Ah!!!!!...This is serious!
I am heartbroken at the moment, I need urgent advice from you and my follow BVs, there is my story. ...............
I am a married mother of two and I have been married for five years now. I have a girl friend by name Chioma , we have being friends from our University days.but she still single while I am married .
She used to visit me frequently b/c she was like a sister to me. She knows almost everything about me and my husband. And my husband is very rich and handsome ,When ever she comes to visit us , my husband normally gives me money for her to buy things that she needs for herself.
So 4 days ago my spiritual directors that normally pray with me called me and told me to distance myself from my girl friend that she is having an affair with my husband .
Mind you the two pastors don't know each other.
So when my husband came back from work i told him that my mind is telling me that my girl friend is evil and that she wants to destroy my home, that I won't let her into our home again. My husband said that my decision is OK And that he is no longer comfortable with her going around again.
Since that my husband noticed that I have found out about his affair with gf ,he just started acting over nice to me and buying me gifts. , my questions is please how do i make my friend to know that I have found out about their affair b/c i don't want any problem in my marriage.
*Hmmmm this is not easy.
They might still be dating so you need to be careful....
I dont know what to say oh cos i will do open confrontation...that ask her openly!!!
Bff in this modern age? God help ur home
ReplyDeletePoster...Spiritual directors??? Ok na!
DeletePlease what proof, solid evidence do you have that something is going on between the both of them?
Please find out before you cut all ties with your friend!
Confront in a subtle manner by asking poignant questions about her love life/relationships. If she doesn't take the bait and 'fess up, then go Dr. Phil on her...🤣
I didn't know that there is a post in the body of Christ called "spiritual directors"
DeleteCan someone show me scriptures please?
I only know about the Holy Spirit that leads all the people of God as in Romans 8:14
What else have these people been directing about your home?
Would have been better if the directors gave heads up before the affair. Are you sure your husband didntvtell them to call you so he can get rid of this friend. Some men don't like their lives to keep friends
DeleteAll these questions about spiritual directors sef...She is talking about people that prays for her like pastors,herbalist etc...
DeleteNo sane person should stay without these people i mentioned...
Ogbo di tight!!..
All I saw was "spiritual directors" don't let them misdirect you.
DeleteWhat evidence do you have. This could be all in your head!!!! When will Nigerians wake up??? Spiritual directors kwa.
DeleteWhen they break your home, your eyes will clear. A husband cannot become nice to his wife again without being suspected of something.
U sound sooooo naive
DeleteUr "spiritual directors" warned u to distance yourself from your friend and your "logical reasoning" concluded your hubby is having an affair.
So when has giving you money for yur friend become a sin of adultery?
Or is the money now the evidence ? Don't paint a good husband black bcos of atojubo? God help you.
Start playing dumb. Snoop 4 evidence.. Then throw a surprise party (for either u or her or ur hubby). Do not let her n ur hubby know about d surprise party. Invite her family, ur family, his family members that always support u. Then invite friends u ve in common that u know will shame her. After everyone's arrival, turn off d music n table d matter with evidence. Make it known right they that her relationship with u n ur husband ends there. putting her 2shame in front of all your loved ones will do d magic if she ever cared about u n has a good heart.
DeletePS: if that don't walk, then go ghetto on her. Go 2het work place, hangouts, neighbourhood n disgrace her. If u can't do that lay an eternity curse on her.
Don't leave ur husband but deal with him.
Even if ur husband approached her first, as friend that is just like a sister 2u, she shld be turned him n keep her distance away from ur home.
First off, cut her off completely, then if she asks you why you tell her that afefe ti fe a ti ri furo ediye.
ReplyDeleteFuro pupa😂.
DeleteWhy does she know everything about you and your husband?!!!! Is she you?
DeleteWhy does your husband give her money?!!! Is she you?
What's dat crap u wrote in yoruba language? Even with d mention of Chioma in her story it didn't tell u she is igbo? How do u expect her to understand what u wrote? Haba!
Delete***Chy Ozo***
I'm sorry but you caused it,why will your friend be sleeping over in your home?
ReplyDeleteI'm not saying you should not have single female friends but they shouldn't be sleeping over at your home and familiarizing your hubby,the deed have been done so I'll advice you to go spiritual if you're still interested in your marriage or you walk 🚶 away if you're done.
Note; by spiritual I mean fighting the battle on your knees (prayer).
Why were you so free with your things, letting her in and out at will. The deed has been done, that's if it's true, just cut her off but really find out if they are really dating. Go through your hubbys phone for proof before any form of confrontation and when you are sure just cut her off, no need for long talk, also make sure your hubby has nothing to do with her, you can fake nightmares calling her name and tell your hubby she wants to kill him as well, no one would tell him before he cuts her off as well
DeletePush up on point!!!
