1. Rejecting food when there's an issue:
Mr husband, you gave your wife money for food and after it was prepared you refused to eat because you are angry. It's one of the greatest signs of immaturity, it's time to grow up! You should not even abandon your home for any reason. You could go somewhere when angry but ensure that you don't allow it to linger unnecessarily because that is enough for the devil to build on even though some women can be really troublesome.
2. Telling your wife severally that you are the head:
May I let you know that even when your wife disobeys/ disrespect you she still knows that you are the head. You need not shout or scream it daily. Or do we need to get you a slot on CNN? It's important for you to know when and how to be firm and put your feet down over issues, however don't become a nagging husband just to prove that you are the head.
3. Issuing threats:
beating, verbally abusing your wife, issuing threats of divorce or bragging about marrying another wife does not make you a man. An EMPTY barrel makes the loudest noise. Your strength is in your ability to tame your tongue and control your fist. When she is acting her "childish woman" part, play the "matured man."
4. Reporting your wife to friends and family:
When your wife offends you, correct and talk things through. You don't have to tell everyone about her mistakes, that will paint her black and sell her cheap such that you will not be able to redeem her back.
By the way, are you a reporter answer my question ?
5. Keeping malice:
is it not funny to know that some men keep malice? Some of them even nag, criticise, abuse and call their wives names in public. It may make you look like a "big boy" who's in control but you are not going to gain anything good from it, your home will only be a den of insults and confrontations.
6. Not helping with house chores:
I must say here that it is the sole responsibility of a woman to tend and manage a home when she chooses to be a full time house wife.
However, it's not a bad thing if a man lends a helping hand when necessary. Watching football with newspaper in your hand every evening, not caring how stressful the house chores are will only increase the pressure on your wife and if you truly care you'll help, just checking on her while busy could encourage and sooth her, this also makes you a good example to the kids especially the boys. Some men don't even say "thank You" to their wives after eating, all they do is compare her with other women. It's a shame that after having 3-4 kids some men cannot change a simple diaper or prepare cereal meals; a big shame.
My point?
A REAL man is a pillar of support to his wife, not a hole of depression.
#copied.
If they will listen. No be men?
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ReplyDeleteIyanuAshele..
I love the cooking part..
I prefer to cook more...
Help mostly in kitchen activities.
Don't like the, "WHAT IS A MAN DOING IN THE KITCHEN THING"
it makes me feel embarassed..
Okay...noted!
ReplyDeleteMy boyfriend ask for everything he gets for me back when I threaten to leave the relationship or when we fight .
ReplyDeleteHe request for everything he has gotten for me to the lowest point
What a man! so childish
DeleteMy dear u never see husband o. Keep searching.
DeleteAren't you lucky he's still a boyfriend?
Delete1,4,5,6 sounds familiar. Currently having issues with hubby. The thing don tire me abeg..
ReplyDeleteAll men have one or two of these points .. make una change o
ReplyDeleteLols...thou my husband has 1 to 3...the rest,we are good...
ReplyDeleteAm the head and u are my helper😁
Malice oo na my husband, shouting i'm the head na my husband, reporting skills to anybody reportable na my husband, not eating my food when we have issues na my husband,i tire sometimes u just wonder if u married blindly, i have my own too but sometimez i feel like i need someone with a matured mind and guess what he old pass me with 6years. I realised late dt maturity is nt by age
ReplyDeleteMy husband is expert in 5 & 6.
ReplyDeleteMine is all except he doesnt threaten. Such a kid
ReplyDelete@Anon 13:31. And you will return back everything? You're the one encouraging such rubbish. What of the ones you gave ? Very childish man
ReplyDeleteApparently she didn't give anything. Only her pussy waka com
DeleteMy husband has all even plus other the u did not mention. Infact I am just on my own with my kids
ReplyDeleteAre you sure you are not the cause.?
DeleteAnonymous 16:35 you r d reason y people suffer on marriages.because of comments like urs
DeleteThis generation of Nigerian men generally are useless. Very useless and know NOTHING about marriage. As far as they are concerned, their responsibility is just to eat and fuck. Making the marriage work is the woman's responsibility. Very primitive, unevolved creatures with inferiority complex and baboon egos.
ReplyDeleteI honestly think it's better to be a single mother or single than be 'chained' to what I my seeing.
See comments on this post from married women even acknowledging that their husband's fall into multiple categories here. How do you people cope honestly. Me that my peace of mind is paramount, I can't sacrifice it for anything. Imagine a comment I just saw 'I am the head, you are the helper'!!!!
That's how you go around discouraging and inciting other ladies instead of you to encourage them.
DeleteYou think Being a single mother is the solution or a way out?
Check critically, these single mothers are the one looking for people's husband to finance their bills, breaking other ladies home.
God will help us
ReplyDeleteall comments in anon mode.diaris God ooooo
ReplyDelete🤣🤣🤣🤣 of kez! To come with ID and say how sweet the samd marriage is.
DeleteI almost entered one chance with someone that does 2,3,4,5 and even more sef. everybody knows his business, always reporting to ppl I did this, I did that.. oya what did I do? the idiot wanted to nag me into another planet. Thank God I received sense and quietly withdrew myself. He should be there saying my wife, my wife .. nna efelem aka gashi ike.
ReplyDeleteOzugbo.. Lol
DeleteI have leant to live with the only thing we have here,thank God!!
ReplyDeleteKuku kee my oga before he helps with chores,Chai!!feeding the kids o ehnehn but anything else?like boiling ordinary water?NBA o!!
Leaves the house before dawn and gets back pretty late so when is the time to help with the plates?kikikik!!
My ex husband is expert with that was mentioned up there, thank God he left the marriage before he send me to my early grave.
ReplyDeleteAll xteristics of a Nigerian man...
ReplyDeleteMy hubby is such an angel....the opposite of what is written....but i don't love him....wish i can divorce him but we have 3 kids.....mmmmm
ReplyDeleteU see d problem pple dont love good men, someone u shuld cherish and grow to love
DeleteShit write up. How then should a man express his anger or frustrations? I guess he will start dancing shaku shaku.
ReplyDeleteWith the mouth God gave you rather than throwing tantrums. Or a you a baby? Grow up!!!!
DeleteSee women and responses. I guess a punch in the face will do it for you guys...
ReplyDeleteMy own want me to sell tomatoes n go to farm 2 feed bcoz say e no get work,he said I ve not don any tin 4 him d man I Don sell akra 2 feed d 🏡 no don't even ve respect 4 my parents infant he is mummy's boy so I left wit my 3 kids,am just 27
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