STAND ALONE NARRATIVE
NAMING THE CHILDREN IN A MUSLIM/CHRISTIAN MARIAGE
Hello Stella and the able Bvs. Please I need the advice of everyone on this issue. It may be something not too serious but I will really appreciate your contributions. Thanks to everyone because this blog has helped me a lot; especially the advices and brain-reset bashings I get whenever I send a chronicle or rant in IHN or spontaneous post. In short SDK blog has shaped me in so many areas. My apologies if my story sounds as if I'm criticizing a religion.
My boyfriend is a calm (very calm) person and he loves me to bits. I'm also calm but not as calm as he is. He is everything I want in man and we click so well. We can do without having any misunderstanding for months. It's not that we don't argue, but we sort them out immediately. But we had one last night that was not resolved for hours. We were chatting about the BBNaija eviction show, then something led to naming of kids. I told him that I don't want our children to have any Muslim names. Then , he said that he's sure that his dad will give them.
His dad is a Muslim ( not a dedicated one, I don't even know when last he went to mosque). But, his mum is a practising and dedicated Christian. They celebrate both Christian and Muslim festivals in their house. Boyfriend and his siblings all have both Christian and Muslim names but he is the only one that people call by his Muslim name ( the name is also his third name on his documents while his Yoruba name is the first name). Both his Muslim and Christian names starts with the same alphabet letter. So, anytime he writes his initials, I always thought it's his Christian name. His younger brother answers to his Christian name, while his elder one and the baby of the house bears their normal Yoruba names like Ope, and Tayo. His siblings do not have Muslim names on their documents. I don't even know their Islamic names.
Hello Stella and the able Bvs. Please I need the advice of everyone on this issue. It may be something not too serious but I will really appreciate your contributions. Thanks to everyone because this blog has helped me a lot; especially the advices and brain-reset bashings I get whenever I send a chronicle or rant in IHN or spontaneous post. In short SDK blog has shaped me in so many areas. My apologies if my story sounds as if I'm criticizing a religion.
My boyfriend is a calm (very calm) person and he loves me to bits. I'm also calm but not as calm as he is. He is everything I want in man and we click so well. We can do without having any misunderstanding for months. It's not that we don't argue, but we sort them out immediately. But we had one last night that was not resolved for hours. We were chatting about the BBNaija eviction show, then something led to naming of kids. I told him that I don't want our children to have any Muslim names. Then , he said that he's sure that his dad will give them.
His dad is a Muslim ( not a dedicated one, I don't even know when last he went to mosque). But, his mum is a practising and dedicated Christian. They celebrate both Christian and Muslim festivals in their house. Boyfriend and his siblings all have both Christian and Muslim names but he is the only one that people call by his Muslim name ( the name is also his third name on his documents while his Yoruba name is the first name). Both his Muslim and Christian names starts with the same alphabet letter. So, anytime he writes his initials, I always thought it's his Christian name. His younger brother answers to his Christian name, while his elder one and the baby of the house bears their normal Yoruba names like Ope, and Tayo. His siblings do not have Muslim names on their documents. I don't even know their Islamic names.
It was when I visited his parent's house that I got to know that people( family members, friends and neighbours) call my guy by his Muslim name. I met him during NYSC and everyone knows him by his first name. I have no problem with his name but I am not comfortable with our children having those names, since we are both Christians. My guy attends church but not on a regular basis.
Anytime I speak with his mum on phone, she is always telling me to encourage her son to take church seriously. He was going to church when I met him, it is not as if I am converting him or I converted him. He had a Bible on his phone and just finding his way through the book but I gave him a hard copy Bible as one of his birthday gifts last year. I have not seen him with a Quran but I saw a praying mat in their house. All his siblings too are Christians. His parents are good people. I love them and they love me in return.
He told me that it was his paternal grandmother that gave him the Muslim name, and that his dad may decide to give Muslim names to our children. He lived with his grandma for two years or so before she died. All through his stay with her, he followed her to Mosque. He told me when we first met that he does not really understand the religion, but had no choice but to practise Islam since he was under her roof. After she died, he stopped going to Mosque and wasn't really a church goer. I rejected his idea of his dad giving our kids Muslim names and told him that his mum should name them instead, since its like a tradition for them. I am also sure that if his mum will name our children, she will either give them native or Christian names since she's a Christian.
