STAND ALONE NARRATIVE
IN LOVE WITH AN ABOUT TO BE DIVORCED MAN
Hi Stella babe! Nice job you're doing here.
There's something really bothering my mind and I thought I share it here with my fellow bvs. I am 26 and a working class lady. I finished my youth service two years ago.
During my service year, I met and fell in love with this caring, handsome, loving dude. This man has been with me through thick and thin. He is all that I've ever dreamt of and wanted in a man. He is everything to me. Though he is not financially buoyant but I don't have a problem with that cos I have my own job and business too.
he's always there for me. He advises me like a father. He is so nice and caring. When we first met, I never thought of dating him. He told me he likes me and I laughed over it. Though I knew then that he really meant it but I was just being careful cos I've been been heart broken before and don't wanna go through it again.
We started off as friends and gradually I started having feelings for him. Right now, I am so madly and deeply in love with him. I can't go a day without thinking of him. Dude has created a vacuum in my heart that no one can fill. I love him so so much that I can't even explain it.
The issue is that he is married with three kids. (he is 36) He told me right from d beginning that he's been married for six years but he's having issues with his wife.(story for another day). They've been separated twice but he tried to patch things up cos of d kids.
I have asked questions about him from people who really know his family well, they said the man is a nice person but he made the mistake of marrying the wrong woman. I'm not trying to bring the woman down but everyone knows her to be very lousy. I've never met her but I've seen her pics. The problem right now is that this man wants us to take our relationship to the next level. He wants to see my people but I've been delaying him cos I'm scared of my parents reaction.
Moreover I don't wanna regret my decision later. His wife already filed for a divorce and dey are working on it. I broke up with him last month telling him to go patch things up with his wife. But he kept on begging.he even fell sick in the process. He already told his people about us and they've approved it already.
We are so madly in love with each other. His friends call us Romeo and Juliet.
His mum likes me too and she calls me her daughter. I never dreamt of marrying a divorcee. I don't wanna be tagged a home breaker. I love this man so very much. He is so fragile and I don't wanna hurt him.
Pls has anyone been in this kinda situation before? I need mature advise Please.
Should I go on and marry him? We love each other so much and I don't think I can do without him in my life. Please don't cuss me out. I just can't help it
Please husband, leave person husband, go look for your own.
ReplyDeleteIf truly he is a "Nice" guy, why is wifey jumping out?.
DeleteBabe, pack your heart inside bra first. You might be the cause of the divorce sef. His affection and attention has shifted 100% to you and wifey is left with nothing.
I heard good Mistress even mend marriages (I heard o) but here you are falling in love with a "busy dick" and depriving a lousy woman (according to you) her joy.
The problem is you've allow emotions becloud your Sense of reasoning. Stop sexing him... Ignore his mother (most women support their sons so as to enjoy more financial gifts). Search within I am sure you don't want to be in her shoes.
Ms Poster, I put it to you that you're part of this man's issue with his wife. You can't be exonerated from his refusal to patch things up with his wife.
DeleteHow do you even intend to cope with 3 kids plus your own in one house should he retain custody of all of them?
Nawa. Leave another woman's man alone for your own good. Those kids will see you as the person who broke their parents' marriage and that's not something you want to deal with for the rest of your life
Poster, hmmmn this fits me too well. Where does he reside? What is his profession. Where did he tell you his wife and kids are? I just need these answers to know if it’s me. Because he has been begging me to come back. And I will tell you what to do. Kindly reply.
DeletePoster, hmmmn this fits me too well. Where does he reside? What is his profession. Where did he tell you his wife and kids are? I just need these answers to know if it’s me. Because he has been begging me to come back. And I will tell you what to do. Kindly reply.
DeleteHi five Stella ✋. The story get as e be. E be as e get. Poster let me try to hanser you. You are on a long thing. You seem to thrive on situationships. Ndi Kwa he is so fragile and you don't want to hurt him. You have 2 heads abi? Or you are made of iron? Na you sabi! But biko is the D sweet? Cos dis ya love na real wa.
DeleteThey repeatedly tried to patch things up before you came into the picture. You have been Romeo and Juliet with him for 2 whole years. Unfortunately, you are the reason the wife is finally filing for a divorce. You are a cold hearted home breaker.
DeleteYou are Romeo and Juliet with a married man for 2 years?!? Oh my God!!!
DeleteUseless man, useless mother and u useless girlfriend!!!!!
DeleteLet me send you better knock make you wake up from that mumu dream.
ReplyDeleteWhat I think:
Delete- Mr is lazy and broke
- Mrs foots most of the bills and probably has much pressure on her.
