STAND ALONE NARRATIVE
WHAT COULD BE WORNG?
I like the nice job you are doing please keep it up! Am a BVN in the diaspora and here is my story
Growing up, have been the most favourable in the family, even pastors and everybody say am the key to financial breakthrough in my family but things are so difficult for me at the moment. Since I finished youth service 2010 no job,was lonely and frustrated, I tried so many relationships nothing seems to be working, these guys will always come professing undying love, after which I resorted to runs and it wasn’t paying me as much as I need so I had to quit to start a serious relationship and see
where it leads me yet it lead to breakup upon breakup with no reason, I even met one that said I ve to move in with him for close monitoring cos he had his fear that am a runs girl, we dated for 8months, moved in with him after 2months, when it’s now time to marry me, he travelled and came back and dug up a story that we have even forgotten and moved one,was accused of seeing my ex behind him, he didn’t know how to break up with me nor ask me out of the house,he now invited his father, he used his father coming as an excuse to push me out of the house and that was how I left.eventually after the breakup, he happens to meet with my ex and the guy told him he has never set eyes on me for soo many yrs, he now realised I was lied against but it was too late cos his wife was already pregnant, he came back asking that I forgive him and all that,I did.
I tried so many relationships after but at the end they will all leave and come back to tell me how nice of a girl I am after they might have married. I now said this is no longer ordinary,I started going from church to church,Pastor to Pastor for help, was told I have ancestral bondage and rejection spirit, that any man that wants me will start encountering financial set back, I went for deliverance at mfm,I fasted n prayed yet nothing seems to be working.
I met a woman of God that said I should avoid sex that God wants me to stop sex,I was celibate for almost 1yr then this guy came wit promise of marriage,I now contacted my pastor n she told me to go see him that my marital door is open,I now went to see this guy, immediately I arrived and dropped my bag, he took me to his father and introduced me to the family as the girl he wants to marry, they welcomed me. We now left his family house back to the hotel, he made me broke d vow I made to God, when I realised what I did,I bursted tears, he now asked why I was crying I told him and he knelt down and promised me that he will never leave me that he will marry me that I shouldn’t cry again, after the visit I went back to my base.
He came to visit me b4 he left cos he stays in diaspora, I now told him when he was leaving to do something on my head even if it’s introduction he said he will send his people when he got back. The communication between us was good, he can’t go a a-day without talking to me thou we do have normal misunderstandings but we never let it stop us, the love btw us was so strong or so I think. When I couldn’t stand being jobless anymore,I had to make use of my valid American visa that was about expiring,I travelled to the state with his consent, he paid for the ticket and everything , I now got to America he was like it’s better u stay back that he will com meet wit me there so we start our family and I agreed..
we were all lovey-dovey ,planning our life together in the states, this Xmas he told me he needs to travel to go see my people I was soo happy, that eventually he is gonna make me his wife! Little did I know that will be the end of this fairly tale, immediately he arrived Nigeria, things changed, not even a call that he arrived safely till today, even when I chat him, he will read and ignore me, this was someone that was telling me when he was on transit that he loves me so much! Have cried my eyes out asking so many questions, wondering what I did wrong? What did I do to deserve this?
Have I not prayed enough? Have I not fasted enough? Am loosing it! can barely eat nor sleep cos am asking myself it’s this another disappointment or what? Can I survive this heartbreak? How many times now??? what did I do to deserve all this, is there anything like spirit of rejection and ancestral bondage, how do I overcome this??? Cos am depressed, has anybody been in this situation, please I need advice on what to do because this guy cannot just go like that,I love him and I am not getting any younger,I am 34 this year, age is no longer on my side, please I need help!!!! Don’t mind my typo errors because you will understand if you are in my shoes.
*wow...this is serious but perhaps your mind awaits it and it happens..you know what they say about your mind believing it is jinxed and bringing it to reality...
what if your mans phone was stolen?what if he had an accident?have you called him to find out why he is quiet?No ,because your mind is already preparing for a break up....
