Stella Dimoko Korkus.com: New Wife Cries Out Over High Cost Of Bride Price In Igbo Land

Friday, January 05, 2018

New Wife Cries Out Over High Cost Of Bride Price In Igbo Land

Nkiruka Akpovili, igbo Bride who just tied the knot with her Isoko husband is angry about the cost of her traditional wedding.she says they are now broke and debtors after their traditional wedding.

*Wow,so how much is the Bride price that one make one broke and a debtor?

Beautiful bride for my isoko brother abeg!!!

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Bee10(mummytwins)5 January 2018 at 08:32
It is well you will overcome
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Unknown5 January 2018 at 08:34
Shame on you Nkiru
Why didn't you call off the wedding instead of disgracing your lineage?

Her husband would be feeling like one thing one thing reading this

No you should have asked your parents not to collect your bride price and just give you for free to your husband.

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Lady Bug💥5 January 2018 at 08:36
😂😂😂😂😂😂,over to the sellers😎
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Yori Yori Princess5 January 2018 at 08:37
Your papa wants to collect all his monies he used in training you from kindergarten to Uni. Why did you marry a man that cannot match what your father gave out. He thought he will pay like N50k for everything.

Tell him to give you food jare afterall he saw the list and agreed to do the needful. So go and enjoy your marriage.

It depends on the communities and states. My own place the list is long but it is not a must you must finish everything they sent to you.
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Anonymous5 January 2018 at 08:43
May be she is from Ngo Okpala....does people are crooks lol
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Mrs Sharon5 January 2018 at 08:45
Lols
Its almost 2years my husband is still boosting about how expensive my people sold me to him oo😁..
Abeg if he no reach to marry why not just do as he can afford..
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cara mia5 January 2018 at 08:46
You shouldn't address this here na , y didn't u two tell your parents the size of ur pocket?

You two could have pleaded with your family to slash the price list, stood ur ground.
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Most precious stone5 January 2018 at 08:53
Nonsense when you people saw the list, you could have turned you back instead of this rubbish you are talking now.
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Unknown5 January 2018 at 08:55
You will be fine... Hahaha
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Rex5 January 2018 at 08:55
hhhahahahahah Rant Hq don reach sdk, saw this post the day she made it and the backlash she received no be here.. I still say it that bride price is solely on the family one comes from.. you go borrow money to do wedding, sorry for you.
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chim-oma a.k.a Miss Kapusu5 January 2018 at 09:03
Not all the Igbos, because where I come from, we don't sell our daughters. Most of the things (foods&drinks) use in the traditional marriage are being provided by the brides'families. Apart from this the brides' families settle their daughters wich is called ' idu obi' All the monies come from the brides' families.
All brides are all the same price whether a university graduates or a primary school dropouts.
So not all Igbos and we all the parts of Igbos that do this nonsense and tomorrow they would want to pack all their family members in the brother-in-law's house without shame.

chim-oma a.k.a Miss Kapusu
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Amanda favour5 January 2018 at 09:03
Nkiru but why are you disgracing us here now?
See as shame leave you dey catch me. Why didn't you people do the marriage according to Una pocket? O kwa ima Na adighi emesi ihe nwanyi emesi? You should have cost costs by doing the necessary things now? It's not by force. The last time I checked,"poor" people still get married in Igbo land. Bottom line is do everything according to the size of your pocket
*covers my face in shame * Ewo!!!, nwa nkea etee mmadu ure.
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Anonymous5 January 2018 at 09:03
Buhari price wedding.
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Iphie dearie5 January 2018 at 09:04
Instead of Nkiru to talk to her father, she is generalizing.
It is news to me that ‘Igbo women’ are suffering in their husband’s houses and ‘Igbo girls’ are babymamas.

Nkiru, What exactly are you calling bride price because I have seen lists of several villages and sometimes the bride price is as low as 5Naira and as high as 10 thousand Naira.
Some fathers even return the token and just tell the son inlaw to take care of their daughter.