- Mrs is sick and tired of managing a lazy, broke cheat hence she decides to give herself peace by leaving.
PLEASE MARRY HIM BECAUSE YOU DESERVE THIS SHIT IN YOUR LIFE. DATING A MARRIED MAN WHO IS PROBABLY NOT PROVIDING FOR HIS FAMILY.
HIS MUM AND FRIENDS PROBABLY LIKE YOU BECAUSE YOU SPEND ON HIM AND THEY FEEL YOU ARE BETTER THAN THE WIFE WHO PROBABLY DOESNT BECAUSE SHE HAS KIDS TO TAKE CARE OF.
HAPPY WEDDING DAY CELEBRATIONS IN ADVANCE MUMU HOE/HOMEBREAKER.
Poster face your front and leave another woman's husband. Mtchewww
DeleteAnon15:50 pls I need to buy u a cold bottle of anything you want pls pls and pls.this ur response is just too true.u said exactly what it is kai abeg I shall buy u a drink biko
Delete16.36 abeg I prefer hot chocolate. The temperature here is -18 so no chilled coke biko. Leave the mumu girl.
DeleteWisdom wee nor kee you Amen
DeleteAnon 15:50 clap for your self biko. The small girl want to carry heavy cross wey big pass am and will surely send another Chronicle before the year runs out if she eventually marry the man.
Deletehmmmmm dicey. What will the wife think when he sees you as you are the cause of her getting divorced. 2 years into the relationship and the man had lost interest in the wife, so he is now unto you.
ReplyDeleteyour mind is made up already. stop pretending. MARRY HIM and take care of the excess baggage, because the wife will always come around for the children and you know what that means. She will forever be in your life and that man's own because of the children. Do you want that? You know 3 is a problem. 2 is a couple. Oya choose.
I am sure she will want to have her own kids too, the man isn't financially buoyant yet he has had enough sexual advances with "his lousy wife" to have 3 kids in 6 years?
DeleteWhat a lousy wife she must be. Mcheeew...yeye dey smell
I feel like dropping my good home training to cuss out this poster. For two good years you have been dating this man. I can imagine the everyday quarrels in that home cos of your presence,the children witnessing it all etc. This is why I dislike all these side chick issues. The man will tell you his wife's fault which I'm sure is very much justified and you will try to act different so as to be seen as better than. There are men that cab bring out the devil in women. 3kids in 6yrs out of which you have dated him 2years. I don't even know what to write for you again. Be prepared for drama as that "lousy and bad" woman will always be in your life
DeleteWait hollup hollup.
ReplyDeleteI was already wondering what could be wrong with all the nice things you first listed till I got to the he is married with 3 kids.
See how you just dropped the explosive like it's nothing.
WOW, not 1 but 3 kids and a woman who is oblivious of your existence and still thinks she is married.
Of course it's the woman that is the problem and not the man. Forget story of people backing his claims of him marrying a wrong woman.
You simply do not know the extent men go to get what they want, they make others believe they are the only righteous one.
You think because his mum and friends know you you are special? LMAO I feel sorry for you because the same cane used to flog first wife would be used on you.
He is a cheat and a liar, he married that woman with eyes wide opened and had three kids with her.
C'mon three kids didn't fall from the sky.
Hopefully, your parents don't get carried away like you and chase him out of the house if you go ahead with this silly plan to marry someone's husband.
Yes, you're an husband snatcher and the man is scum but you both deserve each other seeing as you want to live your life caring for another woman's husband and kids.
Thief!!!
If only she can see what's coming to her.
DeleteGod bless you.
Delete😂😂😂😂😂😂 Stella wahali you be real case.
ReplyDeleteYou are 26 and wasting y0ur time with a broke married father of three? Hmmmm your mother should better goan give village people salt make dem stop to de use your destiny cook soup.............if not, see you at shiloh 2028 crying oh God? Send me my own husband
ReplyDeleteOmg..ur last part got me lofl🤣
DeleteThis is tough, i can't judge you for falling in love and meanwhile you haven't heard from the wife to know if all that is true, so i advice you forget about him and move on cos you will never have peace in that home considering he already has three kids, that's enough baggage to deal with.
ReplyDeletePlease when you finally marry if you will, don't judge the girls that will fall in love with your husband okay. And please give audience to the girls that will come to you confirm what your husband is telling them.
DeleteAnon is like you lack basic comprehension
DeleteAnon 17:40 don't mind her. She is saying all that to feel less guilty. There can never be peace for the wicked
DeleteFrom your story,you've already made up your mind and want us to help you validate your decision to marry him. Go ahead and do what pleases you...
