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STAND ALONE NARRATIVE...
BELITTLED BY A NEIGBHOUR PROPOSING MARRIAGE
Let's be brief here, am a 30 year old single female professional and it hasn't been easy getting to where I am, presently, things are brightening up daily and am fulfilled in every word of it.
While I was an undergraduate I saw hell, the only job i didn't do was to sleep around, I wrote exams for people, did assignment, and term papers, ushering jobs and professional brides maids, for those, who wanted to rent bridesmaid for their occasion, just name any legit business under the sun, I was doing it or setting myself to launch into such a business sphere.
I graduated from school did my masters, started practising my profession, and yes God has been good all the way.
During my undergraduate days, there was a particular neighbour of mine that I saw as the neighbourhood sluggard (God forgive me) but the guy was always at my landlady shop drinking like a fish, and smoking like a chimney, in the spirit of being good neighbours, we greeted each other wherever we meet and soon became friends.
Not drinking buddies but just platonic friends, while I concentrated on my studies, and businesses my neighbour was always at my former landlady shop, drinking his destiny away at the end of his work shift.
My ex neighbour because I left the neighbourhood once I got my degrees, was non challant about me so no relationship talk, and I minded my business on his private life.
He (ex neighbour) would come to my house to ask for body spray, anytime he finished smoking and me wey no send, will give him and continue at my task.
Once in a while, I would pop up at his place, to watch television or gist with him and sometimes, crash at his place if I was too late to go to my house.
He had his strings of girlfriends I respected and never bugged my head about, suddenly in 2016 here I was minding my business, and this my ex neighbour called me and talked about marriage. I insulted him roundly, and told him I didn't work my butt this hard, to marry a slimy sluggard like himself, that he should pick one of his girlfriends that is busty, because he loves busty women and marry and leave me to double my hustle.
2018 he came again with the marriage song, and the people around me said I should consider him after all he isn't married, and for him to come again a second time might mean he is still serious, hmmm, Stella the more I think about the guy the more I feel like kicking myself in the butt, to add insult to injury my ex neighbour had the guts to ask for sex from me for a bottle of malt, just because I was seriously hungry, and was tired of waiting for the beans I was cooking on the gas to get done.
I went ballistic on him and since that day I restricted our communication to just greetings, this my ex neighbour has seen me go through hell, in school and watched me starve sometimes when I had no food, but never ever helped,mind you he works as a senior officer in the paramilitary and earns monthly salary.
Judginas don't get me wrong I am not entitled to anything from him, but a little push from him would have helped a great deal back then even if it was just 100 naira for a student like me, back then it would mean millions.
He signs this marriage stuff, and am contemplating setting him up with guys, to thrash the evil spirit out of him and give his brain original factory setting it needs, please am i over acting or am I just wasting my energy on the wrong person, the more I ignore him the more his into my space like an ogbanje pikin.
Sorry for poor punctuation and grammatical errors, just have to drop it as it's hot off my chest.
*This is what I understand....your ex neighbour wants to marry you but you think he is not your class....To add insult to injury he demanded for sleep with you in exchange for a bottle of malt and you said NO and cut off regular communication and now you want to send boys to roughen him up?
Why do you want to send boys to roughen him up?what if he dies in the process?my dear,move on and this long story you recounted.
You want to send guys to trash out the demon in him. What's ur business with him. You're deceiving urself here. I smell that u like him. U can't just wrap ur head about the fact that u fell for a slimy one hahahah. Abeg next chronicle!
ReplyDeleteU head dey there😁
DeleteAfter all these your shakara, if the guy persists like a stuck fish bone in the throat, you go grab am by force.
DeleteWhen you were sleeping in his house, what were you expecting?
Poster how and where did you graduate from? Which institution pls? Just to let you know your grammar is slaying.
DeleteHow do you crash in *platonic friend's place, not once but multiple times
Errm leave your ex alone madam poster, continue rejecting his proposal if you want.
