I read somewhere someone said ''My mother in law only calls me when she cant reach her son and i have decided to stop taking her calls''...LOL
Why is that for some going from one family to another becomes a nightmare....
Is that we expect too much from the new in laws or that they are just horrible people?
Some people are having problems with Mother in law,Father in Law,sister in law,brother in law or other relatives of the spouse.....
Are you having problems with your in laws or are you the one giving them problems?
What's the story?
I be Lagbaja today o. . Nothing to say! I never reach that level
ReplyDeleteAm th go between hubby and his dad. His dad will call me and say my daughter this and that. Of course he has passed his massage,then i will pass on to hubby and beg him to pls send it to his dad. Reason is they don't get along after the death of his mum. Hubby blamed his dad.
DeleteWill be reading as I don't have in-laws yet. Please you guys should make it spicy!
ReplyDeleteWhen do you wash your customers' clothes? You are always here!
DeleteAm d one giving them problems i learnt early from my moms experience that d best form of defense is attack!...i give it to dem like its hot. No time.. the day i pick my MIL or SIL s call she would go for thanks giving. Do i even answer hr greetings when shes around...mtcheww... she dare not touch any of my kids without permission or cross d parlour when they come to visit. After my BIL'S wife told me all they did to her after her wedding even threw her things out, accused her of trying to poison her n labelled her prostitute without womb because she TTCd for a while before God blessed her after 4yrs... the day my child fell from her hand wether by mistake or mischief i made sure i made a scene of it, even accused of trying to make me childless...see yeye crocodile tears...mtcheeeeeew. lemme see d space she will see to try nonsense with me. To think i was an angel washing n cooking for her up until we finalised our marriage. D last time she came n was coughing somehow like somebori dat has tuberculosis i told her to go back to village abeg before she infect my children. Called D gateman to come n carry her bags outside, couldnt touch it. Would have asked d driver to drop her at d park but then i do school run with that car before she coughs nyama nyama inside it. Yes av made myself her karma
ReplyDeleteDon't be her karma leave vengeance to God it wasn't you they did that to why treat them in such manner? You also have children and will one day be a MIL,remember you will harvest every seed sown.
DeleteAre you sure you are not my aunty? My aunty is also hot like that when it comes to in law issue. Her action and mouth refuse to be censored when she's giving it hot.
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DeleteHaba, your attitude to your mother in-law is very bad. From your write-up she hasn't done anything bad to you. If you are doing it because of her behaviour towards your co-wife, please stop. I am not in support of her treatment towards your sister in-law but know that you will be someone's mother in-law in future.
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DeleteIs your mother in law not supposed to be your mother too?. Don't be disrespectful. These same people attacking their MILs will be the same people to declare war on their SILs for being rude to their mum.
DeleteIs this a movie script proposal?
DeleteGood girl keep it up. You will also be a mil someday
DeleteOmg This must be from a movie script
DeleteAnon you forgot the measure you give is what you will receive. If you are my sister in-law with what you have done, yours would have finished. My sister in-laws can't try that where I am
DeleteHaba.....pls stop
DeleteI don't pick my MIL's calls. Let me not even start detailing how she almost starved me to death while i was pregnant with HER grandson. And how she told me my son was ugly. Now she wants the same son to come play with her? No way!
DeleteOr her endless embarrassments. Well, that was a long time ago. Right now, she's scared of me. I did her shege!
Continue... you are treating the mother of your husband this way. You think your husband is a dunce abi? He’s only giving you time to give yourself brain and correct yourself. I am sure you cannot even treat your own mother this way. The day he will decide to dump you and your kids, he will have enough evidence against you and nonsense of your in laws will fight for you. You think in laws are there to be mistreated right? Your karma is looking at you laughing and dancing one corner. Olugbeja. Fighter of the weak. Voltron and defender of the universe. When wahala zo, make sure you reference this your stupid boast. Lol.
DeleteMy inlaws have done terrible things to me simply because their son married me against their wishes, of which I never even knew until later in the marriage. My husband knew I would walk away from the relationship if I had an inkling of that so he made sure I was blissfully unaware and warned them to be nice. We married and I refused to conform to what they wanted, na there problem start. They are the most horrible people but I don't antagonize them. I'm that silent type but I will show you shege silently.
