How do some people sleep at night?To so shamefully use someone without remorse?
A Nigerian woman, Chinenye Blezoo was left terribly heart broken after her fiance reportedly dumped her and secretly married another woman.
Blezoo took to Facebook to share the sad sad sad sad story!
Not long that I mate him, he had business issues with his colleague which leads to his arrest. He lost everything he had. After his detention in police station, I contributed for his release to my capability bcs it was my first month at work, I sent the money to his uncle the same way I was paid. Had it been I had more than that of my salary then, I will give because I doesn’t sleep knowing fully well that my love was in sell. He went back to his village after his bail and joined in village hustle but it didn’t favor him, he told me that he wants to go back to Lagos but no transport, that if he can gets to Lagos, he has a friend to squat with while he hustle for living. I gave him his transport and little cash to feed with for some days. I love him because he is a hustler. I vowed to be his bone when he is weak, even without a kobo, I believed for a better tomorrow for us.
When he gets to Lagos, he searched for work and during the period of his searching for work, I was sending him feeding money for every 2weeks from the little salary I got. It took him about 6months to get work of which he told me to stop sending money to him when he received his first salary. Sometimes that he visited home, he asked me to complete his transport for him that he will send it back to me when he gets to Lagos and at the end he will not.
Husband was coming for my hand in marriage but he refused letting me go, he begged me not to live him for another man. Even when I tested him that I was pregnant for the guy that was seeking for my hand in marriage, he asked that he will marry me with the pregnancy, which nobody will know he was not the one that got me pregnant unless I tell anyone. After everything, he visited my mum and begged her not to allow me marry another man, that he will come for me. My mum agreed bcs I made her believe that I loved my guy and can’t do anything to hurt him.
At first, he planned to pay dowry on January 2017, but according to him, they didn’t close work on December 2016 so he was not able to come home. On April 2017, he visited and we had our engagement, from there we kicked off our marriage preparations.
On September 2017, he sent 40k to me to start buying things for our marriage, with it I bought some drinks for wedding and some inlaws cloths. I supported him with 40k which I used to buy ashebi’s cloths and my cloths.
He called my uncle for dates and 5th January was fixed for traditional marriage, his plans were to monetize traditional marriage in a very low key and boomed wedding, so he also discuss some issues regarding to that with my uncle and they settled. He proceeded and called the vicar for wedding date to be fixed, thou the vicar frowned at fixing date with him on phone, requesting his presence before fixing the date. But he begged the vicar that I will come and represent him bcs he is so much engaged and at far Lagos while am at east and closer, I went and 6th January was fixed for our wedding. The vicar also told me the procedure I will go, the things I ll bring before bans of marriage and the rest of them.
I got cert in church, I went to Local Government and made notice entry which they told me to come back after 21days. I did as instructed and they issued me another cert to take back to church, I took it back to church with other church requirements, 3times marriage bans was announce in the church.
I asked my hubby for more money so I can starts buying food items, he kept forming too busy and kept telling me next week to next week meanwhile marriage bans had started going on in the church. I kept asking him for money to avoid things not get too cost in the market because of Christmas, most especially rice and groundnut oil. He told me not to worry that he ll take care of those ones and any other thing that I was not able to do when he gets home, whether they get more costly or not. I accepted with joy and zero my mind in them.
On late Nov., 2017, I started having these strange feelings within myself, I asked God to show me the meaning. I called my sister and told her the type of feelings am having, she advised me to be calling my God whenever the feelings come. I equally told her to asked my hubby some questions, if he is fully out for the marriage…thou I can’t place the feelings where it maybe coming from. I also asked his closest friend Chibuzor Diala to ask him the same question. After everything, they both told me to relax my mind and move on with my wedding preparations, that my hubby assured them that no cause for any alarm.
Wow…I got so many favour for my wedding and I was able to raised 90k from family friends and brother, my loved one ordered for my decoration free, and another lover of me dashed me a bag of rice, which I told my hubby about them all. My hubby lives in Lagos while am at east, our marriage was schedule to hold at east so I was at the centre of the marriage plans. I used the 90k I raised to support my hubby in paying for wedding cake, cooking, wedding accessories and part of video/pix coverage which I paid 80% of the monies involved.
My lovely mum (God will keep you for me), in order to support her daughter’s marriage, withdrawn all that she had, went to market and bought all the ingredients that will be involve in cooking soup for swallow and ofe akwu.
