And then you hear she threw the first punch!
Some men will just walk away, some will embrace her, some will kiss her and make sweet love to her. It is no sign of weakness on the part of the man but a way of calming down the situation.
To some..they are 'dead' if they try this.
Bro, what will you do if your partner hits you. Will you let go? Will you fight back?
What are your reasons for letting go or fighting back if it has happened to you before....
Bro, what will you do if your partner hits you. Will you let go? Will you fight back?
What are your reasons for letting go or fighting back if it has happened to you before....
No he shouldn't,most times i tell the men, if they truly understand women you will never hit or hit back if she does first.
ReplyDeleteWomen aren't meant to act like kids. Why would u hit a man to show your anger?? A temperamental man might not take it lightly, carry yourself well and see how much your man will cherish u..
DeleteClap for yourself
DeleteI have and would never hit a man or anyone in general however, i think he should just walk away. I would walk away if i was in his shoes. I pray never to meet a physical person tho... Im wayyyy to lazy for fights
DeleteBut women can beat men abi?.. The women of this generation want to turn us to mumu... I will never lay my hands on a woman... She can nag and abuse all she likes.. Only God will will help her if she raise her hand against me.
DeleteStella my husband walks away when i start my madness. But you see my immediate elder bros hmmmm don't even try it oh, na hospital you go land. The guy has mad temper but thank God the wife understand him now.
DeleteI knw of a woman dt do not only throw the first blow, she practically beats him black and blue.
DeleteShe puts him on her head and starts turning round like someone exercising .
My pple guess who d man is?
HER HUSBAND
The guy is late now tho but he laid heavy curse on her dt she will never ever find a man to woo her ever in life.
That curse is actually playing out right now.
I'm sorry I laughed. The visual of him on her head and spinning got me.
DeleteHitting back does not show a strong man. Walking away and keeping quiet shows self-control, great strength of character. That is what defines a strong man!
ReplyDeleteBut if a man hit 1st and she hit him back it shows brave? A sound clap
DeleteLol chike ooo leave me abeg
DeleteIt is wrong on both sides but much wrong for the woman to hit the man first. Common nau! Where is the respect and homour? I can't do it no matter what, hit a man first, God forbid. I have never encountered an abusive man anyways and I pray I never do.
ReplyDeleteGod bless you. Truth and love shall never depart from you.
DeleteAmen! Lol
DeleteOver to the men let's hear it,sdk male BVS get in here fast!!!
ReplyDeleteI have never and would not hit a woman. I'll walk away
ReplyDeleteI have a cousin who was forming "strong man" and let his wife beat him. He will never lift a finger. Instead he will be pleading with her to stop. Even crying like a baby.
DeleteShe will hit him with everything from hanger to pot. People laughed and made fun of him and his kids.
One day he hit her back and that was the day the marriage ended. Everyone blamed him.
Holy Nwa eje, onye oma Emeka afo oma ya na akpu na ala
DeleteIsn't he better off without the husband barterer that was his wife?? What you just described was no marriage.
DeleteThat your cousin is a fool (pardon my English).. The first time she raised her hand.. He should have seek divorce immediately.. So, she beat his life cycle "bend" before he did the right thing.. The people blaming him should pray their partner beats them also... Only the person that wears the shoe, known where it pinches..
DeleteWomen actually need to be careful, some of them their mouth is a time bomb.We keep talking of gentlemen, how about gentlewomen It talks a man with d fear of God not to retaliate,after all they are humans with feelings
ReplyDeleteGod bless you
DeleteWhile I agree with you @first lady. But nowadays some men's mouth run like TAP as in, will even be clapping hands to abuse you. U never Jam, I dey tell you
DeleteHaaa.the day i tried it. I was badly beaten on my leg with belts when i was 6 month pregnant.his mother said some nasty tins about me, i got angry and took it out on him and we were exchanging words.he said something that pained me and i block him on his way out to work.he did t touch me.i locked the door.held his shirt and didnt allow him to go to work for 1 hour. As the devil will have it. He said sometin that pained me.i slap him he drag me to the room and flog my legs with belt. Thank god my baby wasnt hit or affected. Now i asked him dont u feel bad when u look at ur daughter cos u beat her mother when she was pregnant. He said he always regret and will regret till he dies.