DeleteToday's in-house gist is gonna be interesting.
ReplyDeleteI don't have problem with my in-laws because I don't expect much from them and neither do they. we live in different countries. I call my mother in-law and sister in-laws thrice a month and they are ok with it.
My future MIL always promise to save my number and call each time I call her. I stopped calling and the only time I talk to her is when gives her his phone to talk to me. She doesn't even know that I am a lone ranger. At least, she called with her son's phone to wish me happy birthday.
ReplyDeleteI have never called future FIL but I do send messages on special occasions like birthday, Xmas and Easter. But the man gave me money the first and only time I saw him. Myself and future elder BIL are 5&6. We chat, call and he also gives me money anytime I see him. The two younger BIL and I aren't that close. I have seen them once. I do send my birthday wishes and they do the same. We also like each other posts on facebook. The youngest girl that lives with him, lemme call her SIL is also my friend. I call her by her name o, no Aunty kinikan. I gave her a feminine gift ( a church bag) the first and only time I saw her. She's always asking of me and we talk on phone. I pray and I wish things remain the same after I wed their son. They are peaceful set of people.
My in laws are what you describe as unforgiving spirits!!!
ReplyDeleteThey wanted their son to marry a girl of their choice from their Village & even went ahead to chase away his girlfriend of 7years simply because she's from the neighbouring village. Little did they know that was their greatest mistake. He later met me & we fell in love, i am completely from another tribe. They stood their ground & said we wouldn't marry. They came up with all sorts. I was an OSU, I was uneducated, i had cooked catfish peppersoup for their son etc. We waited 5 good years with loads of begging & crying for them to come around. Meanwhile we have 2 kids & only did court marriage so the children wont be born out of wedlock which they never attended by the way. They insisted their son leaves me,and i give them my children to take care of so i cam be free while he marries their choice. My husband stood his ground & said they accept me his wife or nothing!!! They don't even talk to him & i feel his pain.we have tried all we can to make them see reasons that 5 years is a long time to be absent in their son's life & that of their grand children but the mother, who is like the head of the home said even if we bring the pope, she will never bless us. We had our wedding & all the villa people & extended family attended except them( parents & siblings) They said even if i give birth to a dozen children I will never be their wife. because of this, i am blessed with so many mother in laws who truly love me.
Aww pele dear. If it's any consolation I love you
DeleteSo they would rather not have relationship with your children because you are with their son? That's too bad. Your husband is a good man for standing by you against his family. I hope they come around soon.
DeleteThey are wicked abeg
DeleteOh my God! Your story sounds like mine but I thank God for everything..it took my FIL 6years,11months,3weeks and 3days to bless me as his DIL..hmmm! my dear,just keep trusting God,serve him with all your heart and you will see how you will become their messiah one day..If My FIL could send for me who is without a child!honey,relax God will soon deal with your in laws.. God bless your home..
DeleteWicked people
DeleteSister in law, well the younger one, acts very stand offish towards me. The elder wife keeps away from her like a plague. I've decided to follow suit. My mum in law never show her true colour, but me and her are cool.
ReplyDeleteI have wonderful in-laws in fact I feel more affinity for my in-laws than my own sibling. Was accepted with open hands and returned same. My only prayer is that God give me more kids so that my daughter will have siblings too and won't be alone. Note no one is disturbing me for more and while we are trusting God for this we are making my daughter relate well with her cousins and see them as her siblings in the real sense of the word. God please hear and answer in Jesus name Amen.
ReplyDeleteMy in-laws are the best. Despite almost all my 'siblings in-law' are older than me except one, everyone minds his/her business. No poke nosing. No giraffing.
ReplyDeleteU are so lucky. Enjoy
DeleteSince I gave birth almost 2 months ago..non of my in-laws have come to visit baby Except my mother inlaw.. Not even a phone call from them...
ReplyDeleteWell who cares.*rolls eyes*
So much hatred,malice envy and drama amoung them..
If they can love themselves,I don't expect them to love me.