Instead of coming out ignorantly, why not make your investigations and state your points properly.
Firstly, what people refer to as BRIDEPRICE is really a list which contains tobacco, a crate of gulder and malt, salt,etc.
This list is subject to reduction depending on your kindred.. Some are high too.
Now, most brides usually find is tough when their father is dead. This means that horrible incles take advantage if the opportunity to frustrate the bride and her soon to be husband especially if there is bad blood.

Lastly... The matter of traditional wedding. Nkitu this is solely yours and your families business!!!
If you decided to host 1million people, hire a makeup artiste who charges 200k and kill cow worth 150k.. This is your decision and you must account for it.
Do not confuse traditional wedding expenses with BRIDE PRICE.
A reasonable woman will always make sure she does what is ideal for her and her soon to be husband.. there is no crime in having a ‘Parlour setting’ Trad wedding.

Parlour setting trad: This is a small, intimate traditional wedding where the groom and his people fulfil everything on the list, cook a cooler of rice, share drinks and every body goes home happy.

Ps: I tried to simplify things step by step.. If you left your brain in 2017, don’t come under my comment.
If you have experiences contrary to what I stated.. do share politely. We are all here to learn.
Peace.
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Anonymous5 January 2018 at 09:16
It shows the level of illetracy that runs in her family. If ur dad is well educated he would have control and cut the demands of the kinsmen. It's bad for her not to know the financial capabilities of her husband and succeed in disgracing her lineage.
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DON™5 January 2018 at 09:16
You have been sold. Shame on your people. Hope the guy treat you well
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Yori Yori Princess5 January 2018 at 09:24
Correct the queen. Your head is really correct. Any man that loves you should not complain of how much they imposed on him.

Na buhari recession cause am. The Isoko man think say na ogogoro list he will collect. hahahhaaha no offence to Isoko Wado people
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Amanda favour5 January 2018 at 09:27
Thank you iphie
I don't get why people confuse bride price with traditional wedding. Even the bride price in my place is the same for every daughter in that family. The marriage list is with the secretary of umunna. What an Igbo inlaw pays is what a non Igbo inlaw will still pay. And the money they even collect as bride price will still be used to buy kitchen utensils like motar and pestle,nwanyi nodulu okwu chair and other modern kitchen gadgets for the bride as send forth gifts. What the elders enjoy sef are the drinks and kolanuts then snuff. I don't understand this girl at all
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GOLIBE5 January 2018 at 09:28
The cost of bride price depends on the community and the family involved. It's not all that demand for crazy fulfillment of the list given.
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Iphie dearie5 January 2018 at 09:32
My babe of life😘😘😘😘
Hope you spent your holidays well?
LinLin you don start this year with your crazy advice😳
I read one last night on a chronicle, I weak.
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Ekele5 January 2018 at 09:33
What kind of uncalled rant is this? It is not a must that you provide all the listed items that's why as the lady (bride ) you talk to your family to cut down the list to the size of your husband's budget.
I am believing you just want to trend hence this rant
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jelly5 January 2018 at 09:51
Thank you Iphie, nkiru should have discuss the size of her husband pocket with her parents. She is just making uneccessary noise here because am sure that the husband will be hitting his hand on his chest that I married igbo girl. Any outside igbo man getting married to igbo knows what he is getting himself into.
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BEDS AND ROSES5 January 2018 at 09:59
I can't even laugh abeg. Why doesn't your husband save up properly instead of this complaint. You seem young, not by force to marry 2017/2018. You can do it next year when you have the funds.
One thing I don't like is entering marriage broke. it causes so much problem in a young marriage.
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Mc pinky(Award winner of BV WITH THE MOST Gbagaun of the year 2021)5 January 2018 at 10:01
this is an unhealthy issue that could have been resolved and averted before ur traditional wedding but since nothing was done then why come on social media to disgrace ur generation to come.... Mitchew

Mc pinky
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CHOICE 5 January 2018 at 10:05
Nkiru I blame you for this! So you mean to say you couldn't influence your parents to reduce what was on that list?