After some minutes of sorting things out, he told me that the Islamic names won't appear on their documents. But I told him that I don't even want any Muslim names on their list of names during their naming ceremonies. My fear is that, what if the dad give them those names and people decides to start calling them by the Muslim names, just like they do call him? I made him realized that my mum, ( she is now a Christian) came from a Muslim background but got married to my dad, who is a Christian. None of my maternal grandparents gave us Muslim names. So, why is his own different?
I asked him to tell me his religion and he said "Christianity" but he embraces Islam as well. He later succumbed to me but he has not given me a 100% assurance that all is well. He just told me that he does not like my manner of approach. My manner of approach was me standing my ground that I do not want his dad to give our kids religious names, when we both go to church.
He told me that it was his paternal grandmother that gave him the Muslim name, and that his dad may decide to give Muslim names to our children. He lived with his grandma for two years or so before she died. All through his stay with her, he followed her to Mosque. He told me when we first met that he does not really understand the religion, but had no choice but to practise Islam since he was under her roof. After she died, he stopped going to Mosque and wasn't really a church goer. I rejected his idea of his dad giving our kids Muslim names and told him that his mum should name them instead, since its like a tradition for them. I am also sure that if his mum will name our children, she will either give them native or Christian names since she's a Christian.
After some minutes of sorting things out, he told me that the Islamic names won't appear on their documents. But I told him that I don't even want any Muslim names on their list of names during their naming ceremonies. My fear is that, what if the dad give them those names and people decides to start calling them by the Muslim names, just like they do call him? I made him realized that my mum, ( she is now a Christian) came from a Muslim background but got married to my dad, who is a Christian. None of my maternal grandparents gave us Muslim names. So, why is his own different?
I asked him to tell me his religion and he said "Christianity" but he embraces Islam as well. He later succumbed to me but he has not given me a 100% assurance that all is well. He just told me that he does not like my manner of approach. My manner of approach was me standing my ground that I do not want his dad to give our kids religious names, when we both go to church.
Was I really wrong in my manner of approach? Am I even over reacting since I know that our parents should either give our kids native names (or oriki names in Yoruba), and not religion names. I was thinking he would remove my picture on his profile pics all through the heated argument but he didn't. I ended the conversation last night and we did as if nothing happened this morning. He was a little bit formal with me and nobody has brought up the issue this morning.
Should I still bring the issue up when next we see each other since we are both in different cities, and all our discussions on this issue was on WhatsApp. How best can I handle this situation? Thanks so much.
*I dont know anything about this oh.
I have one question for you. IS YOUR GUY A CHRISTIAN OR A MUSLIM?
ReplyDeleteMMMMMMMhhhhhhhhhhhhh!
DeleteSDK pleads the 5th amendment!
But wait o, is this the leg nama will use to go to Sokoto
Una never marry sote una don declare 3rd world war -religious war?
make una carry sofly o, religious war no dey finish -ask Sudan.
When u get to d bridge I cross am. This no be serious matter. Allow others send their serious marital issues like cheating, violence, greedy wandering prick hubby etc
DeleteYou have a lot of issues. Stop tormenting that innocent boy.
DeletePoster you are being a bit selfish tbh. You don’t even want the name at all. you realise that whatever name you give your child they can choose a name of their own? He has Muslim pots and you want to deny his children an opportunity to identify with that part of them. You are rather selfish. It won’t kill you to have it as a 3rd or fourth name no one uses anything other than first and middle name. In fact some don’t use middle names .
DeleteThis guy hasn't proposed to you yet and u carry matter for head like this?
ReplyDeleteLMAO 😁
DeleteThis is way a lot of people have issues in marriage. You leave major topics of discussion to talk about irrelevant things. Don't you think this is relevant? Many of us invest our time talking about people, friends, celebrities, etc and leave actual "relationship stuff"... then, at the end of the day we begin to have issues we should have settled during the "knowing each other phase"
DeleteLoool.
DeleteHahahaha. She's sure he'll propose.
DeleteBabe is clearing grounds in anticipation nau🤣
DeleteThank you my Jaba brother. She never marry but carry matter for head.
DeleteHow is her question a problem? This is the best time to clear her grounds. What do partners do if not to deal with future. She's a smart babe by asking joor. This will prepare her mind for the future and she won't be too shocked for surprises.
