STAND ALONE NARRATIVE
CELIBACY BROUHAHA
I want thank you for using your platform to reach out to people. May God bless your richly.please help me hide my identity as some people may decode me especially my siblings...If they told me I would send in my chronicles,I won't believe it..Well this life ehn na real wa.
My chronicles goes like this.I have been dating my bf for about 2 years now.I love him and he does too.our r/ship has been going on well, although we do have problems like any other relationships but we tend to sort it out.
The problem on ground now is that I told him last two weeks that I want to stop having sex as in I want to become celibate and because of that It has been one problem or the other, telling me he can't cope with that decision.I made that decision because I want my life to move forward,its just as if my life has been in the same spot for years and I am tired.
I have been praying to God for a change but it is as if God doesn't want to hear my prayers.Two weeks ago I told God to help me that I am willing to stop having sex so that my life can have a meaning and mind you every time I engage in sex,my mind always judge me.So I told my boyfriend that I wanna stop having sex and he said he can't cope and that since I can't give him sex he has to look for it else where because he is conscious of his health.
Although we saw last in July and that was the last we both had sex.My question is what do I do?I don't want to go back to sex after promising God that I won't engage in premarital sex again.I love him and don't want to loose him.Please make Una advise me.cussing is allowed as long I get good advise from here.. Stella abeg use your red ink.. Thank you
*If you saw him last in July and he is OK with it then the relationship might be officially over......if you can stay without seeing him since July and he is easily accessible,then my dear,you don't love him as much as you think you do....
If he told you he has to look for it somewhere else,then my dear,YOU NEED TO MOVE ON,any man who makes comments like that is a time bomb waiting to happen...
if you end up with him,your chronicles folder will never be empty...
Look at this mumu girl, your life is stagnant because u are lazy, don't blame ur misfortune on sex, wetin concern sex with ur success, other girls are using their punani to make money, learn from Aunty Toke, abeg clear road make i pass.
ReplyDeleteIf having sex makes you feel guilty afterwards,then why indulge in it.
DeleteIt's true sex has no correlation with stagnant life, but have sex because you want to not as a medication for another human being who is not your husband.
Seriously,you need to set your priorities i.e you or your boyfriend man.
Your boyfriend is a cheat in plain sight.."he will get it somewhere else" WTF,he doesn't value you.
Nothing transcends yourself.
When you two began having sex, it was a mutual decision wasn't it? This decision too has to be mutual otherwise just break the relationship and move on. Simple.
DeleteLols... Even the priests and pastors fornicate ceremously and you are there tying your destiny to your sexual life. You started by putting a condition to your boyfriend and he retaliated with his own condition, now you are crying foul! Very selfish!!
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Ok.
ReplyDeleteSince u stopped doing 'ooohhhhhs Ahhhhhs mmmmmmms', has things improved in your life?
If they have, let him be, if they haven't n u are getting horngry, pls resume oohhhhing n ahhhhhing,
God is merciful!
Peace.
Dude said he would look for it elsewhere, what validation do you want again?
ReplyDeleteBia poster keep moving and don't go back. Continue with your decision (you're on the right track) GOD. will give you a good man that will love you without sex. Sex is not love
ReplyDeleteThis is the first reasonable comment I’ve seen. Poster, please don’t listen to those who will judge you. You are on the right track. Watch God move things around in yor life. As for your bf, please forget that one. It’s not a matter of you not loving him enough since you’ve not seen him since July (what of y’all don’t stay in the same area) it’s more of the guy being childish and trying to manipulate you. Is he doing you a favor by having s?x with you? Or by even being with you? It’s not easy but you’ll get the best soon. Keep your head up and wishing you all the absolute best!
DeletePs: don’t listen to people asking if sex is what’s making your life stagnant, different strokes works for different folks. If you think you being celibate will change something for the best in your life, then by all means. With all the sex you’ve had, how has it benefited you? Don’t let no one cajole you. You’ll be very fine. Kisses
Don’t forget, some people fast for a change to happen.. they give up things; food, drinks etc just to seek God’s face. If you think giving up sex will help, consider it as your own form of fasting. It everyone will agree, but that’s okay. Do what works best for you
DeleteIt's apparent sex has been what is keeping you guys together all along. Take away sex from most relationship then you find that there is no dating anywhere. God only opened your eyes to see that you were wasting your time. You did well, flee from fornication and surrender your life to Christ and see if he won't bless you Afterall the sex didn't add anything to your life all these while.
