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ISAACBABA COVERS IN HOUSE NEWS

Bv’s It is with great joy I celebrate successfully serving NIGERIA and passing out smooth and sound,I want to appreciate each and everyone of you that supported me with words of encouragement right from the time I was about starting this journey,and was looking for accommodation.


I got the best advices from this blog at that period that has helped shape me to the entrepreneur I have become now and am loving it and looking forward to the next stage of my life with God by my side I know more doors will be open for me and things can only get better and better amen....

I love you all for the support through well wishes and patronage and also SDK and this wonderful blog,because if e nor be una where I go dey? THANKS GUYS MUCH LOVE FROM ME TO YOU ALL ALWAYS AND FOREVER

Congratulations to you Isaacbaba

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BIRTHDAY GIRL ANTHONIA COVERS IN HOUSE NEWS


Happy belated Birthday to you Tonia....Nice eyes!


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OYIZA COVERS IN HOUSE NEWS

Hello Aunty Stella and fellow beevees, my name is Oyiza, I've been a silent beevee for years now. My love for this blog is on another level cos it's one of the things that has helped reduce my boredom in this period of job hunting. Well today is my birthday and I was hoping I would qualify for face of IHN. thanks

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LOVE GONE SOUTH BETWEEN TWO BLOG VISTORS


You wanted to Marry him and have his baby and because the love went South,you got Police involved and said he scammed money off you..Money given as love gift when the going was good?..Women are horrible and the details of this one will shock you all.
She is probably reading this now and switching to Plan B.

Watch this space as this story is loading and will be posted with munches and photos of both parties.. 
Story loading soon....that is if it doesnt make it to National dailies soon.

And if anything happens to the guy,we know its you Duchess.



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HAIR STYLIST LOADING

I Am rounding up my training as a hair stylist and want to start up mine immediately,  if anyone has any saloon equipment to bless my ministry with,or wants to sell for a token i can be reached on 08103891374 or 08057408670.
I am based in ibafo, Ogun state. I can go anywhere for it. Thanks




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SERVICED APARTMENT FOR RENT

I have a serviced apartment for rent, for short/long term
Location: Magodo
Size: 3bedroom

Decent and conducive environment, with parking space at a reasonable price too

Call: 07034911313

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RE-FRIDAY CHRONICLE POSTER REPLIES

  Stella,

Thanks to you and every single person who replied to my post. I really appreciate the time you took and the advices. We  all keep learning in life. You can post this as an update if you wish or read it personally.

Let me start by clarifying the yoruba origin that some posters didn’t understand. Yorubas are not limited to Nigeria and are in most countries of west Africa like Liberia, Cote d’ivoire, Togo, Benin…etc. Same is for Hausa and Ibo. For those who said that I speak like a Nigerian, it is because I practice my English with the help of Nigerians ( the friends I have here in the US, SDK blog, Nollywood movies,…etc). 

Now back to the matter. Like I said in my story, it can take 10 years and more to tell my family story. That is to address those saying that there is more to the story. There is definitely more, and it started way before my birth.
Of course by me not being able to tell the entire 10 years story, it is easy to think from my chronicle that I only have bad things to say about my family. 


It was really educative to learn about the Narcissistic Family Dynamic from some posts. I googled it and it was surprising to know that what my family is dealing with has been studied and the descriptions fit perfectly. I think everyone should google it just for education. One of the descriptions of that dynamic is that the parents make you always keep your mouth shut and never voice whatever they make you go through. 


My introvert personality combined with that "secrecy pact” aspect of my family, never allows me to open up to anyone in my life. As I said before, we don’t have relative, just us the 5 kids and the parents (no friends either). I am a big family person, so despite the fact that I wasn’t attached to any parent, I always tried my best to feed love and union because I knew that my family is all I have. Since their fight has gone public, I have been the one solving issues for 5-6years, trying to bring parties together and to say I am tired is an understatement.


 I have been the one telling my siblings ( the ex-favored and the never-favored) to accept our parents like they are because they are humans and we have nobody else. But they will not listen to me, especially that I am the last one. So I started just keeping quiet and starring at them from far. My situation is like having 3 countries(my dad, my mom, and my siblings) going to war and 1 diplomate (me) trying to solve it. Picture them using gun, swords, and canon to finish me while I go around asking each camp to calm down. I can’t! I’m human and I get hurt too! They can just finish each other on this planet and once they get in front of Jesus, he might solve their issues for them. Again, I love my family but I just feel the more time goes by, the worst they become and the bitter the taste they leave in my mouth.


