STAND ALONE NARRATIVE....
WANTING TO END IT ALL BECAUSE OF LOST ANGEL
Good DAY Stella,
I've been a BV for about 5years but i hardly comment.
The suicide chronicle of yesterday made me send you this because I'm feeling the same way she's feeling only that mine has a REASON!
Ignore any errors you find because I'm typing this with tears in my eyes and i didn't proofread.
I don't know if this would fit for a chronicle or an advice but i know I would be helping someone in my shoes.
In February i lost my adorable daughter,she was my world ,my happiness and my everything .i won't include how she died here because I don't want to give clues to anyone that knows me ,but ill like to say polygamy is terrible.
I wish my husband listened to me when i advised we don't live close to his dad because of his step mom that has always shown me and my kids wickedness.
My advice to every woman out there is to stop condoning rubbish because you don't want your husband or even your in-laws to feel you're too troublesome.
I knew moving to a house close to my in laws was dangerous but i kept quite so I wont be seen as a bad wife.
From all the circumstances surrounding my daughters death,i have an idea who might have done it but I've left it all to God.
Its been over one month but its hard for me to move on.i cry everyday and night ..she was 5years
old,very bright,adorable and loved everywhere she goes.we were working like a trojan(myself and dh) to give her the best,I'm sure anyone living in ikoyi/Lekki axis know expensive schools are in those areas.
Pls women,shout ,fight ,talk if you need to...let everyone see you as a mad woman but don't go ahead with any decision your husband or in-laws make that's clearly dangerous for you and your family .MY daughter would have been alive if I fought and disagreed!Getting pregnant isn't easy for me so i don't know when ill have another daughter to console me!
I know ill remember this tragedy that befell my family everyday of my life but i need the house to pray for me and encourage me so I don't hurt myself because I feel terrible and I'm depressed.
I've stopped working,going out ,cooking and talking to people...I'm a shadow of myself!
Good DAY Stella,
I've been a BV for about 5years but i hardly comment.
The suicide chronicle of yesterday made me send you this because I'm feeling the same way she's feeling only that mine has a REASON!
I would have sent this in when the tragedy struck but i didn't use my phone for a while.PLS hide my identity cos I have a few friends here and they don't know what happened to me.
Ignore any errors you find because I'm typing this with tears in my eyes and i didn't proofread.
I don't know if this would fit for a chronicle or an advice but i know I would be helping someone in my shoes.
In February i lost my adorable daughter,she was my world ,my happiness and my everything .i won't include how she died here because I don't want to give clues to anyone that knows me ,but ill like to say polygamy is terrible.
I wish my husband listened to me when i advised we don't live close to his dad because of his step mom that has always shown me and my kids wickedness.
My advice to every woman out there is to stop condoning rubbish because you don't want your husband or even your in-laws to feel you're too troublesome.
I knew moving to a house close to my in laws was dangerous but i kept quite so I wont be seen as a bad wife.
From all the circumstances surrounding my daughters death,i have an idea who might have done it but I've left it all to God.
Its been over one month but its hard for me to move on.i cry everyday and night ..she was 5years
old,very bright,adorable and loved everywhere she goes.we were working like a trojan(myself and dh) to give her the best,I'm sure anyone living in ikoyi/Lekki axis know expensive schools are in those areas.
Pls women,shout ,fight ,talk if you need to...let everyone see you as a mad woman but don't go ahead with any decision your husband or in-laws make that's clearly dangerous for you and your family .MY daughter would have been alive if I fought and disagreed!Getting pregnant isn't easy for me so i don't know when ill have another daughter to console me!
I know ill remember this tragedy that befell my family everyday of my life but i need the house to pray for me and encourage me so I don't hurt myself because I feel terrible and I'm depressed.
I've stopped working,going out ,cooking and talking to people...I'm a shadow of myself!
*This is so sad,I am so sorry about your loss..please hold on..May God heal you.
please she says she needs someone who can talk her out of her mood.if you are a professional with people like this please mail me for her contact.