They should should even be grateful I married their " stubborn,illiterate and ignorant and ungrateful brother" who has been given me headaches since I got married to him..schmmmmmmmm
Schmmmmmmm
Dont mind them. Idiots
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ReplyDeleteMy in-laws were nice before we got married not knowing they were pretending so thier son can marry and have children because age wasn't on his side and also they think they will have easy access to him when he is married . I didn't know all the responsibility was on me, was thinking my mum in law should be treated like my mom. I personally invited her for omugwo which my husband opposed, I didn't listen and that was the beginning of my problems. When she came, the only job is to bath baby and carry him, I will wash her cloth, she will be the one to tell me what to cook and if otherwise she won't eat, I gave her pocket money weekly in case she needs to buy anything because her son was away for work and she stayed with me for 7month, I clothed, fed and treated her like my mom. The things I haven't done for my mother, I did for her because I feel what if it was my mum that was with me. If I buy anything new for myself she ask for hers which I buy happily buy. It got to a stage she started inviting her grand children to come over one after the other that our house is big enough, she started using things I told her about my husband that she needs to talk to him about as a mother against me. She also lied that I accused her of lying. Despite everything I still like her because I feel na age. She brought closeness between my husband and his other siblings ( he wasn't close to anyone in his family before reason been that they were diabolical which I didn't know) when she left, trouble started in my marriage. They know As soon as my husband gets a contract, they know everything about our marriage, I mean practically everything going on, the finances and all. My husband was distant, no communication against, no savings again, he sold everything we had. No cars, no house, to eat is problem. All the funds was being diverted to his family, I fend for our child. Unknowingly to me, they will send him soap, water and all for him to bath with special sponge and things to be chanting when bathing, I later found this out later. He was earning close to a million but he was wearing tear tear cloth and sleeping on tear tear bed, no chair, nothing nothing and he was going to work. All I get to hear was no money . I couldn't figure out where all the funds was going. In all this the love was gone ooo, we were living like housemates or neighbours. I cried most times, I irritate him wjencer he sites me although there wasn't issue of domestic violence but emotional torture was something else. My husband won't even play with our child, everything was down but the family was all enjoying, until I found out he built hospital for his elder brother, a house for the wife, shop for younger one and monthly allowances to them. I cried and called my mum because she didn't know what was going on, I suffered ehn. My husband was working very hard day and night and couldn't do anything for himself, he wasn't even allowed to see himself. My mum told me to start praying, I know I didn't have the strength to face them at all, They are white garment people supported by their mom. I feel God will not answer me until I met a woman of God who I opened up to, she spoke with my mom and we started praying, oh I prayed, when I am walking, cooking, sweeping, eating, washing, I was praying. I was always praying in everything I was doing . hand dey pain me,to be continued
ReplyDeleteInteresting, waiting for the final part of your story.
DeleteWaiting....
DeleteContinuation:so I was always praying like I never did, then things started changing and my husband was noticing my existence in his life. He started talking to me and discussing with me, I was very happy and thank God for the changes, he gives us money unlike before then I gradually relented in my prayer unknowingly and I was so comfortable that I don't pray anymore. Then they started again, thus time around they will turn him against us for 3eeeks in a month and they will turn him back to us the remaining of the weeks( barely a week ). He won't even come home at a time he started sleeping in one hotel at the other side of our area and he would tell us he cant sleep in the house, this time around I didn't bother myself anymore, was just planning my exit small because it has gotten to a stage I realised since I gave birth its been one battle to another ,no enjoyment at all. Why will I be fighting battle with since I got married, it was as if there is nothing good that can come from the marriage. His family shows up anytime they like to give him soaps and all for him to use. And they keep asking me why I haven't birthed another child Cos our child was 4yrs then. I told them blatantly to ask there son and also let them know that wmi don't know whomever is making things difficult for us n this marriage ooo but if God is on the throne, he will make them suffer and reap what sowed alone without involving there children because I haven't had peace of mind. I made them understand there son will soon bring in a new wife for them at least that's what they want all along. They were surprised I could tell them such, few months later the mother came again and accused me of giving her undone food whuc wasn't true, thank God the son came later to taste the food and I told her that "mama you know you have plenty female children, I wish them all you wish me in their marriage and whatever thing you did to me will be done to them in ten folds. She was starring at me and the next day my husband told her to leave and never come back to our house anymore, she was amazed, I was equally amazed too. When she got home she informed the others and fortunately we had a ceremony that requires all of us in their family house, when they saw me and saw how lean I was compare to when they married me, they started asking what the problem was and u blatantly told them that its because of them I have never known peace in my marriage and the mistake I made is marrying a man with a lot of siblings and there family isn't a knid of family a responsible girl should be married too, that they should have allowed there son marry a white garment like them at least that was what they wanted.
