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Good day Stella,
Please I am desperately in need of advise and thought from fellow BVs. I am a regular BV though anonymous. Please bear with me because my story might be lengthy
I am from one the south-south part of Nigeria and my boyfriend is from the East. Now growing up my father has always said he wants us to marry from our state and has been very adamant about it but I have never fancied guys from my state and have never had anyone from my state talk to me either.
I met my boyfriend while in college. We were introduced to each other by a mutual friend. That was 6years ago. I love my boyfriend so much and he loves me too. We don’t live in the same state and have somehow been able to make our relationship work and I sincerely cannot see myself with anyone else. Now my boyfriend is started talking about marriage and I don’t know how to talk to my parents (my dad especially about him) because my father has said he won’t ever accept any man that isn’t from our state for his daughter. I can’t explain why he says that but it is breaking my heart because this is the man I want to spend the rest of my life with and I have been praying for 4years about this too.
Also, my dad is a pastor and my boyfriend being catholic wants us to get married in the Catholic Church because according to him if we don’t the marriage isn’t going to be recognized and I already know my father is definitely going to say no to that. I am open to getting married in a Catholic Church but at the same time I believe the wedding should be in the girls church. I don’t want to go against my parents wish and I don’t want to defy my parents because they are my parents and I love them but at the same time I don’t want to loose out on love because of this.
Stella and fellow BVs, has anyone ever married outside their faith and the marriage works out? Has anyone defied their parents when choosing a partner and is still happy in their marriage and happy with their decision? I am fine with our kids getting to go to both churches and then they can later decide what they want (he has said I don’t have to convert).
This man loves me a lot and I feel like God made us for each other but I don’t know what to do. There is no push back from his parents as his family loves me but their only wish is for us to get married in the Catholic Church as well. Please advise me, scold me and pray for me because I really don’t know what to do.
*You have not yet married and all this ISH?
I dont know what to say to a situation like this but it looks you may end up losing your family to love or losing your love to family!
just carry belle, all the heat will go away... theyd accept by force! The beginning will be rough but the dust will settle
ReplyDeleteAnd by "carrying belle", she distances God from the whole thing. And if the guy's family decides to back off, she has lost both families; hasn't she? Abegi if na Satan send you, tell am say you are not available.
DeleteGirl do not set the cart before the horse. Come to equity with clean hands. If you were a pastor like your dad, you will not like your daughter to embarrass you in this way. Don't do to others what you won't want them to do to you. Be patient, pray and reason with your dad and mom. You did not mention your mom; she might help in a woman's way.
See as Devil don employ you without pay?
DeleteAnonymous 15:07,carry belle kwa? U think its dt easy,even though we aren't that close,i loose relationship with my family because i marry who dey didn't like,see where it landed me,@poster,u better borrow sense now that u have d chance,to avoid regrets later
Delete@Dada
Delete"I loose relationship?" sic sic
How about you "tightening" relationships?
I get screw driver and I fit lend you one
Anyway, don't get LOST in the English grammar battlefields
You fit nak pidgin well well.
Wahala dey. Pray harder poster.
DeleteYou really have a situation at hand but it doesn’t mean that there is no solution to it. It is very funny that man people here bash and insult those who choose to marry Hausa or Muslim men but they are the same people who cannot even marry from their own religion because of the differences. See hypocrisy abeg. Una day una be Christians but una no fit marry una selves just because of the church.
DeleteThats the sad thing about christianity, didfrent denominations under one umbrella... catholics cant marry deeper life, JW cant marry Cherubin....
DeleteAnd na one God oh, yeye.
Poster....talk to ur father, he can't choose who u will marry,u are now a big gal that knows what she want...so if u don't get married in Catholic it won't be recognized??so how will u leave ur church and ur parents church and follow a man to his church to marry u?
ReplyDeleteMarry in his church for what?? Wedding is done in the girls church except in the north. You know your parents better than anyone, at least introduce him to them and see their reaction. Stop assuming what they will say. As for me I cannot disrespect my parents and get married in a mans church when my dad is even a pastor,NO!!.