Those thinking that I badmouth my mom… We can say that she was a single parent (even if my dad was physically present) and I admire her for that. I have always covered for my mom since I was a kid; either in front of my siblings, in front of employees, or in front of other people. Trying to give excuses to why she might be acting the way she is doing or just simply asking people to let go. Before my boyfriend asked her my hand in January, he met her a year before and she knew who he was. After that, He started asking me if my mom ever asked of him when she called me, I was replying so many “no-s”to him, that I started lying that she was asking me how he was doing but I was forgetting to tell him. I will always tell him good thing about her, how she is a super mom, she worked hard, she prays, she fed us, her small achievement… etc. Everything to make it look good until he came to ask her my hand in marriage. I didn’t trash my mom. How could I have saved my family’s face in front of him after all she had told him herself? Even after meeting her, he confessed to me that he had already heard in town how she was behaving with my siblings and dad and I was pissed that it got to his ears, but what could I have done?


 As much as I did my best to cover all my family issues to him all this while, the truth was getting out there. I could have been in denial  for as long as I wish while no matter what, the color of my family was getting revealed to the public. Even the small “truth" about my family that I exposed to his, I regretted it because of the type of person I am. At the moment, I am working on being at peace with whatever is happening in the family so that, if eventually the insult comes back tomorrow, it won’t be as painful. Wether I like it on not, they are hearing about it, the only difference will be about having the “exclusive from the insider” (hearing from my mouth). 

Someone asked how I knew about my mom's favorite and the reply is that she voiced it herself. She always told the rest of her kids openly that she preferred this or that kid. Apart from her saying it, she clearly shows it by spending money over and over on her favorites but on the rest, she does it few times and you will hear it for the rest of your life.

I am growing to become wiser and more humble, and it is not as if I didn’t put myself in my mom’s shoes to try to understand her. Of course, any good mother will want to make sure that her kid become successful after all the sacrifice she put in.  Sadly, my mom has become bitter and bitter, more selfish, more possessive, over the year (I still believe that it all of that is also due to not having a good partner [never underestimate the power of marrying the right person]). Unfortunately with my mom, success or not, she will not allow you to get married in peace. Proof is that my 2 sisters ( including her ex-favorite) received hell when they were getting married. They were in their 30s, working abroad and had their own thing but my mom asked them if they thought that they were going to get married while their elder brother is not yet? Second sister, my mom is still praying for her to pack from her husband’s house. Sadly also, there is nobody to send to talk to her. My mom only sees life one way and if you don’t agree exactly with what she is saying, better know that you have become her enemy. She has managed to surround herself with only people who will say” you are right ma”.


By me saying that my bf asked me to calm down, I guessed it was misunderstood as if I was a brat who was trying to pull a tantrum. Not only is he saying that because, of course, as any normal human you can only push someone for peace ( exceptionally when it is the family you want to marry to) but also, because he is not the one in my shoes. Please, don’t think that by saying that, I am close-minded and only try to see things a certain way. But until you walk in my shoes you can’t get the pain, the cries, the fatigue, the stress, and everything else that goes with it. I can imagine that coming from the type of family he has, hearing the small things he has about my family probably made him think that we are aliens or unreal and I don’t blame him. I don’t wanna go to war against my mother but I am trying to be ready if that is the only option she offers me.  

With my dad, it is true that I had a little hope with him being nice with my boyfriend when they met. However, the sad part with the type of parents we have is that you never know what to expect so, I’d rather be prepared for the worst. My guy called him just to check on him after we got back to the US, my dad asked him if there was any emergency, if not, that he is busy at the moment. Duration of the call was 45seconds. My dad never called him back. BF called back but dad didn’t pick. I am still pulling excuses on why my dad still hasn't got back for weeks.

It is easy to think that I am not diplomatic but in the family I am from, we don’t talk, we yell! When you just talk, one person will come yell on you and say hurtful things just to feel superior. That is how we work.

Someone advised me to ignore my mother and siblings if they decide not to be present at my union. I thought the same but I know deep down that it is not the ideal situation, and me sharing my chronicle was to see if there was other options. Yes, my dad can agree to give my hand but it will be dull for me to be there alone by myself with him ( who has always be a stranger to me) while the other side will have family, relatives, and friends. 

Some said that by me saying that my children might not visit my family, it means that I am elaborating the showing (exposing my mom).  That was never my wish growing up, specially knowing that I didn’t have relatives to play with or extended family. But I have been seeing my parents behaviors toward  the few grandchildren they have, and you can see that they want to repeat their mistakes again. From talking more to the lighter skins one and almost ignoring the dark skins, or being able to have the kid of my brother over for two weeks but when my sisters kids come, after 10min, it is complains of back pain or knee pain or fatigue… the unequal treatment is there. I have been through it and Lord knows how much strength it took me to gain confidence in myself and be who I am today. It is not easy and proof is that most of my siblings are still carrying the effects. Mind you that all the grandchildren I was referring to, are from around the same age.

