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Hi Stella, I've an important issue and I want advice from you and bvs. My sisters husband is disturbing me----
According to him ,he's in love with me,he calls me day and night begging me to accept him, I thought he was drunk or out of his mind the first day he told me that but I later realised that he was not.
For your information, I'm married for over 10 years,I married before that my sister.I don't know that her husband before,the first time I saw him was the day he came to pay my sister's bride price,the second time was during their wedding,I've never had a discussion with him face to face.I don't stay in the same State with them.I don't know the devil that came into him .
He said he fell in love with me the first day he saw me. I've warned him never to call me again, I've also told him that I'll tell my sister and my people but he won't listen.
I'm just confused and tired of the whole thing. I also pity my sister whenever he calls. I've stopped picking his calls but he uses another number to call or send SMS . Men cannot be trusted at all. Please I need sincere advice on how to tackle this issue.Thanks.
*Na wah...What a pig!!!
Tell your husband then both of you should talk to your sister. That way she doesn't tell you you want to spoil her marriage. When it's out in the open the shame won't let him to see road, he'll leave you alone.
ReplyDeletePsyco + Sicko + wierdo all in one person.
DeleteRecord one of such calls
Tell you husband and family pipu
Sing out loud ..... He'll run.
Your inlaw is disgusting I think you should tell your husbabd so he can put him in his place! For your sister I don't know how you are going to say it that it won't hurt her?
ReplyDeleteFelt infuriated reading this. Seriously? What are you waiting for? Your husband should have been in the know from the beginning! He is the person that will handle that man himself. How dare he?!
DeleteYou afraid you don't want to hurt your sister's marriage, abi? What u don't know is covering up this disgusting situation is hurting her marriage further. Expose that man! He doesn't even deserve ur sister. From the time he chose to pick on u,( u! his own sister in law!) he has destroyed his marriage with his own hands, so exposing him is merely u salvaging the already bad situation.
Maybe this is the brain reset he needs. If u keep covering him up, he will keep pestering you because he feels since u haven't told anyone, especially ur husband, that u likely have a soft spot for him and it's only a matter of time before u give in to his pressure.
Expose him. Sin needs to be brought to light not covered. Your husband should be the first to know tell him. How dare that man try to destroy ur own marriage by suggesting this abomination?! He has no respect for ur sister.
If u really love ur sister, do something but whatever u do, do not hide that man. Threatening him will do nothing but make him even more demanding.
EXPOSE HIM. TELL YOUR HUSBAND. AND YOU BOTH WILL DECIDE HOW BEST TO HANDLE THIS SICK MAN.
Smh.
I had had a similar experience. The guy is a doctor, married. Hubby was in another state on a project. So this doctor who knew obviously I was married wanted an affair with me. Hah! I told hubby what's up. Hmmm, just one call from hubby resented that guy's brain. He was sore afraid. He was so lucky hubby wasn't around.
My dad also got in the know and he had to go talk to that guy.
It's a crazy world out there. People no longer have respect for the sanctity of marriage.
God have mercy.
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Oh my goodness!!!
ReplyDeleteThis one pass me oh!
Poster plz record your conversations with him and save his SMS incase you need it to accuse him...
Your last paragraph shit the whole chronicle. When a woman does the same thing, y'all would say, well SHE is promiscuous and not affiliate it to the whole female specie. But here you just said "men can't be trusted at all" as though that is how every married man has been
ReplyDeleteJust tell your sister about it. There is nothing new under the sun. She can only be surprised. That is the only way you can escape this.
"Men can't be trusted" includes her husband and sons.
DeleteEven the Bible states:"trust no man". Men cannot be trusted on any level, not just regarding dick business.
DeleteThis is an early sign of mental illness, let him seek medical help fast.
ReplyDeleteYou are right Anon, it may be an early sign of mental illness. Poster maybe you should speak to your sister to know if the husband has been exhibiting other kinds of bizarre behaviour before you will let her know this. This may be an early sign of mental illness, he needs to see a professional.
