STAND ALONE NARRATVE
UN-MARRIED AND LIVING ALONE IS A CRIME IN NIGERIA?
Dear Stella,
I love your blog and have been a blog visitor for as long as i can remember. This blog has been my doctor's prescription - more than 3 times daily. Lol. I get entertained, inspired and educated daily by the many stories and comments shared here. Keep up the good work.
Now to my story - I am a single lady of 26. I was born and brought up in the South Eastern part of the country and my family resides there. I always prayed for an opportunity to leave home and explore other parts of the country. Luckily, i was posted to Lagos State for the mandatory national service.
When I was leaving, I prayed never to come back to stay permanently in my parents house again.The secondary school i was deployed to serve in gave me accomodation within the school premises. I put in my best such that i was retained by the school after my service year which was my plan as i wanted to stay in Lagos and search for job.
Fortunately for me, I got a good job after some months of finishing service and decided to get accomodation for myself. Then I started hearing opinions of different people as to how it is ill-advised for a single lady to live alone. At first I dismissed these stories until some supposed enlightened people told me so. I was curious to know why they think so only to hear reasons like - a single lady living alone is viewed as irresponsible and wayward and scares away potential suitors. This does not sound reasonable enough to me because i know some ladies that live with their parents who are promiscous and no one who comes close to me will view me as being irresponsible or wayward and i don't really care about the opinions of passersby. I don't think these traits about me will change irrespective of whether i live alone or with my parents.
I currently work at Apapa and I ply from Ikorodu everyday and the stress is just too much for me and I cannot keep staying in the school provided accomodation as I no longer work for them. I dont seem to have an option here.
However i want to get a general opinion on this issue. Am I about to commit a serious social blunder? Please single ladies here that live alone have you encountered any disadvantage by virtue of that? Married women that once lived alone when single did it delay your marriage? And men how do you view spinsters living alone?
Thank you. Please post this.
Fortunately for me, I got a good job after some months of finishing service and decided to get accomodation for myself. Then I started hearing opinions of different people as to how it is ill-advised for a single lady to live alone. At first I dismissed these stories until some supposed enlightened people told me so. I was curious to know why they think so only to hear reasons like - a single lady living alone is viewed as irresponsible and wayward and scares away potential suitors. This does not sound reasonable enough to me because i know some ladies that live with their parents who are promiscous and no one who comes close to me will view me as being irresponsible or wayward and i don't really care about the opinions of passersby. I don't think these traits about me will change irrespective of whether i live alone or with my parents.
I currently work at Apapa and I ply from Ikorodu everyday and the stress is just too much for me and I cannot keep staying in the school provided accomodation as I no longer work for them. I dont seem to have an option here.
However i want to get a general opinion on this issue. Am I about to commit a serious social blunder? Please single ladies here that live alone have you encountered any disadvantage by virtue of that? Married women that once lived alone when single did it delay your marriage? And men how do you view spinsters living alone?
Thank you. Please post this.
My der you know urself, though staying alone as a single lady in Lagos is not easy, you will be stigmatized by young married women,Uninvited male visitors can show face @ ur door, landlord 10commandment might show sha, but in all you will enjoy your freedom & life, just go buy better self-control absorber
ReplyDeleteI am a single lady of, and no visitor comes to my house when not invited. In fact the soon to be my former house caretaker family and neighbours knows that, and I only received 3 visitors including my siblings throughout last year. Discipline and principles and the fear of God . I have been living on my own for over 22 years now, so freedom doesn't shack me. Male visitor ko, male visitor ni
DeleteI just got married in February and I was living alone in festac. Although I washed in a long distance relationship with my b.f (now husband), we were able to build trust which is essential. I would advise u Neva to let guys know that you stay alone because u might become prey to them. many of them will view dis as an open invitation to sex or even move in with u. Even those that didn't have any intentions might start lookin for opportunities to come over to do otherwise. It might also help you sieve out the bad weeds if your smart. Just be disciplined my dear, its not easy living alone too cz d loneliness can't kill. But having stayed with relatives (rme) I would advise you to stay alone, keep your head up and pray for the best. Lagos has lots of single girls staying outside their parent's houses u won't b d first nor last.
