Na wah....
STAND ALONE NARRATIVE
COMPLICATED SITUATION
I will appreciate it if you can keep me anonymous please.
First of all , I’m a Christian , not the strong ones but I love God and I strongly believe in his words .
I have a boyfriend , he is a Muslim . Initially when we first started , I just wanted to see how the relationship will go but right now . We are so serious!
Parents met each other and all .
Here is my problem , I can’t convert not for anything in this world . I can’t convert to Islam but he said it’s no problem . I can do my religion and he won’t disturb me and also the kids can go with me to church but he said he will never follow me to church ( he is from the state where religion is taken very seriously ) I don’t want to mention it but you guessed right if you think that’s it .
People say he will change later on as regards the religion but he told me not to worry and said he will never ask me to convert
We also have genotype issues but we live in a country where that can be solved.
If it’s about love? He loves me 100 percent and I can vouch for that anywhere .
His attitude is okay . He is apologetic and he loves me genuinely
Please I need advise .
Marriage is a life time . Should I go ahead to see what the future will bring? Or just let it go?
I will appreciate if you can post it today Stella
Please keep me anonymous
Thanks a lot
I will need your pen too.
Here is my problem , I can’t convert not for anything in this world . I can’t convert to Islam but he said it’s no problem . I can do my religion and he won’t disturb me and also the kids can go with me to church but he said he will never follow me to church ( he is from the state where religion is taken very seriously ) I don’t want to mention it but you guessed right if you think that’s it .
People say he will change later on as regards the religion but he told me not to worry and said he will never ask me to convert
We also have genotype issues but we live in a country where that can be solved.
If it’s about love? He loves me 100 percent and I can vouch for that anywhere .
His attitude is okay . He is apologetic and he loves me genuinely
Please I need advise .
Marriage is a life time . Should I go ahead to see what the future will bring? Or just let it go?
I will appreciate if you can post it today Stella
Please keep me anonymous
Thanks a lot
I will need your pen too.
*In your case,the hand writing on the wall is written in caps so you see it well...
You have genotype issues how?PLEASE WALK OUT OF THAT RELATIONSHIP RIGHT NOW......I have nothing more to say!!!
Your are just a wicked person, so u want to bring a child into this world to suffer, i teally don't care about ur love, do the right thing and walk away.
ReplyDeletePoster can you swear if we asked you to walk you would?
DeleteYour illiteracy is out of this world. Did you read where she said she lives in a country where genotype issues can be solved. Let me educate you. 1. She can go for IVF with PGD where the genotype of the baby is determined before it is implanted.
Delete2. She can do a test where the genotype of a baby is carried out and if it's a suckler, she terminates the pregnancy. (Most of girls that terminate so it cause the committed fornication while this is termination for a good cause)
Shebi there are AA couples that don't have children and resort to using donor eggs or sperm or even patronize baby factory.
Aunty you better carry your load and go,
DeleteThe only thing i know for sure is that he will ask you to convert in future and he won't let you take the kids to church.
DeleteWhat is even this big deal about religion. Trust me, it does not hold as much water as many want it to. Convert or no convert will not be your issue. Moreover, you live in a country where genotype is not an issue and yes, that is very possible and effective and i will tell you may dear, do not loose a good man because of these. Your heart already told you what to do please follow it. There are a thousand reasons people from the same ethno-religious and genetic backgrounds see hell in marriages because they just cannot agree and lack of love. Please go ahead with him. He will value you knowing how hard the decision was for you. It will make your bond stronger.
DeleteLovely Ify.
Anon15:48 so you're advising people to carry out abortion. May God forgive you.
Delete@ poster pls,let him go.
Genotype and religion incompatibility will ruin that married. One of my cousin sister that married a Muslim is regretting it heavily now.
All these girls calling themselves "Christians" hooking up with Muslim men, don't you know that you are the "fourth wife?"
ReplyDeleteYes, especially when the next three he will marry are Muslims?
I know a Muslim guy who converted to Christianity just for the sake of peace.
DeleteIt is a matter of choice and understanding.
Samantha, your story is not complete.
DeleteKeep encouraging yourself and keep dating a Muslim hoping to "convert him"
You have become The Holy Spirit the converter?
@Samantha
DeleteDid you read the story?
The man said "he will not follow her to church?"
not to talk about converting.
I have also seen a Muslim man that "converted" and joined the choir
Deletejust to get married to a girl in the choir.
He returned to his religion as soon as the marriage was sealed and
babe was already pregnant. He went on to be an imam
Poster, just leave that relationship.
ReplyDeleteVery true. Just leave this relationship poster!
