She posted a few days back...
“I’m so heartbroken! What a waste! Why the innocent baby girl as well? I’m sick to my stomach! I decided I had to make #WivesOn Strike THEREVOLUTION because I was sick and tired of hearing about domestic violence. I used the tool I had, my voice which is film to shed light on a very scary topic! I followed closely a case early last year and this is what I told the victim who thankfully, narrowly escaped with her life. ‘My dear, marriage is great I know, I’m in it but it’s not the only great thing in life.
“Life has plenty purpose outside of marriage. Once there’s any form of violence (and I’m speaking for both male and female) run for your life! Forget about what people will say! You can only hear them if you are alive. Believe me, no marriage is worth dying for and nobody is indispensable! Don’t listen to society! Flee!!! If you have kids, take your kids and run!!! Do not ‘stay for the kids’! Even if you survive, they will grow up to hate you for it! Don’t teach the next generation by your actions or inactions that domestic violence should be condoned or tolerated!’
” Marriage nor be by force abeg! If you can’t stand the heat, leave the kitchen! If you can’t stand someone anymore or they offended you, leave them before you will say devil pushed you to kill them!
“See my brother, my sister, run!! We’ve gotten many messages from people who were touched by our movie and who now have the courage to speak up and seek help. Please don’t die in silence. Talk! Shout! Cry!
“I don’t know what happened in this case but if this man truly murdered this beautiful woman, his wife and his own child may God and the law take its full course! We are watching!
“Justice for Alizee, End Domestic Violence.”
something must kill a man jo, know your man weakness and use it to hit back, it might not be physical, run to where? after we started from scratch, i shld run away for side chick to come n maltreat my kids?
ReplyDeleteIs better for you to be alive my dear. When u want to run, don't run alone, run with your kids.
DeleteShe said run! Run and don't leave your kids behind!
DeleteAre you okay? If yes, read again.
DeleteThere's a very thin line between life and death, I'm very sure Alizee and Maryam Sambo's husband didn't believe that they will become statistics for DV.
DeleteContinue thinking about side chick, don't start planning a life with your kids away from an abusive man, last last, we will type RIP, none of us will go with you.
Issokay... stay there...
DeleteOkuko nti ike.....
DeleteJustification for d table that was shaked? I cldnt watch past 20mins of DAT movie. OK this was what it was about? D.v ? Ok
DeleteAnon 16:38 you are asking run where??so you think if the person ends up dead the supposed side chick won't still take over
DeleteSo your concern is the side chick and not your lif. Alright stay and die a shameful dead.
DeleteTypical African mentality. Thank God I have left that part and my kids will never have such low value on themselves. Stay there you hear.
DeleteIt is well
ReplyDeleteHmmmn, this topic usually touch a part of me. I was a victim, i took a walk with my kids. Its not easy but God has been awesome.It is far better than remaining in that hell hole. I just wish there were NGOs where i can gladly and willingly offer my services,weekend only, to help someone out there. Domestic violence is a hell and a reality you would wish was a dream. Please,#walk out alive, cos either way, you might #walk out dead.....
ReplyDeleteA woman who is in domestic violence home will want to leave, her family will tell her go back she doesnt belong to her father's house again. No friends will want to accommodate her,they country isn't even making it easy too, no work then those with work are been owed salaries, those with business no sales nothing, no one will want to talk to the husband instead everyone will be advising the woman,including their religious head, now how do you think this woman will feel, every one is against them. The world has turn their back at them, no one love them at all. Women have the number of kids you can take care of incase any thing happens,you never can tell.
ReplyDeleteThats Why i love my parents, u cant even scold my elder sis without my dad pouncing on you n threatening to return ur brideprice via bank transfer..😁
DeleteChaiiiiiiiiiiii BlackBerry 😄😄😄😄🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
DeleteIf they go back or remain with such men, it's their choice. After all you ain't suppose to live with your folks for life. So why go back to your parents house. Stop being housewives...
DeleteGod help us
ReplyDeleteSome men are useless
ReplyDeleteI hear people saying this lady wanted to live in a mansion by all means and I’m confused. Firstly, I thought their home was given to her as part of the package from her record deal with a foreign company?
ReplyDeleteSo how is she a gold digger leaching off the man and wanting to die in Banana Island?
Is not all Oyinbo in this country that have a lot to offer and I hear this lady was really a hustler.
Except I’m wrong ooh, Apologies in advance. Emabinu
RIP pretty lady.
Don't mind people and their thought process. Whoever owns the house doesn't even matter. Did Ronke shonde live in Banana island, or did that skye bank Staff live in Banana Island ?
DeletePeople in Ajegunle are not experiencing DV ? The statistics in the slums are even worse, whether we believe it or not, how financially capable you are as a woman plays a factor in your ability to leave the marriage. Many want to leave but no money to fend for themselves plus kids.
The funny thing is there are women out there that feel their men hitting them is normal. Some grew up in such an environment, so its very normal to them. Na us educated folks dey call am 'DV".
Fake gist ... how much does the record company make to give her house in banana estate... think please
DeleteThat gist of the record company deal is fake news . Her husband was her sole provider looking after her and her extended family
Nobody said she a gold digger but you. She was married to a Dutch man living well who also is an abuser and a killer now
DeleteBed and Roses.. Yes, I have read about women that stayed even when the man can’t provide even basic needs.. Its crazy that all I’m seeing is how she stayed cos of the lifestyle.. I remember when it was out that she was signed to an Asian lebel or something.. Except the news is false, she had something going for herself too. Its tragic. This goes to show that domestic violence doesnt have a pattern. Some are beat to death the first and only time, no signs.. nothing. Its a menance honestly.