DeleteNa u get am. The man get mental problem
DeleteTell ur mum
ReplyDeleteNa wa o.
ReplyDeletePoster, I am a woman but I can confidently tell u that NOT all men are like this, while there are women who are capable of worse. Ur last statement was offensive and uncalled for.
DeleteI agree with those who advised u to tell ur hubby and keep evidence of ur communication with the shameless thing. If ur hubby confronts him, he should respect himself except he is an absolute mad man. In that case, u would have to tell ur sister (with ur hubby's accounts and hard evidence to back u up). I hope it never gets to that point though; it would be such a terrible & akward position to be in. I really feel bad for ur sister. Smh...
Na real wa. Record the phone conversation and tell your sister about it
ReplyDeleteI won't advice you to tell your sister. What about your husband? Let him warn the man on your behalf. Your sister might blame you if anything should happen to her marriage.
ReplyDeleteDon't hide this from your husband, you two should join hands together and talk sense into the man.
If after all these he still doesn't want to grow up, then you're free to call the meeting of umunna.
I think he's just infatuated.
Store those sms and if possible record the calls. That's the physical evidence.
ReplyDeleteOn the spiritual side, pray and fast so that you won't fall into temptation; of being wearied to succumb or telling your sister at the wrong time. May God guide you.
I hope ure saving some utmost revealing text msgs proving hes on ur case & ure in no way showing green light, just incase he tries 2b smart to ur sis or anyother person.... & give ur husband a clue, you might say u think he ws drunk.
ReplyDeleteFor starters:
ReplyDeleteDon't tell ur husband!
Don't tell ur sis..
Keep blocking each new number..
He won't call u forever, he'll get tired..
Dat way nobody will have anything to say against u, but if push comes to a shove, tell ur mom to warn him, u can tell ur sis if u both are close n she's not d type who says her husband don't cheat.
Are you for real?
DeleteNo be everything person dey talk, u won't know d reaction of her husband, if he'll be childish or mature!
DeleteIf it were me, nobody will hear pim, no baga will...it will die with d wind.
Tell this one,
Tell that one,
Is she a kid?
Handle dat shit like a big girl!
This blackberry you're not so smart!
Delete"What a pig!" is not a piece of advice; is it?
ReplyDeleteAre all of us married ladies married to pigs?
This man clearly has got no self control or fear of God.
With the sms girl you have the ammunition to threaten him that you'd forward them to your sister and family members and your husband. Make sure you save the sms he sent via his own phone or the ones that implicate him.
Don't break your sister's home.
ReplyDeleteBe wise. Flee!
isnt it wat shes doin?
DeleteSugar, u ain't wise at all
DeleteSugar, abeg explain wetin you mean
DeleteEka joy... You are a goat.
Delete@Anon18:28.... Her sister will either support the husband and turn everything on her OR she will leave the marriage and once in a while blame her singlehood on her (Chronicle poster).
Forget all this tell your sister people are saying. The best thing to do is to curve him and move on. If I were in your shoes, telling my husband will be the last option, that is, if the werey man won't back off.
Men are pig, men a pigs yet you ladies will not leave pigs alone. Today is "pig's day" for your information and as I type this some of you ladies have spread your legs like mats for pigs to enter. And in the heat of ecstasy you are screaming to the "pigs" to "pound harder, don't stop, I love you pig, etc."
ReplyDeleteSome of you have rings on given to you by a "pig". And some of you pregnant will give birth to "pigs".
Lol
DeleteAnon 15:21 kuku kee me o...
DeleteHmmmm. Nothing we won't see or hear. It's best your husband knows about this.
ReplyDeleteHe might help talk some sense into him. God help you
When next he calls, pick and record the conversation as an evidence. Agree to see him and fix the location yourself after telling and inviting your sister and family without his knowledge. Or you can choose not to tell your family yet until he arrives. When he does, you tell him to repeat all he has been saying to you, should he deny it, you play the recorded conversation and follow up from there.
