Iya Ibeji Series -The Pressure To Have More Children

Hmmm!!!

I grew up and in a large family. If you see where we dey turn garri you go think say we dey do party. And because I was the only female child I got to do all the kitchen work and I hated it. And I always use to say I won't have so many kids.

There was a point in my life I wanted 4 kids, then 3. But before I got married I knew what I wanted. When I met Oga I told him I wanted to have 2 kids and adopt 1. We talked intensively about adoption and he bought the idea.
So I had twins and the first two years was bliss. People will be like Pele o, e no easy to look after twins, you are strong o. But when he got to three years ol boy see pressure from every quarter.


My mum knowing I have always wanted 2 or 3 will call and be begging for just one more. Mother in law asked what the matter was and I said we were waiting for God to do it, my sister in law came from no where and said na lie o. Iya beji say she no want again. I was like since when did you become Gods PA.

My friends nko, those ones sat me down and told me that I'm not oyinbo and that my husband might seem ok with it now what about later.
The one wey pain me pass is my boss, my boss na american brought up and you will think with all that exposure she will understand for where she sef join.
My doctor sef called me and was asking if it the trauma of having
C. S that is making me scared.


Street people and well wishers na so them go dey offer prayers ibejis go get siblings o. You know yoruba people sabi pray. The way they curve out prayers is amazing.
In church nko? When they call for people who want the fruit of the womb you go see friends dey give me side eyes. One even ask if I'm trying to copy my G.O who has only 2 children.

We had gone through some hard financial times, we were thrown out of our apartment we had to get a smaller place, like I said last week our car has broken down and a lot of other stuff. Some of these people are aware of these challenges and you will still see them say no be because of these challenges mean say you no go born. NA God dey provide money to take care of children. 

Are you serious? Because I don't talk about my problems or because I don't beg. 

Then sometimes I would be like what about people like Peter Okoye, SDK, Chioma Chwukuka?

The pressure I feel now is more than when I was TTC. At least then they were sympathetic. 

My question today is why do we put pressure on poor/ low income earners to have more kids and its ok for rich people to have less?