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CONSEQUENCES OF SNOOPING
My world has come crashing down.
Six months after given birth to my baby girl. I noticed my husband had no intention of coming close to me. I was strictly off all s§xual intercourse because of the issue I had during pregnancy making it 12months of no s§x.
I spoke to my husband about it, the first time it was just there I actually felt irritated and I guessed my husband realized it so maybe that's the reason he didn't come close still another 4 months after I asked what the problem was, only for his manhood to be flat no raising at all it was so funny that everything we tried to bring it up with didn't work.
I began to pity him though he had been struggling with kidney stones I thought it was the kidney stones going to the next level. But my husband was so calm about it, I didn't see any panic but I noticed some nights he comes back home sleeping like he just had s§x with someone.
I tried snooping but couldn't get the password, how I wish I just could get to his phone. Part of me wants that password but the other part tells me I cannot handle this. So as a jolly no s§x couple we decided to go on holidays for the Easter and he printed his statement for the visa process, guess what?
I saw different ladies names of 10k payment and a hotel on Lekki where he frequents. It appears my husband sleeps with harlots.
I really want to confront him but I need more proof to do this. Should I show up at the hotel when one night he is not back from work or just leave him to God? This is really painful oh! How could he?
Please advice me on what to do.
Please advice me on what to do.
*What if you show up at the Hotel and he turns the table and accuses you of going there to prostitute?Why not confront him at home if you must?
I would rather you do everything you can to bring back the hotness into your union than to be looking for ways to snoop and confront
Where are the #teamanoop. Madam be calm. Talk to him about if your heart still wants him and I bet everything would fall back to place.
ReplyDeleteThat is how I caught my ex too. Bank transfers of 10k to strange women. I left with my kids and thank God I didn't catch any STI from that unfortunate baboon.
DeleteLeave before he infects you with HIV.
Some of you women who don't have access to your husband's phone could be living with a dangerous criminal.
DeleteLeave kwa!@ annonymous 15:53 over unfounded allegations?
DeleteMy dear just ignore. Men you might have heard are polygamous in nature.
Probably your state which led to no intimacy must have led him to it. let it go but don't relent in resuscitating your sexual life
Leave kwa!@ annonymous 15:53 over unfounded allegations?
DeleteMy dear just ignore. Men you might have heard are polygamous in nature.
Probably your state which led to no intimacy must have led him to it. let it go but don't relent in resuscitating your sexual life
Leave dem. Ostriches that will continue to bury their heads in the sand.
DeleteI'm tired of women who thinks their happiness depends on their husbands. So after risking your life to that hotel, what if he didn't come?
ReplyDeleteYes, he's cheating, find a way to make yourself happy
*Larry was here*
"women who thinks?" sic
DeleteWe need WOMEN who THINK before writing
Not those who write before thinking.
How can your happiness not depend on your husband@Starry?
DeleteWhat a waste of a lifetime!!! Placing one’s happiness in a man. So many women deny themselves their true purpose because they use up their time, thoughts and energy on men.
DeleteJust imagine this woman here. She risked her life, time and energy to give birth to her husband’s child and he can’t see past his own immediate desires like an animal.
Stella,If it was the man who suspected his wife was cheating,Stella will you advise he brings his hotness back?
ReplyDeletePoster do not go to the hotel o, I know what am talking about, just confront him at home.
Deleteso what are u saying, that she should risk her marriage or look for solution, stella told her what to do instead of casing shadows. yes you know the problem then what is the solution.
Delete"casing shadows?"
DeleteSo na you go bring shadow put am into "case?"
Na you be the medium wey dey bottle men?
Abegi nak am for pidgin and put "?" when you finish.
Make you no dey CHASE shadows again
I don't understand why you'd rather "leave him to God" than confront him for defiling your bed and marital vows.
ReplyDeleteI won't ask you to show up at the hotel because that is really low of a wife or any woman to do. Speak to him, he is your husband. Clearly, he spends all his energy servicing women who are not his wife reason he has no strength to do his husbandly duties.
Just one child and he is acting this way. How long do you think you can carry on acting like what he is doing isn't a big deal.
You married women are really trying because even ordinary boyfriend can't treat me like this and I'd be silent about it.
Don't let people tell you you need to learn kamasutra styles and wear skimpy cloths, your husband is an adulterer and there is no way this behavior of his is your fault so do not take the blame for it.