ReplyDeleteHahahahahahahahaha.. Some ladies need help ASAP
ReplyDeleteImagine what a single type up here🤦🤦🤦
The thunder that will fire you eh, it will come with 100% full battery charge!!! Your father!!!
ReplyDelete26yrs old, and uve been fucking someones husband & enjoying it, see lemme tell u, do ur research also, meat wey person de thief sabi sweet, but buy that same meat, the taste go change, small ashawo nai u be. All marriages got various challenges huge n minute from time to time, you came in and made things worse, the chances they had to repair the rift btween them, u stepped in and prevented it from happening with yeye love, love that the kids will make sure it goes sour.... wait n see na mumu, ur eye go clear.. another person prick de sweet u
So this is not a case of deceit. He told you from the beginning that he was married and you went ahead with the relationship?
ReplyDeleteHow sure are you that you’re not part of the problem in that marriage?
Please distance yourself from that family and allow the man to make his decisions with a clear head! It would also give you the opportunity to be more objective.
Sex has probably happened between you two and it’s clouding your objectivity.
i am sure he felt giddy with love too when he met his wife, pshhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhw don't go and find your own be there home breaker. Bring Jamb question come give us make we answer now.
ReplyDeleteOnce a cheat, always a cheat.
DeleteEveryone knows she's lousy yet you've not met her before to know if all you've been told about her are true. Why judge her based on hear say? Babe shine your eyes o.
ReplyDeleteAccording to u, d man is not financially bouyant but u don't care since u have a job n biz.
ReplyDeleteHas it occurred to u that his wife became tired of shouldering d family responsibilities since he's not bouyant enof?
You won't care now cos u r receiving hot doggy, but when reality sets in, you'll see why d former wife ran away but shame won't make u run too. Just my slippery observation.
lol@ Hot doggy... abeg cold doggy de?
DeleteThe hot doggy is touching her womb.. 😂
DeleteAll I keep hearing is how much you both love each other! Since you had the mind to date him so u also have the mind to marry him ,carry on na.
ReplyDeleteAs for me I can't date a married man & marry him ,even if he is in the divorce process. Follow you heart,if you happen to get burnt at any point you get over it.
I feared married man dick then eeh...kai...Oga ayo ayo gbakwa dimkpa
DeleteI bu oke Ada, the amu ga agba dikpa no bie small😂😂😂
DeleteTo slap this poster just dey hungry me aswear
ReplyDeleteNo be only u I swear!u falling in love with a broke father of 3?u no de shame?u falling in love with a broke married man! It's like povert is ur portion!abeg u guys shd allow her marry her liability o!becos his broke his been loyal,wen he gets some change now d guy wd show u hs true colours den u wd come and be disturbing stella to send ur chronicles to us for advice!u are just a scallwag!a bombastic element!silly idiot!ds poster with her useless chronicles just de vex me!oloribuku somebody!oponu oshi!
DeleteNhiem inukwa! Akokor na egwu mike Ejeagha. Ummm! Madam nice woman! Answer. U used one full page to tell us how u love or have been loving another woman's husband. My dear good woman so his wife is bad, u even went to ask about her. U are a lies, u are painting a woman black after sleeping with her husband and causing problem in his marriage. You have even been talking to his mother, he fell sick as honey u are. My dear no matter how u try to justify your actions. You can never be right. All I can say is best of lucks to you. Better go and find your husband cos you will never be happy with that man if you by chance have a hand in the present state of his marriage. Let me tell you a little story you see the same way he is all that with you is the same way his wife was all that to him. When one does wrong, u seem to be on the winning end now with no Consequences, victory is sweet but it can never last because you are building on a wrong ground and with a wrong foundation. Leave him alone. Go and find your own husband if not mark my words u must surely cry soon.
ReplyDeleteWhether she finds her own husband or not she will surely cry the same cry this man's wife is currently crying.
DeleteEvery girl dating a married man MUST some day experience a stranger in her home. Iseee
Poster you are a fool!!! No go look for your own man, be there forming romeo and Juliet OK! !! How do you wanna cope with all his problems.
ReplyDeleteYou believe the wife was the cause of their break up and for your mind you are miss perfect and the right woman for him huh??? I peri you!! Not pity.
Carry your cross by yourself and don't ever in your life send chronicle here oo. Oloshi
Romeo and Juliet with papa mmadu ato...Chukwu aju...madam Juliet don't deprive those children their Fathers care as you deprive their mum.