Bans of marriage was announced, he asked that I should designed IV and sent to him via waybill which I did, every notices both Local Govt, towns and villages involve, friends, colleagues in working places, fellow students, we shared our IV. He asked me to take wine and IV to parents of the day and chairman of the occasion which I did. He printed our wedding banner in Lagos.
MY BLACK 23RD DECEMBER 2017.
On 23rd Dec., 2017, about 5:10am, my hubby called me that he was in the motor going to park to enter bus to east. There was this joy I felt in my heart, that in some hours, I will be with my man. I quickly prayed with him on phone for journey mercies and also asked my mum and father in the Lord to prayed for him. He said that he will call me when he boards a bus. I waited for his call from 5am to 7am, I became worried that my hubby who left to park 5am supposed to have board ticket even the bus suppose to have moved by that 7am. I picked my phone and dialed his numbers, his MTN line was not reachable and his Airtel line was not available. The next thing I heard from network was switched off (deep breath). His lines became switched off from that moment; at first I thought it was a joke. Each minute I became more worried, in total confusion. At about 3:10pm his friend from Lagos called that he was calling my hubby but his lines were switched off. With tears, I told him that it has been the same thing with me since morning.
He quickly asked me to calm down that he will arrive by evening. I waited looking at darkness falling without my man beside me. I didn’t control my tears any longer; I wished and asked God that this should be dream which I will later wakeup from. I prayed and cried throughout the night till day; I kept calling his lines each minutes and second but to no avail. Who will rescue me from this…? I quickly called my mum that I’m sinking inside an ocean, she prayed till day…In the morning, I went out to Awka street, with tears I was looking for my hubby, crying bitterly and asking people if any1 saw Henry Uzoma…I became mad without help. His lines were switched off. I sat down on the street and called Chibuzor his friend, I asked him if someone accompanied him to park? The company bus he entered? And if also there was light at the night maybe he did not charged his phones. I also sent his friend Daniel to his compound with the same question. They told me there was light throughout the night till the time he left in the morning. That he did not mention any particular company he was going, that he only said that he will board bus half-way to Benin and from Benin to Onitsha. Nobody accompanied him to park.
On 25th Dec 2017, with help of someone I went to my village. The only thing I wished and prayed for was to die. At a point, I don’t kn what to think again, my brain was full with so many thoughts: Could it be accident? If it were accident someone could have called for identification. I keep on searching facebook for any latest accident. Could it be one chance? If it were to be one chance they could have taking everything he had and pushed him away, he has my number off head, and he could have called me by now. If it were the type of one chance that demands for ransom, they would have call to mention their amount. What could it be? My mind took me to rituals… yes!!! Rituals, they had carried my man and slaughter. Tears filled my eyes. What did I do wrong God why?? Why did You allow this to happen to me?? I was bitterly crying and killing myself…I wished to die… people trooping in to console me, my phone kept ringing every second, his friends in Lagos, brothers and relatives calling to kn if I heard any news from their brother. They all believed that I should be the first he will call if he is been release.
On 28th Dec 2017, I went to his house in the village and his people became more worried seeing me. I went to his mum and dad’s grave and cried bitterly. I begged the spirit of his mum to please bring his son back home (if only spirit sees and hears). His uncle assured me that all will be well.
But there was one particular thing I kept observing, on 26th Dec, 2017; I noticed that my guy’s facebook messenger was showing active 20minutes, could this be true? I asked myself. Even the messages I sent on 23rd was delivered and equally read. I quickly checked his whatsapp, the message I sent was delivered but never read. It made me to send another message which was delivered and read in less than 2days. I became convinced that he was alive but at the same time doubting. Someone from his compound told me that he packed his bags to a girls house instead of coming to east, I said no that he cannot do that. A friend of mine who helped in prayer also told me the same thing as his revelation after the prayers, but I still doubted.
5th January 2018, my traditional marriage day. My clothes and that of my bridal train were down. My wedding cake, decoration materials, trad marriage accessories, my wedding gown and every other thing involved. I picked my phone and laid courses on him via whatsapp, that if he purposely did this to me, it will never be well with him… Lo and behold, Henry Uzoma seeing the courses I laid on him broke his silence and sent a voice message to me via whatsapp. Jesus it was his voice!!! What was he saying…Trash!!! No point, he was beating about the bush… I left my house to a far place the whole day.