How I really wish say una picture dey follow d Chronicles come so dat we go dey see the mgbeke wey dey write tory give us so that we for fit give appropriate advice accordingly.......... anyways;
DeleteThis your slimy gist get obvious k-leg but let's slide beyond that!
In the spirit of Easter, am gonna give it to you slow just as e dey hot too!
First of all, from my deduction; you feel it's a taboo to toast & bed you in exchange for malt. Ok, fair enough. Your stock has appreciated since uni days but padi hasn't upgraded, he should either up his bid or leave your market for dose dat are eligible, understood!
BUT IS THAT ENOUGH REASON FOR YOU TO NOW BE TALKING ABOUT GOING VIOLENT ON A GENTLEMAN WHO GOES AROUND DOING HIS BUSINESS LEGITIMATELY AND HARMLESSLY?
My dear, you are definitely forgetting your humble roots with this fellow. May God open your eyes before it's too late!
At 30, you still think it's easy to get a husband, that all these meagre grammar you speak and peanut income scrumbs you gather here and there will get you a 6 digits man with 6 pax?! Dream again. Maybe until few years from now when nature humbles you and you get to see broah sluggard and his beautiful wife and children doing okay around that your LIG community, that's when sense will ring bell in your Kung skull attachment head. Today is Easter Monday please, so before I get angry and start saying hurtful things, deduce the good portion of my advice and leave the rest for Mathias. Have a good day lover girl. Hehehehe
@ SDK's love child,she is inlove already.just pulling blog visitors legs..
DeleteGood luck jare..
She likes the guy she's just angry that upon all her struggle na para military guy want am. Wait till e knack you para military dick your shakara go come down. Buaaaahaahahaa
DeleteAs a matter of fact, lemme add Jara to what I said;
DeleteMaybe we insinuating wrongly or not but should in case it's just his meat you need, with exclusive serious confidentiality, my sister from another mother, just do it.....bone - you won't be the first or last! There's absolutely no crime in that. A saying goes this:- NA DIRTY WATER DEY QUENCH FIRE PASS! When it happens “again", if the gist leak or cast, deny it vehemently; write us another chronicles with half truths, most of us will believe you “again" and give you fresh advice!! Good luck.
This Easter Monday holiday chronicles make brain tori-olorun!
Hehehehe
Wetin concern agbero with overload. He is all these things and more yet you allowed yourself get so close to him to the extent of sleeping over sometimes. Of course, it was only a matter of time before he’d make sexual demands.
ReplyDeleteWith the way you’re acting, it seems you’ve taken a liking to him but because he is broke you’re holding off and if you don’t treat him like a nobody you’d find yourself considering him for marriage and that would be the end of you my dear. Move on from the past, he owed you nothing then and has nothing to offer you now so why are you hell bent on complicating your life with this guy. He made an offer and since you said no then let it go. Over familiarity breeds contempt.
Well I personally don't like how some BV are going on and on that you kinda dated/had sex with the guy, well, what do I know, we are all entitled to our various opinion.
DeleteSo my dear, I am glad that despite all odds, you rose!
Well, like if I am not mistaken, I think Chikito commented that most guys hardly help a hustling babe, during the hustling period, but will be throwing money to slaying babes then fastward to years later, hustle has finally paid off, you suddenly becomes 'attractive and suitable for marriage' or serious relationship!
My dear, there's no need to set him up at all.
Now you know that he's interested in you, and you obviously isn't.
Restrict your involvement with him to the barest minimal.
No more sleeping or crashing at his place biko to avoid stories.
Keep your shoulders and head high, your own Divinely ordined husband will soon come.
Why do I sense you're not being entirely truthful? Kontinu.
ReplyDeleteShe is not...dont mind her😂
DeleteAunty is it by force? Anh anh Kuku say no, rather than being violent? Did he rape you? He asked for sex, you said no, so what is biting you. You are pained Cus he dint help you out when you needed help, well I know it hurts but really he dint owe you anything plus some guys can see someone suffering and not realize they need help, most women have to ask men before they help. Did you ever ask him and he refused, he is not your father who knows what you need.
