We started drifting apart. Like I said last week; after he recovered from surgery it wasn't the same with us .
He noticed and asked but I couldn't tell him,for this reasons
1) if I told him it was because I wasn't included in his will it will be like i wanted him dead.
2)Ever since I knew how much he controlled he didn't seem like the boy next door to me anymore. (I was still young then)
Now he was staying more in the abroad, and he had been out of the country for weeks (no chatting apps then)
The communication wasn't good, maybe he got tired. He called me one day and broke up with me that's the first guy to break up with me, na me dey do the breaking up.
Even though I thought the feelings weren't there anymore but na lie I still had some.
I asked for reasons and he said he called me one day and a guy picked and said he shouldn't call his girl any more.
Mumu me tried to explain, his mind was made up and that was it.
I moved on.
Months later I got a call from him, he asked if I could talk I said yes and he started pouring out his heart.
Apparently his bank marketer friend had duped him. This was the Charles Solude era of 25million abi 25billion naira capitalization.
The friend begged him to invest to help her meet her target, he did not knowing she had been sacked from the bank. So all the money he was sending her was going to her personal account.
So that day he needed a shoulder to cry on and I gave him one for about 2 hours.
He told me he missed me and if not for what that boy told him he won't have broken up with me bla bla bla.
After he dropped my friend by my side almost slapped me. She abused me and told me how much of a fool I have been, Kai my friend abused me sha na so my brain reset.
When next he called I was ready, I wanted to start pouring out my heart to him from the surgery incident till now. But he stopped me.
He said iya beji you are the sweetest girl I know, this is not you. And even though we can't be together I still want to remember you as the sweet girl that you are.
Ha he had all my mumu buttons again.
I went soft.
ME:"So why can't we be together again"
GUY: You cheated on me
ME: But you have cheated on me before and I forgave you.
GUY: So its that why you decided to cheat on me too?
ME: I swear I have not been with another guy since I met you(and that was the truth)
The conversation went on and on with him still insisting I cheated.
I looked back today and I am grateful, this guy had me in his palm and would have the played with me for years. But God made him leave, even though I was hurt then but now I am grateful.
Have you had such relationship that when you look back you are grateful that he/she left you because you would haven't had the strength to leave.
*Yes,i have had such and i am grateful..I no even get mumu button again sef..lol
Had strenght to leave?...lol, that one is for babes who love with their souls...cos if a man maltreats ur emotions,takes u for granted,i see No reason why a woman should love such man, everything shouldve turned to hate, but no, good prick will not let them reason like humans.
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DeleteI hardly break up with people. When the relationship starts getting hiccups I can longer cope with I just start drifting. I stop calling the guy. The last I just left when I started noticing the guy was never there for me. I will use my money travel to Abuja to go see this guy. He would hardly come see me in Enugu, to collect my flight money back wahala. To even get money from him you will remind him 100times. I just started getting tired. Then I met someone else,started dating the person, he noticed I longer call like before,no longer visit. He will call i will be cold. His last call was Feb. No need telling him we have broken up. We both know. I am sure he also has a girl there. Reason I never discard any toaster.
DeleteYour boyfriend should include you in his will! Tueh!
ReplyDeleteMumu button? Na me dey press his own like pipo pipo horn. I no fit shout
ReplyDeleteThis one that is here I'm trying to leave, first it was that I'm too fat, I shed weight in one month, weight he said I can't shed knowing I succeeded in that now it you love me too much n it scaring me, never knew love can leave someone like that it pity I'm feeling for him now, cos I don't date sotey I don date kolo mental and if he profess Love Now ehhhh, have carried my brain where I kept it n ran mbuk
ReplyDeleteBeen there done that, moved on
DeleteFunny you
DeleteBest thing is to have 2 guys honestly. Men have shown me sotey I am no longer loyal.
DeleteThis blog made me see having 2 guys is the way to go. If I see a 3rd I can add a 3rd sef.
There is one I am dating seriously,hope to marry but he is based abroad comes home every 3mth. The other one is here, a very busy man that has a lot of money, he is much older and a divorcee and has told me he is no longer interested in marriage and I am fine with it . I love his company and he pays my bills. When one annoys me, the second is there to uplift me. I am enjoying the best of both words.
When my abroad boyfriend is around I become unavailable to the one here. He is very busy he doesn't even notice. Doesn't have time to check phones plus I delete chats and call logs. So I am having best of both worlds. My boo has been talking of us doing traditional marriage when he comes December hopefully.
Hmmm....this hit close to home. NYSC was my saving grace! Leaving the environment helped clear my head and helped me regain my senses....if not I would have been done for!!!
ReplyDeletemumu button of who.........well everyone who truly loved once had the button. Truth is we still have , just that only few people can locate it. when that person finds you ,you fall yakata.
ReplyDeleteHmmm! I remember mine when I was 21,I couldn't leave cos of fear of people laughing at me since my introduction was already done, But my God came through for me gave me the strength to leave and move on. If not by now I for don die since for that man hand. Chai thank you Lord.But looking at my life now, I find myself very blessed to married to the one who completes me.My best friend forever.
ReplyDeleteEverybody get mumu button abeg. Even Stella get mumu button. Those wey know her wella know how to press that button
ReplyDeleteThank God he travelled to UK for masters that year and the relationship ended.
ReplyDeleteThis was how my first uni relationship was. I knew I had to leave but couldn't. Even the love sef had dwindled but still I couldn't leave. He would cheat on anything in skirt, get angry when I confront him but when I decide to leave, he'd start apologising and crying stupid tears.
ReplyDeleteHow did I finally leave? I hot involved with someone else while still with him. Someone that treated me right but I still didn't leave.
The day he caught me in the guy's house after telling him I was going to Enugu was the turning point for me. Instead of breaking up with me, he used the opportunity to beg for forgiveness for how bad he had treated me. Saying he's sure he was the one that pushed me to it.
But mehn, it then dawned on me that I was done. The next day, I just took the few of things i had in his place (we were on holiday) and left for Enugu.
Kai. Memories!
This story long sha.
Hahahahahaha men are funny. That is how my university bf use to cheat too. I moved on without telling him and started dating someone he now started kneeling down crying and begging when I had already moved on.
DeleteThis guy cheated on me with 3 girls that I know about. I wil be crying allover the place.
The idiot contacted me on Facebook recently that I am his first true love because he disvirgined me and I should come and visit him in S.A. he will send ticket.
I was thinking of going just to chop his money. But on 2nd though my bf won't be happy about it.
I really loved that guy. Pity he couldn't stick to one woman.
Oh yes.i am still going through the pain. But I am grateful he left. The relationship was too toxic with a lot of questions about his integrity. His family still think the world of him but the truth is the man is a very bitter man. 4 kids from 2 different women, lives off women to get by. Doesn't pay their fees. He is still owing me sef. But all in all i am grateful he left. I know I will heal eventually but this pain is a whole lot.
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