Nurse Atutupuyoyo has come again with a story that might damage your ear drums if told to you Orally......lol
*Please read to the end and give recommendation on what a nurse should do*
This morning a woman was accompanied by her husband and neighbours on account of her privates bleeding for about five days now....
On examination she was really pale. I queried ectopic pregnancy but after I did a thorough history I was persuaded to do a pregnancy test for her which was positive.
As I was about to tell her husband, she signalled me. I became curious and dismissed the husband to allow more privacy. She then revealed that she did medical abortion but the blood flow wouldn't just stop and the husband is not responsible for the pregnancy
Note she has 4 kids for her husband and the last is 10years old.
She wants that I do not to tell her husband.
And her husband confided in me to tell him the truth, that neighbours are suspecting that she is having a miscarriage.
*As the nurse, Please what do I do ethically.?
Do I lie for the woman to save the marriage or should I tell the husband the truth*
For now I just told the man that she might have something called endometriosis.
This is a real life issue o. It's not fictional.
Note: I had to stand in for the doctor because he had like 2 emergencies to attend to.
I anticipate Ur responses. Thanks
*Hmmm this is tough but why can you not tell the man that she is miscarrying instead of an abortion?Or has the man not slept with her in a long time to warrant that?
Why dont you hand the case over to the Doctor if you cannot decide on what to say?Please do not tell the man anything oh.
Don't tell the husband the truth!...
ReplyDeleteMen will never spill on their fellow men so why can't we women do the same?...
Shit happens mehn...
Nobody is a saint here including you nurse atutupuyoyo!...
Can you tell me you have never cheated on your man?...
Sh*t does not happen
DeleteSomeone passes sh*t!
And if women like you begin to pass sh*t through the vagina
It becomes a dire sickness and medical emergency!
You see the kind of mentality Linda Eze has?
Delete"women should not spill on women?"
I am a woman and a doctor.
If this lady has her husband as "next of kin" in her medical records,
and I sense that she has put her life in jeopardy,
I am under obligation to tell the husband what happened.
If not, it is the same husband that will turn and accuse the hospital of killing his wife
like we read in this blog about the expatriate husband and his dead Nigerian pregnant wife.
When women of easy virtue useless their lives and fertility in the hands of quacks they come to some innocent doctor's hospital to die and you will tell the medical personnel to keep quiet and absorb the guilt and liabilities?
You are joking!
If you know your ethics and privacy rule, HIPPA you will know that as long as the woman is above 18, mentally capable and does not have a case that's needs to be reported to department of health, you are held by the principle of privacy and confidentiality. If you do otherwise that woman might team with the husband and she your hospital for millions. Check you board of Nursing. Leave sentiments out of this.
DeleteDon't tell the man, I believe there is something called doctor(nurse) patient confidentiality. Thats why you are a professional, she is your client, you are obliged to keep her secret. Let he carry her burden, but make sure you involve the head doctor so you won't be undermining he/she authority.
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DeleteWell stated as in "mentally capable"
But like the case @14:08 mentioned which I read here, the woman slipped into coma
The medical professional has to walk the tight rope of "confidentiality/well being"
while avoiding litigation in the process.
Assuming that lady in this chronicle dies, and autopsy reveals that she has "retained products of abortion"
(which is the likely cause of the bleeding), won't the husband sue the hospital for providing him with false information
or probably for "negligence?"
As you can see, the nurse hasn't told us that they did any "evacuation"
Again, the problem is likely to continue and the husband takes the wife to another hospital and what they find out is different from "endometriosis"
is that not a ground for litigation?
Instead of the nurse to provide a false diagnosis, she should have kept mum and told the husband that the wife will explain
in details to him.
Madam nurse, who is the patient? The woman right? You have no business telling her husband. Whatever happened to Dr-Patient confidentiality? I know you are not the Dr but it still applies.
DeleteI'm not saying the woman is right but it's not in your place to tell the husband. They should sort out themselves outside of the hospital.
I'd advise you consult the doctor first, and tell him the truth and the situation on ground should the husband try to contact the doctor later to know if you lied to him or not, On the doctors advice you can then proceed on what to do.
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Iffa hear say you lie ehn!
ReplyDeletePls say the truth. Tell it to the man as it is.
Married woman that won't keep her legs closed to outsiders.
Goan lie and let something bad happen to her that wee expose it was abortion and watch how u wee carry the whole thing on ur head. The man wee know u lied and Na there kasala go burst😂
Loud it!
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My stance too
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Biko let me borrow space for your comment wee supu oyibo.
Nurse atutupoyoyo it's like you don't like your job. Lying to her husband is against the ethics of your profession.
Tell her husband that she had a miscarriage. It is left for her to tell the husband who is responsible for the pregnancy.
Women, I hail o! Lol.
ReplyDeletejust send her to do more test and forward them to the doctor, while at it ask the woman if she has been doing it with her husband and the last time they did that way u can just rule it as a miscarriage for their sake
ReplyDeleteTell the husband the husband the truth or better hand it over to the doctor
ReplyDelete*Larry was here*
This matter get as e be o, if you tell the truth to her husband now na gbege, but why is she promiscuous... Just apply wisdom, hand their case over to the doctor and let the doc decide.
ReplyDeleteYour obligation is to the patient and not the husband.
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DeleteSee how the woman wants to implicate you.
ReplyDeleteTell the man his wife is in a better position to tell him but you will ensure the bleeding is taken care of.
