STAND ALONE NARRATIVE
NEW BOYFRIEND ASKING FOR FINANCIAL HELP.
Hi, Stella love your blog alot. I don't comment but I love reading all your post. Saw a post on your blog about a lady who says her ex defrauded her and I Am scared cos I might or may fall into the same situation.
Met dis guy around May 2017 at a summit , we became friends but now there is no clear definition of who we are cos we started exchanging I love you on a frequent basis and we kind of falling in love .
After our first meeting, we have met only just once and we kissed at a public restaurant. We started discussing about our goals and future plan etc then our work and businesses and he told me he is about to start his own digital marketing , partnering with a prominent company which I can't say the name cos of security reasons and because only a handful of people know about this information .
He said that he needs financial help from me but i am scared cos I tried this with my Ex but it didn't work out. I feel like helping him cos his last relationship was very strong and they where about to settle down before the lady passed on 2 years ago and i am the first relationship he is having after the death of his ex.
I hope someone who knows him should not read this thinking I don't love him cos the guy has shown me to all his contact on WhatsApp and clients. the prayers n praises I received from his screen shot of chat that day was overwhelming but its very normal for me to feel scared cos I don't want to be defrauded again.
I Am thinking of Lying by helping him with just very little but he needs more than little if I want the project to be a successful one. I need advice please .
Thanks
'If you are giving him the money just to help him for Gods sake then do it and expect nothing in return but if you are helping him cos you expect him to wife you,then you might have a problem
Why did you tell him you have money?if he doesnt know then tell him you will borrow some money for him and he will pay back,do so and observe him first...
Some men are loyal when they are broke so you need to be sure he does not belong to this category.
BRB
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DeleteLol. Anony!
DeleteGo into partnership with him. Simples!
DeletePoster, why do I feel you are being scammed?
DeleteHeheheee... Lol!
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Scam Alert
DeleteFoolish poster, I repeat, DO NOT GIVE HIM ANYTHING. Abuja guys can lie very well. Why is it you of all people he's asking.. what if he didn't meet you? Won't he still do it? Please don't give him! Be wise!!! He's doing all d whatsapp thing to get u to be happy. Give him that money and it will be a different story.
DeleteI'm sure you told him you have money that's why he asked you.You can make the loan official(get a lawyer & sign papers)Make him understand your fears.Love is not blind
ReplyDeleteAunty this na one chance cus of plenty reasons, cus he may be a dupe, some even go as far as taking you to meet their fake families, some also marry their victims. I am not saying he is a fraud o but what if, even if it's true, once you start bringing too much money na you go pay school fees for life, plus when men become rich they hardly remember the past. My advice is that you should give him an amount you can dash him not that you will write another chronicle saying you have been duped of ponyor and money
DeleteHelp him out of goodwill if u want, don't cry foul if it doesn't work out, don't help outta love but help out of a free mind like u would help a fellow girl.
ReplyDeleteCos I get babe wey if any of us babes ask for small loan, she will say she doesn't have, but if her BF cough, she'll ask 'do you need to see a doc?, I can help'
Poster,I understand your fears..My dear there are still good and loyal guys out there,as every man is not the same.
ReplyDeleteIf you want to lend him money,do it and don't expect any thing in return.
On a second thought, don't give him total amount he wants but rather give him half of the money and tell him to source the remaining Part else where.
Wishing you luck!
Why should a guy you just met few months back ask you for a huge sum of money? I don't understand it.
ReplyDeleteLook, give him what you can afford to let go when push comes to shove.
Don't come back here crying to us about how you lost your money cos you were in love.
For the record all that showing you off to people and him not dating for 2 years should not deceive you, shine your eyes lady
Last Warning.....
I'm a guy, but find it extremely hard to ask money from a lady unless she genuinely offers, and I'm desperate and that must have been after I've exhausted all other avenues of getting the money.