Imagining things that are not as if they were and then it becomes reality.
To me,you have no issue at All....Try and get to your man and get the full gist from him...stop assuming.
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You were told not to break you vow, you were warned but the devil came dangling sweet scenting fruit in your nose and you fell. Go back to God, that's all you can do right now, get in contact with his family members or friends to rule out him being dead, when you finally reach out to him, let him explain himself even if he doesn't want to be with you at least let him give you closure. I hate guys like this
DeleteYou were told not to break you vow, you were warned but the devil came dangling sweet scenting fruit in your nose and you fell. Go back to God, that's all you can do right now, get in contact with his family members or friends to rule out him being dead, when you finally reach out to him, let him explain himself even if he doesn't want to be with you at least let him give you closure. I hate guys like this
DeleteYou were told to remain celibate but no! You had to have sex after spiritual warning... you no try o, at your age, you should know better!
DeleteI wish you maintained the covenant you had with God.. There is power in covenant. I pray everything work out for your good darling. Keep hope alive!
DeleteShutup God is not wicked pls having sex have noting todo with her problem is she the only girl having premarital sex in the world?
DeleteWhy do girls always sound desperate and mention their age in chronicles? What do you think the BVs reading will think of you?
DeleteI think you need Jesus to fix you and so go tobhim
ReplyDelete10“They will eat but not have enough;
ReplyDeletethey will engage in prostitution but not flourish,
because they have deserted the Lord
to give themselves 11to prostitution;
old wine and new wine
take away their understanding. Hosea 4:10
Girl, you sold yourself to the devil when you abandoned the way of God to "run" whoredom!
The solution is; repentance, repentance and repentance.
All those "pastors" pitiably do not tell you folks that the way of sin is not the way to flourish and be the ATM of any family. all they care about is their "cut" which they call "tithe" and which they snatch at "gun" point from the less privileged with damnation unleashed from the pulpits. God's ways are written in the bible but they have decided to interpret it their own way and choose the ones to believe.
Sorry about that.
ReplyDeleteBut really you should have just stayed away from sex just to see wia it leads you. No harm in trying dear. From your narration you've had enough sex.
Just stay celibate and see what happens. Please you should also be careful of all these pastors you are seeing up and down. Find a bible believing church and join them. You can also pray on ur own. If u are not careful b4 u know it, one fake pastor will just take advantage of d situation. B4 u say jack, belle don land. Your own man will locate you very soon in Jesus name. Have faith!
The years you had issues were normal, nothing behind it. But during your runs girl years, severs guys used your destiny, they slept with you, wiped your sweat and cum & used to do money juju. You may get free, it expires, but you may be 50 years old sha.
ReplyDeleteYou reading doing runs or about to start, this is how you'll end up. Think again. Nuf said o. God can help poster but na work & patience.
Change Your mindset dear. The mind rules us. Hold on abit before reaching any conclusion. If h'd abandoned you truly, just move on and find love probably over there since you're in the abroad.
ReplyDeletePoster pls call any of his close relative or frind to find out If he is ok.
DeleteWhy do folks especially ladies find it more convenient to go to "pastors" instead to straight to God?
ReplyDeleteYour "fasting and prayer" is to get married . . . you aren't repentant of your sins, not studying the word of God to know him as a father from whom you can ask for anything else (including the marriage). For he said "seek first the kingdom of God and his righteousness and every other thing shall be added unto you . . . ". Instead, you are seeking first every other thing before his kingdom and righteousness and turning around to blame him for not answering you. Once your so called pastors hear "abroad", their minds switch to the dollars they will receive from you on a regular basis. They don't care if the person is a believer in Jesus or not, if he is of the right character or not, has a legitimate means of livelihood or crime. They just prophesy what you want to hear.
Girl seek God and his kingdom first, let him be your father and the rest will fall into place.
God bless u.well said
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DeleteYes,I called his brother and his father to find out if he is ok and they said he is fine,the father even said he just left the house some minutes before I called.