DeleteTake away money and same thing will happen. Most relationship are friends with benefit in disguise.
DeleteEven without the money I was still in the relationship but the guy left because he was not getting sex.
DeleteThank you for responding Anonymous, Mr. John, how many normal relationship, are being held by money? Apart from runs, and double/multiple daters, the real relationships are just manage.
DeleteMr. John, don't you know guys don't spend on the girls they have sex with the most? I knew this before the poster responded. So, what benefits are you talking about? Sex? The truth is, for ladies,(the original design is that): sex is not a benefit or to be enjoyed outside marital bond. So, I can relate very well with the poster. Seems the guy is the selfish one here.
My advice to the poster, this guy cares more about his selfish desires than what gives you peace, I would think for the guy to be reasonable and support your celibacy, after all he has had some piece, but since he kicked against it, it's obvious he just wants you for sex. Leave, the guy mbok, he is still at his peak of sampling different kpekus. One thing I have realized is sometimes we ladies think we need a man beside us for support and to whether the storms but take away, "the benefit(sex)", and you will find out that you're all you got.
Please, you need to get really comfortable with you being all you got, b4 a man finds you... Being committed to God and celibacy is no joke and requires this sacrifice. Otherwise, you don't really understand what you signed up for.
You don't want to loose him yet you won't give him sex...
ReplyDeleteHear your self nne!...
So having sex is making your life stagnant?...
Wonderment!...
How come most rich people that have sex daily are growing?...
Some are gay,lesbians,married and single...how come their life is not stagnant as yours?...
Anakogheri!...
@Queen and boss nne you have a point @others having sex. But see, everything in life isn't for everyone. And once you begin to feel that something isn't for you, its better to drop it.
DeleteSome people smoke weed and are normal, others one wrap and wahala don start. Some people even take cocaine and it doesn't affect their lives, others have become addicts. Some people do runs and build mansions, others remain in 100k and will be happy to see 250k sef. The same way some are better 9-5ers, other entrepreneurs. This acting industry, when did Adesua etomi come? Mnwh, some people have been here showing nyash and breast, taking every movie role without a big break or any award.
My point it is, everyone isn't the same and it's important for us as humans to understand that more things in life are spiritual. God shows mercy to whom he shows mercy and each person's level of grace is different. That's because his purpose for everyone is different, the ancestral make Up of everyone too is different. What if there is a purpose she is meant to be fulfilling that requires sexual chastity and purity from her and everyday, its becoming more difficult for her to stay away from it? (Say she's destined to be a pastor) So let's not always judge people by other people's actions.
As for me, I believe when you begin to feel like soemthing isn't working for you, cut it off. And cut everyone that comes with it. The worst thing that can happen to you is to be with someone who doesnt understand you. A soulmate won't question your inner doubts. And if that boyfriend of hers was of any use, she won't be feeling like her life is stagnant. If you're dating him and your life feels stagnant, then he's kukuma of no use. Idiot can't put a ring on it and is demanding sex. Okay if he wants access to kponyor let him do the needful. He's a goat! Isn't it men like him that help their babes with contract and jobs or business capital?
Tell him you feel your life isn't moving forward and you're trying find a way to make thungs better for yourself, spiritually especially. If he cant be encouraging he should bounce! I don't even know the kind of guys you go and date. By 3 months you should evaluate a man's usefulness to you or not. Namsense! That a guy has money doesnt mean he's useful to you or can be of assistance in this journey of life. Please drop that weighty boyfriend. His own is to be 'excavating' vagina without asking real questions.
P.S: If na me of before, I would have listed the things I've realized aren't for me but I am sure awon 'i don't read your comments' are lining up to read 😂 *yimu*
Chikito God created you on a fine lovely day! Go girl, you have absolute wisdom. Wonderful! you are very vast in knowledge honestly.
Delete👏👏👏👏Chiki come and chop kiss abeg💋💋💋💋👍
DeleteThank you jare @anon 18:00. Na why I dey give them sleepless nights 😂
DeleteThank you Chi....you spoke to me too
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DeleteYou're welcome @queen Amy
If I am that your boyfriend,I will dump your ass!...