DeleteMen no dey too pay debt o. Just as Stella said, if you want to help him on a neutral ground go ahead. If the help is on the premise that h'd wife you in future, then you need to think twice.
ReplyDeleteI hate mixing relationship with money
ReplyDeleteIt wont work,once u gave him money and he didnt pay back on time,he will start avoiding u.and u wouldnt want to insult him by taking the neccerssary actions to get ur money back
I will insult him oh. Cos he shouldn't be avoiding me if he knows he is gonna pay back
DeleteLike Stella spit it out from my mouth,why did you let him know you are financially fit? You better keep your money and never try it because most times the end result is not what you will want to experience. Nothing to advice you again cos all has already been said. He won't wife you,forget that,he is broke that is why he is loyal and where you there when he lost the E, to know you are the first he is dating after her. That is even far from the main issue. Pls let ur money be far away from the relationship. Don't he have brothers, family,friends why you? I have once a victim of this when I was financially stable but never fall a victim so sis shine ur eyes.
ReplyDeleteI think u should borrow him after a signed agreement to pay back. If he asks why,tell him u borrowed some money to add to what u have,or tell him u have been duped by someone u loved b4,so u are just trying to be on a safe side. If he wan con change am for u,just forget abt him.
ReplyDeleteHelping a boyfriend isn't always ideal if you have ulterior motive for helping. Help because you want to
ReplyDeleteGive what u can forget+
ReplyDeletePoster be careful o,you just met him in july its not like u have known him for a year or more,u guys are not even dating,u dont know him very well 4get all his contacts bla bla. Can't all his contact help him with d money? Why u? Did u tell him how much u earn or how much is in ur act? If u did,who send u? Give ursef brain and give him what u knw u can let go it d worse happen,or there shoyld be a court signed agreement if u want to give him a huge amount,or else once bitten twice shy go be ur next story.
ReplyDeleteA guy with clear intention wnt evn ask his new gf for money this early. Shine ur eyes...
ReplyDeletePersonally i don't like guys who ask ladies fir money,issa huge turnoff for me.
ReplyDeleteAll he told you about his last fiancee's death and "you being the first since then etc."
ReplyDeleteHave you verified all these?
Do you just believe everything?
But love your enemies, do good to them, and lend to them without expecting to get anything back. Then your reward will be great, and you will be children of the Most High, because he is kind to the ungrateful and wicked Luke 6:35
Give him as much as you will not be hurt if he does not pay back or does not marry you.
That's what's tripping her naa 'first relationship after his fiancee passed'.
DeleteMeanwhile dude has been 'caining' steadily until he met her, ask me how I know..hahahaha
Yahoo boy line. Guy is fake, wants her money and he has his fellow yahoo boys and girls who a cheering in the background to make it look real. No real man will ask for money this early. Don't give in to his advances or request. Run now!!
Delete@Anon 15:18 the part you said can't all his contacts help him with the money is so hilarious 😂😂😂.......poster you sef make you shine ya eyes ooo,it just too early for him to be asking you for money.
DeleteBv moyour
Dnt help him .pls dnt!!!!
ReplyDelete"Why did you tell him you have money?if he doesnt know then tell him you will borrow some money for him and he will pay back,do so and observe him first..."
ReplyDeleteStella Some women don't need to say they have money before you know they do. Something must have given her away, probably her place of work and position, her Surname(Probably it ends with Uga, Uba, Ote, Kija, etc) or just by character/accent(Some can form this) so this few things must made him realize she's in a good position to help. Poster, from your story it seems you want to help him, if yes go ahead. One thing is never feel everyone is the same, yes there are evil persons out there but some might be real. Don't miss the opportunity of helping either it's for selfish reasons or a good one.
Poster just take Stella's advise biko. I need to get another I'd different from this business own make I fit talk my mind. Lol
ReplyDeleteBefore would have advised you to help him, but now I will harshly say,"help him at your own perils".