DeleteIf you don't want to marry him, be firm about it, if you want to give him a chance you have to let go of your hate, don't settle down Cus of your age and end up stabbing him one day, plus why marry someone who smokes and drinks if you don't like it?
Y are u over reacting?
ReplyDeleteYou are sounding like he slept with you n cleaned mouth, you dont like him but u nag about his gfs n him not giving u money, what exactly do u want? Ok, u dont want him talking marriage, kindly tell him so n stop insulting him like say he offended u in d past, or is there somthing u are not saying?😉 una fuck? Hehehehehehehee
Na chop and clean mouth d guy do self, smh,just say d truth and leave d rest to Satan
DeleteTrue she is hiding something as if the guy slept with her and abandoned her then. Well if not, she tell him no and move on, which one is sending boys to handle him, did he rape you? He only asked you to marry him, it's either you say yes or no.
DeleteJust continue to say no to his proposal and keep moving on. I think he may be proposing marriage because he thinks you're comfortable now.
ReplyDeletePlease don't send any boys to beat him up oh
Hehehhe amanda u dont gerrit? She has been kaned...after kaning her eyes were open like heeeeeei....na this slimy drunkard kane me? 😂😂😂😂😂😂
DeleteHahaha werey girl @blackberry 😁😀😁
DeleteLol @blackberry may not be true maybe she is getting irritated that such a guy is asking her out. I had a female class mate that took months to get over the annoyance that a suppose low level guy dared to ask her out.
Delete@John Edet 🤣🤣 I had a friend like that too. I still use some of her ex-toasters to tease her and she will be boiling like egg white. She becomes very stiff and angry 🤣🤣🤣
DeleteLooks like you had a fling with him. You said he is a certified drunk yet you slept in his place after watching late night movies. The story is somehow.
ReplyDeleteAnyway tell him to stop wasting his time that you wwillnever marry him.
😂😂😂 i am enjoying this chronicle.
DeleteChronicle of babe forming hard to get after a good round of back breaking sex.
Don't engage him in anything don't even give him room to talk to you at all. You are also to blame in all this you brought all this to yourself how could you be close with someone like that and pls be careful so he doesn't harm you or send thugs to deal with you. If you can change location so he doesn't know where you live that's good.
ReplyDeleteHarm her for what ? Did she state anywhere that the guy is violent? Instead she's the one planning to hurt him, like you didn't read that part
DeleteMtshewwwwwww
ReplyDeletethis is what ladies do not understand. When you began "crashing in his place . . .", he saw you as a cheap, poor, sex starved, infatuated hole he could drill anytime at his own terms. That was why he insulted you in that way for a bottle of malt. Now, you do not have any issues at all. You do not want to marry him for obvious reasons and genuine reasons too; he is not responsible, he is a womanizer etc.
ReplyDeleteSimply ignore him and let him know that he is simply wasting your time. If he calls on phone, do not pick. If you pick and recognizes his voice, drop the call.
Well, let me also say that, considering your age, and all the constructive pieces of advice you get here, you might budge and that is your fear. If he lingers, you might eat your vomit and he will deal with you for "wasting his time" and feeling big. Be careful.
Don't send any boys to beat him up. Be persistent in your rejection to his proposal. It's obvious you like him but you don't want to accept that fact.
ReplyDeleteI think you are contemplating giving in to his marriage proposal,una no dey take ear hear marriage at all,you better borrow yourself brain,that your ex neighbour is a nonentity,you said it yourself that he drinks like a fish,is that the kind of man you want to build your life with,you need to think of your unborn children as well,that drunkard will not change,he will get worst after marriage and don't you ever have it in your mind that you will be able to change him after marriage.you don't need to hire any thug to go and beat him up,for what naa?this thing is simple,he asked for your hand in marriage,you turned him down,just forget him and move on and pls cut off contacts with him so that he won't have the chance to keep coming to brainwash you,otherwise you will just take one side of your brain to reason one day and give in,OYO is your case oo,better avoid bringing another chronicle here.