Only undisciplined men act like this, don't keep quiet until he infects you with something from his numerous women. He is the one with the problem and not you you were carrying his child and a good man would understand instead of react to it.
Best comment
DeleteAt least now she knows she can protect herself from diseases. Knowledge is power. Always team snoop titilili...
DeleteBestest comment u nailed it
DeleteI suggest you confront him ASAP! He could bring you a diease home!
ReplyDeletePoster,you should be happy your husband gives those girls 10k!...
ReplyDeleteTrust me,they will all flee!...
None of the girls would like to keep him as a sugar daddy!...
Girls don't like stingy married men!..
Why is your husband loosing interest in you?...
Have you left your self looking unkempt?...
What of your weight?...
Are you now so FAT?..
Have you stoped slaying just because you just gave birth?,..
Do you smell breast milk and heat?...
Madam,go and get your groove back and watch your husband flock around you like flies...
Is the 10k for uber and when they are done in the hotel he will give them 100k thanks for coming? The wife thinks the 10k is big money so I can imagine the kind suffer wey they hammer u n ur hubby.
DeleteLinda ehn.. You will never cease to amaze me. lol @ "Do you smell breast milk and heat?"
DeleteLinda please I have a question 👆🏼
DeleteErrr.... what if the girls are the type that think 10k is 10million? Like the ones that miyake whatever was bragging about dating on that Anthony Joshua post yesterday. Linda Shebi you know say no be everybody tear eye. Some people are happy with 10k married man. Remember that one that was rejoicing that married boo gave her money to buy unilag masters form, on here 🤣🤣
They may hold tight to him. Cos that 10k could be a huge percentage of their monthly salary. Na question.... maybe she earns 30k a month. That 10k would be waawwuu.
@poster you're not even sure he gives them 10k. Shebi you know? That's 10k is for hotel room oh. That's the only one you saw. The one he gives in cash, you didn't see. So therefore, for every 10k hotel bill add another 10k. Then calculate how much he spends on girls in one month. Chai! That's someone's business capital oooo
Delete@Queen, wen it boils down to real hardcore advise, ur very realistic most times, even though I don't always agree with you but at least ur a married woman with some experience.
DeleteAs for the other professional full time runs geh with tattoos and piercings dat come here for recognition, self validation and acceptance, don't worry, menopause will catch up with you before you make anything positive out of ur life; I promise you that; unless you repent and know/realize that woman was created for man and not vice versa. Imagine a nitwit and half somebody who calls herself chikito who practically knows the price of everything but the value of nothing giving marriage advice upandan. Not your fault though, i would have said I blame the internet but even ur poor innocent "scum dad" will know that's not true. Mistaken misfortune like you, product of leaking condom. If you were worth #10K at all then you would have had the decency to let yesterday's grievances be bygone.
Moving forward, if I ever address this matter with you again, call me names. #mtcheew #notimetoproofreadsef #dropitasedeyhot
Chai, chai, Dem naked chikito baf am for village market square👆! Chai, subliminal jabs n upper cuts, chikito can't survive this.
Delete🤣🤣🤣🤣 miyake you came looking for my trouble yesterday, and I already gave it hot to you.
DeleteYou this filthy husband of an innocent woman who brags about sleeping with prostitutes. I don't blame You! Perhaps you're the posters husband. How won't you be happy about it?
Me? Tattoo? My dear, none of the men in your generation or your lineage will ever step up to a girl like me. So calm down. I've told you... send me your wife's address. Let me send her my used clothes and undies and even buy second-hand clothes for your children. You are just like this poster who spends money on cheap prostitutes and can't take care of his home. As a good Nigerian citizen I will assist you this one time.
It's probably the women in your family that are tattoo-carrying low-life prostitutes. Cos yiu surrrly act like something that was born and bred in a hotel and constantly bathed in water used for vaginal washing. That's why you take real pleasure in announcing that you roll with them. Useless disgrace of a man carrying HIV upandan and bragging about it.
We both know you will come back and read. You irrelevant piece of stale shit. Carry your demon possession and feed you family. Just don't litter it here
This Miyake sef e be like sey u bw womnan. You sound educated but cheap and classless. Like all those money miss road wey feel like say den don arrive.