DeleteSome will embrace her..okay 😂😂😂😀😀😁😀😀😀😀😀😀😀
ReplyDeleteI will listen to Sexy Daddy
When she hits you first just JAY Z her..... E nor mean say you LAZY
DeleteBeloved help me laugh ooo.
DeleteIf she hits him first it's self defense and he has a right to defend himself because it's now two fighting. Women, please don't hit men. I'm hungry, let me go and look for food.
ReplyDeleteGod bless you. You get sense
DeleteGbam
DeleteReal man is the one that will embrace her, kiss her and make sweet love to her. It is no sign of weakness on the part of the man but a way of calming down the situation.
ReplyDeleteOkay
DeleteLol..... Bollywood. 😂😂😂
DeleteAdadioramma this shows that you are watching African magic a lot 😂😂😂
DeleteI will never hit anybody but don't start it too, you can't punch me in the face and expect me to walk away.
ReplyDeleteHehehehe
DeleteI expected this from you.
You are right. 😂😂😂
Yeah...Can't lie to myself.
DeleteThey were married for three years and no issues. He lost his job and she began to nag, deny him sex etc. The quarrel that morning was still finance; she refused to help him with "some money for an interview". She hit him and left a swelling on his chin and he was quiet for two weeks. Treated himself in a local patent medicine store. Ate her food. cuddled her, made passionate love (yea, conscience stricken, she began to open up for sex). Her birthday was a week after that, he bought gift for her and the baby. Though little but he did. Ordinarily, she would have rejected that gift but she received it.
ReplyDeleteHe traveled for an interview on the third week after the incidence and came back to an empty house.
He thought she had left to stay with her mom like she threatened. Called her phone and it was ringing in the visitor's room. Rushed in to see her with a slashed wrist and gasping. The baby was asleep. Called a neighbor and bundled her into the car to the hospital. She was dead on arrival. It was there they discovered that the baby was possibly smoldered before she slashed her wrist.
The next month, he got an appointment letter -thrice his former pay. But there was no loved one to share with.
Please, inasmuch as you walk away, endeavor to settle matters quickly and forgive each other.
Which kind of scary story is this...unu abiakwa
DeleteWomen do this a lot. "Love you, love you, love you.
DeleteNo problems at all until he loses his job, did he sack himself?
Why not support him to get another?
Besides, it shows that they weren't one in the first place.
Otherwise, they wouldn't have had separate finances.
That woman was a psycho!
DeleteBiko lie another lie. This one no enter
DeleteChai.. Anon storyteller.. You know how to lie oo.
DeleteBarracudianusaurusunamon - Hi, guys. It's me again. ( :
ReplyDeleteOnly in a mouthed altercation will hitting her back not considered a sin morally and also biblically, for our Christian friends. Only in a brawl betwixt a man and a woman is the laws of Newton not allowed, action and reaction are not equal had opposite, she hits you, walk away as quick as possible to avoid another, this is weakness, but wiseness.
I, myself, do not allow it to get anywhere near insults, I try to stay as far as having issues that would result to insults with anyone especially women; they are frail, but strongly-mouthed and opinionated.
Never hit a woman, it is a crime, a sin and a moral amorality.
Cheers.
Yours Blogospherially.
Q.E.D
Respect bro. But what will you do if a woman gives you permanent scars on your face... Scarring you for life.. You will laugh right?.. And let her go.. Let's be true to ourselves.. We have little brothers and sons looking up to us.. I refuse to turn them to mumu.
DeleteIn this age of equality (even though most people screaming it does not really know the true meaning) I would have said, if a woman hits a man first that he should retaliate; but what would that say of me?
