STAND ALONE NARRATIVE
THIS KIND OF HUSBAND
Good day Stella, I guess this is a chronicle... never thought I'd be writing this but I'm in a very confused phase of my life.
I got married last year and I have a beautiful child to the glory of God, the problem I have now is my husband, I'm not working but he has a very good income he won't give me money and because of the kind of person I am, I've also stopped asking because he makes me feel like I'm begging when I ask for money. If i want to make my hair he won't answer till after 3/4 weeks.
I'm breastfeeding and He won't buy foodstuff at times, he will make sure there's nothing in the house before buying anything. Just last night I told him there's nothing for me to eat and He said "Ehya"
Good day Stella, I guess this is a chronicle... never thought I'd be writing this but I'm in a very confused phase of my life.
I got married last year and I have a beautiful child to the glory of God, the problem I have now is my husband, I'm not working but he has a very good income he won't give me money and because of the kind of person I am, I've also stopped asking because he makes me feel like I'm begging when I ask for money. If i want to make my hair he won't answer till after 3/4 weeks.
I'm breastfeeding and He won't buy foodstuff at times, he will make sure there's nothing in the house before buying anything. Just last night I told him there's nothing for me to eat and He said "Ehya"
I can't Even start listing all the things he has been doing cause they're too many. I've contemplated suicide but It will kill my mum. When I reported him to his parents, he told them all sort of lies, and of course they took his side. I wanted to start a business and He has refused to give me capital that is not even up to a tenth of his salary.
Been looking for a job but I haven't gotten one too. I know my write up is disorganised, that's my state of mind right now. I don't even know what I want I just want to vent.
*This kind of mentality where a woman expects a man to be her bread winner and feed her only happens in Nigeria or what?Abroad you cannot do this..
This is why i advice women to make sure they are bringing something to the table before getting married and do not let him convince you into resigning from your job.....................
It is also wickedness for a man to know his wife does not have and still doesn't give her if he has.....he responds to giving money after three-four weeks?na wah
*This kind of mentality where a woman expects a man to be her bread winner and feed her only happens in Nigeria or what?Abroad you cannot do this..
This is why i advice women to make sure they are bringing something to the table before getting married and do not let him convince you into resigning from your job.....................
It is also wickedness for a man to know his wife does not have and still doesn't give her if he has.....he responds to giving money after three-four weeks?na wah
I hate it when a woman is a full time house wife, I'm a product of such home and I know the effects. Madam even if it's a teaching job, go and get it asap
ReplyDelete*Larry was here*
Teaching job is not just,it is a noble profession.
DeleteIt's this mentality about teaching job that has churned out alot of half baked teachers. To Nigerians, teaching is no longer a profession. It's now a last minute resort. If all else fails in your life then go and teach. SMH
Delete'Even if it's just a teaching job'
DeleteThis assertion has been a discouraging factor to peeps that'd like to choose that as a profession.
Anyway, what do I know?
Lemme keep getting well paid as a teacher while others look down on it
I hate it too. It gives the woman no respect and the liberty to be treated like trash, being at the man's mercy. To the poster, your story is incomplete, what advice do you want us to give you?
DeleteMy dear I’m a full time housewife with 2 House helps, driver, Gardner and cook all paid for by hubby. I have only 2 teenage children and it’s been this way for over 10yrs. I have absolutely no complaint. The housekeeping he gives me is enough for me to save well and invest for myself. What am I working for? Being a housewife is a very hard job. U have to manage everyone’s moods and all. Well all I can say is that not everyone’s situation is the same. I guess u r just unlucky to have a miserly and stingy husband. Oh and b4 u all abuse me, I have a masters degree so it’s not like I’m dull. I just see being a housewife as a full time occupation.
DeleteMy dear I’m a full time housewife with 2 House helps, driver, Gardner and cook all paid for by hubby. I have only 2 teenage children and it’s been this way for over 10yrs. I have absolutely no complaint. The housekeeping he gives me is enough for me to save well and invest for myself. What am I working for? Being a housewife is a very hard job. U have to manage everyone’s moods and all. Well all I can say is that not everyone’s situation is the same. I guess u r just unlucky to have a miserly and stingy husband. Oh and b4 u all abuse me, I have a masters degree so it’s not like I’m dull. I just see being a housewife as a full time occupation.