DeleteLol husband snatcher. Lolz pls do you work in festac??? Is like I know the poster!! My dear plz stop fucking another woman husband nne oo. The Lord is your strength
ReplyDeletePoster ur just a mumu you want to waste ur youth with a second hand man
ReplyDeleteWhat happened to husband of ur youth theory
I'm sure the cause of the wife"s lousy behaviour she-devil leave married men alone it doesn't n will never end well
Go n look for ur own
Abeg I don't know what to advise. Pls shift!!!
ReplyDeleteMy dear, people will always tag you a home breaker, but live your life for yourself not for others, do what makes you happy and don't forget the wife will always be in the picture, can you also handle been step mother to three children??? That's excess baggage if you ask me.
ReplyDeleteMama whatever, the girl that will break your home will do it because:
Delete- she lives her life for herself and not for others
- she does what make her happy
You talk so lightly about it as if you forced your way into someone's home.
Lol mum story indeed!!! Why do women have fish brain!!!! You be really mumu
ReplyDeleteI think it's okay to marry him so when he leaves you for no 3 girl, you feel what the wife is feeling now.
ReplyDeletePLEASE MARRY HIM, ASHAWO.
You broke up last month after how many years of frolicking with someone's husband???
Why didn't common sense tell you to find your square root and when he has sorted himself out with his wife that is, if they are actually getting a divorce, you can start up a relationship.
A man has issues at home, according to you and instead of giving him space to work things out with the mother of his children, you jump in
May what has befallen this woman be your portion whether you marry him or not.
And by the way, everyone speaks bad about his wife yet he married her. He obviously has issues choosing a good woman so my dear marry him and in 2 years we'll hear your own story.
IDIOT HO
I'm so pissed, what's this generation turning into??? You're not even afraid that woman might harm you. Which woman will 'happily' leave her home for a girl?
At your age you no get sense!! You better leave my husband alone. Ooo he lied to you? Don't leave him and see fire!!! Husband sbatches like you!!! Olosho.
ReplyDeleteSnatcher***
ReplyDeleteThe broom that was used in chasing the first wife will be used in chasing the second wife.
ReplyDeleteYou were obviously dating him while he was still married and from your post you've come to a decision already. you're looking for someone to tell you to go ahead when you're already knowing family members. It's okay!
The wife is the one divorcing him is that not enough signal for you? I'm sure he cooked up one pathetic story to favour himself, and being the lover girl that you are you bought it hook, line and sinker. My dear when something is too good to be true then it is too good to be true. Use your brain to think not your heart.
Note: If you want to enquire about someone, don't go to mutual acquaintance they'll definitely tell you something nice because of your relationship with him.
Who will believe you didn't play a role in the breakdown of the marriage
ReplyDelete.
Three kids already ??..hes not well to do .
You think it's only love that sustains a marriage, leave the man alone ...let him patch up with his wife, he's not officially divorced , you started dating him when they got separated , so in a way , you had a role in their situation .
Pray God sends you an unattached man jare .the same family and frds hailing you now will turn against you later
My sister in my opinion you are too young for all this. I got married late at 35 but I didn't still want a man with baggage. When I was 33 I also met a guy with 3 kids,mind you I met him and he hid his marital status and kids from me until i had fallen in love with him. I started having my doubts things were not adding up as he never wanted me to visit him. I found out and broke up the relationship. He also told me he is going through a divorce and didn't want to scare me away. Showed me all the divorce documents. He even called his family to speak to me to confirm. He wants to marry me when divorce is through but he needs time to settle her,get a place for her and the kids etc.
ReplyDeleteI told him uncle I am 33years of age I don't have that luxury of time etc.
Even though this guy was rich and can afford any amount of kids. I didn't want to start my marital life with a divorcee with 3 kids. That wasn't my plan for myself. Even friends told me to consider my age. The guy has money.how am I sure I will still find a guy without baggage.
My dear I did. I found a 38 year old,no baggage,rich and handsome. And we are married with a daughter now.
This your guy isn't buoyant as you said and already has 3 kids. You may end up having 2 atleast. You will just find out he can't cope providing for 5kids and you will br the one responsible for your kids.
Think well. But this is a no no for me. If me at 33 could not compromise on marrying divorcee with 3 kids. Why should you at 26. That woman sef will always be a torn in your flesh. You know what it is to have 3 kids for a man ???
This is the most sensible advice. Thank you sis for giving this advice from your wisdom. My dear, men like that are manipulative, unrepentant, highly irresponsible and lover boys for life. The fact that he’s not financially stable and had the chest to have three kids should be a flag to you. You are 26 and by your write up I can tell that you are extremely smart, owning your business as well as a regular job? Extremely outstanding! You are a shiny star, people like that end up frustrating you as well as dulling your star. Don’t mend things with him, tell him to get a job first, to show that he can continue to support his kids even after the divorce as you wouldn’t want to shoulder everything and watch his reaction. If you are supporting him in anyway, financially or otherwise, stop it immediately and please o beg you, focus on your life and your business. Strictly talking from experience, you are beautiful, smart and you are enough for yourself. Good luck and best wishes.