It is not in your place to cover up her atrocities.
When you lie now, she will go and fuck outside again and come back for you to keep covering up her fuckery.
Don't jeopardise your credibility.
You get sense!
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I agree with you 100%. Leave it to the wife to tell her husband what's going on. Why does she want to cover up her philandering ways? Not like she loves the man. Cheating without protection sef. Smh @ things some women do.
DeleteI had similar cases, a patient whose Hubby just came back from a trip and the wife probably got preggy for someone else, she had an abortion which was complete, but came in weak and pale. She was being treated and told me to please not tell her hubby what her diagnosis is, he suspected, of cos anyone he met told him something vague as we didn't want to lie outrightly, but we couldn't say the diagnosis, patient doctor confidentiality , had another preggy with HIV! She kept trying to infect her hubby, while hiding to take her ARVs, and warned that no one should reveal her status. Crazy world
ReplyDeleteChy I am in shock!
DeleteSay whaaaaat??!!😱😱😱
Na waoo! God please take this type of woman far away from me.
DeleteDontQuoteMe™
She kept trying to infect her hubby?😲
DeleteWicked women choi
DeleteNurse, I wouldn't want to reverse job roles with you oh.. I think you should just tell him his wife miscarried a child, then zip your mouth from further discussion
ReplyDeleteNa wa o. After 4 kids person still dey cheat.
ReplyDeleteMiss Juliet,you will understand why they cheat when you get married!...
DeleteI reject that for Miss Juliet! Which kind prayer be that?
DeleteLinda i know plenty things happen in marriage but a woman that has 4 kids should just give herself some respect na. Her reason now might be her husband is cheating or denying her sex. But her problem now should be how to train her kids to turn out great not sleeping around.
DeleteHehehehhe kiks it’s not our portion o
She is your patient so you have to maintain patient-doctor/nurse confidentiality as there's no legal obligation to inform her husband. Don't be deceptive tho, lying is protecting her! However, you can ask to discuss her condition with her husband if it's serious and let them figure it out for themselves. Mahn! It's not your place to protect her
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DeleteReally people? Is this where we have reached as a people? You are debating whether to say the truth or not. Imagine if God was standing next to you, would you Even think twice about saying the truth?
ReplyDeleteThe bible clearly tells us that He lives in us.
Tell the truth. Let the wife deal with the consequences. It's a no brainer.
She could get complications later and die and it is your report that will nail you.
If you can't tell him the truth yourself, tell them to wait for the doctor. You have your own battles don't let her weigh you down with hers.
ReplyDeletehandle it professionally, as a professional u know what should be done do just that biko i rest my case oo waiting for others.
ReplyDeleteDon't u guys have something like patient/doctor confidentiality?
ReplyDeleteIn other news, I suspect a child in my class is pregnant....called her today to investigate codedly. Tho she agreed to have just two sexual partners(one a married man) she denied being pregnant. According to her, she is flying d red flag ATM
Have her tested just to be double sure. Pls assist her in any way you can and inform her guardians/parents. The earlier she gets prenatal care, the better her chances are for a healthy pregnancy.
Delete*having**
DeleteDraw the attention of the child's parent/guardian
DeleteWoo men! woo men! Woo to men!
ReplyDeleteYes, woo to men who finds a woman with fire on her vagina and lies on her mouth.
This is what happens when women cheat because a man did or does.
Adultery, fornication is a sin that God judges.
But does a man bleed from his penis because he cheated?
Does a man commit murder (abortion) because he cheated?
Women do not appreciate the enormity of the responsibility that
God has entrusted on them to bring life to the earth and nurture for 9 months
in their wombs, breastfeed and nurture the child in his/her formative years.
And this woman thinks that the husband is not going to know?
She thinks that she has outsmarted him?
mscccchew keep justyfying being a community penis.
DeleteAmu oku
Is condom out of circulation since she MUST cheat? Awon olobo town council!
ReplyDeleteI follow you wonder...no sex is as sweet as the one done with condom especially when you are not doing it with your wife/husband. #zeroworries!
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Na wa 4 children and she still cheat. May be the man is not doing his job well by providing because that will make this woman go out after consultation with stupid friends.
ReplyDeleteNurse keep your mouth shut. The husband will catch her one day.
Dear Nurse, pls refer to your ethics book and know what you are expected to do.but in my field as a medical doctor,I am obliged to get the wife's consent before I disclose her diagnosis,but if she were in a position where she cannot give me consent e.g. unconscious,or in an emergency situation where her life is at stake and her husband is the next of kin,then I can tell him.so for now convince your patient to tell her husband herself and excuse yourself from this issue.
ReplyDeletePossibly the man isn’t doing the woman. Reminds me of a similar case , where the woman had a prolapsed uterus, she was booked for repair as part of pre op investigations was done alas she was preggie, now hubby had not been servicing her cos of the condition. However in this case she probably didn’t know and the doctor didn’t know hubby wasn’t gbenshing her na so he share result . In short the marriage just ended right in that consulting room
ReplyDeleteGbege!
DeletePatient / doctor confidentiality . Let the doctor take it up
ReplyDeletePrivacy issues, a patient's right issue,do what the patient said, don't tell her husband. .
ReplyDeleteIf she don't tell the husband and he later found out himself... do you know that he can sue the hospital? I will advise the nurse to tell doctor first
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ReplyDeleteDo not say anything to the man, if you say anything to the woman and her marriage pack up she will come for you. Take the case to the doctor.
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