyone. I had a wonderful sleep even though I found it hard to wake up at 6.00 and I woke up at 7.17 instead. Had my breakfast with coffee and milk and a apple since I have finished my cereals. I will have to buy them as soon I get a chance. This diet I am on is not easy, I only eat fruit at lunch and tea and another fruit at dinner, 4 times a week I eat vegetables and fish or meat but I'm slimming down and that is the important thing. Listening to gospel really helps, I downloaded some gospel music that I keep on while sleeping and listen during the day and I take time to read the word of God but sometimes I'm skeptical when I see some of what the apostles wrote. I strongly believe that some of the teachings they wrote them because of their culture and age they were living in. Like women not being able to speak in church or that is compulsory to cover your hair in church while praying. I don't cover my head and I speak in church and I don't think Im doing something wrong since God still answer my prayers. But in all reading the Bible bring me understanding and peace. Today I have to make some important calls to the schools I want to attend and choose the best one, later on I plan to read and make a list of my goals and make a budget because I've noticed that I spend carelessly. I'm happy that God gave me a second chance, I could have become useless but he redeemed and saved me. I'm forever grateful. Let me go and do some cleaning and take my bath. Wish all of you a wonderful day. Let this day be a productive and positive day for all of us. Please does anyone knows a cream for dark skinned people that tone and make you a shade lighter but doesn't bleach. My skin color is becoming dull, if I use cocoa butter I become darker. I'm currently using skin light and fair and white but I'm afraid that it will bleach my skin but I don't know what to use. I want a nice shiny chocolate color but not too dark. I had a dream where I saw Toke Makinwa and I asked her what cream she was using, she didn't tell me but someone in the dream told me to look closer and I saw that she had rushes, black pimples filled with blood and a skin that looked like it was about to fall of so I took it as a warning from God to be careful of bleaching because it can give you skin problems. If anyone knows a cream for dark skin people that tone and make your skin shine and pop out please recommend it to me. Don't recommend something I can buy online because my card is not working, something I can find in an African shop here in Italy. And also does any Nigerian or Ghanaian live in Italy, preferably ladies I would love to make friends, I'm Ghanaian and I also so would love for someone to teach me how to cook Nigerian food. So if you are a nice, godfearing, friendly person and live in Italy, precisely Torino comment under my post and we will arrange to meet so you can also teach me how to cook since unfortunately I can't cook😉. We could gist, become friends if you want and go to church together. Have a nice day my fellow blog visitors.
ReplyDeleteWell, I would love to BUT
DeleteSomehow I like you. I would have hit you up had I been in Italy. Are you the one who smokes? I hope you are taking steps to try to quit if you are. Wishing you all the best in life girl!
DeleteKai,lonely life in "the abroad" no be here oooo
DeleteKai, it is well. I have someone in Italy who is a pastor there. It is well with you. I pray you get someone who will be there for you
DeleteTry St Ives body wash and Olay quench.
DeleteThank me later
Download songs by:
Delete1. Chris Tomlin
2. Jekalyn Carr
3. Phil Thomson
4. Dr. Tumi.
5..Tasha Cobbs
6. Travis Greene
7. Todd Dulaney
8. Hillsong
Very good for contemporary worship..infact if you get on YouTube you will see similar suggestions from others like them. Get into worship mode in the morning and I'm sure your craving for cigarette will keep reducing.
SDK blog is really a place where you can pour your daily thoughts out.....share amebor no one can pick out from your head. Lol. Even some things I know if i tell people i wont explain it well, when i write it out here it looks funny and interetsing cos i write it as it straight from my thoughts.
Also download the 'light bible'. It has a brown icon. You get contemporary devotionals, status updates with your prayer points, read other people's prayer points and contribute via comments, contemporary Christian articles from contributors, play bible quizes with unknown Christians from allover the world. It will keep you company as long as you have access to internet.
Stay strong!.
May God continue to guide you every step of the way..You shall make it.I love your courage.
DeleteOfficial prestige
You can try Nivea lightening cream or Carotein hydro toning cream with shea butter
DeleteI'm beginning to like you rebel, take each day as it comes. Your narrations sounded really heart-felt. Just like you, I plan to lose some weight and learn to save more. I also want to be a goal-oriented person, set my goals and achieve them accordingly, whether long or short term goals. There is this happiness when one achieves what has been planned for the day.
DeleteWell done Fleur, may u find more peace and contentment. I will also suggest you visit this website www.jw.org.
Thank you all for your suggestions,advices and encouragement. God bless you all.😘
Deletewww.jw.org????
Delete@rebel fleur God has delivered you from psychological issues. Please dotn let Jehovah's witnesses brainwash you any further. RUN from stiff doctrines. Tommorow now they will tell you not to do blood transfusion. Serve God not church!
Good morning great people. All i typed disappeared. It is well.
ReplyDeleteStella continue doing good. You started it so no need to end it. Jesus was doing good and still doing good but they still killed him, He was betrayed with kisses and hugs, slapped, spit on and the rest but that did not change Him from doing good even to this day.