DeleteLMAO! @ Chikito and Miyake,you two are simply hilarious,I couldn't stop laughing. Never a dull moment on Stella's blog walahi!
DeleteStells, which hotness? It not her fault the man is cheating. Madam, please ignore him, and live your life. Never do without condoms, even if u have to do
ReplyDeleteShe should Ignore him and live her life? Interesting...
DeleteNo be Small Interesting Joblesshousewife, Hahahahahaha
DeleteThis cheating thing is becoming so annoying. If you don’t enjoy your spouse y not tell him/ her what to start doing instead of going outside? God will help us
ReplyDeleteSo annoying! And it's very rampant now. Social media made sex easily accessible, it will get worse with time sef. Women whose husbands are not on social media are so damn lucky. Someone told me she wants to open an fb account and whatsapp for her husband, the man didn't ask o, Infact he doesn't care. I warned her seriously not to try it or she'll forever regret it. Biko, I'm not saying all men on Sm cheat or men who are not don't cheat. I'm just saying, chances are high on sm. Same applies to women too.
DeleteCastle your head dey there.
DeleteInstead of you to work on lighting on the fire in the bedroom, you are bracing for war; war that no one wins?
ReplyDeleteIf you show that man love and care and let him understand that you empathize with him in the "no sex plight", you will see him do the confession himself.
Pray and work back the love in your home. The evidence you have is not enough and looking for more is looking for trouble.
A man is hooking up with prostitutes and she is expected to swallow it like nothing happened and become sexy for him over night? What of the pain of betrayal of trust, the lies, the disgusting thoughts of sharing her husband with prostitutes he willingly pays for? Na wa for you people sha.
DeleteNa wa o. Confronting him at home is better and safer than in public. You never know. .. Communication is very important in marriage.
ReplyDeletework on the sex life of you both.
ReplyDeletePray.
coerce him into releasing his password by releasing yours.
Encourage him to use condoms; like "I don't want to get pregnant for now, just have to recover fully from the previous and "feed" you well with sex while doing that" -raise no red flag.
More pieces of evidence will fall into place and into your laps if your suspicion is rife.
Be calm and loving for now!
Try and ask him questions of concern and empathy; like how he has been coping while your headquarters was closed?
Please what "issues" did you have during pregnancy that kept you starving this man for 12 calendar months?
ReplyDeleteHow on earth did you think that a sexually active man will endure?
You were first a wife before you became a mother; aren't you?
Please fix this anomaly first before anything else.
Thank you darling...
DeletePlease don't be ignorant. There are issues that can make the doctors tell you no sex from 6wks of the pregnancy to 6months after. Pregnant women suffering from hyperemesis gravidarum, low cervix or any pregnancy that is high risk is a no sex zone. Also some pregnant women suffer pancreatitis because during pregnancy they vomit excessively causing the liver, gall bladder to malfunction due to the force of vomiting, causing gall stones to be released into the pancreas. Pregnant women with that condition can't have sex. They'll be put on strict bed rest.
DeleteThis Anon is so ignorant. Some people are too immature to be husbands. I don’t know where you people find these men!!!
DeleteSo you don’t know that there are people who have such severe medical issues they are advices to stay away from sex or risk losing the baby. Some even get to be put on bed rest just to ensure they carry the pregnancy successfully. Pregnancy does a lot to your body and a good man will stay by his woman at such times and finds ways to increase their intimacy knowing full well she will be insecure about his affections cos of their inability to engage in sexual Intimacy.
@Aproko
DeleteEverything wey you yarn there na dust
we dey talk about 12 months here.
After most pregnancies, sex resume after six weeks.
when some woman think say man pikin body na wood,,
Deleteshe get luck say na only hotel he the carry woman go,
na after the comfrotation she will regret her action wella.
some men dey go there side chick house after work before going home,,
he go soon stop eating ur food if you no go rest now,,
12 months with a wife at home and no sex?,,,she no even dey give him
mouth job all those past 12 months?living in bondage,,all this marriage
is new way to slave some men and some woman,
Don't mind dem. That you had it easy doesn't mean everyone did. Not everyone can have sex during pregnancy. Why can't some men have self control and discipline for a little while. Yet they demand it from their wives. Foolish double standards.