DeleteYou do know these are the things you discuss BEFORE PROPOSAL. Why wont we have chronicles when instead of talking you spend time exploring different orrifices
DeleteArguments like this one is really healthy in a relationship to avoid surprises after the marriage. To be honest, I don’t see the big deal if your kids are given a Muslim name to honor their grandparents or whoever.
ReplyDeleteWhat’s important is the name you give your child and what you call your child, besides you and your husband are the ones to decide the name on their birth certificate.
Some tribes give a child about 10 names during the naming ceremony from different family members but only 3 or 4 make it to the birth certificate.
When you both meet, you can bring it up again but stop making this about your man and the name he chose to bear. He had no hand in it but you both can do better. I have somewhat Muslim name which I like and I’m a Christian. Few people call me by it but I use my English name more. You’re making it look like you want to quarrel over it, calm down and talk this out with him telling him how you feel strongly about it instead of expecting him to flip and remove you from his dp because you’ve probably done just that.
You are right....this is not a problem at all...if you see ogbonge marital problem you will know this is a child's play....
DeleteI love your comment. If his father is a Muslim then please expect your kids to get Muslim names from their grand dad, It is also not possible for your mother in law only to name your kids when your father in law is still very much alive. See why I don't really subscribe for an inter-religious marriage, problems such as this will definitely crop up. Still all the best in your relationship.
DeleteYou are right,most times it's the name you call the child that sticks
DeleteVery correct. Stop creating trouble where there's none, poster. Every name we bear is not by accident.
DeleteYour Father is law has a right to give the children Muslim names but you and your husband decide what goes on the birthcert. My husband is now born again like me but he is from a Muslim home. Our kids have Yoruba, Christian and Muslim names but only 3 Yoruba names made it into their birth certs. My father in law is a Lone Ranger as he is the only one who calls the children by their Muslim names which is maybe once a year when he sees them. The names on the certificates is what matters, calm down, you are still in control.
DeleteBut why must his father name the kids? He named his own kids, so why won't he allow his son name his own kids? I hate weak men, mehnn...
DeleteMy dear you dont have a problem,if they insist allow them to give your kids muslim name,luckily for you the guy agreed it wont show on any of the kids dcoument,so what else do you want...please dont create a problem where there is none..allow them and dont call your kids by the name simple....what about me,i am a muslim..after fantasizing the nice muslim names i will give my kids,it was when i was pregnant i got to realised that its my Father inlaw that will give the kids muslim name,and hubby is in support,so i left them....for the first one thats what we even call her..for the second born i ensure its yoruba name that i gave her that we normally call her..but the muslim name is still on her document..my dear just relax..its not a biggie and nobody will die abeg,before you start creating trouble for yourself abeg.
ReplyDeletePoster, poster hmmm. It seems you guys are living together. Is that right as a Christian? You are busy almost dying over a future that has not yet come. You guys ain't married yet, or am I wrong? I hate to break this to you but your boyfriend could be a Muslim. It's his right and his choice. You can't force it down his throat to be a Christian. That he is quiet doesn't necessarily mean you can bend him anyhow. His type can be stubborn when they don't see reason with you. It's either you accept him as he is or free yourself for the kind of man you want.
ReplyDeleteThis is the reason Nigerians fail exams. Next time read and understand before passing judgement saint peter.
DeleteIt is paining you that I hit the nail on the head anon 15:33. You who has passed all exams don't take redress. Being Christian is about acting Christian it is not about names. If you want, continue.
Delete15:13 Why do you people like disgracing yourselves. Poster said clearly in English language that they are in DIFFERENT CITIES.
DeleteGOSH!!!
anon 15:13 you are very correct. My husband pretended he was Christian till we married. Even though all his siblings are now Christians, he has suddenly decided to stay Muslim for his parents honour. This things are not easy to predict! Life happens
DeleteSo what has your picture got to do with the argument? Mtschewwwww
ReplyDeletelmaooooooo
DeleteMadam poster u nt even married to d guy!let him marry u first na! Y place d cart before d horse! E be like say to write chronicle de hungry u,besides u sound very naive and quite ignorant!wat if d guy ends up nt marrying u? Wat wld u do? Abeg go and think of better things to do with ur time! Mscheeew
DeleteShut up you are the very ignorant one....when is a better time to discuss issues? Dating is for getting to know each other and sadly most people just spend time having sex and preparing for the wedding...she is absolutely right to know where this issue stands....when they get married and it comes up you know where you stand..poster just don’t quarrel too much about it but make your feelings know and be sure of where he stands....also pls open your eyes and be sure he won’t take the path of Islam when you marry..if you are serious about your Christianity that might be an area of conflict....