DeleteAfter then I ran back to God, rededicated my life and ask for forgiveness, I prayed like never before but it wasn't answered until ,God made me realise I had a lot of grudges in me and a lot of people I haven't forgiven. I knew who they were but it was difficult forgiving them but I had to do it. And God answered my prayer. All in all My husband and I are in good terms now and its getting better daily, the influences have reduced because I didn't relent in my prayer again. Although there are times we will be happy and the next minute is quarrel but with God on our side we will see it through. My in-laws practically told me they see my hand ooo and that I am the one interrupting them and getting all the attention from my husband. I told them I am the rightful owner of his attention and affection and not them.
DeleteAfter then I ran back to God, rededicated my life And God answered my prayer( it took me months into a year ooo not just a day prayer ooo). All in all My husband and I are in good terms now and its getting better daily, the influences have reduced because I didn't relent in my prayer again. Although there are times we will be happy and the next minute is quarrel but with God on our side we will see it through. My in-laws practically told me they see my hand ooo and that I am the one interrupting them and getting all the attention from my husband. I told them I am the rightful owner of his attention and affection and not them. He has done more than enough for them they should go and continuing enjoying the hospital, houses and money he has done for them that we as a family don't even have a car, land, or any property but they were able to get all that from him. Now he has stopped telling them anything or collecting anything from them, he picks their calls ooo but not like before and also I don't forget to plead the blood of Jesus on my life ,husband ,child and marriage. I don't wish to have my second child in this country for them to even say they want to come and greet us. Well I haven't gotten pregnant since then and I hope God will do it very soon but I am not in a hurry. My child is over due for a sibling but... Thanks for reading, a lot happened but I can't type again
Final part:
DeleteAfter then I ran back to God, rededicated my life And God answered my prayer( it took me months into a year ooo not just a day prayer ooo). All in all My husband and I are in good terms now and its getting better daily, the influences have reduced because I didn't relent in my prayer again. Although there are times we will be happy and the next minute is quarrel but with God on our side we will see it through. My in-laws practically told me they see my hand ooo and that I am the one interrupting them and getting all the attention from my husband. I told them I am the rightful owner of his attention and affection and not them. He has done more than enough for them they should go and continuing enjoying the hospital, houses and money he has done for them that we as a family don't even have a car, land, or any property but they were able to get all that from him. Now he has stopped telling them anything or collecting anything from them, he picks their calls ooo but not like before and also I don't forget to plead the blood of Jesus on my life ,husband ,child and marriage. I don't wish to have my second child in this country for them to even say they want to come and greet us. Well I haven't gotten pregnant since then and I hope God will do it very soon but I am not in a hurry. My child is over due for a sibling but... Thanks for reading, a lot happened but I can't type again
Thank God for you but don't stop praying and also if you can do some work in the Lord's vineyard will help too. Like sweeping, joining their fire team prayers and also sowing to break every wicked covenant and bruise the head of the serpent.
DeleteIt is very well
Your story is captivating. You have a good heart. You deserve a home filled with love, peace, progress and happiness and may it be permanent in Jesus Name.🙏
DeleteTankGod for u but pls don't ever relent again
DeleteI would have sworn my big sis sent this in, but she doesn't have a browsing phone and has more than one child. Her own even included incessant domestic violence from the husband. Very very very diabolic MIL that she got. Thank God she has left the house for them with her children. Let her get married to her son, who I even heard is behaving like a mad man now.
DeleteI pray my future MIL become inseparable because I can't dwell where there's hate. I'll surely treat her like my mum provided she treats me like a mother would.