DeleteLol, sounds like what I can do... hahahaha
This is what i call friend from the pit of hell. That's the highest form of betrayal that can come from a friend.
ReplyDeleteBut then, I'll advice you still do your investigations before confronting her. That your spiritual directors told you and your husband started behaving nicely doesn't make it true. Get your facts first!
This poster has issues, so your spiritual director is having the affair with them?, if you are wise you won't quickly tell your hubby but do your investigations first, you can lie to your that you are worried about her, that one of her boyfriends just tested HIV positive and she has been so scared since then, if they have anything, he ll run away by himself, but now that u ve told him, they ll only be more careful
DeletePoster,do as anon 16:24 says!...
DeleteDo everything within your reach to protect your home
ReplyDelete*Larry was here*
I don't believe in all these spiritual father or mentors or whatever. Do you have proof? I would ask that you get one before you conclude and label your friend. I won't judge someone based on what you've said because your judgment is also based on what some persons have told you to probably rip you off.
ReplyDeleteShe is your friend and you should know to an extent what she can or can't do. This is why as a single lady I try to distance myself from my married friends because breathing beside some people's husband alone is a problem and you'd be tagged. We would be keeping in touch via whatsapp and other digital means to avoid stories like this one.
Before you pull the plug on your friend, do your investigations and be sure please. Is your friend wayward? Does she date married men or she just happens to like your husband because he is handsome and rich.
'She is your friend and you should know an extent of what she can do and cant do' i dont understand this.
DeleteYou can never know the extent of what one can do or not. People's mind are so deep!
Back to d chronicle : the only thing i can say is just that you give her and your hubby a benefit of doubt. Then watch them closely.
D world is deep my dear.
If its true you will eventually find out. Dont break down too much. Buh its rly sad how one's hubby will choose to be cheating with d wife's friend, how??? Or bestie sleeping with your friend's hubby. How do people do these terrible things?
Sista Jane, show me your friend and I'd tell you who you are. That's why I said 'to an extent'. They've been friends for a while and if I know a friend of mine in any small way has a shady character, I don't wait till they deal with me to end the friendship. People change yes and you can't vouch for anyone but this is a friend of many years even before marriage, I don't keep such friend but I can't say the same for you or anyone else.
DeleteAlso, her husband is an adult and should be held accountable too if he'd stoop so low to sleep with his wife's friend but like I said she should get proof first instead of concluding.
There's nothing money can't do, trust me.
DeleteMe i keep a reasonable distance from my marriee friends. The highest i ask is, "how's oga? " my warm regards. When they call i am all ears but i shy away from calling they may be busy and i dont want to pass as that over intrusive single friend.
DeleteWell said.
DeleteThis dopple is a baby. You havnt seen life yet. My dear you cannot even 100 percent vouch for your sister. Moreso friend
DeleteThe world is deep. Judas betrayed Jesus. What can't a human being do. Keep trusting in friends
Na wa. Since your spiritual director told you that they are dating, use your spiritual director to seperate them, abi the man no get power?
ReplyDeleteYou really did wrong by telling your friend everything about your household. Hope other women are learning from this.
Abeg go and knack pigeon on your Oga's head like my queen will say.
You can do dry fasting for some days to destroy whatever that binds them together. It is well with you. Dont play about it. Do midnight prayer and ask God to intervene. In short pray that your husband should be like a gorilla to her whenever she sees him thereby whatever love they have will diminish.
This was what was in my mind this morning that i will tell someone when i was sleeping and had to check the time, 3.15 a.m., i did not know it will be you. It is well again
I agree with you yori yori. Poster I really don't care if your spiritual directors are true men of God or babalawos but please take heed. With the way you explained things, either your hubby is about to or has even eaten the cookie of your bff. He clearly has hot pants for her. Fast, fast and fast. Save your marriage and your home. Tell your husband without mincing words that you're aware of the affair, don't tell him the source but stand your ground and use your femininity to your advantage, don't be violent!! CUT OFF AND GHOST YOUR FRIEND!! your husband loves you but just wants to taste the forbidden. Use prayer and strength to reset his brain. Collect all the gifts and be demanding till you're tired. Madam na your time to shine be this 🎉🎉🎉
DeleteThank God things are different now.
ReplyDeleteWomen,you guys can never learn! If you must keep your single girlfriends stop inviting them to your matrimonial home!All these fre-enemies are not smiling when its comes to the issue of man.
ReplyDeleteI suggest you invite your so- call girl friend and confront her!Threaten her with acid if she does not want to leave your husband alone.
Goodluck.
Wrong advise... don't try this at all!!!
DeleteAcid?
DeletePastor sexy daddy himself
Shame!
DeleteMadam wht proof do u have, ur spiritual directors told u, abeg go n siddon joor, cos ur friend is still single n u r married dat means she's dating ur husband, I no blame u.if she was in her own home u won't talk dis rubbish
ReplyDeleteChai, ndi husband snatchers welcome oh😒😒😒
DeleteThank you anonymous! Once girls get married their single friends become husband snatched!