DeleteStella. I appreciate your advice but I think that sometimes you should refrain from advising people lol. Do you know what it means for your partner to sleep with different prostitutes? The HIV/std scares it presents? And you say to bring back the hotness. Lol I think it’s best to not say anything than to say something that makes zero sense ma
ReplyDeletePoster, my advice would be for you to sit him down and have a heart to heart conversation. Not a yelling match. Don’t be confrontational. Just present the facts of the matter. Remember to listen, understand and validate his points. Then share your thoughts. Mention how it’s been so long since you’ve been intimate and how it affects you.
Whatever you do before you guys decide to get intimate or to ‘bring back the hotness’ like Stella said (LMAO) please sweetly go with your husband to a clinic and get tested.
Good luck boo!
How do we know they are prostitutes? It's a question. Cos poster is just assuming, as far as I am concerned. It's could even a hotel staff he's dating and she's using him to meet yeye accommodation target. It could be one small secondary school leaver that's 17 and needs money for JAMB form. It could be the mama puts daughter or gateman's sister.
DeletePoster, work never start oh. You don't have the full gist yet.
Spoken like a true ex runs geh chikito, nice! Not all all babes are asht, chikito takes exception to that! Some are just physically fit, always on runs and stuff. Het some balm for Miyake's blows, ndo.
Delete@Chikito
DeleteNo wonder you dey answer "chikito"
If I remember very well, ya blog ID before na
Professional runs girl; correct?
Any girl, lady, woman wey they open legs for change na prostitute
No that one na better name, na whore, hoe as in akwunakwuna/ashawo!
I think you’re missing the point. Who this woman’s husband is sleeping with is irrelevant. Sexual transmitted diseases are not limited to prostitutes.
Delete15:26, thank you jare. You are making sense.
DeleteHow are you sure he sleeping with the girls he gives the 10k to? Plus you didn’t tell the exact problem you had during pregnancy that made sex irritating! If he’s no longer sexually attracted to you then u don enter one chance be that o!
ReplyDeletehes paying them for reading him a novel.
DeleteHow do we know he gIves them 10k? She said: 10k transfer to hotel NOT to the girls. I think poster has just scratched the surface.
DeleteOh correction: 10k payment to girls. I see. Alright oh. So that's 10k to the babe and maybe another 10k to the hotel. Minus nkwobi and small stout (cc: retired slay queen 😂) #imdead 🙆♀️
DeleteChikito read again. She said to different ladies.
DeletePoster arm yourself with evidence before going to meet him. If you go to the hotel and the man belt you like that lady what would you do.
ReplyDeleteCheck what make your husband love girls outside.
Christian man that cannot control himself. Anyway Na Christians dey cause wahalas because his type dey go church every Sunday.
Madam do what makes you happy. Don't have BP because of ya horseband
Muslims nko? who like fuck pass them? Abegi prick no get shame.
DeleteGbam! She's yet to arm herself with enough evidence. Right now she knows the name of the hotel. Good!
DeleteNext step is to start investigating. By simply bribing the hotel security you can get access to watch the whole scenerio play out. Then when you're certain you can confront him privately: Names, dates, locations, orisirisi.
You can't just show up at the hotel. Wrong move! (Some of Una married women sef! 🙄)I would say if they are prostitutes, she's even luckier cos that one the man knows that it's disgraceful. Let it not be that he's fallen in love with one dirty smallie that he's even planning to marry and train in school. That's worse! Cos he will tell you she's giving him what he's not been getting for one year. 🎶Ayele ibosi oooh🎶
No sex for 12months (365 sunny days) and u think he wouldnt get it else where? youre sleeping on bicycle... harlots oh, runs gals oh, office ladies oh, Maids oh etc... all cats are same in the dark! payment mode remains the same. Dust and rekindle ur bedmatics again, so he'd be missed in that hotel (for a while), hes tasted pringles oh, once u pop u cant stop!! You cant match up ashawo that fuck more than porn stars sef, they need to please him to pay more & dial them nxt Friday again, ure left to hear him snore from the sexercise wen he returns from "work"
ReplyDeleteMarriage no easy, our mothers eat shit tire, we should learn to only deal with the odour not the shit.