Anyway the rain made me sleep over instead of waking by 5.30 a.m. i had to wake up by 6.30 a.m. and then got to the office by 7.40 a.m. It is good. I am sure it is the holiday mood that people are in. THat is why Costain is very free and no trailers or tankers there. wetin happen? we need answer.
Let me go and drink ny tea jare. God is really good if you know what I mean.
You were super fast sef
DeleteMy dear everything was ready before i woke up
DeleteBuilder please can 2million naira build six room just six room with roofing please
ReplyDeleteIt cant Sir!
DeleteWont even take it to lintel level not to talk of roofing..
A six bedroom is quite much and would cost a lot from foundation stage,not to even add the fee for the Labour depending on how many labourers you choose to use daily..
Your location matters as well,but irrespective of that;2M "can never" and "would never" finish a six bedroom with the price rate of building materials now..
You can simply start with the money,then be doing one or two things as your income rolls in till you finish..
@MARTINS ABOY
Depends on ur finishing,materials n contractor....2m no go reach for an eye catching design unless na yard setting.
DeleteI just asked my hubby for you, this is his analysis.
Delete5000 blocks
100 bags of cement
4 tipper of sand
1 tipper of stone
Iron
Roofing without sheet 350k
Workmanship
In all, he said it will build it without flooring and finishing. I hope this helps.
Nope
DeleteMartin and BB thanks, i just want the building nothing inside only windows and doors, can it still go?
DeleteElegant thanks so much extend it to your husband too. I'm the poster.
DeleteMy dear 2mil can't build 6 rooms ooo. Do u know how much materials cost? Cement, rod, wood, sand, chippings, all these na huge money now.
DeleteAnd then roofing sheet is another costly material, unless u want to use the old model tinker kind of zinc.
Anyway, let me allow the engineers in the house to answer you, but I seriously doubt 2mil can build a 6room bungalow?
I hope u are not including the fittings too, like toilet seats and overhead showers. Also remember modern houses now, the electric wiring is done along side the block work, have u considered the amount for wiring materials?
I wish u goodluck dear.
From my experience as a building contractor, 2million can build to the point of roofing without ceiling, it can't finish it. It will remain things like plastering, windows, doors and toilets, soak away. Let me also add that this 2million will do what I wrote if you already have a dry land, not swampy land that you will have to fill and do German floor before commencing construction.
DeleteAll the best.
@ my fellow anon 8.49 it can't oo,one of my properties fence alone cost 3million,only fence oo I took possession of the land and fenced within 2weeks before I left town.
DeleteAnonymous Bug
I thank God as the nomination in bigbrother house went yesterday. It means that TOBI, NINA, ALEX AND MIRACLE and CEECC will all be in the FINALS. Their Fans will share vote amongst them, THEN MY KINGCEECC WILL WIN THE MONEY. Meanwhile all CEECC fans please don't give up, Ceec did all she could to win HOH yesterday but in the end it was a game of luck and Alex got it. Please lets keep voting for her, although I know ANTO and KHLOE will leave on sunday but lets keep voting in case BIGGIE decides to evict more than two housemates.
ReplyDeleteIf you spent half the energy you spend analysing BBN from the DSTV you watch you won't have to be here begging like a bambialla.
DeleteAnon leave our Whatever for us ooo, we enjoy her here. She keeps us going well
DeleteStella the parable of the sower told us that all the seed that the sower planted did not fall on the fertile ground. But in the end the ones that fell on the fertile ground germinated and the seed that came out of them were much that the sower did not even remember there were others that did not fall on a fertile. So I am encouraging you to keep sowing focusing on the ones that fall on the fertile ground only. God bless you for your good works.
ReplyDeleteThat correction of 'AS' on TEEJAY's write up yesterday was the height of stupidity. If you think you know English very well why not go and become an English lecturer in Harvard University, England.
ReplyDeleteThat 'AS' in Teejay's heading yesterday may be from Stella's side. Stella is the Queen of gbagauns here. Even up there in her epistle, you will see the gbagauns
DeleteHarvard is in England????
DeleteHas anyone used vicks or robb to grow hair or edges?
ReplyDeleteNever heard of that.
DeleteBut eucalyptus and peppermint oil stimulate follicles. That may be the theory behind it.
Especially as both contain high concentrations
DeleteGood morning everyone!!!
ReplyDeleteAuntie Stella. You try! However please don't stop doing good. Sometimes you have to help people DESPITE themselves. I am a very silent BV who has actually donated money anonymously. I will be looking to donate more in the future despite the unruliness of some BVs. Teejay grow a VERY thick skin and keep writing. If you can't deal with common BVs whom you don't know how will you cope with rejection from publishers in the future. Practice makes perfect and Stella has given you an amazing platform. The BVs that were given sewing machines I weep for you. If I were you, the first set of clothes I sew will be for Stella. You are so narrow minded you can't even see how your positive behaviour can be used as a marketing tool. Please keep complaining. Your enemies don't even have to bother with you. You attitude is determining your altitude. I come to this blog as it fosters a sense of community that other blogs don't. It is not the most sophisticated but it educates, empowers and teaches. May God continue to bless you Stella.