Delete19:45 anybody that will abuse you has a problem.
DeleteSo after all said and done the masters degree earned you full time housewife position? To add salt to injury, you are proud of it too. Can you imagine your contributions outside of the home in a society where many girls don't even get a chance to go to school? Do you know how many more lives you could better given the enormous deficiencies in Naija communities? Or it doesn't even tug at your conscience bcos you are simply myopic, self centered and vacuous? You see ya life? Tomorrow when your horseband marries another youngie, don't complain-o bcos you've handed him all the chips. Women like you are the reason some cave men still think a girl's education is valueless. Namsense.
Delete02.29 you sound jealous, don't you know that some house wives are far better than some working class ladies, just face your own life.
DeleteMy dear anon 2.29, let me tell u that from my full housewifery I have trained 2 of my House helps to higher institutions and the 3rd just got admissions. My Former Gardner is studying agric at the university. I am making a change in my own way. It doesn’t have to be in an office earning money. The mentoring and financial assistance I have given my staff is priceless and has exposed them to a higher level in every aspect of their lives. My masters is used in the way I treat everyone I meet, the charities I donate to and generally the way I relate to everyone and everything. So do not think u can guilt trip me into feeling useless. I am very proud of my status as a housewife. Even women who are at the pinnacle of their work life have husbands who marry as u say a youngie. So if that happens it’s not new or peculiar to housewives. Why should I work when I can put my skills to better use and I live within the means I have? U that is working wether u are a man or woman kindly elucidate on how u have made a difference to society.
DeleteGiven your platform at this point, you could still be doing a lot more. Not necessarily a 9-5 engagement but impacting more lives. Think about it. Plus, you need to keep your professional skills relevant while at full time housewifery (if there's even such a term) bcos the present divorce statistics are not in your favor. It's not hating on you or others in the same boat, at all. Just keeping it real.
DeleteLet me chime in, some men are just evil. I'm a stay at home mom by choice. It's a decision I made earlier in life before marriage, after seeing the rate of abuse and kidnaps in Nigeria. I discussed it with my husband before we wedded, he was thrilled.
DeleteI said until they are of a certain age before I can leave my kids alone with anyone. That doesn't mean I don't have help, I have a nanny, a housekeeper, 3 security guards, a gardener.
This isn't a long term plan, but my husband provides and I manage the home. I get a monthly allowance and housekeeping. Sometimes my husband will put his needs aside to fulfill mine and the kids. We have a couple building projects so we try to live in moderation.
You have to know the kind of man you are marrying, I'm sure you would have seen signs of stinginess while dating. My advice, if you can drop your baby with your mom and get a job, please do. Your husband is wicked.
Go through my second post and u will see what I do. My dear the one on one time I dedicate to those around me especially my children is priceless. They never had a lesson teacher cos I was coaching them personally, they had my undivided attention not to talk of the time I gave both my parents and parents in law. I don’t have to be loud about what I’m doing to make an impact or difference. Back to the post, I beg the posters husband is just not supportive at all.
DeleteEnd time husband
ReplyDeleteThe husband sounds like a Virgo man. Na them dey dey unreasonably wicked/uncaring/petty and stingy like this. Check most divorced/never married guys of 35 and above, most of them are Virgo or Scorpio. 2 evil signs but Virgo is the most evil of the 2, nothing, absolutely nothing good about a Virgo man.
DeleteThe husband sounds like a Virgo man. Na them dey dey unreasonably wicked/uncaring/petty and stingy like this. Check most divorced/never married guys of 35 and above, most of them are Virgo or Scorpio. 2 evil signs but Virgo is the most evil of the 2, nothing, absolutely nothing good about a Virgo man.
DeleteThe husband sounds like a Virgo man. Na them dey dey unreasonably wicked/uncaring/petty and stingy like this. Check most divorced/never married guys of 35 and above, most of them are Virgo or Scorpio. 2 evil signs but Virgo is the most evil of the 2, nothing, absolutely nothing good about a Virgo man.