Why can't he? Is he a sex god??. Only the first 6 months was her fault, after birth he should have grabbed her if he was responsible. This is how u keep making excuses for foolish men. I had issues during my pregnancy also, hubby could wait for me to get home from d Hospital to jump me. That's what it should be. If d man had penile surgery now for a year, u people will tell her to wait. But something as important as a baby, he had to jump olosho. He is just an a$$wipe. Period. No excuses. Poster, you married an ashawo, that kain person no fit change oo. So, watch him , understand him and take your next step. I'll advice u start milking him cos his type can marry second wife in d future
DeleteSo it also her fault that he cannot get it up? What won’t women be blamed for in that country?
DeleteWomen always expecting men to understand em..how on earth you keep off sex from him..oga is cheating.show him love..pamper him....make him feel loved..make him feel like king..pray for him....show care and support..you have all it takes to make or break your marriage.
ReplyDeleteU forgot to add watch war room. Nonsense
DeleteAsswipe
DeleteWomen don suffer...
DeleteHave you stopped looking good since you have birth? Are you the type that tied wrapper around the house with your hair unkept?
ReplyDeleteGo and start looking good and bring the sexy back. Smell you, dress well. Try and pimp yourself..
Don't go look for him outside unless you are ready to lose him.
Asswipe. This title is unconnected with this post. It's just who you are. Chao
DeletePoster sorry about your plight but like some pointed out how can you starve your husband for 12 solid months knowing fully well that a man's manhood has no upbringing he can fall into any available hole to satisfy himself
ReplyDeleteAnd also hope you're not looking like mgbeke bcuz you gave birth,nothing irritates man more than an unkempt woman this one is not love matter oo
Pray,work on yourself and discuss it with your husband nd dare not to confront him else he will turn the tables on you and things will get worse
All the best
She did not starve her husband. Gosh !. The baby did. Y'all would have preferred her to have seen and have a miscarriage abi? And that was the first six months, the second six months, HE starved HER. All you lot, making excuses for d man. So, a Man cannot be celibate for 6 months??? Talking about how manhood has no upbringing, it's posters husband's own that doesn't have. Raise your son's well una no go hear. How many of you have taught your son's to wait till wedding night to have sex? Or is it only for females? As you teach your sons about condoms, kindly teach your daughter also. It takes two to tango. # notodoublestandards. Chai, so, there is no man in Nigeria that can practice celibacy above 6 months??? Tueh!.
DeleteYou said it for me 17:15.
DeleteI'm surprised no one is talking about the no sex for 12months ish.
ReplyDeleteSo you mean because of pregnancy you couldn't even if it was doing a very comfortable sexual position and just do a quickie till he comes, or even foreplay and BJ.
I hope you know sex is not just for sexual satisfaction, but it builds a bond and closeness between married couple. That is what it was create for, that bond.
If you don't have sex for a whole year, there is that disconnect btw you too.
It gives your husband no right to carry prostitutes but in your next pregnancy pls don't try it. Go to google and look for good sexual positions for pregnancy. Some docs even advice sex till particular period for your cervix to open up.
I just hope this your hubby uses condoms sha, that is my fear for you right now.
I don't even know the advice to give you, just go to hospital first and do complete medicals. cant stand men that carry prostitute honestly.
Couples who cheat are greedy beings. Why?! What happens to the body he once craved for?!
ReplyDeleteToo bad
He possibly does not find you very attractive anymore, living with you in the same house for 1 year without sex, he possibly has started seeing you as a room mate instead of a wife.
ReplyDeleteSee, body no be firewood, the man started chopping outside and is addicted.
Calculate 10k x 10 days, that is 100k (minus hotel bills and nkwobi+small stout money). Asides the fact that a married man sleeping with hoes is a disgusting habit, it is also a very expensive one. So you have to stop him
1. You have to pay more attention to yourself(yes, I said it) be more confident. Be subtly sexy. You have to get him to stop seeing you as a room mate but as his woman with a bomb pussy.
2. Dont go to the hotel to look for him. Just be gathering the receipts and keep one place. Arrange and calculate your evidence very well so that when you are confronting him, you state what and what could have been done with that money he spent on hotel bills and outside pussies.
3. Create happiness for yourself without him. See, men like it when you depend on them for happiness. They thrive in those situations cos they know that one act from them can take away your peace of mind. They will manipulate you to no end and frustrate you once you challenge them. Take that power away from him. Dont depend on your child for happiness either, let him see that it comes from within.
4. Snoop as much as possible. Information is power. Dont bury your head in the sand to protect your heart. Check his phones discreetly. It will help you to know about diseases, 2nd wives , outside children, discussion with his family (Your inlaws).