DeletePeople wey no get problem dey create problems. My dear, u never mature. I don't care if my husband gives my kids Japanese names, just give me a man who will love me as himself, Lord.
ReplyDeleteLmao! Abi nau
Deleteblog visitors u will not kee somebody...lmao...
DeleteGod bless you. It is even the meaning of the name that counts. Mary, maria, Mariam are all the same. It is the language that differs.
DeleteWhat ever given.you as a mother can decide to drop it that same day by not mentioning it to anyone at all
ReplyDeleteMadam please stop looking for trouble where there is none. This guy is your boyfriend, not even fiancé yet so cool down.
ReplyDeleteSince you said he is everything in a man you want you better don't loose him over smthn that might or might not happen.
My dad was also a muslim, but not really a practicing one. My mum is a Christian always as been and I grew up the Christian way.
I was given a Yoruba name and a muslim second name, those are the two names in my birth certificate. Only my dads mother who is long gone calls me that name jokingly by then.
I always fill Christian in my forms, passport everything. In my school documents work documents, I live that moslem name out. I put just my Yoruba name and surname, the space for other names is nothing I fill there. Na by force to have other names ?
My husband doesn't even know the name, nor my friends. All my marriage license, certificate contain just my one name, then surname. Not like I am ashamed of the name I don't just want it. Its only in my birth certificate. Nowhere else.
Let your in-laws name their child as they wish, you know in Yoruba culture na dem get the pikin . Any name they want to give moslem or not, just accept it as it is their duty culturally. But when you go register the child at school, fill the other name you like. Trust me if you start that from primary school its what you fill they will continue to use to issue the certificate.
When you go visiting your in-laws if they like they can call him the moslem name.
Poster please train yourself not to be a wahala and nagging woman in future. U go do finish come dey regret. Inukwa he did not change my dp. Stopeeeet
Delete*i have laughed at poster so tey..i wan to piss on myself
DeleteAnonymous 15:18, you are on point. My mum didn't like the name my father family gave to me which I used all through my nursery and primary education. My mum changed the name when she was filling my common entrance exam into a christian name. The Christian name is what I used from my secondary school days till date. Now adays When my former primary schools friends see me, they are always surprise about the change of name.
DeleteIt's on your birth certificate and you think ignoring it makes it non existence? Better go and do an official change of name to remove the second name.
DeletePoster as long as the name is not included in you kid's birth certificate, it's not a problem. The names on their birth certificates are their official names. Anything outside doesn't really count.
Poster, you are taking the issue too serious. You cannot ask him to tell his father not to name his grandkids na, see we are African's and with your writeup, you are yoruba, the little I know about yorubas is that the parent inlaws will bring names for the new baby. If your father inlaw decides to give your kids Muslim name, that shouldn't be a problem, after the naming ceremony start calling your child the name you want people to call him or her. Moreover it's not everyone that will remember all the names given to your child, some people will even ask you after the nameING ceremony the name of your child and they were present when the names were called.
ReplyDeleteMy sister, u be small girl. Worrying on inconsequentials. Which one is Christian or Muslim name? Slave mentality of Africans. Tuah! Go and sit down, u are not ready for marriage. A person who cannot compromise is not ready for marriage. That boy will leave u. He won't marry u.
ReplyDeleteI bet this poster is like 21years that is why she and her boyfriend not even fiancé are arguing over BBA and arguing over names of kids they may or may not have together.
DeleteWhen she nack 40 no husband now, even if they call the child poo poo she go accept.
She go come use American style. Yes its so lovely just like Winnie the pooh.
You gats no problems my sister.
Poo poo 🤣🤣 #dead
DeleteDear poster, permit me to say that you are only creating a non existent problem for a future that has yet to come and there is no certainty it will come either. Im sorry but just the truth.
DeleteYou said your guy is Christian by all means so what exactly is your problem? Muslim name?!
Muslim name just like Christian name or yoruba name are just names with meaning and different origins.
Those names do not even have to appear on their birth certificate even if the have to, noone has ever died because of a name they were given.