DeleteAdvice to Nigerian men: make sure you invest in your wives, woman are the ones who help out when the chips are down, you will be shocked what a woman would do for you when you are down, especially when you have been giving her money. My dear steal his money if possible, how can you be hungry and he will say eyya, how did you even date such a stingy person? Nawa o
DeletePush up hm I am one such woman. My husband was so generous to me when he first had money. When things went south I was the one shouldering everything and my kids are in expensive schools so no be joke. All that kept me going was remembering his generosity which I must say was what I was spending back on the home cos I am a housewife and all I had was money from investments I made when he used to give me. But that generousity he showed me made me give back selflessly. I never held back the money. Today he’s back up and needless to say he is giving me more than ever. He says I was so supportive but he doesn’t realize it was all because he was so generous to me.
DeleteStella abeg forget it. This man is just wicked, we all know how a nursing mom eats. Whether abroad or not he should atleast provide food nau.
ReplyDeleteStella u think the poster isn't searching for a job or what.. nobody wants to be dependent on the husband so pls take it easy with this your if it were abroad. I ve been looking for a job for close to a year now so I depend on my hubby for my upkeep. God bless my hubby cos he gives me without my asking but some people are not that lucky. I pray 2018 brings good job my way cos am not happy leaving all d financial burden to my hubby
DeleteThank u. It’s not about being a housewife which I see nothing wrong with but the stingyness of the man. Pls stop running housewives down. That’s how people will be telling me to take 120k work when my housekeeping is much more than that. So I should work and use all my salary for transport then still not bring up my kids myself abi???
DeleteI don't understand how a man will see that there's no food in the house n refuse to drop money, ur wife is not working, u saw her like dat n married her, then turn around n starve her or refuse to empower her! Where u forced? The men empowering their wives who have no jobs, do they have two heads?
ReplyDeleteWhat a pity...
ReplyDeleteSounds like a very one sided story, he married you when you didn't have a job, so he already knows your financial capability.Something doesn't sound right about this story.
ReplyDeleteYes you are correct.
DeleteThe only thing that doesn't sound right about this story is YOU!!!
Even the Bible says if a man cannot provide for his household he's worst than an infidel. That your husband is one heck of a wicked man. If not who starves a breastfeeding mother. Who does that?
ReplyDeleteAnd even you madam ,why did you marry without having any source of income. We've said it on this blog times without number that women without any source of income should never contemplate marriage. Its causes "see finish syndrome " You married him thinking he will become your ATM,now look at the outcome of your decision. Its your cross so you better carry it alone. I pray God send help your way. And this will serve as a good lesson to those lazy girls out there who refused to be self employed but busy looking for a man that will take them out of poverty.. Wake up girls.. Those days are gone as men are wiser with their money now.
Haha take am easy now, even if her thought was to make the husband an ATM machine her problem her palava but not feeding the wife while nursing his own child is sheer wickedness. The man should know that his family is his responsibility.
DeleteEither the wife is working or not he shouldn't wait to be told to take care of his home.
The man should realize that she is nursing his child, abeg he is a wicked man
ReplyDeleteThis is plain wickedness she s a nursing mother for God sake some men r from d pit of hell
ReplyDeleteCorrect husband..the man's money is for himself and his children..he can spend on you if he wants. He owes you nothing.Go
ReplyDeletemake yours..please,men stop marrying broke ladies..
See this species.
DeleteMumu 15:34, I reject your kind of man for my enemy
DeleteHe can as well carry and nurse the baby by himself. Do you know full time housewives works harder than normal regular paid job? I'm in the care job and I work harder at home than I do at work where I get paid
DeleteYou are obviously stupid!
DeleteThe only advice I have to give you is to double your hustle in the search for a job. I won't tell you to keep on praying for him to change cause I think that's just how your husband is wired. Kpele. It is well.
ReplyDeleteWait o Stella are u saying he shouldn't take care of his wife and child?? Even if am working as long as u are my husband am ur responsibility..
ReplyDeletePoster don't he brings money home?can't u just take money when u need it??u don't need his permission abeg..
See them...if na man na..you all be screaming my money is for me.