If you have have the money then hire a private investigator. As large and populous as Lagos is and with all the cheating that happens in marriages there must be someone doing this kind of work. I am like you once I want to know something I gotta know.
ReplyDeleteThe problem with your situation that I find disturbing is that it appears the true affection that needs to be in a marriage does not appear to be there. How could he not want to come close to you after the birth of the baby, when couples normally draw closer, even for that little bit. You did not say how the emotional connection was, does he still speaks with you openly about his thoughts, feelings and plans? Does he touch you outside of the bedroom? How does he interact with the baby? Even more than just the sex you need to start looking at the full picture. You can ask him point blank if he is having an affair? Sometimes when you ask someone something when they least expect it forces them to speak the truth and they often cannot camouflage their eyes and facial expressions with the sudden query. But in asking any question you must also be prepared for an answer that you may not like. Also, if he confesses what plan do you have in place to initiate step B, whether you work to resolve the marriage or other alternative you may choose. You must think on how you will go through this before you take one step.
Things you also need to ask yourself: Was I emotionally available as a wife during my pregnancy?
Am I a loving and physically affectionate wife? Do you only touch your husband in bed? Men seem to thrive on affectionate gestures even more than women. Just good morning, good evening, food on the table, talking about bills and aging parents, TV, shower, go to bed - couples who interact like this daily are just roommates. You must hug and kiss each other deeply daily. Even running a bath and bathing each other ever so often, holding hands while walking about, even placing your head on his shoulder while watching your favorite shows, none of these actions should be uncomfortable for anyone in a marriage to do regularly.
Do I make my husband feel important or is everything and every conversation revolving around the baby?
Many men complain about how they feel invisible and forgotten after the birth of a child. While the needs of a baby should never be neglected, we must remember that the marriage is always the foundational and primary relationship. The worse place for a couple to be is after they have focused all their attention on parenting, the children eventually move out and on with their adults lives and now this couple realize that they are complete strangers. Children will eventually move out and on, it is your husband and you who will be all alone together. You will need to have a strong and loving connection to be make it as empty nesters.
Please do a thorough assessment of your full situation and have a plan of action in mind before you ask any questions. Also, be completely honest about the state of the marriage. If you are just roommates or an actual couple. Then take the necessary steps to create the marriage that you really want.
Anonymous 16:36, if you're a woman, even if you have bowlegs and hairy chest, will you marry me? I'm in love!
DeleteLet ex runners and such learn from this, sound logical post with no ounce of boasting!
I bet you would wax my hairy chest for me, and massage oils into my bowlegs😂😂 Kisses and have a delightful week, enjoy the magic of life even when everything wants you to be negative. Remember that you are divinity always! Let noone take your crown.
DeleteIs this Empress Cho? Sound advice.
Deletena wa....o. poster it is well in your marriage.
ReplyDeleteSHINNY BOSS
Have I gisted you people how one of my small distant cousins we brought from the village to train, now started dating one of my sister's neighbours? Married man with kids, correct exposed man. She was now arranging all her jamb lesson (house girl mostly) friends for him. And was seriously dreaming of marrying the man as 2nd wife, since she was 'helping' him better. That the man said he loves her. Until one fine morning when the man's wife showed up at my sister's gate, with her younger sisters in holy anger. The idiot had driven past them to work. My sister asked the girl to come out oh and explain cos we were dazed! Small 17 year old girl with tiny breast.
ReplyDeleteThen the worst part was that, the other one they brought to stay with us will now say that she's missing her friend (na two of them from village come). So we will let her go there some weekends to play. So... hmm! Turned out that whenever they tell my sister they're going to salon two of them go and block the man in one hotel. They will come back late and say salon was full. For how much? 5k, 7k type of money.
When we found out ehn, the way we bundled them and sent back. Lol. Seized their new phones the man got them, to stop communication before hey ruin someone's home. Oh how foolish we were! 🤣🤣 3 months later my mum's friend saw them in balogun market shopping. According to her they were as fair as me now 🤣🤣 they had returned to lagos and were never going back. My mother had to call their mum that they shouldn't join her in their story please as far as she is concerned they're in the village.
That man and his wife are still married till date.
You always have the most interesting stories, lol. Continue to share.
DeleteSo why you bundled then to villa na?