Delete@Anonymous 16:21
Delete"I washed in a long distance relationship?" sic
So wetin you wash for long distance relationship
You bobo wash plates? I weak o!
I WAS thinking of advising ladies like you to follow me
dey nak pidgin dey go as grammar dey hard una so
Honey there is absolutely nothing wrong in living alone. Before I married I lived alone for 2 years and I was infact encouraged by my dad to do so cause I was transferred outside Lagos and he did not like the idea of me living with anyone. Its all about discipline. In fact the only danger of living alone as far as I am concerned is that if you call very ill you might not have anyone around to help you to the hospital in good time. Aside that you are good.
DeleteAs a man I won't marry a girl staying alone.obviously she's into runs .a proper wife shouldn't be a borehole to her husband.but a girl can't be into runs in her parents house
DeleteWhy is it that girls spoil only when they enter university. ..Be cos they now have freedom. Freedom brings immorality. StayING in ur parents house is still the best.many men just want to sleep with girls staying alone but would go n marry the one that stays with her parents
DeleteAnon 17:39 ehn.... That's how you people go and marry coded ashawo that has been sleeping with all her neighbours. And on the wedding day they'd be feeling sorry for you cos she's the neighbourhood borehole distributor who sneaks to their houses at night. Men are so so easily deceived!
DeleteAnon 17:39 so she should be coming from her parents house in South East abi....May sense fall on You cause you are very shallow minded
DeleteAnon 17:39, it’s so obvious u are senseless shaa. Runs girl cos she lives alone? So the Poster should be coming to work in Lagos from South East so she will be a good girl abi? I know of serious runs girls that stay with their parents, a girl dat wants to do runs will do runs no matter where she is. And by d way serious runs girls na for hotel dem dey go meet the sugar daddies, dey don’t come to their house! Okpo
DeleteStop atacking this man for saying the truth.all the girls you see going to dubai (obviously with their sugar daddies)are they not living alone? Can they do such in their parents house? Some single ladies even travel to America n Europe without their parents knowledge just cos they live alone! What if something happens to them in dubai...That's how their runs go end. As a man I CAN'T marry a girl living alone!
DeleteI lived alone outside school for 5yrs,after law school,I lived alone in another state for 2yrs,before getting married,...living alone doesn't define a lady,ur character does,...people are always watching, so are suitors
DeleteAnon 4:30, you need to pack up your brain that is leaking. It's clear a single lady that is career driven is viewed as a threat. Are you sure your sisters and relatives who are single and live alone are not into runs? Too bad you think staying in one's parent house stops runs. How shortsighted you are.
DeletePlease pray for enlightenment because you need it. I doubt single and responsible ladies who live alone even want anything to do with you niccuh!
Generally to a large extend it is been assume that single women staying alone are runs women, though majority of them are especially the ones living above their means or don't have a visible source of business that fetch them money. Marriage has nothing to do with a lady staying alone or not but rather the character and potential of the individual. Like you did said, there are quite lot of ladies in their parents house that still find it difficult to get married. It all depend on ones attitude and way of lifestyle. What impression do you give people around who sees you daily? How you dress is how you will definitely be address. So to me it is a two way thing, it could be misconstrue and as well be right depending on the individual style of life. Most single ladies staying alone according to research are more successful in life and men tend to fall in love with such women. Just follow your heart provided you are doing the right thing.
ReplyDeleteHow free is your conscience from this accusation of promiscuity?
ReplyDeleteYour craving for "leaving home" was it to explore with your vj?
If so, then there are a lot of things to resolve within you?
When you get accommodation, will you bring men in there?
When they make sexual advances; what will your response be?
Considering yourself the landlord or a co-tenant, how will
you feel seeing a single lady bring in different men on different days?
