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WEDDING ISH
I have been dating my man for 3 years now, we knew we were going to get married, we discussed it from day one. This year is our year, you know.
Anyways, he popped the question Valentine day, I excitedly said yes, called my family and friends to share the good news. It's been a long time coming. The googling of wedding vendors, dresses and all started, my own Cinderella dream.
2 weeks later, I found out I was pregnant, I was happy, because babies are miracles, but I felt down also, because well, timing was not right. I had just gotten my dream job, just got engaged and then pregnant. I went through the motions of what will my parents say, what will people say, my church, everybody. Funny enough my family took it well, they were excited. My best friend also. I zeroed my mind from my big wedding to a small intimate something that we can quickly do sharp sharp.
Then money came to play. My fiance was extra happy about the baby, but money for a quick quick wedding was not readily available. All the wedding planners told me to budget at least 6m for my wedding, how do we get that in less than 4 months. We currently both earn 300k each, that's 600k together. His family has always wanted a big wedding, because he is the first son and the dad has an important role.
2 weeks later, I found out I was pregnant, I was happy, because babies are miracles, but I felt down also, because well, timing was not right. I had just gotten my dream job, just got engaged and then pregnant. I went through the motions of what will my parents say, what will people say, my church, everybody. Funny enough my family took it well, they were excited. My best friend also. I zeroed my mind from my big wedding to a small intimate something that we can quickly do sharp sharp.
Then money came to play. My fiance was extra happy about the baby, but money for a quick quick wedding was not readily available. All the wedding planners told me to budget at least 6m for my wedding, how do we get that in less than 4 months. We currently both earn 300k each, that's 600k together. His family has always wanted a big wedding, because he is the first son and the dad has an important role.
So his parents, surprisingly, are the ones who are angry and complaining, asking him if this is his priority right now. That he must do a big wedding or nothing, without considering the fact that I would most likely have put to bed or be extra pregnant before we can get the money. They said if we go ahead to do it quick quick as we are suggesting, using the little we have , they won't contribute and they will be disappointed. They said we should use the little we have right now saved for the baby and just do trad rights and court. They said a lot about money, having savings here and there and not just jumping and using all our funds for a wedding. (We were not planning that, we kept some aside obviously because of our baby)
I sincerely do think its unfair to me and my family. I have not told my parents yet, but my dad who is also popular in his church will not be happy about this. My mum hasn't even told him, I am pregnant yet.
I am not happy, confused and just praying for a change. I only want what's best for the baby What do we do?
I sincerely do think its unfair to me and my family. I have not told my parents yet, but my dad who is also popular in his church will not be happy about this. My mum hasn't even told him, I am pregnant yet.
I am not happy, confused and just praying for a change. I only want what's best for the baby What do we do?
*If they want a Big wedding,ask them if they can Bankroll it since they insist!!!
What is all this with he is the first son blah blah blah?Only in Nigeria!!!
What is even their business?All that concerns them is that they get an invite to attend the wedding and they play the role of parents or sponsors if they want....haba!
Hmm my dear,you better pray real hard and resist it now cos i see them being the ones in control of your marriage...WTF!!!
Omg...6m for wedding
ReplyDeletePls what will u people eat after the wedding???
6m for wedding & ure going OMG?
DeleteIt dsnt rain on every roof oh!
Poster!
You have a man that loves he had to put a ring on it.
You both have a 6 figure paying job.
You have a baby on the way already
You have family with a good head on their shoulders...
& ure here writing a chronicle?
Abeg shift lemme read from ppl with real life problems!!!
Abeg help me ask am ....6m???? I shock for the matter
DeleteTHEY EARN 600 K A MONTH SO SAVING 6M A YEAR IS NO BIG DEAL. PEOPLE RICH OUTSIDE NA. N HER PARENT WANT TO SUPPORT TOO. THIS IS A RICH FAMILY. I SURE SAY THEM STILL GET SIDE HUSSLE. ALL FINGERS ARE NOT THE SAME NA
Delete@Sharon that's small oh! Especially in lagos/abuja. All these 'dream wedding things aren't cheap my sister.
DeleteBetter chronicle.
DeleteYou and hubby don't have problem.