Most ladies are the architects of their own problems. I can see you want to belong. Unless, that makeup was done by a friend (or yourself), I know how much that alone will cost you and even that beaded cap on your head too. You may ask what do I know but shey you're the one crying now ba? Madam i-must-slay-by-fire-by-force!

It may interest you to know that my sister had her trad here in Lagos, in our house with few relatives that stay here in lag. My parents know what they were avoiding by not taking it to the east (I don't know where yours happened). My point is, everything about the list was trashed out by my relatives here (men and women had their sections separately). At the end of the day, the guy didn't pay up to half! What is half sef? Money for bride's mum was 5OOk aside other stuffs, he didn't pay kobo.

Imagine taking that thing to the village and having those greedy fellows determine your fate. It would have been disastrous cos that list no be here. I'm from IMO, from that part where the bride price is 'dreaded'. So I know what I'm saying.

I blame you cos my sister (on her part) was on ground monitoring to make sure they don't overstep. You're here talking trash. Nonsense!

With less than 1m, both traditional, and church wedding was done. And yes, it happened last year before you give me that 'it cannot be possible in this recession' bullshit.

People like you give us a bad name and scare potential suitors away from our ladies.

Please let me boil water and drink green tea. I'm really angry now

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Anonymous5 January 2018 at 10:28
I am sure when she talked about the bride price , she meant the whole traditional list that an intended groom has to fulfil before the traditional wedding.

Before we get our panties soaked up by defending our tribes when it is unnecessary, the fact is, did she make sense? Yes she did. In some villages in Igboland, the list can be quite outrageous and exorbitant. Yes the bride price may be small but they make up for it in the outrageous demands listed on the list. We know marriage is not for the faint hearted but some men in other to cover up will pay everything then go home to starve.

There are some aspects of our culture that needs to be reviewed. If you understand that marriage is a partnership and you are going to build your future together and both parents understand, you wouldn't overcharge your son in law and your motherinlaw(husband side) won't be a pain in the ass.

This is what obtains in most villages in Igboland and is caused by umunna who never contributed a dime to the brides education and may not even know who the bride is.

KING XOXO MYSTERY
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Anonymous5 January 2018 at 10:38
It is obvious most of stella BvNs are Igbos. No one should cause the girl, she is being truthful. I know man that married from IMO State, 5the requirements was wicked. He paid every thing, after a year the girl had not conceived, his family shoes her pepper, constantly reminding her of what their brother coughed out, unfortunately she left the marriage after 3 year of TTC, the verbal abuse was too much to bear. Her parents went to his house to tKe the wife back, it was so bad that the guy refused to pay for fibrous operation for her. Told her to go take from the money he spent marrying her.
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Anonymous5 January 2018 at 10:44
Another angle is

That is the reason Igbo brides are meant for Igbo men. Igbo men who understand the culture and how expensive the marriage list can be. When you are non Igbo and you come from a place where women are given out free , it will be hard for you to fathom the culture of expensive marriage list.

I can see fashion designers with one sewing machine and housewives bragging. So your husband paid for all that and couldn't even open a company for you(a real company)..talking about misplaced priorities.