If you see someone wanting to marry that lady, will you encourage him?
For as a person thinks in his/her heart, so the person is.
So I single lady can't have male friends? She must automatically be sleeping with them. Thank goodness I don't live in Nigeria.
Delete*yimu*
DeleteI started living on my own as a 17 year old undergrad. And I can count the number of guys who came to my house even as at then. The ones who did came to eat and brought their own drinks to stock my fridge.
Abeg stop this nonsense talk!! Not everyone has a corrupt mind. The way some of you talk about sin, it shows that that's all your mind is filled with when you're less busy. Go for deliverance, my dear. So you can live life God-consciously, not Sin-consciously. Stop beinf afraid of yourself.*tongue click*
@Chikito
Delete"The ones who did came to eat?" sic
If I remember very well, your name was "professional runs girl"
And the ones who DID come to eat the things in between ya thighs
stock ya pussy cat with stuff aha?
Keep running, runs runs runs
Keep being on fire, fire fire fire
fa-fa-a-a f -to-to-t. . .make I no talk again, as this stammering don worse
@Anonymous 15:43
Delete"I single lady can't?" sic
If A single lady like you can type this and post
one wonders where you live . . .
You this Anon 16:35...aye e tii baje..oloribuku somebody.
DeleteThis sic anon na sic go put you for trouble
DeleteWannabe busybody corrector, still looking for recognition, correcting people upandan😄Na you go tire cos nobody cares 😂
DeleteChikito so since 17 years yet no husband...receive sense and go back to ur parents house.wch decent man wants a runs girl pls.that's why almost all girls living alone drive expensive cars n leave in expensive houses, they all live above their income. Isn't it runs that provides this for them or does the money fall from trees..abegi shift jare
DeleteStory Story!!! Stoooooory!!
ReplyDeletePoster, all as in... AAAAALLLL my friends who moved to Lagos from the East and to Abuja from Lagos and from Uni.... they've married! They were all living on their own, doing their own things and they married CORRECT! From pastors, to billionaires son, to working class hustler and young politician. And had beautiful weddings. That when when it dawned on me that staying with my parents doesn't make a difference. It even restricts you on some things if you dont put your foot down.
Many of my male friends have told me that they personal don't see the difference. That in fact, girls use daddy's house to tell lies. When they've gone to sleep with another guy for the night they will say they're home and bobo can't come because of parents bla
Having beautiful weddings is different from beautiful marriages
DeleteAnyone can have beautiful weddings
All these array of people you mentioned do not make for good marriages.
Those are not what this poster asked about.
Anon 16:37 are you married? If yes, you most likely didn't have a beautiful wedding and that's why that aspect of my comment pricked you. Am I right or right?
DeleteBut guess what? You need to read the chronicle again. Because the poster said she's been getting information that single ladies who live alone 'scare away suitors because they are perceived as wayward and irresponsible'.
So, in my 'gistful' nature, I have given her examples of people I know who 'got suitors' and got married, while living alone. The fact that they were living alone didn't scare away serious-minded suitors. READ!!! And stop humping on my comments without reason to make unnecessary points. Chikito is not the reason for your issues in life. Take them ALL to God in prayer. Thanks and happy Easter.
Chikito stop littering this post.u haven't married don't you think the fact that you live alone might be the factor chasing away ur suitors.
DeleteEverything I typed disappeared but I must type again lol.
DeleteChikito thanks very much. So i got a job in Lagos with a very good pay, was I supposed to reject it cos I don’t have any relation to stay with? Story story! I stay alone on the island and i can afford my rent very very well. I know Babes in my office dat stay with their parents/ relations and are always in Quilox every friday. So all ds trash about single girls staying alone is arrant nonsense ! An irresponsible girl will always be an irresponsible girl no matter where she lives. Somewhere like Lagos dat u can always lie with traffic it’s even very easy to sleep out. So even if i stay with my Pastor and i want to misbehave it’s still very easy. So Madam Poster get a place u can pay with ur salary and Live! Stop listening to people cos u can never please the world!