Naza nwanne m you are a true sister. Amaka my friend u really helped. Chikwendu thanks a million. Eby Umejike thanks a lot. Okey you are a darling. My dear sis Onyi you are the engine of laughter, you alwaz make sure I laugh even being difficult. Dear brother Kingsley, I love you a million times. My able manager Joe and wife I can’t thank you enough. My present oga and wife thanks for your encouragement. Chisom and Dindu I appreciate your love. My 2 big mummies Lady Eby and Mrs Ify I appreciate every bit of your time spent with me, trying so much to see I overcome. Sir Mmaduabuchi, I thank you so much, you really wished to change my heart of bitterness to happiness with your 2hands, thanks for everything. My big Daddy Ven. thanks for being there for me, your calls, words of encouragement and prayers always keep my life ahead. I thanked you all that consoled me. I love you all so much.
I equally thanked those that gossiped, those that are still gossiping and those that will kick off their gossips from now, you shall carry on. Am not praying that this should happen to anybody, but in your gossips, remember that you may be a victim of this type of circumstance.
On 8th Jan. 2018, I saw a post from his wall saying and I quote; “Some people want me dead on 23rd December 2017, but thank God for saving my life, I will tell the story when I am fit” My man who posted on facebook about the people that want him dead did not call me, when I called, he didn’t pick even when he picked, he didn’t talk.
On 10th Jan 2018, I browse my facebook and saw a friend request with the name “Hmighty Uzoma”. I checked the profile but it was a brand new account. But because the account was bearing my guy’s name, I quickly accepted the friend request. In less than 20 minutes, I saw pictures of my man holding a girl very closely, and they were also in uniform. I quickly remembered the cloth, my hubby after sowing the cloth, snapped with it and sent to me to praise the style which I did, so the same cloth was a uniform sowed with this girl.
I quickly saved the pictures uploaded it to his whatsapp and I confronted him…boldly told me to move on with my life, that God will not allow me to die just like that…
I felt down, I was very bittered and my heart was cutting very fast that I found it difficult to breathe… God showed me mercy through my madam, thou I developed heart problem but am healed now. I had picked the pieces of my heart and as I drop this pen, am moving on. Thank God for everything. It is well with my soul. Like a bird flying in the sky, am now free from every pains. I ll join the month of Match to match forward.
My fellow ladies, I believe my story will serve as an eye opener to you. When men are coming your way, be very watchful and careful, on 31st of Dec 2017, I was busy crying while he was in the arms of another woman romancing her. I found out that some of my evidence was upload on 31st of DEC by the girl. Create meanings in every step he make and be observant, I saw it coming, I felt it but I didn’t grab the meanings. Most of these men you see everyday leave fake lives, Most especially when they are a little far from you. I also advice you love with your head not your heart because your heart will get chattered over and over again.
Thank you.
Ofodile Blessing Chinenye (Chinenye Blezoo)."
What then is wickedness if not this. Why didn't she just allow her go jejely. So sad.
ReplyDeleteA typical example of an Igbo beast.
DeleteI've never read or seen such wickedness before, God will judge everyone of us accordingly
*Larry was here*
I cried when I read this story.
DeleteAhh this story touched my soul, did he do this Cus she said she was pregnant for another guy? (Maybe he thought she was dating others behind him) but even at that, someone that was giving you money? Ahh this guy is the devil.
DeleteNever trust people that are involved in stories of going to cell, so he got married without his family? Abi they knew about it?
I don't even know what to say but mehn this guy is evil, does he even know all that must have been going on in her mind, thinking her love was dead, ahh my dear this too shall pass, and you will get someone better, I will even put you in my prayers so you can get someone better Cus this guy na devil
Starry he is a beast in did. Only God could judge him and punish him accordingly.
DeleteOh my God
DeleteI read every line if this
Why and why
May God renew her heart
He left cos of your bad English
DeleteWhat of you? If you know English very well, then where is your full stop???labalaba!
DeleteI read this piece over and over few days ago.💔 Couldnt just just wrap my head around such wickedness.
ReplyDeleteThe guy go surely hear am. Hiss
Same here at Sandy, more than 3x to see if d girl fucked up somewhere, but all looked normal and OK. Na wa o, d heart of men. Lemme advice u lady, maybe God annulled the marriage cos there is danger ahead, after all no b here we read say medical doc was busted for crime syndicate? Am such d Drs ex will all b jubilating for not marrying him!!!! So NNE, God has removed darkness from ur life.
DeleteSandy you no see this one call demon o.
DeleteWhen you open the meaning of wickedness in the dictionary this guys picture should be affixed there.
I'm totally perplexed about this story and can't wrap my head round this manner of wickedness. It's beyond me.
This lady should thank God for this because such a horseband will kill without batting an eyelid. Just like that demon that killed all his kids in the name of jealousy.
