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BREAKING UP OVER FINANCIAL STATUS
I have a girlfriend which I loved so so much until 2 weeks ago. we started dating from April this year and its been going great and i enjoyed every bit of been in love with her. She had no job when we started off this relationship but i cared less because I could provide for her, since April when I gave her the first naira I have been doing everything for her, I have helped her paid the school fee of her lil son once, cloths I have bought for her, I never made her fill like she wasn't working because I loved her.
Though she has been trying for jobs that i must say. there was a job she nearly got but the owner of the company wanted to have sex with her before he gave her the job and she declined his offer, she got a job in the month of September and after 1 week working there her boss nearly raped her in his office when she told me about it I made her stop the work and due to the love I got for her I gave her that month salary. I can't say she is bad at all, she is an angel, very beautiful, prayerful, very loyal and believed in my dreams so much she was willing to do anything for me and go anywhere with me to actualise it.
Before this past 14 days she was my world and I saw my future with her so everything I did for her financially meant nothing to me because I believed she could be my wife someday. But my world came crashing down 14 days ago today, my essence for living was cut short from me. My mum died.
My mum who is my best friend left exactly 14 days ago and everything changed. all the love I had for anything and anybody died with my mum, am shattered emotionally, drained physically. 4 days ago my girlfriend called me to check up on me and I asked her if she had eaten she said drank just garri even though I didn't wanted to send her money but I just couldn't watch my babe drink only garri now so I send her some money but that night I gave my relationship a deep thought. my mum is dead, my dad had died a long time, and I have 2 younger once that I am gonna be sorely responsible for there upbringing as there dad and mum now and am just 28.
Stella I have decided to break up with my girlfriend when I bury my mum because I can't add her responsibility to mine and my younger once. I know she would be destroyed, depressed, broken, she would cry for days maybe weeks, i know she loved me from her heart and not because of anything but there is no love left in me for anyone again than my 2 younger once that are now my babies to cater and provide for.
Am I making the right decision? If she had a job would I have broken up with her? can I see a girl that is prayerful, loyal and homely like like my babe?
*Awwwwww i understand where you are coming from but if the burden is too much on you then face your family and explain to her.
You seem to be in a abd place emotionally because of your mums passage...I pray that God gives you the strength to go on.
So sorry for you.
So sorry for your loss. Situations like this makes one have a second thought about who we love but truth be told the responsibility ia too much for you. You can atill kerp her but tell her thst you can't be solely responsible for her everything like before, and her reaction would tell you your next step with her. Breaking up totally is not just right.
ReplyDeleteDid anyone hear she has a son and yet still looking for a man to claim responsibility for her? Poster please dump her quickly. She is a fair weather type.
DeleteDumping such a girl will be the most silly and regrettable decisions you'd ever make! Let this period of "scarcity" be the test of her love if it is genuine. If you used to give her 100 naira, begin to share with her thirty, twenty or even ten with good explanations. Remember that she left her job because of you. She could have stayed with the boss and dared the consequences.
DeleteI am a man like you and married straight from school; both my wife and I didn't have any job then. We survived and are more than ten years going.
Proverbs 19:14 Houses and wealth are inherited from parents, but a prudent wife is from the LORD.
A wife is not like a car you can save and just enter the car shop and buy; you might "buy' your death and eternal doom!
Guy, don't break up with her. Try helping her get a job. Then, you guys can get married n have more cash to spend on your younger ones God-willing
DeleteEayaaaa
ReplyDeleteSorry for the loss of your mum... just tell her you can't do so much, Cus you have sibling to look after or can you just sponsor her in one last thing, set her up in a business venture so that you she can do something for her self, does she have a talent you can help grow, Cus she can't just stay at home praying and doing nothing else. Who was taking care of her and her kid before you came along? She should also learn to manage you both can handle it with love. Just talk to her first before you decide
DeleteSorry about your mom.
ReplyDeleteAs for ur gf, explain ur stance to her, that u can't cater for her now due to the circumstances. I would've said, forget women for now n build ur life, when u are stable, u can dive into d sea, u r 28, I my eye u be small boy, so build urself.
Small boy wey dey fuck...Abeg 28 no be small boy abeg
DeletePoster, You are a good man. Thanks for even thinking of breaking up with her instead of suffering everyone. I suggest you sit and discuss with her first. Explain calmly to her, who knows, she may decide to double her efforts and help out too. You both deserve better, All the best.