ReplyDeleteThank God you are not the boyfriend, because a guy that will dump a girl because of sex is as foolish as they come. I’m pretty sure he has ‘dumped’ her, but guess what, Live doesn’t end when one gets dumped, she’ll get someone who will love and respect her decisions. Moving on
Delete"He said he has to look for it else where because he is conscious of his health."
ReplyDelete😂😂😂😂😂
This guy is not alright.
So sex is his medicine?😂😂😂😂
Aunty, if this feeling keeps nagging, then follow God's word if you will and watch him give you a man that will love you accordingly.
Forget this your sex medication boyfriend. What's even the guarantee he will marry you?
Bloglord, I genuinely LOVE YOU! Thank you for this advice!
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DeleteYou mean he loves you too? As in, he loves you but he can't stay in a loving relationship without sex? Good thing he is honest with you, so best believe that he would get it somewhere else like he rightly said. What you need to ask yourself is, how long can you hold out? Celibacy is a personal decision and you can not force anyone to be on that page with you especially when they've already seen and enjoyed other forms of intimacy with you.
ReplyDeleteIf truly, you're serious about staying celibate you'd need to let go of that man because right now you both aren't on the same page and if you think staying away from him would make him change his mind, just forget it. You might surprise yourself by asking for sex once you two see him again and are in closed quarters. Make up your mind and be sure about your decision. The way you sound, you'd spread your legs the minute you see him and he starts to puppy face once you refuse him access.
If you really want to be celibate then sorry dear, you'd have to find another guy who would be on this page from the go with you.
Doppelgänger, thank you. You just extended my comment. Stella saying ‘you don’t love him enough’ is annoying. Just like doppelgänger has said, keep away from that man. Consider that relationship over
DeleteFind another man? Is life all about men? My Dear, concentrate on God's words and see unlimited open doors in your life. Trust God and believe that you can move mountains and the best will continue falling in place for you. Forget this your boyfriend and forget any man for now until you build a good relationship with God.Join your church community and serve God with all your heart. Then you will see Bigger and better men begging to marry you ND do favours in your life. This your hungry boyfriend is no good, pls flee from stagnant men like this. Pray to God to take you to places where only Kings are seen not where the blinds are. This is my own testimony and today i live a good life. God is all we need in life, trust me.
DeleteI believe Doppelganger meant to say till another man finds her. Truly, poster, God is all you got! Then you.
DeleteIt is never too late to mk that turn wen u realise u hv been on a wrong path....God over any other. Keep urself please
ReplyDeletePoster, you've taken the best decision ever, ask yourself if you want to please man or God.
ReplyDeleteIf you have made up your mind, you're better off ending that relationship in your head,( right now it only exists in your head cos the guy has moved on ).
You don't need any distraction for now, serve God and develop yourself. Separate yourself from anything that will cause you to dwell in sin, ask God for the grace to please Him and do not forsake the gathering of the brethren in a bible believing church.
Your faith can only be strengthened by hearing God's word and you will only hear that in His presence.
Watch God give you more than you thought possible.
What a chronicle, so "he needs sex for his health and as such has to get it else where" that is not a man you should put your future on.
ReplyDeleteLet me ask you this question, so if you had to travel to another country for greener pastures or something else, it means automatically he would be cheating on you since he needs sex for his health or let us say you get sick and can't perform your conjugal rights it means that he would need sex not to fall sick like you also.
My dear focus on your new path with God and watch him uphold his words concerning your life.
Stick to God, work out your salvation and ALL THINGS will be added unto you, even a Loyal and faithful man.
Let him go,if you really mean the world to him he wouldnt let you out of his sight for one second.
LEP😛
LEP, you know men detach sex from love and from marriage or commitment. So, asking him that question now, does not make sense cos he has already stated that he can't do without it.
DeleteMoving on, the truth is woman don't like a loyal and faithful man, cos they are too dull, same reason why men don't like nice and good ladies, there is no passion(fire),the poster is already rooted to this guy that she feels he must continue with her, cos of the sexual bond they have shared. Poster, only you made the vow to God, your man didn't. Can't you see? He is not in the same page with you.