ReplyDeleteWell my most of my in-laws are cool everybody minds their business except one of my SIL who feels she can just talk to anybody anyhow, anyway I don clear her sha I can't turn to mumu cos I'got married.and my MiL with the calm character but her eye service is top-notch , she complains about everything, money they give her for the month is never enough, whatever they do is never sufficient.i reduced my visit to their place drastically despite the short distance cos she wanted to wound me with complaints every freaking time I go. The way to go with in-laws is to keep your distance sha cos familiarity breeds contempt.
ReplyDeleteWomen and money
DeleteMy ex fiance brothers showed me there true colours when he was sick nd when he died....
ReplyDeleteHe was admitted nd he gave me all his atm cards since I knew all his password before then.So whenever we needed to get somethings,I had to go do the withdrawal.I told him I didn't like there attitude towards me but he insisted that he doesn't trust them with his cards...Immediately bobo died there nd then in the hospital there most eldest asked for the cards nd pins...I was shocked cos I was still processing him dying in my hands..My friend wanted to create a scene but I simply walked away.Where I was going I don't know....My friend took me home, only for there last born to call me nd said they needed the cards nd pin so they could prepare for his burial.
I couldn't say anything.No respect for the dead whatsoever.My friend adviced me to empty the accounts since no one knew how much he had.But I refused cos my fiance was so good to me when he was alive,even to my family..Popsi told me to give them the cards nd pins jejely..The money in those accounts were over 18m aside from his fixed deposits...I called for a general meeting nd went with my dad to drop the cards nd even informed them about his building projects.The look on there faces wasnt even sobre.Am still asking God why he took him from me cos OSE doesn't deserve death nd his wicked brothers..
Continue to Rest in Peace Ose..
Cancer is a bitch nd only God can save..
You should have used the money to set up a place for Cancer patients and not hand it over. Or given it to Charity or at Best start up a charity. Leave like 100k for them there.
DeletePeople are wicked
So sad may God console you dear
DeleteMay God Almighty comfort you Amen. I feel your pains
DeleteOMG! This is sad. What kind of cancer did he die from? Nawa to his brothers!!
DeleteSorry dear
DeleteRip to him
Cancer is a bitch indeed
DeleteSorry for your loss. May God grant him eternal peace.
DeleteThose vultures didn't deserve that money.
DeleteSorry my dear. You are a sweet soul with good parents. May God wipe your tears with someone that will love you sily.
DeleteI had the BEST mother-in-law anyone could ever have. I miss her soooo much . Any time I remember that she is late I feel like crying. Rest in Peace, Mum. I love you.
ReplyDeleteHmmm . I have turned prayer warrior because of inlaws from hell. Yes i totally regret getting hooked to this family because i married their son. They all front christainity but sleep in native doctors house. Hubby is the last and was taking care of all his 6 siblings paying rent and school fees for their kids and they were happy.When he said he was getting married they acted cool but i knew they felt intimidated by me. I come from a wealthy home and im a professional in my career,instead of them to relax and enjoy what i can offer they started acting like i will block their means of livelihood. I tell hubby personally to send his mom money and assist his siblings. Didnt know MIL was manipulating her son spiritually so he wont forget her even b4 he met me. This is a man u didnt send to school o. She was cool with me at first until she saw how spiritual i was. Every time i visit she will ask "what did my son tell u to give me? Her fellow witches will come around and say take care of ur MIL she suffered for ur husband. It really made me wonder. Meanwhile what i ve bought for this lady i ve ne never bought so for my mom. She will ask why i bought her small milk when there is a bigger size. If i start saying all they done this blog will shut down. SIL was even trying to take my husbands jeep he packed in the village. His mom refused to release car key to me. Funny thing is that these people are stack illiterates not even classy people.I ve TTC for 2yrs and i got angry in my spirit and started firing prayer and found out its from His family bc they dont want him to have his children and focus on their needs. They hv tried me spiritually but God gat me back. Immediately i joined him in obodo oyibo his siblings started pushing him to take their kids too.
ReplyDeleteRight now i dont talk to my inlaws except happy new month. I know what they know. The die is cast. Anyone that wont let me enjoy my marriage will go for my sake. God knows i came to their family to help their son raise a home. Im praying to have my kids. I curse them daily. It will never be well with them. Poverty will forever be their portion. Their daughters will never get married. There will be no cry of a baby in that home till i have my own
OMG I feel your pain. Marriage that should be enjoyed is now a prayer point.
