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WHEN SIDE CHICK IS LE BOOS COUSIN

 Stella good day. I'm a quiet BV but I read your blog everyday. I need advice on this issue I'm in right now. Red pen highly appreciated.


I met this guy during NYSC while I was in camp. He seemed like he was a regular guy at first, I really clicked with him because was very smart, cute and funny, you know how camp is, everyone is wearing white you can't tell who is who. As time went on I realized that he was from a rich home (those Hausa families) my family isn't bad but we don't have that kind of money o! 

Also I'm not Hausa.

I talked to him about it, he acted like it wasn't a huge deal, told me his family is liberal, he isn't easily influenced, he knows what he wants bla bla. So we carried on, (I should mention that we met in the Kubwa camp, Abuja) rent is expensive af in Abuja so I stayed with him during NYSC. 

I was serving in one nonsense office like that so I didn't usually go to work, it'll just be me at home when he goes to work.

One day his driver came home, and while we were gisting I used style to ask about his family, he actually confirmed that they're ok and bae is very stubborn and doesn't allow them to influence his life and everyone usually just leaves him alone. So I relaxed and allowed myself to enjoy the relationship.


Service year ended, I went back home, I wasn't retained and my parents were giving me side eyes, my mum kept asking what I was still doing in Abuja so I had to go back home.


While I was home he'd call everyday and talk regularly, at one point his number was switched off for days I couldn't reach him. Finally he called, told me he switched off his phone cos he was being pressured by his family to marry his 3rd cousin (I think) now that he's done with NYSC.

 I told him to tell them that he was still in a relationship so they'll leave him alone, he told me he did, but they are refusing to acknowledge me. (I met his mum once and she was very passive aggressive and dismissive of me) his siblings are nice tho.

We talked, he told me he wasn't interested in her, she's bratty, entitled etc. So that was it.

I finally found an excuse to tell my parents and went back to bae's house, everything was normal until one day when he had gone to work, I got bored I decided to look for an old book to read then came across a box filled with plane tickets to Dubai, at least 15 of them, there was one that had the same date as the time he was unavailable (I know she lives there) although there were many tickets from before then too.

I don't know what to do at this point, if I confront him he'll accuse me of snooping and get mad, but I don't want a situation where I'll be forming girlfriend and he'll go off and marry who his family approves of.

He is usually very straightforward if he says he doesn't like something or someone, that's it, nothing will change his mind, he also goes to Dubai a lot so it could be nothing. But I don't know why he didn't tell me he travelled.

Honestly, as much as I love him, I plan to leave him cos this isn't what a relationship should be like at all, but knowing him if I don't tell him why I'm leaving he'll start stressing me, he won't leave me alone. But I also can't predict how he'll react if I tell him I went through his things. Also what if he innocently travelled and it meant nothing?

Stella help o!

*MARRY HIS COUSIN?????na wah oh

How can you be afraid f a man you are in a relationship with?This is the reason I say DONT SNOOP but team snoop members say it has helped them avoid scary situations.

The minute you know,you cannot unknow it until you confront.

Why dont you ask him nicely if he went to Dubai ?If he wont Marry you,your asking him wont change anything,besides if his family says No,you cant fight them.

Sit him down and discuss the relationship and if it will progress into Marriage...trust me,he knows already if he will Marry you or not..