ReplyDeleteHope no one cursed you during your runz days.
ReplyDeletePoster,ancestral spirit is so real!...
ReplyDeleteSo many people are going through this without knowing!,..
No amount of praying,fasting or deliverance can tackle this...
Your ancestors want you to settle them!...
Go back to your root!...
Some mothers and grand mothers initiate their children especially first daughters to this ancestors when they were babies!...
Go home and ask your mother questions if she is still alive!...
You need to break this rubbish so you can live a good life!..
The only good thing about this spirits is that no body can kill you through juju,witchcraft or poison or even accident!!...
Your ancestors will be protecting you!...
So I'm advising you to go to your village and meet any good herbalist that would help you do it!..
The herbalist will ask your ancestors what they want you to do for them so they can free you!...
It will cost you money oh!...
Some people buy cows,goats,food stuff etc...
People like you are stars!!..
Most of these wealthy people you see are like you!...
Give to ceaser what belongs to him!..
It's called tradition!...
Omenaala in Igbo land!...
U knw too much.my elder brother is suffering from this.we have been praying nd fasting for him for years nd nothing has changed.
DeleteLinda really? 'No amount of prayer fasting or deliverance can do it for her'??? Are you for real??? Meanwhile you say they are protecting her? That nobody can kill her with witchcraft, accident or juju? Yet you are saying she should go and sacrifice to them to leave her alone? If they leave her who would be protecting her then? Are you not contradicting yourself? This is someone that claimed she pays tithe? I can really tell you are a babalawo
DeleteI don't think its ancenstral spirits thats her problem. She has a spirit husband and spirit of rejection too.her spirit husband must be very strong. Poster do u have sex in the dream? Eat in the dream? Do u dream of any man telling u he owns you or anything like that?
DeleteOmg.u never ceased to amaze me. LMAO. It could be true though
DeleteThese woman is seriously demonic.
DeleteShe is not demonic, umu okpu things is real, Queen is 100% right. Let her try it, do the necessary things and see...
DeleteThis your chronicle is about no job or no husband?
ReplyDeleteSee get a distraction, a blue collar job if u can't get white, your desperation might be the thing driving them or ur cookey ain't tasting good..anyhow get a distraction.
Lord fix it.it is well wit u poster..
ReplyDeleteHmmmmm.
ReplyDeleteIf you don't deliver yourself from your mind and the way you reason, no prayer or man of God can deliver you. I was a victim of rejection... it's real... I feel and understand you. I could go 2 years at a stretch and no man will compliment me tankless of asking me out.
ReplyDeleteNow listen... You are a daughter of Zion. You are a truck load of favour. Any man that finds you finds favour. You don't bring men down, you help them build. A man that chases a thousand will chase 10,000 with you by his side. You are better than what you think but you don't know it.
Focus on making money and watch men lick your feet.
Your last sentence really concluded it. When you have your money come and tell me about spirit of rejection.
DeletePoster, your current situation is: you're illegal in the US and you don't have a job or a relationship. Have you overstayed? Do you plan on coming back? I think you should look at that problem first, before you start worrying about that guy.
Are you in his place? Move out before he returns, stop calling him, think of how to arrange your life esp your finances. Your life isn't dependent on anyone. When you are financially stable as a woman, you won't even have to sleep with any man or feel you owe them anything in return. You wont have time for nonsense.
You are focusing on too many things at once. Seems you have many issues: financial, marital, spiritual, residence. You're not a kid, take a decision biko. When there are many husbands in the US you're here crying over this one? That rejection spirit nonsense doesn't work with oyibo mentality biko.
Poster listen to madam xhukito, she's made money & chike is licking her feet & goodness knows what else he's licking. It works.
DeleteStella, no be small 'what if his phone was stolen'?