Miss Juliet
Anon 17:33 ah! You and I know Sundays are my official litter day on this blog. So sorry I won't did what you very stupidly asked.
DeleteYes, I'm yet to get married buy I'm far better than the married ones with abusive husbands or the ones who.... Well let me not be accused of indirectly insulting anyone on here. But IF my suitors are being chased how is that your problem? Are you the one supposed to receive my bride price? Or are you looking forward to my wedding hashtag? Relax and drink zobo!
@miss juliet hmmm! Me I used to party alot when i was with my folks oh. So that didn't stop shit. Remember one night my ex and I partied when he dropped me at home, he was too tired to drive to his place. So we slept inside his car right at my gate till 5:30am. My parents woke up by 6:30am to find me in bed with my nightie. Lol. And i had morning devotion with them. Who's fooling who?
*I won't DO*
DeleteBefore madam *sic sic* lines up here again 🤣
@Professional runs girl
DeleteSee as ya grammar scatter
"If my suitors are being chased how . . ."
You no dey get break as you dey drive
comma and full stop are components of a sentence
"alot (sic) = a lot"
And all these expletives wey dey commot for ya mouth taya me o
See as I don' nak grammar on top ya matter. Take time o.
Chikito ugegbe chike..If not that u were with ur parents I prove it to you that you wouldn't even come back that night at all.so u were promiscuous in ur parents house now that you live alone I wonder the rank you will be now in the runs biz.
DeleteHmmm I don't know about Nigeria but here in Ghana, it's a shame to be staying with your parents at your age. It shows how irresponsible one is and can't take responsibility of yourself.
ReplyDeleteThat's why ghanains re too promiscuous! Thier girls love sex like food
DeleteTrue, first time I'm hearing this "single ladies can't live alone" thingy. I'm Ghanaian too. Girl, just do you. People will always talk,no matter what.
Delete@anon17:36. How many Ghanaians do u know? Smfh.Those anonymous confessions u read on here, are they from Ghanaians? Bad people are bad people, it has nothing to do with a country. With Niaja's population, they should even have more promiscuous people
DeleteIve dated a girl that lived alone, im very comfortable with it, infact id prefer a lady that lives alone to that in her fathers house; reason being i can access her space wenever i please, and i can vividly see how neat n organized she can be without guardians, etc. the advantages are more to me
ReplyDeleteYes, any lascivious guy will love to date a girl living alone
DeleteHer pussy cat is easier accessible
It is only when she says "I am preg. .." that you take off like
North Korea's rocket! And all you leave behind are columns of dust of frustrations.
Give a rest anonymous. Your mind is a filthy a sewage pit, filled with nothing but waste. All over the world there are young ladies living alone, are they all promiscuous? Allow light and wisdom into your life mister, life isn't that serious.
DeleteI once lived in a student's lodge
ReplyDeleteThere was these two students male and female
both "born again"
The female always passed the night in the guy's room
And my room being adjacent, I was not unaware of the
events there.
One day, an abroad returnee working in an oil company
came to the lodge to find a wife (I did not know this)
It was while they gave me a lift in their car going to town
that I overheard their discussion considering if this lady
was genuinely born again or promiscuous. I endured their discussion
until we got to where I was to disembark
I couldn't bear to withhold an important piece of information
to this apparently nice Christian man. I braced up and while he helped me
remove my luggage from the car trunk, I simply told him that I know the girl
to be "born again" but there is a guy she always passed the night with
He quickly described the guy and I nodded. He said that the guy was always in
the lady's room each time he visited and she introduced him as . . . you know
He was very grateful and thanked me for the piece of info . . .
Why this story? Whether you are living alone or "together", always know that
neighbors are watching and for you lady that want to get married, that neighbor
may be the one to provide an assessment before a potential suitor. I felt better in
my conscience telling what I knew just as it was.
Amebo!!! Welldone ooo!
DeleteMtcheeew!