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You want to pay to have him physically assaulted because? What's his offence? He asked you out? That's his offence? If u do that, your karma may be NO MAN WILL EVER ASK YOU OUT AGAIN. Or a man that you ask out may feel insulted that a female of ur low class had the guts to proposition him. In retaliation, he'll pay some touts to have you thoroughly raped through all your 3 holes.
ReplyDeleteYou are not more special that your neighbor is. If you are not feeling him, let him know in clear terms and actions.
First, seems you feel it's ok to date him but you just wanted to confirm from us. Please who are those people that told you to marry him just cos he's single. Are we this doomed as females?. How do you let someone that 'drinks his destinyaway " , no respect for women, probably a sex addict with zero self control(I'm tired of going on) to get close to you? Or even get under your skin that you sent in a Chronicle hian. You are even contemplating marrying this person, having kids with him?asin u want to make him d father of your kids. Geez. This man will rape your daughters and son's join. You are 30, so what?.So,you d rather marry this guy than remain single???. You are irritating me right now. As if you don't know what to do. Move out,
DeleteBlock his Number, stop greeting him.imagine? Sex for malt? And you probably smiled inside. SMH. Yimu. You ain't serious yet. Stop wasting our time Biko.
My dear poster I vividly understand how you feel about the whole thing. My advice is that you let the man be. Don't even think of hiring guys to beat him up because it might lead to something you may not like at the end of the day. Move on with you life and put him aside...........who no like good thing
ReplyDeleteFirst, seems you feel it's ok to date him but you just wanted to confirm from us. Please who are those people that told you to marry him just cos he's single. Are we this doomed as females?. How do you let someone that 'drinks his destinyaway " , no respect for women, probably a sex addict with zero self control(I'm tired of going on) to get close to you? Or even get under your skin that you sent in a Chronicle hian. You are even contemplating marrying this person, having kids with him?asin u want to make him d father of your kids. Geez. This man will rape your daughters and son's join. You are 30, so what?.So,you d rather marry this guy than remain single???. You are irritating me right now. As if you don't know what to do. Move out,
ReplyDeleteBlock his Number, stop greeting him.imagine? Sex for malt? And you probably smiled inside. SMH. Yimu. You ain't serious yet. Stop wasting our time Biko.
Question: Please who are those people that told you to marry him just cos he's single? Are we this doomed as females?
DeleteAnswer: 1. The same people that tell her that being single is curse and she should grab him now or miss her chances forever 😂😂🤣 you know single men are scarce. Who wants to be a gwegwelina?
2. YES WE ARE!!! (By myopic Nigeria🤣)
Sorry but you absolutely LOVE him..
ReplyDeleteCupid has hit you bullseye!
Since you know all his faults and more, we don't want a chronicle if you finally decide to settle with him
Lmaooo
DeleteA lot of lies in this post! Poster though there are kids on this blog but we still have grown ups here too. This your wite up has plenty holes, you did not tell us the truth about you and this so called ex neighbour or you mean ex boyfriend?
ReplyDeleteFirst, seems you feel it's ok to date him but you just wanted to confirm from us. Please who are those people that told you to marry him just cos he's single. Are we this doomed as females?. How do you let someone that 'drinks his destinyaway " , no respect for women, probably a sex addict with zero self control(I'm tired of going on) to get close to you? Or even get under your skin that you sent in a Chronicle hian. You are even contemplating marrying this person, having kids with him?asin u want to make him d father of your kids. Geez. This man will rape your daughters and son's join. You are 30, so what?.So,you d rather marry this guy than remain single???. You are irritating me right now. As if you don't know what to do. Move out,
ReplyDeleteBlock his Number, stop greeting him.imagine? Sex for malt? And you probably smiled inside. SMH. Yimu. You ain't serious yet. Stop wasting our time Biko.