DeleteALL the "Christian" ladies I have seen marry Muslim men regretted it, not one exception . But then, a true Christian already knows he/she has no business marrying a Muslim.
Plus, you better take this genotype thing serious. I am a doctor, once saw a lady (AS) who married her lover (also AS) many years ago. They both knew their genotypes and he assured her "God will never allow us to have an SS child". Fast forward many years later... following the death of 3 children(all SS), dearly beloved hubby started saying "you can't give me living children". Needless to say at the point I was seeing her the marriage had not only ended but her ex husband had remarried a younger girl (AA) and had 4 children. The harsh reality is that the entire procedure is expensive (plus the needless killing of innocent children)and at the end of the day, it's much easier to avoid "long grammar"!
Poster pls educate on the genotype issue that can be solved abroad cos I am not understanding
ReplyDeleteEducate me*
DeleteThere are ways now couples with both AS genotype can go on n birth kids n never birth the a child with the SS genotype. It's done abroad n even done somewhere in lagos but very expensive just like ivf. My sister n her hubby are both AS n they have 3kids now all With AS genotype.
DeleteDear SDK pls don’t be an alarmist.
DeleteGoogle “pre-implantation diagnosis” PGD.
Also should the worst happen, bone marrow transplantation has a 97% success rate in curing sickle cell disease and the recipient becomes the genotype of their donor. The Whole in-patient process takes about 3 weeks. They are done routinely in the US and UK.
You’re welcome. Dr. SheKnows
P.s. for the inter-religious relationship bit, you’re both adults there are lots of couples doing it without strife. However no guarantees about the children as when they arrive it might be a different matter especially for the boys.
Google is your friend.
DeleteOn the bar where you type in Stelladimokoblog, type in google.com
Thanks @ anon 15:40
Delete"He will change"
ReplyDelete"He will never ask me to convert"
All these promises to tie you up?
A man will say anything to get a woman he wants. You mentioned that he is "from the state where religion is taken seriously"
Those telling you that he will change are only deceiving you. You that are "not serious' will you change?
Why expect a serious Muslim to change even when he has told you that he will not change?
Why get unequally yoked with an unbeliever in disobedience to God's word which you claim to believe??
Aren't you simply deceiving yourself?
Nne, even the unserious muslims are very serious! Pls walk away
DeleteYou don't need advice
ReplyDeleteyou need flogging; koboko
Female brains freeze once marriage is mentioned
Really laughing out loud
DeleteGood one! Lol
DeleteGirl, if you look at a mirror, whatever you see there is torotoro
ReplyDeletePoster na wa for you. Even when things don't feel alright ,with the religion & genotype obstacle you still need somebody to convince you to remain in this relationship? Lemme tell you the reason this muslim bobo is loving you unapologetically is bcos he has seen these obstacles & doesn't want to give you any reason to leave him, but the truth is that his attitude now doesn't guarantee he won't make case in future about the Muslim/Christian isshh. If you want a stress free life biko quickly start loving yourself first, a better option will come,don't be desperate .
ReplyDeleteThanks Stella for keeping your advice short and direct.
ReplyDeleteMadam Poster, leave that man. He's not good for you Mentally(health) and spiritually (The bible says do not be unequally yoke). It is when the babies start coming that he will know it's easier said than done. He will want his children to follow him. Madam don't be a learner. Leave!
If you can’t convert call it off cos it won’t work. Respect urself now and leave!!
ReplyDeleteConverting him for the purpose of marriage is wrong as Christianity is a call. What if he stops going to church after marriage?
DeletePoster flee from that temptation.
What the poster means by living in a country where genotype issue can be solved is by doing preimplantation genetic testing and IVF. It is expensive but can be done. Poster,it is only God that knows tomorrow. Take time to seek his face in prayer.I pray that he will lead you right and you will let yourself to be led by him.
ReplyDeleteLeave her, let her senses be clouded with love, even with pgi testing n ivf, it's not a guarantee that it will work, plus she thinks it's free.
DeleteHow many of such will she do. It simply means you will be aborting like no man business. That's medical stupidity. That potion is meant for accidental situations. Not the one you use your two left legs to enter.
Delete@Poster just know that once he marries you, he will change and those same people encouraging will be the ones telling you that in order to save your marriage you better do as your husband says. Do not bring a stickler to this world the suffering child is not asking for it.
Poster run for your life....
DeleteAnako tuu!
ReplyDeleteNdooo!
Y don't you wanna convert?? You are neither here nor there!
You are simply a dormant\lip Christian!
If you genienuly loved your faith,you will never date a Muslim in the first place.