It is wekl with you both.
those of us that spent over 15M are just passing by.... lol
DeleteSince they want big wedding or na society wedding the parents need and they have money here and there, my dear, go dobale for them to bank roll the wedding for una. No big deal in that and no shame. Shebi they will still rejoice with their son and grand son.
ReplyDeleteIt is well with you.
Oya poverty anonymous, come and see someone working for N300k. Nonsense people
It is well,may God lead u right but i guess it's good to keep d money also for d arrival of ur child,best of luck
ReplyDeleteDo your Traditional and court wedding so your baby isnt born out of wedlock. Those are the most binding anyway. If I were you, I wouldnt even bother about a church wedding afterwards.... Just a waste of resources, in my opinion.
ReplyDeleteI Love your opinion ,,exactly what I wanted to type
DeleteYou call it church or white wedding, that is not important. Once your dowry is paid to your parents and the umunna, nne you are married. All these other ones are ceremonies.
DeleteYou dwell in the church
ReplyDeleteYou f*ck very well without being married
You worry about what church people will say to your being pregnant?
What friends will say
But never wonder about what God your creator will say or how he feels about your fornication?
Please what is the definition of hypocrisy.
do as i say and not do as i do. i try. Toke is no 1 hypocrisy
Deleteshut the f**K_up! If you have never gbenshed before raise up your hand. They both made a mistake that resulted into pregnancy and you are here talking about hypcrosy in the church. Just shut up your mouth and read comment if you don't have anything positive to contribute.
DeleteWhich mistake with all eyes open?
DeleteMy dear poster, go and do traditional and court wedding and save your money for your dedication/Thanksgiving period. Forget about big wedding because it does not bring happiness only invite Jesus into your home before anything. All the best.
SPERM is not water but a super-active agent that travels fast to its destination.
Worry not dear poster.
Christianity has indeed become just a religion. All i see is someone bothered about what her pastor church family n whoever else would say not God. Why exactly do u go to church? Dont deceive yourself God cannot be mocked.
DeleteWedding is just a day. Be wise in ur spending. Use dat money to get ur baby a green passport n secure a better future for her instead.
I pity people dat live tgeir lives being so bothered about what others think or say about dem. U spend d money u dont have to impress people dat dont really care about u. U re on a long thing.
Dear Lord, please teach me to focus on what you think of me, rather than what people think. Amen 🙏
DeleteWhat really do you want to hide by doing "quick quick wedding?"
ReplyDeleteHide pregnancy and the fact that you've been drilled very well even as you hide behind that white gown and veil?
After hiding it from the church/all and sundry, how do you hide it from God?
Who really are you deceiving?
That first son, and only son thing annoys me to the core. Very backwards mentality
ReplyDeleteSo annoying, some go even say d naming ceremony of ur first child will take place in their home town not considering d stress and all sort
DeletePoster abeg no case here, do tradit iona and court after delivery una do white depending on your church sha. Don't allow his family opinion to turn u to baby mama.
DeleteWhen una dey f8ck you dey shout harder, give it to me real hard,
ReplyDeleteyou write chronicle?
When belle show, you were happy, you write chronicles invite us?
Now the consequences of opening legs before marriage don show, you begin dey invite us?
The parents fit tell them make he dump you say him no be the owner of that belle and wetin you go do?
foolish girls open legs chop pps before marriage!
Anon we've heard na. Abi how many times do you want to comment on this post? Kindly allow us read other people's opinion. Thank you
DeleteThe sweetest and most positive chronicle i have read in a long time, thanks for sharing and may God show you the right way.
ReplyDeleteYou should leave the wedding and do the traditional and court.. after your baby is born, you can combine the christening and church Blessing together. Good luck!!
ReplyDeletePlease next time remember your Fathers position in the church and don’t put him through things like this again. If you must do it, use condom..
Exactly my thoughts. These day pole need to get their priorities right!
DeletePoster considering the position of your parents in the church, insist on all the wedding in low key, don't use all your life saving for a wedding just to impress the family, save for the ☔ days, if his family insist on big wedding they should bank roll it 100% else manage the wedding as your hands reach.
ReplyDeleteThe poster is just like BamBam wey dey fuck but get innocent face.now you dey think of wetin your papa go talk and church people..oniranu
DeletePutting the cart before the horse =
ReplyDeletePutting the belle before the wedding 👍🏽
Hmmmmm 6m wedding?and I had serious quarrel with fiancé who is budgeting 500k for wedding and am pleading to him to raise the budget to at least 800k not even a million.