ReplyDeleteA million thanks to you dear. I think you have said it all.
DeleteGood morning house, top of the day everyone 😘 😘
ReplyDeleteStella I dey bow for u ooh.
ReplyDeleteBy now I thought u would HV develop a thick skin by now for ur bv's insults.some of them HV degrees in insultinology,just learn to ignore jare
Choii d rain of yesterday brought alot of cold with it.why d rain was falling yesterday evening,hubby and I had mad fun.come and see me screaming, speaking different languages, lmao.who send me to sit ontop.lol.
I HV spoil Finnish
Good morng lovelies.
Good morning all. The rain last night was a relief.
ReplyDeleteStella pls don't be too annoyed, human beings are not all the same, in any gathering we always have the bad eggs. May God keep blessing you.
Blessed day I wish us all.
Good morning beautiful pple plz help a sister out.my fiancé and I plan to do our trad wedding by August and been that it will be done in my villa and my dad is late so all expense falls on me and am a working class lady too.pleasd guys I want something simple yet classy for the occassion .how much should I budget?how do I go about this?how did you married ones do yours?hos much will this cost me?Am sure my family no body is willing to help financially that much o and I don't want my husbands people to come and see anyhow occassion or think we dey suffer...thanks as you advice...am 27 by the way and Igbo too.
ReplyDeletePls, wch state in the east are you from? I'm from Anambra, born and brought up in Abia, have friends from Enugu and IMO but I'm sure I have never heard of a custom where is the bride's family that takes care of everything.
DeleteIf it's dowry paying, I will understand if u guys are the ones cooking but even at that, it will just be a little event. But something as huge as a traditional marriage should be your husband that will be the major financier. Yes, you can help where you can, maybe some foodstuff or even buy your material and sew, but covering the entire expenses? Wooow. Like woooow.
Which expenses fall on you? Your fiance is supposed to give you money to take care of your side, then you can now add your own if it's not enough. The way you people marry nowadays, I don't understand. And you say you at Igbo? Is your fiance a broke ass?
DeleteLater you will come and cry here that your husband left the home financial responsibility for you to carry, why won't he leave them for you when you show him you have money right frm the start, miss independent.
Tell him how it's done on it in Igboland, let him give you money to take care of your people. Or are you marrying a 'Y' Demon? Igbo men know how it is being done. It's only the other tribe that the woman's family will have to take care of their expenses and even some of the husband expenses. Good luck to you.
Thanks my dear nah why I ask questions ooo his igbo too.i just want to know and I no dey form miss independent anything o.i don't even want to release too much money,though he knows am comfortable I don't want him to know my worth at all.thanks for your advise I will bear it in mind and relate it to him.his all yanded so he has western mentality I will correct it for him by force.thanks
DeleteAnd again his not close to a broke ass at all.
DeleteWhy must you foot all the expenses of the traditional marriage ceremony in your family part? You are 27 and so? Does it means you should lay a bad foundation for your marriage? If your husband is not capable, then wait till he is ready or do parlour ceremony according to what his pocket can carry. I repeat 'his pocket'. As you lay your bed, so will you lie on it. Marriage ceremony is just the beginning, the main marriage itself is coming and that is where you will see something. Maybe you have been doing things yourself before in the relationship and now you want to carry it into the marriage, I pity you. I pray you don't cry later.
DeleteI made the mistake of letting him know my income and also joining my money with his own for our marriage and till today I don't have savings of my own. He knows what I earn and we join money together to do everything. My mum doesn't get any money from me for months most times because my money is budgeted for something else every month. I also know what he earns.
If Internet had been rampant like it is today and I get to read blogs and Facebook groups like I do now, I would have known better. Infact I would not have married him at that time cos he was a little broke. Maybe I would have told him to hustle more, change his job, start a business or something before marriage and if he did not like it, we would have gone our separate ways, I was 27 too.
Since after marriage, we have been moving in circles, expenses are more than income, no tangible achievement except the two kids. All I can do now is to advise young ladies. I can't change my situation or it will lead to a break up in the marriage which will be bad for the kids cos I know he will never allow me to take them.
Thank you a lot
Deletehi stella good morning and thank you for the great job that you are doing. i would just like to say a little something about yesterdays chronicle people were so quick to judge that lady and i think its unfair, the men these days are very lazy and would use any excuse to not perform their roles in the homes. our mothers got married early partly because the men knew it was their job as the head of the home to provide. im not a house wife i work and im the one supporting my home.maybe its all this feminism that we are preaching that is making men feel like its ok not to have something doing but please lets stop judging women.a lot of women would probably love to be house wives if they could. stella please do a post where married people can come and share their problems so people know they are not alone in what they are going through. thank you and sorry for the epistle
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