Hmmm hand writing on the wall is always clearly written!!!
STAND ALONE NARRATIVE
CONFUSED AND NEED TO DECIDE FAST...
I have been in this relationship for over 3 years,at first it was worth it and when he proposed i accepted his proposal then he came to see my parents with his family.But immediately i got a job,boo started loosing the trust he had on me to the extent of calling me names each time we have a little misunderstanding,telling me how I've been seeing other guys and will be making excuses that i was with a customer or i lie that traffic held me on the way and all.
Meanwhile,he paid for my first accommodation that gave him the guts to be visiting me always even when i need my space.At any provocative attempt we will end up fighting,this keeps going on and on,i was forced to tell my parents,but funny enough he will apologise for his reactions to the extent of crying his eyes out telling my friends to beg me that he doesn't know what came over him and i will still forgive him.
When i will be sleeping,boo will go through my chats and will be calling the numbers on my contacts threatening them to leave me the hell alone that am a married woman,this is someone that has not wedded me fully.We will keep exchanging words and at a time i called it quits and he threaten to kill me and himself.
Now there's this guy i met about 6 yrs ago that has been wanting to settle down with me but i never loved him and till this moment he keeps trying his luck to know if it will work out and am beginning to feel something for him.
Now,boo is begging to come back sending me money whenever i ask,Yes i won't say NO because i suffered with him during the time of our relationship when he had nothing and am happy he is back on his feet.Right now,he wants our wedding to be January but the point there is that my parents doesn't want to hear anything about him due to the beatings he always gave me,but am beginning to see his new leaf don't know if am wrong because lately when we talk on the phone i don't see us having issues and he wants to go beg my parents to accept him back as there son in law.
He has promised he's changed for good but i pray he doesn't start again when we finally settles because his a very good guy that can sacrifice all he has to please me and i have not met such a guy in my life before.He tells me how his business is been going well and considering paying for a house so i can be transferred to be with him since he doesn't want a distance relationship and he seeks my opinion before doing anything.
On the other guy's part he's also saying by next year he would want us get married but he is not seeing me as a serious person because I've been making promises to visiting him and i still ruin it.Meanwhile,i don't really know much about him due to not giving him the chance in my life,we met just once in 2012 but each time he talks about me visiting i turn him down.
Pls ma'am advise me on what to do because am considering visiting him soon to at least know a little about him.
Awaiting your response and that of my fellow bv's.
Thanks y'all.
Awaiting your response and that of my fellow bv's.
Thanks y'all.
*I think you are so confused you wont even recognise your toes.....
I am sure you know deep down within you that a guy who threatens to kill you if you leave might still kill you if you stay with him?
That your boyfriend is a walking time bomb and from what you have said,my advice would be that you DO NOT marry him oh....
The guy that wants you to visit him,why cant he visit the town you stay in and stay in a hotel and you can visit him?if you go to him,you might end up in his bed before any conversation is made.
It is your choice oh...Be smart.
Poster,so you want to enter a domestic violence marriage with your clear eyes?. ..
ReplyDeleteI reject am for you!...
Jenny, so after all the talk and settlement we already had you still put this out in public space? Wow.
DeleteBut this is obvious..you don't need a soothsayer to help with this. Use your tongue to count your teeth an move on. Are you a tree? Did they tie you to the man? mschew
DeleteI wonder why stella didn't give you the e-slap. That should have been before anything else. That's all you need dear. A slap
DeleteAnon 16:01 free her. Are you the woman killer?
DeleteJenny don't marry this guy, he is obsessed and can kill.
The guy is dangerous, yes but the poster seems promiscuous herself. What kind of chats will make your man call other men to warn them? If you are an unfaithful woman, you will still have problems with a new man.
DeleteIt's like you want to die before your time.
DeleteIs this the leg that nama will use to go Sokoto?
ReplyDeleteYou people are not married yet and you are bickering and being suspicious so how will it be when you tie the knot?
Run away from a suspicious spouse, it's a very dangerous situation to be in. The new guy too isn't making any sense, cus one, you just started liking him after you broke up with your boo, two, must you go over to his place before he knows you are interested, how about he does the coming for now until trust is built before going over to see him
DeleteI dont think that it is compulsory you pick between both of them. I wonder why you want to go back to a man who beats you and disrespects you. Yes he said he has changed but are you sure about that? Is he just acting the changed part so that you can return?