KING XOXO MYSTERY
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Bubul5 January 2018 at 10:59
I remember when i made a comment on sp post on how expensive the list and traditional right was just b4 my traditional marriage. Some anon came after me with insult and insisted i Was lying. One anon even went ahead and said my family members are wicked and greedy thats why my list was expensive. The person is obviously not an igbo bc the list does not come from the brides family but from the village council of elders. Ok na . Make una continue, the difference between me and the lady above is that we plan toward it and we even had change left. We are not deptors after the wedding and to God be the glory everything went on well. The list cannot be reduce for your information. You either decide to pay all at ones or break it into 2 or to many part. You can go with the woman and come after 1 year to pay the rest. Nothing feels as good as everything being done at ones. It makes your mom and dad proud. You can also have a parlor trad marriage.
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Bubul5 January 2018 at 11:05
Nothing like negotiation to reduce the list . During my own trad, my dad did not collect the requirement meant for him and my mom. That is the only way they can reduced it. The other requirement which is for the men, women, youths,mothers family must be complete. List alone in mbaise for my friend was 450k. She leaves in diaspora with the groom and could not come to Nigeria. Ok this is for someone who just paid for the list o. Just imagine doing a party and wine carrying. Some people abusing the lady are just bitter biko.
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Omah5 January 2018 at 11:10
Hmmm
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Anonymous5 January 2018 at 11:47
I AM SURPRISED THAT CHI EXOTIC AND SO ARE INSULTING NKIRU WHEN SHE SPOKE THE TRUTH. DO YOU GUYS KNOW THAT IBOLAND HAS THE HIGHEST NUMBER OF UNMARRIED FEMALES ABOVE 30YEARS? I AM IBO SO I KNOW HOW FAR. THE FAMILY OF THE BRIDE WILL ALWAYS GIVE VERY EXPENSIVE LIST AND STILL EXPECT THE GROOM TO FUND THE TRAD AND WHITE WEDING. I AM VERY SURE THAT IBO GIRLS ON THIS BLOG ARE THE MOST WHEN P-ARTICIPATING IN SINGLES AND MINGLES. HAVE YOU GUYS ALSO NOTICED THAT MOST IBO GROOMS ARE ABOVE 40 OR VERY LATE 30s? WHY DO YOU THINK THAT IS SO? THAT IS BECAUSE THEY ARE TRYING TO SAVE ENOUGH MONEY. SOME OF THESE MEN END UPBEING FORCED TO MARRY JUST BECAUSE AGE IS NOT ON THEIR SIDE. HOW MANY YOUNG IBO GROOMS HAVE YOU SEEN? MOSTLY THOSE MARRYING OUTSIDE IBOLAND. THIS IS A SERIOUS ISSUE. YOU THINK A MAN WHO SPENDS TOO MUCH ON YOU WILL VALUE YOU?
IN THE END, MANY IBO LADIES ARE BECOMING GWEGS WHILE THEIR MATES OF OTHER TRIBES ARE MARRIED WITH KIDS WHO ARE ALMOST IN SECONDARY SCHOOL. BE THERE WAITING FOR MILLIONAIRE INSTEAD OF TALKING TO YOUR GREEDY FATHERS AND RELATIVES. THIS CHALLENGE IS CAUSING MANY GIRLS TO BE DEPRESSED, FASTING, WAYWARD, ETC BECAUSE MEN ARE NOT PROPOSING. INSTEAD THE MEN WANT TO BE CHOPPING FOR FREE. I AM SOLIDLY BEHIND NKIRU. TILL GOD OPENS YOU PEOPLE'S EYES BEFORE YOU WILL KNOW THAT OUR TRADITION IS CAUSING IBO BABES SETBACKS! HOW MANY OF YOU ARE SINGLE AND SEARCHING AND PRAYING TO MARRY? HOW MANY MEN'S SALARIES CAN AFFORD ALL THOSE EXORBITANT WEDDING LISTS IN THIS ECONOMY?
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Anonymous5 January 2018 at 11:54
Why do other village members put what they need in the list of a bride? Greedy villagers will be listing things that they have never eaten in their life. Is the man marrying the village? or her Kindred? STUPID CULTURE

