A married woman cutting her hair is a taboo?
I heard it's a taboo in some cultures for a married woman whose husband is still alive to chop off her hair.
I was in the salon last weekend when this fine young woman walked in. She wanted to weave her hair.
A look at the hair showed it had seen plenty suffering in the hands of its owner. The hairline had receded and almost started from the middle of her head.
Also, the hair at the back of her head was short and scanty like pubic hair while the one in the middle of the head looked a little longer.
I advised her to chop everything off and be on low-cut, then get hair treatments like castor oil to restore back her hair.
This lady shouted "God forbid!"
I was still looking at her in amazement when she continued that in her husband's place, it was a taboo for a married woman whose husband is still alive to chop off her hair. It means the woman wants her husband dead and he will fall sick and eventually die if some rituals were not performed on time.
I was gobsmacked.
I asked where her husband came from and she mentioned a state in the middle belt of Nigeria.
Anyone ever heard of this? I never hear this one before oh. What a tradition!
Mama Tee
There was a time I wanted to cut my hair, I just hinted it and my husband warned me not to try it. I asked why, he said he loves me with the hair and he hates seeing women on low cuts that I should not try it. I was just thinking in my mind that what if I had cut it like I planned to do on my previous visit to the salon without his knowledge
ReplyDeleteyou for give am excuse to cheat
DeleteMy own husband too hates women cutting their hair.
DeleteThere was a time I wanted to cut my baby girls hair cos there was no hair at the back...
My husband said I should leave it and I should never cut his daughter's hair.
Shoo
Delete12:08, That your hubby is not okay. Did he buy you as a slave that he want to be controlling what you do with your hair? Stupid husbands everywhere. I dont blame him, you allowed him to be controlling you destiny all because of MRS
Lol @excuse to cheat.
DeleteMy dear, do they really need an excuse to cheat? He cheats already. I caught him twice. But it is well with us sha
13:21, why so pained?
DeleteA woman choosing to do what would make her hubby happy doesnt mean he is controlling her, Women stop taking this freedom thing to another level. Same way a guy might not keep beards because is wife doesnt like it. Marriage is compromise.
DeleteEleyi o serious gidi go
ReplyDeleteLet me wait for comments
At this rate she wouldn’t need to cut it as in few years time it will be full blown alopecia. Then I would wonder if her husband will be advised to take a new wife with head full of hair.
ReplyDeleteFollowing culture with common sense with a background of formal education is indeed the worse kind of ignorance
Yimu
DeleteNo be small thing o
ReplyDeleteYes...naso my Edo people talk that its forbidden
ReplyDeleteYes it's forbidden in my place too most especially the one that the scalp will be shinning. I'm Edo
DeleteHahahahhaha that is Gorimapa style or ori igo
DeleteEverybody with their own belief. My hubby even help me to cut my own sef. I carry low cut most times.
ReplyDeleteReally? Just hearing of it
ReplyDeleteI have heard of it before but didn't know it's real...
ReplyDeleteHmmmmm different customs and traditions dey sha.
ReplyDeleteGoing on low cut is not a taboo in my side. The one that is frowned at (not taboo anyway) is married woman with gorimakpa /kodo/isi nkwocha
ReplyDeletemy mom sef dey style hers Anita baker..n use dye to tint it.
ReplyDeleteNaija women and getting permission from their husbands to even pee! But them no dey remember to collect permission before them cheat or visit babalawo. I am referring to those who have not been expressly forbidden to cut their hair. If u want to cut your hair because of breakage, do so at d salon, treat it and braid. D man no go even know say u barb. But even if he does, tell him ur reason and offer to braid or wear wigs when u both go out. Okwu agwu.
ReplyDeleteLol, Nigerian women have turned their men to demi-gods
DeleteWere you too daft to read it's a cultural thing?? Will you be there to assist in paying whatever penalty results from his disobeying traditional norms, if it comes to that???
DeleteHave you bothered to think why such transition's in place...maybe to ensure there's no confusion /proper recognition of widows from others or something...
When'feminism' meets ignorance, idiocy is born.
Peace
Me wey to cut my hair dey seriously hungry me cos e too much but fear dey catch CP's before i started d hair back then in secondary schl,i worwor like wetin i o fit describe but since d advent of my hair,i fine small
ReplyDeleteGive yourself some respect, you seem not to have an atom of dignity for yourself. Maybe that’s why your husband and people around you treat you like shit. Just try, even if it’s hard, stop allowing people walk all over you. I follow your comments most times and this is one more to show that your self esteem is low.
DeleteThank you 15:40
DeleteShe reminds me of Cutiebee with her low self esteem. Imagine saying she was ugly when she cut her hair. You want to say between Secondary school and now, after all these years, you still look the same and if you go on low cut, you will still look ugly according to you. You need help.
Thank you 15:40
DeleteShe reminds me of Cutiebee with her low self esteem. Imagine saying she was ugly when she cut her hair. You want to say between Secondary school and now, after all these years, you still look the same and if you go on low cut, you will still look ugly according to you. You need help.
Na wa ooo, everything na taboo.
ReplyDeleteTo cut hair kwa, anyway, when I'm ready, amma cut the damn hair off and no husband is gonna tell me otherwise.
Hmmmm! I cut my hair last week and it was my husband and I that went to the shop together, i did not even tell my mum b4 they will start telling me is wrong.I am enjoying my low cut
ReplyDeleteWhere I stay as married woman you have to come with your husband before a barber will agree to cut ypur hair reason being that a man has beat up a barber before because he cut his wife's hair.
ReplyDeleteI have also heard of barbers being beaten up for cutting a married woman's hair. Lols
DeleteYes o, I ve been begging my husband to allow me cut my hair but for where...iys forbidden in their place... Luckily for Mr I ve full hair, am just lazy wen it comes to sitting down for long and making it.
ReplyDeletePls ignore such information...nothing like dat happens in middle belt...d woman dey fear her husband
ReplyDeleteHave you been to all the states in the middle belt and all the towns and villages? Say what you are sure of pls.
DeleteRocking my low cut.
ReplyDeleteJust yesterday my boss asked me to sit yle she makes my hair and I said" ma,I have no hairs".she was so shocked cos I had a wig on.
My husband is indifferent tho.