ReplyDeleteWhen did you meet that he is already having financial problems. It is too early biko,like they always say "are you his parents"?.
Trust me if you lend him the money, the moment you ask him for it or try to collect it, signals the end of your relationship.
Babe the first mistake you made was letting him know you have money. i just pray for you that after you give him, he doesn't start giving you attitude then start avoiding you and miraculously disappear and block you after awhile.
ReplyDeleteNo advice for you from here. 🚶
ReplyDeleteOr worst he might turn it into a daily something and collect and collect till you are used to giving. Because the sad truth about relationships is that one person is always the giver and the other the collector. The giver would always give and the collector would always collect.
ReplyDeleteIt is not Relationships that leads to marriage. So poster, if u are helping him based on the fact he will marry u, pls don't. Cos when u help him with cash and his biz grows, if at the long run he finds another person, u will start cursing him. So just ask urself if u are lending him this money cos he will marry. If the answer is yes, pls don't.
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Don't give him the money. I REPEAT DORT GIVE HIM THE MONEY. You will regret it trust me. Tell him that you too are having financial problems. Doesn't he have family or friends? If he had not met you what would he have done? Please if you don't like trouble don't give him the money. I beg you in the name of whatever you believe in DON'T GIVE HIM THE MONEY. Never make this mistake.
ReplyDeleteHelp him out of the kindness of your heart but methinks he asked you because you have shown signs that you have even if you didn't tell him yourself. What I would do if I were in your shoes is; give him an amount that will not give you hypertension if he doesn't pay back, let him look for the balance elsewhere biko.If you don't give him anything it would most likely affect your relationship with him because he is human and the thing go pain am wella. Guys that ask their babes are a huge turn off for me though, if he didn't meet you he will not look for business money abi? Nne borrow yourself brain.
ReplyDeleteTo give or not to give. I would advise my own sister not to do it. Cause even if you do. Dude can easily propose to avoid paying loan and this will be a trend in your marriage. He will always be borrowing from you till infinity and the day you can't meet up. You get an instant black eye.
ReplyDeleteEmotions are at play here, Sister take sense help since you have turned fed govt. For start up businesses but sign papers otherwise Your love support is enough
ReplyDeleteI don't understand why people are saying you should give him a little amount of money. Please are you a micro finance bank??? I'm sure he had this busibess idea before he met you. How did he plan to raise funds for this said business. Moreover, one's family member should be the first source of raising funds for a business if you can't get facility from the bank. Moreover, you just met this somebody. I beg you, you've fallen into this sort of mess before, i beg you, don't try it. DO NOT GIVE HIM ANY MONEY!! Also, don't be decived about that crap you put up there that he has introduced you to people on his contact bla bla bla.... He is so desperate to really get into you that he's munching all the compliments and sending to you. Babe, I'm a babe like you. Borrow yourself sence and run. No responsible man should be asking a woman he just met for financial assistance. Mbok, my hand is painting me, I'm tired of typing.
ReplyDeleteladies should stop being carried away because he introduced you to his ancestors, that is their new way of deceiving girls of marriageable age, you will now give with hope,crooks.Please keep your money OK.
ReplyDeleteI hate guys that ask ladies for money I hope it isn't the same guy that I just left because it sounds like the same tactics does he go to that church that the Pastor hair shines is the amount 800k please run for your life he is married and is separated from his wife because of the same issue of doing businesses that do not profit and all his contact know this but he has painted the picture to them that his wife never supported him or his dream so they are showing him pity by praising you meanwhile he is also lying that he loves you it is just an act ignore him throughout a day just form busy you will see his true color. If by chance we are not talking about the same person are you telling me that if he didn't meet you he wouldn't continue his so called business look my dear if your hand is itching you to help there are so many people on this blog you can assist because business and love don't match. Forgive my typo I hate men who beg from ladies they say they love
ReplyDeleteYou said it all and with a perfect example of your experience. Am a man and I wonder how you can walk up to a babe you just know 6months ago and start asking for financial assistance. He should look for loan elsewhere.