My people I Lie??
All for prick you wan form "blind" in love!
Oga oooo.
Kwatinue.
I hear by call you "Latifa" .
Like Seriously, what is Wrong with you????????
ReplyDeleteThis is how Ladies walk into TROUBLE abi na burning furnace with their eyes wide open'!!
Na was!
You seem to be made the decision to Marry him,BUT If you Ever send in your sob chronicle,I will bash you until you melt!😊😊listen to Nwunye Mazi Korkus.
Who your bashing epp
Delete1.You are not a Christian!
ReplyDelete2. He is lying to you just to get you to marry him, after marriage he will ask you to change to his religion. You just said he is from a state where religion is taken seriously...
3. Knock yo heard on the wall and receive some sense.
Poster you are in a situationship!!! Please you should leave that relationship asap
ReplyDeleteGoing by the trend of advise above,i am convinced that most BVs here are hypocrites. I don’t think this guy will change in future. Girl if you luv and trust him, go ahead! Tell me why she shouldn’t she go ahead? How many of these girls are strong xtains and follow or are hoping to have flings with the likes of Aliko,saraki,ajimobi,tunde folawiyo are they not muslims? How many yoruba men (I mean exposed, educated in this Lagos Are married to xtain women? Bola tinubu, fashola, ajomobi to mention a few) and each woman has remain xtain without any problem. Just do you Poster. My only concern is the genotype incompatibility.
ReplyDeleteHow christain girls fall in love with a moslem i dont understand
ReplyDeletePoster, you're twerking your way into a hot pot of soup blind folded...
ReplyDeleteRetrace your steps now before it's too late, when you'll start chasing the black goat at night...
This story vex you sotay you couldn't even find a motivational/ inspirational line for it? 😂😂😂
DeleteToo many issues here already and u are still considering marriage with him?
ReplyDeleteI'm not in ur shoes but my take?look else where
Religion not compatible
ReplyDeleteGenotype not compatible
And you think there is no problem with this relationship?
My dear love is never enough.
You can go ahead if you want but I can bet you, you will experience lots of turbulence along the way that will leave you regretting, frustrated ane probably depressed. You may even sadly put an innocent child through torture and pain of sickle cell battles.."because you are in love"
...and funny enough that love at that point may just turn to hate.
So what is it going to be?
Plunge or retrieve steps?
The Choice is yours.
It's not true. Many couples never ask the other to convert. Follow your heart. Don't listen to stella
ReplyDeleteMay God who alone knows the end from the beginning direct you
ReplyDeleteOmo aanu e se mi walahi I pity you. He loves you 100% when you guys are not yet married you dey vouch for a man when you never been as my friend trust yourself alone because different circumstances shall surround your union then we shall see how you both will handle them. G
ReplyDeleteAs much as I do not want to be a judge in this matter but I must ask if uve thought about what will happen to d 100% love u claim he has for you when babies start coming.;money for IVF, abortion, bone marrow transplant and all. What if something goes wrong and u mistakenly birth forth an ss. Av worked with these set of children before and all they want to do when they wake up early in d morning is to say a word of curse for their parents that brought them into pain. So pls think well poster.
ReplyDeleteAbout religion, I think I still remember do not be unequally yoked. Think about d effect/consequences of divided faith and believe in the house. If you can face it, can your children do d same.
The choice is yours. Think deep.
Only words i have for you poster are; "Tread cautiously"
ReplyDeleteI wish I can have your contact so we can talk as omo Iya bcos I sense you are Yoruba,pls let him go,was in a similar situation.another better person will come as soon as u let go.
ReplyDeleteYou see door to pass you decide you prefer windom hmmm nah you get your life continue ooo...
ReplyDeleteMadam poster, only you religion wahala, genotype brouhaha and maybe even tribal kasala...madam use your tongue to count your teeth....I doubt you both are meant to be. God won't send all these troubles your way na
ReplyDeletePoster The only problem I have with u is the issue of genotypes.As for the religious matter I don't really care.Pls BV let me ask small question here ,who did Agbani Derego married and what religion.Did she needs u people opinion b\4 she do.But my fellow BV's say congrats to her ok.
ReplyDeleteThe only person you should use as a yardstick for your own life as a true christain is the Lord Jesus Christ. Not a fellow human like yourself. How are you sure agbani is a practising christain and not just someone who wears the tag of Christianity?. The term "christain" to most people is a label they feel anyone can just use simply because they have a bible and go to church, which shouldn't be so. In all actuality being a Christain means being a follower of Christ and nothing else. Not follower of christ and every other practices you can think of.