DeleteThen for all these his promises, hmmm i pray he keeps to them. Marriage ehn
My father inlaw (serious Igbo man) just told my brother inlaw the same thing, in his case he has accepted the girl (she's Yoruba) but he says for doing that, the white wedding would be done in a Catholic Church, since we are going all the way to lagos for trads. They had to compromise, first of all inform your father about it, when you are finally able to convince him about your boo, then the two families would give something up
DeleteCourt, Catholic or Anglican churches are those with license to Wed meaning that if you have a court case, the wife that wedded in either of the 3 will be recognized as the legal wife. If the man weds you in your father's church and later marries and weds another woman in either of th 3,that woman will be considered his legal wife (God forbid, just using this to explain). So if you decide to Wed in your father's church, please also arrange and do a court wedding. All you need is your fiancé and 2 witnesses.
Delete@ poster, what kind of child are you? You are willing to please the guy's family but don't mind if you hurt yours in the process.
DeleteBe careful about the decisions you make so you do not regret. Get elderly people or whoever you think can talk to your father to appeal to him to approve of this man.
Concerning the church, it is God's blessing that is important not church.As long as you commit your marriage in the hands of God, it must not be done in the Catholic Church. Moreso, marriage is done in the bride's church; why should yours be different? Are you that desperate? if that man loves you then he will follow you to your church.
You guys are in love, yeah but please bear in mind that the reality of living together is different from boyfriend and girlfriend.
I repeat do not disrespect your family, let the wedding be done in your church, that is non negotiable.
I forgot to add that you can have the Catholic Church bless your union after the ceremony.
DeleteI’m Yoruba (My parents are Anglican’s and I attend RCCG where I live now) Hubby is Igbo (his parents are catholic but he would attend either church). His parents tried to make us have our wedding in a Catholic Church xironv they want our marriage recognized etc. but it would be held here in a Catholic Church in the US in my city where none of us knows anybody and my church is in the same town. Our wedding was last week. We had it in my church and also had a catholic mass and blessing beforehand to please everybody. Problem solved! I no for shout abeg.
DeleteHmmm...be it whatever your boyfriend have to marry you from your parents church. I think it is disrespectful to your parents telling you to marry at his church.
ReplyDeleteThis is exactly the scenerio that plays out when parents arent well invested in their childs life affairs, or some topics are considered a taboo in certain households. For 6yrs the question of who ure dating never arised? or u chose to sweep the obvious under the rug till the 11th hour, for fear of disapprovl, i see! Ppl hv goe through worse, and it favoured some where other failed.
ReplyDeleteI hope u can totally vouch for ur mans love, even after marriage, if yes, then make ur happiness known to ur parents, iff they stand their ground from such myopic perspective, then sideline them.
I was wondering. I was waiting to see where she brought up d topic earlier. Maybe she didn't have plans of Marrying the dude. Anyways, your dad is a pastor. If he refuses. Refer him to d scriptures and get the church elders involved. Meanwhile, win your mother over on time.
DeleteAs for wedding venue. That one na small matter. If ur dad agrees, do it in ur church for him.but I know say Catholics no dey gree
Dear, you already have a situation with your dad by marrying someone from other states. Even if your dad is going to give his consent at last, I don't think the clause'you must marry in catholic church' the guy put will make it happen.
ReplyDeleteThis coming from a man that has promised not to force you change church is somehow.
The normal thing is marriage should be done in the girls church. 'don't quote me' I said normal cos that's what I have been seeing.
Why not talk to him to allow you have the ceremony in your church and his Reverend Father will arrange something for you guys in his church afterwards.
Do not make issue out of no issue dear. Hes not the first Catholic to marry a non Catholic.
I'd start from the hurdle you put there yourself. If you know the scriptures as a Christian I suppose you are, the man is the head and the woman follows. He does not have to follow you to "your church' that is a wrong belief.
ReplyDeleteI am a married lady for nearly a decade and I and my fiance then though of same faith but different denominations, I left my local assembly for his. As we began to have kids and the churches began preaching "trash", we decided to quit and raise our kids in the scriptures via home fellowships etc. . . the gospel we are sure of.
You have to remove the hurdle you put there first. Knowing Christ and his words thoroughly and being patient is the key to triumph in this kind of circumstance.
Now to your parents. My parents did not want me to marry him; my parents attended a different church altogether. They at some point disowned me but I was determined to go ahead but we began fasting daily. Later they budged, that we should do the wedding in their church, but by then my smart fiance outwitted them. He told them that he will do it in a neutral place so that the three denominations involved (his, mine and my parents) will be able to attend without prejudice. In the end everyone was happy. But baby, it took them 3 good years to come around and all through that time we were fasting and God helped us to be patient with them.