ReplyDeleteMy advice to any man that will read this comment is; if a woman hits you, please try your possible best to walk out on her.
If she hits you and also tried to hold your pants or you shirt, try and push her off towards the side where there is a couch or a bed, so she doesn't hit her head on any wooden objects or any object that can cause her body injuries.
Some women know how to bring out the beast in some men. But a man with self control and self discipline will be able to fight his anger.
This topic is a serious one because a lot of women hit their men first, some hit back and the outcome is not always to the women's favour or advantage. While some just walk out until their women are calm and relax.
Most of the time though, some men can't just control their anger and they think by exercising their man power right on their women makes them a strong man, it only makes them a weakling and a sissi.
I have never seen a Man with Self Control like my Uncle Chuks
DeleteKaii the man dey over try where him wife dey
You just said my thoughts mrs R,nice1
DeleteMrs R I refuse to agree with you on this one.
DeleteSorry to say this, lady's brain function in one way direction. If she hit you and you leave her, she will take your gentleness for cowardice. Biko read yesterday's IHN signing out post. It refers to something like this.
Hmm
DeleteI thought mrs r would say push her towards a bed or sofa & give her doggy. Oh well.
DeleteWhy should a woman hit a man in the first place, it is bad...the woman should walk away as well if the man provoked her, unless the man hit first that is when she is free to hit back
ReplyDeleteA man hits you and you hit back? Really? Or else you are Rottweiler just prepare to "die that day"
DeleteGod bless you. But she hitting back is if and only if she has single bone... Lol
DeleteAny man who hits a woman first is an animal.. Let the woman hit first.. Then do the needful.. I don't think a woman in genuine love with you will even raise her hands against you.. She'll be too lovestruck to try it.
DeleteI dey beat woman well! No be say come chop. You hit me first, l beat you silly. Next time you go know how to control your hand. What nonsense!
ReplyDeleteOk
DeleteI did not support you abeg
Deleteoga chike.. He typed out the plain truth.
DeleteSuffrey beat oo.one day d woman go put rat poison 4 ya food.2 b man no b only 4 muscle oo.ma hand no dey oo.
DeleteThats it.
Delete👍
DeleteI don't support domestic violence but if a woman should hit me first
ReplyDeletehmmmm
I'm good looking but my ways are so wicked
#GOAT™
Lol
DeleteSorry Stella, on the first scenario My Wife Cannot even try it.Yea she adores and respect me that much.
ReplyDeleteAny day she tries it, haha. I will rush her to psychia straight to examine her head,because something must be wrong some where!
Ps: Ladies dont ever hit a man for what so reason.And this also applies to the men.
Side eyes@ Sexy Spermy Daddy... Lol
DeleteGod bless you for your PS
Some will be like...I'll beat you oo and they never beat her.
ReplyDeleteLol.
DeleteLol
DeleteJust last wk I had an altercation with my neighbor's wife over use of parking space in the compound, she hit me first and we ended up making out(doggy style) under the staircase..... Some women sha.
ReplyDeleteIssa lie 😱😱😱
DeleteWhy you dey lie like this
DeleteUncle?. You can lie o
DeleteOh Chim
DeleteIts possible.. Nothing new
DeleteIt depends on the degree of hitting what was used for hitting, situation and place of hitting. If its just normal slap or hitting, then we expect a gentleman to walkaway or tryna calm the situation down. But don't come at me with the strength women use to push babies out during childbirth or with a weapon and expect me not to defend myself. Kolewerk
ReplyDeleteYou get sense
DeleteI'll slap my own back.. Then walk away... An eye for an eye.
DeleteThere is no justification for violence whether from a man or woman. No one has any right to hit anyone... If you do, be prepared for the consequences cos for most people, their defense mechanism would be to hit back.