ReplyDeleteMay God Almighty comfort you and give you the strenght to carry on Amen.
ReplyDeleteThat is why it is said never put too much hope, trust on someone. You had all your love on your mum and that died with you. You need to resurrect that love back. The way you love your mum would have been better if you put that love into Christ and see how things will go back and better for you.
She has passed on and you now have life. Think of what makes you happy. Tell your babe, you are not strong emotionally, but she can be a pillar to you. Tell her to look for job to do as your two siblings will be there for you to take care of.
It is well with you. BE STRONG BOY.
Na wah for you ooh easy abeg!!
DeleteI am so sorry for your loss, you are currently grieving so please do remember to take care of yourself.
ReplyDeleteAs for your broke ass girlfriend - dump her like a bad habit. A woman that cannot not afford to eat, collecting money for hair, pad, food, cream from her BF in this modern day is a useless person. She is even a single broke-ass mother. Please just dump her, when choosing your next girlfriend just avoid all these liabilities. They will honestly destroy you and even fuck your friend for as little as 1k.
Don’t worry you will jam your match,keep running your mouth then your name go change from spirit to hydrogen perioxide
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ReplyDeleteI almost cry reading this
Losing someone is very hard,
But breaking up with her will not help u heal...mayb u should heal first. I don't think it because she has or doesn't have a job,u are falling into depression... Feeling empty while u have people who truly love u around..just give urself time,u will be fine,u are a man...u need to be strong for urself,ur younger ones,and her..many of us have not grown when we lost our parents and are left with the responsibilities of others..
Takecare dear
God gat u
U will be fine...
I wish I can get ur number cause I be bn thru stuff like this..
Do you know she can get a job and help lift off your burdens too before the day ends?don't break her heart over something that is not permanent please,just pray hard and have faith then encourage her to do the same.......God answers prayers!
ReplyDeleteposter sorry for loss but i will advice you not to make any decision now untill u are calm. this too shall pass!
ReplyDeleteTell your babe u will still be dating her but no more financial assistance from u to her. Let her go and hustle no be u be her papa.
ReplyDeleteNa wa self,someone that just lost his mum, instead of her to look for a way to support him you open mouth to tell him say you never chop.
ReplyDeleteNa wa self,someone that just lost his mum, instead of her to look for a way to support him you open mouth to tell him say you never chop.
ReplyDeleteThe truth is, you are going through a deep grieving moment over the death of your mum, you need to understand that. So, you're certainly not going to be emotionally available for and to your girl. One of the symptoms of deep grief is numbness deep within, but, the good news is that it will soon pass. You will heal and come out stronger and enjoy your relationship with your woman. Don't call it off, you're not in good frame of mind to take such decision. Even if you have to, don't do it now, rather, do it when you're in much stable state of mind. I bet that then, you will not want to turn your back on the kind of girl you described here. After all, you've mentioned nothing she did to warrant your calling off the relationship. Mourn your mum, last it through, heal, am sure you'll be able to love again, even better.
ReplyDeleteHawk-Eyed!
Don't break up with her. Don't don't. Death makes us make horrible decisions because we think what's the essence of life. My friend was ready to die herself when she lost someone really close. It was like all the people left on Earth were like rubbish compared to that one. We were just listening and smiling cause we knew when the initial horrible grief lifted, she'd see there are others left and remember our love. Give yourself time. This time will pass and you'll remember your love again. Meanwhile like I told my dear friend then, just go through the motions of lovee. Do like you used to. Give her small food money. Text her and explain you are sad but you love her and she should give you time. If she cooks, eat. If she comes by, hokd her, kiss her, hug her do whatever you did before. Slowly you'll recover. Try what I said
ReplyDeletePoster, my condolences to you on your loss. May God Almighty comfort you and your siblings. And also thank you for always supporting your friend despite the challenges and difficulties she's currently going through. But since her character is not the problem here but financial constraint which i believe she's making efforts to get a job don't call it quits with her.
ReplyDeleteCall her for heart to heart discussions and let her know your limits that you cannot be there for her financially like you used to because of your younger ones welfare - ie the cash wont be coming in like before but little here and there. I believe she will understand and buckle up. If you break this relationship because she is not working now and she ends up sleeping with any man that offers her job opportunity in order to survive- will you be happy? Seeing that you don't wish her that. Please,don't give up on her. She's prayerful, loyal and with God's help one day everything will fall in lines. God Almighty comforts you and help you more financially and make a way for your friend to get a good job. Trust Him. HE wont fail you. Thank you
Pls don't break up w her. You can cut down on ur financial assistance, and let her know y before then.