Such wickedness. @beds and roses, I tell u. Such men will kill their loved ones without thinking. But God just freed the poor lady from such a man.
DeleteJesus!!!
ReplyDeleteOh dear...
I read it somewhere too,d heart of man is desperately wicked for real
ReplyDeleteEvery wicked.
DeleteEvery wicked.
DeleteVery very wicked.
DeleteSister, your tears and cry shall not be in vain, I'm not even talkin about the money you spent... But Uzoma for leadin this poor girl on, you'll never know peace, the pains you made her go through shall be givin to you in the same measure.... what kind of a wicked man are you? why not call off the wedding but you didn't, you might think you've ruined her life but you just lifted her to a new level.... sister forgive him...
ReplyDeleteWow! Words fail me. In the long run she'll realize that she dodged a bullet.
ReplyDeleteBut why lead someone on like this.
This is pure wickedness!!
ReplyDeleteEyaaah..you will be fine. Its just a matter of time but believe me you will look back someday and thank God you didn't end up marrying him. I wished you didn't bother to curse him but trust me he's cursed already. The evil men do manifest right before their eyes now not after they're dead.
ReplyDeleteMen live wisely, life is deeper than how we look at it.
I was really sad after I read this story, what wen wrong? Was he on a revenge mood or probably she was setup to be disgraced? Too many unanswered questions, lady everything in life happens for a reason God will give you a better man, dry your tears nd cry no more... Chaiii
ReplyDelete#Rosie...
I read it too....over and and again. Ladies you never know a Man, don't ever think you do. Even at the 'Altar' u never know. I feel so sorry for the lady. I pray Love finds her again
ReplyDeleteIt's no biggie my pipo. He's just a hustling yahoo boi like the rest of them lots. Though this your gramma sef can make a mad man go crazy again sha, I still feel your grievances non-the-less. Maga fall, guyman chop.
ReplyDeleteBefore I conclude, let's also hear the guys version of the truth so as to judge fairly.
PS. Fraud is not a gender thing, it's a nigerian thingy.
Why do I have a feeling that people who always want to hear the other side of a story, want to believe that other side?
Delete@ Beds and Roses thank you o, had it been a Yoruba name that is written up there, Sandy Yo would be shouting Yaraba demon up and down.
ReplyDeleteOk, this one issa Igbo demon. Are you guys ok now??😉 Looooool
DeleteThis one na igbo devil!!!!! This one is one of their won so they won't talk
DeleteWhat a world!!!!!
ReplyDeleteWorld of wickedness and deciet.
The guy wil not go free,he better go and ask her for forgiveness
Girls also bail out in the last minute, this no be news jo...
ReplyDeletewe've not heard from him, do u know wat was revealed to him? Its a lady now you'all are now sympathetic
May it be your portion since you don't think it is wrong. Even married couples separate and divorce. Why can't he open his stinking mouth and call off the whole arrangement? or even postpone it indefinitely on the grounds that he wasn't sure anymore.
DeleteHow can you do this to another person?
The heart of man.
ReplyDeleteHe could have just called of the engagement instead of this kind of torture
I follow her curse that man
have you all read the part where the lady said she was pregnant for one suitor (jokingly though) and the ex said he doesn't mind? (so this girl has been sleeping around and she wants me to marry her? I will show you) Of course he was broken there but the wickedness he planed for the lady is this. I pray you find solace in GOD'S arms.
ReplyDelete...and she should please give love a chance again someone somewhere is dying to love her unconditionally again.
Every disappointment is a blessing, all the money you have been sending to him you for done use am start biz even buy small land self..when their life their hope oo..
ReplyDeleteNawa ooo,what manner of write up is dis? I have gone through her pictures on Facebook and trust me she doesn't look appealing,she looks very unkempt and igbotic plus dis her bad Grammer,those things are enough for a man to run away,I can bet she was choking him, even me as a man I can't marry dis one,pls lick your wounds and move on,shit happens,your God will fight for you at the end, shikena
ReplyDeleteDo you look appealing? So cos she doesn't look appealing she should be punished? What about the ones that look appealing and still punished by evil men ? Ngbafo like you.
DeleteBut he shouldn't have led her on like this now. If he knows/feels he can't marry "dis one" he would have honourably called off the wedding. After everything she did for him (according to her), at least she deserves that. Don't you think so?
DeleteSo that guy looks like an etiquette pro abi English professor???
DeletePlease how does an Igbotic person look? What are the physical traits please?
DeleteAsking for a neighbour who died last year?