I do not believe that he loves you the way you've stated it in your story. If he does, as you are ready to sacrifice by marrying away from your state, he should honour your parent too by having the wedding in your dad's church. As a pastor that your dad is, nothing would bring him more joy by taking his own daughter to the alter in his own church where he has witnessed and conduct many wedding ceremonies . I know this because my dad is a priest.
ReplyDeleteCatholic priest?
DeleteI agree. There is k-leg somewhere...
DeleteAnon 16:19 you must be dumb. How can my dad be a catholic priest. Grow up
DeleteOk, na ifa priest then?
DeleteWhy not say which priest instead of swearing?
My Father inlaw wanted to do this nonsense that I must marry his son in Catholic Church. Because he is a knight. And my dad too is a knight in Anglican oh. My dad told him that in that case prepare your village so that my daughters bride price will be paid there knowing that it's impossible. Plus my hubby stood by me for us to wed in Anglican. The dad backed down sharply. Ur fiancé should stand by u abeg
DeleteI don't even know what advise to give. Because me I was a mature bride, I married at 35 so trust me anyone I brought. They accepted, it was before my parents will say don't marry this or that. My father was so strict, he didn't even entertain men visiting.
ReplyDeleteBut the time I started reaching 33, he joked that even if a muslim man come to take me as 2nd wife he will accept. Just leave my house.
I met a Christian like me and different tribe. No one had an issue.
If you can wait poster, tell them you will remain single for life if they don't allow you. That is what a friend of mine did when they rejected her hubby. When they saw she was entering 30 and not backing down or dating anyone else they agreed.
wrong move!
DeleteA rigid parent wouldnt mind u sef, they will stand their ground
Poster....the norm is that weddings are held at the girls church oo...i was born and raised catholic..but now,i attend one of these big pentecoastal church. My mum has raised no eyebrows,but the only promise she made me make,is that i must do a catholic wedding...my fiancee,is als a member of my present church...so my dear ,let ur hubby see reasons with u,.if u want a wedding that is recongnized,then do court wedding...its that simple. As for tribe issues....you have got to explain to ur dad. It is ur lifeeeee
ReplyDeleteWhich "norm" are you quoting? Surely not scriptures but "norms" probably formed in your gossip circles!
DeleteIf you are a true Catholic, open the catholic bible (Jerusalem bible) and show me where (from Genesis to Revelations) marriages were conducted in a church or synagogue? If we are to be truthful, Churches conducts wedding because it ensure they have a firm grip on members, win more members and make more money. Jesus attended a marriage in Cana (a village) in Galilee and not in a synagogue. We did not hear about any clergy and Jesus and his disciples played not "joining" role in that marriage.
Jesus did not give the church the mandate to wed. The girls father has the scriptural right to give the girl out and collect whatever the bride price should be.
God bless you Anon 18:22- if only people will get to the realization of this truth! Marriage is all about family rites. All this fight about which church to do it is irrelevant before God. It’s parental consent that paramount
DeleteAnon 18:22... Norm in the sense that even in that your Zion bible, marriages take place in the ladies' parents' homes. Do I as a lady come to your home (the man) to be married to you? You go to the ladies home to marry her off to yours. Churches are considered homes (families).
DeleteThank you Jerusalem worshipper.
Anon 23:35 please try and get married in an Olokun shrine as it doesn't matter. Please wipe your mouth with a clean handkerchief.
DeleteThanks
Your guy should know that according to custom, the wedding should be done in the lady's family church, Catholic allows ratification of marriage i.e you can have a marriage or blessing in the Catholic church even if you didn't marry in the catholic church then the guy would have no fear of the church not allowing him pertake in some sacraments
ReplyDeleteWhich custom bikonu, in Igbo custom the girl marries in the guy's church. The only thing he owes you is the traditional marriage in the bride's father's designated venue. A correct Igbo guy wey carry Catholic for head will not marry you in your father's church. Better start cathecisim now.
DeleteNo this is not true. A correct igbo marrying outside of his culture, knows he can't impose his tradition on the girls parents. If you want the girl, u have to make some sacrifices
DeleteThank you first anon, in Igbo land the wedding is done in the mans church because after trads you are legally his wife and can take you wherever he pleases.