WAO
ReplyDeleteGod is love,why not seek Him now. All the best
DeleteSo sorry about your loss, may God console you.
DeleteBut anyone who knows you already know now. so many clues.
Deletemay she RIP.
YOU WILL SMILE AGAIN!
I can't imagine how you feel right now, but God does so my dear, hold unto God. Let God heal your broken heart..
DeleteAllow family and friends too help you out whenever they can and be consoled that your daughter is in a better place..
I will sure say a prayer for you and your family.
Your story is pathetic, but God will console you.
DeleteThe Lord will replenish all you have lost in multiple folds.
You will be fine mama. God will give you the strength to bear the loss.
ReplyDeleteMy dear, please be encouraged, try as much as possible to hold on to God, if any decision is made concerning you just make Sure you involve God and watch them change their minds.
DeleteLet me use this opportunity to invite you to a fellowship, it’s not a church but a gathering of praying woman, they also have a branch in Lagos, believe me when I say you will get encouraged, atleast you will have a place to bear it all without any jugdement ... when women pray international, you can check them out on Facebook or ig
OMG. Comfort to you Amen. May God heal every pains in your heart Amen.
ReplyDeleteMay what happened to you never come back the second time Amen. May the good Lord Jesus Christ give you beauty for ashes Amen.
May you come back and say God Almighty thank you for what you have done for me Amen.
Please take it easy and go out and dont give the devil the joy and happiness of seeing you sad. It is well with you my dear
This is really touching.😑😑
ReplyDeletePoster it's well with you. May God wrap His arms of restoration around you.
Sorry for the loss of your daughter, i know its painful but you have to be strong. i pray God console you
ReplyDeleteAwwwww, so touching sorry madam may the good lord comfort you only him can do that, and may the little angel rest in peace.
ReplyDeleteplease why is my blog 🆔 black, am not using plastic 🆔 oh, what can I do pls
DeleteSweetheart you will be fine. No wicked shall go unpunished. God will heal you. For your loss, you shall receive triplets.
ReplyDeleteOh dear....so sorry dear,God pls console u.
ReplyDeleteYou will definitely be fine with time ma'am. So sorry.. May God console and give you another in no time.
ReplyDeleteMay God comfort you. It is well with you ma'am.
ReplyDeleteYou will be fine ma, and yes its OK to cry and brood but please, pick your pieces together. As for the pregnancy, you will get pregnant in no distant time. God is fully awake in your case. I'm praying for you and remember God loves you. This too will pass.
ReplyDeletePlease be kind to your self. If you hurt yourself now,how do you think your so called in-law would feel. Dont give them what they expect.
ReplyDeleteGod will heal your woumd totally.
Start again, please go back to work and take your mind off things.
Thanks for encouraging women to speak out and never accept rubbish in tbe name of being a good wife. It is well with you
It is well...you are stronger than you think,may God heal you in every way!Heaven has gained another angel in your daughter...she will never leave you ok?It is hard,believe me i know how depression envelops one to the point of suffocating but it will get better...as long as you draw breath...let go and let God.Best wishes xx
ReplyDeleteIt is well...you are stronger than you think,may God heal you in every way!Heaven has gained another angel in your daughter...she will never leave you ok?It is hard,believe me i know how depression envelops one to the point of suffocating but it will get better...as long as you draw breath...let go and let God.Best wishes xx
ReplyDeleteSorry for your lose and I pray your daughter rest in peace.
ReplyDeletePlease stop tagging her death to people, it's only God that can take life, thinking like this won't allow you to heal. Sorry once again.
Don this ya comment makes sense,
DeletePoster, nobody killed your daughter. You and your husband might have made wrong decisions about her welfare due to some infleunce, but please no one directly killed your daughter. You should have done autopsy to find closure. It's well with you. I'm guessing you have other children, Even if u don't, you have to pick up for your unborn kids. You don'tt want to get pregnant in this state of mind.please.