ReplyDeleteOr you advice married ladies not to give money to their loved husband when he is in need.now,table don turn,u all calling the man wicked.lol.young woman,go and find a work.stop depending on the man..me personaly i cant marry a lady that got nothing doing.. If as a guy,i earn 300k a month,my woman must earn 250k a month.*respect to hardworking guys*
I pity your wife. So marriage is all about money now. Tufiakwa! You are no different from the ones you are accusing. Which kind of man are you, abi na man you be? Go and marry the one that earns more than you nau. Gold diggers everywhere. Tufiakwa!
DeleteAnon 15:38, 0% respect to stingy guys
DeleteOnly 300k and you are shouting like a rabies infected dog. Be quiet pls! No woman would want you even if you were earning 1m
Deletelol...@anon 15:38,m not stingy.
Delete@anon17:21,yes only 300k..and i am grateful to God.my life is a work in progress .guys got good taste too...we do not settle for less.
...and after she still shoulders some financial responsibility in the home you'll still go on strutting like a peacock waiting for her to be the dutiful submissive wife who will pound yam for you at 1am... Nonsense and foolish entitlement
DeleteThis is wickedness from the man.
ReplyDeleteMeanwhile I hate when people say they want to commit suicide...if that's your option you don't have to tell anybody, just do it already *side eyes @ Tiwa's hubby*
Your husband no be your papa, he is a help mate, and if he refuses to help, you make yourself useful by getting something to do. Suicide has never solved problem, so pulizzzz spare me the suicide part. Nigerians wey love their life pass jellof rice, iffa hear say you wan die. Mtcheeeww
Your husband suppose be your papa. Una no sabi the meaning of husband again? Wife na im be help meet. Na wa ooo.
DeleteHoney, husband no be your papa joor.
Deleteas for the help mate, hapuwa, my bad. I think both are help mate to each other. But anyway, if husband cannot provide, the least you can do, is get and do something, you know 'woramin'?
What are you talking? Husband help met? He is the bread winner. House wife is a full time job if you don't know.Did the idiot husband carry the baby's pregnancy, Did he go through body and mind exertion required? Staying up at night to nurse baby and you talk nonsense.
DeleteHoney Adanne, your husband no be the papa of the house? Ehen now, na your papa, your brother, your bestie, etc and likewise the wife to her hubby. All we know be say the two should become one.
DeleteAunty/uncle anon that is talking sense, all I I'm saying is that the wife should get a job and stop hoping and waiting for his money, since is not forth coming, and quit with the suicide talk, when she has a LO (little one).
DeleteAll that you mentioned👆 there are what comes with being a woman.
Any man that cannot take care of his wife and family, esp when he has the money is not wise with his money. Indeed he is a very very foolish man. Such men can spend everything on one useless sidechick. Poster I feel for you. You should not be maltreated working or not. That is a form of abuse. I pray our Santas can help you with a job or money for business. Even teaching try it. Don't let this your horseband get the last laugh.
ReplyDeleteStella please stop saying that women abroad are not housewives because quite a number of them are. Some leave work for up to 10 years in order to raise their kids and then they go back to work especially if the husband earns enough. It doesn't make their husbands mattress them.
ReplyDeletePoster you have to source funds for your business from outside. Maybe from your family members. Your husband is wicked and does not love you at all.
Very true, they stop work just to raise their kids while the husband takes care of them financially.
DeleteThere is definitely no love there. There is no how you would love something and leave it to suffer. A breast feeding woman. The man is heartless.
DeletePeople keep saying get a job, are jobs that easy to come by? I relocated to abuja since 2015 and till now I'm still searching for a job. I was even begging for a sewing machine because I'm going through he'll but it's for a time. Poster stop asking him for anything. Keep yourself busy attend programs for the sake of your sanity. Keep telling yourself it will pass. In my case I ask for nothing. Iv trained my stomach to expect food once daily. Note I am also breastfeeding. One day it will be a thing of the past.Shalom
ReplyDeleteGod bless you madam.The man is purely wicked.Even if he doesn't give her money for clothes, hair ,manicure &pedicure,shopping etc,he should at least feed the woman breastfeeding his seed.I am so ashamed as a man reading such a chronicle.The husband is a disgrace to men.You are supposed to protect and love your wife as your own flesh.She is not even asking for a car or house,she is just to be fed!My advice is she try to empower herself and ignore the bastard.When she is standing on her own feet ,she can then divorce his arse.This is no marriage.He doesn't love her at all.