I mean how can you expect a guy u had sex until now to agree to no sex from now on? If you want to be celibate break up with him and focus on God and yourself, work hard and improve yourself. I don't think is sex that is making your life stagnant tho. Many people commit fornication but are still blessed. God blesses whom he wish to bless. Even the bible says he make the sun shine or he make it rain both on the good and bad. You may break up with him and still not move forward in life. Break up with him if your spirit tells u so, after all u don't even know if he will marry you. Focus on God, pray and start something with your life but you have to be hard working, self-disciplined and not afraid of failure because trust me you will fall but u need to learn how to get up each time stronger than before. I wish u the best.
ReplyDeleteDon't mind her! Giving condition like it is all about her! That guy is my type of guy.. No time for shit!
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Elastic, read my comment 👆. It is not giving condition, it is an escalation of guilt and pain. I know sex is the norm now in dating. But poster has displeased herself enough for this guy, so it's not only about the guy too, isn't the guy bothered about how the girl feels? Sure, you're also like him that do not care. Poster, your guy has long gone.
DeletePoster, I was in the same boat some years ago. I was living with a man I wasn't married to and having premarital sex with him. I notice the stagnation in my life, the man would always mock me and ridicule me because I had nothing going on for me, he would compare me with other girls. It didn't take me long to realise that he was the cause of me problems, I rediscovered my faith, asked God for forgiveness. I have been celibate for 3years and doors started to open after 1 year of celibacy. All I can do now is thank God and count my blessings.
ReplyDeleteLook sis, don't go back your old ways, absolutely no sex thoughts, masturbation etc. You will see what God will do in your life.
Your stagnacy was not due to sex or masturbation. A friend of mine just got a top position at Goldman Sachs and she fucks and mmastubates like crazy. Different men, different days. She's healthy(no stds) and has everything going for her. I'm actually quite envious but what I cannot deny is this girl's hard work. She works like a machine on some sort of jet fuel. That's one of the reasons she hasn't been able to keep a stable relationship and she's aware. She doesn't go blaming it on her sex life or masturbation. You were with an idiot in the name of boyfriend and when he left your life it took you one year to get your ark together hence the "open doors." Sex is a biological urge. Wanting sex is like wanting food. Having it or not doesn't cause stagnacy. The the musicians with their baby all their mamas are not stagnant
Deletebecause of sex so why do you think you were because of sex?
If a job in Godman Sach is enough blessing for you, it shows your level of reasoning, why would I want to work for someone when I can pay people to help me build my empire.
DeleteLook at the instances you gave, "musicians and baby mamas" ....lol is proves you are a small boy. Go back to your bible a read about the promises God has for those that know him. I weep for you!!!
Anonymous 16.20 Thanks for educating the dull head.
DeleteAnon 16:59 first of all I'm female. Yes! A Job at Goldman Sachs as a financial analyst is a BIG DEAL for those who studied finance management related courses. Yes I mentioned muscians because they are used as a yard stick for success. They "have it all",money fame and good looks etc and I'm agnostic so your Bible does nothing for me. Just look at your thinking concerning business, lol did my friend tell you she wanted or wants to start a business. By the time she's given her quarterly bonus that alone would surpass what you would make in a year in whatever business you own. She's a financial analyst and Gold Sachs allows her to use her expertise maximally. Keep your holy story oh sorry holy Bible to yourself. Bible thumpers that pick and choose what stories in their book of folklore to abide by. Please spare me. At the end of the day you lot get married to your so called ordained or chosen men who end up cheating on and beating you to a pulp and you would consult your book of folklore to tell you divorce is a sin which would give you guys excuses to stay in your sham marriages when the root of all of your problems is low self esteem and having Mrs as your only achievement. Please move outta the way. Advising young girls to deprive themselves of safe sex meanwhile the men they wait for sow their wild oats and then marry and still cheat and bring back stds to the "good" wives. Please use your and stop reading story books to dictate your life to you.
DeleteHmmmm! Madam Agnostic welldone ooo, now this explains the kind of life style you and your friend lives.
DeleteMadam since you are an agnostic you have no business advising a christain trying to retrace her steps. 1 cor2:14 says someone who isn't a christain never understands the word of God for they are foolishness unto him. So the yardstick you used to describe success isn't applicable to someone who follows Christ.
