Hmmm.....
NARRATIVE NUMBER ONE
SO CONFUSED
God bless you,please hide My identity.
My chronicle goes like this,was in a relationship for five years;nothing to show for it,then we both separated and moved on...
Now I have found someone whom I love so much,BUT he is a Muslim and I am a Christian and the issue is that he is the first child of his parents,and the parents insist he gets married to a Muslim.
We both love each other so much,he promised me everything will be fine...
hmmm my question now is that should I walk away or stay and see how things go,cause I don't want to regret it later.
PLEASE HELP ME.
*Awwwwwww.My Dear you just might be second wife loading..He will marry a first wife to please his parents and then come for you.
Muslim children hardly go against their parents wishes in Aspects like this....
Can you cope with such?Remember that if you are marrying,you are marrying the whole family ,so if they say NO now,,it will not be easy for you.
If you ask me oh,I will advice you to move on- FAST!!!
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NARRATIVE NUMBER TWO
CONFUSED AND STILL IN LOVE
Hi Madam SDK,
Please I need your advice cus presently I am confused.
My ex that i gave a proposal ring to last year and fixed intro date for Dec last year returned the ring and called off the relationship but now shes asking us to come back together and i still love her so dont really know what to do.
My ex that i gave a proposal ring to last year and fixed intro date for Dec last year returned the ring and called off the relationship but now shes asking us to come back together and i still love her so dont really know what to do.
She gave reasons that she did not have peace of mind and all that. But one thing I noticed was that there was someone flashing her things and I didnt have much money to spend around with her.
Have met ladies after the break up but I cant just love them the same way I love my ex. Do advice.
What makes her think she can just come back and want to re-enter your life?
What makes her think she can just come back and want to re-enter your life?
Marry her and one day she will walk out of the Marriage and bring your life to a standstill...you have seen the hand writing on the wall.
Oga use your tongue to count your teeth oh....love with your head and not your heart since it wants to mislead you....
Everyone deserves a second chance but not like this oh,Please dont accept her back!!!
Everyone deserves a second chance but not like this oh,Please dont accept her back!!!
P1? I hope you can really cope. It is not always easy especially when the other party is a really devoted person in his/her religion. P2, please move on you are not in a relationship.
ReplyDeletePoster 2 u broke up with me cuz of ur ex that doesn't luv u again. I now knw d reason y u told me we can't work.
DeleteDid this girl say she is a "Christian" or that "she goes to church?"
DeleteThe "muslim man " owes himself four wives and as many concubines as he can afford
So you are actually the fourth wife.
Marry him and write plenty of chronicles
The second poster is dealing with
Greed, greed, greed, greedy girl
That is why a lot of girls are not married
and a lot of old maids did not get married.
I am with Stella all the way today. Posters 2 & 1, una don hear?
DeleteMe too
DeletePoster one, his parents disapproval I enough for u to find ur square root, he will definitely marry another.
ReplyDeleteSo poster one, only you by yourself and for yourself want to put yourself into a very big mess? Never go where you are not wanted, and what kind of Christian are you sef? People just call themselves Christians without being Christ like
DeletePoster 1 run run run, I was also in such relationship were ex mother and sister were against me for seven years I was waiting thinking things will change nothing my sister untill o is my tongue to count my teeth. By God grace I am getting married December
DeletePoster two, d guy she dumped u for, disappointed her, hence she's back, if u don't have money to marry, don't propose, I normally tell my brothers not to bother about women when them never hammer, once u hammer, women of different races will look for you, just be responsible n loaded!
ReplyDeleteTomorrow now you will say that you didn't see any sign of infidelity. See signs everywhere now.
ReplyDeleteConfusion raise to power 2.
ReplyDeleteMake I go come.
They come here everyday, read chronicles but sadly to say, they don't learn from peoples mistakes..
ReplyDeleteWhen you marry him and later he changes it to your face that he is a Muslim and his religion permits him to marry other women, don't come here and ask for advice on what to do o.. Nonsense...
The truth about the future would be staring at their faces, yet they won't see.