DeleteEyaaa, I pray you have a breakthrough soon.
DeleteCorrect husband..the man's money is for himself and his children..he can spend on you if he wants. He owes you nothing.Go
ReplyDeletemake yours..please,men stop marrying broke ladies..
Women in the 21st century are independent and hardworking. Please madam engage yourself in any skills, trade or even a job.
ReplyDeleteEven at that, should her husband as a man not care if she is starving or not?
DeleteI don't even know what to say.
ReplyDeleteWomen in the 21st century are independent and hardworking. Please madam engage yourself in any skills, trade or even a job.
ReplyDeleteEven if she's earning her own money shouldn't the foolish man provide for his wife?
Delete.
Madam that man has no shred of love for you... Zero your mind and know you're oyo... It's not easy but keep trying, you need to get something doing..
Whether she has job or not its Hus responsibility to provide for his family
ReplyDeleteI always wanted to be a house wife but have a business of my own also. I love the idea of hubby giving me especially before I even ask.
ReplyDeleteThe man is very wicked sheybi she was not working before he married her and inpregnate her, After all even she start working now, she will still need house help, Does he thjnk is Easy to be working and giving birth, just to drop money for food and give her money to make her hair nah be wahala so he's only interested in the baby nah human being born the pinkin for am oo, haba the man is just being wicked and cruel...
ReplyDeleteHorseband oshi
ReplyDeleteNa my ex bf you marry? That idiot took me to ABJ and he no even buy food. Lmao. Hunger wan kill me that day as I no too hold because it was a rushed trip and I was an abroad student o. I didn’t know how it was. Shame of exposing the idiotic boyfriend could not make me ask them to send me money from home. Thank God I didn’t marry him. He is married now, I am not. But I am so grateful he is not my husband. This was someone that I sent money to from the abroad when he was broke ooooo. From the little I had. When we got to Lagos, I almost strangled him to return the money I sent to him. Rubbish.
ReplyDeleteThankfully you missed the one chance.
DeleteAnd he chop you clean mouth; no be dat one dey pain you?
DeleteAnon idiot prostitute. He was my boyfriend, a single working man.Not your father. I am not a hungry bitch like you from a poverty stricken home. So I don’t degrade myself by fucking for coins. No guy from a rich family will take you seriously when you put a price tag on your pussy. They will just fuck you and pay you then pass you around to their friends. I am not your mate anon. We are not in the same class.
Delete@poster, please get yourself a job to do.
ReplyDeletesome men are like this though, but even at that, this buhari period is hard to couples who are both working to fend their family not to talk of a family where only the husband is gainfully employed.
But all in all, try talking to your husband and let him know that what he is doing is not right and if he still the same way, go and look for a job to do.
to fend for*
DeleteOne of my distance relative divorced a man for this same reason, being stingy. After marrying her in the village, traditionally oh, this idiot boarded bus with the girl from village to Lagos and didn't even buy ordinary bananas to feed her on their way to Lagos oh. He starved her throughout the journey. After they got to Lagos nko? To drop money for food name wahala yet he was doing business and making money oh. The girl keep drying up as months go by. She got pregnant and was sick,to go hospital check the state of the pregnancy na lie, the man no wan spend money. Meanwhile the baby was not developing. The girl muster courage call her people, they send money to her,she boarded a bus back home, they flushed the foetus and returned the idiot's bride price to welfare court who will return it to the idiot.that is the latest trend now,marriage finish,true life story.
DeleteMy advice to poster is to double her hustle, stop spending time being his wife at home, demand that he gets care for the baby and go out to histle. She should be doing his bit in household chores and go get a job even if it's a shop keeper. Let him get nanny for the kid.and breast feed less and demand money for the baby up keep.go hustling and ignore him. Hustle na hustle, even if to get sponsor,yes I said it. The fool is not ready to have a wife.show him you can survive on your own . Wake up before him and go for interview and let him sort out the baby sitting problems. Get a source of income and start eating outside or make food only for yourself.he can make his own by himself
DeleteStella, I beg to disagree; most women in their child bearing years abroad, do not work. Day care here is very expensive so most just raise their kids to a certain age before returning to the labour market. You wouldn't understand though as you have your own business and you work from home...