DeleteI am sure the god you mean is not the same God I serve. The God I serve is Loving, gracious and merciful, not a killer please.
DeletePlease, it will be better to keep quiet if what you are going to say will be irrelevant and bring no succour to the bereaved.
Man has being given both the constructive and destructive power. In as much as God gives breath-life, man can decide to eliminate it because he has the spiritually legal right to, but he will be judged accordingly.
#Love#Peace
Be strong ma'am. May the Lord take away your sorrows and heal you completely of this tragedy.
ReplyDeleteEleyi gaa ooo,may God comfort and bless u with double gift,it is well with u
ReplyDeleteWIth all the information, your friends will know it’s you. Meanwhile sorry about your loss, God will give you another baby. E-hug...
ReplyDeleteSorry for your loss
ReplyDeleteMay the good Lord comfort u
For He giveth and taketh. Madam, may God console you and replace her with another beautiful child that will wipe your tears and ignite your live with love and joy again. As for your family, I don't know what you're passing through but I hope God intervene in your matter.
ReplyDeleteMy condolences ma'am
God will give you strength. The loss of a child is not what any parent should experience. I pray you find comfort.
ReplyDeletePeople are going through a lot. Lets just learn to be kind to one another at any point in time. Hurtful words can go a long way in sending someone into depression.
ReplyDeletePoster may God comfort you and your family. Pls hold unto God and never give up. Nothing is difficult for God, even another pregnancy is very possible just dont give up. Forgive those who have hurt you and let God come into your life fully. It is well sis
Pls ma, you said Kids that means u ve other children, then this is the time to be stronger than ever before, this is the time to fight for them, this is the time to relocate and focus on the remaining children, only God can protect, what He allows shd make us stronger than weaken us but as humans we always go weak, pls clean those tears, u will be okay, dont let this affect ur relationship with ur husband, pls hold it together, u will get another beautiful daughter/son again, I shared how painful it was, is and will be after losing my son, but I got another son after 5yrs of losing the other one, once there is life, there is hope
ReplyDeletethanks..You're a strong woman .I just needed to hear from people that experienced it and how they were able to move on.yes I had two of them.her younger brother is 14months.
DeleteIn laws and their intrusion and wahala. Some men will not hear: what God has put together let no man put asunder. I kept my parent and siblings a distant away from hubby and my little boys with a boundary. And hubby did same. Third party and in-law interference is a poison to every marriage.
ReplyDeleteGod no go let me jam such men, instead of him to jeopardize my life , i will leave him
DeleteHave you ever thought of harming anyone around you before? That's the only thing that can make you isolate yourself from your immediate family so no one do what your nursed against others to you. If not you need to have a change of mindset, you need to get rid of negative thoughts unless you are a bad person naturally.
DeletePoster, may you find solace in God and may He give you reasons to smile again. One thing i know is that God never make mistakes and He never allows situations bigger than us to overtake us, hence His Grace is always sufficient.
ReplyDeletePlease be strong and know that this phase will pass and you smile again. E-hugs.
There is nothing more devastating than the loss of a child. I always say that you get THROUGH it but you never get OVER it. I know. I've lost two. This is my advise to you. Grieve and mourn your loss the way you see fit. However, if you have other children and as you have a husband, you may need to make a conscious effort to make sure they are also taken care of. Only God himself can console you and truly understand the depths of your anguish. People will be insensitive. They will say crass and useless words. Some may even run away from you. Please don't take it to heart. If your child was killed by a human hand, leave it to God to avenge for you. Trust me he surely will. I have seen it happen with my own eyes. Some days will be worse than others. Just tell yourself to keep going. Keep the memory of your daughter alive. It is important for your healing for you to do so. There is so much more I can say. But PLEASE hold on.
ReplyDeletethanks.i appreciate your kind words. how were you able to get over the loss of two kids ?how?I'm asking because of how I feel now.when it happened I asked God why,I pay my tithe,drop my first fruit and do other things for the church I attend and GOD allowed that happen to me?i almost became an atheist.i won't mind book suggestions or other suggestions on how to feel better pls
DeleteOMG you wanted to become an atheist. My dear please read the word of God which is the Bible. Everything you wanted to ask God is already there. Read the Book of the Psalmist and learn from David.