ReplyDeleteThen, trust God for your needs and that of your siblings too. God is d father of the orphans and doesn't joke w them.
Let God knows u can't do it and you all depend on Him and watch wat happens.
I trust God to open great financial doors for you and even grant your siblings scholarship. I have seen these happen. Only if you believe and trust Him.
For your babe, if u wanna marry her in future, continue dating. No fornicating ooo. Then, her job too will come suddenly. But she can start very small business, till then.
Just hold God more and closely now. Only him can come through for you.
If there must be a leaving, she should decide to leave, don't call it quit. Moreover, she should take a little responsibility for her life. Was she not feeding clothing, etc. before you met her? Doesn't she have a family?
You can be excused for your grammatical blunders and ''syntactic suicide'' because of the psychological trauma you're going through.(You have a girlfriend WHICH you loved so so much until last two weeks? So,your girlfriend na animal,place or thing...and not a human,abi?)
ReplyDeleteIt's not easy to lose one's parents to the cold hands of death,but death is inevitable and a reality we must face. Due to your young age (you said you're 28,right?) you must not take on more than you can bear/handle. You should take the following into consideration:
*Your girlfriend is unemployed and therefore a burden to you
*She has a ''baggage'' (her''lil son'')
*you have other dependants: your two siblings.
*Can your income take care of all of them?
You should let her go and face your immediate responsibilities. I know that it isn't easy and that people readily give advice they can't take themselves, but, if she loves you,she will understand.
You go dey alright last last.
I wish you luck.
Poster don't break up with her. Tell her the situation of things and tell her that you can't take care of her financially. It is left for her to know if she will stay or not.
ReplyDeleteMay the soul of your mum RIP.
ReplyDeletePlease don't break up with her... Just talk to her and let you both sort it out. If you guys were married and your mum died will you tell her to return to her parents? God will help you balance the whole responsibilities. Your girlfriend might just get a job and everything will be fine, with the death of your mum you need all the support and love that you can get, you deserve it so please don't push her away.
ReplyDeleteGbam! God bless you!!!
DeleteThis man sounds like sexy daddy.
ReplyDeletePoster, accept my condolences. You would get through this with time. I am confused though, why do you think you would be responsible for your girlfriend??? Why can't she be responsible for herself?Is she not an adult? Something is not adding up IMO. If you don't have to give her then tell her.Where are her parents, why can't they support her? It must be heaven for Nigerian women o. So a non relative would just start footing your bills because you guys are dating, wow, wow, wow! Interesting. This is a not even a chronicle to me honestly. This is a no brainer. she should take care of herself. Let her go work or something. You are also really grieving right now, don't make any hasty break up decisions. Talk to her. I can't even imagine your pain. I am so sorry.
ReplyDeleteSorry about your loss. May God comfort you and your family
ReplyDeleteBut I'm confused. Is it that all your love died since you lost your mom so you want to break up with her as you have not love left in you but for your siblings
Or
The death of your mom means you have to cater for your siblings which means you can't carter for her , not that you don't love her anymore??
Well, if the first is the case, then why not tell her you need some space to grieve, give it some time and then see if you can still continue dating her. Because it would be wrong to string her along if you don't have love for her
Now if they second is the case, why not sit her down and have a conversation with her. Explain your financial situation and the fact that you need to carter for your siblings. Explain to her that adding her own responsibility to yours is going to grill your pocket and as a young man, you are still making way for the future. You both would definitely come up with something. This reason isn't enough to break up with her
The poster above is why I say a guy will respect/accept a lady with a job, any type of job as long as u can get money for one or two things from it over one with no job at all.
DeleteWhy should u be drinking garri just cos ur bf hasn't given u money in a few weeks.
Women should find something doing, anything at all. That doesn't mean ur bf shouldn't cater for ur needs but at least he'd know that the few times he can't, u would have something to fall back on for the time being
Thank you all for your beautiful comments and condolences, I really appreciate it. I would tell babe that I need some weeks alone to heal properly and to think about my lil and what the future holds for them. I hope she would understand and thank you Stella God blessings fall on you
ReplyDeleteSorry for your loss but dont break up with her just sit her down and pour out your feelings and ask for ber emotional support. Explain about your sibs i am sure she will understand and tell her to start hustling that you cant do it all alone anymore.