Delete@ anon 19:26 thank you!!! Look at the anecdotes she sighted to measure God's blessings..... Lolollollo. At end of the day who suffers most from premarital sex? Who goes through the heartbreaks, abortions or STIs?? Anon 17:59 is one misguided youth!!!
DeleteYes, working in goldman sachs is a big deal. But I would ask you not to conclude that the person is 'made' too soon, at least until they've eached a certain stage. Some of us don't believe in sleeping around for fun because whether we understand it or not we are spirits, having souls and contained in bodies. Sex is not just physical.
DeleteMy boss, for instance, is a former Wall Street guy. All his career, different organizations -Wall Street, high flyer. And he was a Guy among guys!! So he would have felt like a winner and damned every philosophy saying xx could be the reason for bla bla. Well I don't work on Wall Street, so you can guess where we are now ☺️ And some of the guys he confessed to underrating are calling the shots on a lot of things we are trying to get done. Some listed on Forbes as global entrepreneurs. So on the flip, a job in GS doesn't make that person's future the greatest. And empires that can surpass those earnings can actually be built. It's being done everyday.
As for bible-believing Christians, can you people see why we need to work hard? I don't blame some em agnostics/atheists cos truly some us Christians are very lazy and waiting from manna from heaven. It's impossible for you to serve God, seek knowledge, work hard, have discipline, and be poor. Yes IMPOSSIBLE.
See Aunty and Uncle talking about sex it is well with you both do what you think is best for you don't do things to satisfy people you will only end up regretting it.
ReplyDeleteMe that I passed my bus stop today after leaving US embassy with visa refusal was suppose to stop at lekki Chisco, I continued with the bus to Ajah was until when the conductor asked everyone to come down at the last bus stop that was when my eyes opened (Lol). I am laying down on my bed now thinking another 64k for Visa fee with this economy and no money, Masters admission into one of the top regional universities in the south in USA with Scholarship, I was prepared read like never before but I wasn't asked questions, I didn't even spend 30seconds before he passed the blue paper, I wont be happy if I don't get this degree I will go back by his grace and I will come out victorious ijn. I just feel envy and I think typing this will make me feel better. I'm sharing my testimony on the next one.
Girl friend just relax. You would be alright. Do not think about it too much. What would be would be. I do encourage you to go back though. After a while that is.
DeleteIt is well, God will break protocol for your sake .. don't give up
DeleteAnonymous 16:11 Thank you, I will have to go back soon because my school resumes January 9. Patty, Amen, Thank you for encouraging me.
DeleteEnsure you know why they refused you in the first place. It could be that you don't have ties. Please don't go back just immediately but get all you need to convince them next time .The heart of the case worker is in God's hands so I wish you the best
DeleteHave you tried asking the school if they have Nigerian reps that could give you tips on how to get it right next time?
DeleteDid you have all documents and enough funds in you or your sponsors accounts for the specified amount of time?
Delete@Rachael thank you I will work on that.
DeleteWhat a threat from your boyfriend, my dear follow your heart, it's the best decision.cos his present in your life brings you stagnation and badluck, so you don turn to him doctor prescription.
ReplyDeleteShe started it!
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Lol! Please sex is not what stagnating your life! Why do you guys always look for spiritual connotations to everything in your lives? What has sex got to do with you not moving forward? Celibacy is a personal decision but if you not moving forward is the reason you want to be celibate then your stagnacy just started. A lot of Nigerians lack common sense and they take pride in it. Instead of you to restrategise,think of your job and why you haven't been promoted,think of your business and why you have been making a loss and change the way you do things, you're talking celibacy. The married couples that are stagnant what should they give up?? Your own "God" is only appeased when you stop having sex kwanu? If your stagnacy doesn't end then what would you give up? My friend please think!
ReplyDeleteA lot of Nigerians have this senseless mindset and it boggles my mind.They never blame their stagnacy on their lack of work ethics or lack of customer service for those into business or just plain office politics for those in offices. If they want to give up something,they never give up things that really matter like lying, theft, cheating others, gossip, rudeness etc.It is only sex they would jump at. Anyway it is not your fault, it is how society raised you to be. However, don't pass this risible mindset to your daughters, it would do more harm than good.