We love each other ko, we hate each other in.
Poster1:
ReplyDeleteIf you a ready to have nwunye di(co-wives) then marry him.
BTW, Elastic my manchi has been searching for his missing rib long time ago. DM him... Elastic, Mgbo nna? Okwa ife ichoro? 😂😂😂
Poster2:
Please take your time and find another lady you will marry... Okwa adi ama ama Onitsha gwara Obosi.
Poster 1 don't marry him, if his parents are against the union, it won't be an easy one.
ReplyDeleteMove on with your life please.
Poster 1 Don't start what you can't finish. A man whose family has a say in his choice of wife, would end up hurting you to please them. You both share different religious beliefs. Do you think you can cope with it? Are you willing to change your religion? Yes, he might or may have promised to not stop you from practicing Christianity after marriage but people change. I also would never ask anyone especially a woman to marry someone whose man's family do not like. They can and will make your life a living hell. Move on while you still can, think about the future and how fast your feelings for each other can fade when you're both pushed between picking your love or the love of family. Only few people enjoy this kind of solemnization and that's because both families accepted the differences from the on set.
ReplyDeletePoster 2,she dumped you because she found someone else and now the person has left her. She is back because she knows how much you love her, she doesn't deserve a second chance because she doesn't even respect your feelings. Let her go, heal from the hurt but make sure to move on. You deserve a woman who wouldn't disappoint you over material things that can vanish. Women like this are only there when it's good never when it's bad. She'd drop you like a bad habit if things go bad for you in marriage. Most times the people we think we want are the one's we should stay clear off. They are bad for you.
Poster 2 You remind me of someone.,, Ubi Franklin. Please don’t take her back. She came back because things did not work out the way she planned. She probably had someone that disappointed her. Move on.
ReplyDeleteUbi Franklin came to my mind too...see how miserable he is today...had he known, he would have accepted the broken engagement when Lilian returned the ring...see she still left eventually.
DeletePoster 2 pls move on and move her out of your heart and thoughts. You deserve better. You will love again.
Poster 2,
ReplyDeleteI am a man just like you. A woman who returned your ring for no just cause, inky to return after a year with flimsy excuse of having no rest of mind, I PITY YOU..
She was fucking other guy and the other guy recently dumped her.
If you like go ahead and take her back, your name na sorry.
Forgive her, but move on. Don't be a sissy.
D same thing Lilian Esoro did to Ubi Franklin when he proposed to her. He later went about begging her and she came back and married him against her wish... Now see how d marriage ended..
DeleteDat girl came back bcos d guy she was dating that time hs dumped her,now she wants to prove a point that she can get married fast.. Once she marries u and get tired, she will dump u again.
***Chy Ozo***
If this poster 2 is who I think he is, then he's leaving out the fact that he cheated on her before she left him and he's actually a huge asshole looking for girls to waste their time while he's still stuck on his ex
DeleteFirst poster,don't marry that man.In marriage Love is not enough.call off the relationship as I see no future in it!Another Christian man will surely come for you soon.
ReplyDeletePoster 2,If you allow that gul back into your life that makes you a stupid person. Use broom and sweep off her feet in your life.May be that guy that has been deceiving her has disappointed her,and she wants to use you as a spare tire.Be wise man!
Poster 2, please do not listen to akk this bitter people here. people get cold feet, struggle with unknown issues. If she's sincerely sorry, she deserves a second chance. Do not throw away bathing water with the baby. Take your time, and reexamine the situation. You also sound very suspicion!!! What if she pleasure herself to those gifts? Good luck
ReplyDeleteU must be the fair weather lady. Poster 2 don't take her back. What if you have financial issues in your marriage God forbid, if she doesn't leave she will sleep with any available man for money. That's why married prostitutes are now very plenty. Don't marry a woman that can't stand by you.
DeleteLol poster 2, this ☝☝☝is the type of advice that send people to their early graves....I am sure the person giving you this useless idea☝☝has done something like this to someone...
