*Secret 1*
Everyone you marry has a weakness. Only God does not have a weakness. So if you focus on your spouse's weakness you can't get the best out of their strength.
*Secret 2*
Everyone has a dark history. No one is an angel. When you get married or you want to get married stop digging into someone's past. What matters most is the present life of your partner. Old things have passed away. Forgive and forget. Focus on the present and the future.
*Secret 3*
Every marriage has its own challenges. Marriage is not a bed of roses. Every good marriage has gone through its own test of blazing fire. True love proves in times of challenges. Fight for your marriage. Make up your mind to stay with your spouse in times of need. Remember the vow *For better for worse*. In sickness and in health be there.
*Secret 4*
Every marriage has different levels of success. Don't compare your marriage with any one else. We can never be equal. Some will be far, some behind. To avoid marriage stresses, be patient, work hard and with time your marriage dreams shall come true.
*Secret 5*
To get married is declaring war. When you get married you must declare war against enemies of marriage. Some enemies of marriage are:
Ignorance
Prayerlessness
Unforgiveness
Third party influence
Stinginess
Stubbornness
Lack of love
Rudeness
Laziness
Disrespect
Cheating
_Be ready to fight to maintain your marriage zone._
*Secret 6*
There is no perfect marriage. There is no ready made marriage. Marriage is hard work. Volunteer yourself to work daily on it. Marriage is like a car that needs proper maintenance and proper service. If this is not done it will break down somewhere exposing the owner to danger or some unhealthy circumstances. Let us not be careless about our marriages.
*Secret 7*
God cannot give you a complete person you desire. He gives you the person in the form of raw materials in order for you to mould the person that you desire. This can only be achieved through prayer, love and Patience
*Secret 8*
Getting married is taking a huge risk. You can not predict what will happen in the future. Situations may change so leave room for adjustments. Husband can lose his good job or you may fail to have babies. All these require you to be prayerful otherwise you might divorce.
*Secret 9*
Marriage is not a contract. It is permanent. It needs total commitment. Love is the glue that sticks the couple together. Divorce start in the mind and the devil feeds the mind. Never ever entertain thoughts of getting a divorce. Never threaten your spouse with divorce. Choose to remain married. God hates divorce.
*Secret 10*
Every marriage has a price to pay. Marriage is like a bank account. It is the money that you deposit that you withdraw. If you don't deposit love, peace and care into your marriage, you are not a candidate for a blissful home.
I hope reading this helped?
Lovely write up. The rate of divorce is alarming these days.
ReplyDeletePls give practical true sure certain secrets of prosperity. Marriage is not for all of us
DeleteNo 10
ReplyDeleteMost ladies in this blog chant "my money is mine, his money is ours . . ." That's neither care nor marriage. It is selfishness, stinginess, stupidity; like the chronicle poster that was tasking her husband whom she told us she knew did not have money and was paying back loan from the wedding and c/s to bring money. It is appalling how Nigerian graduates reason from between their thighs.
And that girl had the guts to tell us she had 2 Million in her account.
DeleteThat is the definition of dead on arrival marriage.
Wow. Women pls be a help-meet to your husband when he genuinely needs it. Make them nor die young oh.
DeleteMarriage is not for everyone
DeleteSecret 7:
ReplyDeleteWetin babes dey call that "raw material" na "thrash". I never see a babe go to the thrash to collect money, suck her bre*sts, shout harder harder with legs asunder etc. Yet all of una go carry wine give "thrash", ya papa go collect bride price and all plenty things from. You go carry thrash go altar, post pictures with thrash for SM. How many of una don go thrash to pick diamond rings?
thrash thrash, and una go come blog shout "I am 27 and there is no thrash . . ." abegi make we hear word.
All this tips are imitation tips.
DeleteThe bible is the manual of life,
it contains all these tips and more.
1...God has a weakness o.
ReplyDeleteChildren. Do not touch children. He will come for you. He speaks through them.
2...me gat no dark history biko but I was a very goooooood baaaaaad giiirrrrl.
Kikiki
5...no marriage is made in heaven. None. Be wise!
6...always pray together. It takes away many Evils.
In all,use the P-STEP. It works wonders in marriage:
P_pray together. Kneel before God at the same time every morning.
S-Sleep together
T-Talk to one another
E-Eat together,if possible,one plate.
P-Play together. Tease each and laughhhh.
Thanks Poster.
God bless you.
And how about ladies shooting babies off their wombs?
DeleteGod knows i will never sleep in separate room with my husband
DeleteI wonder where they got that line of everyone has a dark secret. I don't have a dark secret prior to or in marriage.
DeleteAll these rules sef
ReplyDeleteWe hear dis everyday,the issue now is to practice it,may God help us all!!
ReplyDeleteThanks for sharing.
ReplyDeleteLovely write up.
God bless @ Poster.
True....
ReplyDeleteRespect,compromise and God.
ReplyDeleteThere is reasonable amount of oil on your head!
DeleteFrom my little experience!.
ReplyDeletePatience plays a good role in marriage !perseverance!
Too much expectations can destroy a home and make one bitter..
BVs,I almost lost my marriage last year all because of my temperament.But God came through for me and opened my eyes to see things from different perceptive.What i learnt from that experience can never be taken serious if it didnt happen to me personally..
Most times,life doesn't happen the way we mapped it.Challenges will always splunged its head in lives,and our total freedom depends on how its being handled.
Pls Our wives,make God's Word the standard of your living..if i had been active in SFI(sister fellowship inl),that demeaning event in my marriage wouldnt have happened.pls join any branch around you.its a non-denominational fellowship..Believe me,you will learn alot on how to handle your home..
I cant post all..B4 i go become Epistle writer..
Where is this sisters denomination ? I need to join one that encourages me on praying .
DeleteI strongly disagree with with number 2 and 8. I met my wife a virgin, and she has been faithful for the past 18years. I “was” the one with issues. Back then tho.
ReplyDeleteNumber 8. Marriage is not a huge risk. It is rather designed for man by God. What happened to he that finds a wife, finds good thing and obtains favor from the Lord ?
Some of the write ups are correct, while some, I disagree with Abeg. Especially as a Christian.
What are u talking,u think is by having sex ,my dear virgins too have bad history ,dey have virgins that were molesting people's children,they have virgins that were thief ,they have virgins that did a lot of bad things in their youthful age.
DeleteNice once..
ReplyDeleteNice write up
ReplyDeleteDon't agree with many of the points here. We need to be realistic and not swayed by poetic English.
ReplyDeleteAnon 19:50 Keep kwayet
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