You should learn to mind your business. This one sounds more like bad belle than anything else...
DeleteWhy u cast the lady nah..
DeleteLearn to mind your business. This is how people suffer for what isn't their headache. What if the girl finds out what you did and decides to take it out on you? Na wah for you sha
DeleteMost times some things are better left unsaid. Especially when d person involved is not blood related to YOU. after now u will say u r a Christian but u GOSSIP! now that he left d gal did he Marry YOU? Did d brother told u he is a virgin? Women hating theirselves since 1900.if it was guys now, they would have covered themselves. Enemy of progress!
Delete@Anon 19:13
DeleteChai, this thing pain you eh
Make you dey behave anyhow, come carry "born again"
cover yasef. You think say nobody dey see you.
Na all those neighbors wey you dey fight, dey f*k different
"brothers", na them the suitors go ask about you. And when
them talk true, you call am gossip?
If na ya brother, you go like make the neighbors keep quiet
make im carry snake wife?
Grow up.
Gbeboru united!🙆
DeleteGossip! Girls bringing each other down since BC. If I were the babe, and I find out, I'd deal with you in ways beyond your widest imagination. Gosh!
Delete*****bla bla.
ReplyDeleteI'm gonna give you one advice: DO YOU!! Don't listen to all these side talks in the name of advice. You wont find correct husband in that ikorodu shuttle. Better come to town! Move to surulere, spend less time commuting to work and back. Have time for yourself, have a work life balance and live a fabulous life. This is lagos oh! Not the East all you need is your life properly arranged not some stale fable.
If you relocate abroad now won't you live on your own? If your company posts you to another town won't you live on your own? Would they come and force you to live with strangers you don't know, just because..... I say NONE of my friends that were living on their own in lagos without parents or even abuja are still single. NONE!! So that gist doesn't work for everyone. Instead, it makes you sit up in your decision making processes and look for ways to make more money.
(Sorry I hit 'publish' before I should)
How many posts do you have on this matter?
DeleteHas this poster hit a raw nerve that you have to comment more than twice???
Madam adviser chikito. .u are still single and u hv lived alone since u were 17 years.dint you think your advice would even scare the poster.get married first before you qualify to advise on this
DeleteChikito i will keep replying ur comments cos i so support u 100%. How can u say no to a job so dey won’t label u “single girl that stays alone” ? Nonsense and ingredients! Staying with a relation is not even easy and i’m not sure i want it. Asides my parents and siblings I can’t live with anybody, yes i said it. Cos the gossip no be here, they must always find fault in wateva u do. So if i can afford my rent y can’t i stay alone? Abi i should go live with a stranger to please people? Do and get a good job sef and move down to the island enjoy ur stay in Lagos.
DeleteI was trained well and no matter where i find myself tomorrow i will behave well. My parents support me staying alone cos they trust me. All d anon coming here to talk nonsense about not giving advice if u are not married are the same ones that will move in with their boyfriends and get pregnant den rush wedding. Nonsense!
Anon 16:44 I didn't finish my first comment, if you read till the end. But let me ask, is it your nerve?
DeleteAnon 17:34 yeees! I lived alone as an undergrad and had all my relatives calling my dad to commend my good reputation when i graduated. E easy?!! *hiss* That's why I'm financially independent and not a broke ass beggar looking to anyone but God for assistance. And enough of this when you marry bullshit, many of you send miserable marriage chronicles here and we console and advise you. Capisce?
That one up there wey dey support am 100% still be "Miss"
DeleteNa like this una go thrive for Naija?
Poster if you notice..chikito n miss Julieth are very much single and they have lived alone for so long yet no husband! Do you want this to be your portion? They clearly want you to join them in their aunty gwegwegwe status.shine ur eyes wella
DeleteWorld people and bad belle. Trying to mock her for being unmarried shows how frustrated you are. Mrs, Aren't you ashamed that a single lady is doing better than you and your spouse? Na una go still dey beg her for work, help etc. and then come under anonymous to insult her just to make yourselves feel better. Na so una Yab Linda, I am sure you lots are shitting in your pants since news of her engagement broke. If you like say this is Chikito, na una Sabi.