ReplyDeleteTry and take some time to think deeply through it all. Look at your life in 5yrs time. Is he the one you see and do you see a fulfilled life with him?
All the best
Run away from your abusive boyfriend. I feel he's only pretending to be changed but not really changed. He wants you now at all cost so he's doing anything possible to make you see him in a good light.
ReplyDeleteBut I'm sure you won't run, seeing you have stated how good he is and how sacrificial he is.
Better run for your life. That guy is a threat to your well being. Who forgives a woman beater?
ReplyDeleteYou are beginning to 'see his new leaf'?? Wait till he marries you properly you will begin to see his new fruits.
Hahahaha @new fruits lol dis one burst my brain ooo.
DeleteSavage @shantelle🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
DeletePlease I sent my chronicle to the email provided . Please confirm if you’ve received it ma’am.
ReplyDeleteKeep me anonymous please. Lol. Thank you
Pathological jealousy; Othelo's syndrome -google it. That's what your fiance is suffering from.
ReplyDeleteKilling you and himself is no mean threat, he can do it. You cheapened yourself when you began to co-habit when he hadn't "married you fully"; i.e. paid your bride price. That made it worse. God's word is the manual for this being called human; no to premarital or extramarital sex and you will have peace.
The choice of marrying him is yours alone to make.
Learnt a new word.thanks
DeleteYour boyfriend is not emotionally stable so babe flee.
ReplyDeleteDon't let crocodile tears deceive you cos crying those tears is very easy.
As for the other guy he should come to you cos these days you can't trust nobody.
Don't bite with your teeth what you don't want to eat.
Poster there is fire on the mountain, run run run.
ReplyDeleteGive the 2nd guy a chance.
If you weren't cohabiting and fornicating, how will he check your phone when you sleep?
ReplyDeleteAlways funny when most chronicles senders claim they are regular here but still send in similar issues we've discussed here. Does this mean people just read about what is said here and ignore?
ReplyDeleteSorry but I'm reclaiming my time from now on because I don't know what's so attractive in choosing someone who is abusive. No matter how much they lie to you and themselves that they've changed, the thin is without counseling and therapy many abusive people do not change. It's not a rash that goes away after sometime.
Give the other guy a chance but do not visit him, allow him come see you and who knows it just might work and if it doesn't give other people a chance and let the first guy go. Stop collecting his money, they your excuse doesn't hold water. No be you train am go school, abi na you? Your parents are wise, listen to them this time and be content with your own money.
Ms goody two shoes
DeleteHe Beats you, threatens to kill you, Goes through your phone to call people and threaten them to leave you alone, na wa oo
ReplyDeleteMy dear if you marry him he will beat you
If you marry him he will give you list of rules that will make you a slave in your home like what to wear, who to talk to, when you can go out and where you are allowed to go to.
Infact he will not let you keep your job once you are married
Guys like him believe that women are there properties and you will become one once you marry him
As for the new guy, if he really wants to be with you he should make out time to come see you in your place, don't go to him
LEP😛
Once’s a beater always a beater. You only want him bcos things are financial okay with him. when he gets broke again u are back to hating. Love yourself girl. Bye Felicia.
ReplyDeleteSee I don't like posting on Chronicle cos I think I am not good with advice just d way am good at riddles n brain teasers.
ReplyDeleteBut this ur own is very simple ur first guy is a no-no. But look at u feeling entitled cos u hustle with him. I pity u cos u hustle money for ur burial if u marry him.
Second guy na fowl, why all this visit me and visit me thing. Madam a man that wants u will do everything to make it work. Lots of public holiday in naija and he can't visit. Imagine talking marriage wen u only met once.
This marriage sabi enter head lol u go tire o.
No visit d fowl o. If he really wants to marry u let him come n show himself to ur family
Fine girl like you calling someone a fowl..sweetheart,it doesnt go well jharee....give advice without insults or calling funny names..
DeleteJenny abi ladybird banks don talk true, na im you dey vex?
DeletePoster why are you listening to that woman beater ?ehh?
ReplyDeleteI know you might have grown attached to him somehow but you have to shove it down the pit toilet joor.