I know that all my write up might seem like an illusion in my brain but it is a big reality and the small story I told is just the tip of the iceberg.

Aside from all of this I have fear. I had a bad view of marriage based on what my parents showed me so I am really scarred of ending bad.[Prayer is still everything I have. The comments really put peace in my hurt despite many not necessarily understanding my situation because they never went through the same. Medical school is my focus but I can get so mentally and emotionally drained sometimes… I really on God so I know he has my best interest in mind.

Thank you.




WOW....Last last everyone will be fine!


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IN HOUSE RANT OF BV WHO JUST RETURNED TO THE DIASPORA FROM VISITING NIGERIA


I am not sure what to make of this but i recently returned from an extended visit to 9ja; my last visit being 2 years ago.

My observations- 2 years ago, when i visited i loaded my phone via MTN with a little over 2k for their "30 day data" ish, it lasted 2weeks.....in 2018, my data was up after 4 days and had to reload and reload throughout my stay.
I wasnt streaming videos oh.

My verdict, kudos to ur BV's for logging on several times a day to ur blog, dont know how they do it but God bless them.


Food/Snacks

Bread- for those of us in the "abroad", you know ur normal size bread you get from the supermarkets, ALDI, Tesco, Walmart etc?? Well a little over half that size is #400naira. So for a family with kids they ll need to spend over 1K daily for just bread and tea.

Bread that used to be #200 has increased by over 100%. And a family may need more than 1 per meal time.
Sweets and snacks that we give our kids over here between meals, hmmmmm....basic biscuit or crisps na #700 , #2K depending on the size and brand. Infact Maltesers, M nM are 2K plus.
Sweets that i paid #350  for just 2yrs ago were #800  this past month. Thats a 130% increase.


Transportation 

Thats the largest consumer of money (IMO). I spent an average of 2K on tp everytime i went out.

Infact you have to be careful in 9ja because once you open your front door, 2K don disappear fiam!!!, open gate nko, 5K go just waka laidat, enter ur main road or junction, 10k don waka leave you.
I went with 500k and i had to send for more money whilst there as i ran out. And NO, i didnt dash peeps money nor do i drink or club or "host" friends.

I dont know how we as Nigerians sat down and watched things go this bad and then the fact we are been docile about situation is even sad.
We are "waiting" for election time when we can see from recent happenings that INEC has probably been compromised. 
We need to move from social media distractions to physical actions and protest against this hardships. Vote out ANYONE who has EVER been in power in ANY capacity in the last 30years either by election or appointment.
The one wey dem do don reach. Even if they did "well" during their time.

Stella i saw hardship. Families eat x1 a day. Those that are fortunate to have jobs are not been paid. Parents wake kids up at 5am to prep for sch.
School fees in all these chewing gum "private" schools with just 2 blocks of building is over 100k a term.

Even house rents.
Stella i wasnt living in a posh area oh. I was living in a lower class not slum sha but lower class area....and Not middle class area and these are the costs of living in these areas.

I entered pharmacy to get x3 different drugs; x1 antibiotic, x1 cough syrup and another med and i was 9K poorer. Then i asked myself, coming from a place where these drugs would have cost less to a country where the min wage is 18k with an average of 2kids per family, how do families with young kids cope when their children are ill? We know how young children pick up infections easy as they grow and build their immune system.

So i ask, when are we as a nation going to say enough is enough? Stop the praying and complaining and actually take physical actions?

The youth nko? Everyone wants out of the country. I spoke with a few.....graduates with no jobs and no capital to start an SME.....then there are those who are actually leeches - waiting for handouts from people but thats talk for another day.
Stella for the first time i was ashamed of my country.
All you see on billboards or ministers of the "gospel" and 2019 election candidates advertising themselves.

The youths are unapologetically focusing their energies on how to defraud the next individual or govt.

Which way my people?


WOW...this is so bad


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ACCOMMODATION NEEDED

Please I need a spacious room self contain in Ajah/Badore axis. The house should be in a gated compound and water available. My budget is 200k, no agent and agreement fee. Please I would appreciate direct link with the landlord. I can be reached on 08178825108.




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BLOG VISITORS EMPLOYED

Good day Stella,

Thank you for posting the below vacancy on your blog. After series of interviews, we employed 2 persons from your blog yesterday.
I just want to say thank you for using your platform to empower and encourage youths. 