DeleteI join you in prayers and say Amen.
You will birth your children Amen
Thank you Yori Yori.
DeletePeople are so wicked. Hubby is breaking his back working 2 jobs of 14hrs 6 days a week and one idle sibling and mother is waiting on him to take care of all their needs without caring if he has needs.Any car we send to naija for sale one of them will seize it and pretend he wants to sell it. Let me not even talk about our Lands. Its well.God will prove Himself
My mother-in-law is the best. make no mistake. She is isn't sme-sme at all or all lovey dovey. She's fierce and says it like it is. She does not suffer fools but she is fair and can give anything for her children or their spouses. She treats everyone the same whether child or in-law. If she has an issue with you, she lets you know immediately and you trash it out. She doesn't act out and make you start wondering how you offended her. I love her just as my own mum (but fear her more LOL). She is also very prayerful and always wants the best for everyone. A curse can never come out of her mouth (although mummy has a bad mouth o as in she is a good "yabber"). She prays for everyone- in the market, even area boys that thought they could harass one day at Mile 12. Them no know who they jammed. She harassed them back but ended up praying for them. She is one of the best people I know. She's been of help to me so much more than I've been to her.
ReplyDeleteI realized early on that if me and my mum whom I love to death can have disagreements, how much more someone that just became my mum through marriage. I decided not to take thinks personal and I chose to LOVE my in-laws and they've loved me back. It's not like its all rosy but there is mutual respect and we can move past issues. In a true relationship, there's bound to be conflict. The important thing is ensuring there is resolution.
Well said👍👍👍.
DeleteMy mother in love is straight forward no pretence if she is upset she would tel me like a daughter . She is a pastor we dont always gree but she isnt all in my biz when i got pregnant with my second told her before my mum sef. My sils all busy with their own lives we all get along
ReplyDeleteMy Inlaws are the best!! I thank God everyday for them.
ReplyDeleteLols....my mother in law is also like that,she will not call u but expect u call her every week.. That was then,now I call her once or twice a month.
ReplyDeleteMy SIL live close to me..God...when I came newly,she will come to my house every morning,expect me to do her laundry for her and her kids,buy things for her and her kids,she will even be telling u what u should buy..hmmmm,very lazy.does nothing, her husband don't live with her so she will come to my house and stay from morning till night,like10pm ooo,she will be begging my husband for everything as if he is her husband, she want me carry one of her daughters and even say that is when God will answer me if am taking care of her,want to know what am cooking, brought,going to the market... This is someone that has never for once even ask me what up about being pregnant,just her this and her and her that,she was like a first wife,don't want me have any friends,, feels she can talk to u anyhow because she is older than my husband, I can go on and on and on..but when I Changed for her,she too knows now not to even say any rubbish to me,I will answer her sharp sharp..
My dear, there lies your problem. She wants you to take care of her kids not yours.
DeleteIt is well with you. My dear
God will surprise her soon
DeleteAmen
My husband has siblings mother and father alive but I don't have in-laws. When I just got married to their son/brother they were trying to be wicked and I gave them the other side of me. I just blank them totally like they don't exist and since then I have been living peacefully. Before I have issues with the mother and siblings they were controlling my marriage, no love from hubby. If we needed to do something hubby must take permission from them and it was affecting my marriage. Now hubby doesn't need their permission for us to run our home.
ReplyDeleteI had this defence in me since I was little. I saw the way my aunts and uncles treated my mother. My mother had no say in her home. We were very many in my home while I was growing up.my mom was always going to the shop and coming back very late because she didn't want their wahala.sometimes my aunt would cook and give to my dad to eat and when my mom offers him food, he would say he was satisfied , then she would call on me and my siblings to come eat , I will would personally tell her I was satisfied and I didn't like her food that it wasn't as delicious as my aunts food, no plenty meat or fish. I was young , I was 8.