DeleteThief!! He has seen a victim
ReplyDeleteWhich stupid love ❤ indeed
ReplyDeleteThis chronicles is paining me cos I almost fell a victim ooooh!!! Poster see danger and apply caution ⚠ run for your life
ReplyDeletePoster don't give him the money .once you add money to the relationship ,it will not end in a good way trust me ,i have been there done that
ReplyDeleteI don't like the tales that a guy you just met is asking you for money, if you so want to give him, then give him little and do not expect anything in returns.
ReplyDeleteI laugh at some comments here.. some ladies on this platform u meet a guy few months into the rship and den you start asking him to borrow u money, is it not the same thing ehn? why shud the guy give u money if u both are just new *eyes rolling* and it doesn't matter the length of time u both have known each other my dears.. Pls Poster, Stella has replied u with the best answer, if u wanna help him, help him out of good will and do not expect anything in return n never you ever think helping him would make u his wife. or better still use his documents of his biz as a collateral and get ur own lawyers to assist in preparing loan document should in case the guy wanna run ok. Just pray and God will lead u thru the right path.
ReplyDeleteDon't ever lend out money you can't dash out,if were you I would stick to Stella's advice just in case he turns out to be an ingrate....be wise
ReplyDeleteHow are you even sure his ex died, did he tell you that
ReplyDeleteOr you confirmed yourself?
Keep your money oo
Na dia way be that.
Don’t give him the money, that’s s only thing I have to tell u, all the stories he told u, can it be confirmed! Men can say anything if they have a plan
ReplyDeleteHmmm please don't ever make the mistake of giving him your money.. How can a guy you just met and love you bodily ask you for money.. My goodness who does that..
ReplyDeleteMy poster be careful ooooo I can smell lies in his stories ooo wat if he hasn't met u wont he solve his problem himself he is trying to sweet quote u ooooo. Try tell him u don't have money u will see the reaction on his face. How should he even ask u that huge amount only 4months relationship abeg Na fraud he don use love sitdon for ur head. He has frds let him collect from them or go for a loan.shikena
ReplyDeleteposter please oh, na beg I dey beg, don't give him
ReplyDeleteOne munthula has played this type of tape for me before just to date me.
7 months into the relationship, guy man don do hm trad, after claiming hm never get any serious relationship.
Fear men oh
You guys do the most!!
ReplyDeleteSo when you now have some money you make it obvious when you meet man. (Like that babe that paid for atheist date the other day *hiss* e pain me ehn! How would she allow @atheist sharp mouth and eat free food on top? 😂😂) anyway.....
Can't you say you don't have? Hian! You don't have!! Tell him youre fasting and praying to God for a way for both of you, that everything will work out in God's time. In the interim keep observing the guy to know if he is even a friend sef before being a lover. Stella said you can help as a good deed (yes) but please save help for a friend or stranger in dire need, not a stranger who wants to use you. So until you confirm his loyalty, save your cash.
Ehen.... meanwhile, how are you sure the lady that died was his actual ex and his only ex since that time? Why is he throwing his ish on you so soon? Why is he kissing you in public in NIGERIA? Yes oh! I'm old school like That. Biko we all know Nigeria will get there. I smell format, but then again..... you might know how to love more than me. So who am i?
Don't get any lawyer, don't sign anything, don't give him shi shi. If you do he'll think you are desperate to get hitched and this borrowing of money will forever be an endless circle. Don't start what you cannot finish. If he wants to waka because you refuse to give him the money, let him waka far. Even show him the way out. Useless men thinking women are their meal ticket. If you are a man and you come after me because of my comment may Rick Ross fall on you!!!!! I'm outta here!
ReplyDeleteLmao!
DeleteYou are right sha.