DeleteLoool @ better start cathecism now.
DeleteAfter traditional marriage which he owe ur people, you are officially his wife so the man has the legal & official right to decide where to Wed the lady that's how we do in igbo land
DeleteI go with Push up on this. In an igbo setting, the girl follows the man as the head and marries in his church. I was born and raised a Catholic, but I got married in an Anglican church.My brothers wife wanted to insist too, but my parents explained to her. So that's the way my cookie crumbled.
DeletePoster, few questions for you:
ReplyDeleteWhat do YOU want? Your man wants you to marry in his church, follow him to his church (forget that line about he does not want you to convert), your own church is now what? You should atleast give your church family a chance to wed you (i.e. if you want to). People marry from different tribes, religions and belief systems and make it work. It takes understanding and compromise from BOTH parties. If you remove the cloak of, "this man is all I know", "I can not see myself without him" (this statement is always borne from a place of falsehood) and think rationally. You will find your answer and the strength to make a move.
You have dated for years and your family does not know about him? Rectify that now! You and this man first need to be on the same page. Give your family a soft landing by him doing the normal thing and marrying you in your church. You should not start a war because of love, if you are unfortunate to uncover the dark side of marriage after marriage, your family would be your God-sent shelter. So please do not be short sighted because of love. Be smart, be forward thinking and prayerful. All will work out in the end. You are an adult, handle this like an adult.
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DeleteI am from a very strict family that does not believe in ‘boyfriend and girlfriend’. I don’t stay with my parents because I am currently out of the country and have been here since I was 19 and currently about turning 30. My mum knew about my boyfriend except she did not know full details..was aware of his name and other small information.
DeleteMy relationship with God is very very important to me same with my relationship with my parents. I have been praying about this relationship sincerely for 4 years and that’s why I am very confused on what to do because I know deep down in my heart that this is meant to be my husband but the fact that these just so much ish as Stella called it is messing with me.
My parents and I do not attend the same church since we don’t stay in the same country. I have brought up the idea of a neutral ground but my boyfriend insists that it has to be in a Catholic Church. I sincerely don’t want to lose my parents or my boyfriend so I am between a rock and a hard place right now. I am not desperate to marry at all but at the same time I don’t want to miss out on the person that Was intended for me because to me marriage is for better or worse
Never been this confused in my life
Him being a pastor and insisting on tribe is a bit contradictory but what do I know?
ReplyDeleteAs for church please do it in your parents church don’t ever make your love take priority over due honour and respect of your parents .
Convince your dad, he will agree las las and pls get married in your church, you sound as if you are ready to sacrifice it all... Consider your own and family happiness o
ReplyDeletedear poster,from your write-up your guy if from the East and over there marriage is being conducted at the guy's church. it has always been like that for them while in the south where you are from marriage is at the girl's church. anyway, since he's the one seeking for the bride i believe he should do the wedding at your dad's church and it would still be recognised anywhere. All this happening is just temptation for the marriage not to hold.
ReplyDeleteI'm confused, a lot of comments here say it's customary to marry in the ladies church. I ask which custom abeg? From my side it's the husbands church they marry in.
ReplyDeleteAs for the matter of state I believe that one is initial gra gra from the father, if the husband to be is a good man her father won't raise an eyebrow.
Where in the whole Bible did marriage take place in a church?
DeleteI tire oh at anonymous 16:14, unless the igbo guy na gigolo. No hard-working Igbo guy will do that. So inform ya parents because I doubt if that ya boyfriend would budge, so you can start looking for new bobo while he starts looking for a new girlfriend.
DeleteSame here. Nigeria has so many cultures so people should stop making generalisations. In my tribe we marry in the man's church. Any man from my part of the country that follows a woman to wed in her church is considered a weakling. So poster, what part of Nigeria are you from?
DeleteHe is marrying from another tribe, same way a non Igbo man would have to adhere to an Igbo woman's traditions, he should do the same.
DeleteWhy? Better share it .Trad in bride's place. White in groomsg place.
DeleteIs your man not Nigerian? What Nigerian man insists on having wedding in his own Church? Abeg he should grow some sense if he wants to marry
ReplyDeleteI'm Nigerian and in my part of Nigeria we wed in the man's church. Never the woman's Church.