DeleteA true bible believing and devoted christain would never, I repeat never date or let alone marry a Moslem.
Sister, your chronicle revealed the strength of your relationship with christ.
So I would rather suggest you build your relationship with Christ and get to know better instead.
Sigh
ReplyDeletemy dear I've been there an still there in away...the earlier the better...my Man till 2day didn't ask me to change but the parent an twin brother have an him is just in btw we have a 7yrs old child...best thing is get lawyer an make him sign ...i would have said walk away but wen it comes to true love I believe it happens once...not to regret later bcos the heart of man is...make him sign!!!
ReplyDeleteAfter reading your chronicles and the first few advice given, I closed the page to move on to the next thing, but then I realized a word might just help you to form your decision.
ReplyDeleteBabes, are you a Christian or just born into a Christian home? Do you really know the God you serve? Do you believe in Jesus? Do you read your Bible and do you believe it to be God’s message to you? Are you willing to Obey God totally and have him handle and direct your steps or do you want life on your own terms?
In this age of Google, you can hear from God by asking Google what the Bible says about your intentions and then it's left for you to either make /Mar your destiny.
I pray for you, that the light of God’s Word will shine through every dark and confusing state you find yourself. I speak peace to your heart.
Search the truth because that is what you will hold on to.
No comment. I pray you make the right decision.
ReplyDeletePoster,
ReplyDeletehow about your people shall be my people..
your God shall be my God...
your church or faith shall be my church or faith too.
what you about to enter are manage and not marriage..
First of all, trust me religion will be a problem later on especially when the kids come. Had the same issue with my parents. Dad a Muslim mum a Christian. There were fights cos my dad at some point felt cheated cos we were going to church. We ended up doing both but as we got older tilted to one side: Christianity. You want to take a very big risk. Plus his family will have issues with it too. Secondly, are you ready for your child or children to be on constant medication? It's horrible. Lost my younger bro as a result of it. Please don't try it. The odds are against this your relationship!!! It's about the future of your kids and yourself. Wish you the very best
ReplyDeleteChronicles of d year Loading.She will soon run to d house wth her chronicles.
ReplyDeletePlease let him go.you have two strong issues against you right now. *Religion and *Genotype.
ReplyDeleteI'll tell you a story. A family i know very well...the woman married the man for love despite the religion differences as she is a Christian while the man is a Muslim. Like your situation, the man told her that they'll have no issues practicing their various religion as they'll all be supportive to each other.
The marriage was blessed with kids and that's where the issues started. The children always loved following their mum to church and never go to the mosque with their dad.
Overtime these actions angered their dad and he told the woman she'd have to choose between Church and the family. Difficult choice right?
Well, she chose the church, the man told the children that if they'll not go to the mosque with him, then they'd have to stop going to church too till they get to 18 when they are adult enough to choose for themselves. Even with the 'new law' the children were still sneaking to church with their mum.
The first son got to 18 chose the church, the man was super mad. It tore the family apart so bad that the man took a second wife who is a Muslim and divorced the first woman after almost 20 years of marriage.
So my dear, as Stella said the handwriting is clearly written on the wall. A word is enough for the wise.
#Love wins
ReplyDeleteNobody is even mentioning polygamy. Poster are you ready for that? To have co-wives? Better think and know what you can and can't cope with. We read of the wife that stabbed her hubby coz of anger and jealousy, God forbid that for you. Please this is the time to turn to God for guidance and direction. After reading advice here, make sure you get on your knees and ask the Holy Spirit to speak to you in a manner that you will hear and be patient for Him to respond. Good luck
ReplyDeletei don't think she has even prayed about it once but was carried away by love. By the time issues that will test and challenge the power and strength of that love you will understand better. Everybody here have really given you wonderful words of advice but it's left for you to make your choice and decide but be reassured that whatever you decide today will live with you and will either make you or mar you. Until you abide under the same roof with someone don't assure yourself that i know this person very well. You will be dazed by the events that will enfolds when you venture into this marriage. Be wise. And allow God to speak to your soul.
ReplyDeleteThere are 3 things that last - Faith, Hope and Love. Love is not enough in a human relationship - Faith (Believe in God) and Hope (Promise of God to save us). When love meets challenges, and your faith is not compatible you will fail because you don't share a common hope. Jesus promised us resurrection but your friend's hope does not. The hand writing is on the wall, you have a choice to heed it or damn the consequences.
ReplyDeleteIf you are true believer you won't even date Muslim man let alone marrying him.pls build your relationship with Jesus Christ. Accept him as your saviour.the truth will come to you immediately.
ReplyDelete