DeleteGod will bless you Amen. Once you open the Bible and tell God to give you inspiration, He will. It is well again
ReplyDeleteGood people pass away;
the godly often die before their time.
But no one seems to care or wonder why.
No one seems to understand
that God is protecting them from the evil to come.
2For those who follow godly paths
will rest in peace when they die. Isaiah 57
If you love God lady, he will work out this situation will work for your good.
ReplyDeleteRomans 8:28
Madam u will be fine OK. God will encourage you in this trial time, stay strong
ReplyDeletewhen they say Polygamy is evil some wont hear. it is well with you madam, the child that will stay God will bring
ReplyDeletemay God comfort you in Jesus name. please be strong. it is well with you.
ReplyDeleteAffliction will not rise a second time.
ReplyDeleteTake care dear.
May the peace that passes all understanding flood your heart in Jesus name.
My dear it's only God that can see you through embrace him as tight as you can, He never disappoints. I'm in a similar situation death struck making me a young widow with three little kids, no single support from both families.
ReplyDeleteLife doesn't go the way we plan/wish most times, it's compulsory we continue despite. We are here to fight.
My present situation has taught me a lot, be strong dearie. The encouragement you give yourself is the best, you'll be fine believe me.
God has being so merciful to me all these while, denying yourself happiness will only make those who are responsible for your situation more happy.
You are their target yes you heard me right, they only want to suffer you and possibly see you dead, don't give them the pleasure it's time to be stronger than ever. Yours is still fresh and not easy I know, joy comes in the morning. Don't give up on TTC God is the giver of children, cheer up darling you are alive that's the most important.
No matter what you do don't hurt yourself anymore, be consoled.
the lord comfort you like only him can my darling.....stay strong..cry when you want and try fill your heart with the good times you had with her..pls involve your self with activities you like cos the more you stay on your own the more you think and be depressed. also pls reach out to others,it will help. if you have other kids you need to be strong for them cos they will be hurting too and having a depressed mum will further make things worse for them.. very big hug darling.
ReplyDeleteMa only God in heaven will console you and comfort you, nothing anyone on earth will say will make you better only God, my sister lost 3,1 still birth, other 1year,the other 7years but she fine now, always I hear her pray was God comfort me, it was her only prayer, she has move on tho she talks about it but not with so much pains, and I saw God really comforted her, my prayer is May God comfort you Amen
ReplyDeleteI pray the Lord comforts you and gives you the strength to carry on. Protect your family and take care of your kids. May His peace envelop you in Jesus name.
ReplyDeleteThis is my first time of shading tears while reading chronicles....sorry madam
ReplyDeletePolygamous home ...not good a all
ReplyDeleteMc pinky
Poster, the comforter to the afflicted will comfort you, the helper of the helpless will help you and the giver of children will give you not just a child but children. Pick up your pieces, eat well, sleep well, dress well. Always find time to sing praises to God. Worry not about your loss no more for your loss ossie and pains has been taken care of. Be happy dear.
ReplyDeleteGod will console you ma'am.
ReplyDeleteMay God Almighty console you ..
ReplyDeleteMay you be fruitful and bear more children by His Grace.
Sorry dearie take heart...
DeleteSorry for your loss madam, only God can console you .. May your daughter soul rest in perfect peace ✌
ReplyDeleteSorry dear. May God comfort you and give u courage and grace to face each day. My 🙏🙏🙏 are with u
ReplyDeleteSo sorry about your loss... May GOD console you in a way only HIM can. That Chioma's case is a pure case of Schizophrenia. She needs a psychiatrist ASAP.
ReplyDeleteThe holy spirit will comfort you. There is hope when there is life. God will multiply your loss with tenfold blessings. He will give you another child/ren that will be a blessing to this generation. My condolences.
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