ReplyDeleteWishing you the very best.
bad idea
DeleteVery bad idea. Too much nollywood
DeleteStrange..... I dont even know what to say.
ReplyDeleteThere must be somebody he respects;
ReplyDeleteHis dad
His mom
his pastor
His boss etc.
Tell him that if he makes another move, you are going to show these folks his SMS and recorded calls.
He will back off.
And please, do not ever go near to their house or accept his visits without his wife. Your husband should be in the know too so that you both will tackle it.
I will advice you talk to your hubby about it and suggest that hubby talks to him, if hubby agrees then you invite the brother-in-law to come visit you in the guise that if he is serious about what he feels for you he should come and visit you. Arrange to meet in a fast food while meeting with him hubby should come in and you and hubby do the talking together.
ReplyDeleteShame less man
ReplyDeletewhat one reads this days is becoming like movies. A new married man that should be enjoying his honey moon with his new wife is obsessed with his married sister in law. Your sister will not believe you without valid evidence and might think you want to ruin her home. Record the conversation between you both and the sms and present them to your husband first. Let him take it from there before involving your sister.
ReplyDeleteWhat kind of foundation is the man laying for his new marriage? And what will he enjoy if he got you. Just use wisdom and pray about it.
Tell your husband and your dad
ReplyDeleteBut "men can't be trusted"
DeleteAre the husband and dad ladies?
No respect for his wife or image, tueh.... if im wicked now id advice u to divert all his calls to ur sisters fone, wen he hears his wifes voice twice or 3ice he'd stop callin
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Deletemen aint pig.poster that man is broke more reasons you typing..i know women if that man was super rich..that wire wire in million type..you go chop clean mouth.lol.
ReplyDeletegood u ended it with "Lol"... Ure surely joking
Deleteyou must assume evry woman behaves like ur mum n sisters
DeleteTell your husband everything then when next time he calls put the phone on speaker for your husband to listen to all his nonesense while also recording the conversation. Arrange with your husband and lure the idiot while you video every move. Thereafter, present the whole scenerio to your sister(here comes your awful wedded husband)
ReplyDeleteA bitter truth is better than a sweet lie.
ReplyDeletePlease tell your husband and your sister what your brother in law has been doing. Keep the SMS as your evidence; it's now left for your sister to beleive you and call her husband to order.
Or you should let your husband confront him.
Don't be ashamed or afraid to speak out now before things gets out of hands and people will start calling you names.
Some men are animals and shameless.
Download a call recorder application on your phone and have concrete evidence of not this thing might likely blow up in your face.
ReplyDeleteMy advice is for you to tell your dad and let him invite your husband and they sit down to arrive at a way of handling the issue.y reason your sister's husband is a sick man and if these two men are not truly in the picture he might create or cause you enough trouble that will ruin your marriage and your relationship with your sister. And be fast about it cause for each passing day it will seem you are also encouraging him. He is raping you emotionally and psychological and you need to speak up and out fast.
ReplyDelete# come back and thank me later.
Some men sef. Poster tell ur parents.
ReplyDeleteWhat a shame. Tell your hubby and your mum.I really feel for your sister.
ReplyDeletePlease keep those SMS and record his communications and report to your husband
ReplyDeletetell your sis jor
ReplyDeleteWhat a pig of a horseband..that man must have internal and External kolo mentality..
ReplyDeleteHe's such a shameless man. I think you should tell your husband but don't tell your sister, it will break her. Your husband would talk to him. But after your husband does talk to him and he persists, then the whole family should be involved. On a second thought, just ignore. Once he calls with a strange number and you hear his voice, you end the call. Block any number he calls with. With time, he'll stop. The things we hear sometimes...
ReplyDeleteNa wa o... Sick man. Better talk to your sister...
ReplyDeleteBlock his number abeg.
ReplyDeleteFlee completely from him, he would destroy your home.
Poster....please don't allow that man cause enemity between you and your sister......
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