Move on, Get to know the other guy better,visit him but don't sleep in his house o,to avoid being raped,well except you alrdy made up you mind to take the risk & then maybe u want it,if not get a hotel room, find time , chat with him always, get to know if he is a real man ,principled & if he's got the kinda flaws you can live with.
Hmmm the day I will send in my own chronicle eh ,it will be a 'story of my life' kinda chronicle with lots of lessons to be learnt,just waiting for the right time.
Ehen madam Stella I saw my comment o, well-done
Madam 'seeing a new leaf' Weldon o. Continue Okawaya! Its not by force to marry either of them I hope you know? I'm almost sure you will go back to the 'new leaf' so let me keep quiet biko
ReplyDeletePoster pls be smart.
ReplyDeletePoster leave that your mumu boyfriend that wants to control you just because you got a job. I hate men that hates women progressing. Anyway na you sabi.
ReplyDeletegive lover B a chance to prove your love for him.
If you marry lover A, you will enter one chance. He will beat you with belt
Stay away from that violent and insecure man, hold your ears and listen, a violent relationship begats a violent marriage, it will only get worse except he maybe goes for thorough deliverance against the spirit of anger.
ReplyDeleteYou feel he has changed because he now has money and is giving you plenty of it abi? Women!!! Longthroat no go kill us.
DeleteHahahaha @ 15.37 she wants to cry inside Bugatti na
DeleteGet to know the second guy better.
ReplyDeleteIf he proved better, settle for him.
Your fiance is an insecure, jealous and possessive prick. He doesnt even trust you. It will only get worse and may even lead to DV when you both get married. The foundation is so faulty already. Can't you see???
Don't complete the 'building.'
Crush it before it crushes you.
So DV is only recognised as DV if it happens in marriage? Or didnt you read where she said the guy has been beating her? That one no be DV already?
Delete*proves better
DeleteHere's a quick advice to ladies. The fact that he has been on your case does not stop him from doing what he wants with you nd still leaving you messed up. All the while his on your case he may have a serious relationship nd may just want to catch fun, guys get easily bored that's one thing you should know.
ReplyDeleteNd for your shkoi shkoi unbalanced fiancé pls run. His obsessed with you and this makes him jealous which may always be the cause of your unending fight. Except you are ready to continue collecting beatings when you both finally settle down
Dear Poster, I am usually not one to tell pple to leave their spouse, but in this case, run for your life. make we no hear domestic violence and as for the other guy, like Stella rightly said, he should be the one visiting. Plus give him a chance. this your fiance brain dey touch. sorry to say.
ReplyDeleteThat your man, I'll advice you watch him very well before you making any decision. Just take your time.
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Domestic violence chronicle loading... That is if you marry that ur yeye boyfriend
ReplyDeletePoster, none of these guys is for you...
ReplyDeleteIf you marry Oga Bitrus, the beatings will continue & will graduate to the next level...
The second guy wants to do a test run on your automobile. Do not visit, to avoid stories that touch...
When in doubt, DON'T...
Your ex would pretend to have changed for the best only for you to realize he has been pretentious. Any man who's violent,beats women,exchange words with ladies etc can hardly change. No matter the promise he makes,he would still beat you someday and you got no choice than to accept your fate. I used to have a friend whose bf(now hubby) beats her so much and whenever. Her friends n I inclusive try talking sense to her,she feels we're jealous cos he was from a rich home. He would apologize,call the whole of Nigeria along and promise to change with real tears from his eyes. Guess what? He changed,proposed to babe. Her joy knew no bound and wedding followed soon. Not. Even up to two weeks,the devil in him came back again. He still beats her till date,cheats to her face and even threaten to kill her. She's so fed up of the marriage and wished she listened to us. I'm not married tho but I hate two things in a man; A lier and a Violent man. Even tho some lies are harmless,there are some(men) devil himself is scared of. They carry the crown. Please poster do not make this silly choice. I'm not saying the other man is a saint o but with a violent man,put on your running shoes!
ReplyDeleteGod bless you. Poster listen to our advice. Your bf abi na ex is a pretender. Wait till after marriage and see.
DeleteThe second guy is a time bomb. Must you go to his base to visit him.just do as stella say,
ReplyDeleteGOD BLESS YOU STELLA!!!
ReplyDeleteThis writer is a CONFUSED person, if you like yourself (which i doubt you do) RUN!!!!!!