DeletePlease communication is key
Shalom
Pele. May God comfort you, it's not easy losing a dear one.
DeleteMy condolences!
DeleteMay your mum soul rest in peace.
Just tell your babe that you won't be supporting her financially, as usual because you need to focus more on your siblings.
If she really loves you, as you claim, she will stay with you in this trying time.
Sorry for your loss dear.
ReplyDeleteBut I have a question for you. If you were already married before your mum passed on, will you divorce your wife?
I don't think breaking up with her is the solution, because if you truly love her, you will regret it. Just explain to her that you can't be there for her financially now. Give her a chance to be there for you. If she eventually leave because you are not giving her money, then you will know she never loved you.
Please don't make any decisions in your current state until you heal a bit then you can evaluate things calmly and properly. Breaking up with her many not be your best response to the present situation. Let time heal you, OK.
ReplyDeleteSorry about your loss.
Let me go anon on this. Poster I'm sorry for your loss. one thing you need to bear in mind is that the loved ones that died have lived their lives. Also, your younger ones will separate from you once they become independent and get married then you become a family member but not their primary point of affection. Try to meet their needs and look after them cos they need you now but watch your emotion.
ReplyDeleteThe only problem I see here is your girlfriend being too dependent on you. you could have some sort of discussion with her and let her know that your responsibilities has increased and you can't handle all of hers. she might even get a job in the process but if she shows any negative sign then you will know she is only using you. Hurting her when she has done you no wrong is a no no.
I'm not just talking here for the sake of it. like you I lost my loved ones and took all responsibilities alone. I couldn't love anybody but my job alone cos dt gave me money to meet my responsibilities. I blocked all channels to love or get married cos I didn't know how to love a man intimately again as my level of independence got too high. Today I'm still struggling and almost giving up now. I don't like where I am now all alone cos everybody has gone. Pls work on yourself and your emotion. Family will always be there but love won't wait forever.
Don't break up with her just because of what has happened and your fears. Emotionally you are weak and confused now and this is the time you need her most cause you will know if she really cares about you and ready to stand by you through thin and thick. Relationship are built firmly in trying times. She has been unlucky with securing a job but you might be shocked that God might just open the way for her and she will be your new found mum. Challenges will always come in different forms but one thing we must never discard is people who care and will support us. It's painful losing one's parents but you will be fine. I lost my dad two years ago and am very comfortable financially so money is not my issue but emotionally it's been hard coming to terms with losing a father,role model,friend and confidant. So bury your mum and tell her that your responsibility is now more that she needs to understand, be patient and support you in adjusting to your new situation. If she is as good as you have described her you will see she will turn out to be the blessing and mother you think you have lost. Women are blessings if you make them happy. Trust me cause I have been married for almost two decades and my wife is not just a blessing but a mother to even my 85 year old mum. Give her the chance to support you and you will have a success story to tell.
ReplyDelete#come back and thank me later.
Your situation and his are not the same Sir! Money is not your problem but from his write-up you can reduce he is not having it easy financially! This 28year old young man has burial expenses, and 2 younger siblings who are probably still in school to care for moving forward! His gf is a full grown adult too. Why can't she at least feed herself?? Why is she making herself a dependent? Is he her father? Abeg park well sir.
DeleteMay her soul rest in peace, it is well with you bro.
ReplyDeletePlease don't break up with Bae, sit her down and explain all to her and hear what she will say, u are not in a right frame of mind to make any decision. My God will see you through
I hate emotional blackmail. This girl seems like the type even as a girlfriend if you call her to say hi,90per of the convo will be her problems.
ReplyDeleteWhy tell you she drank only garri. She knows you are grieving she shouldn't add to it. She shouldn't have expected you to send money at this point when you have burial expenses and you are down.
Where is her baby daddy and her parents? If you didn't date her won't she feed.
Ask her to give you space. Revaluate your life if you really need such a relationship right now.
I wish you well .
Thank you @your 1st and 2nd paragraph. The boy is simply her mumu, the mumu never don till she get another paying master then she dumps him. Nonsense garri drinker
DeleteGbam!
DeleteSorry for your loss dear poster. May God be with you and your siblings in this trying times. My advise is for you to have a heart to heart discussion with your gf about your financial situation, encourage her to start buying and selling or any other small hustle pending the time she will a proper job at least to keep body and soul together. Remember tough times don't last ..tough people do. Sending you e-hugs and all the best in the coming year.