Kind regards 


Thanks for the feedback,it really means a lot and shows all the Vacancy postings are not in vain.


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OKRIKA CLOTHES FOR SALE IN ASABA

Good day Stella and bvs,I finished service December last year but I am yet to secure a job so I ventured into Second hand clothing business in Asaba.I sell children and ladies clothes at Okpanam road but I don't have customers yet.please beevees in Asaba and it's environ,patronize me. 
09070340207




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COW HEAD POMO AND FRESH ZOBO DRINK FOR SALE

Packaged thick cow head pomo for soup, stew, nkwobi etc. It's been washed, cleaned and almost ready to eat. Also it's very affordable. Available only in Abuja on Saturdays, free delivery to any location.

I also supply fresh zobo drink, made with fresh juice and ginger to homes, offices and parties. I can also prepare the juice with your preferred flavor.

BV Castle Windsor.


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TEEJAYS CORNER
CULTISM SCARE


Before traveling to school, I made a promise to my family to be a good child and never to indulge in any form of cult related activities and I got their blessings and left to a distance state, a place far from home.

During my first year in school I had gone to squat with a friend of mine because i didnt want to stay with my uncle cos i wanted to have freedom of movement. 


The friend I had gone to stay with wasn't even the occupant of the house but a squatter too. The arrangement was that since the main tenant will be going for IT we will retain the house so as not to pay the usual agent fees or stress finding a house.

Unknown to me, almost all the young boys in that compound were cultists including the guy whose house we were staying. 

One fateful day I visited my uncle and spent the night in his place, on getting home the next day I saw my friend in serious pains and when I asked what it was, I was shocked to hear him say to me that himself and one other guy in the lodge were taken to a bush the night I was away and beaten thoroughly with wounds all over their body as a mark of initiation, he said that they were even asking after me.

On hearing that, I quickly came out and stopped a keke napep,went in and carried my bag and left for my uncle's place that I never wanted to stay.
 I am happy that i didnt become a cultist....

I heard and watched a guy in the vicinity I stayed always displaying strength with the usual slogan "Dead men don't count". But on that day, his family became a victim of his act, I think the whole ideology of his belief changed. He lost the mother and younger sister to a cult rivalry war.

 Today he still lives with the guilt of his actions, and I ask what then is the sole aim and benefit to chose such a way of life? It is total wickedness to your family who gave out their hard earned resources to see you become successful in the society by enrolling you in school, only for you to end up breaking their hearts with the news of being shot or expelled as a result of cult related activities.

Shun cultism today, it destroys and nothing good has ever come out of it  but pains and untimely death.

BV TEEJAY



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DESIGNERS WANTED

Male Tailors ( Creative and can make both Male and Female Cloth) wanted for a fashion house 
Location Abuja
Accommodation Provide
Whatsapp/Call 09082665772




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VACANCIES

An existing company in Lekki 1 looking to hire 

A Male marketer between the ages of 26 and 32years
Basic Salary between 45 to 60k  
10% commission on every sale 

Requirements: 

Must be a Graduate

Must know how to drive a car with a valid drivers license 
Must be an aggressive marketer/Sales man 
Must have good communication skills 
Must have good computer skills 
Must be intelligent with innovative ideas
Must be neat and presentable 


A Female office assist between the ages of 22 to 26years 
Basic Salary between 25 to 35k
10% commission on every sale. 

Requirements: 
Must be Graduate or part time undergraduate
Must be a good SocialMedia handler 
Must have basic computer knowledge 
Must be neat and presentable 
Must have good communication skills 
Must live on the island or its environs eg Yaba 
Contact 09020811818 




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  TWO BEDROOM FLAT NEEDED URGENTLY


Young couple URGENTLY  needs a PRIVATELY built 2 bedrooms flat In FESTAC. Budget 500k. Please, don't want to deal with any agent. Can be reached on 08110275348




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VACANCY

This is a repost from last week as there was an error with the first email.



I work with XDS Credit Bureau Limited Ikoyi, Lagos State, we are into credit referencing services.

We are looking for Experienced Software developers in our company. The pay is good with free HMO and other benefits. Please interested persons should forward their CV to lloniaogada@gmail.com. 

Qualifications required are:
Minimum of B.Sc
2-5 years of working experience in this field or any related field
Male and female can apply
No age limit

Also, There's an opening for a front desk officer

Qualification required are;
Minimum of OND or HND
Must be computer literate
Must be a female.




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TAXIFY DRIVER NEEDED

I need a  taxify driver, someone that's smart and experienced.
My location is lekki. Interested candidates should contact via amandaobi41@gmail.com  

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