DeleteYes but this girl is south south. If you decide you want a girl from south south or south west ofr elsewhere, you can't go there and tell them how to do their child's wedding. It's hard enough she didn't marry igbo, then you want to take the wedding away too. Correct Naija man won't do that to a girl
Delete@anonymous 18:04 even that south west one isn't set in stone. A friend is getting married and she is getting married in his church. She's a white garment church member and he's Catholic , note that they're both from the south west.
DeletePoster u knew about ur dad's stand b4 entering a relationship u know he will object to for 6 years... I know we can't choose who we fall in love with so Like Stella said one has to give way for the other... It's either ur family or ur boyfriend...
ReplyDeleteFamily will always have you
DeleteThe wedding is held the girls church. Don't cheapen yourself like that, please. He should be humble enough to do your parents wish, until at least he marries you. Love alone is not enough in a marriage, family is also important. And an understanding between you two.
ReplyDeleteIf they respect your beliefs as the daughter of a pastor, they won't even suggest that you marry in their church. The wedding won't be recognized 'by who'? On that I think he is being selfish and note that if you marry someone with such strong beliefs, you automatically become a Catholic. It's non-negotiable.
I don't think the problem is the tribe, cos if he ticked other boxes you would be able to convince your father about that. And as a God fearing man he won't want to see his daughter unhappy. But there's tribe, then church and beliefs and his family too. Pick one so you know what you're dealing with.
Several people have commented on this issue assuming that the right thing is for the lady to get married in her church. That is the norm in south west. In the east , marriages are normally conducted in the man's Church.
ReplyDeleteMy advice is for them to opt for court marriage and they go for blessing of marriage on two different Sundays in both churches. That way nobody will be left out.
SHE IS NOT FROM THE EAST BIKONU. The responses are because she is not from the east...GEEZ.
DeleteAre we not all christains?,are we not serving the same God? Nigerians are making it seems we have different Gods in different denomination.
ReplyDeleteThen why cant he compromise for his bride since Church na Church.
DeleteIt's obvious you love the guy more than he loves you. Why is he drifting from the normal norm of you getting married in your parent's church, knowing fully well that he can easily win you over to start attending catholic.
ReplyDeleteAbout how you are going to resolve issue with your dad, you may think of going through your mum first. Telling them that you want to wed in his parish isoke adding salt to your injury.
My dad is someone like this too, always dictating who to marry his daughters. My elder sis has introduced two suitors to him, yet he discouraged them. The first guy told him about his pastoral mission. That one is now married, he now has a school of his own sef. My mum too doesn't help matters. In short, my sis is entering 30 and she has brought more than 5 suitors, all of which have k-leg according to my parents.
Then me, I haven't introduced my boyfriend to them and I have already singing it that no one can talk my man down o. They can't even try that with me because I am not a daughter that always dance tot their tune everytime. I'm kinda stubborn and adamant in my decisions, and I have never had any regrets.
Dear poster, do not go against your parents wish for anything. Listen to your dad, he will not mislead you. That guy you think is your everything now, may not be everything for you went the chips are down. Your father is the priest over your life so please, please listen. I know why I am saying this.
ReplyDeleteHmm...bad advice. So anything your father says is correct? Then all d fathers should be saying the same thing
DeleteWamiYo S. You have seen enough chronicles to know that a number of these men are not to be sacrificed for (apologies to the good ones). As a Nigerian woman, you bend too much, you dig your own grave. Most parents mean well.
DeleteMy people, this lady doesn't strike me as one who placed a value on herself and her family and she seems to overlove the guy.
DeleteFirst, you want to marry from another tribe as against your father's wish, that is understandable cos love is strong. Then you are thinking about wedding in the church of the man knowing that your dad is a pastor and may agree to the marriage but would feel disregarded and disrespected if you also we'd in his church.
This guy is your everything, but let me tell you, if you don't take decisions that will reverence your parents (Dad especially) your family will not be regarded by this your husband to be if eventually the marriage takes place as he wishes, not considering your own family and I doubt if you'll have any say in the union.
For someone you claim to love you very much, he should be able to do somethings in a way that will favour your family too and not be selfish as if he is doing you a favor. Please attach some value to yourself and your family so that you will not be treated anyhow in your marriage and if any issue comes up in future, your Dad's opinion can be respected.
In summary, plead with your dad to allow you marry the guy but the wedding must be in your church. Finish!
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Talking about marriage is different from actual proposal. Has he given you ring? Before you will be doing all these dichotomy for nothing.