ReplyDeleteGideon Adaji please all the people advising you to continue supporting her are all broke. Break up with her please. How can a women be telling her BF i have not eaten, are you her father, she no get shame?
ReplyDeleteIf you marry this women, just know you will continue to foot all bills till thy kingdom comes.
But truth be told, you are currently grieving making you numb and unable to feel things. Just look after yourself for now. Your GF is even suppose to be looking after you.
Wow. This story is so genuine. It's not easy coping with loss. Only God can comfort the bereaved. May God comfort you in the ways you'll feel it. Now to the story, don't act out of emotions. Your thoughts now are foggy and ☁ with emotions. You can't rely on how you feel now cos you're still mourning. Don't make such decisions now, you will hate it later, and she might not come back if you let her go. Let time wash over your decision. Say if after three months, you still feel this way, then do what you want to do. Me thinks it's the whole experience making you feel that way. You really love the lady, and I bet if you let her go rudely now, you will miss her so much when your eyes haff clear o, and she might not come back. I won't if I were her. That's how depression works. Don't be rash! You can also communicate with her about how you feel. That just might make you feel more comforted. God with you #e-hugs
ReplyDeleteCos its a woman that is dependent everybody is saying dont dump her, if it were to be a man that is broke everybody will be shouting dump his broke ass. Ok
ReplyDeleteLEAVE THAT GIRL because if is you that doesnt have job, money believe me, she must have thrown you out of the window. Anyway she soon dump you once your money is not coming as usual
ReplyDeleteSorry for your loss bro,moving on aint easy but you will be fine.your gf should get herself busy it seems you succeded in making her depend on u which isnt nice.drinking garri isnt poison. Lets hope she really loves you for you not for what you have to offer.if you have to give her money again let her think of a business she can do to take care of herself then watch her before you conclude how godly she is.
ReplyDeleteGideon Adaji_ the poster of the chronicle. Please are you the biological father of your Bae"s son? From your comment you sounded as the real father. And you are contemplating sending her away with your son? Take care of your responsibility because that boy is also your family. Mbok
ReplyDeleteKai. Nobhes not. Read wellna
DeleteMay the spirit of reading and understanding rest on you madam estate owner
DeleteEveryone forgetting she had a job but he encouragd her to leave because if the boss. She's not lazy. Why can't I tell my man I have no money and I'm hungry
ReplyDeleteI don't know the kind of love that is practised here in Naija. Love that is not enduring; love that flies out the window at the slightest challenge; counterfeit love.
ReplyDeleteThis is not to minimize the pain of the loss of a mother, I have gone through it as well and I sympathize with you. Let God and time heal your heart.
But if you really love your girlfriend as you claim, and wish to settle down with her, then why would breaking up ever cross your mind? When you find true love, hold on to it as tightly as possible except when it hurts. Afterall, you were the one who advised that she leaves her job.
That said, I commend you for being caring and responsible towards her by talking up her bills and all, it shows you have a good heart. Communication is key here. Sit down with her and discuss the challenges that have presented and let her know you can't keep up with the things you used to do for now, encourage her to seek new employment and map out ways to advance together.
that your girlfreind sef did she have to tell tou she drank garri knowing fully well the situation of things and knowing you would be moved to send her money, couldnt she at least lie just so as not to worry you, this luv of ur life comes across as needy and inconsiderate biko. Sorry for your loss may God open great doors for you,and heal ur broken heart. I think your making the right decision though.Bless
ReplyDeletePlease do not dumb her. I'm a man too at my early 30s. Getting a good woman t settle with isn't easy, I even had to go searching for my ex that was so good to me and I thank God we're married now. If this babe is humble and respect you, pls stick with her k, be strong. God will see u through. That babe also need u now. May God give u the fortitude to bear the lose. My condolences
ReplyDeleteWhat do you mean by "Good woman"?? Please please poster that woman is not a good woman at allllll. She is a liability 100%. Go and read the bible as regards a virtuous woman.
DeletePoster it's true your gf hasn't gotten a job, however why has she not learnt a skill? How about small business? Even if na to sell akara sef at least you will know she is hustling to succeed...How can a young girl in this age and time sit at home drinking garri?? Abeg she is just toooo dull I'm so pained. No contribution whatsoever?