DeleteAnonymous 18:48: Omonipresence of all comments and talks about the deceased. Weldone🙌The collator of all the gists concerning this matter, nno. Since you have used your powers to know that no one has ever hinted that in the whole of Nigeria and beyond. Tell me, What time will it rain in your village tomorrow?😁
if only my mum had left with I & my siblings.. but no, she left with the youngest & left us to the mercy of being raised by evil women. When my elder sis couldn't take the heat, she ran outta the kitchen leaving me to my fate. Thank God for God. I'll do all I can to protect my children.. Any form of violence in a marriage should never be tolerated. Every woman who treats another woman's child like trash would inherit God's vengeance! Amen
ReplyDeleteSo sorry
DeleteMy mother would always advise, give birth to kids that you know that you can take care of as a woman. Marriage is not by force even though is good. my dear, no man worths dying for. He will remarry when you die. Life will go on. Even your friends will offer themselves please, take the bold step to leave if the marriage is abusive. Life may be hard but it's only going to be for a period. You will be fine. Let's learn to say no to abusive marriage, biko.
ReplyDeleteAm a babe mama just one kid, am over joyed with my choice.
DeleteMe I can't even have more than two kids and my husband has been insisting on 3. We are newly wed and yes we discussed it before. I always said 2 and he said 3.
DeleteMe that is not even a spring chicken. I am 35 and plan to finish with child bearing before 40. How will I have 3kids in 5years.
I also don't want financial strain on us. We both earn well but I want my kids to have the best life we can afford. Plus as you said anything can happen. Two kids are easier to handle. I just told him let's even start with one before we start arguing.
But wait o.Just a recap of what the dad said earlier on.that she was once beaten blue black and she left her matrimonial home and the coward of a man in sheep clothing came back begging and she was bundled back to her husband's house.Mehn .if only she or her dad knew this will happen.some times we wish we could turn back the hands of time. This has got to stop in Africa.we all have to stand up for this.please don't take this for granted.dont take your life for granted.if you notice any act or form of violence in your spouse,please take a looooong looong walk.it hurts but you will eventually bounce back.is only going to be a matter of time.and you will sit back and say thank God you made the right move.life is too precious.
ReplyDeleteThis the root of society problem .. greed for money. All her family saw was money hence they sent her back. Shame
DeleteYou know this man is beating your older daughter and you still allow your little daughters to stay in that enviroment. Nawa
DeleteI have uncles that beat their wives mercilessly. One even flogs the wife with cane. I told the wives to leave but they said 'leave to where?'. That they will endure. I don talk tire hope.Make dem dey endure. Some women use the excuse of kids to stay in a violent marriage.
ReplyDeleteYour uncle flogs his wife with a cane?? Kai!! Women don suffer. Well, you did your part by advising them to leave but as endurance is their middle name, they have decided to tough it out by enduring.
DeleteYou can imagine some men actually believe that by beating their wives they are disciplining them. That afterall your parents beat you as kids to correct you. They are correcting their wives. That some women needs slaps once in a while to reset their brain because they run mouth too much.
DeleteAn educated Engineer with masters degree in an oil company made this statement. Not an illiterate o.
To some women they feel DV is normal husband and wife fight. Some will even ask about your marital status and ask you to get married first before advising so I mind my business. My neighbour that beats his wife and they don't even have kids yet and she can't leave.
DeleteShe was still talking of looking for money for IVF.
I just close my mouth. You want to stay and even have kids with a man that beats you and uses his own hand to drive you to hospital.
This is why this country is so terribly dysfunctional. The kids grow up watching their mother beaten like a cow. Grows up thinking this must be the proper behavior to accept or replicate. Enters marriage behaving like a mad person.
DeleteGod I thank you for my upbringing. I thank you so much. The day any bastard attempts to lays a finger on me, (I've said since I was a teen) I will pierce his scrotum with a hot pipe before leaving.
Women, ALWAYS have your cheddar. Always have your MONEY. The reason the Nigerian man treat you like trash and talk to you anyhow in public and private is because you are DEPENDENT on him. It bolsters his inferiority complex.
When did you become something that can be slapped up and down because you married somebody?? What manner of madness is that?
Whilst you are trying to convince them to leave also tell those your barbaric uncles to stop beating their wives, thank you very much.
ReplyDeleteUse your brain na. So once you tell them to stop they will stop abi? Loll. You don't know Nigerian men or this horrendous Nigerian system.
Delete#Silence is something that comes from your heart, not from outside. Silence doesn’t mean not talking and not doing things, it means that you are not disturbed inside.
ReplyDeleteIf you’re truly silent, then no matter what situation you find yourself in, you can enjoy the silence*
There is a department in Lagos State that handles Domestic violence matters...if anyone is residing in Lagos and is experiencing DV or know someone who is going through such experience please come to Lagos State Ministry of Justice Alausa Secretariat Ikeja to lay your complaint and let the state take it up... (it is free and helpful)
ReplyDeleteAlso anyone who's husband abandoned their kids and is not doing his responsibilities for the kids or someone took away your kids and you reside in Lagos there is a department in lagos state that handles such matters and it's free. (It is One Stop Child Justice Centre at Ikeja local government Secretariat, Ikeja or go to Ministry of Justice Directorate for Citizens Rights Block 2 Alausa Secretariat Ikeja.) The department handles any children matters...
Please spread the news, the Government is tired of DV and Child abuse in this State.