ReplyDeleteSexy daddy
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DeleteI dey all over the post
I can walk away from every form of abuse save physical, God forbid that i should let any man who raises his hands against me go off easy, God also forbid that I get entangled with a woman beater
ReplyDelete"We both read a lot when we’re mad at each other. Needless to say, our
ReplyDeletelocal public library doesn’t have very many books we haven’t read!”
My hearing gets worse. I’m suddenly deaf to all requests (or orders), but somehow I can still hear the oven timer ding. There’s no reason a perfectly good frozen pizza should suffer just because we’re fighting.”
I’ll usually hum or whistle a random song after the conversation is over. I guess my subconscious mind knows that if I mumble anything stupid out of frustration, I’ll probably regret it. Come to think of it, that doesn’t even work for me anymore because she actually caught on to the fact that I only hum when I’m annoyed and that annoys her all the same. There is really no winning in this situation!
Usually, I retreat to my office/music room, light a few candles, shove Bluetooth buds into my ears and put some vinyl on my turntable. To complete the ensemble, I flip open my laptop and pretend I’m busy working on an article or editing photos. Eventually I forget about the petty thing that annoyed me in the first place and, bonus, I listened to some great music and probably ended up doing some actually work in the process. Most importantly though, I didn’t get into an argument with the person I love the most about something relatively stupid in the grand scheme of things.
This is a marriage.. If she annoys or provoke you.. Just walk away.. If she tears your clothes in private.. Get another one and walk away. If she tears your cloth in public, tear her's too.... If she lift her hands against you.. Show her who the man is.. Please.. If your wife takes care of the house and you make no effort whatsoever to contribute.. You have no right to hit back when she hits you. You've sold your gender already..
DeleteYour write up is GOOD!!! Not just the content but everything!!!!👍 Are you an author?
DeleteI will advice to walk away when a woman hits first.... 2wrongs don't make a right. A woman's punch does not carry much power like the man's. The man can walk away and come back later when the woman is calm to talk about and settle whatever caused the altercation, believe me.... The woman will respect the man more and.
ReplyDeleteHmmmmm
DeleteWhy hit someone in the first place?😠
ReplyDeleteIts paramount to learn the act of controlling anger and use words softly to diffuse situations or just walk away.🏃🏃🏃🏃🏃🏃🏃🏃
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DeleteSo a woman now hit a man all of you are telling him to walk away, hug her or kiss and make love to her... Oriegwu. Oburo soo.
ReplyDeleteIf she slap me tawai!!! I will give her a resounding slap that will release those small small stars disturbing her brain.
Thank God my Chikito is a good woman.
You really think slapping her will reset her brain?what if it leads to her slapping you back again"what then happens?
DeleteWelcome to my world
DeleteLike I said before, My Chikito is a good woman, she will not raise her hand to hit me and I will never hit her. She love and respect me and I love and adore her.
If she slaps back again?. I will give her slaps that will make her teeth rattle... Believe me.. Until I pick up a shirt and walk out of the house, she'll still be dazed... I may come back to apologize... But she will never have the last laugh..
DeleteWalk away to where na ? You hit me first you are dead. i will so beat you silly. Its called discipline. The moment you walk away thats a sign of weakness.
ReplyDeletePlease are you me?
DeleteThat mean I give you room to do it again, then it becomes tradition abi
Deletehahahaha , bv Chikes comment really crackede me up.
ReplyDeleteMany people forming ignorance hear. Marraige or relationship aside, how many of you had been hit by a colleague or a stranger and the only thing that comes to your head at that moment is walk away? o ho, your guess is as good as mine.
Its easier said than done, if you are not been in the situation, you never know what you are capable of.
There is no justification for anyone to hit the other but truth be told, we are all human and the rest is history. Lets be guided.
#OlajiWrites
Pls... Not everyone thinks like you.. I try to always avoid trouble at all cost.. I always apologize if you wrong me or I wrong you.. Unless you have a gun, I don't care who you are.. If you hit after I have apologized (that's if I'm the guilty party) one of us will not leave there in one piece.. I don't care if it leads to a fatal altercation.
