STAND ALONE NARRATIVE
IN LOVE WITH A BROKE MAN AND LOVING IT
I have a chronicle, but it is a bit different from the usual. I have read comments over the years where blog visitors advice against dating or marrying a "broke man", the argument being that they change when things become rosy, but I am here to say that that it's not always true.
I am in love with one of the so called broke man and I cannot be happier.
After getting a bachelor's and master's degrees in architecture, my love was posted to Abuja for NYSC, though his company retained him after service, they never paid him a full salary, as I type this, he has been out of a job since December 2016, his company went bankrupt still owing him 6months salary.
Since December 2016 till now, things has not been easy, our saving was what we used to get an apartment( a self contain).
As I type this
1. Our only source of entertainment is his 8 years old laptop, which is also his "office". We both love comedies and we have downloaded nearly all the comedy sitcom available online.....
2. Our bed is a an old mattress on the floor and we cook with charcoal
3. The only phone between the both of us is an old android phone with a mind of it own.
But even with all this, I won't change my man for anything, he is a hardworking, gentle and kind man, and very soon our hustle go pay.
Don't get me wrong by thinking that this is a begging post, believe me its not, because I know God gat our backs and last last we go dey OK.
So if you are out there, and you are confused if you should stick to your " broke" guy, I have some tips for you
1.HOW IS HE WHEN HE HAS MONEY TO SPEND.
A man might be broke, but no real hustler is always broke, unless his village people are on his case 24/7. There must be pockets of time when he has money, is he generous with the little he has, does he tell you when those monies come in, does he involve you when he decides how the money will be spent.
2. HOW IS HIS RELATIONSHIP WITH THE OTHER FEMALES IN HIS LIFE.
what is his relationship with his mother and sisters, is it just cordial or is there real love and respect between them. A man's relationship with his female relation goes along way in determining how he will be with his wife.
3. HOW DO YOU FEATURE IN HIS FUTURE.
whenever he is making his plans for the future, do those plans involve you. Is it always " I will do this, I will do that" or " we will do this, we will do that". This point is very important, because most times this is unconsciously done and our truest form is the unconscious mind.
4. HOW LOVING IS HE.
I am not talking about telling you he loves you 100 times a day. I mean does he show he loves you, do you wake up on a cold night and find out that he had covered you with a blanket, does he help you with things you don't expect him to help you with, maybe something as simple as loosing your hair or helping you clean the sink.
5. IS HE YOUR FRIEND.
Removing sex out of the equation, do you still have fun. can you picture the both of you alone in a room for 24 hours without getting bored.
6. WHAT ARE HIS PROSPECTS.
I can't see you struggling with a man and I ask you what his prospects are, and you tell me he has a degree in C.R.K but he is looking for a job. A job? Where? A church? Sometimes we can't help unfortunate degrees but a hustling man can rise above that. I know a guy with a degree in Animal science but today he is a big time diesel and fuel distributor with 3 tankers to his name, plus other investments. So my sister I ask again, what are his prospects.
In conclusion, I want to assure you that though there are some bad seeds out there, there are also good ones who when they are due for plucking will be very sweet and succulent to the taste buds.
I have been an ardent reader of our blog for the last three years.
I have a chronicle, but it is a bit different from the usual. I have read comments over the years where blog visitors advice against dating or marrying a "broke man", the argument being that they change when things become rosy, but I am here to say that that it's not always true.
I am in love with one of the so called broke man and I cannot be happier.
After getting a bachelor's and master's degrees in architecture, my love was posted to Abuja for NYSC, though his company retained him after service, they never paid him a full salary, as I type this, he has been out of a job since December 2016, his company went bankrupt still owing him 6months salary.
Since December 2016 till now, things has not been easy, our saving was what we used to get an apartment( a self contain).
God has been faithful though, whenever it seems as if we are about to starve, he provides out of the blues. My love is an Architect, so even though he is not working for a company at the moment, from time to time he gets design jobs which keeps us fed for some days. I am a graduate of pure and industrial, but I also make beautiful beaded jewelries and I am really good at it, though sales are not that much because I don't have a shop, but I still get orders, sometimes from Facebook and word of mouth adverts and with the money from my sales I also feed the both of us. At the end of the day, there are no savings, but who are we to complain, when some people have it worse
As I type this
1. Our only source of entertainment is his 8 years old laptop, which is also his "office". We both love comedies and we have downloaded nearly all the comedy sitcom available online.....