DeleteBitter truth indeed. May God bless your marriage anon. You are very intelligent.
DeleteBabe, in a but shell, you are dating a married man. This makes you a side chick. This man won't divorce his wife. You will just be a second wife, that's if its gonna happen. Don't be the cause for his divorce. Look for a young man free of baggage. His children won't forgive you. Do you think you will still love the man if the wife tells you the side of her own story?
ReplyDeleteYou are drunk in love...
ReplyDeleteYou made way for yourself to fall in love with him, what happened to staying away from a man that already has a home? No matter how broken the home is, he still has a home.
So the divorce procedure ain't even started and you are already being a wife?
That's how all these men will make you topple over with love before marriage and afterwards they will show you shege.
It's a trap, don't walk into it.
Lol he loves you so much because you are younger, has a job and a business. Take those away, and you will become another lousy wife.
ReplyDeleteNo she won't be 'another lousy wife', she will be termed 'a devilish wife' cos I'm sure his current wife is equally hardworking.
DeleteMy point exactly!
DeleteI don't wanna be tagged a home breaker" which home are you talking about? Is it the one you have already broken or what? Go ahead and marry him but know that what goes around always comes around.
ReplyDeleteYou are dating a married man and talking about love ...he's not divorced officially ...you think the love is always enough in marriage ?
ReplyDeleteThree kids ???? And he's not well to do ......stop wasting your time, your man is out there ...no one will ever believe you didn't play a role in his marriage breakdown including me .
All those family and frds hailing and liking you , go shock you !....don't be deceived, dump him ....
Poster even if I tell you not to marry him you will still marry him. So follow your heart.
ReplyDeleteNwanna International
DeleteYou are just a fool, home breaker looking for reasons to justify your selfish behaviour. If he was a real man and really loved you he would have divorced his wife first before having extra marital affairs with you. He has been married for 6 years and 4 years out of it he has been cheating on his wife you. His wife is so bad and he was able to fuck her to the extent of giving him 3 kids in less than 4 years. Unless he was dating you when she had the last baby which means he was fucking you and fucking his wife too. Both you and the man are wicked souls. Romeo and Juliet go and marry and you will die the way they died. FOOL.Both of you are bad people. His mother that calls you her daughter does she know you are fucking her son. Bet me that man will not marry you. If he does please send us a chronicle and prove us wrong. WICKED GIRL
ReplyDeleteLife is a very long time o my sister. There is too much drama here already. Allow that bros go and sort himself out without him having hope to hook up with you after leaving his wife. Ask yourself, if you were not in the picture, will he really leave his wife or try to make it work? Let single ladies please try to not get involved with married men. It's hard but just try. When the shoes are reversed it wont seem as much fun.
ReplyDeleteSound sound advice. I wish someone told me this.
DeleteSee mumu chronicle.
ReplyDeleteYou asked around and was told the woman is bad, you believed everything the man told you abi? just wait till you become his wife, then you will know how GOOD the man is.
And by the way, What is your assurance that this man wont date other women by the time you become his wife? A man that could date you while still married.
Don't just come back here with another chronicle two years from now to disturb us with stories of "had i know"
What am i saying sef, follow your mumu heart o
My dear, I will advice u to give it time.
ReplyDeleteJust 2 years more pls.
Don't take him to go see your family officially. But if u are close to your mum, pls tell her all. If not, an elderly married relation.
Girls are easily blinded by love & at ur age too when all dey think of is being married.
I haven't seen any divorcée who wants to rush into another marriage; not to talk of one yet to or in d process of getting divorce.
Most promiscuous married men are expert in d game of deceit, so u can hardly know if he is saying d truth.
Most of them have also used these lines to deceive many ladies.
I am sure all d people u asked about him are his friends or those u knew through him.
Try dig deeper, especially from neutral people.
If possible, find a way to know d wife personally.
My dear, marriage is deep ooooo. Shine your eyes
Yeye dey smell... At 26 you want to be a step mom to three kids.
ReplyDeleteYou need to go and detoxify your brain.
Is there a problem with being a step mom?
DeleteThe point is that the man is still married.
And the girl does not know the cause of that divorce.
You think the wife did not chant "I love him deeply and madly in love"
when the heat was on?