DeleteI am not proud to say this, but I have hit my man on three occasions, I grew up with a very manipulative and abusive father..I always wished I could fight back for my mom. On the three occasions I had a quarell with my man and he used the same words my dad used to abuse my mom, it was totally unrelated but something just snapped, I wasn't seeing him anymore...memories of the past hurt just kept swelling in my mind ....I became so violent.. with the help of God and my man I was able to work it out. No more violence. In all I appreciate my for being a major support and help, he has never lifted a finger on me.God help us
ReplyDeleteI slapped my hubby once. Although he had it coming, he didn't hit back. I am glad he didn't. Men shouldn't hit women and vice versa
ReplyDeleteSo you slapped your hubby....and you are proud to put it on here.
DeleteInstead of saying...men shouldn't hit women and vice versa....why don't you say...women should not hit men and vice versa???
You better don't try it again.
DeleteIf ur man provoke you, don't lash out, walk away too, n Vice versa, what is good for d gander is good for the goose. As I am, I don't have power to fight, anything that will make me start exchanging words with a man, I run away from it, I just recoil n d guy will be, Can u just answer?cough? Or blink?! What are u made off? Stone? I'll pick my purse n go, n don't stop me else i'll scream d house down. Not worth fighting with anybody, This world is too free to start throwing punches.
ReplyDeleteOf all the comments here.. Yours is the "realest". If you're married, your husband is one lucky dude.. If you're not, your bf does not know he have a woman of worth in his grasp.. Much respect.
DeleteSo when men hit first...he is a beast. But when it's a woman that hit first....the man should accept her.
ReplyDeleteMtschew....women on this blog make me laugh. You cry about feminism but you want men to bend back.
A man cheats...you all call him a dog. A woman cheat....you hail her for being smart about it.
Make Una dey deceive Una selves.
#Love isn't when there are no fights in the relationship. Love is, when once the fight ends, love is still there*
ReplyDeleteIf a woman hits you, grab her two hands and shake her so bad that she will pee on herself😁😁😁
ReplyDeleteSee, you made your point without hitting her back ✊ one love
See as all these women dey run mouth say if a woman slap the guy the guy should take a walk. For me if a lady slaps me, I will walk away. But should that same lady try it another day, then e don turn to domestic violence ooo. I will so teach her a lesson that she will never ever raise her hand on a man. I can manage insults without replying cos I no sabi insult seff. But abeg, I carry God dey beg keep your hands to yourself. Remember even Jesus vex for bible flog people
ReplyDeleteA woman should not hit her man for any reason. Its wrong on all levels. Its very important that we learn the act of self control.
ReplyDeleteI remember back in the day,had an argument with my boyfriend then, it was a very heated argument and I was like 'f**k you'!.He just turned looked at me sternly and walked towards me very fast, I thought he was going to hit me he just grabbed me and kissed me so passionately, my 💋 lips felt bruised. I just stood there in shock.
ReplyDeleteAn Unknown girl has once slapped me at ikotun. It was one of those busy days where an area becomes congested and it results to people walking very slow behind each other. This girl didn't know I understand Yoruba so she abused me with Yoruba. Only for me to turn and ask her why she would abuse as she could clearly see the area is congested and there were people on front of me but this girl would not have any of that as she gave me a resounding slap of life. Mehn! Was I shocked ? Before I could say jack people had gathered saying i shouldn't beat her and asking if I was her boyfriend. While trying to explain what caused the whole thing she rained me another round and by then people had gathered but that would be her last slap. Oboy! When I slap this girl when ? She see eclipse of the star. I slap her 3 times she come dey bleed for nose. But I know say for her life she no go try am again. On the other hand I have never beat my wife and I would never do but she knows what I'm capable of as she has seen me beat a lot of guys mercilessly. But women can frustrate sha.As she get belle now na him he come increase.
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