U better fix him and marry ur husband... U never know, anyone can change.
ReplyDeleteNo she doesn't love him. She's arguing against the idiots in her life that keep telling her to give him chance. Don't agree
ReplyDeleteThere's more to this story you just shared. Truth is you had/have something intimate with this guy. How come you know about his kind of girls and why do you sound pained about it. Is he actually your ex neighbor or your ex crush/boyfriend?. Na only you know.
ReplyDeletePlease if you don't like him, stay ur lane. Calling guys after him is absolutely unnecessary. Its not a crime to propose. Still not a crime to say No. And please don't allow your achievementS overcloud your judgement else it'll earn you more years in your father's house.Doh
A drunkard stil you go to his house to watch TV and A drunkard still you sleep over in his house.
ReplyDeleteNot your standard stil you collected a Bottle of Malt from him.
Forming big Girl to him stil,you carry your two legs to his house.
My dear you are in love with the guy.
Expect him and put his drinking habit in prayers
Interesting Chronicle.
Don't send boys to beat him and don't give in to his proposal...just stay far from him
ReplyDeleteDear poster, if you like him! Try to talk to him so that u can reform him to ur taste.. Change is the only constant thing! U never can tell.. Afterall he is not an armedrobber, u can give it a try!!! It is well with you.
ReplyDeleteBTW I am a graduate of business administration.. Getting my nysc certificate next week by God's grace! Poster help me with a job if you can.. God bless!
Reform???!! Transform nko? Tranfigure nau? Reconstruct?
DeleteReform????? Chai! Graduate of business whatever. Sorry o
DeleteHaaaai!
DeleteLord have mercy!
Inukwa 'end time advice'!
Don't tell me that your self esteem is this low @ Tade Adeola? Wow!
I raise hands for thee!
so Bcos of my very own "reform".. My own o.. That is y you are shouting??? Is it ur own? Is my own leave it for me u hear?
DeleteAnonymous.. It is my graduate! And No be English I wan chop.. U wey sabi well, tUrN it to money!
Beautiful sapphire.. I don't understand how a mistake determines my self esteem!!! And u think u av sense??? Beautiful mumu!
If you want to make corrections.. I'm willing to learn, don't come here and make a fool of urself under my comment Lyk u dont make mistakes!!! If u can't correct in peace, Waka pass no be only my comment dey here! 🚶 🚶 🚶 🚶
so Bcos of my Very own "reform " .. My own o.. Dats y u are shouting? Is that y una wan shit for body?? Mio le kogbe o..🙅🙅 Is it ur own? Shebi Ts my own, leave it for me na
DeleteAnonymous.. It is my graduate, not urs, so stop crying over it! Bcos na English I wan chop abi? U wey sabi well well, Start eating it Na or turn it to moneY!
Beautiful sapphire.. I don't understand Ow a mistake determines one's self esteem.. And u think u av sense!!? Beautiful mumu
Y'all if you want to make corrections on my mistakes. .You are highly welcome Coz mistakes is bound to happen and no one is above it.. But instead of making a fool of urself under my comment.. Waka pass coz no be only me dey comment for here 🚶 🚶 🚶 🚶
Iyam not understanding.... Happy Easter everyone
ReplyDeleteDear poster, if you like him! Try to talk to him so that u can reform him to ur taste.. Change is the only constant thing! U never can tell.. Afterall he is not an armedrobber, u can give it a try!!! It is well with you.
ReplyDeleteBTW I am a graduate of business administration.. Getting my nysc certificate next week by God's grace! Poster help me with a job if you can.. God bless!
Just tell us u love this guy but he's below ur standard.... And he don go yonda come back😁
ReplyDeleteMadam poster, you are not doing well for yourself.
ReplyDeleteIf you were doing well, how would the neighborhood drunkard have the courage to approach you?
In addition, how come you can degrade yourself to the extent of sleeping in his house?
Try get small shame and upgrade.