Simply put, your problem is just Muslim/Islam because im sure you are one of those people that will name their kids Anderson or Antoinette! Shio.
Better spend this "getting to know each other" time to discover if he will be a wife beater or not, be there and be shouting muslim name.
Out of all the possible marital issues OMG some people don't know shingbain!
You people aren't even married
ReplyDeletesee me see trouble. Not even fiancé.
DeleteHas he proposed yet even.
For peace to reign, you guys should dump each other abeg. Whats wrong with a muslim name? As i am if i can add zainab to my name i for do am sounds cute. Abeg swerve...even if ur kid is named kudirat, is it a bad thing? Abi na d rat in d names dey irritate u? Or u have bragged to someone dat ur kids wont be called mohammed n aishatu? No make me laff abeg😁
ReplyDelete😀😀😀😀😂😂
DeleteZainab dey sweet to pronounce sha.....
DeleteZara is a sweet name too
DeleteThey named me Zainab and I am not a Muslim nor from a Muslim background. Poster you don't have issues abeg
DeleteI see u don chop belleful ,abeg u no get work do
ReplyDeleteShe don chop too much amala and ewedu. kikikikikiki
DeleteBabies in marriage.
Babe, just relax. The names are just ceremonial and you both decide what people will call your kids. I think you are just overreacting.
ReplyDeleteYou don't have to worry your self over nothing,this is no issue,the names you choose for your children should be on their certificates/documents,stick to the names you choose,you should work more on getting your BF to be committed to God,my FIL named my son one wicked name,I almost raised my voice that day,but DH calmed me,the name in their dialect means (the man is the owner of the house),like who names a child that,as soon as they called out the name,they all laughed,the pastor inclusive,but I felt FIL was passing a message,today nobody remembers the name my FIL gave,except whenever a son is born to the family my hubby renames the child same name his dad gave and adds the number your son is to the name.
ReplyDeleteThere's no big deal with your kids having Muslim names, to me sha, I'm from a Hausa/Muslim/Christian background, my husband is Igbo and Christian, and we've decided our kids first names will me Arab/Hausa followed by middle and surname (Igbo), reason being because we see the beauty in diversity and having our kids understand their heritages from both sides, for me it's a beautiful thing, I bear Hausa name and my middle name is Igbo, cos my mom is Igbo and I appreciate both sides of my life, for me it's interesting, it's just the perspective that you view it from, i hope this helps.
ReplyDeleteyou are a correct woman and we need more people like this in Nigeria.Ofcourse poster is entitled to her opinions just like everybody else but at the end of the day not all battle must be won.so dear poster..you need to chill out.i trust your boo is already giving you the side-eye sef.lol
DeleteYour relationship is DOA! My dear trust me he will have no say in the name his father wants to give the grand kids especially if he’s Yoruba. Once you marry him trust me story will change infact u will be shocked when to prove a point that you are married to him n the kids are His they will even bring Islamic cleric to name the kids so better start bracing yourself for the worst and hope for the best
ReplyDeleteMy dear you have no problem I am a Christian (converted from Islam) and my Muslim name is still on my birth certificate and I don't have plans of changing it I only write the initial and dazz all, you will be the mother and call your baby the name you like and won't die if they give your baby a Muslim name. So madam girl friend (not wife) if you say you love this your boyfriend this is no issue till you have become Wife
ReplyDelete#mummyisaac
May religion not destroy African, especially Nigerian homes & good relationships.....
ReplyDeletechim-oma aka Miss Kapusu
Some people are saying that they are not married.Smh. is it when they are married that issues like this should be brought up. No wonder some Bvs keep on saying their husbands changed after marriage, when it is that you ignore some issues for gbenshing.
ReplyDeleteMy dear poster, you have done well. In fact, you be better pikin for raising this issue. My advice is that you leave the guy and the parents to name your future kids. It's now left for you and your man to decide on which name will reflect on their documents. You will also choose the name they call them. If you visit his parents, allow them to call them anything they want.
Seriously, there's no issue @ all.. Don't give urself bp b4 that time (future) comes.. Calm down na! It is Arabic name and it has meaning woman, it is not just any name.. Moreover, it is what u call your child people will call Him/her for you! So calm down and stop overeacting.. Ko le toh yen!