As for your boyfriend do yourself a favour and end that relationship. Not because he is not with you on the celibacy thing but because he is rude and manner less and has zero respect for you! How can he tell you he would look for it outside?? What sort of effrontery is that? If he had respectfully said he would give you sometime to rethink and he really does not want to cheat, I would understand. For you to be putting up with someone this disrespectful in the name of relationship or boyfriend tells me your problem is more than sex. You should give up a lot too including the boyfriend. If you insist in celibacy anyway then go and look for one who is celibate like you. Your boyfriend started the relationship with you with the expectation that sex would be involved so you changing your mind is honestly changing the terms of the relationship. The moment you told him and he disagreed should have been the moment you/he ended the relationship so I really don't know where your confusion lies.
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ReplyDelete2 face, Davido, wizkid, etc have different Baby mamas and they are progressing in life.
So madam go hustle well and do something about your financial life and stop blaming sex for your stagnant life.
Leave her make she dey dull herself.
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To mention a few,Joseph in the bible also progressed, though it took a few years but he eventually became the prime minister of a whole Egypt and mind you he was righteous and didn't commit sexual sin. Same with esther who kept her self pure before God, she was the Queen of a vast kingdom though she was tried came from a humble background but in the end she succeeded. Stop using all those people as a yardstick for her, as a child of God, being successfull and being right before your creator should go hand in hand.
DeleteEhen? So you want to join them Chike? 😏😏
DeletePlease just drop that "I love him and . . ." rather write
ReplyDeleteI LUST after him and he does LUST after me too.
If you have repented of fornication, this is when your LOVE journey begins
Now you can see that sex does not glue a man to a lady; as in marriage
As long as he is getting the sex, he will never marry you
The "time bomb" Stella talked about is that foremost, he will dump you
like humpty dumpty and you will sulk while he marries a "fresh vagina" and moves on
Even now, he is browsing other skirts
someone who "cannot stay without sex" could not have stayed without it since July
He is pounding another vagina already and yours is spare.
stick to God and his word (you can read and listen to the New Testament on your smart phone)
Guilt is a strong emotion and it can cause anything including cancer, depression, suicide etc.
And then after life, that is what you are making up your mind to prepare for; congrats.
What will someone not read on this blog,so sex now makes him to keep a healthy lifestyle, Inukwa? That guy is a yahoo and be rest assured he is already having sex with someone else since July you last saw. kindly be committed to God,focus and improve on your life and wait for your man to come.
ReplyDeleteWas sex recommended for him? Is it a medication? I don't understand 'he's conscious of his health'.
ReplyDeleteOnly you understand how you feel when you have sex. Stay away from him. You will find another that that doesn't require such medication.
POSTER U SOUND LIKE SOMEONE IN HER EARLY 20'S BUT IF THAT IS THE CASE KINDLY NOTE THAT U VE NO BOY FRIEND. IF TRULY THE LAST TIME U SAW HIM WAS IN JULY, FORGET HIM AND MOVE ON WITH UR LIFE. I ADVICE U TO FOCUS ON UR STUDY/CAREER WAITING ON THE LORD. SEX IS NOT FOOD AND IF I CONFESS WHAT SEX HAS CAUSED ME U WILL SEE THAT THOSE ADVISING U AND MAKING IT APPEAR AS IF UR PROBLEM IS NOT SEX ARE ON THE WRONG SIDE. ANY GIRL IN HER 30'S CURRENTLY DATING A MAN SHOULD REFER HIM AS MY MAN NOT BF BCOS BF ND GF IS FOR KIDS NOT FOR GROWN UP MEN ND WOMEN. THIS IS THE REASON WHY SO MANY GIRLS REMAIN UNMARRIED TILL DATE BCOS THEY ARE BUSY WITH BF CARRYING OUT IMMORAL ACTS AND BEING DUMPED WHEN THE GUY REACHES AGE OF MARRIAGE. SOME OF THESE GUYS END UP MARRYING A VIRGIN SO U CAN READ THE HAND WRITING ON THE WALL AFTER BEING USED AS A SEX TOY. CONTINUE UR CELIBACY ND WAIT FOR THE RIGHT MAN WHO WILL LOVE U.
ReplyDeleteWell said, miss Godman Sach above should take note. Don't let men use you as a sex toy.Sex is not a basic human need.
DeleteJust forget that guy I know it's difficult but pls do,he doesn't love you kan kan
ReplyDeleteSo sex made your life meaningless??