Delete***snatchers!
DeleteAffair based on what pastors told u? You get proof? I'm just thinking o, again trust no one, forget about bestie stuff, if u allow ur gf into ur home, ur husband will slip up n bang ur bestie without u ever finding out.
ReplyDeleteAgain what if she's innocent?
If u know u married an ashawo then stop ur gf from coming, but u can't stop d affair, tell ur spiritual director to scatter d affair the same way they saw it via spirit realm, abi they can't provide solution?
You know most of them can't provide solution na. They might just be right though. You never can tell, either way be careful poster.
DeleteBB go change ur Dp nah!
DeleteSo you got rid of your husband yeah?
ReplyDeleteWhat next?
If you change cloth and craw craw still dey your body, what is the point?
Or is he on a leash and you carry him everywhere on your lap with sunshade over his eye?
Madam, treat your signs and symptoms first before running after cobwebs in the air.
Y'all that confront people, I don't know how you do it. You confront them and they start cleaning their tracks. How the fuck are you going the find out the truth when you can't keep quiet and do your findings?
ReplyDeleteI operate like a Ninja. I don't talk, even when I find out anything. I just strike from the shadows and remain aloof.
Amateurs.
I love this. Never ask a question you don't already know the answer to.
Deletepls oooooo. Do not confront her. just pray that God should make her look unattractive to your husband. You do not know what she is made of, so never have a physical confrontation. Avoid her and pls you do not need a female best friend who is too close to your home as a married woman.
ReplyDeleteWhy not confront your Husband, you know him better.
ReplyDeleteIt is easy to stop your now Ex friend to stop visiting, will you also stop your Hubby from going out to visit her?
If you cant confront your Hubby of cheating, then sit down somewhere and enjoy the pampering.
hmmm...it is well. my dear even after confrontation. you still need God's intervention.
ReplyDeleteWhich one be spiritual directors again? All these gullible women. Open your eyes, observe things, investigate and ask questions then you act accordingly. These absolute beliefs in pastors, prophets and fortune tellers will land you in trouble someday.
ReplyDeletePoster ere ki l'aja nba ekun she? Why bring a female friend to sleep over in your house? A lot of you married young girls are not 'wise as a serpent'!! Now you have messed up your home because of sentiments, oh she is my friend from way way back, we were classmates in primary school, she is my ride or die, my besto, we were in our mothers wombs at the same time, we ate cerelac from the same bowl as babies, there is nothing i have not heard when you people are trying to justify your foolishness. When this type of betrayal happens to more of you, the rest will learn.
ReplyDeleteIt is a pity people don't know when to draw the line.
DeleteWise wise words 🙌🙌🙌🙌
DeleteNa wa o!
DeleteNa advise she want ooo not all this nonsense you are typing, kilode? won fi ejo se e ni?
Gaddamn bullshit!
better let your friend know dat u are aware of her action, but the truth is dat dey will be doing it codded. i will advice u to tell ur friend dat a man of God told u dat someone close to u is dating ur husband and u will make sure you make d person mad if u find out, den u watch her reaction. this chronicle is one of the reasons i don't want close friends and all that. poster better handle dis urgently bfore she becomes ur co wife.
ReplyDeleteWhy tell him? Why not silently investigate and find proof? What if your husband has told her you know?
ReplyDeletewhich one is spiritual director again?
ReplyDeleteConfrontation is not the solution. Even after confrontation there is no assurance that she will stop the affair. Keep praying for God to keep your home.
ReplyDeleteThe worst form of cheats are those who choose your friends. Poster if you choose to continue in the marriage, know that IT CAN NEVER BE THE SAME!! NEVER EVER. This kind of hurt is too deep, you will eventually resent your husband so bad sef that if he dies you wont even feel bad. Friends from the pit of hell are bad but husbands who leave all other women and go after wife's friend are the devils themselves oh. They can kill!
ReplyDeleteShe doesn't even have proof. Bitter anon
DeleteI don't know what to say. Don't be soft but yet blind, poster. So if you your spiritual directors didn't say anything, you can't take charge of your relationship? You think say all those babes wey go marry, change line na mistake? Trust no one even if dem de sleep for church back to back. Get proof to confirm the directors talk, and set the records straight ie confront both your hubby and so called friend, if not, co wife is your girlfriend's tag.
ReplyDeleteYou seem so sure about the affair, I'm not totally convinced though, do u have proof, I think you should confront both of them separately, even your hubby, and also ur friend, confront them like you already know what's up, tell them it was an anonymous source that told you, and see their reaction, if you are intuitive like me you would know, but do keep her far away from your home, don't trust people to the extent of bringing them into your home.