DeleteIs he Yoruba? Is he a twin? Is he older than 40? If yes, he is a scam run away
ReplyDeleteIf no, don’t give him your money still 1) it’s way to early to beg you for funds in a relationship 2) I’m sure he has others that can help in laws, siblings, friends etc I mean if it’s a legit business and he pitches to people he wouldn’t be turned down.
3) his wife passed, hmmm request for funeral book, do your research she might not be actually dead.
4)follow your heart and keep your money. 😌
poster I lent my ex money to start phone importation and uptil today, he hasn't paid. At a time he blocked me on all his social media, started avoiding me,i even got his family involved and he has still refused to pay. I told him that the next step is to take him to Njaba and I swear I will. PLEASE DON'T GIVE ANYONE MONEY UNLESS IS FOR CHARITY.
ReplyDeleteBabe I beg u in God's name as in I take God name dey beg u,DONT GIVE HIM ANY MONEY! U will not like his attitude after u get d money. D guy wan turn u to maga ooo! Blood of Zachariah!!! Who even told u to tell him you have money ehhh?? I no dey kuku gree say I get money where bobo dey sef not to talk of asking me to borrow.. Babe pls be wise
ReplyDeleteDo not give him money and break it off with him, whatever your situationship is. He doesnt't have pride and even if you ended up together at the first cry of no money he will go begging somewhere else. He will do anything for money. I have zero tolerance for this. Just NO.
ReplyDeleteMadam you sound desperate. You want to buy love, please drink water and calm down. The right man will come around someday, this one that is asking you for money in a short while is not it at all. A real man won't do that. Even if you told him you have money, madam go back and tell him you can't help as you have something doing yourself. Don't you ever try playing hero with your money. In your mind now you want to save him by giving him money. Are you Jesus Christ? Go and sit down already, If you have nothing doing with your money doesn't any member of your family needs it? Look woman, don't annoy me oo.
ReplyDeleteposter is his name olawale or gbenga joseph mmmm is yes na confirm 419 my cousin met someone like that on a christian site and he said he lost his fiance 2years ago, he says he makes shoes and belt and sell on jumia he also said his an engineer i hope is not the same person babe if na him waka and run, i saved my cousin from him if not she for fall yakata for d maga
ReplyDeleteOK poster, i am a guy and you have heard from everyone...don't lend him any money.It is too early to do so. Don't give any conditions to lending him any money. If you have money to help people, go do that for genuine friends or relatives who genuinely need help. If you have some spare change, you can dash him without expecting anything in return. Give or lend money to only your husband ,win or lose, you both in it together.
ReplyDeleteThat's how one from SnM asked that I send him airtime.mtchewwwwwwwwww,mkpi awusa.after forming the only son of a very rich family,smh.theres no tactics he didn't use to get money off me.i just SMH,babe like me,them never born that man.Mr fake how far now?lmao.pls hurry up and find a wife o so your family can release your imaginary wealth they locked up to you.i'd advice you check into a psychiatric home cos you didn't sound alright all the while we talked
ReplyDeleteAnd you could not even put his initials or even a hint?
DeleteDo you know if it's even the public kisser that this poster I talking about?
At least save that babe that is getting ready to send 5k to the lazy mofo.
Poster........don't borrow any man money oh. I bet you, he will run away the minute he gets the alert....don't even try it
DeleteThis is exactly how guys feel when you ask them for transport money on the first date or iPhone 8 after less than 6 months. Oyo will be your case if you give him the money
ReplyDeleteI don't know how you women reason?
ReplyDeleteLike you have fish scales and hot upstairs no atom of common sense. ZERO common sense.
You met someone 5 months ago.
Since then you have met him only ONCE where you exchanged saliva in a 'public restaurant.'(afi private restaurant)
ONLY ONCE.
Are you people in different continents?
Now he wants to borrow money from you.
He has no father,mother,aunty, uncle brother,sister, friend, colleague, church/ mosque/ shrine mate,neighbour to borrow from?
It is now you?