ReplyDeleteAunty you are putting the cart before the horse, you aren't married yet you are talking of children's name. Even if your guys father give all your children Muslim names, will he be the one to give you their birth certificate, in the long run its the name you and your husband calls the children that will stick.
ReplyDeleteIf this is what is worrying you at this point...
Funny , you both are not married but fight over unborn children have ensued. When you have to power to call your child any name you want no matter the name the any other person calls them.
ReplyDeleteYou sound as if you wont be a submissive wife. You dont want muslim name yet you tag yourself with a muslim guy. What a hypocrite
as for me once i hear that your grand parents get anoda religion that is not Christianity as in orthodox or Pentecostal, i wont even date you. my kids wont bear names that are not Christlike period. madam you aint seen anything yet, just marry him its then you will know that he is a konk muslim
ReplyDeleteYou made a whole lot of sense.
ReplyDeleteDear poster, i must congratulate you for having this discussion before marriage. if most couples discussed like this before marriage,it would have saved many homes. to your question,as yorubas, its tradition that grandparents name their kids regardless of the religion. if your inlaws give your children names you dont like,its left to you their parents to decide the names they will be called. my inlaws gave my kids names i dont like and called them by that names initially, but as time went on, they started calling my kids by the names i and my husband named them. the kids will be with you most of the time so its most likely they answer the name being called by you and your hubby. its not a big deal so dont lose your relationship over this issue. Apologize to your boyfriend if your manner of approach was wrong. God bless you both
ReplyDeleteTrue talk Olu
DeleteThem dey courtship be dat
That is if them hide cookies
Thanks for pointing that out. I shudder to think many people feel she's being too forward. So what's courtship all about? It's abour discussing issues like this and deciding what works for you and what doesn't. Simple! It doesn't mean you will change your mind it will just help you avoid unnecessary surprises.
DeleteI wonder what courtship/dating is for some of us. Gbenshing spree? Me I ask questions to you great grandfather sef! Who dey look face?
Your man is a devout Muslim. I hope you know that.
ReplyDeleteIs this a chronicle?
ReplyDeleteI laugh in pidgin. Has he proposed to you yet? You wey be Christian go sleep over for xtian/muslim guy house. Later una watch Nina and Miracle gbensh. Then una con start fight on top eviction. U just gave d guy a valid reason to leave u when his dad asks him why he brought a new girl. His "wise" Christian mother did not fight her husband and his relatives for calling her son by his muslim name. Na u wan change things as the "irreplaceable" that u is na. U better start searching for a new boyfriend. This one wey u been think say u "catch" fit don escape o. Put love for God and fear of God above religious names when u meet ur next boyfriend.
ReplyDeleteIssues such as these although one might argue is important really makes no a lot of difference in the greater scheme of things.
ReplyDeleteI’m sure you are happy with some seemingly English names which have evil meanings when you trace their roots - eg ( Cecilia- means blind, Kennedy means- deformed head) and so many other examples why many other Christian/ Muslim/ traditional names have better meaning.
What is more important is to have an open mind, be more accepting of other people’s religion or beliefs.
Issa is an Muslim name which also means Issac- so how can that be bad.
This is not a big thing to lose sleep over
Hahaha hahaha hahaha hahaha hahaha....my chest😂😀
DeleteMa, well said bus Issa means Jesus while Ishaq is Isaac and it is the same Ishaq yoruba people turn to isiaka. Yoruba people can spoil names sha
DeleteMadam you are still doig bf and gf o so cool down.
ReplyDeleteMy mum was raised a muslim by her parents and convertered after she got to uni and my day is CAC.
I have all my names from my dads side but my mums parent gave me one muslim name and yes it was part of my naming but it isnt on any document or even my birth certificate. Me and my cousins and aunties use our muslim names to joke with each other we never use it. So you dont have a problem. Everyone knows and calls us by our yoruba names. This isnt a big deal you are being petty let it go.
Over reacting is stopping you poster.
ReplyDeleteDon't give yourself BP because of little issue that can be solved by both partners without quarrel..
See as una mama and papa live together in peace;
ReplyDeleteTell ya man to tell im papa make im name shildren native names; good ones.
Shildren wey una never know say una go born, una don start to war, na so
Baba God go carry give una shildren put for war front?
But make I ask "Christian religious people", un don dey chop cookies?
Jesus say make una dey do am?