Now that I remember I cry, I feel bad .I am not really to close to her she hardly misses any of us when were are back in school.but now she lives alone with my dad and the youngest siblings. Its like the beggining of her marriage, the privacy she didn't have ,she now has. I hardly miss her too but she was there while I was growing up all because she was trying to make herself scarce for her in-laws. Didn't know she was making herself scarce for her children too. One day after I was finally married I told her about how my mother in law was giving me headache.and she said calm down.I stood up to her I told her i didn't want to be like her, absentee mama.she is too cold like water while I am fire , ready to burn whoever gets on my nerves. She made me this way. I attack first instead of defend when I see an imminent attack
My in-laws are okay. I can't really tell their spirituality but I know my mother inlaw pray. Me wet I dey pray. My family is kind of sophisticated compared to theirs but I have decides to humble myself.
ReplyDeleteI don't call them always. I most send messages, happy New month, Easter, New year, christmas, birthdays. I know not all my husbands siblings love me but I am content and I help them wash dishes when I visit sis. Just for them to know I try. In all ypur in-laws can never be one your family. You can do as you like with family but in-laws don't try it. Unless if you are 50years in marriage lol...
My in-laws are okay. I can't really tell their spirituality but I know my mother inlaw prays. Me sef I dey pray. My family is kind of sophisticated compared to theirs but I have decided to humble myself.
ReplyDeleteI don't call them always. I most send messages, happy New month, Easter, New year, christmas, birthdays. I know not all my husband's siblings love me but I am content and I help them wash dishes when I visit. Just for them to know I try. In all your in-laws can never be one your family. You can do as you like with family but in-laws don't try it. Unless if you are 50years in marriage lol...
My MIL was a good mum to a fault...She can gist for africa...whenever she calls my hubby na so so gist ooo...after gisting with him, she will say is ur wife there, give her the phone...na so the gist will start all over again ooo...I miss her no b lie...She like cooking no b small, just b gisting with her while she do the cooking...May her soul continue to rest in peace...As for my SIL n BIL...they are the best😙😙😙
ReplyDeleteIf i write my own, it would be a standalone, or rather lie-down narrative. Married to an only son/child. Hellfire no reach na!
ReplyDeleteTell us your story, pls. You can summarise. I am also married to an only child and TTCing
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ReplyDeleteMy in laws have inferiority complex. All of them. They grew up poor so r totally intimidated. It affects every aspect of their dealings with me. They all went to school and are doing well but it still creeps in. I used to try and be patient but now I no look their side again. Nothing I do is right. I got a driver they said I’m lazy, even cooker they said I was lazy. Why not stove. Well na dem know. Thank God my spouse no get their mindset
ReplyDeleteI don't have parents in law. They are late even before I married my hubby. So no too much wahala.
ReplyDeleteI have sis in laws, they are quite peaceful but gossip and pretend alot. I can deal cos I mind my business so well.
But there is this particular one that wants to die on my case and she will surely die. She's stereotypical about my tribe and will always want to be defensive. We pretend to get along.
She even had the guts to call my mother and disrespect her cos of a problem I had with the other sister living with me. I have learnt to live like she doesn't exist and it is helping a great deal.
She has her kids but she feels so entitled. I thank God always for my business that keeps me busy.
My MIL controls her daughter as if tomorrow no dey, any small quarrel she will run to her family house and I and my family will come and beg, because of house help issues she left to her family house again,i just jejely change my house lock, snubbed her and refused to go to her family house, she had to beg to come back, I refused to visit my in-laws because I know they are the ones that encouraged her to come home, I didn't even go Christmas or new year or even send any food stuff like I always do. my MIL drove into the compound with her daughter while I was driving out, I just snubbed, only for me to get a call from her elder brother threatening to come and beat me up, I just laughed and told him if he has the guts he should come to where I was. Ever since then everybody is minding their business. My MIL calls every morning afternoon and night to use style to find our what's happening in my marriage to the point her children codedly tagged her bush radio. My wife is the only daughter and she cannot stay one day without talking to her, any secret I tell her, she will tell her mother so I refused to confide in her. My in-laws know their level and the space I have given them.
ReplyDeleteYour wife is not trying at all. What nonsense is that? The day my family starts to disrespect my husband and i warn them and they refuse to listen then they better know they are forgotten, "gunners ni won".
DeleteYour wife should desist going to rubbish you, she definitely tells her family all that happens in your home. Maybe you need to bring your mum home to stay for a while so all these nonsense will stop and her head will correct small.