DeleteRead the writing on d walk wella, she saw someone with more money and hoped for d best with him and left u, now she is back. Isn't that supposed to tell u something?
Na pikin the woman be sef? If na pikin abi if she nor be pikin, abeg poster 2 jus throway am with the baff, the water, the soap and the sponge jion. If you nor fit, no come back come dey cry for another chronicle ooo. I don talk my own. Hian!
DeleteDont listen to this anonymous up here poster two.
DeletePoster 1 wetin you still dey find. You better walk away since the parents want him to marry his kind. Better go find yourself another guy.
ReplyDeletePoster 2.... let me go back and read again. I am tired jare
Poster 1- Muslims and Christians are poles apart. I doubt you can cope.
ReplyDeleteOr are you willing to convert to being a Muslim and accepting all that comes with it? Remember love is never enough. Think deep, use your head not your heart. Sometimes when you see yourself in a certain situation, it looks like this is the best there can ever be whereas it's not.
Poster 2.
You are just a standby generator . Reject being a fall back on typa guy.
Stand by generator. 😂😂😂
DeleteAs a Christian sef, I've no business falling in love with a Muslim
DeleteIt's just something I can't do
I think people should love with their senses too not just their hearts.
Am I a bad person if I say the second poster should forgive the girl?
If the tables were turned I'm sure the girl would forgive and accept him back.
Shit happens and I think she should be given a second chance.
Do not be unequally yoked with unbelievers,to Christians Muslims are unbelievers n vice versa cos our beliefs differ.If u are going to marry someone with a different faith then get ready to compromise ur faith. That's my little word for u.
ReplyDeletePoster 2,O.Y.O is ur case
@Poster, everything including life itself is a risk. You can if you guys truly love each other, you are 100% sure of his assurances and his kind of person, he's willing to allow you practice your religion while he does his (except you are willing to cinvert), and definately liberal in terms of religion. But if you are not sure of all the above kindly take a walk.
ReplyDeleteNOTE: Islam, Christianity, ATR etc are all just names used to describe people who worship God in a certain way. The point is that we all worship same God and believe in the existence of the Supreme Being.
People go into bad marriages every now and then not cos they are Muslims or Christians. Same way non-Muslims also marry more than one wife, the difference is that one religion tolerates it and the other 'probably' do not.
The bone of contention here should even be that your boyfriend's mother is not in support of you guys relationship, of which your own parents might also not be in support of same for obvious reasons. So, you wear the shoes, and you know where it hurts or fits.
Yinmu. That's all you people will talk and on the wedding day they'd want to wear hijab for the woman and name her Amina
Delete@dobblebanger
ReplyDeletethanks for your thoughts. trust me i have heard it before but it just hit me on another level now. been in a loving relationship but mans family hates me for no reason, he too started misbehaving. its been hard moving on but one day at a time. am glad everyday i made that decision. no regrets whatsoever.
Double banger! Kikikikikikiki 🙌
Delete@ Poster 2, you are a rebound. Move on from her, She just an opportunist.
ReplyDelete@ Poster 1, enjoy him as a boyfriend as long as you can till you meet another person.
She's
DeletePoster no 1
ReplyDeleteJust let go...it cannot and will not work...even marrying a Christian from different denomination can still bring about conflicts...different mentalities , mindset ...see christians on social media lately arguing about tithing ...how much more someone that is nt even a Christian.
Let him go biko
Let me give you my humble advice....Poster 1: Just walk away and keep walking. Don't even look back. Why? He is the first born; Religion is an issue; His parents are against you relationship;And where does your parents stand. When a relationship has to many issues especially religion and parents related and it's still at its early stage I advice you move on.
ReplyDeletePoster 2: You never knew you could date your ex initially and she only use you to fill in the gap pending the time his dream guy comes along. You have no self pride. Why should someone dump you for no reason and come back and you are considering to take her back. Don't get me wrong but atimes people deserve a second chance but in your case she is using you. Let her go and tell her you have moved on.