She's too young to be a step mom for three kids. That's a problem on it own.. This girl na homebreaker
DeleteSweetheart sometimes the heart chooses where to go and we are not in control of it. Good thing you are seeking advice; Please don't be the reason even if this couple have 1% chance of making up they can't. I know it's hard but please let it go. You are letting your heart control you and you are in the wrong path.
ReplyDeleteSister he would cheat on you in 6 years time and tell the same sub story to another 26 year old, I guaranteee you! Just watch. This is exactly my best friend's story. I supported her then becaue I thought their love was beautiful and nobody should die in an unhappy marriage but the men in this case usually have problems. So a woman who he has had three kids with has all of a sudden become a problem? I laugh in Spanish. You have no idea what you're getting yourself into.He did not tell you his fault in the marriage but he was quick to tell you he wanted you. That man lacks discipline and principle and sooner or later it would reflect in his dealings with you. It is funny how you both call yourselves Romeo and Juliet, it seems you guys know the tragedy that is awaiting your love like the characters you call yourselves. Now again you're just 26 why on earth can't you marry a single childless man? Why must you take what another woman had enjoyed and left? Did they curse you that you must be a step mother to not one or two but three children. Wait and see how that love would clear from your eyes when the reality of stepmotherhood hits you. You think marriage is about Romeo and Juliet. Girl don't be foolish afterall he is a married man you shouldn't have had anything to do with him in the first place. I applaud the wife for filing for divorce, she has decided to leave dogs where dogs belong. Both of you deserve each other and just screenshot my comment because if you go ahead with this man you would come back to read it and you would be filled with regret for not listening. It's not a curse, its just the way life works.
ReplyDeleteStella, I ddnt see my comment o.
ReplyDeletePoster, if you're from d SW, there's an adage that says "pankere ti a fi na iyale nbe ni oju orule fun iyawo". I dont think I got it right. It means that the Cain that is being used to flog the senior wife is on the lintel waiting to be used on the younger wife. Poster, in a nutshell, you're dating a married man. The kids and the woman won't forgive you o. Would you still have continued in the relationship if you've the chance of hearing the wife's side of the story. Better dont trust people hailing you, they are just doing that for their friend/brother. Don't be the reason for a broken home. Find a young guy.
Make I add to Stella sign out post: See as I dey look you and your mumu story.. Man wey never divorce,u wan chook head. Oya na,kontinu!!! Abeg dis heat too much for this yeye chronicle
ReplyDeleteReal life "mumu story"
ReplyDeleteThe man is married; period!
Once the wife sees that you are "getting married",
she will withdraw the divorce suit (if there is any) to frustrate both of you.
In fact, she will bid a come back and acid bath too "as a lousy woman she is?"
"You are madly in love"; really? Sound like you both are "mad"
"I love him deeply"; really? Isn't it because he has "penetrated deeply into your thing or hasn't he?"
How can you be loving another woman's husband and how will another woman be "coming to see your people" and
they approve; approve what really?
And you are a graduate?
and he isnt even financially bouyant? with all these jagbajagba issues sorrounding ur relationshit with him? smh!!!
ReplyDeletePoster, the truth is both of you were dating, his attention was shifted to you instead of mending his troubled home and you are the reason they are getting divorced. At 26 years , you cannot get a good young guy that will care for you ? abi?
ReplyDeleteSeems like you don't read the chronicle on polygamous bouhahaha, I give you 5-7 years , you will gladly send in yours to Stellakoko. Those children will never accept you and the woman will come back later. Then, you will understand better.
Yori Yori- I like your comment. If only she will listen.
Kwontinue!!!!
Ur case dey hellfire
ReplyDeletemy sister moved out of her matrimonial home because the ex horseband was cheating on her with his secretary. the secretary moved in immediately my sister left and have birth to a baby girl... the man started cheating on his secretary too with a university girl. now he is married to the Uni girl and the secretary? back to her mother's house. so poster just be careful and know what you are getting into
ReplyDeleteOne chance...
ReplyDeleteOne chance
ReplyDeleteStella, this your meme na serious rib cracker, lmao.
ReplyDeleteThat's how my elder sister met one 'about to divorce man'. The man convinced her to quit her job in Port Harcourt and join him in Abuja. Meanwhile the man's family were in Port Harcourt but he was working in Abuja so he visits Port Harcourt to see them. My Sis fell in love and against everyone's advice she married the man in the traditional way. Our parents gave in after she got pregnant. She Said they will do court wedding after the man's divorce. 5years and counting divorce is not through but that's not the story. My sister discovered he also didn't marry his Port Harcourt wife in court it was just traditional same as hers. Guess what? My sister is the 5th wife without counting other women that had children for the man. The man has women everywhere. Training so many children. The money that used to go round has stopped flowing.