2. Our bed is a an old mattress on the floor and we cook with charcoal
3. The only phone between the both of us is an old android phone with a mind of it own.
But even with all this, I won't change my man for anything, he is a hardworking, gentle and kind man, and very soon our hustle go pay.
Don't get me wrong by thinking that this is a begging post, believe me its not, because I know God gat our backs and last last we go dey OK.
So if you are out there, and you are confused if you should stick to your " broke" guy, I have some tips for you
1.HOW IS HE WHEN HE HAS MONEY TO SPEND.
A man might be broke, but no real hustler is always broke, unless his village people are on his case 24/7. There must be pockets of time when he has money, is he generous with the little he has, does he tell you when those monies come in, does he involve you when he decides how the money will be spent.
2. HOW IS HIS RELATIONSHIP WITH THE OTHER FEMALES IN HIS LIFE.
what is his relationship with his mother and sisters, is it just cordial or is there real love and respect between them. A man's relationship with his female relation goes along way in determining how he will be with his wife.
3. HOW DO YOU FEATURE IN HIS FUTURE.
whenever he is making his plans for the future, do those plans involve you. Is it always " I will do this, I will do that" or " we will do this, we will do that". This point is very important, because most times this is unconsciously done and our truest form is the unconscious mind.
4. HOW LOVING IS HE.
I am not talking about telling you he loves you 100 times a day. I mean does he show he loves you, do you wake up on a cold night and find out that he had covered you with a blanket, does he help you with things you don't expect him to help you with, maybe something as simple as loosing your hair or helping you clean the sink.
5. IS HE YOUR FRIEND.
Removing sex out of the equation, do you still have fun. can you picture the both of you alone in a room for 24 hours without getting bored.
6. WHAT ARE HIS PROSPECTS.
I can't see you struggling with a man and I ask you what his prospects are, and you tell me he has a degree in C.R.K but he is looking for a job. A job? Where? A church? Sometimes we can't help unfortunate degrees but a hustling man can rise above that. I know a guy with a degree in Animal science but today he is a big time diesel and fuel distributor with 3 tankers to his name, plus other investments. So my sister I ask again, what are his prospects.
In conclusion, I want to assure you that though there are some bad seeds out there, there are also good ones who when they are due for plucking will be very sweet and succulent to the taste buds.
OK,we have heard.However,it is different strokes for different folks.
Thanks for the Lecture.Please nobody should come and say she is using cunny to ask for help,she isnt,only lecturing us on how to stay in love.No insults please.
Which God are you talking about?
ReplyDeleteThe one you are sinning against by degrading your body living in with a boy that hasn't paid your bride price?
Listen dear, fornication is what it is called and it is a sin before God. You may as well be killing and burying in your womb or are you infertile?
Please respect yourself by getting off that house! And desist from iniquity if you must call the name of the Lord.
Really if she did not call "God" here, I will not have had any comment. But I can't just read this kind of Chronicles and keep quiet. Please if you are fornicating, don't come out to tell us about how "close you are to God and how he got your back".
DeleteNevertheless, God's firm foundation stands, bearing this seal: "The Lord knows those who are His," and, "Everyone who calls on the name of the Lord must turn away from iniquity." 2 Timothy 2:19
And for those that will chant "don't judge", read the next scripture:
1 Cor. 5:12 What business is it of mine to judge those outside the church? Are you not to judge those inside? 13God will judge those outside. “Expel the wicked person from among you.”d
True love 😍. Don't mind the gold diggers who will attack you. In future, he will blow and those gossiping now will be jealous. God bless you
DeleteAnty abortion, I hail o!
Delete*hides under table*
Hmmm. Poster I still think it's too early to judge, but wetin I sabi? Also, I can tell you from experience that living with a man is not it at all. It messes up your relationship with God and even your self esteem. What if you don't end up marrying him?
DeleteThat being said I see you love your guy...eyaah, love wantintin, I go love ooo..., hope it works out for you.