ReplyDeleteI even told him dat I will contribute 200k for the wedding to make d budget 800k.
I no dey marry again, let me even call him. Poster thanks very much for opening my eyes
hahahahahaha, please allow him to do the N600k wedding, then with your 200k buy or add anything that you want. this period is not a smiling period except he is stingy.
DeleteOfficially Anon 15:51, you are the most foolish person I have ever seen. Call off the wedding, I think you will be doing that guy a big favor. Anu mpama!!!
DeleteYou b confirm ofewere aswear...
DeleteWinners chapel awaits you in 2035.
All hands are not equal
DeleteBe guided.
May God open your see of understanding.
Good luck to you.
You no ready to marry be that
DeleteYou forget all fingers are not equal. Mind yourself oo! You better marry him and continue the fuck.
DeleteCut your coat according to your size. The amount you spend in weddings doesn't in anyway determine how happy you'll be because you think people will be talking about your wedding afterwards. Why is the Nigerian society so competitive in nature especially in events such as weddings?
DeleteI no come see wet in I type, no strength to retype.
ReplyDeleteRich pikin, you are alre a dynamic pregnant put of wedlock, find a way to convince your Bobo so you can do small wedding and use your money for the baby.
You have ring no mean say he Don marry you oo
Lol. I cnt insult her because me self they collect steady prick from my bf.babe do traditional nd enter your house.
ReplyDeleteChurch wedding for whaaah? Abeg do court and traditional. You want church people to come and give you the usual drama over belle wey you carry? Except na Catholic Church, if not don't bother. Call a pastor to court to bless you both and do lunch/dinner with family afterwards. Yea, it may not be what you planned but you didn't remember that when you were chopping d*ck. Lol.
ReplyDeleteSwitch it up girl!!
Don't give birth to that innocent baby out of wedlock because of your selfish reasons of wanting a big wedding. Whatever you do, have whatever type of wedding before the baby. Left for me, do church wedding alone , scrap d trad.
ReplyDeleteIf his parents want a big ceremony then they should pay for it but for you and your man, learn to live within your means. Pls do something small before this pregnancy shows.... court and traditional, start planning for your baby and live your life. Like Stella said, I see this family controlling you guys if you don't respectfully and quietly put them in their place now. All the best....
ReplyDeleteMa'am just try to have a grand traditional,everything to your taste and registry to,if your hubby-to-be is not ready to take his stand,enjoy what you can have but pray against his parents making decisions for you o!!
ReplyDeleteWhy not do a registry and trad then the big white later, when his parents are ready to bankroll it. Or better still just elope to Zanzibar.
ReplyDeleteWhatever you decide just don't go into debt over a wedding. A big wedding does not guarantee a happy married life. Let your parents and his bring what they have then your fiance and you being yours and wherever it get you so be it. God forbid your baby should need special care, or you require a c-section where will the money come from when you spent it all on wedding. Nothing is wrong with an intimate gathering, the parents can still invite their close friends,the whole church doesn't need to show up. Like I said whatever you decide please do not get in debt over any wedding. One day of not even 12 hours total is not worth years of paying off debt, and it does not matter how high your salaries are, I am sure you want to buy a nice home eventually and save for your children's education, be able to take a family vacation every year, and also the luxury of a couples getaway too. Think of the quality of life you want to have after marriage, that is where your focus should be. Your relationship sounds joyful do not introduce financial problems into your life to cause any strife in your marriage.
ReplyDeleteHmmmm.....ask God for wisdom
ReplyDeleteAwwww dear poster I feel your pains I have an event planner that can plan your wedding at a very considerable fee and it will still look glamorous..you can send me a mail: c2floxy@yahoo.com or better still check out her ig handle: florah _signatures...trust me you won't regret this plus I hope this helps.
ReplyDeleteIt is a sin to have sex before marriage. Let's face the truth. if you didn't open your legs all this epistle will not be written abi? Please first of all ask God to forgive you oh! God is so good, he forgives and forgets but scares still dey show for us sha. Secondly just pray his parents understand and agree for a small wedding, small weddings are so cool and romantic. Not all these crowd for person wedding.
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