ReplyDeleteYou are confused.
Confused human being.
ReplyDeleteSex is he's medication, for over 2years be dating and he has been Fucking you, why hasn't he pay your bride-price so he's medication can be complete, what a useless fuck-boy..hissss
ReplyDeleteMy advice for you Sister (1) marriage is honourable bed un defiled,don't defile your body by having sex with anybody because your body is the Temple of God. (2) that guy his not your husband to be. You're just lusting after him (3) a God fearing man or good responsible man will not ask his lady for sex before marriage (4) God will bring your right man, wait patiently it will come to pass
ReplyDeleteHis mental drug dey Ontop of your body okwaya? Onyenweanyi gbaa unu Ume...buh Hey baby girl,move on with your life,this kinda ultimatum is not easy esp with someone you have been having sex with...
ReplyDeletePoster.....you're definition of confusion. What's hard to comprehend in this your situationship. You're boyfriendless.....gerrit? ?
ReplyDeleteSex sex sex so overrated! Leave him and face God. He'll send you your own man better than your spoon to be ex. Everybody knows what precedes premarital sex is insecurity, heartbreak,plenty abortions. I wish I never indulged in premarital sex self. Although I thank God I married my by and he is an awesome man. But if I could do it allover again I would stay away frm premarital sex.
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ReplyDeletePremarital sex a.k.a. fornication is not good for a lot of people. For some It blocks their way of moving forward, period!
ReplyDeleteI just love you Chikito. You're one sensible woman.
ReplyDeletePoster, Don't listen to all these people with no values nor morals telling you nonsense. Their hearts are far from Him, yet, they are the first to call on God when they are in crises.
Like another poster said, it's never too late to retrace your steps and get on the righteous path. For the word of God says, O that today you would listen to His voice, harden not your hearts - Hebrews 3:15. Please know that your destiny isn't tied to theirs.
Others may be fornicating and getting away with it, but that's not our business. Our main concern is obedience to God's word as a way of showing our love to Him who loves us and gave up his life for us. The guilt you feel is the Holy Spirit convicting you and telling you, Child, there's a better way.
Whether people like it or not, obedience is a key; a key to blessings. When God sees that you have chosen to surrender to Him, He will begin to lead you with His wisdom and help you make wise choices in other areas of your life. If you need wisdom, ask Him and He will show you the steps you need to take to advance and progress in your life. Because the truth is sometimes, people are stagnant not because they are lazy, but because they lack direction.
I want to encourage you to be strong and have faith in the Lord who is calling you to a holy life. Let go of that time-waster you call boyfriend. He is not for you.
Focus now on building your spiritual walk with God and your plans for the future. At the right time, He will bless you with a man who will love and cherish you rightly.
Pray, Pray Pray, study the word and commit all your dreams and plans to God then begin to take steps either in getting a better job, going back to school, learning a skill, polishing your computer skills, etc. Believe in yourself.
As for those who think they can continue to violate God's word because there aren't obvious consequences, I direct you to the word of God in Malachi 3:13-18; and Matthew 7:21-23. God is not mocked! Stay true to Him and he will never disappoint you. Peace!
Ah! From some comments so far i weep for this generation and the next generation I pray God helps oh..... WHAT!!!!!!
ReplyDeleteLook at all of them! Who will believe that these are same people fighting to obey God in tithing? GOD CANNOT NEVER BE MOCKED PEOPLE!!! you fight and pay tithe out of hypocricy period! it is this same God that you claim to obey in tithe that said FLEE FORNICATION! So it's only on tithe you want to obey HIM abi? Jisie nu Ike! Arrrhhhh!! Human beings Ndo nu ooo! You guyz should continue in self deciet one day will be one day, monkey go, go market e no go fit return.
ReplyDeletePOSTER, my dear. from the spiritual angle, sex is a covenant between the people involved. When you indulge in sex with someone you are not married to a lot of things goes on. Read 1 cori 6 vs 18. Thank God you noticed that you are not always happy after indulging in it and you made up your mind to stop. Stick to it, rededicate your life to God and trust Him to change your life for good. Please read PASTOR JUDE CHUKS, CHIKITO, BLOGLORD COMMENTS. They have said it all. God will guide you.
ReplyDeleteChikito - thumps up and hugs. God bless you dear