DeleteHmmn. Living alone isn't beans o. I used to live alone when i landed a good job just after service in another state. My parents and siblings were in another state.
ReplyDeleteNo how temptation would come unless you make up your mind not to be sleeping with your male freinds even if they end up stranded in your house on a rainy night.
Some guys that know you libbe alone would try to come and tempt you. I would advise you get a roommate to avoid boredom and loneliness
Even with dstv and groove there are some days you would be bored and lonely.
Poster, I think this is true o. I was once planning to move out of my mother's house but my Fiancé won't allow me. He kept telling me that the society will think that I moved out because of my quest for freedom and promiscuity, and that no one will want to know that I left due to frustration. Yes, I was being deprived of food, attention and peace of mind but people kept on telling me that it doesn't make sense for me to have my own apartment in the same town where my family house is.
ReplyDeleteSo, I am still in my mama's house but cooks separately in my own pots. At least, that has given me peace of mind and earned me some respect.
Even the men out there aren't helping matters. They will always ask if you are leaving alone or not. Living with your parents will curb their unwanted visitations.
Lmao!!!! Another nonsense mode of thinking! What is this? I have been living alone since I was 16! As per alone with nobody else in my apartment. And who has died? I can't even imagine living with somebody else! Who makes these rules? I taught the adult age in Nigeria was 18, if so why is a 26 year old asking if living alone is right or not? Really? In this time and age people still think like this? It would be more valid if you were concerned about safety and wrote about security risks. Like asking if single women living alone experience higher rates of violence and crimes committed against them. I would say that is the question you should be asking and it would be a great question as we don't have stats on crime rate in Nigeria so people can write their experiences and give advise on how to conduct your affairs safely. But no you're asking about irresponsibility and promiscuity. Well, what can I say, it is Nigeria afterall.
ReplyDelete"I taught the adult age in Nigeria was 18?" sic
DeleteThat was what you taught
What I THOUGHT about you when I read this you post
was that someone probably escaped from . . . ok make I no
talk am.
Factors affecting nigerians, I lived alone from 18 to 28,18 to 24yrs I lived off campus 4hrs of home, 25 to 28 I lived many miles from home, still dated n married my 1st boyfriend. So living alone changed nothing for me.
ReplyDeleteThere's nothing wrong with living alone as a single lady so far as you're not wayward. I know some decent single ladies who live alone.
ReplyDeleteWhat is wrong in living alone? My dear pls get an apartment close to your place of work and save yourself of too much stress, before you start looking like a grandma because of stress. People will always talk, you know what is right and good for it do it. Even girls living without their parents still misbehave so it's not about living with your parent or living alone, it's about your personality and what u stand for.
ReplyDeleteThank you oh! Stress to work and back will just drain you @poster. God knows why He gave you that job that's faraway from your current place of residence. He probably wants you to have neighbours with the right mentality. Do you know if your God-ordained husband lives two doors away from your new apartment? Be there living with an old fashioned head mistress. Lol. Very soon she will bring her younger brother for you to marry since you're a 'good girl' who takes advice. Then you will start telling us how good girls end up with funny guys. Then you will resign after marriage because of stress to work and back. And you will re-take a job in the school, perhaps with your husband. You will go back to earning less and live happily every after 😁😁
DeleteYes! That's just how it starts.... 🤣🤣🤣
If you know you have self discipline then no problem.
DeletePoster, please get a decent accommodation and sort yourself out. Trashy talk.
ReplyDeleteI can sooooo relate to this your story. Before leaving for service, I prayed never to return to my parent's house. after service I got retained but the pay wasn't encouraging. I got other jobs but my mum wouldn't have it. she kept saying no one chased me away from home. I eventually returned home briefly & I got a job thru my Dad's influence. I still live wt them..I enjoy pecks from them here & there & I can save my little earnings massively.