ReplyDeleteChronicle poster please give it time. Don't be in a hurry.
Babe please I am not here to judge OK, but let me tell you this blunt truth "every man that people do say hez a nice man, are all characterized with not knowing what they want, they all ways tag along with all they see and don't know how to say no, in essence they are emotionally weak" why do you think girls leave them? Its cos they are not a good decision maker as compared to the acclaimed bad guys. Marry this guy and his emotional weakness and habit of not knowing how to say no will make him cheat on you/leave you. His wahala wife truly fits him (as alleged), DO NOT MEDDLE. The Lord is your help.
ReplyDeleteLeave person husband, them no go hear. We are in love, this n that, supri supri! But who do women like this?
ReplyDeleteMy mil is a second wife, and believe me it's her worst mistake in life, her hubby is dead n they were separated a long time before he died. He is a good boyfriend, will he make a good hubby? Ladies biko have sense na, I beg u single ladies in the name of Jesus, use ur head. He is kind, caring, wonderful, amazing and all that and yet his wife filed for divorce abi. Kedu onye a tinyere sugar na onu ogbukpu ya bikonu. Wisdom fall on you
Kwakwakwakwakwakwakwakwa. Someone please beg me to stop. " he fell sick in the process", "his mum likes me and calls me daughter", "his friends calls us Romeo and Juliet". See as shame leave you dey catch me and my friends on your behalf. Poster you're DELUSIONAL! At 26, you can't hook a man without baggage. Issorite! Women receive sense! We hear marriage and our common sense disappears. Women bringing each other down since BC. How can a mother with 3 grandchildren support whatever it is you people are doing? I've no words for her. As for you nne, leave married men alone. I see you like suffering, besides him being broke, you want to waste your entire youth pleasing kids that will always despise you? Anyways some people dine with suffering. Every marriage goes through patches. Leave that man to settle with his wife. You want to deny his kids the joy of growing up as a family in love and peace? Hook you're own man. Even ugly girls are hooking single men.
ReplyDeleteWhat is funny here is that nobody has encouraged her to marry the guy.women are their greatest enemies.I feel sorry for women who destroy homes.if not here on earth you will see shege in eternity.side chicks are now so bold they can even brandish a woman who has suffered with a "poor" man to create a home.u don't mind the pain those kids will go through just because u want to satisfy ur sexual urge.u say make dem no cuss u out so make dem clap for u abi?hmmm kai na wah oh.ur mama no remember to train u.
ReplyDeleteOMG a sis is about falling for the lies of a man... Lol truly there are naive people out there. Sis all the man told u bout his wife is steaming lie.. The wife is not divorcing him. he wants u to agree to marry him then he will send his wife parking.. OMG he even gbensh his wife this night. yes o he will still take his right until u agree so he will chase d woman. Haaaaaa men can lie ooo. you don't know 26 you are too young to make this mistake.. babe this man will leave everything for u. cos he will want to attend to his other kids baby shopping is up to 200k ooo.delivery nko. I no pray for cs for u. please that Man is a lying scoundrel
ReplyDeleteAs lousy as she is, he married her and as lousy as she is, they kept kpanshing till they birthed three kids. That man is not loyal and is very wicked. So it is after making the woman a mother of THREE children that he remembered that she is lousy. LOL (I laugh in Spanish).
ReplyDeleteBabe, this your chronicle annoyed the shit out of me because I hate men that leave their faithful wives at home to go and stick their dirty stick in h*es like you and girls like you that knowingly open your legs for married men.
Men will always be men and shallow ones like this one will always be turned on and excited by shinny new things like you. I will not advise you not to marry him o because I know you have made up your mind so there is no use but lemme state that it was you that took his attention from his wife and kids and trust me, when you become overwhelmed with wifely and motherly duties, you will become exactly what his wife is to him now. Trust me, he will leave you for a shinny new thing after you birth five children.
May God help the woman take care of those kids because I know that man is irresponsible.
I pity you in advance. So you really wanna marry a father of 3 that is not financially stable, for real?
ReplyDeleteMennnhh bad wife are too many in nigeria now ooooo
ReplyDeletelook at comments from a nigerian wife?
mennhhh is only a bad wife that is always afraid to loose her husband
a husband that even cheating on his good wife is always afraid and fears alots to
loose his wife ,,mennh not all marriage with kids are made to stay or last long.
must a man or woman caged in marriage?
lady,,,my advice is since he loves you and you love him and know alots about him
and his mother like you and he is about to divorce please go ahead and be a happy
wife and make him a happy man tooo,,must of the divorcee man and woman makes a
very good husband and wife,cos they has learnt there lessons,,,dont leave a man that is open to you becos of all those comments,,shallom
My mother will lock me in a room for as long as it would take for me to have sense if I ever came at her with this sort of bullshit story. Lord have mercy .