ReplyDeleteEya pele
ReplyDeleteHmmm.. Poster, nothing is wrong with you. The problem here is desperacy, once men sense it, they abscond, you shouldn't have broken down and told your man the challenges you went through, another mistake was giving into sex, if only you had held on till the wedding night. You might have to wave this guy goodbye, or go back to your Mummy G.O and tell her what happened, let her redirect you.
ReplyDeleteIt is well!
Hmmmn, "desperacy "? Odinma.
DeletePoster how old are you sef that marriage is what you are after, you are jobless if you eventually get married and still remain jobless have you thought of how you will survive besides the man you will marry is also human even If he is comfy with it at first there will be a day he will burst out for your joblessness I think what you need right now is stop getting desperate about marriage leave it to God, get a good job, live a good life and keep praying the best will surely come your way.
ReplyDeleteLooks like some of you don't read this chronicles and jump to comment. You can't even see her age from this chronicle?
DeleteStop visiting pastors about this cos most of them will be chopping you Mugu!...
ReplyDeleteSome don't even have solution!..
They will tell you to bring money to do one or two work for you so you will get married..
Don't mind them!...
Your problem is your foundation!..
If you follow this advise,you will come back and thank me later!,,.
Your ways will be open that anything you touch will be moving!...
Men will be rushing you like Tom Tom BUT if your ancestors don't want you to get married or have babies,there is nothing you would do about oh!...
That's why you see some rich single ladies without husband and children!...
Most rich people give their ancestors food every year and guess what?money will be flowing!...
They do it inform of give aways,open an NGO,helping the needy and poor!!...
They kill cows and organize party in their homes,you will come thinking it's a normal party...
*yinmu...
Must you type?
DeleteThank you queen.am in same situation with poster.am a man by the way
DeleteLinda Eze you're a satanist i swear!
DeleteAdvocating sacrifice to demons???? Linda Eze na wah! Just know there is hell and heaven okay.
DeleteAsss in ehhh, foundation nii,foundation korr,any foundation that's not in Christ is nonsense.
Delete"BUT if your ancestors don't want you to get married or have babies,there is nothing you would do about oh!...
DeleteThat's why you see some rich single ladies without husband and children!..."
I am glad that you know that even your ancestors have limited powers.
To everyone going through this kind of problem,hear this well
GOD IS,GOD WAS AND GOD WILL FOREVER BE.
There is but only one God and ALL power belongs to Him.
And only Him can deliver.
Poster,realising your destiny rest on taming your flesh. Honey you don't need seers or prophets. You need Jesus,as your personal Lord and and saviour. Commit your ways and your heart to God and He will help tame your flesh. You failed once because,you did it on your own power,when the wind came,you failed.
Pack out of that house,get to find Jesus and yourself,you might not know but you are lost in this desperation.
You are truly a star,but until you find yourself,and Jesus you might never find your star.
Imagine this in your heart; someone is drowning and a help came for him but instead of him to calm down and let his rescuer rescue him,he kept struggling. If he does not calm down,his rescuer might never help him.
You are the drowning man,until you calm down,you might never be rescued.
The earlier the better.
Trust in God for a miracle...
ReplyDeleteposter, try reach someone fr9m his family or don't u have anyones number or go to facebook. Abi watin I go talk
ReplyDeleteBe ur 34 u are now depressed ??? What is wrong with women of these dayssss...have u thought about finding urself
ReplyDeleteIf u see wat women see inside marriage u did pray to be single
Marriage is beautiful if u learn to find urself first...don't be depress..laugh more often and the right one might just swing by
I totalling understand your plight.dont worry God will make you laugh soon
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ReplyDeleteNawaaah..oh..
ReplyDeleteThis one tire me..
May God see you through..
Dear poster its sad what's happening to you, however what's your mans initials I mean his name maybe he came back for the Xmas and had gotten married to another person. If not what could be his reason for the silence. Its well and please sometimes our thoughts can control what happens to us. I used to always fall I'll at a particular time of the year, it continued for years cos I had taken note of it and believed it was a pattern until I made an effort to change that thought. Its been many years now and that sickness is gone. Please apply this wishing you the best.