Fornicating and calling "God?"
ReplyDeletePentecostal madness!
Did they tell you that Pentecostals approve fornication? Any so called church that does so is not of God. The Bible says we shall know them by their fruits. So desist from putting all Pentecostals in your box of madness. Thank you.
Delete#smh, poster may not even be Pentecostal.
I go dis one pass,who am i to judge u,it is well
ReplyDeleteI go jump dis one pass,who am i to judge u,it is well
ReplyDeleteWhat about how to date a rich guy??😂😁😁
ReplyDeleteMost of them are stingy bastards yet very controlling and jealous. They’ll spend money on themselves and frivolous things right in your front but to give you money.....
DeletePls what is pure and industrial??? Chemistry???
Delete"God has been faithful"
ReplyDeleteBut you have been faithless . . . or are you not having sex with this man?
8 But the cowardly, the unbelieving, the vile, the murderers, THE SEXUALLY IMMORAL, those who practice magic arts, the idolaters and all liars—they will be consigned to the fiery lake of burning sulfur. This is the second death.” Revelation 21:8
Anty anty! Tuale.
DeleteLol
Black 📱 you are trolling, lmao!
DeleteWhat did I just read, don't advise anyone to keep such a relationship. When money comes please come back and tell us the next story.
ReplyDeleteWehdone mma
I so pity u don't worry when money comes u ll understand the meaning of stay off broke men...talking from experience my husband was the most sweetest in fact there was notin he didn't involved me in when he was broke money came guy man changed instantly..😂😂 u better be wise
DeleteStory for gods. Madam keep your lectures to yourself, sogbo.
ReplyDeleteYou can come back for lecture 201 after the made it and spend the money on you later in the future.
I reject poverty in Jesus name.
Tsk!tsk!!
She is lecturing us on HOW TO STAY IN LUST while calling God. It is called hypocrisy!
ReplyDeleteWhen you get belle, your eyes and his go clear!
Really if she did not call "God" here, I will not have had any comment. But I can't just read this kind of Chronicles and keep quiet. Please if you are fornicating, don't come out to tell us about how "close you are to God and how he got your back".
DeleteNevertheless, God's firm foundation stands, bearing this seal: "The Lord knows those who are His," and, "Everyone who calls on the name of the Lord must turn away from iniquity." 2 Timothy 2:19
And for those that will chant "don't judge", read the next scripture:
1 Cor. 5:12 What business is it of mine to judge those outside the church? Are you not to judge those inside? 13God will judge those outside. “Expel the wicked person from among you.”d
Suffering and smiling. Yeah right. There is nothing noble about being poor please. When you married to a comfortable man that can fly you and his kids around the world. Your children attend the schools. Please nothing compare with eating the best meal with your hubby, sleeping in a safe house. Advise fire. I'd rather be crying in my g wagon than be trekking on the street with no food. Anyways some people love to suffer. God forbid bad thing. Above all things God wants us to prosper. Which kind dirty poverty love, please. He better hustle harder and starts his own company and be a success. Please don't encourage poverty mentality. Stella better post this oh! Poster when you taste sweet wealth you will know better than this rubbish you just type here.
ReplyDeleteThis one na Ila otu administration
ReplyDeleteLmao!
DeleteStella, this chronicle has brought bad memories to me.
ReplyDeleteTo start with, I used to have a boo who had no source of income (according to him), I never spent a dime on him though, but being with him was emotionally draining wallahi.
Let me make reference to "advise" 1,about no hustler being broke is very True, he had a way of making mobey but never gave me.
Truely ,there nothing like a stingy boo, he is either broke or doesnt think u are worth spending on.
One day I was with this Ex of mine and he told me he needed to travel to see his mum, that he needs to buy bread for his mum and some of his Aunties, Nwunye korkus I frooze, this dude some minutes before then told me he was very broke.
He did so many things that made me realise I was his play thing.
To think I gave up my celibacy status after 5 yeara for this idiot beats my imagination.
Its been 4 months I called our fuckery off, he has reached out to me severally, but my mind is made up- I miss him sometimes, but I am done with him for good.
I will never date a broke man again.