ReplyDeleteHahaha. I think our mums are twins
DeleteLeave another woman's husband. Pray to God to give you yours. Nothing good will come out of this union if you go ahead.
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Poster, hmmmn this fits me too well. Where does he reside? What is his profession. Where did he tell you his wife and kids are? I just need these answers to know if it’s me. Because he has been begging me to come back. And I will tell you what to do.
ReplyDeletePoster you dare call me lousy when you don't know me? Go ahead and marry that man and i promise you that you and your own kids with him will suffer 10000times what i went through.
ReplyDeleteThis same loving man abandon his 3 kids and even though he lives just less than 4 minutes away, he doesn't CARE!!! NOt their school fees, not even water to drink. You are running your mouth abi. Continue, be his new wife and receive what is waiting for you.
Me, Lousy????? God go purnish you for calling me that.
Evil women everywhere. So after 6yrs of marriage with three kids, he now kno de wife is lousy. Women will neva learn. So with all ur working class blah blah u cudnt find a single guy with no baggage to share ur dreams with. Be ready to spend ur money, energy n youthfulness on another woman's children. Do u even think at all.? Leave smone marriage alone n pray to God for ur own. A man will say anyfin just to get what e wants. The broom dat was used for the first wife is waiting for u. Home wrecker
ReplyDeleteplease enough of this karma thing. Love comes and goes. You can't Force the man to Remain there if he's no longer in love.
ReplyDeletePoster does this man's name start with Y and surname S? If yes, for calling me lousy, i will find out who you are and make life miserable for you. Ask him what i did to his some of his previous sidechicks. Your mouth go kill you. The only thing pissing me off about this chronicles is she calling me lousy because i have never been one and will never be a lousy woman.
ReplyDeletePoster an speechless, men are never to be trusted, one young guy played me and now am having sleepless nights over my marriage, he pretended to be nice, good, good fearing, I even saw his chat with girls that he is not married, am planning of walking away from this marriage.
ReplyDeleteA friend of mine has been dating this married man for over 15 years, the man and his wife has been having issues, after some years later the both filed for divorce, the divorce documents was complete,signed by both parties, the man promised to marry my friend once the divorce papers are ready. My dear is over 3 days dey divorce still he has not married my friend, he kept promiseing to come and see her famil.i heard that the man's wife is planning to come back, my friend is single hoping the man will marry her someday. You better leave the man.
Anon 18:44 ur brain and that of the poster needs corrective surgery. Nonsense!
ReplyDeletePoster I can see that ur brain has moved ro your vjay. Did I hear u say u don't want to b a hone breaker?? My dear u were already a hone destroyer 2 yrs ago when u agreed to date him knowing he's married with kids.. What you're doing now is what u ought to have done 2 yes ago.. If his wife is really bad as painted why was he not the first to file for d divorce? Why her making d first divorce moves? U see why I say ur brain isn't functional. This ur romeo, his friend and mum made his wife to b the lousy woman u all call her today. I can imagine d frustration d poor woman has been through to even think of divorce after 3 kids. My dear sister you're just 26 never be desperate abt marriage and don't u ever tamper with God's covenant. In fact go for confession and ask God for pardon..
Poster, I have lived long enough to know that some people do make mistakes in choosing the wrong person to marry. I don't feel that someone should be punished for life because they made an error, we all make mistakes and everyone deserves a chance to correct their mistake, and divorce can be the perfect correction. Now, in your particular case, this man is ten years older than you are and financially unstable, on top of that he has fathered 3 children that you know of while you have never given birth. If you marry him it will not be a rosy life, money will be tight eventually and he may just be a lazy man which will irk you when you have to be the sole provider. Also, when you do choose to have children there will be no joy of that experience being a first time journey for both of you. Marriages are not fairytales, they require everyday living together and working through each others flaws, love is not enough to make a marriage work. Now, maybe you get lucky and his financial situation improves tremendously and the love between you grows exponentially so that your marriage becomes the envy of all who cross your paths, this would be lower probability outcome, but a possibility nonetheless. The odds are against the success of this relationship for the lifetime of a marriage. The decision is all yours, you have your own doubts, this is why you are seeking our input, I would say steer clear and seek a man who has no encumbrances and who is financially successful and prosperous in life who loves and adores you.
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