By the way, why do men keep trying to rape/sleep with her? Is she the only woman in that company? Why is she attracting such men? Abi she ia just giving you fabu because she is lazy and wants to escape work? So many issues with this your lady abeg. She come carry pikin join.
Please don't mind the people telling you to carry extra liability they are just not being real. You have burial expenses to worry about, your mum who supports your siblings is no more! How much do you earn that you want to carry all this burden at your young age?
A woman who cannot support you financially or at least support herself last last is not and will never make a good wife. The day you die of the burden she will run to find another man to leech on and tell sob stories. She's not worth the stress, ask her to give you a break and let it all fizzle away.
No, I'm not a man.. I'm a married mother of 2 whose hustling game is on point and who dislikes lazy women!
This is quite unfortunate. It is quite baffling that people would find something wrong in a girlfriend telling her man that she's hungry and haven't eaten since morning. I mean, the mum died two weeks ago...not that morning. And honestly, if the dude did love the gal like he claims(although i don't think he does), even if the mum died that day, he should see nothing wrong in hearing from her that she hasn't eaten since morning...i mean, every man that loves a woman, feels responsible for her. So, if a gal who has sacrificed her livelihood before for your sake, for your love i must add, and here you are thinking of leaving her because your mum died, then you are not worthy to be her man if what is engrossing your mind is how much of a burden she would be and how she's not family. So if you were married nko? I mean...you could have married her earlier in the year and this happened...would have sent her packing? Abi, didn't you say she's the one you want to marry? As in...i'm ashamed of you! When a man loves a woman, he sees her like family..no difference! And for a truly open and thriving relationship,there should be nothing off about saying you are hungry when you haven't eaten all day...and to hear people say, she no get shame? What bloody shame for a man that is supposed to be your life partner.
ReplyDeletePlease leave the gal alone...let her find someone who truly loves her abeg!
If in your grief, all you feel is being alone and without your girlfriend, then you really weren't in love with her...in most (dare i say all) grieving situations, the reverse is usually the case because you want to be in the arms of the one you love, they become your succour...that becomes the only thing that gives you joy...infact my broda, leave that gal alone!
Dumping such a girl will be the most silly and regrettable decisions you'd ever make! Let this period of "scarcity" be the test of her love if it is genuine. If you used to give her 100 naira, begin to share with her thirty, twenty or even ten with good explanations. Remember that she left her job because of you. She could have stayed with the boss and dared the consequences.
ReplyDeleteI am a man like you and married straight from school; both my wife and I didn't have any job then. We survived and are more than ten years going.
Proverbs 19:14 Houses and wealth are inherited from parents, but a prudent wife is from the LORD.
A wife is not like a car you can save and just enter the car shop and buy; you might "buy' your death and eternal doom!
Anon@ 18.43. Before you open your. Mouth to caution someone be sure you read all the comments. I called his comment and from there I know he"s the father of the boy. Also, another person called his name while addressing him. I even saw his picture. So, stop showing your ignorance and how dumb you are. Mbok
ReplyDeleteAnonymous@ 18.43. Next time check and read all the comments properly before you displaying your dumbness.Did you read where commented on what to do? Are you so dull that you didn't read someone also mentioned his name? Stop revealing your stupidity in public. And mind your comment section. Mbok
ReplyDeleteLet spirit of wisdom and understanding rest on Anon @ 23.50 and 23.51. Receive wisdom. mbok
ReplyDeleteDear poster, I am very sorry for your loss. The loss of a mother is unthinkable. They should live forever.
ReplyDeleteBut I want to advice you as a brother.. Pls Pls don't let that girl go simply because you are hurting.
This is the moment you should realize that everyone needs someone to lean on.. She may not be financially bouyant now, but trust me she wont remain poor forever.
There surely would be better days ahead and this is a trying time that would pass.
Let me tell you this, you said she's a good girl who has been loyal, prayerful and honest with you. These are qualities money cant buy.
Please look beyond the present, dont push her away before someone else takes what is yours. that time all you sacrifices for her till date would equate to zero.
Please remain strong for yourself and your siblings.
Going forward, what i would advise you is to only carry the load you can cope with from her. If she loves you like you claim, she would understand and even support you.
There is light after this dark tunnel.
many of us have girlfriends with money but are still very unhappy.
This trying time shall pass, don't let it pass with your relationship with someone who makes you complete.
Stay strong brother.