And the men will tell you; who will ever marry an "Mbaise girl?"
DeleteA colleague says he will feed a snake and carry cutlass and pursue an
mbaise girl if both were to enter her house same time!
Same way your broke brothers will never find a girl to date?
Delete👏👏👏. I feel you jare. A beggar man, is that one a man?
DeleteMtcheew! I pity you. He's gonna dump your silly ass when he finally makes it.
ReplyDeleteBe there,suffering and smiling and even fucking him for free not that you re even celebate now o😠😠😠
Mtcheew
Mtcheew... don't mind her.
DeleteAbi oo, giving her pussy for free on top fornication. I wonder how many abortions or babies she don kill. Stupid girl
DeleteHmm hmm. Okay na
ReplyDeletePoster better go n ask him to do d needfull instead of fornicating upandan and trying to justify by saying u r cooking with charcoal.who even ask u for this nonsense lecture
ReplyDeleteI don't know what to say but you don't know him yet until he his rich. Try to do it rightly as God wants
ReplyDeleteYou Guys better tie the knot and love together properly so God in turn will favour you guys.
ReplyDeleteGbam!
DeleteAnon thanks! You said my mind
DeleteLove is not blind
ReplyDeleteLUST is blind, deaf and dumb too.
my mother married a broke man, birth three children for that broke man, struggled to train those kids and ensured they go to the best school her little savings could afford, we were not rich but we were happy.then the broke man got a contract with Julius Berger, started making money and within few months he changed, he packed outta the house and moved with his mistress to a bigger apart. we couldnt feed, my mom hawk sachet water for years after work in order for us to feed twice a day, we were sent parking out of the dilapidated house coz we couldnt afford to pay rent, we slept under the table on the street for three days with my mom before the church came to our rescue. my mom married for love and what did she get in return? NOTHING today she is sick and she cant even afford to pay for all her therapy,drugs,corset and buy a walking frame, where is my dad? we still have no idea.
ReplyDeletei would rather remain single than marry a man like my father. Love fails when you see your child go hungry bcoz you both cant afford to feed him, love fails when you sleep on the street with your poor child bcoz you are so broke and couldnt afford to pay ur rent. trust me poster you wont even remember what love is when you find yoursef in some situation only money could solve. thats all i have to say.
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Poster comman read this one 👆
DeleteChaii
DeleteSo sad.
DeleteIt is well dear.
Madam Adviser.. wait till he makes plenty money. See babe the only time you will know a man's true colour is when he has plenty money. Dont come and be advising rubbish, calm yourself first and watch.
ReplyDeleteI don't think there's absolute anything wrong in dating a poor humble guy because no one knows tomorrow. I know a man that was so broke but today his name is a household name in car dealings and he did not defraud anyone to get there.
ReplyDeletebut my dear, don't you think its not right to live with a guy that have not done the needful to make your staying together official? As you are patiently waiting and trusting God to bless him why don't you also do so till he pays your dowry no matter how little.
Will your family be happy you are living with a man? Look for where to stay or he should do that since you rented the place, pray more and work smarter . I"m very sure God will smile on you one day but do the right thing.
All these broke men are always humble
DeleteStella, your mouth na bomb. Lmao @ ok, we have heard. korkus wife 1
ReplyDeleteIts well with you and all shall be well
ReplyDeleteImagine this kind of Chronicle???? People are really playing God. Inya Isi na Mmeghe!!!(being proud in Sin) you are living with a man you are not married to and you are proud to spill this rubbish? I dont blame you.
ReplyDeleteTo each his own abeg. If you've claimed poverty, then for the sake of love, be poor. I wish you well
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ReplyDeleteYinmu... Remixed version..
Wait till he makes some really big money and continuous flow of it.
ReplyDeleteAnd wait till he marrys u.
Then, come back and tell me how far.
Poster u never taste money bfo that is why u think it's normal to date a broke nigga. Let one BV borrow you her rich boyfriend for this xmas na there ur eye go open. But don't forget to return the boyfriend immediately after xms. Lmao!
ReplyDeleteKikikikiki
DeleteI will borrow her the stingy one amongst my bfs, cos the highest money he can bring is 20k though he is rich, but Na Nnewi man I'm be, Lolzzz
DeleteAbeg borrow me your own. E be like na dollars him get.