ReplyDeleteAnyway, if he has, approach your mum or big aunties, win them over and they will back u up in tabling the matter before your father.
Poster, I am of the opinion that the marriage should be done in your Church. That's the way it is done. Its respectful to your family and is seen as giving out of the girl. Your Dad is even the Pastor, I believe it will make him happy.
ReplyDeleteWhy are you the one making all the sacrifices? Why should you marry in his church? My advice to you, don't alienate your family, if you ever have issues in marriage your inlaws will take their son's side. Your finance is selfish. You may have issues in future at this rate
ReplyDeleteOh girl! Marry him already. Your daddy will come around. Talking from several experiences. Your papa no even happy say you no fall in love with boko haram!
ReplyDeleteI really don’t get how people date these days. These are topics that should be thrashed during dating. In the east, most weddings take place in the man’s church because it is assumed both of you become one and would attend hubby’s church after wedding. Now you are dating a catholic, catholics always insist on having their wedding in their church, be it male or female. They are quite stubborn about stuff like this. I would say give in and marry him in his church, there is nothing like ‘cheapening’ yourself. Both of you would become one, or do you intend to attend seperate churches after marriage? This is where division comes in. The only problem now is that your parents are pastors and no pastor would be happy to see his child wed in another church whilst he has been blessing other people’s marriage. I think you should sit all parties involved and speak to them. You can wed in your dad’s church and have a marriage blessing in a Catholic Church to calm the situation. My problem is there are other deeper questions that need to be addressed here and I doubt you and your bf have really thought through this marriage plan
ReplyDeleteIf he truly love you like you have said then he should have no problem wedding you in your church. In my house, every female child do the wedding at the bride church while the male child can go and wed at the bride church. marriage is all about a man going to take permission from the bride family to have her as his wife. That is why the bride price and traditional wedding is done at the bribe family house. So the wedding is suppose to be done at the woman church. After the wedding, the bribe can decide to start attending her husband church.
ReplyDeleteI think you should have thought of all this option before getting serious with him.... You can't get married in his chur cos you should always get married in the bride's chur. Pray about it first just that the buts in this relationship is too much
ReplyDeletePoster, what l know so far is the wedding takes place in your own Church. After everything you then follow your husband to his Church.
ReplyDeleteSit your Dad down and tell him you love this guy and needs his Blessings as a Father. Get some Elders in his Church to talk to him.
Good luck!!
Babes the wedding is meant to be done in your church. Your bf is manipulating you.
ReplyDeletePoster.....Don't let your boyfriend family push you anyhow. You're the bride, they have to come and marry you in your parents church to honour your Dad.
ReplyDeleteMake it very clear to your would be in-law that you will want to be married in your parents church. Can they allow their own daughter to be married in another church.
BTW, stop worrying your head, the tribe and different denomination is no issue. Tell your mum about the guy first and she will do the talking to your Dad for you....
You will be fine .....stop disturbing your beautiful head dear
I am from a very strict family that does not believe in ‘boyfriend and gorlfriend’. I don’t stay with my parents because I am currently out of the country and have been here since I was 19 and currently about turning 30. My mum knew about my boyfriend except she did not know full details..was aware of his name and other small information.
ReplyDeleteMy relationship with God is very very important to me same with my relationship with my parents. I have been praying about this relationship sincerely for 4 years and that’s why I am very confused on what to do because I know deep down in my heart that this is meant to be my husband but the fact that these just so much ish as Stella called it is messing with me.
My parents and I do not attend the same church since we don’t stay in the same country. I have brought up the idea of a neutral ground but my boyfriend insists that it has to be in a Catholic Church. I sincerely don’t want to lose my parents or my boyfriend so I am between a rock and a hard place right now. I am not desperate to marry at all but at the same time I don’t want to miss out on the person that Was intended for me because to me marriage is for better or worse
Never been this confused in my life
He insists it must be in his church,sis I pity you o. It's obvious you love this guy more and he's doing you the favor of marrying you. He has no regard for you and your family. Go ahead and and run after him but remember as you lay your bed, so you'll lay on it.
Deletewedding ceremony na girl church or her family will decide it. it is after wedding that she moves to her husband's church. i for one will not date who i can not marry. and i also want my parent blessing.
ReplyDeleteThe phrase sht” seems within the dialogue.
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