Imagine a certain groom had a laptop in the list. I think ibo ladies have a fault too. They tell their relatives that the man is rich so their village start adding their own things into the list. When a list is given to the parents of the bride to pass to the groom, the brides parents should cross out stupid things like 100 iron buckets, 40 brooms, etc
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Anonymous5 January 2018 at 11:55
The more they publicize that ibo weddings are expensive, the harder it is for ibo girls to get married so you ibo girls, as you are enjoying your stupid culture, think about your daughters, sisters and yourself
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Anonymous5 January 2018 at 12:03
I hear a lot of complain about this but is it not best you all for a movement against this exploitation
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Shirley5 January 2018 at 12:15
This is the reason most grooms dont want to have anything to so with their wife's family after marriage.
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Anonymous5 January 2018 at 12:27
Stella, na igbo people full your blog o.....ogaju
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Anonymous5 January 2018 at 12:46
She said "non-igbos". My family friend's suitor was dealt with by her greedy uncles because he is from Cross river state while she is igbo. Bride price is not the problem. It is list that is the wahala and the family involved.
I have told my Edo fiance that, if my people try nonsense( God please keep my dad alive), Just comply. Once the rites have been completed, buy bottled coke( they don't deserve more than this), tell them this all we can afford. No white wedding, just go do to the registry and have my peace Biko.
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Anonymous5 January 2018 at 12:50
As a follow up comment, to the one 👆, the sister of my family friend got married to an igbo guy, the list was nothing to compare to what her elder sisters husband paid. It is either the family is greedy, the kinsmen are greedy or the tradition is the problem. Have you asked your self how their village men get married? If it is the same list, it means that there would be no marriage in those places
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Anonymous5 January 2018 at 13:03
ANOTHER COMMON THING IN IBOLAND IS THAT UNLIKE OTHER TRIBES WHERE THEY DO TRAD AND WHITE TOGETHER, BECAUSE OF THE COST IN IBOLAND, YOU SEE THE COUPLE FIXING WHITE WEDDING A YEAR OR SO AFTER TRAD. BY THEN, THE BRIDE MAY BE PREGNANT OR HAVE A CHILD SEF. IF IT WAS CHEAP, THAT WONT HAPPEN
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Paulokah.blogspot.com5 January 2018 at 13:13
Make una dey there. Bride price no cost for Igbo land. People still de marry de born pikin,so na wetin? If time reach,I go select one correct Igbo girl from this blog marry. If na Yoruba girl wey enter my eyes,then okpari na. Na there love sweet pass. Their bakassi yansh go make me no price dowry self. Abi na Hausa girl? Me wey don plan to go marry Hausa girl. Highest na 40 strokes of the cane,nothing like bride price. Sharon Aminu will explain better. If na onye nmonwu or imi nkita,Calabar style na die for where bride price dey,so na wetin?
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Yori Yori Princess5 January 2018 at 13:13
Anon with capital letters why are you SHOUTING? na we do you?

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Anonymous5 January 2018 at 13:17
This is an igbo blog. I'm truly shocked at the comments. You can take people out of the village but never the village out of them. Dear igbo bvs please re-read the comments. You think alike and its a cultural thing as evidenced by the comments. You are entitled to your thoughts, culture and opinions. Now for a minute drop the village mentality I'm sure some or even most of you are educated. Now think about this issue objectively, you are women, beautiful and intelligent dont you think its wrong that you are being objectified? Instead of insulting Nkiru why not reason and see that it's a bad circle that my be broken. What I see is you feel because you or your husbands paid ludicrous bride price then everyone must and those that cannot are not man enough and not ready for marriage.please think deeply just because things are in a certain way does not make them right an if people that should take a stand and make things better think like this what is the hope for the future?
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Abamade5 January 2018 at 13:19
Its tradition. They shouldn't have gone as far as borrowing to, like we say ije nwanyi bu uzo nmiri, oburu o nzo nku, anaro emecha ihe no na nwanyi, do the ones you can, tell your in-laws you will be back, trust me nobody will stop you from taking your wife home provided you pay the bride price.
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Paulokah.blogspot.com5 January 2018 at 13:47
In India, it's the bride that pays for the groom to marry her. Any man wey no get money to marry Igbo ladies fit go India: gaskia...
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SHUKURAH5 January 2018 at 15:38
🙄🙄🙄akuko
Cut your coat according to your cloth. Gbam!!!
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Anonymous5 January 2018 at 22:17
I’m sure ur dad has been chopping other people’s own so as ur time arrived he could not say no to his kinsmen. All I can say is sorry enh. Meanwhile ur make up artist did not do ur lipstick well. There is a line.
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Friday, January 05, 2018

New Wife Cries Out Over High Cost Of Bride Price In Igbo Land

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