DeleteLmafao! You ladies are fucky cra-zzzy 🤣🤣yall are killing me.
DeleteAunty the bible said he that finds A WIFE obtains favour not he that found a sex mate or he that finds a live in lover. I personally feel that two people who can't conveniently feed themselves have no business hetting married because all you will do is bring in children into this world to suffer. A man who can't take care of his family is worse than an infidel.. Sorry to burst your bubble,this is not the perfect love story but it's a sad tale..Pls if you need Gods help put your life together and go to him for help,try and put your life together,give the man room to put his life together,save up ,honorably propose to you and then marry you with dignity, thats if he even wants to marry you. Young Lady give yourself some respect please. You are worth more than this charcoal love please
ReplyDeletePoster he is with u because no other lady will want him in his financial state. He has find his mumu. Wait until he makes money and you will see how soon he will forget you. Men can be the sweetest when they are broke or need something from you, only when they get money or get what they want from you that you can see their true colors. If he really loves you why doesn't he marry you. If u two can live together u might as well get married. Go to the registry and do a small family reunion and get married. You don't need to be rich to get married as for now he is just sleeping with you for free and you are probably the primarily one who takes care of both of you that's why he is still with you. Instead of committing fornication and expecting God to bless u don't you think it's wise for you to do the right thing. Anyway please in this your financial state don't bring a child into this world to come and suffer, I beg of you. I would advise you to focus on yourself, train yourself in a skill or go back to school. I am 34 and I am a nurse. I got out of secondary school at sixteen and started again at 28 and completed it at 30 then I got my nursing degree here abroad plus a one year master and now I work and I earn 2500 euros a month. I'm not married yet but I'm trusting in God but I promised myself at 27 that I would be financially free and independent by 34 and I am now. I too wasted my youth with broke guys or guys who could barely make ends meet but thank God He gave me sense to work hard and be able to take care of myself. If I marry at 36 I will be happy and birth two children that I know I will be able to take care of. It's never too late in life. Trade carefully my dear.
ReplyDeletePlease how did you all come to the conclusion that she is "fornicating"? From what I've read, she could be a married woman. True love still exists even when wealth abounds. God bless you dear.
ReplyDeleteLMAo poster enjoy your man jaweee, my father my father my father I reject,refuse, return, reboke poverty in Jesus mighty name...
ReplyDeleteMadam poster, I hope this testimony of yours will stand when he gets money..
ReplyDeletemadam lecturer know it all, hian come back in 30 years and send your chronicles . Silly child thinking the whole world is wrong and she is right. There is no crime in wanting better for yourself. nothing wrong. if you chose to suffer in love God for you . Abi you no hear of the girl wey wan marry that prince in England. I am tired of people taking it that just cos u want better things u are materialistic. ve u ever taken a family member to the hospital and common 200 ngn to register una no beg and u dey beg hospital no hear. Go and look @ the before and after pictures of Psquare. Poverty na bastard but poverty mentality na suffer head
ReplyDeleteU are actually very stupid n useless....poverty really dey sweey for ur mouth...na because u never go from grace to grass before..i dont blame u u were born into povery thats why so u feel uts ok to dine with poverty..
ReplyDeleteAre you guyz married already?
ReplyDeleteContinue praising him. Once he gets money he will marry someone else. That is how he will remember u r a useless girl that lived with him. Continue o. Moo moo!!
ReplyDeletePoster, I hope things work out well for you both. I think you should move out and see his reaction. He has 'see you finish
ReplyDeleteIt's because you are still in the honeymoon stage and no real responsibilities. You are only feeding yourself and him. When shit gets real, comeback and tell us.
ReplyDeleteMeanwhile, let me go and smile at my bank balance. #saynotobrokeness
May God help you o.
ReplyDeleteHow do u guys have sex in hot, uncomfortable situations? I can't abeg even with no light my husband still has to turn on gen or wait till phcn brings light.
ReplyDeleteIs poverty your birth right?
ReplyDeletekeep fornicating and calling God, until he sends angel Michael to come slap you.
ReplyDeleteLove is sweet with a rich guy abeg
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