Abeg you no try.
Tueh!
Poster wants us to "convince" her to marry him which is why she started by telling us her age. I am 39 years old, single and live alone but d kain respect wey my neighbours (married and single) dey give me is worth all my "right living". Men don't visit me not to mention sleep over. I don't know how my neighbours' flats look like bcos I no dey pass my boundary. U carry liver go dey sleep for drunkard house after watching "movies"!? And u want me and Blackberry (baddo) to believe nothing happened, okwia? For ur information, d guy already told everyone he slept with u and people saw u leaving his room in d early hours of d morning. The fact that u sent a chronicle further points to d fact that ur "Nina" was "miracled". D guy wants to use Okafor's law for u but u feel u r no longer in his class. Babe, just move on! Forget d past. U r no longer where u used to be. Now that you've gotten it off ur chest, move on!! I'm getting married to a single guy of 40 in May and he literally worships d ground I walk on. So at 30, don't sell urself cheap to a bum.
ReplyDeleteThe last two paragraphs showed that you are plain stupid. You want to send guys to beat up a man just because he ask you to marry him?
ReplyDeleteYour 'little' success has becloud your judgement. Nonsense.
🤣🤣🤣🤣 calm down! It's not news that guys below you from every angle will always try their luck as long as they haven't seen a ring on your finger or seen your surname change. So i dont know why you're vexing. Abi people no dey toast you before? Trust me they will always try their luck hoping that you've become too vulnerable to say no. Chill!!!
ReplyDeleteAnd what's this story about you sending people to beat him up? How did you get so conversant with a 'drunk' that you sleep over at his? Na you make the guy see you finish my dear, that's if you're saying the truth oooh. When you don't want soemthing don't dance around it. E get as you for carry yourself the guy go dey hail you 'chairman' beg for drink sef. But.... he can say that cos of how you once placed yourself like his mate.
I just have a feeling they used to be fiends with benefit while she was in love with him
ReplyDeletePls ignore the stupid idiot comments here about you fcuking him and been pained...Truth is you caused this whole nonsense talk by been friendly with him,henceforth STOP ALL FORMS OF COMMUNICATIONS WITH HIM...NO GREETINGS,NO HELLO NOTHING.
ReplyDeleteAlso block his number, stop him from visiting you and stop visiting him also...I understand why you are pissed,but the truth is he thinks that because you are almost 30 you may be desperate for a husband.
please don't let people encourage you or guilt trip you into dating a NONENTITY
Nigerians are used to telling Ladies to settle for any choice because of age,Pls don't get caught in such pity party talk...stay away from anyone that encourages you to date/marry him they are enemies of progress.
God will provide you a man worth your taste and someone who will be up to your standard...YOU DESERVE A MAN WORTH YOUR STANDARD,DON'T SETTLE FOR A DRUNK.
LEP😛
Gbamest!
DeleteNice comment!
Very idiotic comments above. God bless you LEP. Poster take this advice, nothing more.
DeleteYou want to send thugz to beat him up!? You must be a very stupid wicked pained unhappy something!!!!! Nonsense
ReplyDeleteNever marry a man you had bitterness with or else in future and
ReplyDeleteafter marriage you will always thinks of it anytime he does something
wronge to you,,put the past behide before moving in to the future,
if you want happiness in the future
Hehehehehe. ..the ancestors must read this chronicles today o, Poster so you "crashed" at his place several times without gbenshing abi? You want make we believe say you smell the food but nor chop am? Lai Muhammad babe, welldone o!
ReplyDeleteJust say because you've upgraded you can't chop his meat again, don't coman be telling us "APC" lies here biko😕😕😕
Hmmmm poster I can relate wen men see say women don clock 30 and above person wen nor suppose talk to them go dey propose marriage? Abeg just ignore am his not worth it
ReplyDeleteif man ask woman out and she no gree , do you beat him? just free him and stop talking to him. you called him ex neighbor meaning you dont stay close to each other again.
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