ReplyDeletePoster, how was he before u married him? Was he okay with you not working or what? Did he support you during courtship/dating or was he like this? Was he stingy or generous or partially stingy? This kind of chronicles makes me to be afraid of men....not to now think of all the promises my fiancé is making to me...
ReplyDeleteNever rely on a man's promise becos it is when you enter you will know. Then if you are lucky, you are lucky. If not, OYO is your case.
DeleteThat how was he b4 marriage no dey work o. My hubby was kinda stingy when we were dating but I liked him and since I was working I didn’t mind. After marriage he became mr over generous. 16 yrs later and the generousity still dey flow. If I used that stingyness to rate him I for don run.
DeleteWhat a coincidence. I saw A movie on African magic this morning which has a similar story line. Poster, a lot of men show their true colour when you are totally helpless and at their mercy. Now that you know the kind of man you married ehn, dust your Pali and intensify your job search.Get a job or some source of income for yourself and shame that man. And now that you know the kind of person he is, be weary of any joint financial obligations in the future. Be wise and shine ya eyes. Wake up from your slumber and don't be a 'dolapo'
ReplyDelete👍
DeleteSome of you saying rubbish to this lady pls reason with your head
ReplyDeleteMadam your husband doesn't love you one bit who starve a breastfeeding mum? Such cruelty. Madam I don't know what to advice you honestly I just feel pity for you. I pray help come your way
All this lazy men looking for who will carry their responsibilities may God punish you. Any man that cannot take care of his family is a failure.
ReplyDeleteposter pls go and look for a private school to be teaching the paid may not be much but it will help u in taking care of some of your personal needs,beside some men do misbehave wen they are the one giving u everything you need but changes once they notice u have something doing which is fetching u money
ReplyDeleteAnd u think teaching jobs are easy to come by???
DeleteOh so stella has gone to Europe and forgotten that there is a word in the dictionary called "unemployment?"
ReplyDeleteDon't you know that in Nigeria, there is massive unemployment and underemployment? So you think that this lady does not want to work? She did not make any mistake to marry without having a source of income. . . if every woman waits for a source of income before marrying, in today Nigeria, she will die an old maid!
What I believe you should tell Nigerian ladies is to learn a skill/entrepreneurship while schooling. In that way, if they get any little financial incentive, they should be able to function from home.
Please use your good platform to canvass for jobs for Nigerians and prick the conscience of these thieving politicians.
Op... your husband has received correct causing and yabs from some anonymous BVs. So what next...
ReplyDeleteGrowing up, my mother told me something that has shaped my life,she said "life is too uncertain for you to base your whole livelihood on another human being". Even without this issue, what if something happens to your husband or his job tomorrow? Would you start begging on the street? A lot of women stay home with their kids but still have a small business they do. If you are not the career type, please explore that option. Its sweet for your husband to give you money but its gratifying to also have yours. The virtuous woman the bible talked about wasn't idle. Madam, a new year is starting, think of what you can do to help your situation. Concerning your husband, our heaping insults on him wouldn't change the situation so I advise that you approach the issues with tact. If he can give you some capital for business, that would be a good start. All the best.
ReplyDeleteThank you for this.
DeletePoster, carry this advice on your head and run with it.
She said he would not give her the capital. He is wicked. Except the poster is lying. If he is the way he was described, I don't think he was insulted, peeps were just stating the obvious.
DeleteMy dear men of this days are something else. Double your hustle. Make your own money and don't let him know your financial worth.
ReplyDeleteComplements de LA pretemp, Stella oh! But in the abroad don't husbands also help their wives with chores? I'm not in total support of a spouse being idle but in certain circumstances as this scenario she has come to the understanding and knowledge that this is who her husband is. She is seeing things clearly now, no need to crucify the man poster just look around you and be a solution provider in your vicinity try and make some little cash for yourself. There is dignity in labour. It really pisses me to see people looking for jobs when they can create jobs for themselves and even be employers of labour. Must you work as an employee? I started my liquid soap business with one thousand six hundred naira in June of 2012, you won't believe the profit I made at the end of the year. However, I leveraged on accommodation and feeding in that I did not use my profit for myself or anything but reinvested in the business. It is worthy to note that when you start a business, you cannot start delving into the profit else the business would seem to be stagnant.