ReplyDeleteAnd one more thing is he Yoruba from Ondo state I just dey ask.
ReplyDeletechoi.... village people using your pic as screensaver! Heartbreak can pain eh, but its worse without closure, pls take it easy o, life is worth living, time heals all
ReplyDeleteHmmm the pressure on women in Africa to marry is scary. Just like stella said, how are u sure he is OK. My dear dnt cease praying ooo
ReplyDeleteThis one carry man matter for head like say she no fit be something without marriage. Have you ever thought of the fact that your desperation to hook a man gets so obvious that the men you meet pretend to like you just to chop and vamooose! Why dont you improve yourself? Concentrate on creating a firm Base for yourself rather than jump from one man to the other. The churches sef, are not helping matters. Can't you concentrate all that energy and resources you spend on men and churches on a business or career? Na by force to marry eary? If you package yourself well that will even be an attraction to serious, matured men
ReplyDeleteLeave her! She's hanging in the US and still worrying over man. Insetad of asking real questions. What have you been doing in 34 years of your life? Okay,16 years of your adult life? Just f**king and praying? Okay.
DeleteYou are to be your family's messiah and you had to enter runs business? O diegwu really!! some people's destiny and fornication do not see eye to eye. One must give way for the other period!
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ReplyDelete"You 're key to financial breakthrough in your family"
ReplyDeleteIn as much as I don't believe in all these 'pastor said' things but you threw the key away and was pursuing DOA relationships Upandan.
Please go and look for work.
Linda wil tell you to settle your marine husband lol but I will say just be you.. .
ReplyDeleteWith your mindset, you will be desperate for a relationship and desperate in the relationship.
I think you shoukd just relax. Pray because it's good to pray. Allow God take over your life, with That, no-one from the other world can have a say bout your life. Be He the best you can be for you and believe me, you won't even know when that person comes around. You will be in love because you are in love not to prove these circumstances wrong.. ..
Relax my dear. Your boo will find you and you will have that happy ending.
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Hhhhhm,now this is serious. I think it has something to do with having sex before marriage and the vow you broke. Truth be told Sex is spiritual and only few understand, spirits are contacted in the act both good and bad. You've asked God to forgive you for breaking the vow and he has because he is a merciful God. Keep trusting and he will doit for you. And reading what stella said keep your fingers crossed.
ReplyDeletePardon Stella, I did not see my comment on Hosea 4:10 posted by 15:08
ReplyDeleteMy sister be comforted I feel your pain.all I can say is take it to the Lord in prayer. Reinvent yourself, do what makes you happy, pray always....
ReplyDeleteThen watch Jehovah overdo gives you your testimony
This is bad
ReplyDeleteI almost cried reading this but u won't allow the devil to win...u have to put urself together and move forward.. Life is beautiful
And every disappointments is a blessing..
I am Yoruba and I have faced he same things for years, mine is once we have sex they begin to hate me. So I became celibate for the past 4years now. A lot of guys also left me too because they can’t handle celibacy but I met a lot of guys who stayed but it just didn’t work out.
ReplyDeleteYou just have to keep praying o my sister that’s what I did. Things are better now for me.
It shows you have a very bad attitude. Things can only get better as u claimed when u change ur bad behaviour. Also work on ur personal hygiene and sex life by learning how to satisfy ur man.
DeleteSee this people oh!...
ReplyDeleteRUNZ girls are getting married every day and living happily in their marriages!...
Even those that are not married are successful in their various field!...
Hian!...
As if we don't know that Runz girls go with juju? Whatever success you want to claim for Run girls is not far from their voodoo
DeleteSame girl,spiritual husband is real!!...
ReplyDeleteDon't live in ignorance my dear...
You are misleading people you this queen and boss.
DeleteNigerians and praying,deliverance and fasting!...
ReplyDeleteBut are the most wicked people in this whole world!...
None of you know God more than me!...