Leave that first unrepentant he-goat because he'll NEVER CHANGE!!! Try getting to know the 2012 guy. Make sure you sever all ties with the that unchanged guy so as to be completely be free from him, if possible change phone number(s) & relocate. God bless.
ReplyDelete... Jesus is my worth!
This was me in 2015, abi na me write am? lol. Please, I didn't marry my own first guy, don't allow the money he's spending on you cloud your judgement. He will kill you one day... Forget the second guy, it's a man that comes to look for a woman. He's been on your case for 6yrs and can't take the bull by the horns.
ReplyDeleteSweet heart, please God is showing u signs now please don't ignore cos of the money he shower on u....any man that can beat a lady while in courtship can equally do that even more in marriage...see character or habit can't easily fade away within a space of time....ur first boo is a no no....and the second guy he should visit you first but not in ur apartmen...please these are siÄŸns for u darling...never assume things....All the best
ReplyDeleteNow listen and listen carefully,d ist guy I.e ur bf might love u no doubt, but DAT relationship isn't healthy at all. How can someone u r not married to beat u up, he dnt even say let him pretend small like most men do, see pick up ur shoes, dust it and run for ur life, he indeed can kill, don't see it as something he said out if anger.
ReplyDeleteIf I were you,I will not marry the one whom you did intro with
ReplyDeleteWhat advice are you seeking?the parents that gave birth to you already told you to leave the guy, so what do you want onliners to tell you? You just want pple to pity you abi? Or encourge you to stay with him? Hmmm that first guy is a ticking-time bomb. The problem is most pple re suffering from mental illnes, but few are aware. The guy will still carry out his threat on you one day, it may be during pregnancy, after childbirth. The day he feels he finally owned you, that day he ll give you guildlines, do's and dont's of his marriage with you.
ReplyDeleteI already dey pity you in 3D.
As for the other guy, study him but don't go over to his place until you know him well.
If for nothing else....say no to domestic violence.... He will still beat u when u get married.don't allow d gifts he lavishes on u to deceive u...slow down,so u don't make great mistakes. Give d oda guy a chance,if he really needs u in his life,he should be able to woo u well n be a man abt it!
ReplyDeleteMost abusive men are kind to a fault . They will spend on you n do practically anything for you . This is bc they will want you to remember how good they treat you after beating the hell outa you . Ok bye
ReplyDeleteYou want marry a guy that checks your phone at night and will even go to the extend of calling your contacts and emberass you. He even threatened to kill you 😮. Abeg that guy has mental problem, you better listen to your parents, and thank God that your parents are not the one forcing you to marry him. That guy is bad news o. Listen now!
ReplyDeleteHe threatened to kill you and himself?😱😱. Better carry your shoes in your hands and run away from that boo.
ReplyDeleteSpouses killing each other these days is enough to give person sense o
Dear poster, steer clear from this man, and don't be deceived, he will not change. If you go ahead, you are doing that at your own risk. As for the other guy, get to know him pretty well and then, make your decision, for or against.
ReplyDeletePoster......This your fiance that is this jealous before you are even properly married to him is bad news. Don't let anyone deceive you to go ahead with him. He would only get worst after marriage.
ReplyDeletePlease go on date with the other guy and get to study and know him very well. Ask questions about everything and be sure the chemistry between you two is okay.
Tear red card for that your fiance he's a silly child...and show him that you can move on
Cut all communication with both of them. Your future is in great danger. One doesn’t care enough why bother with him. The other is a Killer in Waiting. You will regret it forever if you marry him that’s IF he doesn’t kill you and harm any children you have for him. Fleeeeee
ReplyDeletePoster run far away from that guy, even if he stops beating you after getting married, the emotional and verbal abuse you will deal with from him, hmmmm you will wish you weren't alive because this kind of person will make sure you are drained and your self esttem will be tampered with. Ask me and I will tell you. Pls run run and run, and even the other guy ,hope you didn't tell him what you are experiencing for now because he can use that to finger your brain and you will think he is the best person, can't he come and visit you, why will you be the one to visit him, you be ajala the traveller ni. He should kukuma stay in his base if his not ready to come visit. Mind you ,you seems like a very soft person and all this indecisive people. Anyway just run, that's my opinion
ReplyDeleteBoth men are bad news. 1 beater, the other don't have time to visit na u go visit am ok oh
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