All those people that used to say,stick to a man and build with him,where are u people? Shebi u see now, that's why I can never use my money on any man,be struggling your thing and I will be chopping my money and consoling u,I cannot come and kill myself,am so sorry for dis lady,I pray she moves on from dis and not to let dis experience keep her away from her future husband
ReplyDeleteBuild with a man doesn't necessarily mean give him your money. It seems be his support emotionally and stand by him in his time of need.
DeleteIf you are now stupid enough to give him your first one month salary. You gats problems. Because I bet this girl hasnt given her parents that laboured on her education 1month salary.
Any man that keeps collecting money from a woman is a sorry excuse for a man and doesn't deserve to be called a man.
I read this story sometime last week and i cried for this Lady
ReplyDeleteI still can't understand this level of wickedness
But one thing is sure... this guy can never go unpunished
I cried while reading this, pathetic story no woman deserves this, if you don't want her just let her know or if you are confused than leading her on.
ReplyDeleteLife is truly unfair, if the tale here is the truth. The wicked will never go unpunish. Ladies, I'm a guy there is no need spending on a guy they will used and dumped you like bin. If a guy loves you let do the spending and show total commitment. I trust someone has read this, so she won't come and write chronicle here seeking for advice that isn't need. Ladies! Please use your head, don't go into toxic relationship given everything for lazy men. My sister will continue to strengthen you and bless you someone that will make forget all you past through in making the marriage work.
ReplyDeleteMy dear God will heal you and I pray your testimony will be so big that this possessed man will never be able to even mention your name. Then Mr whatever, you led her on forgetting that there is something called karma. Wait for it cause as long as you are alive and guilty your address will never escape what is coming and it will come when you least expect it. You have sown evil. Wait for the whirlwind cos it will definitely blow. I pray you survive what you will reap.
ReplyDeleteSome guys are loyal because they are broke! Show them 500k and see their true colour.
ReplyDeleteJust Krix!
The guy even looks like someone who'll have serious mouth odour. How would you have coped? Baby girl, you just dodged a bullet. YOUR man will come.
ReplyDeleteSuch Wickedness!
ReplyDeleteOlagbara o. This one is a wicked somebody. Hmmmm!!!! He even led her on with the preparations, IV, wedding gown etc. This man's conscience has been sealed with hot iron.
ReplyDeleteChukwu aju!
ReplyDeleteWhat did I read? These guys forget that water wey dem take do eba dem no dey see am (mmili eji mee garri adi afua anya)
*shudders*. Na so dem dey die.
#wickedness
He looks like fuck boy.
ReplyDeleteHahahahah sebi una wan answer Mrs??? Dem don chop many ladies mugu like this. Shame no go let them talk.
ReplyDeleteAbeg Nne, move on inugo. This wan fit poison you for recharge card.
I shout in ukwuani
ReplyDeletekweke!!!!
daris God ooo
OAP swity
This guy is my husband's student.
ReplyDeleteStay strong my dear, stay strong!
Its long but I couldn't stop reading it. This is sad. God will help you Blessing
ReplyDeletePoster please think about this in ur mind,,
ReplyDelete1,,ask him some question,,cos some men dont like to marry any girl they meet
new and loose his job or started having problems in his bussiness,,some elders
always advised such guy not to marry the lady,,
2,,,i was into a very sweet relationship with a lady and things was moving very fine with me and for us,but it took me whole 9 years to find out that i was married
to another lady ,not the same lady i was inlove with,another lady,and the lady i
was inlove with left me and move on not knowing that i was never inlove or wanted
to marry the new lady with my clear eyes,,its was just a hug i hugged the new lady
and i become a husband of 9 years,,i forget my papa and my mama too,,i did not
cares about them too,and nobody understand me that i was never myself,,
the new girl visited me and she was crying about her elder sister doing to her and i hug to say sorry,that was all i can remember till after 9years in bondage,,
so try to see him and look if he is still the man or he left becos of job loose
after meeting you,,see is its was a pastor or an elder that told him against you,
you may never know till u hear or see,,,,,there is some lady who have not married
and some guys that left her dont want to tell her that she has a problem unsolve
spiritually,,ur REAL HUSBAND will COME,dont worry,,,pray to GOD in ur inner room
Some guys are wicked,heartless, they're just devil on mask,they tend to treat ladies anyhow without respect but all thanks to KARMA.And also to ladies who jump into relationship anyhow BE WISE....
ReplyDeleteHmmmmmm am just speechless this is wickedness in high places
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