ReplyDeleteI went into zobo also with three hundred and sixty naira, in less than two months of start up.I made sales of two thousand naira in a week. If you don't have big capital, you can start small. Inspire yourself. Try to do a business and stand out, create a niche for yourself. Your product must not be the regular, do something different.
If you are in your personal compound, you can start a poultry with fifty birds minimum broilers preferably.
You could make tigernut juice or smoothies of different fruits, package hygienically and sell. If you can have data to browse my dear you can start anything and grow it. A journey of a thousand miles begins with a step.
All this stupid talk that being a housewife is bad, no amount of money can replace the upbringing a dedicated housewife will give her kids for the 1st 10 years of their lives. These clowns think being a housewife is easy a housewife is a driver, cook, nurse, teacher, washerwoman, pastor, caregiver, home maker, etc. Then who takes care of her? Stella u really amaze me with ur silly comment. U live in the abroad and u don't know childcare is the most expensive commodity. Pple take time off work to raise their kids because no one will help them. Besides the govt pays the citizens here in uk till they are adults so I don't get ur myopic point of view. Pls respond intelligently or don't respond at all. No one knows it all. The man married her as a job seeker he has refused to give her start up capital for business. If she goes outside now, same pple like u will judge her
ReplyDeleteMr/Mrs,you know you can make your point without silly and stupid right? That is her opinion and last I checked, we are all entitled to our opinion. Make your point and move on. God bless Nigeria
DeleteIf you marry the right person, everyday is Valentine's Day.
ReplyDeleteMarry the wrong person, everyday is Martyrs Day.
Marry a lazy person, everyday is Labour Day.
Marry a rich person everyday is New Year's Day
Marry an immature person, everyday would seem like Children's Day.
Marry a cheater or liar, everyday will become April Fool's Day.
And if you don't get married, everyday is Independance Day!
Marriage is the only school where you get the Certificate before you start.
It's also a school where you will never graduate.
It's a school without a break or a free period.
It's a school where no one is allowed to drop out.
It's a school you will have to attend every day of your life.
It's a school where there is no sick leave or holidays.
It's a school founded by God:
1.On the foundation of love.
2.The walls are made out of trust.
3.The door made out of acceptance.
4.The windows made out of understanding
5.The furniture made out of blessings
6.The roof made out of faith.
Be reminded that you are just a student not the principal.
God is the only Principal.
Even in times of storms, don't be unwise and run outside.
Keep in mind that, this school is the safest place to be.
Never go to sleep before completing your
assignments for the day.
Never forget the C-word...Communicate.
Communicate with your classmate and with the Principal.
If you find out something in your classmate (spouse) that you do not appreciate,
Remember your classmate is also just a student not a graduate,
God is not finished with him/her yet.
So take it as a challenge and work on it together.
Do not forget to study the Holy Book (the main textbook of this school).
Start each day with a sacred assembly and end it the same way.
Sometimes you will feel like not attending classes, yet you have to.
When tempted to quit find courage and continue.
Some tests and exams may be tough but remember,
the Principal knows how much you can bear and yet
it's a school better than any other.
It's one of the best schools on earth;
joy, peace and happiness accompany each lesson of the day.
Different subjects are offered in this school, yet love is the major subject.
After all the years of theorizing about it, now you have a chance to practice it.
To be loved is a good thing, but to love is the greatest privilege of them all.
Marriage is a place of love, so love your spouse.
More grace from God.
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Stella,sometimes, I na koghere!! Big time!
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Stella.
.....you can form!
Am sure you saw this stingness trait in him but u chose to marry him just to answer Mrs, madam Pls carry ur cross no advice for you,
ReplyDeleteAm sure you saw this stingness trait in him but u chose to marry him just to answer Mrs, madam Pls carry ur cross no advice for you,
ReplyDeleteIf you are on exclusive breastfeeding pls stop let ur husband buy formula for the baby so you can go out and hustle.
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