Deleteyou type that dust up there say no be prostitution be that?
Whether professional or amateur, ashawo na ashawo!
I wonder why a lot of African women behave as if pregnancy is a disease?
ReplyDeleteIn this Yankee you will see pregnant ladies work/ exercise even more than the not pregnant once.
In Nigeria some will gain so much weight and claim they are eating for 2(mostly greed) and once they have given birth, the real laziness begins: house maids work triple, mothers and mother in laws massage their bellies, bathe them, clean their asses after stool as god forbid they raise their hands especially after CS!
Part 3 is husbands will begin to beg for sex.
Sorry for sounding too extreme but it annoys the hell out of me! Here if you don’t work you won’t eat and no omugwo for you either!
I’m certain you might have let yourself go and I also blame your husband for not communicating with you and is probably doing away.
Get yourself together and communicate with him.
My goodness, I sound so vindictive but I cannot help myself.
I know all men cheat but cheating with an ashawo is big no no. I cant deal abeg. Kai i dont even want to put my sef in your shoes gaskiya, coz i dat case i might just do something really stupid. What rubbish is that? How dare you cheat on me with a slut?
ReplyDeleteIn truth, the husband is actually the John (aka male prostitute). Where there is no demand for goods or services there's no selling nor sales taking place. Remember this oh and you will stop heaping all the blame on the same womenfolk who always get the short end of the stick. Inugo. NMTA
DeleteMadam sit him down discuss with him heart to heart,tush up ur looks
ReplyDeleteAny girl having sex for financial gratification; of course not in marriage is a slut!
ReplyDeleteYou don do am bifor?
This is serious.
ReplyDeleteHow can I be married and still maintain my sex drive? This pregnancy hormones and loss of libido is worrisome.
ReplyDeleteDon't worry, being pregnant does change the chemistry in your body, your natural feelings will come back. Have your friends ever called you to go out and you didn't want to and they insisted, came and got you, you hated them at first, but as the night or day went on you started having fun, and that outing turned out to be one of the happiest time ever, you were so grateful they came and pulled you out of the house. Well, it will be the same way. When you or your husband initiates intimacy you will not be into it at first, you may even be praying for it to be over, but as it progresses you will get into it. You may not orgasm. Just set an intention to enjoy your husband, not to enjoy sex, just to enjoy intimacy with your life partner. If that is your intention then it will be fun. Also you can do things that are not necessarily sexual but can be sensual. You can have him massage shea or cocoa butter on your breasts and belly regularly. You can have him paint your toenails. You can have him help you with your hair.
DeleteI will share a secret with you, I am neither overly fond of eating or drinking. I despised eating as a child, just the entire act of putting something in your mouth and pureeing it with your teeth and then swallowing has always seemed eew, but I have learned that if I don't do it I will die, so I pushed the grossness of eating out of my head a long time ago and just decided I have to get over it and move on. Just push the low libido out of your head and know that all marriages require intimacy to remain healthy. Negotiate with your husband and let him know how often you can handle sex. So if you used to do it twice a week maybe he will have to settle for three or four times a month instead. There is always 69 on the side which should be more manageable.
If you have an extreme desire not to be touched at all during the pregnancy, then speak with your obgyn so that they can assist you.
My own wife and soon to be my ex wife was starving me for sex for very long time
ReplyDeleteand when i complain she act like am was talking no sense,,
every time she is tired,,she drink pain tablet when ever i touch her,,so i forget
about her and her sex so that she will not say i rape her,,
today she wish i could hold her or sleep together in the same bed with her ,,
my mind now is with another woman and soon she will hear that i have remarried
traditional,,am never her slave in marriage,,after marriage and child born some
woman will forget a man feelings and thinking she will hold a man with marriage,,?
my papa help me find my new sweet heart wife,,,if you no ready for marriage abeg
no go marry and disgrace ur self later oo
Oga, please give her a second chance. I was brought up in a strict Christian home, I did not know much about sex. I thought it was once in a while thing., I was at the verge of losing my principled and disciplined husband when God came through for me. I found my gspot after 8 years of marriage. Please, she may not know much about sex. Help her explore, you will be surprised she will be the one disturbing you. I beg you in the name of God, give her another chance, your feelings and emotions will come back. My husband is over happy about our sex life now. I am like a new wife to him, he is very crazy about me.
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