After exchanging saliva, you remembered that you have not defined your situationship?
Loll, lmao.lmaoaf!! Clown!
He showed you screenshot of 'praise and prayers,' you were swinging your breasts like a kite with excitement. You don't know that there is an app that can do that and even more?
He told you that you are the first lady that he is approaching after his ex since 2 years yadi yada yada...and you too, you wrapped up the sweet stories like a scarf on your head so as to properly balance your jug of stupidity.
Me I'm just grateful I don't know or have any reason to associate with people like you.
If your brain was a knife, it wouldn't even cut water.
God bless u.
DeleteMet one Kevin guy on SnM,he lives in Abj.na so omo boy come dey ask me for money too.omo oshi.guys Sha.
Delete👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍. This poster is stupid I swear. 419 guy in broad daylight.
DeleteA man you just met asking for money? so if he didn't meet you, he won't start up his business? doesn't he have family and friends he can borrow from? poster, don't give him any money, tell him that you don't have that kind of money and watch his reaction
ReplyDeleteDo not give/loan your boyfriend money. It never ends well, trust me even if your intentions are pure. I'm speaking from experience. I loaned my bf money several times, I'm embarrassed to even say the total amount now.... I did it out of love. Any small argument we have, he will say I'm disrespectful cos he owes me money. This entire year has been a nightmare for me cos of this money matter. I kukuma asked him to pay it back since its now an excuse to argue or start a fight. Not sure the relationship can even survive anymore, I just need my peace of mind right now.
ReplyDeleteMy dear run far before you get hurt.
DeleteYou are in love with him that is why you feel is he a good man, if you want to help do that with the amount you know you can forget about or dash him, is good to help the person you love but do it wisely.
ReplyDeleteI dey mad ni? Borrow who which money? Firstly, I won't even say I have money wetin dey bring that kind yeye talk? Why should I be discussing my finances with you? Have we finished talking politics, the weather, religion, business and sports before I will start doing SWOT analysis for one person. There are certain things that can't wade their way into my discussions and those things are very personal. Even in business, you don't mix business and pleasure. If you must lend him money, let him submit a business plan and feasibility study to you so you can see the prospects of him paying back. See the structures he has put in place also because even bank when go take interest does all of that. It is likely you are not taking interest, therefore he owes you that much. Objectivity baby!
ReplyDeletePoster it's like your brain is using tiger battery..don't u know dose screen shots can be doctored..so babes r still this desperate to "settle down"na local Yahoo boy u jam.u don't need to spend a dime for a man to love u dear..
ReplyDeleteIt's a scam. Petty scam sef. Do you live in a cave? How can someone fall for this in 2017?
ReplyDeleteBABE, I HAVE HEARD THIS KIND OF FORMAT BEFORE. A GUY WILL TELL YOU A PATHETIC STORY ABOUT LOSING HIS EX AND BEING HEARTBROKEN. ALL NA FORMAT. HE HAS USE THAT TO CAPTURE YOUR HEART. DONT BE SURPRISED IF HE DOESNT LOVE YOU AT ALL. YOU ARE JUST A MEANS TO AN END. NO RESPONSIBLE GUY WILL BEG HSI BABE FOR MONEY. HE HAS BEEN WORKING ON YOUR EMOTIONS AND HAS WRAPPED YOU AROUND HIS FINGER. IF YOU GIVE HIM THAT MONEY, HE WILL BREAK UP WITH YOU AFTER A WHILE..MAYBE 4 MONTHS AND YOU WILL NEVER GET BACK YOUR MONEY. TELL HIM SOMETHING CAME UP SO YOU DONT HAVE.
ReplyDeleteI HAVE A FRIEND WHOSE EX ALSO TOLD HER THAT HIS BABE DIED. THE GUY WAS EVEN SHEDDING TEARS SEF...ALL NA FORMAT. YOU ARE A PROSPECTIVE MAGA
poster be careful
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