Chronicle Of Blog Visitor Narrative..

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NARRATIVE NUMBER ONE
 CONFUSED


Hello Stella,
I'm a confused 26 years old baby mama.

Everything thing started in 2008 when i met this cute Anambra business
man. He used to come to my mum's shop to buy drinks and he started
asking me out. I didn't like him then cos i was dating my first love
then,he made so many attempts for me to look his way but i was always
insulting him.

 Fast forward to 2010 when my then boyfriend travelled
out of the country,stopped all means of communications with reasons
best known to him and i started catching feelings for this man cos he
never stopped asking me out. 

I finally said yes to him in 2011 and he came to see my parents. It was on our introduction ceremony night he made love to me and broke my virginity. He came down to my village for traditional marriage and we went back to Lagos to live as man and wife.

 Back then when we were dating,the only problems we had was that
he didn't want to see me with any man regardless of who the person
was. His jealousy was out of this world and he made me stop talking to
my male friends,even the guys i grew up with. 

When we got married,it became worse. I dare not greet or talk to any unmarried man in theNcompound or the whole street. If i do,i must receive a hot slap for doing so and accused for having something with that same person.

There was this day that i went to the market(i forgot to add that our
house was close to his business place and its also close to a daily
market),and this man traced me to the market to see if i would talk to
any man on the way(not like i gave him any reason to doubt my love and
loyalty to him).

He would call to say what he wanted for breakfast,lunch and dinner.

The only food he ate more than once was stew and soup,other food must
be fresh so i was always cooking. Sadly i had one still birth and one
miscarriage as a result of both physical and emotional abuse. 

An igbo man that attended Celestial Church,he took me to Ibadan to one
celestial prophet for prayers and the stupid man said i had a
spiritual husband and i needed to be cleansed. Before i could say
anything,the man gave me water and soap to go and bathe in a river and
throw the white wrapper he gave me in the river. I did all these for
peace to reign and my ex husband warned me never to tell my parents.

 I finally ran out of his house to my parents house and downloaded
everything I've been passing through in his house. Did i add that i
hardly made my hair or wear good clothes? He would give me money to go
and put in his siblings account(they were in a private university
then) and when i ask for money to buy clothes or make my hair,we would
quarrel(he stopped me from working or coming to his shop).

Both families came together to settle us and i told them i was done
with the marriage and that was how my bride price was refunded back to
him and his people and we went our separate ways.

Fast forward to two years ago after i lost my job,i met this young man
Stanley through my street girl who happens to come from his village.
According to her,Stanley told her he was looking for a wife so she
said pics of four of her friends to him and he didn't like them until
she sent my pic and he said i was the one.

 We got talking and started off. Before i knew what was happening,i took in and he was very happy.

He came to see my parents and made his intention made to them.
Hilda(the girl that hooked us up)was the first person i told i was
pregnant and begged her not to tell anyone,because my mum would be
hurt if she happened to find out especially from outsiders that ......

The plan was that i would let my mum know after Stanley must have done the
marriage rites but before the end of the week,my male friend came to
me to ask if i was pregnant. That Hilda told a girl that told another
girl who told him that i was pregnant for their king's son. To say i
was devastated was an understatement, i called her to know why she
spread what i told her in confidence and she denied telling anyone.

 I told her she was the only one that knew apart from Stanley and that
made us stopped talking with each other. I just don't know what
happened but she called Stanley's elder brother that the person his
brother wants to marry has been married before with two kids. Wahala
started from left,right,centre and his siblings vowed that their
brother would never marry a divorcee that its against their royal kini
kan.

 I told my mum and she was sad that i got pregnant out of wedlock
but forgave me nonetheless. Out of thinking of what would be my fate,i
developed high blood pressure. My man told his people that he would
marry me with or without their consent and when they saw that he was
dead serious,they gave their consent and a date was fixed for
introduction. 

We did the introduction and my mum travelled down to the
village to get the marriage list. I had a still birth at 32 wks due to
complications from pre-eclampsia. The main brother-in-law to be who is
against my marriage to his younger brother is the new king(was made
king after their father.




How are you a baby mama?I dont know whether you ended the story like this or you didnt send all but i dont see this being easy for you..good luck....


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NARRATIVE NUMBER TWO

LET GO OR HOLD ON


Hi Stella, I'll just go straight to the point.....

My boyfriend of two years said he told his mother about me and she said he cannot marry anyone that is not Yoruba...

I love this guy and I'm sure he loves me too.

I just don't know what to do
Should I just break up with him or hope she changes her mind
Fellow bvs who have experienced such should please share
Thanks

*Hmmm when a woman says her son cannot Marry you and you insist to go ahead because you love him,you have declared war in that situation and for some,they tell their stories years later and wish they had walked in the beginning...
Dont let someone come and tie your destiny becos of love ooooh....