Seriously I don't see a problem here so don't create one..if his dad gives dem Muslim names it's nothing cause it's the names you give them that will be on their birth certificate and that's what they will answer
ReplyDeleteIt is what you the parents call your children they will bear in documents,why do you want to deny your father in law the joy of naming his grandchildren?If you don't want any Muslim name for your kids,don't marry a man who has any connection with a Muslim.Not everything is religion and rights,sometimes you make compromise.
ReplyDeleteThe two of you are not on the same page as regards your convictions as Christians. You cannot tolerate a muslim name, meanwhile, he doesnt mind. That is already a crack in the foundation of your relationship, and it matters a great deal. The issue of naming your unborn children has brought this to the top, this is the primary issue you should tackle: where both of you stand in your relationship with God and your belief systems. The issue of his father giving muslim name is secondary.
ReplyDeleteSorry I disagree with you! Arabic names are Islamic names. Some of them even mean servant of ...(abdul). Christians are not servants of God like Muslims, they are children of God cis they are not from Haggai the Slave but from Sarah. And these is important please
ReplyDeleteNo anonymous 17:48, not all Arabic names are Islamic. I have seen christains bear names like Sara, aisha, musa, Ahmed, kamila and more and these are Arabic names. Arabic is the tribe/language and Islam the religion, just like igbo is tribe/language. We even have core igbos names that has nothing to do with Christianity sef.
ReplyDeleteYou are not a servant of God but you are serving God aren't you? Because your pastor told you you are a child of God you refuse to think for yourself.
ReplyDeleteThis is very irrelevant. I see Muslims here bearing names like Isaac, Joseph, etc. I always tease them about it. Stop looking for trouble where there is none.
ReplyDeleteStop bugging the guy.
Arabic names are not Islamic name ..I repeat they are not Islamic names ..
ReplyDeleteSo Italian names are Christian names or what exactly ? Or English names are Christian names ? Smh
Most of my Arab friends are Christians and they go by the “Islamic” names
ReplyDeleteDear poster, I’m somewhat irritated by your complaints. I’m sure you’re one of those islamophobic people and we don’t need a lot of you around. Your complaints, while valid to you, are full of hateful innuendo. It’s the meaning and quality of a name that matters most, and you can’t ask your boyfriend’s father not to name his grandkids. Wait till it’s your time and some girl you haven’t yet married into your family’s already dictating to you not to name your grandchild cos you’re Christian. Please borrow brain and take several seats. And yes, I’m Muslim and I have loads and loads of Christian friends. I’m very accommodating of the other religion and would go to church with you as a friend. You should enlighten yourself instead of wasting time thinking up names with someone that can fall in love with someone else tomorrow. Hian
ReplyDeleteYou sound so religious and more of a Christian fanatic...this is a very simple issue and please don't impose your view on a man. When next you meet talk to him in a more matured way, calmly...better still pray about it if you feel it's a very important issue but to me it's no issue at all.
ReplyDeleteWahala e po. In the yoruba culture, everyone gives the child a name most of which the parents don't even remember. What does it matter as long as the name doesn't appear on the birth certificate even if few people end up calling the child by the muslim name. This should be the least of your worries. Don't find trouble where there is none.
ReplyDeleteMy own opinion is that she is right in clarifying this well into a relationship. We have family friends who got married to men from another religion as it was a non issue in Yoruba land especially. The irony is that the men made 360 degrees turns in their 40s and some are even being pressured to enroll the kids in the equivalent of ILE KEWU in the US, never mind the moms are Christian and the guys promised not to impose their parents' religion. It has broken at least one friend's 2 decade marriage especially since APC seems to favor Yorubas with Muslim names and the guy has returned home for a political position. These are actually the things young women and men need to work out before proposal and definitely and any commenter that says Muslims aren't favored should compile a list of all political appointees in Yorubaland especially. They are enticing the guys back by dangling money and power. She is right to clarify and extract a firm promise of how to raise the kids. When you ask women here in such situations they say " he wasn't a practicing Muslim, in fact we attended church together". This is bibliography as opposed to test driving 50 Ps and contracting STI.
ReplyDeleteThank you, don’t mind all these ignorant posters yarning rubbish....not addressing issues is a reason why most marriages these days break up...in our parents days yes you could get away with it, but now people are more independent and can do what they want pretty much.....
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