ReplyDeleteSome people have turned friendship and trust to what i don't know that you cannot even vouch for anyone. My dear poster, the first thing to come to your mind is to confront her but DONT. Act as if you arent aware of what she had done to you. keep her at a distance but no too far to be able to catch her red handed. Stop telling her stuff about you and your husband. Be wise and pray for God's help
ReplyDeleteSince you are rich, use a private investigator.
ReplyDeleteam sorry about that. hope u get ur hubby back fully
ReplyDeleteMadam your spiritual fathers or directors are yahoo pastors o. When they want to start milking you, they start by separating you from the closest people to you, those they know you'll confide in. of course they know you'll confide in your friend when they start with their yahoo stories. Next they'll tell you your husband is a ritualist and wants to use you for rituals and warn you never to confide in him again. Then the milking starts. You'll loose everything to them. They'll milk you dry before you realise your mistakes. This woman you want to use your hands to destroy your home. Keep off from these so called spiritual fathers and directors. Madam I have been a victim. If you want to find out the truth if your friend is sleeping with your husband, do your own investigation discretely. Forget about all these yahoo pastors who see nothing.
ReplyDeleteThank you oooooo. Tell them! Take it from someone who has been scammed by them. Once they start seeing things and breaking bonds, you are soon to become their slave. Those ones are after your marriage.
DeleteWhat are you even doing with two pastors?? ??
Who else has noticed that a large percentage of Chronicles are from married women. Lord help us.
ReplyDeletePoster: no matter how close you are with someone never you tell them everything about your home, even sisters self, deal with it on your own because some will advice you well and some in their Favour. That’s why it’s very good to be very close to God when you marry because women are the pillars of the home, if you can tie your hubby down with prayers my dear you case is settled. And come to think of it, which one is spiritual directors again? May you not use your hand and scatter your marriage with those people that see tomorrow. Just hold on to God, go on your knees I see God doing wonders in your marriage. The Bible says woman respect your husband and man love your wife, your hubby loves you like you said hold unto God and tell God that no jezibel will snatch your hubby away from you, and pray and blind him from other woman let you be the only woman he will look at when you turn. God did it for others, pray agrresive prayers and hold on to him because only him can do exceedingly and abundantly.
ReplyDeleteAll this why bring your single friend to sleep in your house😳😳 Na wah oh!!!Did your husbands stopped seeing his single friends after marriage?or if his single friend visits from another town,he can't sleep in your house?A man that will cheat on you with anyone will do so in a twinkle of an eye.
ReplyDeletePoster,make sure you do your homework well before any confrontation.Dont work on hearsay,spiritual directors can make mistakes but God doesn't so pray for a sign from baba himself
your spiritual fathers? lmao woman be healed rom stupidity. do you have proof? how do you know its that particular friend they are on about? i pity you imagine chasing shadows.
ReplyDeleteimagine you confront her and then find out it was another friend of yours?
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DeletePoster......I sincerely sympathise with you. This is an example of a bad friend. I hope you have learnt a good lesson from this that you can't totally trust anyone.
ReplyDeleteIt's good that you are aware of what is going on . Now is the time to show her that you are up to the game. Meey up with her and tell her that you heard your hubby is cheating with someone. Tell her a neighbour has promised to take you somewhere where they will make the person mad, study her reaction and then confront her. That would make her know that you know her game. After that when you get home confront your hubby too.
Above all whatever the outcome never leave your marriage because of a friend. Start making monetary demand from your hubby that he won't even have much left to give to sidechicks
Money can't buy love or death that I know from experience.
ReplyDeleteI've slept with almost all my girl's besties for some kind of financial favour, starting a business or securing a well paying job.
When your wife's besties starts asking for 1m to start a business and wifey is also begging on her behalf wetin you go do? My soft side will give, but I must get my share.
Thunder FAYA U !!!
DeleteTell your friend that you know everything, let your husband confess.
ReplyDeleteWomen like you are not very smart. It seems to me like they ARE having an affair and your husband out of guilt is being unusually nice to you. First thing you must do is cut the 'friend' off. I mean completely. All is fair in love and war. As for your husband be as nice as pie to him and extort him well. Use the opportunity to build up your savings and secure yourself. Do not confront. You still have the upper hand if your husband is feeling guilty and showing remorse. You confront and he can 'da si rough' Will you then be ready to pack out? Then get on your knees and pray for wisdom never to use your hand to bring wahala and so called friends into your matrimonial home. Shikena!
ReplyDeletePosted there's nothing you can do. Even if you confront both of them, they will deny and change their meeting point. Just pray make her Toto tire your hubby quick.
ReplyDeleteYour problem is still in that house. Chioma is not your issue, neither is Bisi, Cynthia, Halima, Ummi, Tari, Njideka, Ejiro, Aisha or Ene. Look beside you, there lies your problem sweety.
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