ReplyDeleteI won't advice you live alone cos Lagos apartments are expensive, cost of feeding, transportation & other logistics. Perhaps get a rommie to share responsibilities & don't be promiscuous.
Whatever you do, apply wisdom.
Its only in Nigeria that such silly things are considered. Later they will say Nigerian women are leeches. Why cant a woman live on her own? Why would a woman think if she stays alone she cant ward off temptation? Are you a child? This is why men do not respect half of you. Must you have male visitors? If a man comes uninvited, send him out and stop acting like helpless babies. It is so annoying when women ask these questions. You are an adult, act like it!!
ReplyDeleteI don't see anything bad in living alone, as far as you have something doing. Poster get a decent place not too far from your place of work and don't go about telling people were you stay, except the trusted ones.
ReplyDeleteDo people still think like this? In 2018? Na wah oo! This is utter nonsense.
ReplyDeleteKwakwakwakwa
ReplyDeleteDon't mind those archaic people. Babes living alone marry everyday in this Nigeria.
I lived alone for years, my sisters are married and they lived alone. I know girls that lived alone and has even bought tear rubber cars and they are married.
People even live in duplex and get married.
Stop stressing yourself. Ikorodu to Apapa is far. Go get a place close to your office
Nothing wrong in living alone. Self discipline matters.
ReplyDeleteIf you can't stay alone. Let your sister or brother live with you.
What matters is how discipline are you?
Gosh Nigeria and female slave mentality. Other countries at 18/21 u r booted out to be more independent. Nigeria looks for more opportunities to weaken a woman. Tufiakwa
ReplyDeleteSpot on!
DeleteSo which country dey boot out at 18/21?
DeleteMake you no yarn wetin you no sabi
I'm 25years old and I currently live alone...Just be discipilned and doon't allow what you cant tolerate thats all
ReplyDeleteI don't live alone and I borderline envy those who live alone. Not that my house is uncomfortable for me which if that was the case I won't have hesitated to live in a rat hole and make it comfortable. There's just no point getting a place in this expensive Abj when I have somewhere nice. Man know thyself is all I can tell you. Living alone teaches you how to be responsible if anything unless you've been wayward right from time.
ReplyDeleteI lived alone for 3 yrs in Port Harcourt before I got married. As on no be moi moi place o. RUMUIBEKWE. The secret is never to tell guys you stay alone. Especially the married ones, else na your house dem go dey run come once thier pikin cry start to worry them or their wives make them vex. Even the single guys might want to turn your house to their own restaurant. In fact don't even tell your bf you stay alone else na for your house una go dey see. He will start importing babes to stay at his place with him. I always claimed to stay with my aunt. Any guy that wants to see me na for my gate you go stop o. I presented my aunt as one strict no nonsense lady. My bf only got to know that I lived alone after he had made his intentions very clear,and I also saw that he had a comfortable apartment with rent fully paid. I can't come and accommodating a man abeg. Poster find a house close to your office and enjoy your single days wella abeg. Just be have a good story handy to tell guys when they wanna visit.
ReplyDeleteStella Nwankwo,
DeleteYou be wise babe like ya namesake sdk
No surprise.
Make all those professional runs girls
dey yarn thrash up there.
Persin wey wan marry dey behave like ashawo
after them come dey write chronicles wey no get
head.
Poster pls there's nothing wrong about living alone. I met my
ReplyDeleteWonderful husband shortly when I started living alone,after living with a relative for a long time. It all depends on self discipline. Go and look for apartment that is not above your income, live within your income, that's all.
Poster i lived in Abuja alone. 3 years after I married correct. Heed to Chikito's advice. Go to where you'd attract "human beings". Unless you want to obediently stay grounded in that ikorodu. Chikito dalu nne. Your advice be saving lives.
ReplyDeletei live alone in Abuja my family is in Lagos. only one guy has visited me in 3 months. i don't have time to socialize to the extent that guys will visit me.just be disciplined
ReplyDelete