Poster 1, don't marry a muslim, their trouble too much. Poster 2, don't be a fool in love, the other guy has dumped her over fucked pussy now she is back. Please don't take her back.
ReplyDeleteA Muslim guy I dated then I loved him so much, the chemistry was there that we couldn't resist each other we we're so in love but my sister I dey always carry my brain enter relationship and the immediate sister no gbadun mi at all that's how this guy always assure me that I will be allowed to practise my religion but I can never be comfortable with a man of different belief which religion will our children practise and how do I run my home those are the questions that always come to my mind. I also notice this guy has this cheating habit even while I met another guy who is now my husband I was doing corner corner love with this guy but I later summoned up courage and left the relationship I must confess it wasn't easy because I was madly in live with him but I block all his access to me on social media and I didn't pick his calls anymore cos have always learnt that love alone cannot make a successful marriage lo and behold my ex got married and about a year later he married the second wife when I heard that I was praising my God say I no make the mistake of getting married to him because that's how he could have gotten another wife after all his religion permit it the first lady is a Christian with two boys and the other wife is a muslim. Some days back when we chatted on watsapp he confess to him and I told him I thank God I no marry am that statement upset him what all my story is all about is that look for a partner of the same faith don't let love blind your brain let Muslim marry themselves more so the parents are not in support of your relationship my sister think twice. For poster 2 take her back but please don't come here for the chronicle of a cheating wife cos you people could have already seen the signs but the issue of i love her so much could have cloud your reasoning stay blessed
ReplyDelete@poster 1: can you say your partner had anything to show for the five years either?
ReplyDelete#timewasters
#destinyhalters
#endtimewailers
I left my bf in school, he loved me so much, I loved and still loves him but I couldn't deal with the whole relationship stuff. I was a medical student who was sponsoring herself in school and I have a history of rape, the whole stuff was really messed up, I sometimes look at my guy and remember the guy who molested me, I couldn't open up to him as I wasn't sure of how he will handle it, I was so engrossed with passing that I totally neglected him, at a time I felt he wasn't happy so I had to let him go. I graduated, went for counselling and I was able to forgive the guy that molested me cos he came back for forgiveness when things weren't working well for him. I forgave him after my counsellor told me that's the only way I can be free. the problem is that I can't get over my ex, he is the only man my heart beats for, I have reached out and apologised to him but I discovered he now hates me, he said I wasted 3 years of his life, that I never loved him and I just kept him as a friend. people told him I was dating someone while I was with him but that's a lie. I don't know how to go about this, I wish he could just see how I such much pray for a second chance to show him that I really love him plus he has so many girls around him now that am so scared of finding out he is with someone else. I don't know how to go about it, he is working now and may think is his work that brought me back but I started reaching out to him even before he started working plus I am also employed with a very good pay. I just can't get over him, I have met so many guys who wants to have something serious with me but I don't even know how to open up my heart to them, I feel so bad cos now I know what he must have been through loving me all those years and not getting my love back. Dr A.N I am so sorry, all I need is just a chance to prove to you that I am a changed person.
ReplyDeleteYou can imagine
DeleteAnonymous jatz!
Felt so emotional after reading this. Dr A.N Biko ebe ka ino?
DeletePoster two, don't take that bitch back. You can be fucking her if you wish but don't marry her.
ReplyDeleteDon't end up with a greedy woman.
Make we hear word abeg.
DeleteBut if you were the one, the girl would forgive and take you back right? That's how it happens na
Women are so soft minded that's why men do some things and get away with it, but women can't.
And don't be a greedy man by sleeping with her for revenge if you don't want to marry her. That is foolishness and can backfire. If you are going to have a clean break have one.
DeleteGood advice
DeletePoster one you are on a long thing
ReplyDeletePoster two the choice is yours.
ReplyDeleteIf I were poster one, I will not marry that guy
ReplyDeleteIf I were poster two, I will not accept that girl back
A MAN HAS NO NAME. AM SINGLE SO I DONT GIVE RELATIONSHIP ADVICE. SEARCH YOUR HEART AND YOU WOULD FIND THE ANSWER
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