Una no pray pass me oh!..
When I pray,I shake mountains!...
I'm a Christian yes,but when things like this occur in people's life,you have to give to ceaser what belongs to him!...
Some successful people will read my comment and relate!,,.
This is one thing they will never share with anyone!...
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The ignorant ones that have this kind of issues will continue praying and end up being stagnant all the days of their lives!...
Oriegwu!,..
Poster,don't mind this people ooh!...
Even if you eventually get married,you go TTC till eternity OR your husband might even flee!!...
The financial aspect nko?...
I don't want to go there!...
I reject it for you sha!...
Linda don't mind them. Even the bible recognises ancient landmarks. I am a Christian but I don't deceive myself. All our ancestors that worshipped God through other lesser gods will they all go to hell? Poster better give yourself brain and settle them. Linda knows what she is saying.
DeletePlease stop moving in with guys,you're giving them everything for free.
ReplyDeletePoster is your mother still alive? If yes, why is she relaxing?
ReplyDeletePoster,
ReplyDeletesuffer ur body ,just go without sex and without telling anybody ur problems
till ur stars, glory returned back to you,,someone out there maybe using ur stars
to shine while somebody u may know very well maybe blocking it,,pray only the
wills of GOD to be done in you,,,have 2years plus in mind from now,,never give ur
self to any man,,any man that is real to marry you dont need to test you,,
goodluck,advice,from someone who has been there as you going through,,
african witches are always there to delaying any one with a good stars,,GOD HELP US
Hmmmmmm na wah
DeleteY this chronicle is second to that chronicle a side chick sent in foolishness. Please, like chikito asked, what have you used your adult life to do? Fvching and praying???. People like you are what we pray everyday that our daughters don't become. You reek of desperation and lack of self worth. Better find a job or career. If you marry now and dv sets in, you can't even leave or anything. To all of you saying spiritual husband's etc, arrant nonsense. What if she is possessive, chess with her mouth open, bleaches, cannot hold a decent conversation. ? Abeg
ReplyDeleteI love you maami@ Queen and Boss. Any other chief is a counterfeit. Kwakwakwakwakwakwakwakwa. Poster, the devil doesn't give anything freely. Follow my Chief's advice at your own peril. Talk to God in prayers, he listens. Today's sermon in mass centered on "when God is silent". The Second reading talked about fornication and our body being the temple of the Holy Spirit. Please read 1cor 6:13-15,17-20. Retrace your steps darling and watch things fall into place in your life. Relating it to the topic I earlier mentioned, God speaks but often times we're carried away or distracted. Study the scriptures more often and pray. Remind him of his promises. The Bible says, he has engraved your name on the palm of his hand and even if a mother forgets the child that suckled, he'll never forget you. While you are at it, please search for a job. Get yourself busy . I pray all your heart desires pleasing to God be granted. E-hugs.
ReplyDeleteAkuko, how many marriages did you break during your runs days. Karma is a bitch sometimes and for some people.
ReplyDeleteYou will be fine last last.
dont you know his family? call his siblings find out if he has arrived. go to his house.
ReplyDeletewhy are you sitting at home crying? i dont understand
dont you know his family? call his siblings find out if he has arrived. go to his house.
ReplyDeletewhy are you sitting at home crying? i dont understand
I really wish people would stop judging this lady. She has made mistakes - Yes, but there is still hope. I advise that you really go back to God with a repentant heart, focus on trying to get a job or some source of living and really go to God in prayers (especially at midnight). Pray to God at midnight to restore your foundation and every other thing will follow. Also be disciplined when it comes to sex, clearly that has not worked for you in the past so just stop fornicating.
ReplyDeletePoster if you read this, this was me few years ago,i am in the US now ,married with two kids, i can so relate to your story,except that i never did runs,how i did it?it was God’s Mercy,please if you see this, please send me an email on seunacareer@gmail.com ,i would call you and give you moral support and any advice i can give.you would be fine by God’s grace.
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